The other day, I google searched interracial sex… all I got was a massive array of porn sites (what was I expecting anyway?). Well I was hoping to get some insights on the above topic.
Have you ever had sex with someone outside your race? Would you be interested in having sex with someone of another race? Is interracial sex a taboo to you? This is a very controversial topic. “Why the hell would someone prefer to have interracial sex?᾿ most people may ask.
The truth of the matter is that the US is a culture obsessed with interracial sex – both positively and negatively. Going by the history of the slave era white people spoke with repulsion about interracial sex – even though many white men were constantly having sex with black women. In this “colorblind era᾿, people are still obsessed with interracial sex.
According to a poll done on the blog, majority (67%) of the people that participated in the poll said interracial sex is better than sex with someone within their own race and 15% said it wasn’t better. The rest either never had interracial sex or same race sex.
Adult sex dating among interracial singles is much in practice especially among liberal communities and long-term relationships or matrimony is quiet popular. With the internet being a general platform that brings all types of people, cultures and societies together, we need not emphasize the kind of catalyst it is for those interested in interracial dating and sex… it is a well-known fact.
Most people may decide to try out interracial sex just for the kick of it or out of curiosity. This has brought about statements like “once you go black you never go back᾿ among many others. Given the sexualization and stereotypes surrounding interracial sex, we find most people… especially in their teenage and college life engaging in interracial sex just to prove and disprove such statements.
Most people may not publicly say “interracial sex is: bizarre, disgusting, exciting, adventurous, morally repugnant,᾿ and so on. But when people get behind closed doors with their family and friends comments like “That black dude must have really been packing some heat below the belt. Why else would those white women be interested in him᾿ or “Only white women with no self esteem will get with a guy like that.᾿ When they go online to search for interracial porn, they are thinking it… and don’t get me started people expressing their thoughts with by leaving anonymous comments on blogs.
So what is wrong with enjoying sex with a person of other race?
For some reason, people think interracial sex is exotic and daring… especially when it involves Black men and white women and Asian women and white men. It’s almost like people believe that race is correlated with penis size and a person’s level of sexual desire. But are people who engage in interracial sex are deviant, rebellious, daring, gross, odd, oversexed, and ugly as most people believe?
If you’ve had interracial sex already, how good or bad were the encounters? Is it possible that they had everything to do with the guys’ or ladies’ performances, and not the person’s races?
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black men in general feel that women ought to be glad that they are with them and thus dont feel any need to be gentle or caring as they believe that they are the prize and that you should feel ‘lucky’ to be with them. There are way too many black men that are self centered. Who can you please and or make happy when it is always about you?
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I do not think only Black men feel a woman ought to be glad that they are with them. I think ALL men have that ego-driven delusion. Women need to take their weapons out and use it on them when they start to ego-trip and treat her like she is God’s gift to women.
Let him know that he “ain’t all that”, that men are a “dime-a-dozen” and he puts his pants on one leg at a time, just like any other man. In other words, do not feed that self-assuredness (if that’s a word). I have seen self-centered men of all colors, it does not just apply to Black men.
You just have to prepare yourself to be ready for them when they begin to treat you like you are lucky to be with them….kick their a@@ to the curb – AND MEAN IT (don’t take phone calls, don’t answer the door, no showing up at the job, etc.) !!!!! He will find out who the lucky one is soon enough!!!!
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P.S. This is not man-bashing, but unsolicited advice for being with (and letting go of) someone who is not treating you the way you deserve!
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I was married for 24 years to a white guy I am also white. For the last 4 years a dear friend now my boyfriend, my lover and my best friend kept telling me, I was worth more than the abuse I was getting at home. Finally he asked me out, just for a quiet dinner and nothing else. I asked for a divorce the next day. I dated him not because he is black, but because he saved me. He dates me because I am worth saving. We both agree that we have the best sex together. Were not sure if our race has anything to do with it. We just know that together we are happy. In April I was in a car accident my car rolled over on the highway and landed in a swamp. He called me about 30 seconds after the crash, he said he could feel I needed him. His car hit an elk on a highway last night about 11:00pm I wake up out of a sound sleep and called him. Sometimes you are connected by race, being phyically attracted to someone and sometimes you are connected with your soul.
