Warning: This article may be offensive to some readers. This is not the objective. The article is in no way meant to defame or inflame any parties, groups or persons.
“Some black guys are going to date white girls. Attempting to beat up the white girls will not turn that tide. …You’d be better off learning to love yourself than becoming mired in bitterness and hate over that thing that’s not really about you.” From the post Sometimes the White Girl (Or Guy) Isn’t about You (Unconventional Wisdom) by The Black Snob
Just like the above excerpt suggests, there is this popular belief that black women see interracial relationships as a personal insult to them. This issue has been raised over and over again. And after reading many articles that support that belief, I can’t help but wonder why people portray black women to be the only ones who react disapprovingly to interracial relationships.
A former girlfriend of mine (black) once told me she felt that some of my white female friends and Asian women weren’t jazzed at all about our relationship. And when I asked her if they openly told her so, she told me they didn’t have to shout about their disapproval; their body language (yeah you know those stares accompanied by sneers, the sizing-up up and down look) said it all. Well, to tell you the truth, I later noticed that they were a hell lot nicer to her when she was just friend than when we started dating.
I believe she is not only black woman who gets this general bitchiness because of her involvement with a non-black man? Here is how one woman describes this whole resentment to black white relationships:
“…the reasons a black woman might object to an interracial relationship are wholly different from the reasons a white woman might. Black women worry how the black community will be affected overall if, say, the most successful black men find themselves with white women again and again. They worry about the effect interracial relationships have on low marriage rates in the black community. In contrast, when I encounter white women who cop an attitude upon discovering that my boyfriend and I are an item, their hostility comes from a very different place—a place of superiority.
It’s as if they are asking themselves, “Why on earth would he be with a black girl when I’m here?”"
Well, I have been asked a similar question by a white woman who wanted a relationship with me. I took it lightly coz I figured it was just the normal kind of jealosy anyone would feel if the object of their desire fell in love with another. So I gotta ask: Do white women feel this way when they see a non-white woman with an eligible white man?
If so, why then should black women continue to bear the responsibility for the hostility that black white couples face when we know very well that some black men, white women and Asian women (as I have heard) - are also opposed to such unions? Are black women the only foes of interracial relationships? Has anyone experienced this kind of ‘hostility’ from white men?
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Comment by alniceman on 10 November 2009:
A successful relationship does seem to quiet a lot of the jealousy and anger particularly if the couple are quite comfortable as well as happy with each other.
However, I have faced the anger and jealousy from many sources and while it is a paradox to be sure the most support and opposition have come from “black women” in USA. I have lost job promotions over the anger of black women to me dating black women and yet it was other black women who trained me and defended my right to do so in legal activities that helped me keep my job(s).
Such is life…some people like you and others will be against you no matter what you do!
al
Comment by fkoi on 10 November 2009:
Ah, the rare blog trifecta. Racism, sexism and stupidity. Come to think of it, it’s not that rare.
Historically the biggest opponents of interracial contact are White men (remember lynching?). In my experience they continue to be.
And does the quoted woman really think that Black women, as a whole or even a majority, are breaking down the social aspects of a potential coupling when they see a mixed couple. Enough so that she can categorically state that their reasons for being against it are “wholly different”? Really?
And does she really think that White women are thinking, “Why on earth would he be with a black girl when I’m here?” Those prone to that kind of arrogant ignorance, in my experience, are more likely to be thinking, “Why on earth would he be with THAT GIRL when I’m here?” No race, creed or other description required. And what about Black guys who share that kind of arrogant ignorance? And in both cases the arrogance is probably self-doubt in a different wrapper.
By and large folks just accept interracial relationships, again in my experience. Of course I notice the haters more. They make a point of being noticed, at least through vibe, if not tuts and/or comments. But there are thousands who walk by and don’t care or are too involved with their own lives to even notice.
Otherwise people wouldn’t be able to date and marry whomever they want. Which they can. Except sometimes in Louisiana. And in many states if they are gay.
Haters are gonna hate. Lovers are gonna love.
Comment by Ebonique on 11 November 2009:
I have found our that people will be themselves. Every since I was a child I knew that one day I would date out of my race. You see I am a very dark black female.When you meet someone and all they see is the color of your skin, they have a problem. it really is what’s inside that really counts. I have done better dating out of my race. When that day came, it was the best relationship I ever had. I am black and he wss German. He never liked for me to say he was white, he always stated that it was an American word. Sure we were look at differently whenever we went out, but what kept our love alive was how we saw each other. He died of cancer before our wedding.
Since being on this dating service all the replies I get from black males are sorry I don’t feel we are a match. Most of my replies are returned by white males. I am a very self reliant female. I am here only to meet a nice male. It does offend me when I am turned away by my own kind. It only makes me stronger, because it is really their lost.
Comment by ACEBENICE on 11 November 2009:
i remember being out at an italian restaurant and this older white woman stared a nice size hole into me…lol. my point is, she was with her own husband and me and my date were none of her business. so i stared back and she kept on staring until i flipped her the finger. i personally don’t care what people think, but it is wise not go into establishments where their attitudes are ignorant. and no, most people dont care. when i see a black man and a white woman together, all i can think of is good luck with the stupid people. i never cared because i don’t want what somebody else has anyway. this thing about the community is so damn old, it does not exist in my world and a lot of black women’s world. we don’t live in the community anyway. so that need not to be used anymore, i am tired of hearing and reading it. in today’s society, we are so into ourselves as a people(americans) the community concept has been long gone, so please stop using that lie. how dare one person speak for a people anyway.
last, those who have a problem with it are hypocrites and are miserable with their choice of man or woman they are with. that is it most of the time or they are lonely and nobody wants them.
