Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug 07

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1. Posted: 1 day ago

    I just look forward to my first date with someone outside of my race. It wasnt on purpose that I have never dated outside the box I was never asked seriously. And when someone asked my number I said yes and still no call. So still waiting.

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  2.   vanilacoco1 says:
    Posted: 03 Apr

    black women are amazing women

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  3. Posted: 25 Mar

    I am interested in dating/marrying the perfect man for me. If I limit myself to one race, be it mine or any, I feel as though I cut my chances of meeting him, drastically! I am a true Christian, which means I love all people, period. I am hopeful & excited, even though I haven't had any connections on this site, since Ive been a member here....

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  4.   chanice56 says:
    Posted: 09 Mar

    I'm a 21 year old black female and although I am young I've always been attracted to every race. Unfortunately, every race wasn't attracted to me. As I got older and dating I only stayed in my race. EVERY single guy I dated just about cheated on me, I never was treated with respect and for I don't know what reason. Most guys didn't understand how education was important to me and how my parents pressured me to get an education. Rather than partying I was always doing homework. I got tired of the heartbreaks and decided to stop going after the common denominator SO I switched it up. The first white guy I dated came to my house to pick me up and go to the movies. I didn't go on an actual date until this guy came along. (I was 20 at the time) It was always "so when we gonna chill" "or "so when you gonna come see me?" In my generation this means nothing but sex in other words. I can remember when he came to pick me up my mom was looking out the curtain screaming "OOOO, he got a little limp in his step!" Which he did, but it was cute. We went out to dinner after the movies and I got back home in decent time. He didn't try any funny business, I didn't even kiss him on the first date. The next day he sent me flowers and a cute card that I still have till this day. After that it set the bar for me. We were together for a while, but I transferred to a different college and he went off into the military. I do have a boyfriend now though and he is also white. I get treated so much better. I don't believe the all black men are bad, just the ones I've dated made me not want to try anymore. In high school nowadays they think they're too good for black girls and just go for the mixed girls or white girls. No offense they're beautiful too. I just don't like being voted out because of the color of my skin. Trust me my confidence is high and mighty. I will walk around and think I am the finest thing on earth :)

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  5.   lkn4real says:
    Posted: 20 Feb

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,stereo types discrimination is a thought process of a week and cowerdly mind there is no supreme race what there is,is human beings i my self have never seen a black person ive seen tan people first and foremost lets be honest black no brown yes,ebony women are with out a doubt some of the most exotic women to walk this earth i myself only date ebony women and am proud of it ever scince i can remember have been atracted to ebony women guess its in my blood

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    • african48 says:
      Posted: 24 Feb

      Awesome..me been a black woman, i only date wh white men and loving it.

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  6. Posted: 18 Feb

    It's now really evident that my reasons and strong attraction to Black women aren't exclusively mine.

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  7.   Msrenea7 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb

    I am glad to see the lines of color being erased when it comes to finding someone who essentially respects and loves you for who you are, but I think this can go either way when it comes to relationships. It isn't just a black and white world. Relationships come in all different ways now a days. Our differences is truly what makes interracial dating so great and it is the reason why it is becoming an even more common practice.

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  8.   sunshinetam says:
    Posted: 09 Feb

    Love this! but haven't had much luck so far :-P

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    • Neasie says:
      Posted: 22 Mar

      I also have a real appreciation for this article. I read another article that specifically said that Black women were not only unattractive to White men but were considered the most unattractive women of all other races. Being very attracted to white men I was very disgusted that particular person's opinion.

