Do you hate on your own race?

Posted by James, 20 Sep 07

asian-asian.jpgTyra Banks did a show on interracial dating… Ok, I admit it! I've always had a thing about the gorgeous Tyra and when I saw she was doing a show on interracial dating I just had to see which side of the fence she sat on! :lol:

Anyway, as the show went on, one thing that interested me was a Korean lady by the name of Ja – she was young and very beautiful. This lady, (born in Korea then moved to the United States) had never dated an Asian guy. Well for a minute there I kinda understood why - damn! she had perfect English, no accent… true American. And she had only dated white men.

Dudes, I really wanted to change the channel but checking Tyra out is excuse enough. ;-) I also wanted to know why this Korean woman had never dated a Korean/Asian guy.

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Having moved to the US at an early age (7 going on 12), an age when the lil’ girls start discovering themselves, and being in an almost all white school, I kind of empathized with her… she identifies with white people.

Then she burst my bubble with the stereotypes… Asian men are nerdy and feminine! So Tyra decided to send her on a date with an Asian man. And she went on… Asian men this… Asian men that. Even when the dude said he was doing Engineering, she went… Even the dude had to comment that all she just went on and on about Asian men and bringng her version of that stereotype in the mix.

I am pro-interracial dating but what I didn’t understand is why someone would be so judgmental about their own race without even giving people a chance to prove them wrong. Was it because she had been surrounded by people who are biased against Asian men? Is it that she didn’t want anyone white to stereotype her? Then it hit me… :idea:I have always been so judgmental about the Tyra Banks show… never gave it a chance (guy thing). But once I gave it a chance that day, I actually watched the whole show.

We are all judgmental. People will always judge. Just as Ja did her own race, so do some people in the case of interracial dating. But should we let our unproven assumptions deter us from falling in love with that ‘nerd’ as people put it?

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  1.   Cynamyn82 says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 10

    That girl on the Tyra show is a complete moron. The Asian men I know are not nerdy or feminine. They are very out-spoken and can pull plenty of women. Sorry if this is a repost.

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  2.   Cynamyn82 says:
    Posted: 31 Oct 10

    Oh and that Korean girl on the Tyra show is an idiot. The Asian men I know are not the least bit of nerdy (or feminine) and are VERY out-going and out-spoken. Plus, they get girls, too.

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  3.   Cynamyn82 says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 10

    This is a bunch of bull!! You like what you like and that is that! If you are a black woman who is strictly attracted to men outside your race, go for it!!! Same goes for black men. If a black man wants someone who is asian, white or latina, then he should go get her!! Why should you have to defend your preference or question the preference of others?? Here is my bottom line.....DO YOU!!! You don't have to hate your race if you don't date them!! Oh and if I hated my race that much, I would have been swimming in peroxide and skin-bleaching cream. I'll keep my chocolate brown skin, thanks!!! :)

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  4.   cocofun says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 10

    I am 23 and have never dated a black man. I went to a basically all white school and didn't really interact with other black people that I wasn't related to until I got to college. I have no stereotypical reasons for not dating black men I am just not attracted to many of them so even in college I have mostly only dated white men. I am getting sick of them too though. I don't really have anything else to say about the matter.

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  5.   sweetms says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 10

    I wanted to comment on this post, and understand that I may be a little late. I don't hate on my own race, but will admit that I find myself more attracted to White, Latino, Indian, Asian, etc. men. There are so many types that I am attracted to, I am also attracted to black men, however I am just NOT interested in dating black man. It is your choice/preference and as a true "grown-up" you need not explain or feel it necessary to explain this to anyone. Hating on one's own race - in which way? I love my black father and my black brother and black half brother, I didn't experience any problems with black men that caused me to be attracted to men as so many people try to hint toward.

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  6.   controversy says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 10

    I'm pissed that I can't find a good white man because they are all too obsessed with dating other races. I'm not getting with no nerdy white guy, I need someone with some swag like me, but if they do have some swag they will date either a black or a latino woman. This really pisses me off. So I am stuck with a latino or a black guy. I just want to find a good, fine, white guy!!!!!

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  7.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 10

    I don't think that whom you date is a good barometer of whether you hate your own race or not. If you hate your own race doesn't that mean you hate yourself? And if you hate yourself, can you really love another?

