Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood’s first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what’s changed?
The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?
There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?
The video below was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls “Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys”. Guess what… Stereotype! Stereotype and more Stereotype!
According to the video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.
Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?
Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled “white-washed” women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.
So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?
My conclusion is that maybe it’s not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?
So, I’ve ran into this blog a couple times and I thought I should leave my opinion. I’m a 18 year old college student that has had “yellow-fever” ever since. I have many Asian female friends that date white guys, its so common now. That’s all fine with me, because I’m never liked Asian girls. But, I don’t see the ratio of Asian guys dating white girls in my area. Its either with hispanic or asian girls. I’ve never had a problem talking to girls of other ethnicities. But, I can’t seem to get a white gf. They either nicely reject me or use me. I can’t even get a date with one, because they make excuses. I don’t know why I can’t even get a date at the very least. I’m 5’9″ and athletically built and I have a great personality. I’m 100% chinese & I’m good looking. Very Americanized, I dress preppy. I need some help from you guys. Could anyone give me a few pointers or tips? thanks
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hmm I’m a caucasian girl of ur age and I must say some girls to think very shallow when it comes to asian guys. Most of them have these stereotypes in their heads which kind of puts them off in dating asian guys….I would say before asking them on a date, just try and let them get to know u and that u are a fun person to be with with a class personality =) due to stereotypes they might not realise that they aren’t true and therefore are convinced that an asian guy wouldn’t be right for them, so yea, best is to just show them what they really are like and maybe try to hang out with white guys so that they see that ur approachable? sorry if this all sounds confusing by the way lol its hard to formulate it right >.< ''
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Hey SlimJimTight – as a 23-year-old white girl and university graduate, my best advice is to be PATIENT. You are only 18. Now, before you accuse me of being condescending and ageist, trust me when I say that while 5 years may NOT seem like a long time, by the time you finish college, you will be a totally different person. It’ll seem like an eternity. At 18, even students who are already in college/university are usually in what I like to call “highschool mode”. You are still technically a teenager, and have teenage tendencies.
In highschool, I NEVER EVER would have considered a future with an Asian, or any non-white guy for that matter. My thoughts were not based in racism or being shallow, but out of being unfamiliar with non-white guys. I’m Ukrainian (third generation Canadian with a Ukrainian background if we need to be picky), so I was sent to a Ukrainian elementary school–all white kids. Then I went to an all-girl highschool. Most of my friends in highschool were non-white, actually (I joke that I was so desperate for friends of other backgrounds, that I went out of my way to befriend every girl who wasn’t white), but even though I ACKNOWLEDGED that many non-white men are attractive, because I had only truly had contact with white males, I figured that that’s what I’d be sticking with. A future with an Asian or black guy was not something I thought I’d be able to get down with.
In highschool, regardless of whether the schools are co-ed or not, kids tend to be cliquey. Many kids stick with their own out of comfort. In highschool, the last thing students want to do is step out of their comfort zone.
Unfortunately, that kind of thinking has a tendency to stay with people in college/university, especially if your classes are all huge lecture halls of 300 students, where no one gets a chance to know each other, and you’re just a number to your prof. So in many cases, even university students, overwhelmed by all of the people they’re surrounded by, gravitate towards their own out of familiarity.
What was a huge turning point for me was the fact that while I did attend a university, and had some large classes, I was also part of an art/art history program that allowed me to take studio classes at a nearby college. These classes were small, and so naturally, the students all got to know each other very well. Then we’d end up having art history lectures together (which were also smallish) at the university. And we were a very racially mixed bunch of kids. And as we progressed in the program, we’d continue to see each other, and be in classes together. What started as a group featuring the “token Asian guy”, and the “token Indian girl” turned into a group of colourblind friends. It became very natural to strike up conversations with people regardless of the colour of their skin. Then we’d go back to the university and see so many “ethnic cliques”, and it seemed so weird.
What also changed my mindset was ending up working part time as a tutor for Korean kids. I’ve shown them that not all white people are scary racists! I’ve bonded with a lot of them, and while many were initially a little nervous around me, they ended up seeing me as something of an older sister. They’re able to talk with me about stuff that they wouldn’t dare talk to their conservative parents about, and they’ve learned that I’m not judgmental, so they aren’t afraid to talk. And they make me listen to K-Pop on their iPods. And because I’m weird, I’d look these artists up on YouTube, and I’d be like, “DAMN! These Korean men are HOT!”
So I’m kind of a special case, haha.