Oh my god! That was awesome!That to me, is what would make “making love”(what I prefer to call it)great! That tells me color is irrelevant.It truly is about soul connection. That is what I want and nothing else!
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Damn, prettybrowneyes.
Just how many men have you been with? Yuck! Either that or you should listen to other types of music besides today’s rap music if you feel that way about “black men in general”. Let me tell you, when it comes to sex, men in general are just happy to be there. A man may act like he’s the funk, but when he’s turned down, he’s lying in bed beating himself to sleep like all the rest of us most nights. From now on, get your facts and assumptions straight.
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I am having sex with a product of Indian/ American descent and it is the most amazing sex I had. He is rather endowed. And so devoted. Too bad.
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I am a black woman met a much younger polish guy recently he is soooooo Hot, foreplay amazing, well endowed I have never had better sex all my life !My first boyfriend was the last blackman I was with, white men treat me like a queen and I can treat them like kings I guess on both sides the exotic factor is an attraction but then when spirits collide it takes it even further!
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i’ve had sex with two white men. one was well-endowed n one was quite small. but the sex was still amazing with both of them n the foreplay was nothing short of beautiful!!
as in they had perfected foreplay! n even though one of the white guys’ dicks was small, it still felt amazing!!
but seriously, i don’t think it matters. i’ve had good sex with black guys although they were generally a lot less comfortable with their sexuality. although i will say that the white guys performed foreplay much better n were much freakier!!
o yea, n to JAMMY, i heard polish men are generally well-hung. i think they have the same levels of testosterone as black men!!
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I love foreplay.
I am a pleaser and NOT so much a taker!
In other words, I like to please more than be pleased.
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The abiding memories i have of my last black girlfriend is something she once told me which i think is very relevant to many of the black women on this site.It was i treat white men better than black men.
But when black men do vice versa we are castigated for it.As the old saying goes one rule for you one rule for me.
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Ive dated many black men through the years and it does seem to be true that they lack sensitivity. The few have been well-endowed, but like others expressed, they think that you should be priveleged. So, now I’ve given up and appears have gone “blanco”.
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I think its very interresting that people say that the black race will dissapear… fact is that the ligher traits are resesseive, meaning you need both parents to pass it on… the darker traist are dominant and you only need one parent to pass it on.. Simple Mendelian science that people that went to highschool should grasp.
Is anything, the blond, blue eyed genes will dissapear, not the other way around.
As far as bm packing more heat – there is no statistics that say there is a statistical true difference between wm and bm.
Is sex better in an IR relationship?? I would not know – I only been with one bm – but imo – I dont think so.
The great sex comes with connectivity, if that is a word.. if you truly love eachother and have passion, regardless of color, the sex WILL be great.
I have great sex with my beau – is it because we are in an IR relationship? Hell no!
Its because we love eachother and desire the heck out of eachother… color is just secondary, has nothing to do with anything in our case.
I know that some think the contrast is sexually appealing and add to the zest…. I dont deny that, nor do I reject it – I just dont think that is the one answer that covers all…
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Alex, what are you talking about?
Black women are gorgeous!!!
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alex is a fool. LOL. Magic really?
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this alex individual is an idiot. i’m with you bigeyes…magic?? alex needs to seriously seek therapy
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Hmmm, weird. The Alex guy is a troll trying to start trouble. Move on idiot.
As for the sex thing, I guess you would have to quantify what type of sex you are looking for. If you want freak sex then the best I have ever had was white girls. Also some of the worst I ever had was white girls hehehe. I must say then that in terms of bedroom athletics, most black women I’ve dated were pretty conservative. That did not make the sex less enjoyable, just different.
I still love the color contrast while making love and I really believe it has more to do with individual chemistry than skin color. That being said, I don’t know why I am more attracted to black girls than white girls, I really think it was something I was born with because with me it has always been that way.