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  8. Posted: 03 May 10

    so sorry to say so but I do hate my own people i feel there is nothing to be so proud of my mother is Angilo my fATHER IS A MEXCAN AMERCAN wHAT I SEE IN THE MIRROW IS A MEXICAN AND I HATE IT EVERYTIME I LOOK AT MY SELF IN MY HEART IAM NOT BUT WHAT I SEE IN THE MIRROW IS DARK AND MEXICAN I DONT LIKE IT At ALL

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  9.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    I black and really do hate black people because of how they treat me. I'm not a good looking lady and black lades give me a hard time. They don't know nothing about me but they rather talk about me. If I can change my look I would. Black people is hard on there own race more then any other race. black rather talk about you then help. I might get more help from a white person when I go somewhere then I would from a black person. Look is everything to people. And it hard to fine a good black doctor here in Milwaukee, Wis. Black ladies are the worst of all and maybe I shouldn't say all of them maybe 90% of them. It hard living in Milwaukee because I'm difference. I spend not of time alone. So black lady you need to learn how to treat people and leave people alone. Maybe one day people would a little nicer when they see me or someone like me.

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  10.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 10

    Sheila You are worse than sellout black women. Why do you hate your own race of Asian men? Just say "white man gives me money". Everything else you said was lies and manipulation. White females know you are a "con artist" that's why. I don't blame them. At the end of the day, sellout black women are a less of a threat than Asian women. Asian women are just sneaky that's all. That is why the white girls get on your "ass". Man look for that Vigilante Season. Now you got Asian women talking "trash". That is getting out of hand. How many races of women are putting their hand in the white man's bank account and wallet. They wouldn't give a damn about a white man in a trailer park doing construction for a living. But they going on and on about how they are "treated". His money keep you happy. Once the finances slow down. You are going to leave the poor white man to be with another white man. The only difference between Asian women and sellout black women is the strategy. Black women whine and complain in the media. Asian women aggressively go after white men. That is why sellout black women continue to "lose". I just feel like this is going to be all "OUT WAR". I tried to be "civil" with these women . They just don't seem to understand that. They just want to dominate the conversation, cover the white man's mouth and speak for him. While they have their hands in his wallet. I have never seen this level of "desperation".

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  11.   Sheila says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 10

    I date who I am attracted to the most and as an Asian American lady I prefer caucasian men they just know how to keep me happy and I think they know how to treat a lady. Not all men in any race will always be good people so you got to be smart in your choices. What does bother me is I get bad comments from white females when they see me out with my boyfriend which is very rude and annoying. I do see a lot of aging women that are alone which is sad.

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  12.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Comment by Foxfuzzy on 25 September 2007: I do not hate on my race. I just dont date the men. Its been my experience that Caucasian men treat me very much like a lady - they open the door for me, hold out my chair for me, etc. I can certainly do these things for myself, however speaking as a woman, its very nice when a man shows his attention and takes the time to do those little (but not inconsequential) things for you. TYRANT says: At first I was going to pass this right by because this was posted a long time ago, but I've decided to give my opinion on what you wrote. "I don't HATE on my race. I just DON'T date the MEN" You might as well just came out and said I HATE BLACK MEN because that's you took the scenic route in saying, or were you just trying to be nice? I keep hearing that GOOD and BAD comes in all RACES and COLORS; if that's true, and it is, then so does STUPIDITY. I'm NOT even going to use the tired IGNORANCE excuse because I think you know better, and if you don't, you should. Black men come in a variety of shades and back grounds, so to EXCLUDE, and let's make no mistake, you are EXCLUDING black men from your dating pool is pretty much like HATING us. I'm ATTRACTED to other races of women, but I would NEVER EXCLUDE black women from my dating pool. Just thinking about fixing my face to say something as SILLY like "I don't hate my race, I just don't date the women is NAUSEATING. I LOVE black women, always have and I always will. Just because I choose to open up my dating options to asian, latina, and white women doesn't mean I have to give up black women to do so. I respect everyone's right to date, or not date, as they please. I DO NOT respect anyone who tries to SUGARCOAT the fact that they hate me because I just happen to be a BLACK MAN. I like INTERRACIAL DATING for all the POSSIBILITIES, but I hate it because of the HARSH REALITY that there are black women-like YOU-who on some level HATE black men. If this is what it means to date INTERRACIALLY then you can keep it, because as a BLACK MAN, I just can't see myself EXCLUDING my own.

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    • chocolate09 says:
      Posted: 31 Oct 10

      @ TYRANT Dude, give it a rest. Foxfuzzy is a grown woman and she can do what she wants with her dating life. If she says she doesn't hate black men, then she doesn't hate them. Stop trying to put words in other people's mouth's. If a black woman does not prefer to date black men, she doesn't have to explain squat to your or apologize for it. It's HER life. You cannot control that. You are not a TYRANT when it comes to what black women do. It's quite hilarious that you gave yourself that username. If you like black women and other races of women, do your thing. Just don't cry and whine over what other black women do. It sounds pathetic.

