Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood’s first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what’s changed?
The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?
There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?
The video below was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls “Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys”. Guess what… Stereotype! Stereotype and more Stereotype!
According to the video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.
Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?
Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled “white-washed” women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.
So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?
My conclusion is that maybe it’s not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?
It could be as simple as there are a greater of white guys in the United States than any other race so just by sheer probability due to the greater number of white guys, Asian women coming to or in the States just go for who is in there environment. I don’t think it reflects negatively on Asian men at all. If the majority of the men in the United States were black or Asian, they would probably go more for them just because it was easier because there were more of them in their immediate environment.
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I’m an asian male, and one of the reasons there are more white men dating asian women is because of the military. White men who are stationed oversees will date and marry asian women. White women on the other hand are not interested in asian men (and vice versa) because of many societal discrimination against the pairing. White women are considered the forbidden fruit, like she represents mother earth from her culture. Other problems like difference in culture is BS I think. So what if the asian male speaks with a foreign accent, what does that matter? American entertainment industry seems to perpetuate this and I am tired of seeing only stereotypes in American pop culture like Long Duk Dong, William Hung, Mr. Yunioshi, the asexual asian man in The Hangovers. THERE WAS NOT ONE SINGLE ASIAN MAN IN SEX AND THE CITY other than a gay asian man which I thought was not fair considering the show is about RELATIONSHIPS AND SEX. The only asian men you see are martial art experts like Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Rain (though he’s not a martial artist) Mr. Miyagi (was not a martial artist), Jason Scot Lee (not a martial artist either). Not to keep ranting, but I just get tired of seeing asian women with white men not because of racism, but that’s all you see. You see the paring in American movies and TV commercials too. When are western societies going to allow for asian man to date white women?
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I don’t know about the view of Asian men because I know plenty of white women who go after Asian men and personally don’t pay attention to any negative stereotypes about them and see them as equal to men of other races. But I do see military men going after Asian women all the time. And the said part is that military men abused Asian women overseas all the time as well as other races and are known for many rapes of young local women that aren’t white. And many Asian women marry white military men to get to live in the States when the guy goes home which is not a recipe for true love. And military men have a long history of doing that since world war two with Japanese women. It has been highly documented in the Korean and Vietnamese wars and the white American military would often have Korean women as their sex slaves as well as maid slaves and called them mules and often left them with children and left them when they went home. But many brought home a lot of them to get married in the States and that was an easy way for Korean or Vietnamese women to get into the United States. Many of these marriages have lead to abuse which I have seen in marriage counseling especially since they have the seven year law of having to live together before the woman can divorce the husband and still stay in the States. So I agree with you a lot Jake and hope you find the woman of whatever race you are looking for that meets your personality requirements. I know how you feel about stereotypes because being an overweight white male my entire life, the media has portrayed us poorly as kids growing up as well as adult overweight white males so I am not fond of the media either.
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Thanks for your reply. Another concern I have is the population in the U.S. for Asians (specifically East Asians). The problem I see is whenever you’re a minority in a country that’s not from your ancestry, there will always be favoritism for the majority first, and since the majority in the U.S. is Caucasian, I don’t see how Asian men can compete when there are very few. This limiting populace wouldn’t of happened if it weren’t for our U.S. government’s involvement with immigration policies limiting Chinese during the late 1800s. People can look this up on google, just type The exclusion act of 1882. I think the population for East Asians would’ve been as big as Hispanic/Latino and African American today if we didn’t have that law years ago.
