Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is why some white guys are opening themselves to black women? Let’s concentrate on that.
Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman’s confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity…” Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?” Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don’t have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
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Comment by karen on 1 September 2007:
The piece could have a little more substance and more testimony to it.
Personally i love white men, i have, since the age of 17 and am in my late thirties. Now i seem to be attracted to white men with euro accents. For a girl that was born and raised on the isle of Jamaica, it seems unreal. Growing up i would only see them on tv shows. But “Coming to America” changed all that.
Last , but not least, when wht men tells me that oh i love blk women, then i would say, well tell me what u love about us, they would usually say the cliches, such as, your skin, your figure blah, blah, i was tired of hearing all that nonsense, now i challenge them, and ask them to tell me something with substance and meaning. I didnt want to hear the everyday shallow description. Because we are more than skin color and booty size.
Comment by xxnjxy on 1 September 2007:
I have to agree on the responses , and please karen don’t meet my spelling with scrutiny ( I am from th same “aisle ” as you may–Jamaica.
But for the most part white gents I have met are ususally looking for a black female based on a sexual thing–junglle fever maybe!
But in truth it works both ways , for black man -white female couples, sexual attraction among other things.
I am of the thinkinig if a white gent seriously dates a black female she would have to be well educated/polished upbringing or financially stable (and I do mean stable) and in his eyes be the flashy trophy type to take around for the world to see for bragging rights, but which perosn wouldn’t want that ?
Truth is every guy out there black or white has their own reason for matching up with someone outside their kind, what led them to it, i suggest we ask our men in question individually !
I might send my messages quite shallow but I’m here to comment honestly not to upset anyone, enjoy
Comment by karen on 1 September 2007:
xxnjxy dont worry anyone from yaad i awright with me, do worries man.
Comment by Salome on 3 September 2007:
I agree with the posts above. Poor thing. I’m a business writer and all the grammar and structural issues jumped out at once. Not his/her lucky day, huh?
I definately commend the writer for making the effort to write and bring up this topic. That’s more than what most people will do.
I’ve often dated outside of my race. I dated more when I got older for some reason or another. The men I’ve dated have run the gamut. Some have dated a few black woman while others date black women exclusively. I used to ask why they date black women and I received the usual responses too. Then I realized that I couldn’t answer this question myself. So I’ve stopped asking. Basically, people date the person that they find interesting and attractive at the time.
Comment by Ed on 4 September 2007:
I feel Slome has the right out look. I have dated out of my race more as I have gotten older also. We all have our reasons and maybe they are all similiar. I find women of color interesting and yes very attractive. I found that for the most part they are very aware of what is going on in the world which makes for good coversation. They are very loyal and devoted to their man. Dating is more difficult as we get older. Whom we choose to date or what color they are is not revelent to what and who will make us happy.
Comment by DENNIS on 10 September 2007:
The main reason I date black women is because I am attracted to dark skin women. I love tan to dark skin women. I am also attracted to Asian women. So attractive! Most white women I know are so white they look sickly.
Comment by Ed 2 on 13 September 2007:
Obviously, there is a physical attraction…that’s true of any dating circumstance. However, there is a rainbow pallette of differences of black women, as there is with all races. Light, dark, tall, petite, the list is, while not infinite, extensive. But obviously (with the exception of those looking strictly for sex), any lasting relationship needs more to build on then just appearance. Again, that’s a uniquely individual set of characteristics that can’t be nailed down to a simple black/white distinction. As to what creates attraction, I’d have to say that probably has as many variables. Interracial attraction may even have the cultural taboo as part of it. And Madison Avenue, who tells us what is sexy, and what to wear, drive, drink, etc., to be that.
Personally, I think it came from the fact that my first girlfriend (not first sexual partner) was black. She was beautiful but more importantly, I think, she was smart, personable, athletic (high on the list in grade school), funny and had a poetic soul. And she was built like a “brick house”…I’m kidding.
Wherever it came from, for me it is a preference, not an absolute. But if I’m going to have someone to spend the rest of my life with shouldn’t it be someone I have a preference for..? (pardon my grammar).
Comment by manowine on 14 September 2007:
I’ve had several woman ask me why I date women of color… and I ask them right back why do you want to date a white man? That stalemate usually forces us to talk about our similarities rather than our differences. There is no good reason to exclude the woman of color or the white guy from your dating patterns. If you exclude them then you are missing a significant section of the population. Not to mention the high number of highly educated professional women represented here.
Comment by rich2112 on 15 September 2007:
For myself, the reason I’ve dated outside of my race is attraction. But that’s all so why I’ve dated white women. It’s about attraction and who knows why any one finds someone attractive? I’ve been attracted to women purely by looks and some just by attitude or a combo of both. So who knows? Or better yet, Why Not?
Comment by littlered48 on 17 September 2007:
For me, the reason I’m attracted to white men, I do not really know! I simply find the sexy.
Comment by GRWNNSXY1 on 17 September 2007:
MY BOYFRIEND OF THE LAST TWO YEARS IS WHITE. COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO DATED BLACK MEN ONLY, NOT BECAUSE IT WAS MY CHOICE, BUT BECAUSE WHITE GUYS NEVER TRIED TO TALK TO ME, SO I IGNORED THEM. MY LOVE IS 6′1″,BLONDE, WITH CRYSTAL BLUES, GETS BURNED BEFORE HE GETS TANNED AND I WOULD HAVE NEVER THOUGHT HE WAS INTERESTED IN ME. IN FACT, THE FIRST THREE MONTHS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP I SPENT ASKING,”WHY’D YOU FINALLY STEP TO ME?” AND HIS ANSWER SUMS UP EVERYONES ANSWERS. HE SAID,”BECAUSE YOU GET MY JOKES…” IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH COLOR, JUST LIKE IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE, OR EYE COLOR, OR RELIGION. YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH WHOMEVER YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH. LOVE FREELY AND WITHOUT PREDJUDICE!!
Comment by tommy on 26 September 2007:
Im am italian but was born in brooklyn NY. I have traveled the united states and observed that black women are very open minded and independent. That is what attracts me to them They are naturally beautiful, street smart, culturally educated by their upbrings of their traditional family values. THat is what attracts me to them. Especially island black women and hispanic women have traditional culture values installed from their families over the centuries which makes a perfect wife.
I cherish black women and would do anything for them no matter what if they show me the love and respect. Since i am italian i would cook them any home traditional Italian meal with italian desserts.
Comment by Salome on 26 September 2007:
Dang Tommy. You’re going to have all kinds of women chasing you down (me included) if you keep that up. Italian man making Italian food? Count me in!
Comment by Dee on 28 September 2007:
Helloooooooo Tommy!!!!!
Comment by jayzgurl on 29 September 2007:
Tommy, cooking aside, I’m kind of curious as to the “traditional family values” that meet your requirements for a wife that we latinas and island women display. You’re not referring to the stereotypical barefoot and pregnant type of women, right??? If so, we do have so much more to offer any man.
Comment by Jeanette on 29 September 2007:
Hi Tommy et all
I love italian food.And i am almost putting myself in the race right after Salome, but I met someone on this site and he is just wonderful. though American he makes mean italian food. You should meet and exchange ideas :). I dated an italian once and boy was he a great cook.
I have been dting white guys since i was 20. in between i did try to go back to my own race but i guess my inner mind was made up and soon enough i was searching again for a white man who i would love and be there for. Nothing against the brothers but i do find the white man more sensible to a woman’s needs emotionally. (My opinion).
And hey, grammer or english we are not all english mothertongue and mistakes are excused mine included.
Comment by Teri on 30 September 2007:
I don’t know but I need one of them!
Comment by Michael on 30 September 2007:
I have wondered about this exact issue about myself many times. I can say that in general, I just love women, but I find my attention being grabbed by black women all of the time. I have come to the realization that the initial attraction is simply a preference. Just as some people that have preferences for a certain hair colour, or height, or or or… There are many other body characteristics that attract my eye as well, and speaking solely from the initial attraction level, those other items need to be there as well. Simply having black skin is not going to mean that I am attracted to them.
Once you do get past the mere attraction level, for me, it all comes back to compatibility. It does not mater the race, age, look of the lady, if there are not all of the other items that make for a match, colour alone will not carry it.
P.S. I might not know Italian cooking, but I love to cook too….
Comment by Jeanette on 30 September 2007:
Hey Michael,
Since you love to cook, there are queues forming you know.
