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How To Get Off The Bench

Posted by Leticia, 27 Dec 10

124 responses to "How To Get Off The Bench"

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  1.   Jefftidy says:
    Posted: 13 hrs ago (Awaiting moderation)

    interested in the game, lets get going guys!

  2.   AG10 says:
    Posted: 12 Jul

    Wow”!this is an eye opener to me.I don't think I will go wrong after this.tnx

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  3.   soluction.p says:
    Posted: 01 Jul

    am in for the game

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  4.   tshepo10 says:
    Posted: 23 Jun

    im ready put me in...

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  5.   stg3 says:
    Posted: 09 Jun

    put me in am ready

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  6.   raj-vee says:
    Posted: 12 Apr

    Put me in the game I'm sick Of warming the bench up put me in the game I'm ready to do B I'm ready to go with them full speed ahead what I need to do.Where is the best to meet single white ladies 30-50

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  7.   Swanjik says:
    Posted: 22 Mar

    Gee get da game on play it safe n responsibly

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  8.   Ayo7878 says:
    Posted: 19 Jan

    I'm ready for the game.

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  9.   richloves says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 13

    I AM READY FOR THE GAME

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  10.   Josh10 says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 13

    Yea right! Lets do this...

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  11.   Goobi42 says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 13

    Put me on its ok

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  12.   flk963 says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 13

    Am ready

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  13.   angie2013 says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 13

    Am ready to play put me in .

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  14.   Icetboogy says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 13

    Am ready

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  15.   Timidanking says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 13

    "Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it'scalled falling in love, because you don't forceyourself to fall, you just fall." "Love demands infinitely less than friendship." "Friendship is the perfection of love, and superior to love; it is love purified, exalted, proved by experience and a consent of minds. Love, Madam, may, and love does, often stop short of friendship."

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  16.   Timidanking says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 13

    A WISE WOMAN ONCE WROTE: If you're not being treated with love and respect,... Check your "Price Tag" perhaps you have marked yourself down & didn't know it... It's "you" who tells people what you're worth by what you accept. Get off the "Clearance Rack" and get behind the glass where they keep all the VALUABLES.. Bottom line is.. VALUE yourself.

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  17.   Timidanking says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 13

    count me in I can't wait... lol yes!!!

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  18.   Midnight6 says:
    Posted: 27 Sep 13

    I don't understand this clip. Make fun of online dating.

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  19.   Kathleen16 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 13

    This is so enhancing thank you so much.

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  20.   Kathleen16 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 13

    This is so enhancing thank you guys.

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  21.   terroris says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 13

    I wana live life to the fullest

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  22.   moses666 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 13

    Yes am ready to play put me in.

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  23.   chancie says:
    Posted: 17 Aug 13

    am a player so need full time game and no watching my friens scoring goals

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  24.   Brwghw says:
    Posted: 14 Aug 13

    are you going to show any pictures?

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  25.   Alhaji27 says:
    Posted: 11 Aug 13

    Absolutely Yes and i'm perfectly ready can you put me in the game?

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  26.   kzaz says:
    Posted: 20 Jul 13

    betiful

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  27.   kizweng says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 13

    put me on the game am ready

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  28.   FILYPHILLEY says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 13

    I want to get off the beach and play the game.

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  29.   foreally says:
    Posted: 26 May 13

    This is great and funny. Aside from the humor, which I love, seriously speaking, this has been an issue for someone like me. I'm from NC and was never taught to go after a guy. Although I have sort of initiated before, it seems like the guy gets too used to it and expects the gal to continue to do all the initiating....My thoughts are that I sometimes can set aside my ego, pride, fear, etc to make the first move, but don't expect it to stay like that. I think that a number of men are so stuck on the stereotype that black women are independent and strong that they don't stop to think that these women don't really want to have to do all the work at all, but we sometimes feel we have to. As a final note, I've noticed (for me at least) once a guy does make the first move, or a move at all, he can expect me to feel more comfortable and therefore more likely to step up and be more proactive.

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  30.   Kingkay says:
    Posted: 16 May 13

    Am ready nw?

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  31.   pasowa2 says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 13

    Please i am ready put me on the game

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  32.   Pamalamb says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 13

    Life is so short. I'm almost half a century old and I feel the need to lay down some wisdom for my younger generation ....love hard and deep and the rest will fall into place. Yea, it's that simple.