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Ah, don’t worry Jake. The head of the sociology department of Baltimore years ago married a Japanese man and she wouldn’t go after anyone but Asians and she was a white female. Trust me, there are a lot of them out there that love Asian men. You might want to go to an all Asian site and you will find many white women that are only interested in Asians. This is almost exclusively a black/white site so Asian women are slim pickins here and usually looking for a black male, not a white one. You just have to know where to look.:-)
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I complain a lot about Hollywood, but are they dumb or are they greedy? In Romeo Must Die film, which was a modern day urban version of Romeo and Juliet, Jet Li didn’t even kiss the girl (Aaliyaa) because the screen test didn’t go well from white audiences (according to the filmmakers), so it was cut in the regular version. Now you get the sense in the movie Jet Li and Aaliyah’s characters were falling in love, and there’s even the word Romeo in the title of the movie, you would think Jet Li should’ve been embracing Aaliyaa in a kiss at least, I just don’t get it. Are white people really this sensitive that they don’t want to see an asian hero get the girl? Or is this the fault of the filmmakers? Or is this about marketing? Either way, the movie still would’ve been a box office success. Even allowing one lousy smooch wouldn’t have ruined the whole film.
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jake not only are they sensitive about this they are also dont want the audience to know that caucasian men are not that desirable, which they are not. so to eliminate that people of other races asian/african, latin/asian, latin/african. if the film is not directed toward the people of that nationality then it would not be any intimacy what so ever. but it would be intimacy if the leading man was caucasian not only would it be kissing but the woman of another nationality beside caucasian would have to be nude. i dont get it either but i know one thing for sure if the leading man is of any other race beside caucasian they are not getting any play from a caucasian woman. the saddest fact about that is that the caucasian woman/man is not all that fine in people eye of other races but they will push that person out there on you regardless of how the people feel about it.
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You know what! Thanks for noticing this too, I very much agree at the end of the movie there was a lot of room for a kiss, I mean why even write the script and make the movie if this wasn’t going to happen.
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To be honest a lot of these things are a result of the media.. even in wide spread cultures there are more interracial dating due to what the media portrays.. and another reason from what I’ve come to deduce is rebellion.. a lot of people associate interracial relationships to being free from either parental oppression or societal oppression as to make a statement that i am unique or special or odd.to be more specific take the average suburban teenager taken from an American suburb whose parents goals for his/her life is not exactly what they want out of their lives and feel little acts of rebellion make them feel free or independent. i like Asian women simply because I’ve never dated one.. and i am very curious because out of the women i have dated or hooked up with in my life i feel they have a lot of ancestral culture that has not completely been washed away by westernization no matter how little it is and its something I’d like to experience in this lifetime.
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You can. There are more and more men stepping out. I saw go after who you want regardless of there race. No matter what race some people are off limits, but more and more people are looking just for a good mate regardless of there race. Also some women are selecting men by wrong criteria if they are talking about hieght or other things. I have friends who are looking at Asian men because the majority of them have education and jobs. And if they are single they don’t have kids. But maybe you should look outside of just white women. There are alot of women in this country and latinos don’t care about hieght. My bestfriend is married to an Asian man and she is black.
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I dated an older Asina lady years ago and she was a total sweetheart.I wanted children then and she could not have any.I sort of broke up the relationship.I think that was the greatest mistake I have ever made and may have been very selfish on my part.
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I think there are a few reasons why this is occuring. First, I think its because the world is so much closer together, than in previous years. With the internet, anyone in the world can basically chat with one another, given they meet in the right chat room or find each other on the right social site. And this allows people to see exactly what
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IS out there, and to build their tastes for the opposite sex accordingly.
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Um, this topic concerns Asian AMERICANS, not Asians in Asia, so I am not sure why you are bringing this whole ultrasound and other nonsense into this discussion.
And just in case you have no idea what an Asian AMERICAN is, here is the Wikipedia entry:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_American
Note: Asian Americans are Americans who just happen to be of Asian descent. They do not go around killing female babies, eating dogs, carrying Samurai Swords, and beating women.