Comment by bigeyes31 on 11 November 2009:
It’s very hard to get into good long-term relationships(marriages) these days, that you might get mean-mugged no matter what color you are. People are breaking up all over the place. Marriages and relationships are splitting up or becoming strained due to economic troubles and the stress thereof. If you have found someone and are happy, enjoy the stares, make a game of it.I believe in making lemonade from lemons. I can be such a diva sometimes,LOL;I’d probably enjoy all the attention, LOL LOL LOL!
Peace Eveyone
Comment by sexytedybear on 13 November 2009:
I think that’s why white men and black women don’t date nearly as much as any other intercail couples me personally I would love to be with a blackgirl but all the ones I have met have been like that and I guess that’s why I am here
Comment by sexytedybear on 13 November 2009:
Spelling error lol interacial
Comment by bigeyes31 on 13 November 2009:
Hi Ebonique
I am so sorry about what happened to you and the loss of your fiancee,so very sad. Keep your head up and your heart out;the perfect man for you will come. If you are able, how about traveling to Germany or Europe in general? You never know he might be there waiting for you.
Sexyteddybear,
what do you mean specifically when you say they have all been like that?Like what?
Comment by TricciNicci on 13 November 2009:
Hello Everyone,
It is time for me to move on. I will miss many of you here on this site because there are some wonderful individuals who travel these blog boxes and share the experience of opening the door of love with no bounds. I appreciate all the sharing so many have committed to along with the care and concern you show for one another. It has been at times wonderful and at times a challenge for me to share my expressions and experiences. I am grateful regardless.
So many of you have touched me so I won’t name names lest I forget someone and they think to be not included. Even those I have not spoken with but simply read their reflections. I am glad to have passed this way and any who wish to communicate with me may do so via my page on this site as long as it remains.
Now, eventhough this site says it’s about widening the horizons of the human being who wishes not to be bound by social, political, religious and other sanctimonious peripherals of mankind’s making; I believe it has miles and miles to go to be the guiding post for those wishing to make that journey.
During the extent of my experience on this blog I have rallied for the influential direction of the statements it makes via its authors. I and others have made simple requests for the blog’s author to also incorporate a more positive and unbiased direction and TONE of commentary. Thus in keeping with the formula of “Coloring Outside the Lines” dogma it attracts its participants with. I don’t think the author is willing or capable of doing that.
Honestly I have not seen this much negative, narrow minded commentary in any media or publication to be tolerated by People of Color in my life!!! The author seems to have no issue with writing questions, commentary and associated articles which hang by a thread on racist, stereotyped, degrading manifestations of the very thing this site associates against.
What CREDIBILITY does the author have to pose some of these racist comments? Race or non-race, however one perceives it, relations are hard enough. Male/female relationships are at times, difficult enough without a person who has ignorant, biased totally smear campaign tactics as such as this author presents.
I am not suggesting the author limit the types of topics he corresponds about. I am suggesting he limit the WAY he corresponds and his delivery perspective because he is NOT PRESENTING FAIR AND BALANCED TOPICS - period! Having a white MALE write about my ethnogenetic femininity from a perspective of bias simply based on “what he heard” and/or ‘experienced’” carries the same gravitational pull as gossip conflicting with expertise.
To be the topic master on a forum that is truly largely ONLY about race relations (with a DOWN perspective on the pivotal focus of the WOMAN OF AFRICAN DESCENT) should require more than having had sexual relations with a Woman of Color (Isn’t that what slave owners did? How did that make them experts on being human? Point: We all know it did not even though doing so earned such UNWORTHY men plenty monetarily for being able to champion that role).
Would I desire to continue to participate in a blog that has Women of Color fighting, begging…issuing great effort and concern to NOT BE THE TARGETS of humiliating statements and depictions (such as the artistic photo of the T-shirt wearing woman above)? Where oh where is the article about (with corresponding photo no doubt) women of Caucasian breeding that decries them as “White SKANK”, Wanted or NOT?” Are white women perceived by Black men as the Slut factor or are Black women perceived the same?’ or “Asian SLUTS, Hot or Not?” Are Asians to often targeted as being sluts, or do White men think all women are sluts?’ WTH! That’s what you call Blog JOURNALISM?! No Thanks. Where is ALEX HALEY when you need him?!!!!!
Comment by delicious149 on 14 November 2009:
“Live and let live.” Regardless of ones selfish beliefs of interracial dating of couples of different races; love sees no color. Black women turn to white men for lots of reasons just as other races do the same. NO ONE SHOULD DO IT JUST FOR THE EXPERIENCE; BUT FOR THE LOVE ONE FEELS IN ONES HEART. There are good & bad in all races, people are going to be who they are regardless, believe what they want to regardless. I’ve had white women stop speaking to me when they saw that a white man and I were dating. I would still say hello to them finding that if they are directly spoken to in public, they respond in spite of their disapproval. My best dating experiences have been w/white men. Many black men push black women into seeking love, companionship, etc. elsewhere. I don’t feel the need to list reasons as black men & black women KNOW the reasons. Black women are not the only ones targeted for dating outside their race. Other women of color & different cultures experience the same. Treat others as you would like to be treated. If all races would show love, concern, & respect for one another; this world in which we all live would be a better place. LOVE ONE ANOTHER!!!!
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 14 November 2009:
This is the problem.
Black women tend to be vocal about their dislike of interracial relationships. In particular, black men with white women. I personally think it cuts both ways. Even white men involved with black women, dislikes a black man with a white woman. I don’t care how much they deny it.
I asked this white guy on my blog would you let your biracial daughter date a “black man”. He said he would have to think about it. This white guy has a black woman but he needs to “think about it”.
I told him “you can think about it but we will take your daughter whether you like it or not’!
Interracial dating will always focus around what black men do. It has always been that way. Black women date outside of their race because they ‘claim” black men are chasing white women. Now they are saying they always wanted ‘to date outside their race”.
