Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug 07

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   Mwaluke says:
    Posted: 08 Aug

    I feel its individual taste so its not a crime to love...no matter how bad tempered somenoe can be,give them love and you will see a smile.Love has no boundaries be it white black green...LOVE has no colour.that's my opinion

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  2.   Brenad says:
    Posted: 29 Jul

    seeing a white guy dating a black lady is a nice sight to see.... and it still happens because love goes where love is.:)

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  3.   MissTexas01 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul

    I live in the south. I can tell you that white men definitely like black women. I catch them staring all the time. Not as many approach. It wasn't until I watched another one of your vlogs about the differences in how white men show interest vs what we are use to. I never knew there was a difference and I had to giggle a bit at all the subtle clues I had missed throughout the years. I digress. My hang up has not been if a white guy is interested but why. For a while I had unfair expectations of them. It was ok for a black guy to express sexual interest and desires but when I was on a date with a white guy and he did it I dismissed him. My reasoning was all he wanted was sex. The truth is when you are sexy a man can't help but have sexual desires for you. If they are heterosexual than endless walks on the beach, reading poetry, fixing things around the house, being Mr fix it is fueled by their desire not just bc they like holding hands. The article mentioned either being conservative or being a slut. There are many options in between. Most black women are not the twerking half naked rap video types. Well at least not in public. If you show that you are genuine and sincere you will be surprised at what the most conservative of black women will be towards you.

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    • mibu says:
      Posted: 29 Jul

      Miss Texas. I think a lot of white guys feel they can be themselves around black women.one reason being black women don't expect that a white guy might be interested in them as much so they don't have to be nervous around black women. That takes a lot of pressure off a guy. I have felt that way in the past. When I can be myself around women . They are friendlier towards me.

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  4.   Odiri23 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul

    My Preference has always been a white man I just love how they treat black women but you can't tell if they like black girl and I am scared to approach them. But I am on here to see if I can find my special guy.

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  5. Posted: 22 Jul

    I really admire the white men who love their Chocolate. Y'all are the best! :)

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  6. Posted: 21 Jul

    My view black women are the most natural forms of beauty

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  7.   ruforme_ says:
    Posted: 09 Jul

    I have always been open to dating all races and shades, its seems in American more black men seriously date and or marry white women, than white men doing the same with black women, black ladies be patient. I've had two amazing white boyfriends. Most people LOVE chocolate world-wide, so why not sweets in human form :-)

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  8.   mibu says:
    Posted: 03 Jul

    Black women have always been friendlier to me than any other women. As the saying goes, people like people that like them.to me it is like having a hamburger with nothing on it but a stale bun.then someone comes along and offers me one with lettuce tomatoes pickles ketchup onion mustard cheese and mushrooms. And I am like wow this is so much different than what I had before. Why would I go back to that plain burger. Different isn't stale.my apologies for using a hamburger to make my point.

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    • Evelyn7 says:
      Posted: 05 Oct

      Well I really enjoyed reading ur example that was nice. thankds for sharing..

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    • Evelyn7 says:
      Posted: 05 Oct

      I'm hoping and Praying to meet the Man who God has Just for me, I know that he is out there somewhere I Pray that he find's me more Sooner than Later?..Im tired of being Single...

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  9.   Boyo2 says:
    Posted: 01 Jul

    I never "decided" on dating white guys when I met my ex-. He just happened to be the nice guy that asked me out and boom I was in an interracial relationship. We went our separate ways on completely different grounds other than the dishonesty I previously suffered within my own race. I agree that all women are passionate about romance... and white guys bring that out well... Black guys are my brothers ;) no hard feelings... That's just as far as it goes, though... There is no way I am looking back.

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  10.   Sweet0909 says:
    Posted: 30 Jun

    I dated a white guy before and I was blown away, I was treated like a queen and I hope I can find my soulmate here.....send me an Instant Message .....

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  11. Posted: 25 Jun

    I've always grown up in predominantly white societies so I was always attracted to white men but I never had the confidence to approach them in any way besides a friendly manner, nor did they approach me. I don't see many black woman and white men it's definitely the other way around, but when I do see an interracial couple (black woman/white man) it is nice to see!

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  12. Posted: 23 Jun

    I have gone on "dates" with and had sex black women. Never had a real "romance" or relationship with one, until now. I am absolutely in love, in every way, shape, and form. I love EVERYTHING about her. I couldn't be happier, and would take nothing away. Do I believe she is with me BECAUSE i am white. No i think its just part of who I am. Do i love her dark skin? Yes. I love everything about her. I absolutely am proud to be with her, be together, and want to marry and have children. I have never been happier, or with a better woman. Ever.