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alex your a dum ass and you need to remove your profile you are only here to cause trouble
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well, i have learned a lot from this blog. not that i don’t have my own opinion. whatever an individuals experience brings him/her seems to be the all in all. you have to have a standard for anyone who you allow into your heart, space and love. interracial love is strong in itself. it has to be in order to survive and exist. if there are any bible readers on this site, read the old testament and you will read about interracial love between powerful men and women. since this is not a bible blog, i will move on.
in my experience, if there is no trust, there is no chance for love. that being said, when those two are working, the passion and sex are so damn strong, it leaves you in a daze, but wait….what race is he/she……? i have had good and bad with both black and white men. after you grow up and have some understanding about the soul, you make choices of whom you can trust. for me, it is love and if a man can not love and look beyond sex, he is not a man but a boy with a hard on. so what is my point here? race does and does not make the great difference. it is what and who you are comfortable with. my comfort is and has been with white men and for many reasons. i don’t have anything against black men. but my experience is my own and i own it with understanding that all men are equal, but some less fortunate than others
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I would love to meet an asian man, or polynesian…or even an ethiopian Tingray man…but I have dated a number of ethnicities, and I think asian men are have some great qualities plus I like intelligent men…but my preference are men that are not american…foreign men are hot and I love the different cultures.
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Sex is sex regardless of the race of man/woman….
EITHER….you can do it well or you can’t….period! i don’t get into this whole “oh black men have the biggest wee wee’s” because i have seen some the size of a party wiener. lol And i have seen some white men hung! Just like i don’t get into this whole men thinking a woman with a banging body is good in the bedroom! Its all about how well u can use what u have.
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People are expressing their personal preferences and asserting them as facts of life.
I think one major thing with (most) human sex (of any color) is if the two people involved are attracted to each other and if the both of them become sufficiently aroused. I think arousal happens less readily for women than for men. But, in I\R relationships, both partners can arouse themselves (because of their beliefs\arousal is in the mind). And, if this happens, then they will probably have a good time.
There is nothing wrong with liking another color but there is a problem when you strictly attach behavior and attitudes to a color and not to a culture. And, I know this is problematic when you use a color to describe a culture. It is easy to focus on the color\race terms and not the cultural terms here.
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To each his own. No two people are the same. There is no such thing as “race”. We are all one race with different skin color and shape. Certain people may be more sexually attracted to someone who has a different look from them, while others prefer in others the same attributes that they have. I find all shapely women sexually arousing, but I have been attracted more to Latina and Philippians, or one of those ladies who are in between Philippians and Latina. As far as sexuality is concerned, as long as the lady has thick shape, I am happy from mid night dark skin color to the lady who has never seen a sun light. But when it comes to dating/serious relationship , don’t ask me why – I don’t know the answer, I prefer Latina or Philippians.
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I,m a white woman I had white men and black men in my life. And I can say that I’m really black in my heart. You have to pick the right man that you’ll really love!
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I’m a 19 year old white girl, and I can say that I’ve never been with a white guy. All through high school and now college all I’ve heard is a lot of negative crap coming from the mouths of white classmates, both guys and girls, about interracial dating.
Meanwhile I’ve been hanging out with black kids most of my life and there have been some negativity about race coming from the blacks as well. But the whites were overwhelming. The black girls have never made me feel bad for dating black boys, in fact they have never treated me bad at all. They even spent about 3-4 hours putting my hair in corn rows with Kwanzaa beads in it just for a Prom date my sophomore year.
I still have white friends who have only asked the obvious curiosity questions (size of something, etc) but it’s almost like I’m black at heart in a white girls body. I lost my virginity to a black man, and I’m proud of it.
Hot debate. What do you think?
