No One Else Mattered

Posted by Leticia, 26 Apr 16

Soon after meeting on our site, Alan and Stephanie realized their relationship was special. In fact, they felt so strongly for one another that taking the next step seemed natural.

“He proposed to me on one knee, at sunset, near the lake at a place that was very special to him, because it was the spot where he’d watched the sunset with his father for the last time before his father passed on,” Stephanie relates. “I was touched that he’d brought me to that spot to see the sunset! Then he got down on one knee and pulled out the beautiful ring. I didn’t see it coming... and I cried like a five year old. We’re talking snot bubbles! And of course I said yes.”

What led up to this wonderful moment? Stephanie started dating online because “I wasn’t finding the type of guy I’d be interested in being in a long-term with, and I was curious as to what online dating had to offer. I’ve never limited myself to one race and I wanted to meet someone with the same relationship goals as mine.”

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Still, she wasn’t certain this was the right move. “I was hopeful, but at the same time I was being careful, so I’d say I was confident but realistic,” explains Stephanie.

Alan knew he wanted to use online dating to meet women of other races and/or cultures. “Your site was not the first,” he tells us. “I tried other sites, but I wasn’t satisfied with them.”

What convinced him to post a profile? “I felt more comfortable trying to date outside of my race online, rather than approaching women in person,” Alan explains. He put his odds of success at “50/50, probably.”

By that point Stephanie had been with us for some time. “I’d been a member off and on for three years,” she recalls. “I’d closed my account for about a year, then went back on and met Alan two days later.”

Here’s what happened — she noticed a new member who’d joined a month earlier. The username was “Buckeye_Guy” and guess who the profile belonged to? “I reached out to Alan with a Flirt and he messaged me back,” says Stephanie. “And from that moment on, no one else mattered to either of us. He was the one, and I knew it.”

So what was so great about this guy, anyway? “He was hot!” laughs Stephanie. “Awesome blue eyes and he was a family man looking for a long-term relationship, like me. We thought alike in a lot of subjects, and we still do. We complete each other’s sentences.”

Alan is more concise about why he responded to “Amflady” (Stephanie). “Her picture!”

It wasn’t long before the duo decided to meet on the other side of the screen. As Stephanie tells it, “We got along so well, and we had talked for awhile on FaceTime. It was just time to meet.”

In person, Stephanie wasn’t disappointed. “OMG!! He’s even hotter in real life!” The photo of Stephanie that Alan saw didn’t lead him astray, either. “She’s beautiful!” he remembers thinking at the time.

They were so taken with each other’s good looks that nerves became a bit of an issue. “I was actually surprised by how nervous I was,” admits Stephanie. “I’ve never been nervous meeting new people, but with him, my heart was pumping and my hands were sweating.”

For Alan, the most surprising thing about their first date was “How well we clicked.” He was “110% sure” he wanted to see Stephanie again.

“We didn’t even want to say goodbye,” she declares. “I hated watching his car go down the street... so yeah — we’d already planned the next date before he left.”

Once they started dating in earnest, this couple-in-the-making found their attraction went more than skin deep. “I appreciate what a true gentleman he is,” notes Stephanie. Something Alan really values about Stephanie is “how loving and caring she is.”

Asked if they are each other’s type, they both say yes. “100% on point!” Stephanie says. “Completely similar” is Alan’s response.

The wheels turned quickly for these two and before long they were thinking marriage. Alan explains why he popped the question. “[This relationship] made me look forward to my second half of life. I’m looking forward to growing old with her.”

Stephanie is overjoyed to have met her match. “I’m happier now,” She says. “My soul is at peace because I finally found its mate.”

Now that they’ve found each other, the couple can concentrate on helping others along their own road toward love. “Hang in there,” Stephanie says, first and foremost. “I would get frustrated and delete my profile for a few months, all the time! But you gotta get back in there. Eventually you will find the one who is meant for you — just be patient, they always come when you need them the most and when you least expect them. Also if you want a long-term relationship, don’t get involved with anyone who just wants to be friends or just date. Only engage those who want the same type of relationship you do. And make sure you share the same interests and even the same (or similar) religion. Those issues are important for long-term compatibility.”

As usual, Alan’s words are few but direct. “Follow — and believe in — what you want. Don’t settle.”

Right now the only thing these two are settling on is a china pattern for the wedding.

237 responses to "No One Else Mattered"

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  1.   OG_Patson says:
    Posted: 13 Sep

    Congrats

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  2.   CHARLDOTA says:
    Posted: 02 Sep

    Lovely ❤

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  3.   Macah says:
    Posted: 14 Aug

    Congrats

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  4.   12243 says:
    Posted: 11 Aug

    Awsm

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  5. Posted: 16 Jul

    I love her concluding part of being focussed and knowing what you want,i think that is why we put a profile. I wouldnt feel fine someone below my age to flirt or wink at me. I actually ignore. Am still waiting positively. Thank you Stephanie and Alan.