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    • Evelyn7 says:
      Posted: 05 Oct

      Brian I am so happy for you Guy's it's also what I dream of and desire but for now I'm still single and waiting..Keep me in ur Prayer that God will bless me with the Mate that he has Just for me...Truly I am READY?.. You Guys be blessed and Be happy? Love is a Beautiful thing between two People...Keep other People out ur Relationship..

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  13.   PLEASURE55 says:
    Posted: 21 May

    I date white men because it's something different, not in a negative way. I was raised that the color of your skin is not the issue. I was raised I guess you could say color blind. I like getting treated good by men, treat me good and I will treat you good too. I have been dating white guys since 1976 and it's been all good met some good ones and some bad ones but I am still looking for that "Prince Charming" to come sweep me off my feet. Any takers???

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  14.   Nimssy says:
    Posted: 20 May

    I love white men cz they are real and knows a woman's worth,,anywan here 4me??

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  15. Posted: 16 May

    Just signed up on this site not sure what to expect, but hoping to connect with someone who will compliment me inside and out. Not just into experimenting with me because of the color of my skin!

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  16.   coolestyet says:
    Posted: 16 May

    I LOVE BLACK WOMEN ,,BECAUSE SOME ARE SO PASSIONATE ABOUT ROMANCE ,,

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  17.   careen2 says:
    Posted: 12 May

    love is not abt colour t is abt heart apart from our beautful

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  18.   Geetih says:
    Posted: 12 May

    I am also waiting for my kind of man ....am waiting...

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  19. Posted: 12 May

    Me personally God made everybody equal first and He gave us all a choice in life but then you have the people that are clueless some people don't deserve to have a choice because they lack common since they think because of a color there better than others anyway I choose to date black women because im attracted to black women they are beautiful and nobody needs to be ashamed of color because of others lack of integrity. But in all races theres beauty but true beauty to me comes from selflessness and through the regeneration of the Spirit of Christ and being transformed rather than conformed to this world..Having a loving and forgiving attitude

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  20.   lil1994 says:
    Posted: 06 May

    Really just joined the site but I love the lines here black women rock Mwwaahh.

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  21.   roostergod says:
    Posted: 04 May

    I dont know bout others but for me a black woman is so damn beautiful. It has nothing to do with stereotypes or dumb racist stuff. I dont care about color and/or race. Hell if you known my families back story u would understand me. But either way a black woman just screams beauty. Now I just gotta find me one ;)

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    • mf40 says:
      Posted: 21 May

      U could not of sad it Better roostergod,loving this :)

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    • Evelyn7 says:
      Posted: 05 Oct

      Yea I agree, I really enjoyed reading his comments it was uplifting to the heart and mind thanks for sharing...

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  22.   SamboRambo says:
    Posted: 23 Apr

    For me, black women are very physically attractive. The lips, the curves, the hair, the SKIN! C'mon, who wouldn't be into that? But probably much more important than that is they tend to be so REAL about stuff, you know? I mean if they like you they like you for real, and if they don't then they don't and they will let you know. And most of the black women I've seen on here are very religious, which is important to me. So that's my two cents...

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    • mf40 says:
      Posted: 21 May

      So true!!!

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    • dearmelony20 says:
      Posted: 14 Jun

      black women come from very good home backgrounds and they got good home training. thats the reason they are so religious and not only that they believe in respect, love, kindness, care....

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    • EbonyRia says:
      Posted: 21 Jul

      well said

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  23.   Fayie101 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr

    having dated black guys and every time seeing the drama they bring, heartbreaks, lying/cheating etc... thinking i will now date white guys. a friend told me they are good, why not give it a try.

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  24.   dazzler89 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr

    I am a white guy and have only ever dated Black women since I was a teen even when I was younger I only fancied black girls I wont ever change, I feel they are loyal, and so beautiful beyond words and those lips are to die for....

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  25. Posted: 17 Apr

    I just look forward to my first date with someone outside of my race. It wasnt on purpose that I have never dated outside the box I was never asked seriously. And when someone asked my number I said yes and still no call. So still waiting.

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  26.   vanilacoco1 says:
    Posted: 03 Apr

    black women are amazing women

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  27. Posted: 25 Mar

    I am interested in dating/marrying the perfect man for me. If I limit myself to one race, be it mine or any, I feel as though I cut my chances of meeting him, drastically! I am a true Christian, which means I love all people, period. I am hopeful & excited, even though I haven't had any connections on this site, since Ive been a member here....

