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QOTW: "Are black women who date online seen as easy prey to white men???"

Posted by Christelyn, 25 Oct 16

I got this question from a fan of my You Tube channel. I have a lot to say about this, and will most likely do a follow up video, but I thought it would be a good time to engage some of our regulars in a forum format to discuss. Here goes:

Hi Chris I’m a black female who has dated interracially from the start. I’ve been using unpaid online dating sites for years now. I have had absolutely no luck! The men I’ve encountered are disgusting. They don’t get passed two emails without them asking for nude photos!

I am a fairly conservative women and have no ideal what would give these guys the ideal that I’m some sort of slut. Since I’m black and they’re white I often wonder if the treatment I’m receiving is due to the over sexualization of black women in general. I feel like these men wouldn’t dare treat a white woman so distastefully. I am also full-figured and wonder if they just feel like I’m desperate or something. In any case I still worry that race is a factor. I really expected white guys to had a more conservative approach.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

Can you please do a response video. And shed some light on this for women like me? Maybe I’m being hypersensitive. Or maybe I’m on to something..You be the judge. Do white male swirlers see black women as sluts?

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

8 responses to "QOTW: "Are black women who date online seen as easy prey to white men???""

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  1.   CherriPi7 says:
    Posted: 4 days ago

    I also have a story....

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  2. Posted: 22 Oct

    Who knows. I feel that you have to be careful and notice the warning signs. I have met some good and not so great guys from paid and unpaid sites. Although chances are better if you go to a paid site to meet someone. Unless you are trying to meet someone in another State or Country it might be best to do it the old fashioned way and get out and meet people.

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  3.   CaliDuchess says:
    Posted: 18 Oct

    I haven't had that experience as much now as I did when I first started. Unpaid sites are the only places I've actually experienced this. I have seen the same men on several sites, but I think paying does change the dynamics. I've also tried the unpaid app based ones this past summer and went on several dates with great potential mates.

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  4.   DC- says:
    Posted: 17 Sep

    Probably only online and nothing beyond the first phone call. Some of these same men will never approach a Black woman in person.

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  5.   Pompv says:
    Posted: 30 Jan

    I have a story too!

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  6.   MonaSweet68 says:
    Posted: 29 Jan

    I am experiencing the same thing so I just delete and block.....

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  7.   Brunsugah says:
    Posted: 24 Jan

    I've often wondered the same thing when I've had a email from a man which is just so out there in its approach - it leaves me wondering 'where did that come from?' I ignore these type of messages and only reply to guys who show from the start that they have respect. I think you will always get some guys who try it on but the best thing we can do is delete and block.

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    • NewYorkGent says:
      Posted: 01 Mar

      Always follow your instincts. Anyone who sends a message that is inappropriate or disrespectful is a big red flag.

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