Have a nice week y’all
Jeanette
Comment by phatkitty on 1 October 2007:
Tommy, you are funny, your are pimping yourself on the net (lol). I am an islander and am not sure what u mean by family and cultural values. LIke jayzgurl, i hope u didnt mean “barefoot and prego”. I know we as islanders are very proud and pushes education at all cause. So i hope that is what u meant. I wont harp on this any longer, just needed a clearer explanation.
Whatever reason u love someone, just keep on loving, be it blk or other, because after all the BS, that is all some of us have at the end of the day.
irie man, one luv
Comment by Marketing Bill on 13 November 2007:
I agree with most of the prior messages. At least for this guy XXNJXY is really off base. I’ve romanced black women since 1964 when I was a poor Sailor to now that I am doing very well financially. Trophy girls are for boys with the developement of a piss ant. When I was 17 and poor I was hooking up with girls like me. Nice, cute black girls that were fun to be with, none were scalps on my belt. My daughter’s mother was a beautiful deveoping black girl when we hooked up. I was 15 years older and afraid of the differences in our ages and level of developement.
Now that I am 62 and ooing OK of course I want a smart successfull woman who happens to float my boat physically. I have paid my dues. There are good looking women who have paid theirs.
Comment by dark1ande on 13 November 2007:
Too bad I hate desserts .
Comment by Gary on 15 November 2007:
I have always found it hard to put into words what black women do to me. I immediately get a feeling of attraction inside. After talking with a black woman I can always tell that she is special and does not mind being treated like a lady. I know someday when I find my black wife I will treat her that way and I guarantee that she will treat me right too. Are you out there?????????
Comment by Foxfuzzy on 20 November 2007:
I’ve always found it easier to go out with white men. Have not a specific idea why, but if it ain’t broke, why try to fix it? The white guys I’ve dated have always treated me like a lady and any woman can appreciate a man who makes her feel good. And guys, just so as you know, I do love getting cooked for!!
Comment by Tstar on 21 November 2007:
I have a family with a white man. I used to date exclusively black. I find the difference is that in my experience, there seems to be a larger variety in personalities among white men than black men. The many black men I dated only considered going to a club or to a small time restaurant a good time. Only one took me around his family, and most of all, they’d go out of town to different states and never let me know until they get back. Also, my ex-stepfather admitted to my mother once that he didn’t get with a white woman because he didn’t make enough money. This scenario reminded me of the majority of black male athletes who cross over or marry extremely light-skinned black women.
Comment by cassie212 on 21 November 2007:
Hey! all you guys here make yourself seem like Gods… I wish i found someone for meeeeee!
Comment by Virgo on 22 November 2007:
I believe at times some white men wonder/fantasize about black women & the ’stereotypes’ that are associated w/us. But, bottom line….being a proud/beautiful sista…I believe that we come in so many different shapes, sizes & tones that it’s like a kid in a candy store! Who wouldn’t love that!?
Comment by CaribPrinces on 23 November 2007:
Why white men love black women? I think the answer is very simple. People love the best things. And white men are finally starting to realise (after having a little taste of course). that black women are actually better than white women in many aspects. We have beautiful skin, athletic shaped bodies all the things that white women do not have. We age better as well. Just like the Asians even in our 40’s and 50’s we still have no wrinkles! For centuries the white woman has been put on a pedastle higher than that of the black woman, even higher than the Asian woman or any other color or culture for that reason. NOW white men are travelling and working alongside these women and going to far away places like Asia and Africa and India and are seeing that these women are even more beautiful, even more intelligent and even more sensual than white women. So of course the white men who are the brave ones are making the change while some other are still in denial on the true beauty inside and out of these other women. These are the ones who remain racist, closed and/or scared to go outside their race.
So, to answer the question, the world is changing and becoming more global and the media etc is not only showing the white women as the queen of all in intelligence and beauty BUT now other women are getting their share as well so naturally the world is now seeing the true beauty of these black women and naturally want a piece of the pie! It’s about time..they tried to say we were not beautiful or intelligent but now we are among the top. Here’s to all the beautiful black as well as Asian women who for so long were not consedered beautiful or intelligent and are now giving the white women a run for their money AND ALSO taking their men!! ps- we just want the successful white men!! We’ve come too far to go back now!
Comment by LaShada on 23 November 2007:
I’ve always found myself attracted to white men since I was like 5yrs. I just knew I would grow to marry Crocket and not Tubbs(LOL) . Even as a teen I dated white guys but later stopped because of all the rage it always caused.I grew up in mostly black areas so it wasn’t accepted. Thus, I found myself dating black men that I didn’t find all that attractive. For me it has always been a preference it is what I want and like. I have a son with a blackman and I teach my son to like/date whoever want!
Comment by jayzgurl on 25 November 2007:
I talked to my boyfriend who is Irish-American (6′2″,blonde, blue-eyed, SWAT officer) and he told me that (and I quote) “…white women all manage to look the same. Oh, Sure they may have different hair colors, but that’s about it. Black women have golden skin (that’s not artificial) or pale skin or mahoghany skin, they can be stick thin or voluptuous. They’re gorgeous to look at and the way they move is rhythmic and sensual…” he went on to say,”everything about them says ‘confidence’. They love hard and long (purely not sexual). When they love you…they love you (stand by your man!)…”
Need I say more?! White girls…take notes!!
Comment by bill on 26 November 2007:
I see many of you are very uneducated! There is only one race, its called the Human race. When you speak of different races of People it shows your lack of scientific education. You are 50 years behind the times if you don’t know that all the humans on the earth came from Africa by now. I feel sorry for you..get some education. Your back in the day when people thought different people evolved from alone in different places, we as anthropologists now know this is not the case.. do some reading and go back to college..you may learn something new!
Comment by bill on 26 November 2007:
I agree with the posts above. Poor thing. I’m a business writer and all the grammar and structural issues jumped out at once. Not his/her lucky day, huh?
I definately commend the writer for making the effort to write and bring up this topic. That’s more than what most people will do.
I’ve often dated outside of my race. I dated more when I got older for some reason or another
what do you date? neanderthals? For someone who thinks Modern Humans come in different races I wouldn’t worry about spelling, I would worry about sounding like an idiot.
Comment by bill on 26 November 2007:
I feel Slome has the right out look. I have dated out of my race more as I have gotten older also. We all have our reasons and maybe they are all similiar. I find women of color interesting and yes very attractive. I found that for the most part they are very aware of what is going on in the world which makes for good coversation. They are very loyal and devoted to their man. Dating is more difficult as we get older. Whom we choose to date or what color they are is not revelent to what and who will make us happy.
WHAT DID YOU DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE? A CHIMP? YOU SOUND LIKE A MORON YOU FOOL! ALL HUMANS ARE THE SAME RACE. LEARN SOME SCIENCE
Comment by CaribPrinces on 26 November 2007:
Mr. Bill or whoever you are. You say we all need some education but I think we are all more educated than you! Quite frankly I think you are schitzophrenic because you have a very strange and agressive writing style in one response but in the next it is calm?? Very strange.
I also have a degree in Anthropology as well as (more useful degrees) and so therefore know about “scientific education” as you put it. YOU ARE THE IDIOT.. WE ALL KNOW ALL HUMANS ARE THE SAME RACE, THE HUMAN RACE…But you are missing the point. The question is “why white men love black woman”. Whether you accept it or not there are cultural differences among people of different races and although you may see that as a threatening thing it is a reality and not necessarily a bad thing. We choose who we can relate to…People are different based on their background. You seem to be a closed minded Anthropologist. Any good Anthropologist would tell you that a human is made up of BOTH biology and his/her cultural background. And who cares if you are a business writer…there is no need to be so critical. I am sure some of the people in this forum are lawyers, doctors, entrepreneurs etc…This is not the place to be critical about someones writing style!!! You really need to work on yourself…it’s people like you why others are afraid to join websites like this because of fear of meeting some complete fool and idiot! On the other hand I am probably the most intelligent and beautiful woman you would never meet! From the Caribbean, went to Harvard, studied Anthropology, then got a law degree as Anthropology was not geting me a job or good career, learned French and German, am an artist in free time and dancer etc etc….You on the other hand sound like an old fool who needs to catch up with the times AND/OR move out of your TRAILOR PARK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Foxfuzzy on 26 November 2007:
Well said, CaribPrincess. I was going to call Mr. Bill a dickless, pussyface loser and tell him to get freakin a life, but I guess we gotta be civilized. Ya know?
Comment by Salome on 26 November 2007:
Bill, quite trying to flame everyone. If you don’t like the subject matter and you think that everyone is beneath you then leave. There is no need to insult a group of people who managed to stay on topic. It’s immature and says plenty about your character.