And as it turned out, while I had crushes on many different white guys throughout university (German, Irish, French/Hungarian), the one guy I truly found myself head over heels for by the time I graduated was a Chinese guy I’d been good friends with since my second year. Unfortunately, he “got away”, in that after graduating, he moved back home to Vancouver (I’m from and continue to live in Toronto) to attend grad school. We never were an item or anything, because I only realized I was super into him after he’d left (it’s always that way, isn’t it?). But I do hope that we’ll have an opportunity to be reunited, and that I’ll be able to tell him how I feel, and that hopefully he could feel the same way. I do have family in Vancouver, and my best friend may be moving there to study, so ya never know! I do keep tabs on him on Facebook, just to make sure he’s still single.
Sorry this is so freakishly long, dude! I like to write.
So really, the only thing you can do is be patient, and allow those around you to get out of that cliquey highschool state of mind. Those that ONLY see you for your background are not worth your time. Let girls of all backgrounds get to know you as a friend for a bit. Allow them to see that Asian guys are just like any other guys! Best of luck to you! 
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@ slimjimtight
the less you try the more results you get. There are NO WOMEN out there that’s worth your time, if you take a girl out and she doesnt put out, theres no need to call them back, if you take them out and they sleep with you, theres really no point in calling them back……”waiting”
hope that helps
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oh and if you want the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth and ready to handle the truth about why more asian men are dating white women…..bottom line, American Women hands you her goodies easier than asian women…on averge. Ofcourse you have some of your “Americannized asian women” that puts out to because she doesnt know any better thikning she’s living the american dream.
End of Story.
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The better ? is why does almost every interracial relationships involve a white women? I wouldn’t dream of betraying my beautiful women in any way. At least some Asians I’ve met love their own women like I love my own.
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Generally speaking, because we can just do this, I have a question(err..maybe more than one!) for all the Asian men, what do you think about Italians? I would love to know your opinions;I’m an Italian girl really appassionated of Asian men,I live near Milan and in my city there are now many, but I’m really not able to approach them, I happened in many beautiful Asian men but, please this is my experience sorry if you feel being offended(<-and for my bad English too!),I was saying…but they are soo(yeah double o) reserved or shy I can’t understand very well…Do you have any advices to explain me why, and how I could approach you? ^\\^ Please!
Serena
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Can’t really speak for all asian men since everyone is different but, If you like one then just straight up go it and talk to him, I usual won’t have the guts to approach a girl even if I like them anymore, why?, because everyone I’ve tried turn out not single, generally girls have a super easy time getting dates, cos they are really bombarded with it constantly, but if you are single and you like the asian guy then if you let him know in someway, if he’s single, he will then more likely to respond, asians tend to not take chances if there’s no sign’s telling him to.
As for myself, I’m currently talking to an Italian model, we are really clicking incredibly!!, she’s super hot! And I have no idea how I got so lucky. How did this happen?, we’ll she hit the single zone time segment. So a lot of things affect the outcome.
Just be yourself of course, unless you have a reason to with-hold info which was the case in my case, her being a model of course, she thought it gives the wrong impression, so she didn’t tell me, but came clean later.
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It’s all about stereotypes. Maybe you’re just noticing it more. I know interracial couples (white lady, asian man) who’ve been together 20-30 years.
I wouldn’t be here if my white grandma hadn’t married my asian grandpa back in the 1920′s when they had to go to another state because their home state disallowed interracial marriage, and my grandma couldn’t give birth to her first born in a “white” hospital because they prohibited non-whites from giving birth there. Thank God that we have come this far that people of different races, orientations, religions, creeds, and colors can fall in love and be free to make a life together without fear of being lynched and shit.
So, come to think of it, maybe y’all should put away your white sheets and torches and calm the f*** down about the rise of interracial relationships. I’ve had enough of whiny bitches breaking wind about how it isn’t fair to see trends of certain races and genders hooking up. Stop whining, go fall in love, stop hatin’, and do something useful with your life.
I’m proud to be multiracial and am about to marry a great man who is latino. Bonus: our kids are going to have the most amazing genes and hybrid vigor so that they’ll outlast any inbred bigot out there.
Yay!
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I dont’ think its that common, asian females with white males are much more common – I saw 3 of these
couples on the train and in the train station the other day – one of the couples sounded quite compatible and held a good conversation together.