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  13.   wonka says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 10

    Here's how I see it,I play no favoritism,I'm impar- tial and I tell it like I see it.

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  14.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    Wow! It seems to me that if you are hate your own race, dating someone of a different race won't fix it. If you look hard enough, you'll find someone to fit your stereotype closely enough. However, if you open your eyes, you'll find a lot of diversity.

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  15. Posted: 08 Feb 10

    Well for me i don't hate my race BUT i do hate their actions towards black people or the dumb shyt they do that embarrasses us as a whole race......thats why we aren't looked as individually but rather as a whole race...now that bothers me.....i wasn't born during slavery nor have i contributed to anything that would degrade or hurt a black person so i shouldnt be put in the box of the rest of racist white folks.....thats my only problem with my race.....and yes i have given white men a try....but white men haven't given me a try.......i'm not a blonde barbie, yeah i have boobs but white men i found back in the day didn't like meat on a woman so i didn't fall into that category. doesn't mean i am the white mans reject or what not that i hear......i'm everything any man would want but i don't necessarily fit the mold.....i have lots of booty and boobs and that never attracted white men even when i was chasing em, so can't get mad at me for looking outside of the box....but i do say as i got older now white men are hitting on me more.

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  16.   BMEbony says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 10

    Hey Cut all B.S. race or outside race. There is one NATION WORLD. PEOPLE DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHO ARE YOU.

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  17.   fenway2k says:
    Posted: 06 Feb 10

    I know this is cliche, but it is my truth....I happen to like women period, regardless of their race. I have dated women of all nationalities from Asian to Hispanic and surprise, surprise....they are all woman with feelings, wants, needs, and desires. I live a single lifestyle with the hopes of settling down one day. I will tell you this...when I do find that special someone, race will not be a factor in the slightest. It will be based on what I look for in a woman and wife, period. I totally agree with sxylilbritt, it is a tragedy when you limit yourself by making race a factor in who you date, even though I respect your right to make your own choices. And to all those lovely Sistas above who once again use this forum to bash a Brotha even more, shame on you. Those who no longer date black men because 'they walked all over me' or 'because they are not compatible for me and where I'm at in life right now' should realize that while I apologize for you having to endure those experiences, those traits are simply a reflection of what they lack as a man, NOT because they are Black. I can't even believe I had to tell you that!

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  18.   Melissa81 says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 09

    Hmmm... well, to me, since she moved the the states at such an early age and to an area where she'd see way more Caucasians... I understand. (I know this isn't the way it is All of the time, but probably most of the time...) usually people are attracted to those with physical traits similar to the ones they've seen often as a small child. I'm multi-ethnic (1/4 Filipino, a bit Native American, Irish, and German) and grew up around mainly white kids during my childhood, as well as saw a lot of whites in the media (it was the 80s.) So... I'm usually attracted to white guys, not all of them... I don't like "gingers" or Italians. Plus there have been scientific studies that suggested people normally like those who theyve been around a lot. I've seen various ethnicities but not many Asians in the Us... Just my opinion.

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  19.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 09

    Sounds like Hatedon is either very young AND immature or needs some serious therapy. This person needs to do some self analyzation because he/she is all screwed up.

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  20.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 09

    She's or He's just a crazy troll.

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  21.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 09

    Hatedon, Good! Whatever it is about you that attracts all of that nonsense you just mentioned, please keep it away from the good men. Eventually, the lesbos will get tired of it, too. Then you'll have to either be a nun or kill yourself. By the way, wear some deoderant.

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  22.   hatedon says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 09

    I have gone on dates with many men from different races but they just don't like how i am very very dark black... its hard for them to even notice what face i am making. They either do one of two things: they either see my very disabled half white half mexican and half black children and turn and run away immediately, or, they see my kids and take one look at my big bosom and say "dang you must be real easy can I have some of that stuff too?" and then thats when they try to attack me and I defend them off with my long sharp finger nails until their are all scarred up about their body.. I am tired of all men they are all into sex or what they want not what this black queenie wants! White men usually throw up or something when they smell my odors after a long night of bowling, black men tell me im too strong and can beat them up, and other men of other races don't have enough money to even take me out, white men have gold, black men have the food stamps, but the others don't share and are real losers and besides that they are ugly and in gangs so im just a lesbian woman now.