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  6.   Pndo says:
    Posted: 14 Jul

    Really nice. I hope al be the next one to give my story of love beyond borders

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  7. Posted: 30 Jun

    Wandarfull

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  8.   Alafiha says:
    Posted: 29 Jun

    gud,congratulations to d both parties nd may i have same story to share soon.

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  9.   Udhaykumar says:
    Posted: 20 Jun

    Congratulations

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  10.   P_12345 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun

    Hi hi

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  11.   P_12345 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun

    Hi

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  12.   Tiini says:
    Posted: 08 Jun

    Thats is a very sweet story,I will also share mine when i get tat true loving and caring person.

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  13.   Xtama says:
    Posted: 01 Jun

    Wow this story is very inspiring ,I definitely would be scared to approach any man what if he doesn't like me lol, is so difficult to find someone who loves u for u especially when they find out u are from Africa ( Nigeria and Ghana precisely), one told me he hates smelly feet, another said our bride price is a way of extorting money and said we Africans are corrupt people,or they say I like your body,I like ticklish feet. They use people as experiment ,love is difficult to find, wish this mindset could change

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    • Excellent256 says:
      Posted: 16 Jul

      They are just insensitive,do we all have smelly feet or what they think?? I believe we should come with open minds and let God do the match without us being judgemental or having high expectations. If you are meant for eachother,the chemistry will workout automatically i believe. Just love yourself,it conquers it all.

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  14.   Nilushan says:
    Posted: 30 May

    Congratulations

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  15.   Vigio says:
    Posted: 22 May

    Wonderful

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  16.   Sanchus says:
    Posted: 24 Apr

    nice

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  17.   Kuyush says:
    Posted: 28 Mar

    Congratulations

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  18.   Zee2cute says:
    Posted: 17 Mar

    Congratulation guys..I'm inspired and motivated.. Wish you many more happy moments

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  19.   Kingkev67 says:
    Posted: 10 Mar

    Finish this sentence, I forgot to pull ...? And go after what you want... indeed you did just that. Sorry guess someone got in the way. I wanna grow old with strength and loyal people. What's done is done . Love exsists... doesn't matter what others think, who's life we living. Theirs or ours. Pay your child support. Good day .

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  20.   Topaz37 says:
    Posted: 08 Mar

    Beautiful couple... There's something special here, more than physical beauty. All the best!!! :)

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  21.   Samplb01 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar

    Congrats...

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  22.   Purityjoe says:
    Posted: 11 Feb

    Congratulations

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  23.   Ilbeldiha says:
    Posted: 11 Feb

    Beautiful woman! Congrats!

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  24.   shegegan says:
    Posted: 05 Feb

    this is beautiful i need a wife am 52, i want someone between 42 and 47

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  25.   anesth says:
    Posted: 22 Jan

    Nice one .. be safe guys

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  26.   amaflox says:
    Posted: 21 Jan

    wow,that was amazing,I wish to tell the same story..

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  27.   Deanna850 says:
    Posted: 14 Jan

    Congrats to you, God bless

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  28.   Sherl. says:
    Posted: 10 Jan

    That was a great story

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  29.   5427 says:
    Posted: 08 Jan

    I wish enjoy of long time life.

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    • Anil4u says:
      Posted: 20 Feb

      Hi. Dear. I. Like you. You. Like. Me. .My name is. Mr. Anil Kumar. From Ahmedabad

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  30.   Johannesbu says:
    Posted: 08 Jan

    Wow that nice

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  31.   Urluvnike says:
    Posted: 02 Jan

    Wow nice

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  32.   Andrey-2000 says:
    Posted: 31 Dec 17

    cool

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  33.   Pk40 says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 17

    Nice ..love u both.

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  34.   Nunhu says:
    Posted: 23 Dec 17

    Mmmm soon sweet congratulations God bless you

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  35.   5166 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 17

    Смелые люди.

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  36.   PaulaD says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 17

    God bless you

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  37.   Preemji says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 17

    Iam whiting lovele partnr Long time. Enjoyeg.life.

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  38.   Preemji says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 17

    God bless u

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  39.   AlMasum says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 17

    Lovely story

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  40.   Ilyaa says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 17

    God bless you My best wishes

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  41.   Neffertity says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 17

    I will also we glad to have my own man. Tell me how plz

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    • shalzy says:
      Posted: 14 Dec 17

      If u want to happy with your man sacrifice is a reality adopt this. Reality

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  42.   Patelnilesh says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 17

    Vary nice so buttiful page.

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  43.   Annex17 says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 17

    You all look wonderful. Be blessed and be GOD fearing people.Good lUckfield.

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  44.   Alberina says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 17

    Lovely story

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  45.   Bingw says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 17

    So cool

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  46.   Mugda says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 17

    Hi nice to have you guys It's Gods arrangement for being a partner Blessings

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  47.   Thondokuhle says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 17

    its its great I like it

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  48.   Natiman2010 says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 17

    good enought

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  49.   Homme.e says:
    Posted: 08 Oct 17

    this is a good idea..

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  50.   Fadmus says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 17

    Whaoo, I wish thenm success in life.

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