As much flak black men have received for dating outside their race. You should expect the same stinging scrutiny back. Black women do not like it when you smack them back.
Now they are saying “oh why are you giving me a hard time about dating a white man”. Because your punk ass started it!
Listen “girlfriend”, because you a damn hypocrite. You can hate on the black man dating a white woman but want to avoid the scrutiny.
To make matters worse for sellout black women. They burn bridges with “good black men’ and white men hardly want to date them. The only race of women to do this foolishness.
I address this in my new blog post ” The promiscuous doctrine” by sellout black women.
Oh yea, I did a post on “Precious” the Movie about that black obese black girl. A bonus blog post for my fans.
http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/
Comment by ZuZu21 on 14 November 2009:
Many of these blogs are posted by this person pinned as “James”. The blogs are blatanly derogatory toward so-called black women.
It is in my opinion that…
“James” is a racist and truly have a deep hate and distrust for the Black woman.
My question to you is;
“Why are you here?”
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 14 November 2009:
Dear ZuZu
How his topics derogatory towards black women?
You want blogs that kiss black women asses all day.
That is simply not the reality of the world.
I bet you didn’t want that “Precious” movie to come out because it showed an obese black teenage girl in the ghetto with an abusive mother.
I wish more blog owners had the courage to tackle tough issues.
If you want an emasculated white man to kiss your ass. I am sure you kind find plenty of them on “Wife Swap”.
Good day
Comment by beachbum81 on 14 November 2009:
I cant say I will miss you Tricci
You seem to be be overly aggressive and you assume too much about the authors intent or what reader’s care about for that matter
Moving along…
Comment by 1Rockgodess on 14 November 2009:
I think people should let us black women be for once, Jesus christ!!!
Comment by Parables on 15 November 2009:
1Rockgodess…I see where you get your handle from because you truly ROCK! I totally agree with you….LEAVE US ALONE. It’s also interesting what Ebonique stated about her late German fiance….that he didnt like to be called, “White” Why the hell does everything have to be a label. Look, I’m just ME okay? Take me or leave me….and while I’m there EVERYONE GETS ANGRY ABOUT SOMETHING….Personally, I don’t give 2 shits who you date or marry….if you like it, I LOVE IT…
(Owner of this site: you may want to strongly reconsider who authors your blogs and come up with more thought provoking topics that are inclusive of ALL people…)
Comment by If today was your last day..by Nickleback on 15 November 2009:
Well, well:
This is a site for us to choose our choice; I thought we’d all get along with that, being in the same boat and all. Obviously not. I’m an AA female and have only dated WM and divorced once from a WM, that’s all I know. I haven’t been called a sell-out since I was a teenager, and so what. We are who we are, we’re accustomed to our experiences, backgrounds, beliefs and choices. Our family has five immediate interracial couples at gatherings. We’re the ebony/ivory family if you will; no one is uncomfortable; we love from and through the heart. Enjoy your world and just flow and shuffle along in the world around you. Hey it’s good to be noticed, whatever the reason is. I’m here to meet the love of my life…again…and as normal for me, he will be a caucasion man.
Cookie.
Comment by fkoi on 15 November 2009:
I second Parable. 1Rockgoddess you do rock. This whole topic is based on innuendo and bad journalism. Racism is alive and well but I don’t think this blog has to inflame it. Hit us with some reality not bull!
Comment by Terri1966 on 15 November 2009:
I strongly believe that love has no color. Why do we have to criticize someone who falls in love with someone of a different race? We’re suppose to love others as God has loved us. I do believe that when we come to that place the world would be a better place to live and to raise our kids.
Seeing an interracial couple does not bother me at all; if anything it makes me happy to see two different races getting along and getting to know each other. There is so much stereotyping going on. We need to get to know people for who they are and not judge them by what we think someone of their race does. I personally love everyone and do not have a problem dating outside my race.
Comment by ZuZu21 on 16 November 2009:
Well Mr Queen,
As the saying goes: Throw a rock into a pack of dogs and the one that yells the loudest is the one that got hit!
Seems to me you are a “James”-Lover
So let me pose the question to you;
Why are you here?????
Comment by Gruesa76 on 16 November 2009:
The problem is that no one seems to want to mind there business. I dont think there is anyone who is looking for a relationship to piss people off. However I do think that some people (even if they are dating outside of there race instead) will huff and puff when the person of the same race is attractive and they are dating a person of the opposite sex. No one will care when you are nothing to really look at, but if you look like Gabrielle Union, Brad Pitt, Selma Hayek, Chow Yung Phat, Taye Digg, Padma Lakshmi, then there is a problem with you dating outside of their race.
Comment by Ebonique on 16 November 2009:
Sexyteddytbear, thanks for your comment, it made my day. I am still searching for the right Mr. White. Yes I know he is out there somewhere and if I continue be a member of this service I am sure we will meet. Who knows it could very well be you (smile). When others hate on interacial relationships, they are hating themselves.
Ebonique
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 16 November 2009:
Der Zuzu
Well, I am not here for the reasons sellout black women are here (out of desperation).
I enjoy the banter back and forth and the stimulating topics.
Oh for the record, nobody “hates” on interracial relationships. We just want white men to stop picking you last to date.
Until that happens, I figure they will be disagreements and debates here.
Thank you
Zuzu you are quite an attractive woman but you have a “thin” skin when it comes to men’s opinions.
Comment by Lioncat on 16 November 2009:
I find this topic so interesting and contradictory. My preference is my sista’s however, at least 85-90% of the black women on this site are seeking white men, that is a vast majority. Make yourself available, ditch the attitude’s and bitterness. For those black men that prefer white women, they have elevated themselves to a false position.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 16 November 2009:
I suggest the blog entry from Abagond, “why so few white men marry black women” he points out the truths.