Comment by nocolor on 27 November 2007:
I’ve been to a lot of websites regarding interracal romance. I’ve looked and read the whole gammit, heard the pros and cons. The bottom line and I’m speaking from just a little experinece… I think initially we are attracted by looks, color, sexual desire(in any order). But at the end of the day when the lights are low or out its what our heart feels, it’s what our minds tell us and when they come together the only thing that matters is do I love him/her? Will I put up with them will I defend them, will I love them till death?? That’s what we must all look at not the color or the attraction but do I really love you (that’s the question before me). “I Corthians 13:13 But now faith, hope and love, aibde(live) these three; but the greatest of these is love.” W/out it the relationship is false and highly unlikey to work no matter what color you are.
Comment by Elsa on 1 December 2007:
Ok Ok where are the white guys? See so many of them here in NYC but some how can’t get connected. I am from the caribbean and seem to be attracted to whie guys. Why? Not that I am judgemental of black guys, but I honetly think I pretty much enjoy the things a white guy might more enjoy doing. Like a broadway show, a tennis game, baseball game, walk around the city or just go bowling. I can’t stand that barbecue stuff all the time. Once in a while YES! I have dated black guys have one daughter. Family structre, in my opinion, white guys are generally more commited. Again that is my opinion. I think black guys are not open to change or to trying new things. By the way I am with Bill on one thing!! We are all part of the human race BUT I also want a guy who at least knows how to speak and is aware of what is going on in the world.
Comment by Virgo on 2 December 2007:
Elsa, I think a few things you said hit home for me. I like trying new things that aren’t always considered “black”. I like hiking, rock climbing, wine tasting, art galleries, plays & quite a few other ‘artsy’ activities. My experience has been that rarely do you see ‘brothas’ participating in those activities (sad..but true). White men opt to try these things & are open to trying new things. Black, asian, latino, etc… are just as entitled to participating in those activities as we(black people) are, so why they don’t? I don’t know.
I’m turned off by the ‘what it do’, ‘holla at ya boy’ mentality & would like to hold a genuine, intelligent conversation about current events w/a brotha but, it’s rare nowadays to find one who isn’t concerned about what others will think if he steps out of his comfort zone & try something new or ‘white’ as it was described once.
Who knows, maybe that’s the way it’s supposed to be to force us to open our eyes & look @ different types of people & bring us together……….
Comment by CaribPrinces on 2 December 2007:
Hi LaShaun,
There may be all sorts of reasons why they are intimidated. However, it could also be just a cultural reason as to them having a different approach to coming over to you. I agree with your observation that most white guys WILL NOT in most situations approach a black woman. It also makes me question their strength and courage! However, when I was going out I had no problem…white men used to come up to me and ask me if I wanted a drink or to dance. I think however, that white men are more strategic planners in the dating scene…they have a certain way of coming on to you that tends to be LESS DIRECT than black men and more calculating so they don’t appear that they really want you. It’s a bit superficial but it’s a cultural thing. For example, a black man may say “damn baby you got a nice ass” or whatever and a white man may say “do you come here often or can I get you a drink (by the way brothas never buy you a drink, they usually just want to work up a sweat on the dance floor and get a free feel)! Sorry, that’s just my observation. Or the white guy may say, I’m just here with friends after work etc….but he may be thinking the same thing.
I found that if in a bar for example, I had to position myself close to the white guys and smile a lot, be cute and say something witty to get their attention in a non-direct way. It’s also good to go with a white woman not as gorgeous or got it going on as yourself so they can see the difference and ask YOU out! I’ve found that they don’t seem to be so intimidated to approach you if you are with a white woman. LOTS of white guys have come up to chat with me and/or ask me out if I am with my white female friends. They know then that you don’t have a problem with white people and so they are less intimidated. HOWEVER, if I am with another sista, NO CHANCE. If the mild flirting doesn’t work then they are just not interested, too scared or stupid to get it. Then it’s not even worth it.
Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!
Comment by Elsa on 2 December 2007:
You said it perfectly. I do agree that white men are more inclined to do the things that we both seem to enjoy. I asked the friend of mine the other day if he would join me to a broadway show and his response was “that’s white people stuff”…………..I am so tired of that nonsense. I believe in the end we must be with that person whose company we enjoy. For me its that person who is family oriented, enjoy doing the things I mentioned and has his own hobbies that I am eager to try. If it is White guy so be it!! I have absolutely no problem with that. Just want to meet someone nice BUT I have no intentions on trying to change anyone. As for the brother as you called them, I am so done trying!!
Comment by nocolor on 5 December 2007:
I think after reading this again there is one thing that rings true about a black woman, as a cultre here in America from the begining of time in America and even before that in Egypt we have lost a lot we have watched and are still watching our familes in some case dispersed but yet and still we perservere, at black women we have God given strenghth that matches no other so yes that may be a turn on to our white male conterparts but let it not be a deterent. Let us take that and walk w/it. Even if one may never approach in our hearts of hearts we know we have the strenght to move on and hopefully we have the sense to know we can turn that burden over to the One that can handle it. But let us always remember to get beyon the superfical and remember to accept each other. Let me ask this will any of us date a white man in a wheel chair, a damaged soldier of war, an ugly white guy just ’cause he’t white??
Comment by SoulAmbient on 10 December 2007:
When I came across this Blog, I was curious to know how many Black Women truly felt the way I do about being receptive to dating outside “the norm”. Growing up, I was always looked at as “the strange one” due to my artistic musical taste and what type pof Man I found to be attractive as a young girl. My preference in Men has always been universal. I’ve dated and even married a Black Man, but again, I simply was never really (personality wise) attracted to them. Now this statement is not to put the Black Man down, because I do believe that there are good Black Men out there, seeking to commit themselves to a Black Woman. But for me, I will confess (as it is my right) to choose who I want to be with and I am exclusive to dating outside my Race. It is about Taboo for me, I am proud to be the object of desire, passion & intellect to a Man that can truly appreciate a Woman outside of anothers tunel vision. What is there NOT to love about the Black Queen. We make some of the most beautiful babies!
Comment by geneandthem on 10 December 2007:
CaribPrinces some times it almost seem like you are really hung up on the whole Black White thing? You say THEY so much it almost feels like it could be racism. Although you do seem very intelligent and And like a great person, I think you try to Break down everything to much. “Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!” They They They?? Also I have never one time in my life been intimidated by a black woman! What youdontbelievefatmeatgreasy? I love a Nice, pleasant and intelligent woman period but that has nothing to do with white or black??? I don’t know it just feels weird! I know my self, and I have never approached a black woman based off of who she is standing next to? Black, White, Purple or blue! And I would never describe black woman as THEY THEY THEY!! Or any race in general. I am 31 years of age, Half Italian and Half white. My first Kiss was with a black girl in the 2nd grade! My first play Girlfriend in the Third grade was black. My first Real Girlfriend in 9th grade all the way through high school was black, we were together for 5 years. And every woman since then was black. I have never had a problem approaching black woman. And as far as me approaching any woman with a disrespectful line such as “YOU GOT A FAT ASS BABY” Would not happen in any life For me. I respect all woman, and really just do not speak like that. I think black woman are the most Beautiful woman ever, I could not even fathom being with a white woman. Hell I never even seen a white woman naked in real life. And only kissed my grandmother on the Cheek so that the clostes to kissing I have ever been! The other day on the site I met a woman We chatted a few times, then out of the blue, I was right in the middle of asking her something, like “SO WHERE ALL HAVE YOU TRAVELED AND WHERE ALL WOULD YOU LIKE TO TRAVEL” After about a min I seen her typing and she says ” WHY DO YOU DATE BLACK WOMAN?” “OR WHY DO YOU EVEN LIKE THEM” I was like WOW, Where did that come from here we are talking about Traveling, and out of nowhere this question pops up killed the whole mood. I tried to answer but it is just hard to break it down, I cant really place my finger on it specifically. But she would not let it go like she was interrogating me, the Final blow was “WHAT ARE YOU NOT COMFORTABLE IN YOUR WHITE SKIN, OR WITH BEING WITH YOUR OWN RACE” I was amazed! I have never felt that it was that serious of a deal and for her as like many in here it seems to really be a big deal! I just feel like it is not a important issue, Why any one likes anyone is unexplainable. Attraction is something that is just human, and has no Wordily break down. It either is or isn’t. All I know is I’m me and I feel I’m a great catch! I can cook to much to name, Italian, Mexican, Even soul! Bake, make homemade candy, hell I can even CAN Food, like veggies, and make homemade jelly’s. I dress well, I have a great job I’m clean for a guy, and really overall a good down to earth person! I never walk around with racial questions or break down any part of my actions in a black or white manner. I never speak of any color of person in a racial slang, or the whole THEY, THEM, stuff that is going on here! I do not know but all this just gives a very racist feeling, and really I try to distance my self away from that its like negative energy! The bottom line is I LOVE BLACK WOMAN! EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM!!! and yea they are all very different, just like any other color of woman. I love skin, eyes, smile, hair and all! This will never change and will always be!