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Kelly:
Thank you for your post. I think your is experience is beautiful. It is also typical of the cancer of ingnorance that plagues our planet about with regard to the ‘unknown.’ It is too easy to speculate and make generalizations about a race or gender on the count of one or maybe even a few bad experiences. What’s even more sad is when one can speculate about an experience they’ve never gone through at all. I am a black man and up until recently I’ve never been intimate with a woman from outside my race. This is not b/c of any external pressure (as if from others). I just never had occasion. The experience was amazing! Do I think this had anything to do with my race. Not at all. I think it had everything to do with connection. It was a connection unlike any other that I had experienced with a black woman (and I’ve been married twice). In fact, the sex lasted longer than any encounter I’ve ever had. Of course, in my imperfect mind I BRIEFLY reasoned, “Hey, I’m never going back to black women in my life.” C’mon, who wouldn’t rationalize that, if only for a moment. Of course, I quickly dispelled that thought and settled in to the realization that a number of things factored into those amazing experiences I’ve had with her: 1) Experience. I’m both older and ‘wiser.’ As a young man I selfishly assumed the wham, bam thank you man attitude typical of ANY male. I hand no idea that (for most women) love making is just as much a mental and emotional experience than it is physical (it starts before the bedroom). I didn’t know then what I know now. Sadly, it took me two failed marriages to realize that. And being single and celibate for a while the ‘cookie’ was presented to me at the right time. Now, it just so happens that the ‘cookie’ was a vanilla wafer and not chocolate chip. That’s all.
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big brown eyes, brown skin in the sun, god-given musculature, luscious lips– yeah i love love a black man who keeps himself in shape.
i can’t think of any absolutes about one race or another from my vast experience, and together all of your comments prove that it is relative to your desires, experiences, and your own fantasy of life.
my fantasy feeling is like a connection to my ancient roots. i am white but with some olive skin tone… i feel like i step back in time closer to origin and the “cradle of civilization” when i behold the black man. like it’s in my genes somewhere along the way.
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Hey guys, I’m a Hispanic male and have been with my Filipina girlfriend for just about a year now and I just have to say how amazing interracial sex is for the both of us. I had been with my own race before venturing out into the rest of the world and discovering how great sexual relations can be with women of other cultures, that is, I enjoy making love to my girlfriend of a different race on a greater order of magnitude than I ever did with my own race.
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I don’t know it all but I do know my experience and that is that the intensity and pleasure of sex is about 90% mental. The best sex for me has always been wrapped up in love no matter what shade of the rainbow the woman I love is wearing.
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Honestly ? No matter what Race Men are from I think all Men should make it a Serious Priority to learn more about Women’s Mental, physical & Sexual needs & to be more understanding for all Women’s sake. If U make the Woman happy, I say keep it up no matter her Race is. I strongly believe Women of all Races equally want GREAT SEX & Multiple ORGASMS. The last thing to ever cross My mind is Race. Alot of Men BLACK or WHITE have different attitudes to Women due to their cultural way they were grown. Yes I’m a BLACK Man, I also live on this SCREWED up Planet, I was raised among many of the Insensitive Males but I decided My MOST IMPORTANT MISSION in My Life is to make any Woman in My Personal Life Happy, respected & comfortable in ways She never imagined.[ Including Multiple Orgasm ]
This advice is for EGOTISTIC Males who are mostly TALK & no good Performance in bed.
I SAY THUMBS UP to all Men Who do their best to please Women’s Erotic needs in Bed no matter the RACE.
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Well, I’ve read all the comments and agree with a lot of what’s said, but realistically its all in the people you associate yourself with and how you carry yourself. There’s different types of intercourse, like F’ing, having sex and making love and some women have the hardest time distiguishing between the 3. That’s why women stop dating black men because they feel like objects, but that’s only because to him, as a man, you’ve only come off as an object. Only when a man respects you will he treat you with consideration. That being said, I’m hispanic & I am more attracted, visually by black guys. Something about their skin and the texture of it. But that’s not to say I haven’t had a white guy rock my world. LoL. Btut it was because we both knew what we were there for. But really, all women need to figure out what kind of interaction they are looking for before they go in wanting to make love when the man has decided you’re not more than a F! So black girls that ran to the white man for comfort, maybe you weren’t worth the black mans time, but that doesn’t mean all black men are like that and that goes for all races…
But mixed babies (black with white or hispanic) are the most beautiful babies I’ve ever seen… Church! LoL
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..opposites mostly attract….at some point it is always in the back of everyones mind & your weakness will be measured by the curiosity factor…im a black male & i adore & respect black women deeply, but im sorry to say my attraction seams to always point to light to white women….dont get me wrong matters of the heart are officialy 1st in order….i have never been with a woman outside my race, i would most certainly want to yet again i will never forget either are women…like i read above we should separate f@#kin, sex & makin love & now apply & express with concent to a woman of your choice…
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well i’ve never had sex before, but what i noticed is that all the black women are attracted to white men, and all the white men are atracted to black women. i’m more attracted to white women, and i’m black. see i had a couple wet dreams of sex. for some reason, the sex with the white women in the dream was better. and the black was alright and more uptempo. it was more passionate with the white women though. i think its just the skin color it might look good during sex. white on black.