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  28.   chanice56 says:
    Posted: 09 Mar

    I'm a 21 year old black female and although I am young I've always been attracted to every race. Unfortunately, every race wasn't attracted to me. As I got older and dating I only stayed in my race. EVERY single guy I dated just about cheated on me, I never was treated with respect and for I don't know what reason. Most guys didn't understand how education was important to me and how my parents pressured me to get an education. Rather than partying I was always doing homework. I got tired of the heartbreaks and decided to stop going after the common denominator SO I switched it up. The first white guy I dated came to my house to pick me up and go to the movies. I didn't go on an actual date until this guy came along. (I was 20 at the time) It was always "so when we gonna chill" "or "so when you gonna come see me?" In my generation this means nothing but sex in other words. I can remember when he came to pick me up my mom was looking out the curtain screaming "OOOO, he got a little limp in his step!" Which he did, but it was cute. We went out to dinner after the movies and I got back home in decent time. He didn't try any funny business, I didn't even kiss him on the first date. The next day he sent me flowers and a cute card that I still have till this day. After that it set the bar for me. We were together for a while, but I transferred to a different college and he went off into the military. I do have a boyfriend now though and he is also white. I get treated so much better. I don't believe the all black men are bad, just the ones I've dated made me not want to try anymore. In high school nowadays they think they're too good for black girls and just go for the mixed girls or white girls. No offense they're beautiful too. I just don't like being voted out because of the color of my skin. Trust me my confidence is high and mighty. I will walk around and think I am the finest thing on earth :)

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  29.   lkn4real says:
    Posted: 20 Feb

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,stereo types discrimination is a thought process of a week and cowerdly mind there is no supreme race what there is,is human beings i my self have never seen a black person ive seen tan people first and foremost lets be honest black no brown yes,ebony women are with out a doubt some of the most exotic women to walk this earth i myself only date ebony women and am proud of it ever scince i can remember have been atracted to ebony women guess its in my blood

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  30. Posted: 18 Feb

    It's now really evident that my reasons and strong attraction to Black women aren't exclusively mine.

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  31.   Msrenea7 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb

    I am glad to see the lines of color being erased when it comes to finding someone who essentially respects and loves you for who you are, but I think this can go either way when it comes to relationships. It isn't just a black and white world. Relationships come in all different ways now a days. Our differences is truly what makes interracial dating so great and it is the reason why it is becoming an even more common practice.

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  32.   sunshinetam says:
    Posted: 09 Feb

    Love this! but haven't had much luck so far :-P

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    • Neasie says:
      Posted: 22 Mar

      I also have a real appreciation for this article. I read another article that specifically said that Black women were not only unattractive to White men but were considered the most unattractive women of all other races. Being very attracted to white men I was very disgusted that particular person's opinion.

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      • mibu says:
        Posted: 03 Jul

        There are quite a few white guys who wouldn't have a problem having sex with a black woman. But if they see a white guy in a serious relationship with a black woman they will tell them they are wrong for that. I had that presented to me personally. That really makes me mad.

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  33.   newyorkBLU says:
    Posted: 02 Feb

    When I first got to high school in 67 it was an urban school. I attended all-white schools since Kindergarten, but everyone went there for high school. It was 60/40 black/white. I was a shy kid and struck out with white girls - most of whom weren't very nice to me (it was the sixties and if you weren't in with the cool crowd you were kept outside. The first girl to ever pay attention to me, and flirted with me was black. I think I was 14 or 15, and she was very nice, and made me feel worthwhile - I mean she thought I was good looking and talked to me as if I had value as a human being - no white girl ever talked to me like that. I wish I had the courage then to ask her out (as I said I was shy and I didn't have the wherewithal to buck societal prejudices and my family then (OK I was a coward) - both of which I regret very much today). It took me a few years to work up to dating black women (by the time I reached my early twenties I was fearless), and for me it always was a far better experience than the white women I dated or was in relationships with over the years - acceptance of me, no judgements, a willingness to share interests. Love is love; I just know for me I want to find my soul mate and I want her to be black. I'm not sure if I explained this well at all but I felt the need to say something. I hope everyone here meets their true love.

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    • tweet4choco says:
      Posted: 27 Feb

      Well explained newyorkBLU, you will find your nubian queen! No worries Mr. fine you know what you want now go get it! Love is love no doubt!