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Wow dude. NO ONE is feeling you on this thread! lol
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From what I’ve seen, heard and experienced, a great majority of Asian girls date White men on the basis/assumption that Asian men are too short/traditional & not well endowed. Also, a lot of them feel the urge to be accepted. As we all know, Asian women (most) come from cultures where women have little to no rights/freedom so when they live in a Western nation, they decide to go for the golden ticket (white men) regardless of how they are treated. Of course this doesn’t apply to every single one of them…but I’m sure any HONEST Asian lady in this kind of relationship can admit to this.
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Asians women are not the most that have the less freedom. What about the middle east where some countries women cannot go to school or even shop without husbands permission.
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Only in the media this is news. In reality from what I’ve read it saids about 1 out 3 East Asian men, e.g. Koreans who were born in US are married to white women. Korean American males have the highest outmarriage rate.
I’ve dated more white females than Asian females by a long shot.
Also from my observation white women who have East Asian Ameircan boyfiends tend to be upwardly mobile and highly educated.
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i guess the whole interracial dating issue is never ever going to get old.
as an asian male from first generation chinese parents. the main reason for me not dating white girls was because of parental pressure not to.
my dad fiercely wanted me to date chinese girls.
the problem for me is that i am 6’2″, 44 jacket and 32″ waist. i am not ashamed to say that i am also very good looking (modeled) and am a doctor.
am i totally blessed with height and good looks? absolutely. am i blessed to be a white collar professional? yep!
thus, i have the pick of a lot of women. tall, short, white, black, asian etc.
despite all my desirable (even conceited) positive attributes, i married a traditional asian women due to parental pressure.
i was miserable and eventually divorced her.
now, i am dating a person i want to be with. someone who is meant for me because she is compatible for me as a wonderful woman and not just by her race.
is it by chance that she is a tall natural blonde model? well, her looks are definitely a bonus…but i am with her because she is intelligent, witty and caring.
so…
all you asian men who think you dont have enough game to be with a white woman…you are right. most asian men do not have the confidence to be with a white woman. in fact, most asian men dont have enough confidence to be with any woman. get some confidence and be with someone you want to be with. not because of their race but because of the person they are.
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I recently met an East Asian man that I am dating. I have never had the desire to date outside of my race (white) nor even THINK about making eye contact with a military man. But the way this gentleman approached me was almost too good to be true. An intelligent conversation..YES PLEASE!!! Oh,wow what a beautiful harmonious physical and emotional attraction!! I think I may have found my best friend. And yes, it is all about confidence.
I also agree that this male Asian culture aims from an intelligent female. And for a white woman like myself, white guys’ principles are not as critique as East Asian men. With human trafficking degrading female Asians, it makes sense why some Asian men are attracted to white woman that are independent. And vice versatile, Asian woman with while men (much more common.) Asian men are usually highly educated, high family values, and intelligent reasoning skills. Lately, I cannot find a single decent man that can carry in a deep conversation about society, ect.
Learning about other cultures is beneficial to anybody and raises awareness about your own morals and values. No wonder interracial relationships and wedlocks are becoming more common…not just the looks of an Asian white baby, but of the strong values of both cultures that can be incorporated into raising children.
And for those that want the truth… They are not all short, or necessarily good at math, and their penises are not small!!!
It really is about the individual and not the race or culture… It’s about who you get along with and have common interests. My thoughts on dating only with my race has changed dramatically and DAMN Asia is a beautiful culture.
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I love Asian men. I think there is a rise in AMBW relationships and AMWW relationships, AMLW relationships, etc… I think Asian men are becoming more comfortable with dating outstide of their race. I know a lot of Asian guys who state various reasons for not approaching women outside of their race including but not limited to: American women are too large (in body frame and stature), cultural differences, family would not allow it, too shy, fear of rejection, not interested, not sure if she likes Asian guys, etc… I love Asian guys and I think it’s wonderful!! I have a blog and a youtube page about my life experiences and dating Asian men. I think it’s great to de-fuse the stereotypes about Asian men…not all are shy. As a matter-of-fact, they can be quite vocal. I think it depends on the person and what they are used to. There are different types of Asian men…ABC, FOB, Asian men that have lived in America for any true length of time are going to be different than an Asian man who comes directly from his country to date outside his race. However, even guys from their own country are more than willing to date outside of their race. There’s a ton of youtube videos about interracial marriages in Asian community. One of my faves is a Black woman who met her Korean husband while she was working abroad. They met, fell in love, and got married, etc… He was a Korean, not spending time in America, just straight Korean. So it really depends. Another couple I know Japanese man and Black woman, met in Hawaii while in college. It really just depends on the people. It is happening all over but just not publicized or talked about as much.