Ashley,
Comment by nocolor on 10 December 2007:
Well Ashley,
Finally someone who gets you like who you like just ’cause that’s the heart God gave you. I feel like you do although I have never dated outside my cultre background… well no really. What’s the differnce… when you’re with the person you like and you give that person a kiss and you close your eyes when you kiss them can you tell what color they are when you kiss them. Didn’t think so you look past the color of ones skin, the neighborhood they were raised in then prick them with a pen I bet they bleed red just like you. Hope one day our paths can cross I don’t like to cook sounds like you do.
Comment by ChaiBlend on 11 December 2007:
I don’r find anything wrong with dating outside of my ethnicity. In fact, it is truly a blessing to be able to unite on love and not segragating because of skin color…Segragation is man-made not God made. Soul mates unite from inside not out.
I do have a question though - where are all the non-superficial (deep) vanilla brothers in Southern California?
~CB
Comment by geneandthem on 11 December 2007:
Well hello nocolor! I am sorry but I have read your response to me many times, and still really, I do not understand what you are saying? I’m truly sorry it just doesn’t make sense to me? “”who gets you like who you like just ’cause that’s the heart God gave you. I feel like you do although I have never dated outside my cultre background… well no really.” and please do not think I am saying something negative I just don’t understand? And really I do agree with you in some ways, but for me black is comfy! It is home and it is all i know! It is a preference, and I just love it! This will not change, I know if I close my eyes and it is a white woman it will be different! TO ME!!! Maybe not you or someone else but for me it will! Just like I don’t like Ice cream, most everyone else does! I should not be interrogated by everyone I meet because I like or do not like ICE cream! I don’t know. I go about my day to day life everyday thinking about my culture and background, and Haitian culture and background, and African culture and background, and Dominican culture and background and Japanese culture and back ground! I don’t just stick to my White Culture and heartage, and it is not becasue I do not like my white skin or people! I have a thirst for knowledge! I love travel, and I love all cultures and want to experience all of them! I love people of all colors! And ethnic backgrounds! I love my White skin, just like I love your skin what ever color it may be! Sometimes I just wish I could find my partner in Crime, and cast ourselves away on a small island someplace to be away from all the bull! Because I never think about all of these racial problems, topics, or what ever you want to call them, everyday I see people, different colors, sizes, and shapes! I do not see them, they, or those,! I really just feel that there is not a racist bone in my body there are good people and there are bad! And maybe some in between! The only way all these issues can end would be to stop talking about them so much! all this media, blogs, and everything just keeps all this stuff brewing! I feel like I am just blabbering now, anyways, to all have a great week! All I can say is I LOVE MY BLACK WOMAN,,, WAIT, NO NO I AM IN LOVE WITH BLACK WOMAN AND IT WILL NEVER CHANGE I KISS THE GROUND THAT YOU WALK ON!!!
Ashley,
Comment by nocolor on 11 December 2007:
Ahsley, Calm down all I was really saying was I’m glad you think the way you think, you like who you like and that you have the ability to see past color. But most of us have been so ingrained on the color issue the social status all the dumb stuff that at the end of the day really makes no difference. What matters is at the end of the crazy day with the crazy stuff and people you can share it with someone else be they black, asian, mexican,christian, catholic or jew. Believe me when the time is right we will both meet someone who is right for us, you a postive black woman, me anyone outside my ethnicity. You are right about one thing the blogs can be good or bad. Their just that the opnions of those that blog, opnions not fact. Have a great day.
Comment by joey on 13 December 2007:
simple due to upbring blk women have amatur male side and can be you friend and lover………. the ultimate sex godess - full lips and unbridled passion
there are no other women
talk tome at email
joey older Italian get
Comment by CanadianBLK on 14 December 2007:
Caribprincess!! You really sound classy on your remarks to Bill…He’s got a point (Although there is no need to insult non-anthropology educated people). You sound very conceded…and not too clear on your anthropological understanding of the race concept…If you are truly an anthropology graduate, you should know that race (a social concept) and culture are two different concepts…your attacks on Bill and your acknowledgement of mainstream ideologies on those two concepts, brings me to question where you’ve obtained your degree…
BTW: Race is a concept fabricated by white supremacy hegemony to justify the mistreatment of groups of people deemed inferior and to maintain the Eurocentric ideology of the superiority of ‘white race’. This ideology gave way to the justification of slavery. Bill is right!! There is only one race: The Human race!!!
P.S. Je parle aussi le Francais…for bragging rights! LOL
Comment by CanadianBLK on 14 December 2007:
Geneandthem…I agree with everything you’ve said…makes me wonder: Are you Canadian? You sure sound like one…LOL (That’s a compliment BTW)
Comment by nocolor on 14 December 2007:
joey Says:
simple due to upbring blk women have amatur male side and can be you friend and lover………. the ultimate sex godess - full lips and unbridled passion
there are no other women
Would you marry a black woman or is it just for her Friendship full lips or unbridled passion. After that what is there you are seeking from a black woman???? I know not all white woman have full lips the rest I’m a little foggy on. Shouldn’t it just be because you care and love her inside and out not just for the physcial.
Comment by geneandthem on 14 December 2007:
LOL! No sorry I am a American! Born in California! Grew up in Texas, and now live in Dallas to be exact. I know peoples views, and opinions are there’s and everyone is entitled to them, but I just feel that if you are truly into interracial dating. There should be no Questions, or debate over it! Breaking everything down to the most minute level just seems like uncertainty to me. I never think twice about how I date! I never have second thoughts, it almost seems like if I did hesitate like that then I would really be unsure of dating that way! If I had all these crazy opinions like Caribprincess it would almost seem like I was fronting or lying to trick someone into getting with me only to not be that person. I’m sure that she will take offense to that but really if you read what she writes, she basically says to run game on white guys and act like you are a nice sweet smart person at first to snare them, then you got them???? I don’t understand it! I approach every black woman the same! As my self, I do not front! I want who ever I find to be interested and fall in love with me for me, not a front I put on just to trick them into liking me? Because if I have to do that, then that person is not for me anyway! I’m really curious to see what you look like Caribprincess? Because like I said, I have no problems approaching black woman anywhere I go, that can be from a fancy bar, to a mall, to the hood, or a wine tasting event! Which brings up the real question what is it about you that you are not being approached by white men, that you have to “”"”Yes, they are intimidated by us so need a bit of coaxing but once they feel you are nice, pleasant and intelligent they will open up and the world is your oyster baby!”"”"??????? I am not intimidated by any man or woman! If you are with a man and you are in public, weather it be your boyfriend or your brother I would not approach you due to a respect thing! If you are not attractive to me in a way that I like more then likely I will not approach you! If I see you doing something I do not like in a woman more then likely I will not approached you! But who you are with has nothing to do with it! And if you are not really intelligent, or nice, or pleasant, please don’t front like you are! I don’t want to be hustled! And more then likely I have enough street savvy to see threw some BS like that anyway if it is just a front!
Ashley,
Comment by QK1 on 16 December 2007:
I am a very well educated, intelligent and good looking black woman. I do not know why but it is almost exclusively white men who want to date me. There is one at the moment who is almost going crazy because of the fixation he has about me ie sex a with curvaceous black woman with big soft lips - his words and problem not mine
When I date a man, first and foremost I look for intelligence, a good sense of humour and the ability to string a couple of sentences together 
Cheers QK1
Comment by andrew on 16 December 2007:
im white and honestly i grew up in a black area. i guess i just growd up likein black girls. they aint as timid and scared. lol and if u got to agrue with them they aint as soft. ya theres the physical and ya sex is better but personality wise they can be just as much ur boy as ur lover. lol and i like to see it piss white girls off when im with a black girl. shows alot of white girls they aint the shit like they think they r.