The true reason that white men typically do not marry black women is because white men are racist, they do not want their children to be black.
You never hear this, you always hear people bashing black women and blaming black women for the reason why white men won’t choose them.
No talks about the white men.
There are some men out there who love black women but the majority hate our guts and they always use us like punching bags and the butt of all of their jokes. While white women are put up on a pedestal and viewed as godessess in society.
Good is rare, but even though the majority of people in this world have a strong hatred for black women somebody out there loves us.
Comment by beachbum81 on 16 November 2009:
Mr Queens, you need to open your eyes. it appears that you base your oppinion out of selfish reasons
let people choose who they want to love. why do you draw divides between black & white?
stop seeing color and look for qualities in people. then you will understand why “white” can love “black” and vice versa
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 16 November 2009:
Dear Beach Bum
You need to open your eyes. White men using black women as a fetish.
Prime example the North Carolina case with the little biracial black girl dying.
Her useless white father did nothing to protect her.
I documented this story on my blog.
http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/
Enough said
Comment by beachbum81 on 16 November 2009:
you cant stereotype people based off of a situation or a handful of them for that matter
I met an adorable girl on this website and for the last 3 weeks I have been slowly falling for her. I love who she is as a person and we have so much in common but here is the rub… she is a 9hr drive away. so every day we talk, often throughout the entire day- we know so much about each other because there is genuine interest in each other. I am not sure how this is going to work out but I am not going to let distance discourage the love that I have for her
DO NOT tell me why I date black girls “black girls” as a “white guy” or clump me into a stereotype because of what limited knowledge you have. you are making yourself look biased, ignorant and shallow…
Comment by DCSmile120 on 17 November 2009:
I love black men,I love white men, my first boyfriend was Puerto Rican. I’m grateful for the way my parents reared me. What I look for in a man has very little to do with the color of his skin but more the content of his character. When did race become a main source of choosing a mate (I understand for some it is)? If I meet a white man and he treats me with the respect, the kindness, the love that I have for myself and we have a sincere chemistry between us, then that’s worth building upon. As for interracial couples WHO CARES? I have enough wonderful things happening in my life to not be worried or concerned about why he/she dates outside of their race. Most black women that I know, really don’t care if a black man dates a white woman. I know I don’t care. I care how we treat one another. As with any relationship, you must weed out the ones that bring a negative energy to the table. Lastly, fall in love for all the right reasons. I see life as to short to waste time thinking about why two people choose one another. Let’s focus on what makes us better people, let’s put out positive energy and we will attract the same…. wheather he/she is white, black, Asian etc….
Comment by debtown on 17 November 2009:
In response to fkoi’s comment on 11/10/09. “And does she really think that White women are thinking, “Why on earth would he be with a black girl when I’m here?” Those prone to that kind of arrogant ignorance, in my experience, are more likely to be thinking, “Why on earth would he be with THAT GIRL when I’m here?” No race, creed or other description required. And what about Black guys who share that kind of arrogant ignorance? And in both cases the arrogance is probably self-doubt in a different wrapper.”
I totally agree with the lady in this article. It comes from experience in various situations. You can tell when a person is sizing you up and you can tell when they are looking down on you. If you are nice, attractive, and accomplished, etc., what other reason would they disapprove?
I have come to the conclusion that there are some things that a person of Caucasian background will never understand because they have not “walked in an African-American person’s shoes”. So instead of criticizing her perspective, why not just respect it? After all, you were not even present at this particular event.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 17 November 2009:
Laurelton thats true!
Where was Shaniya’s daddy when she needed him?
Shows you how nasty and hateful white men are.
I have only seen a few kind ones.
Comment by Lioncat on 17 November 2009:
I am a black man. Why are blk women complaining about white women? On this site alone the majority of blk women are seeking wht boy’s. When I see someone or, read a profile of someone I might be itnerested in, there profile says white/asian. It seems to me that these blk women are doing there thing as well. My preference is black however, they don’t leave much choice when they are seeking blk men. STOP COMPLAINING SISTA’S AND MAKE YOURSELF KNOWN IF YOU ARE TRUYLY SEEKING A BLACK MAN.
Comment by fkoi on 18 November 2009:
If one responds to racism with racism is anything accomplished. Does an ignorant response to ignorance decrease ignorance? Do resentments piled on top of resentments make for less resentment? When I feed my resentments I believe it is like taking poison hoping it kills someone else. If these random thoughts ring true for anyone, I’m glad. If not, oh well.
Comment by vangaryd on 18 November 2009:
i think these people need to leave black or white business alone and mind their own. individuals take love where ever they finds it, if love is white its there for everyone and if love is black its there for everyone as well. there is no boundry in love, whenever people deside to take the stigma off love and stop been stupid then they will see that there is no colour in love
Comment by turnaround27 on 18 November 2009:
The question can ONLY be answered by BLACK WOMEN…so why all the comments from the peanut gallery…AND who said Black women ARE opponents of interracial relations????? Why the heck do you think this site is here????????If you dont like it ….LEAVE>>>>>DAG….
Comment by dezme on 18 November 2009:
THIS IS A ANSWER FROM TODAYS YOUNG BLACK WOMEN ABOUT ALL THIS AND HAVE ASKED MY BLACK FEMALE FRIENDS TOO!!!! 15yes ago black women were against interracial dating and that sterotype has carried with us till today. Our parents hardly dated outside of there race but WE AREEEE HAHA! Our parents teach us to treat each other as equal and thats what we are doing!!! The young generation of black women are not opposed to it; except for the ugly girls who can hardly get a man! Even ghetto girls are doing it, they just get with guys who are ghetto too!
But white men are more timid to approach a black women due to this sterotype and because blk men get mad. The ppl who get mad due to interracial dating are ignorant and jealous. They want that individual for themselves.