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i,m a 37 yr old wht female divorced now .to me blk men no how to 4fill my needs & am very thoughfull about me 2 most wht men i,v dated just grope me the way i see it is they think cause i was married be4 makes me an easy target , blk men go out of there way yo please me in every way possable . so 4 me its not the skin color that matters its how i,m treated as an equile
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I am a 53 year old black female who is divorced and looking. I have never dated a white guy until summer of 2010. I always wonder what it would be like since the small town I was raised in only populated with white people. The sex was good, his kiss was more passionate, his hands felt good on my body and he had a mild manner. We were so far apart (distance) and his family threaten to not speak to him any more. So I let go. I don’t care what people think of my relationships, but I do not want to tear a family apart. One day I will meet a white guy again.
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You’re a wonderful person to give up your own wants/needs for that. How could his family think ill of you?! The fools!
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It is unfortunate that you had to let go. If he was a real man, he would not have cared what anyone else thought – family or otherwise!
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There is much to learn from this articles and the feed backs. Life is about learning. As long as a person keeps an open mind, the whole world can become a big school. I recommend this article and the feed backs here and wish all the members a happy new year and more success!
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No, not really. But from my perspective, many people who date those from outside their races do so due to various reason’s, including boredom, ugly experiences with people from their races as well as excitement!
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It doesn’t depend on race to how sex will be, how “endowed” a person is or how they act… I do not watch interracial porn, but the thought of sex with a black girl seems a lot more interesting to me
they’re just much more attractive to me, as a preference.
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Do you feel that is the only reason why most white men desire black women?
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Well, as someone who’s always preferred (and is currently) dating Asian men, you can only imagine the bullshit I have to endure from other people. Even if the small penis thing were true, I wouldn’t care. Enjoyable sex has very little to do with endowment.
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Or race.
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Well, I find that just the idea of being able to caress a white man’s body turns me on like nothing else. I don’t know why I’m like that. I just am. I’m not only attracted to white men. I’m just more attracted to them. I can’t even say what I would like to say right now, but yes, I have had a few white boyfriends, and we have had some intimate encounters… and I loved them(the encounters)…
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Not sure, I’m mixed, white, black n native.
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@Hanatokoi You said the right thing.Just in my case is the black man’s body..LOL
I was married for 17 years with a white man. The fantasy was always there to be with a black man. Bad for me was that i didn’t “dare’ earlier. I am ashamed to say that the ..you should only date within your race.. was a factor. I was in a 2 year relationship with a black man and it was gooood!! Best of it all was that i am free. Free to find the man of my dreams. A man i can please freely and unconditionally and enjoy every single moment.
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For me intimacy with a white guy is euphoric . The intensity that is felt when skin on skin contact is made viewing the contrast of skin drives me wild. I’m feel no shame is saying being with a white guy is solely my preference. I have dated black men and was never as satisfied both sexual or emotional as i am now.
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Its funny how people react to this issue…I have been married to a black woman and married to a white woman…Both were fantastic…I have dated many more white than black. I have travelled over 120 countries and found that the passion between black males and white women is intense. May because of the extreme differences,Let me stop I ask the question all over the world..Its the difference that attracts..You will pay more attention to the opposites…I know..Its passion!!!!
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