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  9.   newyorkBLU says:
    Posted: 02 Feb

    When I first got to high school in 67 it was an urban school. I attended all-white schools since Kindergarten, but everyone went there for high school. It was 60/40 black/white. I was a shy kid and struck out with white girls - most of whom weren't very nice to me (it was the sixties and if you weren't in with the cool crowd you were kept outside. The first girl to ever pay attention to me, and flirted with me was black. I think I was 14 or 15, and she was very nice, and made me feel worthwhile - I mean she thought I was good looking and talked to me as if I had value as a human being - no white girl ever talked to me like that. I wish I had the courage then to ask her out (as I said I was shy and I didn't have the wherewithal to buck societal prejudices and my family then (OK I was a coward) - both of which I regret very much today). It took me a few years to work up to dating black women (by the time I reached my early twenties I was fearless), and for me it always was a far better experience than the white women I dated or was in relationships with over the years - acceptance of me, no judgements, a willingness to share interests. Love is love; I just know for me I want to find my soul mate and I want her to be black. I'm not sure if I explained this well at all but I felt the need to say something. I hope everyone here meets their true love.

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    • tweet4choco says:
      Posted: 27 Feb

      Well explained newyorkBLU, you will find your nubian queen! No worries Mr. fine you know what you want now go get it! Love is love no doubt!

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  10.   Tshepie.t says:
    Posted: 17 Jan

    love has no colour we jst found our self loving white its not a crime bt sweet white man r loving nd caring unlike black

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  11.   WM4Ebony says:
    Posted: 14 Jan

    The confidence with which they walk, The manner in which they talk, Could it be the sway of the hips? Or the lushness of their lips, Maybe it's the beauty of their hair, or the mahogany skin when bear, I do luv the lack of inhibition, when they love without condition, Or when the music makes them move, With that incredible sensual groove, Or maybe it's that magnetic pull, As my defenses begin to lull, As they put my concerns to rest, Making my comfort level at it's best, These are some traits all but few, The black woman I give their do, As the most beautiful woman on earth, That one day will give my life rebirth,

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  12.   littlec says:
    Posted: 11 Jan

    I found my self one day hanging with a guy friend from high school who was white and we got to know each ohther from that day on I found myself attractive to white men and I never looked back . I ve in love with white men ever sense

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  13.   Njagi56 says:
    Posted: 07 Jan

    Me too i love white men who is ready to love care and understands me.i realy waiting and wishing that i will find one.am absolutely sure about that that someday will come.

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  14.   duchess02 says:
    Posted: 06 Jan

    Just do what ever your desires because love is blind xoxo..

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  15. Posted: 24 Dec 13

    I so LOVE reading and viewing this insightful information. It's also great to learn that men of other races do not just see Black women as sex objects that satisfy their curiosity. Thanks. Please continue.

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    • Toy83a says:
      Posted: 07 Jan

      I agree Brenda. I think you should like someone because you are attracted to their personality as well as their looks. Don't just like someone out of curiousity, like testing relationship as a fad. Like someone for his or her true self, while having genuine feelings. I can't stand when a man has to use stereotypical words to express his desire for a woman like, "wanting to taste your chocolate". Really, is that all you want, lol. Some may say nubian or ebony queen is offensive, but I would rather you just say, I like you for you, no background qualities having to be directly affliated. You may want to be called the "italian stallion" but if you are the person I am interested in, you would just be my boo. Thanks for addressing this in your comment.

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  16.   RT345HEMI says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 13

    I absolutely love black women they are so sensual and loving. Also I can't deny my weakness for their curves. Just wish I could find one to call my own :( no luck on this site yet.

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    • alligurl says:
      Posted: 09 Jan

      have u been seriously looking? because we are everywhere

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  17.   suzyme says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 13

    I have always admired white men and i do believe that there is a difference between them and black men. I have never dated one but its my desire to have one whom i will grow old with.

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  18.   Julyn says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 13

    love is love... interacial or not.

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  19.   AJ1300 says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 13

    What I have observed from all these posts above is that (everybody has their own preferences) there is no best race not best women or men each and every one of us are perfect according to our personal needs/wants preferences.

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  20. Posted: 21 Nov 13

    Because we know how to take Care of our man smile

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  21.   Jay22575 says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 13

    I really love white men because they always stand out.

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  22.   azhusker74 says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 13

    I am also on the dating scene looking for a beautiful black woman

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  23. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    I have been dating white men, but have not met the right one. I will not give up.