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You notice the way whites try to play blacks and Asians off against each other as polar opposites.
1) If blacks are cool, then Asians are nerdy.
If black men are stereotyped as having big penises but not much intelligence while Asian men are the other way round
2) If black women are disagreeable, overbearing and loud, then Asian women are sweet, submissive and quiet.
3) If blacks are lazy, then Asians are hard working.
4) If blacks have a lower IQ than whites, then Asians have a higher one.
5) If blacks have a higher poverty rate than whites, then Asians have a lower one.
6) If blacks have less education than whites, then Asians have more.
7) If black women are “mannish”, then Asian women are “ultra-feminine
And whites put themselves right in the middle as just right
Scientific racists use north-eastern Asians to support their own white racism, twisting facts to try to prove that the Chinese and Japanese do better on IQ tests. Why ? Because that would mean IQ tests do not somehow favour the whites who made them. It would also support your idea that cold climates make you smart : that the cold weather in Europe and northern Asia evolved higher levels of human intelligence, leaving behind blacks as a backward branch of mankind. Funny that, considering neither never settled in the supposedly, easy to live in, warm tropics
Plus asian culture is really just a borrowed and stolen African culture.
IF YOU DON’T KNOW HISTORY YOU KNOW NOTHING.
Martials arts, cuisine, music, philosophy and religion are just a few things that Asian got from Africa . The Chinese are also moving back to South Africa in droves because that is where many of them are from. If you look at the Mandarin language or even Japanese dialects you will see the similarity between them and African languages. White people seem to prefer Asians because it makes you feel like you are not racist when still hating blacks and everyone know how white men love Asian women for the myth of their passivity and traditionalism. All that comes from the Vietnam and Korean Wars where white servicemen routinely raped Asian women whenever they got horny and the way white men go over to Bangkok and Thailand to catch a bit of yellow fever.
It’s funny really this “Asian are so smart” and “Asians are doing so well” is NEVER pushed by Asians themselves. Is it ? After all, to claim superior Asian genes or culture as the reasons for achievement, requires you to ignore the rampant poverty and lack of success for persons from the same background in their countries of origin. There is no shortage poor Asians in the slums of Manila, Calcutta and Hong Kong.
Asian success does not prove there is no racism against them. Any more than the success of Tiger Woods, Barack Obama proves that they never faced racism. Or that Jewish success in Germany in the early 1900s proved that anti-Semitism was dead. Asians succeed in spite of racism mainly because they have way more education on average than most white people (a side effect of immigration policy.
Also asians have a different history with whites. Whites never successfully went into China , Korea , Japan and overtook anything. Therefore the sense of superiority that dominance gives was not carried forward. Whites believed that Asians outsmarted them. Racism comes in part from the hang-ups white people have about people being “different”. So some of it will apply to anyone who looks different, who does not look pure european. That part applies to both blacks and Asians.
But part of the racism comes from the need to excuse the unfair advantages whites have, something that grows out of their ugly, skinhead past of genocide, slavery and Jim Crow. That part applies to blacks, not to Asians. That makes blacks a way bigger threat to white self-image than Asians. Therefore whites need to think that there is something profoundly wrong with black people.
