Swirling by Christelyn Karazin

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Rachel Lindsey "Followed Her Heart" and Picked Bryan Abasolo

Posted by Christelyn, 10 Aug 17

So…The Bachelorette had a pretty dramatic ending, with Peter “petering out” and Bryan emerging as the champion. I have to say, Peter was a complete letdown. He’s every guy who tells a girl she’s amazing, that it’s him not her, but he has her to thank for marrying the next woman who comes along six months later. He’s a flimflamy, wishy-washy, time waster and Rachel’s only choice to preserve her self-respect was letting him go.

While Peter was being brought kicking and screaming to the marriage discussion, Bryan was enthusiastic about his love and devotion to Rachel, and upon asking for her hand in marriage, he acted like the happiest man in the world. Where Peter left her doubtful and insecure, Bryan was resolute. I must admit I wasn’t into Bryan at first because I thought he was kind of cheesy and came on too strong. But the proposal and his excitement and love for her won me over and honestly brought me close to tears. This is how a man should want you ladies. Giddy, grateful and proud of the idea of you being his wife and mother of his children. Feeling like the luckiest man in the world.

One thing that really struck me at the proposal/wedding event was Rachel saying that this was a “mature” love. She, like many women (especially black women), come primed for complications and drama, and when someone comes along, uncomplicated and steady, we think they’re too boring.

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It’s the mature, uncomplicated love that lasts, ladies. Always remember that.

Oh! And make sure to buy a copy of People magazine today…they’re on the cover! Aside from whether or not this works out, in the long run, this series was nonetheless historic. Save it for your girls.

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

4 responses to "Rachel Lindsey "Followed Her Heart" and Picked Bryan Abasolo"

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  1. Posted: 15 Sep 17

    Beautiful couple. That handsome face sure helps too :-).

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  2.   Naturall360 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 17

    Not sure why Peter bothered coming on the show. It just seemed he was battling with the race issue and whether he could actually marry a black woman.

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  3.   BernieJ says:
    Posted: 20 Aug 17

    Bryan knew how he felt about Rachel and he was ready to move forward. I like them both and I'll pray for happiness, unconditional love and growth in their relationship

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  4. Posted: 12 Aug 17

    I knew she was going to pick Bryan. Team Bachel

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