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  23.   Filipino says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 09

    I think she's a racist and yes people can be racist against their own race. I find it hypocrite when some interracial couples have such racist attitudes to their own people (is that also treason and racism?) but always pull out the "race card" to defend themselves from any anti-interracial racism.

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  24.   LAgirl6 says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 09

    I'm annoyed by the people who say that they grew up in a all (fill in the blank) area and use that to justify why they hate or don't understand their own race and like another better. It's called self-hate and it's very ignorant. The one guy couldn't even spell diversity (divercity) as he bragged about how he grew up in a all white area. Love yourself and love everyone around you. Don't look for reasons and poor excuses to be exclusive to a certain race. That's soooooo backwards.

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  25.   Melissa81 says:
    Posted: 01 May 09

    **I apologize if my comment is posted twice, but as of right now my last one didn't pop up.** As for myself, I'm 1/4 Filipino and the majority of me is German. Since most of my family is caucasian and most of the people I grew up with in the 80s were white... I'm physically attracted to (certain white guys - i.e. the Zack Efron look, to David Duchovny, Matthew Broderick, Ryan Phillipe, Brad Pitt in the 90s etc.) First of all, I need to say.. there is no "right or wrong" as far as a person's physical preference. Everyone is allowed to like who they want.. whether it's someone of their own race or NOT. Besides, a smart person realizes it's a 'no win situation.' If you like someone who's of another race... people think you "hate yourself." If you like someone of your same race... people think you're racist. So love who you WANT to love and f_ck everyone else. You're the one who has to sleep with this person, so you better find them Physically Attractive. It's science... human nature... to try to be with someone who are attracted to... and not who your friends think you should be with. :) Also... I'm almost 30. Life is getting shorter every year so yall better believe I'm seeing someone I like. As long as theres mutual chemistry, that's all I need. I absolutely REFUSE to have a relationship with someone because the general public feels I should. If I don't feel it, I'm not interested. It is what it is. So Please People - Like who you want to like. Please don't let society and your friends dictate who's "appropriate" for you. You'll regret it one day.

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  26.   queuetie314 says:
    Posted: 04 Apr 09

    Barbeeee, you took the words right out of my mouth. Hate *is* a strong word; however after 40 years of hearing "you think you're so proper" or, "you talk like a white girl", and the usual unprovoked malice and malfeasance directed at me, my goals and my accomplishments, I am becoming increasingly ever so hard-pressed to define exactly what my race and I feel for each other in any other terms.

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  27.   Barbeeee says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 09

    Hate is a strong word. Disappointed in a lot of the men in my race, ABSOLUTELY!!! It's SAD!!! I'm a Black women in case you were wondering.

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  28. Posted: 26 Mar 09

    Lizz Im like; no you did'nt @ Once you go asian you never go caucasian While I don't hate on my race or any race for that matter, I simply prefer white men. They tend to treat blackwomen better.

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  29. Posted: 14 Mar 09

    Asian guys Rock!!!!!......as do African-American, Caucasian, Latino, Native American and Pacific Islander Guys..... men, REAL MEN....rule no matter what the skin tone. Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  30.   tbell28 says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 09

    I am new to this site and am open to dating all races i dont discriminate. But i came across this profile of a black male only interested in white women a white submissive queen to do what he says when he says it i wanted to throw up, i have a hard time dating black men because majority of them only want either hispanic or white submissive women its annoying.

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  31.   Funbobbyt says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 09

    I am a tall blackman that also dates outside of my ethnic background. I grew up in an all white neighborhood and an all white school. There where two black families in our area. Mine was one of them. All my friends (white) and thier parents accepted me for the person that I am. Not the color of my skin. I enjoyed learning and being with people that i could learn from, and feel that we had a common bond. I didn't know anything about whites when our family first moved there. I always felt that it was a cultural awakening for me. My preference has to this day, been to date white women, mexican, asian, black, european, and native american. The divercity and opening myself up to this world in which we live in is wonderful. My children and there children have also opened there minds to intermingling with others. Not because of who we are, or what ethnic group we come from. But to the fact that not anyone of us on this planet had the opportunity to choose who our parents would be, or what ethnic group they would come from. But thank GOD, we can choose who we want to share parts of our life with.