Comment by paula on 16 December 2007:
Im a black single woman who just wants to find a decent man, black or white. I just got out of a relationship with a white guy who I thought could possibly be the one. My job requires me to look professional and I enjoy looking good for myself and my man. The only problem is, is that he takes no pride in his appearance. I dated him for his mind, but as time progressed, we started to go out and be around other people he was proud to “show me off” but there were times i was totally embarassed by him by the way he looked. He says Im being materialistic, but that is simply taking pride in your appearance. I truly like this guy but his hygiene was awful and of course he got offended when I addressed this issue with him. He said there are women who like guys who dont take care of themselves. I said theyre certainly not black women. Im curious black women out there, is this true? would you date a white man who wears no cologne, front teeth are brown from smoking and never wears anything but ripped jeans and t-shirts…all the time and is 42 y/o. I look good for him all the time, I get nothing. Please tell me all white men are not like this. Am I wrong? Please tell me I am.
P.W
Comment by Salome on 16 December 2007:
I have a friend of mine who is white and she complains of her boyfriend being like that all the time. I don’t think it has anything to do with race. I think it is just personal choice. That is how this guy chooses to present himself to the world. I dated a white guy who was an impeccable dresser. He looked fabulous, looked way younger than his age, and smelled wonderful. Again, personal choice.
Comment by Virgo on 17 December 2007:
Paula, I feel for you girl. My opinion is..if you take care of yourself & your appearance means something to you…..(white or black) if those are the qualities you’d like in a mate….except NOTHING LESS!! Bottom line….Life is hard enough. We don’t need the person who is supposed to ‘add’ to our life in a positive way, there to bring us down, cause strife or direct us down a negative path!
Comment by josuf on 20 December 2007:
Of al the blogs i have i have read on this site, they all pretty much repeat the same tired mantras.I’ll continue to search for a blog that will enrich beyond shallow recitable and rehearsed diatribe found here.”PEACE TO YOUR AGENDAS”.
Comment by geneandthem on 20 December 2007:
Hey josuf if you have you have you have not found something that interest you here why don’t why don’t you bump it on down and beat your feet up out of here! Why even grace us with you perfect blogging presence? Kick rocks!
Comment by black&proud34 on 23 December 2007:
First of all let me say this I real don’t care if you are a white person that grew up in a black society that doesn’t you have to date a black man. Secondally, for those african american that feel that they dont care if there man is black or white it does matter because yes we are humans but we are culturaly and ehtnicty different , Iwoud date a white man ever in my life for many reasons I don’t find them charming in my eyes at all, but for a white lady comes an say to me I love his dark complexion that is discrimating you don’t know one real thing us african american woman find in are dark educated black men. Also caucasion white males and females be your selve stop trying to be black all african americans haven’t grew up in the ghetto nor do we speak in the manner, that like I trying to be you, this wouldnever happen.my truful thoughts
Comment by black&proud34 on 23 December 2007:
First of all let me say this I real don’t care if you are a white person that grew up in a black society that doesn’t you have to date a black man. Secondally, for those african american that feel that they dont care if there man is black or white it does matter because yes we are humans but we are culturaly and ehtnicty different , Iwoudn’t
date a white man ever in my life for many reasons I don’t find them charming in my eyes at all, but for a white lady comes an say to me I love his dark complexion that is discrimating you don’t know one real thing us african american woman find in are dark educated black men. Also caucasion white males and females be your selve stop trying to be black all african americans haven’t grew up in the ghetto nor do we speak in the manner, that like I trying to be you, this wouldnever happen.my truful thoughts
Comment by geneandthem on 24 December 2007:
black&proud34 WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT??? Read what you said most of it does not make sense? And why would you even post in interracial threads? Obviously something interest you about that aspect of dating! To me it sounds like you are racist! You just broke down The description of “CHARMING” and disqualified all white men from being charming? That is a racist remark? If you say that a man is not charming, and he just happened to be white that’s not racism, but you said all white men are not charming? Charming is a quality! And if you really believe that all white men in the world are not charming I feel sorry for you! There are charming men and woman of all colors and races! Just like there are men and woman that are not! But you can not describe one whole race as not being something or being something! If you are truly black & proud, take pride in what you say! I could say (wow look at your post, did you even proofread it before you posted?) Like you! From how you are and how you see things, I could say all black woman are stupid, just like you say all white men are not charming! But then I would be like you and I would be racist! Instead I leave color and race out of it and say, “wow this person is clueless, and it has nothing to do with color!” If you are into interracial dating please join us for debate! If you are racist go find someplace dealing with your type of interest to post in! The Title of this thread is!!!!!!!
Why white men love the black woman!
White and Black being descriptive words not racial comments!
And it could not be “Why white men love White woman”
That would be a non interracial thread!
And for you!!!! You need to look for “Why black woman love Black men!” That’s your blog not this one!
Ashley,
Comment by Nuthin Fancy on 25 December 2007:
Well, I’m just a country boy from the east coast.I’ve always been atracted to black women but until last week, I always feared rejection if I asked for a date. This friday I’m going on a date with a beautiful, classy lady, who is interested in me, even though we are from different ends of town. God makes beautiful women in all flavors!
Comment by Caramel54 on 1 January 2008:
Thirty-five years ago, White men were attracted to me when I wasn’t even aware of it. Thirty-five years ago, in my small home town, interracial dating was not acceptable. Now there are at least (5) interracial marriages in my family. I have basically always got along with everyone, I did not then and I do not now see “color”. During the last (10) years I have dated interracially, so I say “to each his own”. The same God made us all.
Comment by nocolor on 1 January 2008:
Amen to that!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by phatkitty on 2 January 2008:
To black and proud 34, i agree with geneandthem. What the hell!!!! girl you need to stay off the bottle or take a creative writing class in English. I dont know if your second language is English, but you write/talk like it is. If so, i understand, but you still need to proof read what you write before you post your message. Quite frankly, it is very hard to read writings that seem like “nonsense.” And ontop of that, you will get a lot of negative criticism.
Comment by Salome on 2 January 2008:
I co-sign to the above.
Comment by Cfreeman on 3 January 2008:
I’m a white dude from Dallas TX, and find black girls the sexy women out there. Not just for their amazing bodies, but because of their mind and spirit. Black women are the strongest of women. But the problem I have is finding a BG that wants a WG thats not hood. It seems everytime I meet a new girl within ten mins. I can tell she has no interest cuz I not hood enough for her. And i won’t pretend to be something I’m not. So are there any black girls from Dallas TX that can tell me where to go to meet a black girl looking for more in Dallas TX. please and Thanx
Comment by geneandthem on 4 January 2008:
Well I live in Dallas Tx, I have never had a problem looking for or finding Black woman in Dallas. In fact most of the black woman I have dated are mos def not looking for hoods! Where are you going to find woman? You need to Check out Spike on Monday nights! Its in Mockingbird center, by where the old Virgin records was. On mondays it is Neo-Soul night! Never spotted any hoods in there! Now if you are wearing Dickies to your ankles, walking legs spread wide to keep your pants on, Open Fronts in your mouth, riding a 88 caprice lifted on 26’s, well then more then likely your only going to always find Hoods anyway! What is your style?
Ashley,
Comment by geneandthem on 4 January 2008:
Salome, I was reading your post on December 16th, and wondering what is your name? Did we date? Were you talking about me?????
lol
jk
Ashley,
Comment by Kimme on 10 January 2008:
I love the fact that the “white man” loves the “black woman”. But I’d settle for the man just loving the woman. Sure racial preference is big these days, but I’d hope that reverse prejudice is not rampant. Me, strong, educated black woman that I am, prefer to date white men, I was even married to one for 20 years, so I’m not a novice, but I certainly have witnessed the same qualitiies and lack thereof,in all men. It’s sort of like having a preference for coffee instead of tea, or vice versa. It’s just a matter of what satisfies you. Me, I’ve tried both and I like both, but if I had to choose…..? I’d go for the whiteboy! Just being honest.
Comment by Queenbee7519 on 21 January 2008:
As a black woman I’ve seen white guys approach black females for the sexual thing and nothing more. Which to me is offensive because technically white females are the most loose sexually. Yet some white guys can’t admit they like black women for the fact that we’re so different we make most white women hate us because we’re not a cookie cutter type of woman with a run of the mill type image.
Like some of the posters said black women come in all shapes, sizes, and skin tones so it’s like a white man has the choice to choose what he wants since white women are generally all the same. Most of them as told to me are clingy, whinny, and expect men to do everything for them. Whereas a black woman stands strong on her own and is ok with or without a man as to some white women who can’t function without a man on their arm. I’ve had white men come and talk to me in clubs and even bought me drinks, but when white women start seeing that they do things like approach a man too overly flirty and even sometimes drunk. A lot of white guys don’t like drunk women hitting on them.