Also, white women do tend to give off that negative vibe, when an black girl can attract all colors of men. I get it alot and I like all of the flavors of the ice cream, chocolate, vanilla, dont know any examples of other flavor, but you get my drift.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
White men, the majority of white men hate black women. THAT is why these couples are rare.
Most white men hate black people in general and they put white women up on a pedestal in society.
Black women are seen as not human and seen as not good enough in the white man’s eyes.
White men see black women as black first, and women second, if at all.
There are many good black women in this world but because they are black no matter what they do white people will stereotype them and hate them.
Karla Homolka the canadian serial killer/rapist did 12 years in prison for raping and killing her own sister and two other young girls.
She is out now MARRIED and has a child.
Now you know if a black woman rapes and kills somebody no one would marry her, but just because Karla is white, a white man sees her as good enough to marry even after the evil she has done.
(I feel sorry for her kid and the people that have to live next to her.)
Black women with no criminal record at all are being rejected and hated on, while white women who have murdered and done sick things are being swept off their feet!
Shows you the white hatred, white men will marry a serial killer but they won’t marry a black woman.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
And think about this, white men hate black women so much that they find us disgusting to touch or to look at. Always calling us ugly, ghetto, stupid, and using any negative stereotype that they can invent to destroy our self-esteem and our humanity.
White men hate black women so much that they wouldn’t kiss us on the lips.
Yet a white man has no problem kissing Karla Homolka after she orally raped and assaulted 3 young women including her own sister.
(I guess its because of the toothpaste Karla is using.)
Comment by debtown on 19 November 2009:
To fkoi: It’s not about responding to racism with racism. Again, it comes from experience and, after a while, you can just tell when someone is judging you by your skin color. You don’t become bitter, you are just aware.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
Comment by debtown on 19 November 2009:
To fkoi: It’s not about responding to racism with racism. Again, it comes from experience and, after a while, you can just tell when someone is judging you by your skin color. You don’t become bitter, you are just aware.”
Yep, you can tell when someone is giving you nasty looks.
But when that happens, I stare the person directly in their eyes and scare them half to death! LOL
I figure if someone is going to be giving you nasty looks or harassing you out in the open, you should let them know that you are not their personal punching bag.
Comment by debtown on 19 November 2009:
I hear ya’ ErzulieRedEyes! LOL!
Comment by bigeyes31 on 19 November 2009:
@ErzulieRedEyes
Real Talk! Real Talk! Damn you hit that RIGHT on the Head! White women get a social pardon no matter what she has done. She knows this too. Wow, I almost jumped out of my seat when I read your post. No matter if a black woman is an upstanding citizen, christian, moral, educated…hell…fun, she will never be good enough to a white man. Those are the facts. I’m not talking about the exceptions, I’m speaking of the rule.
Comment by NJBello on 19 November 2009:
To Lion Cat: keep in mind this is an INTERRACIAL site, so the majority of the black women will be interested in non-black men. I’m sure many are not racist towards black men; but their purpose here is to meet others. Many black women will state that they’re interested in black men also if you read their profiles entirely. Are you solely into black women? If so,there are ebony sites. You’re telling your sistas not to be bitter when it sure seems like you are.
Comment by fkoi on 19 November 2009:
Interestingly, my post spoke in generalities, not really pointing at anyone in general. And no one really answered the question, “If one responds to racism with racism is anything accomplished?” However the responses were telling on other fronts.
For myself, sometimes I think I know what someone is thinking. Sometimes I’m right. Sometimes I’m wrong. In any case, I know not to bet the rent on my abilities to read someone’s mind. Others may be more adept at it, but I suggest that you keep the rent money safe.
Beyond that, any time anyone suggests that White men so and so or Black women such and such, the racism in the statement is blatant. To suggest that I wouldn’t kiss a Black woman on the lips is ridiculous. Black women get kissed on the lips by White men all the time (including me). So the blanket statements like that are incorrect, uninformed and bigoted. Ah, again with the holy grail of ignorance, another blog trifecta. The same kind of lack of understanding that has separated people for thousands of years is alive and well.
Sometimes experience can be an eye-opener. Other times it can limit sight more effectively than an executioner’s blindfold.
Comment by debtown on 19 November 2009:
fkoi: you are focusing on winning a debate. this is the wrong subject matter because, again, you have not walked in an African-American woman’s shoes.
instead of trying to invalid this observation by basically calling us ignorant, uninformed and bigoted, why don’t you just admit that you do not share the same black experience so you just don’t understand? It is condescending, insulting and totally undeserved.
Black women are out in the world talking to many other black women and we are sharing the same experience. You are not, so YOU JUST DON’T KNOW. The fact that you are trying to “win” a debate on a subject matter you know nothing about shows your level of ignorance and insensitivity.
Actually, from your statements, you sound somewhat racist.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
FKOI it sounds like you have the white lens problem.
Its where white people try to tell black people what they see and feel as if white people are black!
YOU are not black, YOU have never been treated the way black people have been treated, YOU have white privilege.
YOU cannot tell a black person what they are feeling or thinking, YOU ain’t black.
You should read Abagond’s blog entry:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/11/13/the-white-lens/
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
And many times you will find white people think their thoughts and feelings matter more than black people’s:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/11/17/the-feelings-of-white-people/
Sometimes when black people talk about the racism they have gone through, white people will come in and try to diminish the suffering of the black person and make white people’s feelings sound more important and valid.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 19 November 2009:
Comment by bigeyes31 on 19 November 2009:
@ErzulieRedEyes
Real Talk! Real Talk! Damn you hit that RIGHT on the Head! White women get a social pardon no matter what she has done. She knows this too. Wow, I almost jumped out of my seat when I read your post. No matter if a black woman is an upstanding citizen, christian, moral, educated…hell…fun, she will never be good enough to a white man. Those are the facts. I’m not talking about the exceptions, I’m speaking of the rule.”