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  24. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    I have been dating white men, and I have yet to meet the right one. Hopefully soon.

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  25.   shantF says:
    Posted: 03 Nov 13

    Any white guy left here that's loving and caring and want a real jamaican girl?

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  26.   EuroSWM4SBF says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 13

    Why do I love black women and have I dated them exclusively and preferentially since 1996? Because they are the most beautiful women on the planet. Because they are fierce in spirit and don't take any cr@p from silly people. Because they make themselves super presentable no matter where they go. Because they know what they want and how to get it. Because they succeed in life having faced more discrimination and obstacles than anyone can ever imagine, from white AND black people and from men.... And with regard to the staring issue I know I look like a neo nazi and that freaks out a lot of white folks seeing me with a beautiful black woman. That is a problem only to those with myopic worldviews. Like my 86 year old Dutch momma used to say "if people stare at you you must be very interesting". and the last reason I love black women would be my beautiful multi ethnic son that I love to death. The human gene pool must be stirred from time to time....and some of the most beautiful and talented children are the result of this. It's natural. it's right. And the time to date more multi ethnically is now. Don't let society brainwash you that men prefer blonds. Real men prefer black women.

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  27.   statician says:
    Posted: 14 Oct 13

    Any real white man left here?

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  28.   J77P says:
    Posted: 13 Oct 13

    Not to offend any other race of women on this site but I personally find black women to be the ultimate women. My love for black women is equal to my love for the air I breathe. Black women are truly a gift from God and I can only see myself with a black woman. It doesn't matter if she is thick or skinny, its like I'm just hypnotized by them and I see them as the ultimate beauty. Black women are beautiful, Amen!

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  29.   freebird58 says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 13

    why must these always be about black women, there are other races out here in this world, but everything is centered on black women, these women are perfectly normal and deserve the same love as any other woman seeks, I am a white man and myself I find black women attractive, and go out with them for the right reasons and not as a trophy or mantel piece but as a human being these ladies deserve more credit or respect then their given, all I see is what the black women have done or did what about all the other races of women who have done the same not a darn thing said about that, I can see where most this comes from and it comes from haters that need to mind their own business, and it will be a cold day in hell when someone tells me who I can date, I am a white man and I love black women and be just as proud to be with her as much as any other woman, to all the black ladies out here you have all my respect

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  30.   Brownb09 says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 13

    Nothing new to me:-) just got back on the dating scene again. I'm optimistic:)

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  31.   karen2.0 says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 13

    hope i can find mine......and wish pipo cld stop jagin a person by da colour v der skin

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  32.   statician says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 13

    I love white men i wish they were many in my country who wants to date black gals.I want to find a honest white man to love and cherish.I have more love to give to a serious white man.Any one real?

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    • Kute4archer says:
      Posted: 28 Dec 13

      I worry because there are next to no Caucasian men available in my country...I'm on the dating sites and those who have written only comment on my appearance and what they want to do :O :(...Its disheartening and on top of that I have a child so I find myself feeling as though its a hopeless case... I thought my attraction was something "wrong" and I sat down and thought if I was attracted for any wrong reasons but as long as I can remember I've been attracted to Caucasian men...not that I haven't also been attracted to black/Asian/native American men... To end on a positive note: I'm glad for this site and openness about persons who are in some way or another just like me :D

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      • Toy83a says:
        Posted: 07 Jan

        Don't give up. You have to have morals and respect for yourself. You don't want to be with someone who is only attracted to you for the wrong reasons, as you pointed out. This is 2014, I hope more people look beyond superficial beliefs.

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  33.   cherykle says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 13

    I am believing God for my white man and i know it will happen soon. As they say, patience always pays

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    • yeshuas77 says:
      Posted: 01 Jan

      Im out here and I'm a Christian and I only date Black women.

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  34.   Broache1973 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 13

    I hope I can meet someone who want to go out with me on a date and who will treat me with dignity and respect, then we can enjoy each others company. I'm inspired by this and I'm going to be open to the advances to a non black man!

