An Open Letter to Light Skinned "Sisters" Who Bash Dark Girls for Swirling Dear Light-Skinned-Pro-Black-Nothing-Butta-Brotha-For-Me Women, I need to ask you a favor. I’ve noticed lately in social media a lot of posts and videos with light skinned, silky-haired black(ish) ...

Insta Couples We Love, YouTube Edition! Some of my favorite Vloggers! She said she missed home, so I took her to the castle where she belongs #winning A post shared by Henrik and Rachel (@henrikandrachel) on Aug 10, 2017 at 1:29am PDT ...

Rachel Lindsey "Followed Her Heart" and Picked Bryan Abasolo So…The Bachelorette had a pretty dramatic ending, with Peter “petering out” and Bryan emerging as the champion. I have to say, Peter was a complete letdown. He’s every guy who tells a girl she...

QOTW: "I Feel Threatened By Asian Women." The Question: Dear Christelyn, I first off would love to thank you for the channel! I wish there was a woman like you when I was a young girl. you embody everything I want to be as a woman. I am you...

Older Black Woman, Younger Non-Black Man...Can it Work? Lots of fans have asked me to address this, and at long last, here is the video...

Colorism: Are You Worried About Hating Your Biracial Girls? Interesting conversation I and Breukelen Bleu were having on the YouTube channel about some dark-skinned black women worried about hating their biracial daughters because of a fear that their existenc...

The Reason African Women Find it EASIER Than AA Women to Swirl Is there anything African women know about IR relationships that we African American women don’t know? Do they have any tips they should be sharing with us? Let's find out...

Could Interracial Love End Racism? Georgetown law professor, Sheryl Cashin thinks that interracial love is the cure for racism and white supremacy. I know; some of you are rolling your eyes. But think about it for a second. When Un...

Are Millennial Women Absolutely Deluding Themselves About Dating. I’ve recently made a commitment to myself to read more. In an effort to have some accountability in that department, I bought a subscription to the New York Times weekend edition. I absolutely MUST ...

A Teachable Moment Happened Last Night on the "Bachelorette" This season’s historic Bachelorette continues to surprise me. Rachel’s charm, wit and intelligence is delightful, and her ability to be sweet, but when necessary, direct and vulnerable makes her a...

First Love Fantasies and the Myth of Closure [AUDIO] Do your eyes steam over as you fondly remember the first time you fell in love and wonder what the person who made you feel that way is up to these days? Do you fantasize about reconnecting, certain h...

How Can I Be So Good at Dating and Still Not Find Love? Alex feels that he is a little too good at dating. And much as it is fun, he doesn't feel like he is getting closer to finding love. How can his dating skills help him find love?

Audio: The Evolution of Desire “I talk to people about mating all the time and I learn something practically every day!” -David Buss Nearly everyone alive has faced problems of mate selection, mate attraction, mate retention, a...

Explore What Happens to Your Body When You Push it Past Limits “We’re so comfortable, we’re miserable.” - Dean Karnazes Given the choice between a stable, comfortable life working for a company with benefits and a steady, hefty paycheck or regularly runn...

What He Says Vs. What He REALLY Means Ever had a guy say one of these phrases and wondered what it really meant? “You’re kind of intimidating...” “How come you’re single?” “I’m just having fun in my dating life right n...

Why Rachel Lindsay and Newsweek Show That "Swirling" Is STILL Relevant I wrote Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed back in 2012. Upon it’s publish date, it was met with excitement, a celebration of how far we’ve come, and unfortunat...

Creating That System and That Infrastructure for Success Some of us are cut out to work in an office. We clock in, take lunch, clock out, and leave the job behind us when it’s time to go home for the night. So many of us find that separation between busin...

This Emotion Will Destroy Your Love Life... How’s this for scary? I’m in the studio on The Today Show opposite Kathy Lee and Hoda. It’s not my everyday situation, and I’m trying to make sure I’m on my best game. “So, what should a...

The TRUTH About Interracial Relationships Yesterday when I read an article on Vogue.com called, The Truth About Interracial Relationships, and saw that it was written by a black woman, I admit I started to bristle. I thought it was going to b...

The 7 Deadly Sins of Reading the News “Everybody is one extreme experience away from changing their mind on almost anything.” - Alex Kouts We live in a time when information on virtually any topic imaginable is instantly available to...