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…Why are people so stereotyped? Jeez. Everyones fighting battles that are completely ridiculous. I for one think that all men of every race can be a jerk, they can be fun and nice, they can be manly, they can be smart, stupid, abusive, feminine, etc. so why are we focusing on just the Asian men? I for one think that Asian men are gorgeous. With my experience of knowing white men, Asian men, black men, mexican men, and all other men, i prefer the Asian men. Why? not because im racist or ashamed of being Caucasian, because i’ve found my experiences with them better than my experience with other men. But there are asian men who are assholes, manipulative, horny bastards…Lol. but im not saying they are all like this. I find their femininity a good thing. I like that in a man, maybe more so than other women i know but we are all different. I like many things about the asian men. Its not that i would never date a caucasian man or a black man or a mexican man… its just that i prefer asian men. So why diss girls who prefer white men? Thats just their preference. But i do wish they would stop stereotyping, because a lot of white men i know are the exact opposite of what they say XDD But then there are some that are what they say. you just need to find the right person. but, all together, it doesn’t matter what race you are. We are all humans. Love someone for who they are, not their race. And just realize all are individuals and different in their own way. Different cultures play a part in that, so if a girl prefers a certain kind of man then they may date a man who’s culture shapes them into their prefered..man… im sorry if you don’t understand what im saying, lol, but i hope it makes sense and we can all learn to love eachother like we would anyone else. I am only fourteen so i may not know as much as others, but i do know that what i am saying should be the reason for love and it should not matter what race. That is only physical attraction and you need emotional attraction as well to call it love. Alright, im going to end this. I just hope people listen and understandd ><
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And Andrea Coombes…Gtfo. you make no sense.
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Asian women who seek for white men always dating or marrying a rich White guys who they happened to love nothing about them and likely to ended up in divorce in the future.
To Asian women white men only view them as sex machine and only treat them nicely as long as there is a good sex life
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I married a good-looking, masculine, Japanese man. He was the most compatible and emotionally mature man I ever dated. The american men I dated were like boys and either commutment phobic or controlling or wanting to be taken care of. While there are many good american guys – it just seems like they play boy games and retain boyhood long into adulthood on average. My husband is great at partnership and is more like my father than any man I have ever met. Very kind to others, children and animals but also knows how to stand up for himself. He is strong willed but he genuinely wants me to be happy and I know he will never divorce because it is not in his culture. That means he really tries to work with me to make the relationship happy. He likes me because he thinks me smart and funny and because I deal with him directly rather than manipulatively and really try to understand his viewpoint even if he is not good at articulating it. If something makes him uncomfortable but he can’t say why then I don’t dismiss it. I respect his gut and emotions enough to try to figure out the issue and work out something that suits us both. I am from the south and well-educated. He does like women who dress feminine (southern women tend to be that way) and he loves educated and independent women better than beautiful ones. We have been together 20 years now.
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I am a white woman married to a Chinese-born man and I must say that he is the best partner I could ask for. In my opinion, he works harder than most American guys, he is faithful and honest… and VERY muscular. We run a business together and I think we make a great team…I hate all the negitive sterotypes about asian guys ’cause this one is strong, assertive, intelligent and kind. Sigh…
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Looks gals and guys,
We want the exotic. We want what we don’t have. If you eat hamburger all the damn time, don’t you want something else like pizza?
Personally, for me, I find that white girls are more friendly, easier going, more “fair” and giving in bed, and break up easier with less drama and attachment. With Asian girls, they always want the upper hand, they want you to pay for everything and squeeze you when they can. Simply put, they are relatively more stuck up. I find way more drama when I’m with Asian girls. But, this is just my experience. Your results may vary.
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I am a black girl and i find all race attractive but i have to admit lately I’ve found asian more attractive, even the femine once. It wasn’t always so though, I used to go to schools where blacks were a majority,but as i got older I started going to more mixed raced schools and I enjoyed it better than the one raced school. You get to learn about different cultures. I have a lot of asian friends korean, chinese, and even mixed asians. I may not be dating an asian yet but from what I’ve seen mixed couple have the same problems as same sex couples. So don’t talk crap about asians because they wanna date a white women or a white women. Asians mixing with other races is a step from them staying secluded to themselves like they were. If you don’t wanna see mixed races go jump on a boat and sail to the middle of an ocean because there are mixed couples everywhere.
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Whether you deny it or not – in real world, Asian girls with whote males are mostly from SE Asia (eg Indonesia, Thai, Filipino). 99.9% East Asian womem(Chinese/Japanese/Korean), DO NOT like white men. They’d choose to stick with their own type and in genral think white men are hairy creatures, dimwit, meatheads etc (sad but true)but with little $ in their pockets only.
So if eliminated the ‘finanicial advantage’ of white men in the past 50 yrs, Asian Girls would never choose to go out with any white guy for sure, unless the girl herself is too ugly and cant find a normal Chinese bf. (This can be seen everywhere)
But after you go out with her, you’ll find her eyes keep staring at other Asian guys on the street, showing how desperate she wants an Asian bf in her mind. She’ll cheate the white man’s $ then unhappily leave quickly the go to where her Chinese lover lives, then spend those $ together.