Even the good looking white guys are not impressed with things women do for their attention. Most of the attractive white men usually are very stand-offish because they think women who approach them are doing it because of how he looks instead of getting to know him as a person. I like a guy who happens to be Greek, but every description I’ve heard out of a females’ mouth is how he so sexy and hot and I was like damn I want to know does he like to cook, read, and listen to music. This wasnt black women saying this it’s white women who get off on that he’s so hot and sexy and whatever redundent sexual thoughts they have about the man.
I was interested in knowing him as a person and what he enjoys doing in his spare time, I know he’s attractive, but I am not drooling over him like some 15 year old school girl. He’s a successful 31 year old attorney and was VP of his family owned bank as a loan officer. Most of the black men I’ve met are chronically unemployed, been in and out of jail, got babies and mamas all over the place, they’re acting straight thuggish, and don’t treat women right.
I found that white guys are more apt to doing for themselves and don’t got some female telling him to get up and get a job and having to deal with a plethora of excuses. Yes there’s that preference aspect, but black women are getting fed up with black men acting insensitive and prickish towards their needs and only seem interested in getting pussy most of the time. What happened to a sista being treated like a lady and not thinking the only date she’s worth is to the local McDonalds or some fast food joint and going out for romantic dinners to a nice restaurant.
I can understand why sistas are crossing over in the dating and marriage department they want better. Black men have been trading sistas in for a stringy hair white woman as a symbol of his success and making it. Sistas were only a rock he stepped on to get up in the world when nobody else was there for him. Today in 2008 sistas are taking back control of their lives by dealing with men who have no long standing history of social issues and personal problems. I say sistas don’t be afraid of the vanilla flava because there’s nothing wrong with a little cream in your coffee.
Comment by Eva on 21 January 2008:
First time visiting this blog. The subject matter is timely although I am a bit late in commenting.
“Geneandthem” (Ashley)you express yourself like an independent thinking person. That is a very good thing. You make your thoughts clearly and uncomprimisingly(sp?). Like that. It is so needed in any relationship regardless of color/ethnicity.
Gee, I would certainly like to meet similar men in NYC.
Having said that, I decided I wanted to date White men as it is really quite natural…due to work environment, etc. The White men I have known really are not vastly different in terms of my own lifestyle and mindset. I think it is a win/win all around (positive think negates fear).
May we all find someone great to date/marry in the near future.
Comment by geneandthem on 22 January 2008:
Eva, Just curious as to what you are saying about me? Is it negative or positive? I couldn’t really tell, on one hand it seemed like you were supporting me and on the other hand your (sp?) comment was really the opposite. I’m just curious a suppressive person has many negative characteristics? In fact all the characteristics of a suppressive person is negative. SO i was just wondering, not trying to kick up any dust just wanting some clarification! Also you say you would like to meet someone similar in NYC? DO you only limit yourself to a radius around you in searching for your soul mate? I feel that all possibility’s should be left open. weather it is long distance from another city or another country. You never know who or where your better half might be located! Maybe in NYC, but maybe in Texas, or Europe, or Italy, or Colombia. You never know I feel that if I only settled for who i could find in The Dallas Area and shut all other possibility’s out I would just be settling.
Ashley,
Comment by Eva on 22 January 2008:
Geneandthem,
I thought I was quite clear that I agreed with what you were saying. I liked all of it. You are very clear on what you want and fearless to boot. It is very positive. Did not mean to confuse you.
As for wanting to meet someone in NYC, it is because NY is where I live. Online I’ve met men who live in Texas or Germany, etc. And I certainly do not rule out someone because of location. If I meet a man who lives far away…I am willing explore the possibilities if it is conducive for both parties. In fact, I would embrace such a meeting.
So dear Ashley, hope I cleared up the questions you had.
Comment by geneandthem on 22 January 2008:
Yes you did and was just wondering! Have a great week!
Ashley,
Comment by Prettypaw on 22 January 2008:
I for one am tired of having to explain myself to any and everyone about my preference. I just do. I have done nothing wrong and i have made choices of good men. Hey some men like Blondes I have no complaints, they just do. I have no probelem with black men who date white women. I don’t feel cheeted or lumped out from it. I honestly don’t care. Peopple can’t understand. All that I ask is that you respect myplace to have my choice. Happiness to all.
Comment by cocobaker813 on 22 January 2008:
I personally think that White men have finally ALLOWED themselves to acknowledge the beauty and spirit of Black women. As an older teen and early 20-something back in the late 1980’s and a lot of the 90’s, I was surrounded by some white guys in college who didn’t want anyone to know they found nonwhite women attractive-unless they were Latina or Asian women-the “exotic” types. I live very close to New York City, and it seems that, at least in the Downtown areas, there were always White men dating and marrying Black women. As for me, a lot of the White men I dated as a younger woman were European(German, French, Italian, Scandanavian)men living in NYC who thought it was no big deal to be with a Black woman until they came to the States. I didn’t date a “domestic” White guy until my 30’s. My last serious relationship was with a White man who ONLY dates Black women! My final thought is that I date who I date. As long as I get respect that I give to a man, we’re fine. How hypocritical would I be if I hated on Black men who date nonBlack women? I agree with Prettypaw when she said “All that I ask is that you respect my place to have my choice”. Isn’t that supposed to be what this country was founded on? Choice and the freedom to have it?
Comment by Lauren on 23 January 2008:
Eva,
Your response to Ashley who questioned whether your support of his previous comments was positive or negative was succint and priceless. I’m with ya, I did not see the angle he was coming from; your original statements were clear.
He had no more doubt or questions for you. Miss missy you cleared it right up. lol
Comment by geneandthem on 23 January 2008:
Well Lauren, the reason I was asking was because yes she did seem like she was with me but the whole (sp) comment was not? Maybe you don’t know what that means but let me fill you in! SP is a abbreviation for Suppressive Person. A Suppressive Person is a person who possesses a distinct set of characteristics and mental attitudes that cause him to suppress other people in his vicinity. This is the person whose behavior is calculated to be disastrous. Also called antisocial personality. There are many other characteristics of a suppressive person that are not good, such as a person that deals mainly in bad news, who makes critical or hostile remarks. And many more! So really it was me trying to find out what she was talking about because one comment basically canceled out the other! Like I said I wasn’t kicking up dust. She sounds dope and just wanted to know if she was feeling me which I thought she was or she wasn’t feeling me? I would most defiantly not want to date or be with a person that is (SP). So no i do not doubt her, nor was I questing her. Just clearing it up for me. She sounds great! Maybe you just didn’t catch what she said but I did!
Ashley,
Comment by Lauren on 24 January 2008:
Ashley,
Another use of sp(?) [with a question mark]behind the word uncompromisingly is for “is the spelling incorrect here”.
If I’m not mistaken, that is what Eva’s (sp)? signified.
Eva, please feel free to correct me if I’m wrong.
Comment by Liberatedwoman on 24 January 2008:
Question for Cocobaker… You stated that you have dated numerous non-black men over the years. Have any of them ever asked you to marry them?
Comment by Liberatedwoman on 24 January 2008:
So, to answer the question, the world is changing and becoming more global and the media etc is not only showing the white women as the queen of all in intelligence and beauty BUT now other women are getting their share as well so naturally the world is now seeing the true beauty of these black women and naturally want a piece of the pie! It’s about time..they tried to say we were not beautiful or intelligent but now we are among the top. Here’s to all the beautiful black as well as Asian women who for so long were not consedered beautiful or intelligent and are now giving the white women a run for their money AND ALSO taking their men!! ps- we just want the successful white men!! We’ve come too far to go back now!
I say:
Dont worry about the white woman’s power and beauty so much. If we are so fabulous in our beauty we should not be worrying about who is held up to the standard. Just know your own value and worth and dont worry about them.