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  32. Posted: 20 Feb 09

    "Once you go Asian, you never go caucasian"? Sheesh, that's pretty harsh, how about " once you go yellow, you'll never be mellow"!(Grabbing a Mountain Dew) Sorry to say that I missed that segment on Tyra, must have been at my nail salon appt. You know how gay and nerdy us Asian boys are. To simplify and rationalize the whole concept of interracial dating and why some people, irregardless of race won't intermingle within their own ethnic group. Stereotyping and being judgemental, simple as that. I've dated every race, granted, I've had more LTR with caucasian women, maybe they are more attracted to me. Althoughh, I will admit that I stray away from most Asian women, due to the fact of their snotty, elitist mentality due to their Americanization, and not to forget their cattyness <---is that spelled right? They automatically assume that most Asian guys are FOB(fresh off the boat), and expect the women to be subservient. Yes, in the old, mother country, but this is living in America in the 21st century. Get with the program already. Ok, rambled on long enough, going to go find the next Tyra show shedule.

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  33.   Lizz says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 09

    Ok so I am a white girl but I will not date white American men. Mainly because I do not like they way most, not all, treat you in a relationship. I like asian cultures more and the way most asian men treat you. White men tend to lack the mental part of a relationship and go for the physical. I don't hate my own race I just do not agree with it. "Once you go asian you never go caucasian"

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  34.   Goodwoman75 says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 09

    As most everyone that has commented on here, has said, it's all about attraction. I am an exclusive interracial dater. I have tried giving white men a chance, but there is always that feeling of not being physically attracted to them. There have been a couple, that I have had some sort of attraction to, but then I got to know them. It went one of two ways. They met my kids, and there were two responses. One, tried to "act black", although he had never shown that side of him, prior to finding out they were half black. The other showed his ignorant side. I guess he assumed, that because I'm fair skinned, blonde hair and blue eyed,that I was one of them. He began treating me differently, because I had relations, with a black man and loved my half black children to death. There are two things I can't stand in a person, not being yourself, and ignorance. And although, both of these come in all races, it is not worth me wasting my time, to find a real, non ignorant, accepting white guy, because society thinks I should. I find this in black men, also, but the attraction is there, so I have more to choose from. When someone doesn't act right, you move on. If I find a man, of any race, that I am attracted to, accepts me, for who I am, and accepts my kids, for who they are, we will be together. So far, it appears that it will be a black man, that I will find that in. I don't get approached, by many white men. I would say it's 1 white man, to every 10 black men. It's all about attraction, compatibility, and happiness. White men usually don't display any of that to me, or I to them. Bottom line, everyone should get in where they fit in. Screw what everyone else thinks.

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  35.   BubLee says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 08

    I don't hate my own race, I just have a preference for and 9 times out 10 a stronger attraction to black men more than my own race. At the end of the day attraction is a personal individual thing. And like it or not attraction at first is physical no one sees someone at the end of the bar and goes... Damn Isnt that a nice personality!! Each and every person has his or her own idea what makes someone attractive. Who cares why someone else likes what he or she likes, I mean isnt that ultimately questioning diversity itself? The other point to is everyone has their own set of experiences, and it varies from person to person depending on the demographic and how many people theyve dated. And heaps of other past relationship issues thrown in the mix as well. The point is if your using those experiences as absolute "truths" in your dating preferences then your only cheating yourself. Heres a thought for all of us to consider, If we as individuals, no matter what race we come from, have to ask someone else why their attracted to us or not attracted to us. Arent we in extension, really asking for some kind confirmation of acceptance of our own belief of how we view ourselves? I know what I love and I am not going to justify my reasons to someone who wants to find some sort of hidden agenda. Nor do I need approval from the masses to continue loving what I love. Live and let live and celebrate diversity

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  36. Posted: 18 Mar 08

    No I would not say I hate my own race and a lot of men do that I know of. They wont talk to a black woman or give us the time of day and I had to ask myself why is that. So I did I ask a brother and it was sad. He told me that black woman are to loud and no class and he was just going on and on. I had to stop him and tell him that we are all not like that. He said we dont cater to their needs, support them love them the right way. I asked what is the right way. He said it is just something about a white women that makes him feel good. I dated black men and white men and asians. Some were good and some were very bad. I love my brothers but I prefer to date outside my race and find the one who will love me for me.

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  37.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 18 Mar 08

    Culture, my dear Girlover, culture. You didn't consider that aspect in reviewing your actions. You were being polite and respectful to the women in Tokyo, which in most American and European nations is the accepted thing to do. I'm just not sure its an aspect of Japanese culture.....