The Hollywood films, media and youtube video like this are made up to please white male audience feeling, and degrade Asian men deliberately so as to promote self-confidence, but you gotta realise its not the reality – E Asian girls ideally want E Asian BF/Husband only.
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We have to look a little deeper. At first I couldn’t put my finger on it but we know there’s something wrong with it.
It is unnatural, the attraction is uncomfortable and also unnaturally mismatched. The disparity of Asian women with White men is a result of centuries of racism.
Thus affects social sentiments of a interacting society of human relations.
These women are just showing their prejudices against their own people, it may not be their fault but their naiveness shows their blindness.
White guy with Asian women – As visual evidence of the advantages as a result from white racism / colonialism. Thus creates a world of superficial privilege.
Take a look around, the couple themselves may not know it but we know the influence of white racism is there, socially systematic, embedded so deep that it’s hard to break.
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It’s nice to see the variety of opinions and the amount of support ppl have given to AM/WF couples. But I must note what ppl seem to be failing to see. I’m an asian male who’s always wondered about reasons for this rarity. Over where I’m from, AM/WF is RARE, and if I’m even just out with a white female friend, we get looks (cause of course when you’re one on one ppl assume you’re together). Anyways, what ppl are failing to see is culture differences. You say race doesn’t matter, but when I view race I think of certain cultural aspects too. Typically when I see AF/WM couples the AF’s way more slutty than normal, or the WM is a complete dork by society standards. The majority of AM/WF couplings I see here are when the WF is basically a ho, hanging out with some AM gangsta. I can only recall twice in my life, and I am almost 30, where I have seen a more normal AM/WF hookup, but the AM you could tell was so whitewashed he can’t even count as “asian” – in that case asian truly just described his skin tone and facial features. What I am basically saying is I have yet to see a normal, non-dorkish, fully legit looking asian-white couple, who have clearly preserved their cultural roots as well.
Question to you asian-white couples: why does it seem like the only way to get together is to be like the other culture?? Why is there no real integration and preservation of BOTH cultures??
For instance, the dorky white girl with asian guy, and asian girl with dorky white guy, just represents a typical asian couple. They also tend to be involved in more asian type things – manga, bubbletea, karaoke, etc., and blasting ‘classic rock’ or heavy metal is very unlikely in these relationships.
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Sorry, I also have more to add. I have also not yet met an asian guy who DOESN’T find white women appealing, and find it shocking to see the number of comments saying asian men don’t want to marry outside of the race. Is this an American thing? Cause I love sexy women in all races, and so do the rest of my asian friends (more specifically, we’re all chinese).
The thing I would like ppl to be aware of is that white girls have a stigma for being slutty, likely to cheat, likely to get used, and divorce more readily as opposed to working things out. I also must say that Americans have been portrayed as greedy, arrogant, and self-centered. The combination of both is the only way I can think of that asian men would not want to marry a white girl.
For all you white girls that are offended by my above remark, and feel that the stigma is wrong, then pls behave accordingly. Stay faithful, and stop being selfish – some of us take “til death do us part” quite seriously. Also, stop choosing jerk-type personalities who use and abuse you which in turn cause you play games with your future bfs.
I would love to find a sexy white girl whom I can trust, love and adore.
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@thinkit – Whoa! “Unnaturally mismatched”? What’s unnatural about two human beings entering a loving relationship with one another? Sounds to me as though you’re projecting your own narrow-minded views on the entire human race. Here’s a novel thought: maybe interracial couples look beyond skin/eye colour to the person inside.
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I’m a white woman (100% Polish, born there) and I’ve been happily in a relationship with an Asian man (Chinese) for two years now. I’m not sure about the stereotypes, but here’s why I fell for this guy:
He was very assertive and confident. He made the first moves. He was anything but shy. He’s talkative, outgoing, and personable.
He is a gentleman and polite. He has traditional values and knows how to make a girl feel comfortable and special. I’ve never HAD to pay for a date. I can offer to pay and he’ll let me, but he is first to offer and never hesitates or complains about it.
He cares about his family and my family. He helps take care of his family. Family values are very important, and there definitely isn’t enough of it in America anymore, so to see how much of a family man he was was refreshing.
His unique style (He’s from hong kong) and heritage are so different from mine, there’s always something new to learn from him.
He’s not the stereotype “geek” asian. He dropped out of high school and got his GED. However, he’s street smart. He’s quick on his feet, quick to pick up and learn new things, never lags, and just always seems to be on top of his game and knows what he’s doing.