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    • chuni says:
      Posted: 16 Nov 13

      it could be easy if i asked why black women like white men

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  35.   delicious38 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 13

    I have always been open to interacial dating, especially with men, bring it on

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  36.   Fine4Fifty3 says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 13

    All new to me, open to change and hoping for a great connection

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  37.   wango83 says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 13

    I am looking for a white man and I HOPE I will get one here.

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  38.   jasmin3333 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 13

    once there is attraction and love colour wouldn't matter to me coz we are one in God and i pray i also be blessed one handsome !

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  39.   okimix says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 13

    black women = awesome

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    • Totor says:
      Posted: 03 Jan

      Yeah and proud to be blacks with dignity

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  40.   Luam56 says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 13

    I am sure I will find the love of my life one day. I am so greatfull for who I am.

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  41.   Luam56 says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 13

    I date a white guy most of the time and I would love to marry a white guy. what I fiound out through dating a white guy was they are respectful and nice personality.

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  42.   sxybrwnsuga says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 13

    Smart man.

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  43.   heartmylove says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 13

    A women is a women but myself i have always dated and prefer black women. My family know how i am and i dont have a self complex about it. As far as stares i never really notice because i dont look for it and always been with black women. i have been with a couple black women that had a self complex and were more concerned what other people thought. It is what it is but i do prefer a black women that has always dated white men!

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  44.   Shi76 says:
    Posted: 23 Aug 13

    Hi am proud to be black but i the real sense we all human beings regardless of our colour men will be men and women will be women what matter here is one's mind and behaviors, personality

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  45.   GuyllFyre says:
    Posted: 09 Aug 13

    I've dated black, white, mixed, and Hispanic. So far, women are women and men are men. Cultures differ but we're all looking for a connection that lasts, so I figure, why limit myself to one race, color, or creed. Quick factoid. The human race, no matter race, religion, color, or country of origin is 99.9% the same. 0.01% genetic difference. Other mammals have at least 1% difference. Our differences are so insignificant on the physical level. It's merely cultural. Me, I'm looking for my partner. Someone willing to help cut down trees, cut and chop wood, till the garden, mow the lawn, pull the weeds...I'm a country boy (not country music!) and am looking for that mate to help do the things together than make a house and yard a home and a welcoming place for friends and family.

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  46.   Abhanga says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 13

    I believe that black and white are just the colours of skin an its not a barrier for love.The beauty of black skin is as attractive as white skin..I don't know if all the readers know about certain communities in India called Dalits.Women from majority of these communities are black in colour, but are educationally qualified and financially sound.Some of the women like me face competitive examinations and get meritorious positions.like women from afro-american descent,these women also supports inter racial relations in marriage and love.so i strongly feel that white men-black women marriage should be encouraged as it brings out a new organised feeling of love and life!!!

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  47.   Kandy28 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 13

    love this blog post!!

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  48.   sandie69 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 13

    I believe that a person should be with the person that makes them happy and who treats them with respect and kindness, skin color shouldn't matter it, it's the inner being that counts. Life is too short and days aren't promised, so live life to the fullest and find the one that completes you. I have dated african american men all my dating life and sometimes white men and also hispanic, men are men andyet they are different and individual. "Would love to find my soulmate before my time on earth draws to a close." We shouldn't be scared to find love in other races, just open our hearts to love and the opportunity for happiness.

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  49.   tksai says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 13

    I was married for 29 years before the relationship was lost, I found this nice black girl who opened my heart mind and soul more than anyone else.. I could wake up next to her and get old forever.

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  50. Posted: 21 Jul 13

    White men dig deeper into my soul. I like when they interested in everything I do. It's nice when they are considerate and helpful. I can relate to black men on a different level but it's different with white men.

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    • Kandy28 says:
      Posted: 02 Aug 13

      This is so true!!!! I never thought that I would date a white man. But I am so happy that I met him. He has totally opened my eyes to a whole new world.

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