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  38.   pbs86 says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 08

    My only question is. Why should anyone date you if you are not willing to date someone from your own ethnic group? I have had some issues with black men too, but I would never exclude them from dating. I guess to me some of you sound stupid, but this is my opinion. I could never take a man seriously if he can't even date someone of his ethnic background, because he "thinks" he won't find what he is looking for as if all the women are monolithic.

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  39. Posted: 17 Feb 08

    I may date interracially, but I don't ignore the men of my race! I would really enjoy going out on a date with an African-American man, but it seems that I don't get approached, or if I do, I'm already in a monogamous relationship. And luvthenew, it doesn't matter what part of the country one lives in, the looks still come! I'm living in the so called "sophisticated and enlightened" Northeast(specifically outside NYC), and I received dirty looks in my area of NJ, in New York City, in Washington D.C. too. Those looks have no geographical exclusivity. Here's MY question...where are all of those cute Asian men, and why aren't they approaching this very attractive, educated, intelligent African-American woman(ME)??? If Ja doesn't want a attractive successful Asian guy, I'll take him!

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  40.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 07

    Get a grip, luvthenew. Yes, stereotypical views about interracial relationships still exist, especially in the south and other areas. You're always going to get looks. And yes, your grandparents did go through crap. Did anything we said previously negate any of their achievements? Not!! What we did say is that we don't hate on our race, we just don't date men from our race. Finally, a lot of relationships start out with women thinking they could change the man they're with. It never works - never! If he doesn't have respect for you from the beginning, if it wasn't an intrinsic part of his growing up and becoming a man, then there's no way you're going to teach him now, or force him to learn or, you can take sh** and hope he's going to learn in the future. It just does not work that way.

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  41.   luvthenew says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 07

    I have not thought about how I view my race until moving to the south. I don't like the stereotypical mindset that STILL EXISTS! It's old & tired! Your grandparents/greatgp's went through crap so that your world would be easier. Open your eyes & get a clue! Make a man rspect you no matter what his color!Opening of doors, pulling out chairs doesn't come exclusively from 1 race! I went on a date w/a caucsian guy tonight & we still got 'the looks'! I loved it because it drew me closer to him! BOTTOM LINE....IF YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO BE THE MAN I NEED/DESERVE...STEP ASIDE & LET A BETTER MAN DO THE JOB YOU CAN'T OR WON'T!!

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  42.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 07

    To PhatKitty: You go girl!! I couldn't have said it better myself!!

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  43.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 07

    I myself also watched that episode, and did think that a lot of the asians were having an identity crisis. Now one woman did state that she wanted a western look, when it came to here eyes. When we assimilate ourselves into another culture, especially if that culture is the dominant one, then there is bound to be some reprecussion. Also, just to touch on the topic itself. I also have dated mostly black men when i was in my twenties, and they walked all over me. It took me a long time to trust and open up. Now am in my late thirties and to tell u the truth, i have no desire to date black men regardless of where they are from. I still find them attractive, but not compatible for me and where i am in my life right now. There are a lot of strong black men out there, but am not going to wait around to find out if he is the one. Been there done that. And like foxfuzzy, i dont hate them, i just dont date them.

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  44.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 07

    I do not hate on my race. I just don't date the men. Its been my experience that Caucasian men treat me very much like a lady - they open the door for me, hold out my chair for me, etc. I can certainly do these things for myself, however speaking as a woman, its very nice when a man shows his attention and takes the time to do those little (but not inconsequential) things for you. To Sxylilbritt: There's nothing tragic in having surgery to correct something you perceive as holding down your potential to be happy, to be pretty, whatever. If it boosts your confidence and self-esteem, why the heck not?

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  45.   Wadrules says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 07

    I myself seen that Tyra episode. I have to admit, I have had a crush on her for a very long time. I catch myself hating on my own race as well at times. I just want to be happy and it seems that white women fall short of what I need on a spiritual and physical level. I have dated women of many different races and even though I don't hate my own race, I don't think that I can find happiness within my own race. I hope that my feeling this way doesn't mean that I am a racist against my own race.

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  46.   sxylilbritt says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 07

    thats just tragic!

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  47.   Foxfuzzy says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 07

    I saw that Tyra segment myself. Interesting how people get these stereotypes in their heads and won't give it up for anything. I love who I am and wouldn't change anything for the world. But I do have to admit that its very nice being an attractive woman. I too might have considered plastic surgery if I thought there was something that could be done to improve a facial feature I wasn't happy with (like the profiled eyelid surgery that many Asians are having). So why categorize it as trying to look Caucasian? Why not just say you're having a little work done on a feature that you're not exactly ecstatic about. Nothing wrong with that.

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