He’s super loyal, and is serious about the relationship. There never were any games or what-ifs. He respects me, and has respected me from the very start.
Not to mention, he’s extremely sexy. I was attracted to him from day one, and let’s just say he’s got skills! =)
As for why HE doesn’t want to go for asian girls, he did give some stereotypical reasons based on his own experience…
They’re shallow or greedy, always wanting him to buy them expensive things and wanting to be taken care of
Two of the asian girls he’s dated have cheated on him
They’re too timid or way too obnoxious
He also just isn’t that physically attracted to them, probably because he wants something different from himself. He just doesn’t like the typical Asian body type and physical aspects I guess.
Those are just his feelings, and they’re generalizations based on a few experiences. I’m the first white girl he’s ever dated. He’s the first asian guy I’ve ever dated, though I have dated other races as well.
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The myth about Asian man’s small penis is untrue. Perhaps you are talking about ancient Asians. But nowadays, the biggest and tallest people on earth are Asian and tall Chinese like Yao Ming the basketballer.. do u really think Asians still have small dicks?
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Just to add.. it’s like saying all Asian women have small boobs..
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“Jungle Fever” helps create a healthy gene pool, it’s natural to be attracted to people outside your family or race. Some guys have different preferences. Some adrore latinas, some love meditteranian women, some love nordic women, some love russian women, etc, etc you get the picture. A lot of people on the net are talking about white men having an “asian fetish.” I think I just have an “attractive female” fetish. It helps if I know a girl, who likes me. For example, after I met a nice girl from spain, I developed a fetish for mediatteranian features. When I met a nice southerns asian girl, I found my asian fetish.
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@omondieu novel ideas are usually just that “novel”. There are lots of reasons for interrracial relationships and not all of them are positive. More often than not, one or more particpants in this pairing DO NOT look beyond skin/eye colour to the person inside. They deliberately seek out individuals of a certain people or exclude other people based race (often their own). Thankfully there are lots of great examples of interracial relationships based on true love.
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Someone posted up there that white males have a higher rate of divorce then other race… well all those Asian women who are married to white guys… your chances of a filed mirage just got higher! laughs, and yes I know a few already… Laughs again…
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I think interracial dating / marriage is fine if you are not into stereotypes. I’ve known two white men who got “mail order brides” from Philipinnes. I think this is totally weird. The men stated they married them because they thought the women would be submissive. They turned out getting divorces because these women were bilking them for $$ to send home to support their families, didn’t work and were bossy. Men of all races, you need to get rid of fantasies and get into reality.
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I’m a Registered Nurse here in the Philipines, this is not really a comment but a question, is it really possible for a Pilipino man to Find a U.S. Citizen Wife?
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I think it be because it easier for the white woman to accomodate a tiny Asisan man than they can with members of my race. they scared
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I do not know why and really do not care. My mom said if you take care of everything that you are responsible for you wont have time to worry about anybody else. So I am taking care of my biz and leaving everyone else’s alone.
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Then I think your mom is a really wise woman!
p.s=Thanks. I’ll keep that in mind.
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i just think asians are ignorant they think they are white so they are the white man’s bitch ahaha
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Whoa, I’ve been in a relationship with an asian male for over 2 yrs, and I sure as heck don’t dress like a ho or make out that I’m hanging with some asian bad boy or whatever the current stereotype is. The sex is great, the company and friendship even better. If I had to home in on a problem, it would have to be his family, they are very traditional and I don’t exactly fit in and they do tend to give him a hard time and send him on guilt trips for not marrying some distant cousin overseas.
I didn’t see him as any different to me, he’s attractive, funny and very personable. To me, its a normal relationship with normal issues, I look at him and see MY guy, not my ASIAN guy. People will be attracted to whoever their subconscious draws them to, colour or heritage doesn’t play any part until much later.