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There have always a competition of sorts of power struggles between white males and white females. Especially in America. The most common interracial relationship nowadays is usually between white males and Asian females. Not between black males and white females, contrary to popular beliefs. And since the white w omen’s liberation have come into play in America the power struggle have always been prevalent between them. So it’s usually whatever white males are doing, white females wants to do it too. It’s the same scenario with the issues of white males with black females, dating back to when black females came to this country from Africa as slaves and white males were using black females as their own little personal sex slave. And of course, white females wanted to have some of the that Mandingo warrior as well. So it’s an ‘anything white males can do, white females can do it too’ scenario.
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I’m not sure what it is. Maybe it’s because of women’s liberation. I mean, now white women are encouraged to learn things. We’re not some silly housewives listening to bullshit about white supremacy. We now know that there is no REAL difference between the races. Also, I think the media is depicting Asian men in a better light. I mean, it went from some strange, mouthy little twerp with a funny hat and long braid to a man who was just like everyone else. (Nothing wrong with traditional Asian fashion. My problem lies with stupid archetypes.) Asian men aren’t beating on their wives and aren’t superstitious and they are just as desirable as anyone else. I really don’t know. This is just a theory.
And as for white men, I believe that they have always been allowed to partake in the double standard that Asian woman is the same thing as white, but not vice versa. I also believe that there is a sick little misconception that Asian women are submissive. Hahaha, I know that’s bullshit, because my best friend is Asian and so is my other friend and they aren’t submissive. They’re strong, independent women. And, I don’t know. Maybe Asian women are really pretty? I mean, it’s exotic. I think humans as a whole seek something different. However, before I get slapped around, I don’t think all white men think these things. I’m just saying there is a prevalence of this viewpoint.
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white males are insecure, they love Asian women and deliberately degrade/push down Asian males in many ways(e.g. Western media, Hollywood movies etc.), particularly I found that white men hate good looking Asian guys so much because of jealousy.
In fact, 99% of those (East)Asian women who date western men are not consider pretty or pretty, unless she’s a hooker or having mental problem. Just go to the mall to prove it, only those Asian women with white men are mostly lower than average looking, but those white girls with their Asian bf/husband are quite beautiful in general. This may upset you but its true!
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Many typos, correct here: Many white males are insecure in losing their women, they love Asian women and deliberately degrade/push down Asian males in many ways(e.g. Western media, Hollywood movies etc.), particularly obvious is that white men hate good looking Asian guys so much because of jealousy.
In fact, 99% of those (East)Asian women who date western men are not consider pretty or attractive, unless she’s a hooker or having mental problem! Go to the mall to check out those interracial couples, those Asian women accompanying with a white male partner are usually lower than average looking, but those white girls with their Asian bf/husband are quite beautiful in general. This may upset many western men but its true!
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You know, now that I think about it…you’re absolutely right!
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I think it just has to do with preference, just like most white males prefer not to date black woman.
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I would find it hilarious that white men like Rosso87 comes to a site called “AFRO” romance but claim to not date black women, only if it weren’t so tragic. There are PLENTY of sites for White Men seeking Asian women, why come here?
And it would also help if hopeless men like Rosso87 could figure out that Latino isNOT a race. There are Black Latina women as well. So when you say “I don’t like black women but I like Latina women” it’s basically like saying “I don’t like Ketchup only Catsup”.
Get a clue, immediately, please.
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You just killed it.
“I don’t like black women but I like Latina women” it’s basically like saying “I don’t like Ketchup only Catsup”.
I don’t think they heard you.
I heard this “poorly built preference comment” TOO many times.
And yes I have seen a AMWW couple about 3 years ago. I worked with him. Gosh, he was gorgeous! And his gf was cute too! In a small, I mean extremely small East Texas backwoods town. And his sister dated BM too. Plenty of AWBW couples in San Antonio & Austin.
I still get pissed at the Asian man in movies not represented right as the hero and getting the girl. ANY GIRL!!!
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*Latina is NOT a race
*get a clue immediately, please
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