Yeah BigEyes31, i had to mention Karla Homolka,
she got out of prison and her husband Paul Bernardo is in jail for life.
That nasty trick got off easy by pretending to be a victim and blaming her husband for the rapes and murders.
Now its true Paul her hubbie was a rapist, (The Scarsborough Rapist) but Karla was a WILLING participant in the kidnaps, rapes, and murders.
The cops found that out when they saw her and Paul on the tapes, smiling laughing and assaulting the women.
This lady is married and living in the Carribean Islands.
Now one of the many stereotypical reasons why white men don’t like black women is because black women are criminals and low class.
Well Karla, as an example, is a rapist and murderer and she is married with a 2 year old boy…so they can quit telling their lies and just admit that they hate us no matter what we do or don’t do, because we are black.
Comment by dezme on 19 November 2009:
Well this sounds as if we are our own enemies here. You all are so concerned about the negative and not focusing on the positive. White men do not have us they are timid to approach us because of women like you!!! You all are blind of your own racisim its sad. Check out the tatoos of Obama on ppl, its majority of white ppl not black. Lets stop being the victiums and move towards rebuilding our society so we can over come these negative images. Beyonce, Halle Berry, Stachy Dash are hot and everyone thinks so. They are black, oh but ignorant black ppl will say they are an exception. No you need to stop being uglly hearted.
Just because you were discraminated against doesn’t mean every race hates black ppl. We are not the only minority in this world who goes thru this. WE ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO CARE ABOUT IT!!! TO answer fkois’ question an eye for an eye makes you blind!! Dang its sad a 23yrold is saying this. Majority of you older ppl are embarrasing me! Im done with this posting and I am going to find fine me, black , white, asian, spanish, because I am beautiful in the inside and out! And because black women are hot!!
Comment by dezme on 19 November 2009:
Well this sounds as if we are our own enemies here. You all are so concerned about the negative and not focusing on the positive. White men do not have us they are timid to approach us because of women like you!!!
You all are blind of your own racisim its sad. Check out the tatoos of Obama on ppl, its majority of white ppl not black. Lets stop being the victiums and move towards rebuilding our society so we can over come these negative images. Beyonce, Halle Berry, Stachy Dash are hot and everyone thinks so. They are black, oh but ignorant black ppl will say they are an exception. No you need to stop being uglly hearted.
Just because you were discraminated against doesn’t mean every race hates black ppl. We are not the only minority in this world who goes thru this. WE ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO CARE ABOUT IT!!! TO answer fkois’ question an eye for an eye makes you blind!! Dang its sad a 23yrold is saying this. Majority of you older ppl are embarrasing me! Im done with this posting and I am going to find fine me, black , white, asian, spanish, because I am beautiful in the inside and out! And because black women are hot!!
Comment by bigeyes31 on 19 November 2009:
@dezme
I don’t know how old you are but just keep living and you won’t sound so euphoric.Anytime you have to pretend that racism is not harder on a black person in order to INVITE white men to date you, you’re already in trouble and he isn’t sincere about you. What you fail to understand is that whites allow other races to blend and be accepted, so they are ALLOWED to “not care about it”. If you are black, I suggest you remember that you are black and that it makes a difference to them;Trust, THEY won’t “not care”.
Peace(from reality)
@Redeyes
I’m going to google this person and read up on this crime. I also have been on abagonds blog. What a coincidence!Great insight there.
Comment by jaden24 on 19 November 2009:
Dez, thanks for setting the record straight. reading all these ignorant, hateful statements make me want to puke. no need to mention actors when we have a black president though
whoever here experiences discrimination I am sorry. but you need to realize that times are changing and some cities/regions faster than others
people need to stop stereotyping and look for happiness instead of the ugliness in people
Comment by dezme on 20 November 2009:
Times are changing Redeyes. Sorry you are soo bitter, I hope you find peace within yourself. Also, understand that not everyone thinks the way you do! Well majority think the opposite of you. That is why white ppl are so timid of us is because of sterotypical ppl like you. Life is what you make it, and what ever it is that is making you upset; I hope you change it.
Jsden24 tks for the love and you are right; we have a black president Enough said!!!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Comment by dezme on 20 November 2009:
Times are changing Redeyes. Sorry you are soo bitter, I hope you find peace within yourself. Also, understand that not everyone thinks the way you do! Well majority think the opposite of you. That is why white ppl are so timid of us is because of sterotypical ppl like you. Life is what you make it, and what ever it is that is making you upset; I hope you change it.
Jsden24 tks for the love and you are right; we have a black president Enough said!!!”
You sound like a joke.
I told the truth and you don’t like it, too bad.
Pretending white people are not racist is not going to make a white man love you, it makes YOU sound like a blind uncle tom.
White men don’t approach black women simply because we are black!
No matter what we do or don’t do white men hate us and fear us because we are black women.
I guess you are too daft to understand what i wrote.
Karla Homolka a woman that raped and killed 3 women including her own sister got married and has a child. The white man that married her had no problem “approaching” her, even after she killed people!
Yet white men are afraid to approach black women with educations and no criminal records!
It has nothing to do with how someone acts,
it is the simple fact that white men hate black people and black women especially.
That’s why Karla Homolka the rapist/murderer had no problem getting married and getting a guy because she is white.
Black women have trouble because we are the most hated and considered sub-human by white people.
And if a man is “timid” around a woman he is not a man, period.
If there is something to be afraid of it should be the rapist/murderer but because that person is white she was good enough to be marriage material.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Comment by jaden24 on 19 November 2009:
Dez, thanks for setting the record straight. reading all these ignorant, hateful statements make me want to puke. no need to mention actors when we have a black president though
whoever here experiences discrimination I am sorry. but you need to realize that times are changing and some cities/regions faster than others
people need to stop stereotyping and look for happiness instead of the ugliness in people”
NOTHING has changed, white supremacy still rules the world and the white people still hate black people.