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I really don’t understand all the stereotypes here, especially some of the really stupid posts by really stupid immature guys. I am a Chinese-American, typical medium height, typical EE/MBA, typical short hair with glasses, typical with a black belt in kenpo karate, typical drive a Honda, a truck and a Mercedes Benz. Typical ride a motorcycle periodically and I love my Wilier Cento Uno racing bicycle. I am fluent in English and Mandarin Chinese, so typical isn’t it? I also love German Shepherds (especially DDR GSDs, but that is another story). Before I was married, I dated a lot and had a lot of sex with White, Asian and Black ladies. In my opinion, all mine ladies were very pretty and all were very sweet. During grad school, there was a time I dated a White, Asian and Black at the same time (is this typical for you racist hater of any color? I don’t think so). I don’t think I am super good looking, although some people think I am. Am I well endowed? No way. One time, I actually had a very tall (yes, taller than I am) and busty Caucasian lady told me compare to her past lovers, I was on the “smaller” side (no joke! I thought it was very funny, I told her it would make BJs much easier to do). None of the Black ladies I’ve been with ever complained, so what does that tell you about Black men, I am not sure). Am I rich? No way. When I graduated from college and grad school, I owed thousands of dollars, just like you were, very typical. Which race makes a better lovers? I am serious here, its all good, very good. Currently I am married for almost 10 years now, and still happily married. And my wife? She is beautiful, smart, very capable and 10 years younger than I am. I believe my wife is actually smarter than I am too. We have a beautiful son together. So what was my secret how to date all the nice ladies? And most of all, how to marry a very nice lady? First of all, really try to be color blind. I know due to all the liberal brain washing of dividing people by race and gender, being color blind is really hard to do, but you must see people as they are, just people. Secondly, develop a nice personality, be nice and have a sense of humor. Know who you are, you must be comfortable in your own skin. For example, I never scored well in a crowded bar, but I will able to get dates with the most beautiful gal at a more intimate dinner party. Why? Becaues I learned how to talk to people. Do not take yourself too seriously and yet you will be serious about the future. Your attitude about life will be very visible. Don’t brag, don’t try too hard, and never whine too much, especially to ladies. I’ll repeat again, don’t whine, it is especially poor form for men to whine, okay? Now this is for you white men, don’t talk too much none sense, don’t get stuck on sports, let your ladies do the talking. I never wear cologne because I do not want to compete against my ladies’ perfume, but I do take two showers a day to stay fresh, even today (no metrosexual males here). Try to stay in shape. Smile and make eye contact. Be yourself because any women can see through a phony within 15 minutes. If you date a gal for more than 6 months, you better start thinking about the future. If there is no future, let her know. Friends with benefits are very hard to come by, so don’t fool yourselves. And never never brag to any one about whom you had sex with. Be generous, watch your manners, don’t lie, and never say anything bad about any women. Try to marry smart, don’t worry about marry rich (if your spouse is rich, great). If you marry smart, your wealth will build over time. Remember, White, Asian, Black, its all good. Now if you do marry outside your race, of course there will be culture differences, but eventually you and your adopted family will get used to each other. Speaking of that, be nice to your in-laws. You need them more than they need you, espcially when you have children. Now on a side note on why you see many Asian women date white guys, I am glad they do. Why? I don’t think its due to Asian boys are shy. All the Asian boys I know are horny bastards, why do you think China has so many people? I believe the reason is that I simply do not know many unmarried Asian boys. I could be wrong, may be there are more Asian girls then Asian boys in our culture (get off the China one baby social issues okay, give me a break), just that all the single Asian boys I grew up with were married before I did. Again, I could be wrong, each to its own. So basically, that is about it, good luck to you.
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i have been enjoying all of these comments very much!
there are many reasons why AM/WF might date or not, but i think stereotypes (either true or false) really do affect peoples’ choices to date or not. one thing many people are not mentioning (for me at least)is looks- i find many “stereotypical” attributes of asian men *so* attractive! the thick, straight black hair, the smooth and darker-than-mine skin, little or no hair over the chest, back (ugh!) or legs, those awesome eyes- absolutely attractive! you can’t deny it is often looks that attract a person to you in the first place! i am short anyhow (5’3″), so even a man only 1-2 inches taller than me is aok!
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Andrew:
“Kudos to the dude that blogged this.
But you’re ‘hypothesis’ as to why Asian men seek white chicks, are so bullshit.
I’m an Australian born Asian, but I’m barely Asian at all – Slim but very toned and muscular, extremely sport, not a nerd – hate math but I’m in the top English class haha – I don’t limit myself to the Asian cuisine although I love it and I have quite big eyes.”
LOL. Top English class yet you f*** up “YOUR hypothesis” with “you’re”? Bullshit.
Grow the f*** up. You’re just furthering the stereotype by thinking that you’re NOT Asian because you’re this or that. Be proud of what you are, not what society thinks of you.
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One of the best example of how media playing/influencing/supporting over only one kind of interracial relationship/dating (WM&AF) is BofA Amex card ad (x2 point). If you have a chance to look the commercial you will see the 40+ WM (with white collar job & MB car) dating a young AF (in the middle 20′s). The irony here is that this ad runs over here at SoCal for only Asian audience and not for everyone else… In conclusion, I hope you can see how American society is continuously using the mass-media persuading a crafty subliminal message to young Asian female audiences.