Comment by geneandthem on 24 January 2008:
Liberatedwoman, HAHAHAHA….. LOLOLOLOL,,,,,,, Are you serious? So the question of this blog is, “Why white men love the black woman?” And you think that White men love black woman because of media influences and you also think that this is just RECENT?? I am 31, and all of my friends Date interracially and have since we were Kids! You think that White men Love black woman because a Spot light has been shed on White woman for years and now the blinders are being lifted, for us to see Asian and Black woman? Where do you live?? Show me a Article or magazine or TV special in the top circulated media forms where it says these things or has ever said these things? I have Heard many racist remarks, degrading slangs, racial slurs and flat out just wrong things to say. But black woman not being beautiful I have never heard that! Weather a man is racist or doesn’t believe in interracial procreation he can most defiantly not take away your beauty! Even a racist man has to admit that black woman are the most Beautiful woman on the planet! I mean Black woman don’t have to wear make up, unless they want to! Black woman age better then any other woman. Weather a black woman is 20 or 55 almost all black woman look about mid 20’s. Beautiful Soft skin, Over all better complexions! And then “you only want the Successful white men” What is Successful To you? Rich? Wealthy? Owner of a business? Owns a Yacht? What is it? So you mean you look for a man with money, and a nice car and nice things it really doesn’t matter if he BEATS YOUR ASS when you get home as long as he is successful right? I mean you would hope for a successful partner, but happiness is more important right? A good man? A good father? A good provider? A good Companion? A good Relationship? I don’t care what my better half does as long as we have everything we need! We are happy! We provide for each other our family, our Children? You know when I read your post I just feel the Racism brewing from your writing? Do you even date interracially for the right reasons? You talk about WHITE PEOPLE in a crazy way? And yes there are many bad white people out there just like there are bad black folk, and asian, and hispanic, and every other type of nationality! But wow!!! “Don’t worry about the white woman’s power and beauty so much”"”" WTF?????? what are you talking about? I’m sorry I’m not saying that there are not beautiful white woman because there are but there are WAY more Beautiful woman of ethnic backgrounds out there then white woman, and this Whole WHITE POWER trip your on! Once again the question is “Why white men love the black woman?” IT has nothing to do with Media, it has nothing to do with the WHite woman holding anyone down for so long and now they are not any longer, it has nothing to do with WHITE WOMAN POWER, And WHITE Beauty! It just IS!!! GO ASK ANY WHITE MAN YOU KNOW THAT LOVES BLACK WOMAN THIS QUESTION!!!! DO YOU LOVE BLACK WOMAN BECAUSE OF INFLUENCES OF THE MEDIA IN ANY WAY?? That man will look at you like you are crazy ask you what the hell you been smoking and probably not talk to you any more on the simple fact of thinking you are crazy! Please please do not bring up the whole WHITE POWER Trip around any of your interracial dating friends either because more then likely they will start to have a different opinion on you! And never ever ever ever ever bring up the little ps- we just want the successful white men!! To any man you are trying to date or hook up with because It has gold digger written all over it! You are most def a trip that was the wildest post i have seen yet in this blog! when I read your post I think of this, Imagine your opposite? Like if you were the WHITE interracial dater? You would be like a Racist RED neck white girl that dated black men? That’s just what it looks like to me? What you are saying is just way off base to me! You are black woman that dates white me, (sucessful white men)(only) and so you cant not answer the question of why “WE LOVE BLACK WOMAN” becasue your not a white man? It would be like me saying Oh black woman love us white guys becasue were better then black guys, and we are more sucessful, and becasue we have money and nice things! And there are just now seeing that becasue the media is opening there eyes to this so now the blinders are off! NOOOOOOOO We cant and we could not answer this Question? Nor would I ever say some off base shit like that! “Why do black woman love White men?” Only a black woman could answer that and it would be a different answer for every black woman you asked! DAMN I need to stop reading these blogs! This is Crazy!
Ashley,
Comment by Liberatedwoman on 24 January 2008:
Hold on wait a minute!!!!These words are not even mine! If you are going to take the time out to type such a long post, you should know what you are talking about! The top parts of my posts are cut and pastes from other bloggers posts. The bottom are my comments. Here they are:
Question for Cocobaker… You stated that you have dated numerous non-black men over the years. Have any of them ever asked you to marry them?
and
I say:
Dont worry about the white woman’s power and beauty so much. If we are so fabulous in our beauty we should not be worrying about who is held up to the standard. Just know your own value and worth and dont worry about them.
The above comments in this box are the only comments I have typed on this blog. I am responding to other people’s comments and I cut and pasted to include in my blog. GO BACK AND REREAD THE POSTS!!! You just typed that long post and did not even direct it at the correct person!!!By the way, you sound like a total crazy person. Please do not post anymore messages to me!
Comment by eva on 24 January 2008:
Ashley aka Geneandthem,
In my original post I used (sp?) after the word uncomprimisingly because I figured I spelled it wrong (which I did).
(sp?) does not stand for SP or Suppressive Person.
In cyberspace people use (sp?)(–>question mark is the giveaway) when they are unsure of the spelling of a word they are using to make a point.
Hope that clears everything up.
Comment by naenae73 on 24 January 2008:
you just cant help who you fall in love with….regardless of all sterotypes and cliches…love is love…and as long as those two people are happy and they understand each other….
Comment by Sadena on 24 January 2008:
I would have to agree with some of the other post, for those that are color blind its a preference, just like some people are attracted to slender people some curvier, some blond and brunette, it really shouldn’t be such a big debate, if someone of a different race turns your head more then your same race, so be it. There are so many other trouble’s and problems in the world, that need to be address. The preference of who loves who should not be one of them.
Comment by geneandthem on 24 January 2008:
Yes Eva it does thanks! Just want sure!
Ashley,
Comment by geneandthem on 24 January 2008:
Thanks Eva just was’nt sure!
Ashley,
Comment by naenae73 on 25 January 2008:
as long as you are happy with the person you are with…regardless of the attractions..stereotypical or not…there is no need to explain anything to anyone (nor should you feel you have to)
Comment by Sunshine on 26 January 2008:
This is my first time visting this blog. Can anyone answer me this? Why is it that the only men who approach me are the white men. I could be at a bar or club with 50 black men and 3 white men. Who do you think will approach me? Always the white man! That’s why I love them! I have only dated white men because they are the only men who will pursue me. I am open to all kinds of men but I tend to favor the white men. Anyone have any thoughts?
Comment by pbs86 on 26 January 2008:
What in the hell is an amazing body? God gave me a body that looks like a man if you removed my breasts.
Sunshine I don’t know why white men approach you and not other men. Maybe it’s your style of dress, the way you wear your hair, or even the fact that you smiled. Maybe they like your skintone. I have had very bad experiences with white men who were just strangers, and I have had weird experiences with some who believed I was a prostitute. These days since I am in college they just stare all day long, but they won’t say anything to me. This always happens when I wear my hair in an afro. It just leaves me feeling like a damn freak.
Anyway, good luck to everyone in looking for their future mates. I’m out of here.
Comment by Sunshine on 27 January 2008:
pbs86 I doubt your body looks like a man. I can’t believe some men thought you were a prostitute! As for the white men who stare at you all day, they must like what they see! They are probably too scared to approach you. Thanks for your thoughts!
Comment by truth on 27 January 2008:
Black women are the MOST BEAUTIFUL RACE OF WOMEN. Especially the ones straight up from AFRICA. I LOVE THOSE DARK AFRICAN CHICKS. SHIT WHITE WOMEN CAN’T COMPETE WITH THAT. AFRICAN WOMEN ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SET OF WOMEN ON THE PLANET. I ALSO LIKE WHEN I SEE A WHITE GIRL GIVING ME THE BAD EYE WHEN I WALK ON THE STREETS WITH MY NUBIAN WOMAN. WHITE GIRLS ARE TOO NEEDY AND TOO LOOSE. AFRICAN WOMEN ARE JUST BEAUTIFUL . I LOVE THE ONES FROM SOUTH AFRICA AND SENEGAL ESPECIALLY. I WOULD ADVICE MORE WHITE DUDES TO TRY AFRICAN WOMEN. YOU WILL SEE THAT TEHY ARE VERY DIFFERENT FROM AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMEN
Comment by truth on 27 January 2008:
AFRICAN WOMEN ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SET OF WOMEN IN THIS WORLD. I LOVE THE DARKER ONES MAN THEY ARE TRUE BEAUTY. WHITE GIRLS GET UPSET WHEN THEY SEE ME WITH ONE LOL
Comment by Black and White on 27 January 2008:
I met the most fabulous man on blackcentury.com and we have been together for more than a year now. Maybe you want to find your love online. Of course, he is white, and I am black.
Comment by Lauren on 27 January 2008:
I just read an advertisement from another blogger who suggested a particular website for interracial dating (I will not name the referred to site - you can read above to see that). The post is suspect.
Everyone please be careful about joining dating sites. Make note of the following when deciding to join an internet dating service:
1) Does the site appear to be reputable?
2) Are there a good selection of preferred men in your specific age range?
3) Is the internet site free? OR is it just free to JOIN but you must pay to contact someone you have an interest in or respond to a wink or email sent to you?
4) Are the photos on the website authentic? There is a large group of scam artists who look to prey on innocent men and women who join the sites looking for someone sincere.