Comment by jaden24 on 20 November 2009:
RedEyes,
you keep saying that white men hate black women. that isnt truth and it doesnt even work as a blanket statement. I am white- I am dating a black girl. there are many guys like me doing the same thing. there are many white people that voted the first black president in. there are many websites that promote interracial dating. its very common today…
I am not sure what you have experienced or interpreted but you are a very angry person inside. even though I dont know what you look like I am not attracted to you because you have a very demeaning, negative attitude. I feel bad for you though I know you dont seek pity. it seems as though you enjoy being mad about yesterday instead of focusing on change being made today and plans for a better tomorrow
Comment by jaden24 on 20 November 2009:
It is late and perhaps I was a was a little harsh with my attraction statement towards you. my point was that most people I know today are attracted to someone for who they are as a person
please stop with the stereotypes already…
Comment by sweetntender on 20 November 2009:
Geez why don’t we stop all this racism crap for goodness seek?? We are all ONE. Let’s all be proud of who we want to be with, we all have the right to do so. If other women want to give dirty looks because we are dating men outside our race, let them look, it is just because they are jealous. I personally don’t care who looks at me, because I really love attention so hey…. I would just follow my heart and let OBSERVERS be always worried!!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Comment by jaden24 on 20 November 2009:
RedEyes,
you keep saying that white men hate black women. that isnt truth and it doesnt even work as a blanket statement. I am white- I am dating a black girl. there are many guys like me doing the same thing. there are many white people that voted the first black president in. there are many websites that promote interracial dating. its very common today…
I am not sure what you have experienced or interpreted but you are a very angry person inside. even though I dont know what you look like I am not attracted to you because you have a very demeaning, negative attitude. I feel bad for you though I know you dont seek pity. it seems as though you enjoy being mad about yesterday instead of focusing on change being made today and plans for a better tomorrow ”
LMBAO!!!
YOU expect me to feel bad because YOU aren’t attracted to me?
You don’t know me you ignorant fool.
And who do you think you are that I should feel bad about what YOU think? LOL
Your white superiority complex is showing,
you white men walk around acting like every woman should automatically want you and worship you.
Stereotypes were invented by white people, so don’t come on here telling black women not to stereotype when it is WHITE people that created them and perpetuate them.
I observe and I TELL THE TRUTH.
YOU don’t like it because i’m not some uncle tom buttering up the image of white people.
Its because of the hatred of white men that black women are not approached and that’s the truth!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Comment by jaden24 on 20 November 2009:
RedEyes,
you keep saying that white men hate black women. that isnt truth and it doesnt even work as a blanket statement. I am white- I am dating a black girl. there are many guys like me doing the same thing. there are many white people that voted the first black president in. there are many websites that promote interracial dating. its very common today…”
HA!
White men will use black women for sex and date them but they do not love them or honor them with marriage! DUH that’s typical.
Slave raper Jefferson dated Sally Hemmings (against her will since she was a child slave)
so what?
Everyone is supposed to be impressed with the white men that use black women for sex?
Do you want a trophy for “dating a black girl”?
It has been obvious that white men hate black women. That’s why a white man chose a serial killer over black women with no criminal record.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Typical comments white people use to say racism no longer exists:
wite-magik attax – the 18 underhanded ways white people have of winning an argument about race. They are mostly derailing tactics meant to throw others off balance. Here are ten:
the Oversensitive – brown people feel instead of think. You cannot trust what brown people say.
the Appeal to Melanin – if a brown says it it must be true – but only if it supports my argument.
the Existential Blackmail – “If you ain’t White, then you just ain’t right.” Whites must control what is seen as true at all costs.
the Wite Disdain - I am white so there is no reason to take racism seriously.
the Drowning Maestro – I would listen to you if you did not sound so angry (blaming you for their disdain).
the Seeing-Eye Frog – I have never experienced racism so racism is over.
the Post Racial – the president is black so racism is over.
the Fallacious Flip – you are racist too! “Reverse racism” is just as bad as white racism.
the Feint Disclaimer - “I am not racist, but…”
the Insatiable Martyr - brown people love playing the martyr.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/11/19/the-glosario/
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 20 November 2009:
Jaden24 you are doing two of the typical white magic attacks:
the Drowning Maestro – I would listen to you if you did not sound so angry (blaming you for their disdain).
You don’t like what i’m saying because i sound angry.
AND:
the Post Racial – the president is black so racism is over.
And since racism is over why didn’t you tell your kin folk at the kkk to shut down their organizations?
Currently they have a working website and over ten thousand neo-nazi white supremacy groups in america and worldwide, did they not get the memo?
LOL
Comment by awarding4u on 22 November 2009:
First of all GOD created all people no matter what racial group you are. God gives us the freedom of choice to befriend, dating, and marry regardless of what racial profile you come from. Black women should not be angry because either something in your life is not pleasing to GOD. So it starts with one own self examination on a spiritual note. Why should your allow youry emotions to continue to rob you of your personal life? Now to keep it real don’t blame other people because you have some type of low self-apprasial about yourself. Now black some women do judge a black man because of his occupational, material welfare, and their own past relationship that went south. Black women get back to the basis when real black women back in the days get into the trenches to help uplift the black man instead of shifting the blame game, and when the truth is what part do you play in this? The fact is that if you are in a relationship with your own racial group or any other racial group if you are not living a spiritual life you are not equally yoke according to GOD.