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There is no such thing as objective beauty scientifically speaking. It is all association based on personal experience and cultural indoctrination. All races of women are equally attractive. I think it is more of a psychological reason why Asian men go after white women. Like I have posted before, Asian women have made up this weird hierarchy of which they judge all men by especially Asian men. Again, the five biggest turnoffs in order of the biggest turnoff first for ALL women according to studies is:
1.Overweight
2.Short
3.Bald
4.Ugliness that isn’t covered in one through three.
5.Stupidity.
Overweight Asian men are rare and they are getting taller and taller and few are very bald or ugly and most are not stupid.
So Asian women have made a stricter criteria for judging Asian men. Money is first but clothing, popularity, ability to move higher in a good job position, and confidence and smoothness in talking to women and of course age.
This is really hard criteria for Asian men to live up to for the vast majority of criteria. However, white men aren’t as fussy and as long as the Asian men don’t fit into those criteria of five things that all women dislike in a man, they find Asian men attractive. So it is much easier for Asian men to date white women and much less stressful without all the extra baggage that many Asian women bring with their additional criteria. So wouldn’t you go for a race that generally isn’t as hard on you and more accepting of you as a person without a lot of hassle. That is just natural. So I don’t blame Asian men a bit having dated five different Asian women myself and being cheated on by them and dumped for someone better looking and/or richer. So like I said, I totally sympathize with Asian men and their going after white women.
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One thing I would like to dispel is the stereotype of the submissive Asian woman. The only thing that can make an Asian woman submissive is they are poor and they are marrying a white guy who has lots and lots of money. I saw trophy wives that were Asian and ran around in Asian clothes with chopsticks in their hair and waited on their husbands and their husbands clients hand and foot. The men were loaded millionaires and the Asian women knew which side of the bread was buttered on, lets say. Now if you are a poorer white guy like me, Asian women will boss the hell out of you and be very dominant and disruptive and willful. That is one of the reasons they go for poorer white guys sometimes because Asian men wouldn’t but up with the crap that Asian women put out. They would backhand them if they talked back to them too much and everyone in the community would turn a blind eye to it so they are only submissive to other Asian men. So the stereotype of Asian men being effeminate is false to. They are usually just more conservative with their emotions and more graceful in their motions which doesn’t make them more effeminate. And shorter? Asian guys are getting taller and taller especially the ones in America as their parents are trying hard to make sure they get proper protein in their nutrition and pushing drink more milk as a child. I walked into a Starbucks and saw a 6 foot ten Asian guy with dyed blond hair who startled me because he was so tall!! It was an all Asian area and all the guys were as tall as their American counterparts. So the Asian guys that grow up in America even if they still retain their Asian heritage are getting taller and taller and so are the women!! I saw a teenage basketball player who was 16, thin but easily 6 two. So all Asian are getting taller so you can’t stereotype them either as being shorter. So things are changing and like I said, many strong willed Asian women that are Americanized are attracted to white guys because they don’t feel the need to be submissive to them especially if they figure out that you won’t hit them when they act out. I am a big strong guy and could have easily physically taken on any of my Asian female girlfriends but all five of them dominated me way too much and knew i would not hit them no matter how much they cheated or what they did to me. I personally think that most American women of any race that have a cocky domineering attitude should be sent to live among Muslims in the Middle East for awhile and see how lucky they have it here and how well they are treated here by American Men!!;-)
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Very interesting comments indeed.
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My friends who are Korean now only date white men which is wierd. Its not as if they grew up in the US…they lived in Korea until their 20′s but as soon as they landed in the US. So what has changed??? Asian men werent good enough for them anymore??
Alot of other “theories” is that Asian women (and men) try to get rid of thoe features that I think make them veyr beautiful such as their smal eyes, etc. wHY CANT WE JUST BE HAPPY THE WAY WE ARE! What has this world become lol!