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  34.   Tshepie.t says:
    Posted: 17 Jan

    love has no colour we jst found our self loving white its not a crime bt sweet white man r loving nd caring unlike black

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  35.   WM4Ebony says:
    Posted: 14 Jan

    The confidence with which they walk, The manner in which they talk, Could it be the sway of the hips? Or the lushness of their lips, Maybe it's the beauty of their hair, or the mahogany skin when bear, I do luv the lack of inhibition, when they love without condition, Or when the music makes them move, With that incredible sensual groove, Or maybe it's that magnetic pull, As my defenses begin to lull, As they put my concerns to rest, Making my comfort level at it's best, These are some traits all but few, The black woman I give their do, As the most beautiful woman on earth, That one day will give my life rebirth,

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  36.   littlec says:
    Posted: 11 Jan

    I found my self one day hanging with a guy friend from high school who was white and we got to know each ohther from that day on I found myself attractive to white men and I never looked back . I ve in love with white men ever sense

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  37.   Njagi56 says:
    Posted: 07 Jan

    Me too i love white men who is ready to love care and understands me.i realy waiting and wishing that i will find one.am absolutely sure about that that someday will come.

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    • Nimssy says:
      Posted: 20 May

      Me too i love to one day date a white guy coz they are romantic and knows a womans worth,,jst tired of blak men and al their drama nd cheating.!

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  38.   duchess02 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan

    Just do what ever your desires because love is blind xoxo..

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  39. Posted: 24 Dec 13

    I so LOVE reading and viewing this insightful information. It's also great to learn that men of other races do not just see Black women as sex objects that satisfy their curiosity. Thanks. Please continue.

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    • Toy83a says:
      Posted: 07 Jan

      I agree Brenda. I think you should like someone because you are attracted to their personality as well as their looks. Don't just like someone out of curiousity, like testing relationship as a fad. Like someone for his or her true self, while having genuine feelings. I can't stand when a man has to use stereotypical words to express his desire for a woman like, "wanting to taste your chocolate". Really, is that all you want, lol. Some may say nubian or ebony queen is offensive, but I would rather you just say, I like you for you, no background qualities having to be directly affliated. You may want to be called the "italian stallion" but if you are the person I am interested in, you would just be my boo. Thanks for addressing this in your comment.

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  40.   RT345HEMI says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 13

    I absolutely love black women they are so sensual and loving. Also I can't deny my weakness for their curves. Just wish I could find one to call my own :( no luck on this site yet.

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    • alligurl says:
      Posted: 09 Jan

      have u been seriously looking? because we are everywhere

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  41.   suzyme says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 13

    I have always admired white men and i do believe that there is a difference between them and black men. I have never dated one but its my desire to have one whom i will grow old with.

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  42.   Julyn says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 13

    love is love... interacial or not.

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  43.   AJ1300 says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 13

    What I have observed from all these posts above is that (everybody has their own preferences) there is no best race not best women or men each and every one of us are perfect according to our personal needs/wants preferences.

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  44. Posted: 21 Nov 13

    Because we know how to take Care of our man smile

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  45.   Jay22575 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 13

    I really love white men because they always stand out.

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  46.   azhusker74 says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 13

    I am also on the dating scene looking for a beautiful black woman

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  47. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    I have been dating white men, but have not met the right one. I will not give up.

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  48. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    I have been dating white men, and I have yet to meet the right one. Hopefully soon.

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  49.   shantF says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 13

    Any white guy left here that's loving and caring and want a real jamaican girl?

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  50.   EuroSWM4SBF says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 13

    Why do I love black women and have I dated them exclusively and preferentially since 1996? Because they are the most beautiful women on the planet. Because they are fierce in spirit and don't take any cr@p from silly people. Because they make themselves super presentable no matter where they go. Because they know what they want and how to get it. Because they succeed in life having faced more discrimination and obstacles than anyone can ever imagine, from white AND black people and from men.... And with regard to the staring issue I know I look like a neo nazi and that freaks out a lot of white folks seeing me with a beautiful black woman. That is a problem only to those with myopic worldviews. Like my 86 year old Dutch momma used to say "if people stare at you you must be very interesting". and the last reason I love black women would be my beautiful multi ethnic son that I love to death. The human gene pool must be stirred from time to time....and some of the most beautiful and talented children are the result of this. It's natural. it's right. And the time to date more multi ethnically is now. Don't let society brainwash you that men prefer blonds. Real men prefer black women.

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