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  33.   gimmekwaet says:
    Posted: 04 Feb 13

    I think it is an honorable thing to do. To get off the bench now.

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  34.   morash30 says:
    Posted: 04 Feb 13

    Put me on the game I'm ready.

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  35.   diakah says:
    Posted: 03 Feb 13

    put me in the game am ready to play it up cool

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  36.   Benkuz says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 13

    Put me on the game am ready to do

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  37.   huggy124 says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 12

    Put me in the game I'm sick Of warming the bench up put me in the game I'm ready to do B I'm ready to go with them full speed ahead what I need to do

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  38.   me says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 12

    Where is the best in san antonio to meet single white ladies

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  39.   nyabs25 says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 12

    am looking for a relationship but what am i dona do

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  40.   nyabs25 says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 12

    am seriously looking for a relationship

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  41.   solar555 says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 12

    not sure about on line dating.willing try. however maybe a bit too shy.was married for 25 years.very loyal but also very trusting which was my downfal. didnt see it coming. taking a long time to recover from break up of family. picking up the pieces and moving on is not as easy as i thought it will be. sometimes the more you know people the more you like animals. they dont lie.

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    • kayceia says:
      Posted: 03 Mar

      Don't be shy,it hurts just go out and explore. Find someone with minimal baggage and have some fun. Good luck.

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  42.   Ebinyo says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 12

    Its true women need to be given care like babies,but u care for some one who is willing to receive yo care,hope to get one who is welling to receive my care.

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    • solar55 says:
      Posted: 20 Jul 12

      I agree with you solar55.Animals do not talk and they are grateful for the love and affection that they are shown.As long as they have food,shelter ,a loving hug now and then they are sincerely and genuinely appreciative.NOT requiring anymore,nor placing unrealistic expectations on you.I understand your situation and respect your honesty and sincerity.Maybe we can chat from time to time as FRIENDS...NO EXPECTATIONS!!!!!! Simply bonding and connection through some get to know me conversation.Starting out small,whens your birthday?whats your favorite color?etc,etc.etc.............................I am up for it,if you are.........................Respectfully Written Nubian 44

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  43.   Ebinyo says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 12

    Its true women need to be given care like babies,but u care for some one who is willing to receive yo care,hope to get one who is willing to receive my care.

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  44.   BigSeafish says:
    Posted: 14 Jun 12

    Power1 You are fantastic man you have a slice idea of what woman are but not all. I at all you do what you are preaching then you are in the right track.

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  45.   encomium says:
    Posted: 24 May 12

    people tends to speak about love but many of us take love as an illusion and mirage of the mind bcos the meaning of love transcend ordinary.many of us are fake because our love affairs are conditional.

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  46.   saga05 says:
    Posted: 21 May 12

    I know what women want anytime and any minute.

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    • BigSeafish says:
      Posted: 13 Jun 12

      Saga05, The biggest mistake you are going to make, is to think you know what woman want you will be mistaken.

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  47.   power1 says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 12

    Wow! Any woman that come accros you must know that she has met her kina of man cos naturally i know what a woman need from a man...

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    • ivy280 says:
      Posted: 22 Apr 12

      Hi power1,am glad that yo here..u seem to knw wat love is,am so pleased by your words,am in need of love bt its nt easy to get it..lets keep each other company till we find our soulmates.

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      • jozef61 says:
        Posted: 30 Jan

        i like that,just as i do need someone to warm me so let keep the fire burning

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  48.   power1 says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 12

    Any way the truth must be said at this juncture. A waman should be treated just like a baby coz that's natural and has to be done. Pamper them, some times may not only to giving tham every nthing on eath, i am not saying we should not but while doing that you have to apply that of the natural which is care , love , romantic, sincerity which is important, by so doing this you will see that the bad side of her will be gradually cured by you, lol...

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  49.   joey9602 says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 12

    I never guessed that I'd be looking for a date online, but this seems like the latest and greatest way to meet people, so I guess that's why I find myself here giving things a try. I am new on this site and i was searching through...I guess you suit my kind of woman judging from your profile any

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  50.   shydemlikes says:
    Posted: 13 Jan 12

    am sure life is of all love, n if love ain't meant then your living ain't worth life n love am sure if you love guys from Kenya here is me willing to love to sastifaction.

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