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That is odd because all the Koreans I know were the biggest into racial purity and only dating other Koreans. Maybe that thought leaves them when they get to the United States. Also, Korean men in Korea or that are still Korean acting over here still won’t stand any back talk or obnoxiousness from the Korean women and are quick to back hand them if they step out of line and the Korean community turns their heads the other way about it. It is common for Korean men to beat their wives. But if the women leave Korea soon enough, they may escape the indoctrination of racial purity and go for a white men that will end up being submissive to THEM in the end and give them the material possessions they desire because the Korean culture is very materialistic as a whole. And as far as wanting to get rid of their small eyes, that is the number one operation that Koreans have here and in Korea which is the removal of their eye folds to make their eyes bigger. The second of course is breast enlargement. One of the Koreans I dated had the surgery done before I met her and I didn’t find her attractive over the other two Koreans who didn’t have it done. I actually thought the one with the narrowest eyes had the prettiest face but that was my preference. So if they date white guys, the odds are low they will get beat for acting out and being selfish and rude than they will if they marry a Korean guy and the Korean guys expect them to be submissive. The last one I dated was like Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde!! When she was around me, she would curse and swear and be as mean as anything but when she was around her Father and her stepmother, she was all submissive acting towards all the relatives(especially the male ones including cousins) and her step mother was very submissive acting too. Although she still ignored me and was rude to me but in a more subtle way. Fortunately her grandmother really liked me and scolded her to take care of me like the rest of the men when we were eating.;-) Women that stay in Korea longer I think still want Korean guys once they come to the United States but get them away from Korea long enough and they can see the benefits of escaping Korean men. Not all Korean men are this way but the vast majority are. One of my best friends was a Korean man who had his family over and his English was terrible but we had a deep bond because he was a very honorable man. And the sad part is that his wife who was in her thirties, came over and then divorced him and left their teenage daughter here and went back to Korea. He treated her like gold but she didn’t want to learn English and preferred Korea. That was her loss because he was a rare find as far as any man went and was very gentle and loving towards his wife and daughter and he never laid a finger on them no matter how bad the wife acted. The daughter was a gem so he really never needed to punish her. Maybe the wife though that a real man would hit her from time to time and that was also why she needed to go back to Korea to find a more traditional Korean man. Don’t know but I a against the eye surgery big time and think they look find the way they are.
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^^^^ what joselph moyer is saying about Korean Males beating Korean Females is beyond false and bullshit!! Majority of Krn Males do NOT beat Krn Females. dont know where you got that false, retarded idea from. get yo facts straight!
it’s people like you in this world that make other people look like shit based on false facts, biases, perceptions, stereotypes, racism, prejudices, etc. all that fuckin bs in the world.
i would know that, what you said about Korean Males is dead wrong. You sir, sure is wrong from the get go. Krns, non-krns, non-asians [regardless of age or gender] would agree that your statements are friggin horseshit. dont be so gullible on things you might hear man.
I have a well educated background in Korean history/culture/traditions and shit like that did not exist nor does it today. Of course there are those that do beat females but majority of Korean Males in Korea do not such unspeakable acts. Korean Men are way beyond opposite of what you think they did or do. Think Again!
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why so much emphasis on the supposed “common trends” that is how stereotypes get started. I say, anything goes. Anyone can and will hook up with anyone. Color outside the lines folks!
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I think emphasis should be placed on statistical data so we know what is happening sociologically and psychologically with interracial Asian couples. These studies are complex and not to be taken lightly. They give us insight into how people react and think and can guide us to better ways of thinking if we want to avoid the negative statistics of situations. Stereotypes don’t get started by statistics. Statistics study the way things are and if anything they help to dispel stereotypes.
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I agree with you that anyone will “hook up” with anyone because hook up is defined as getting together for the eventual purpose of sex. So I agree that horniness knows no racial boundaries and anyone with have sex with anyone regardless of race if they find them attractive enough. So you are indeed right in yor statement that anyone will hook up with anyone. But not all of us are here to hook up with people but are looking for knowledge on cultural differences and statistical analysis of the way people interact and marry especially inter-racially. Some of us are extremely fussy about whom we get close to and associate with let alone hook up with which I am personally opposed to as a marriage counselor, before marriage. It leads to too many problems.
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A lot of Asian men are less likely to produce unstable families in my opinion. Doctors, Engineers, Master’s degreed computer professionals. This is the yearning and appeal of Asian men.
We spend money on public education but all the while are putting our boys into environments that diminish their potential.
Asians seem to be able to isolate most boys from the bad that diminishes from the potential of the young men to become productive and impressive.
That is and should be appealing to any woman.
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Can anyone give a deep reason why this phenomena is increasing? I would like to hear from couples that are in this kind of relationship and hear their thoughts on the matter. Actually this is one of the few topics that I can comment on because five out of my six serious relationships were with Asians. I think they went for me because I took the time to listen to them and take them seriously and they knew I would protect them and never hit them. Plus I was always faithful to them and they liked that. So I guess they must have thought I was different in a positive way from other races for some reason because they sure weren’t with me for my looks or money!! Understanding and patience and faithfulness can go a long way to attract some women plus I loved each one I was with very deeply in a spiritual way as well so they always felt loved. They felt very secure with me as a partner and they know if I would have married them, I would have always been faithful and never divorced them but always worked things out. That could be it. Any thoughts because they could have done a lot better in finding someone better looking with more money because they all were very pretty!!
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