The scam artist wants to lure you with fake photos and gain your trust. Then suddenly there is an issue which your ‘date’ requests (either direct or indirect) for you to send money or some other form of benefit. Do not fall for this; the behavior should be reported immediately.
Comment by truth on 28 January 2008:
THERE IS A DIFFERNT BETWEEEN AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN AND AFRICAN WOMEN. I AM COMPLETLY TURNED OFF THESE SO CALLED AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMEN.SOME ARE COOL BUT OTHERS ARE JUST FOUL MOUTHED GIRLS. I AM WHITE AND I PREFER 100% AFRICAJ WOMEN TO AFRICAN-AMERICANS. AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMEN SHOULD TAKE SOME LESSONS FROM AFRICAN WOMEN
Comment by Sunshine on 28 January 2008:
truth, what is up with all the hostility against african-american women. Did you date a lot of african-american women who rubbed you the wrong way? The difference between african women and african-american women are their cultures. American culture is completely different than African culture. Please explain what lessons african-american women could learn from african women.
Yes, I am a african-american women.(WOMEN is the key word here) I am far from a FOUL MOUTHED GIRL. Just wondering why you are so BITTER against us!
I must say it is good to see a man having so much passion about dark skinned women.
Comment by truth on 30 January 2008:
I would choose a white woman over an african american woman without hesitation. You african-american women are just a big NO for me. Fisrt, it is your english. damn. I hate your english then it is your stinking dirty attitudes, You really need to learn a thing or two from african women. Why do you think that many african american men are getting tired of you guys.
In africa, african men LOVE black african women. African men evem prefer them to any other race. But an african man will never think of marrying an african-american woman. May be you need to go to africa and see why I call these women beautiful EUROPEAN MEN LOVE AFRICAN W0MEN LIKE CRAZY BUT THEY WILL NEVER EVEN WANNA SMELL AFRICAN-AMERICAN FEMALES. I dislike you african-american women. To all my white folks here, if you really wanna date a pure black beauty head top Africa. They have the finest women in the world and they come in differences. AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMEN ARE IGNORANT SET OF WOMEN
Comment by paula99 on 30 January 2008:
truth get a life!
Comment by geneandthem on 30 January 2008:
Sunshine, this guy is obviously a child. He writes like one and sounds to me like he just got a taste and now thinks it is the GREATEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD! I don’t think he is Thinking before he post. In fact I think that this person might be African! Sounds like this person is just trying to get a rise in here! Not working dude! Any man that truly loves BLACK woman would not say some s%@t like you have! He calls “African woman the most Beautiful set of woman”" ????????WTF???? Set? As in Two right! You see hes not American you can see it in his writing so like I said brush this fool off! Black?? Fool,,, Black! There are Black Africans, Black African Americans, Black Dominicans, Black Haitians, Black Brazilians, Black Venezuelans, Black Mexicans, Black Colombians, Black all around the world for you to segregate one iS very racial and like I said before it means you really don’t love black Woman! This is just a fad to you so Kick rocks Dumb a$$!
Comment by truth on 30 January 2008:
geneandthem
You just revealed why I am turned off by foul mouthed creatures like you who call yourselves african-americam women. No wonder, the black american men are begining to marry more asians, and whites and latinas. I would choose all these racs over an african-american woman. Some of you are cool But others are loud mouthed ghetto idiots. All those black demographics of women you mentioned, are far more better than you african-american women. Then there is also the english part, Gosh I hate your dirty cracked down english. I see why black men would choose another race to african-american women.
and as I said, if you wanna see pure real beauty, head down to africa . women from ethopia,south africa,ghana,angola, senegal etc etc Those are the finest creatures of women. That is why whn I feel in an application, and I see black, I don’t mark it but I mark other. I want people to see me as A PROUD AFRICAN AND NOT BLACK OR AFRICAN-AMERICA.
Comment by truth on 30 January 2008:
I thanks the almighty that I was born and raised in africa. I AM A PROUD AFRICAN. Just came to this country of Immigrants (USA) to finish my education after that, I am taking my a$$ back to my beloved africa. Why do you think african and african-americans, never marry each other. An african man will either get married to an african woman or a white woman. We don’t look at african-american women. we can just fuck them but when it comes to marriage we don’t even smell them. As for the african women, they will choose to get married to an african man, or a white man. african-americans are the most ignorant people on earth. I have seen many african-americans settling back to africa. WE DON’T NEED YOU AFRICAN-AMERICAN IN AFRICA. REMAIN IN YOUR USA AND DON’T TRY TO MOVE TO AFRICA. WE DON’T LIKE YOU GUYS ESPECIALLY THE FOUL MOUTHED GHETTO BLACK AMERICAN WOMEN.
Comment by truth on 30 January 2008:
To conclude, of course I am an african and I believe there should be a great distinction when filling out an application. i.e,
White
African-american
African
Hispanic
Asian etc, etc
I hate to be classified in thesame group with african-americans. That is why, evrytime I fill in an applications, I include African at the end of the list. we are different sets of humans.
Just so you know, we africans don’t appreciate you calling yourselves AFRICAN-americans. You are not africans and shall never be. Why don’t you call yourselves BLACK -americans.
I would pick a white woman over any of these so-called african-american women. anhyways the most beautiful women come from africa and I will make sure I marry my AFRICAN-QUEEN. (note, I never said black but my beautiful african woman). You african-american women arE never gonna get married LOOOOOOL
Comment by truth on 30 January 2008:
ignore the vocab I am 2 lazy to proof read
Comment by Sunshine on 31 January 2008:
Truth,
I am surprised any African women or white women would be with you! You have a very ugly attitude! As far as I am concerned your AFRICAN-QUEEN’S can have you. Although I doubt they even find your personality attractive.
Comment by geneandthem on 31 January 2008:
HEY STUPID!!! READ THE BLOG!!! “”"Why white men love the black woman”"”" You stupid idiot! You see you talk about African Americans going to your country and you don’t want them there?? You see how stupid you are? You are like a little kid “don’t come to my country because we don’t want you to but I Will go to your country to better myself and go back home??? You know how Hypocritical that makes you look? How old are you dude? DO you even get a$$? I tell you one thing i know for sure! You could not sit up in a public place and talk that shit your talking right now! You would get beat down! I work with a TON of African woman and men! Kenyan, Zimbabwean, South African, Nigerian, Zambian, and I tell you what I have never heard any of them talk this crap you say here, from the safety of your house that is!! You know who you are the quiet little, excuse me was I in the way Bi#$%! I have never heard such a racist, disrespectful, full of them self piece of sH@% like you! Like I said Vent now because tomorrow when you get to work or school,,, time to shut your mouth again and bow down like you do every day! Your not white, nor are you a black woman! GO find a different post! And hey BITCH!! I am a White Man!!!! “”"
geneandthem
You just revealed why I am turned off by foul mouthed creatures like you who call yourselves african-americam women.
“”"
I have dated woman from everywhere and it all comes down to if you are a good person! It has nothing to do with where you are from! There are shady, shitty, shiesty, Africans, just the same as African American, Mexican, or white! Your sitting here trying to put a bunch of bull on a entire race of people! You are worse then the KKK dude! You need to grow up! Take some classes! Hang out more often! And get out of your sick little circle and live a little! And stop being a hypocrite it makes you look very stupid! You see its people like you who Karma find!! Now its getting late time for you to simmer down, because you need to get back to being quite and nice make that front real good for everyone at work and school tomorrow! Don’t try and get brave and get your a$$ kicked just be like,, you know,, how you have always been since you got to OUR country! Quite, and respectable!!
You know the one thing i hate is a racist! I cant stand it! It has no place in our world! All it does is show ignorance! Why cant people be more open? Why cant this stupid idiot just dislike the people that have crossed him? Got to hate everyone and for what? If it was not for country’s like ours you would never have anything! And you cant even apreciate that! You come over here and take and all you can do is down talk our people and our culture! IT doesnt make sence! I feel sorry for you!
Comment by truth on 31 January 2008:
gebeandthem YWAN with your little carricature dick
LOOOOOOOL
Comment by truth on 31 January 2008:
The fact is that I don’t like BLACK-american women. Love it or hate it
and to the white dude, you are not african so shut the fuck up. You cannot understand LOOOOOL
Comment by truth on 31 January 2008:
Now that Africa is developing, these BLACK-americans are heading down to africa. Some places are 100 times more beautiful than your fucken USA. Go to countries like Namibia, south africa, senegal, angola etc etc. I can go on and on and on. The stupic BLACK-americans think we live like savages stu