Comment by meisha81 on 22 November 2009:
I have been reading everyone’s posts on here, this topic has gotten really deep! It’s good to me to read what everyone has send & to try to learn from it-keep an open mind. I never heard of this Karla lady before, WOW I will add, but I will be Googling her to read up on her background. Thanks for the info RedEyes!
Comment by jeffreyeas on 22 November 2009:
“Are black women the only opponents of interracial relationships?”
Of course not, you think Asian men like when non-Asian guys go for their girls?
Comment by Ebonique on 23 November 2009:
I am so sorry for the persons who speak before that think. Each one of us have an opinion. I can only speak for myself. Interacial dating for me is a plus. It not only gives me satisfaction, but the opportunity to learn of other cultures and people. If we all give it some thought, we would know to be true that there is not a pure race in the U.S.today. We are “The Great American Melting Pot.” All this complaining and disagreement should be used for something positive.
I have been introduced to many men on this site. It is embarassing that I’ve only heard from 2 black males. All of the others were white men out of 106 who has viewed me. So what does that say to you?
I will continue to meet persons on this service, and hope to maybe meet Mr. Right. I must say this, I have no intentions of dating men of my race as of date. I will say that from the white men I have chatted with, they have all been polite and meaningful. Most of the brothers out there can’t see the forrest for the trees. One thing each of us should always remember,a person’s color has nothing to do with the color of the heart. When two people meet and develope a relationship, they should be looking in the same direction for the same things.
Comment by tatted2death on 23 November 2009:
RedEyes is QUEEENS…….LMAO!!!!
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 23 November 2009:
Who is Redeyes?
I speak for myself. I don’t do petty shit.
I have enough to handle with my own blog.
Tattoo that on your forehead. You should know better.
Good day loose booty.
Comment by Ebonique on 23 November 2009:
People who are racist should be ashamed of themselves. There is only one God and he made us all. No matter what race you are, if you peeled back the skin, we all would look the same. Life is too short to be negative. I always pray for everyone. If you have been hurt by someone, just pray for themm. God is in charge of us all. Besides there is already a war being fought, so why argue and fight here. Can’t we all just get along?
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 23 November 2009:
Comment by tatted2death on 23 November 2009:
RedEyes is QUEEENS…….LMAO!!!!”
Don’t know who YOU are but you need to get an education.
ErzulieRedEyes is the name of a very powerful voudou spirit that is a spiritual aspect of the voudou spirit named Erzulie Dantor.
That’s my screen name because that is my favorite spirit and my faith is in voudou.
http://erzulieredeyes.com/
Queens is a man, I am a woman, there is a difference.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 23 November 2009:
You call upon the spirit ErzulieRedEyes when you need assistance with revenge, and to avenge you with cases of domestic violence.
Her eyes are red because she is angry, but righteously angry because her anger is her power and strength that she uses to help those that need vengeance.
http://erzulieredeyes.com/
Comment by godiva61 on 24 November 2009:
Scoff/Sarah,
Just breezing through and thought I say “hello” to you. I do hope all is well with your families. By the way Sarah, I enjoyed your lunch story the other day. Thanks for sharing. I’ll comment more on that later. Please keep the invite open for that dinner and wine.
Mr. Queens, hello to you as well. I see you and tatt are sparring again(lol). The two of you keeps me laughing. By the way, I agree with you about the “hating and blaming white people mentality”. Life is what you make it, end of story!! When you truly know your self worth, no racism, hatred of any group can keep you down. Don’t complain, don’t whine and don’t make excuses is my motto! Happy Thanksgiving, btw how is your mom?
For what it’s worth, Integrity, loyalty, and being a LADY at all times, is the true Power, Strength and Essence of being a Woman!! A virtious woman doesn’t need to exact vengeance!!!!
It’s some spooky females out here!!!!!
love
godiva
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 24 November 2009:
Dear Scoff and Sara
Yea, this blaming white people mentality gets you “nowhere in life”.
I can’t recall any white person blocking my endeavors. Perhaps in the 80s it was real bad. I am an 80’s baby.
In 2009, if you were to say racism is as bad as it was back then. You would be lying to yourself.
Like I said, I work mainly at an all white elementary school in a small town. I am just surprised how shit gets down.
Sometimes you don’t even know who the Principal is at some schools.
I must reiterate, children actually don’t see race. I use to think that was a myth. In my observation, it is a learned behavior , racism that is.
I had some Chicken George Negros tell me when I came to Williamsport PA. The white folks wouldn’t give me a job. They would do “this and that”.
I was like ” oh really”. Put me anywhere on God’s green earth and I will survive.
I was in the hospital weeks ago for the flu. My roommate was an old white guy. Turns out he was a some small town candidate running for office. We got to talking politics and he was a Democrat.
I am a Democrat. Then my Indian doctor came in. He said Barak Obama bought land from him back in Chicago. He was real familiar with Chicago politics. I won’t go into what was said. But he didn’t tell me things I didn’t suspect about Obama.
I think this small town gives me more experience about the “feel” of the country than just living in New York City.
The average white family I have met out here. Pretty much barely making it financially and they love to hunt. Hunting and the Steelers is what PA is about. Plus the schools too. They make sure all the kids get an education.
They really don’t give up on the kids. I will give them that.
Comment by Scoff/Sarah on 25 November 2009:
Just a minute to drop a few hello’s to our group, you folks never fail to amaze me with your insight & wisdom for a younger generation. Godiva we still have your e-mail and one day soon we will surprise you, Mr. Queens getting out their with a positive attitude, go for it, the world is yours.
My special lady is off with her family the rest of the week, so I’m catching up on my family visit as well. Coming soon we hope a picture of us, only if you’all promise not to laugh.
We love all of you.
Scoff
Comment by world citizen on 25 November 2009:
Dearest Godiva61 (you sound wonderful as ever - I hope you feel fine)
and the rest of you interesting people!
Sorry for not staying on the subject, I just want you to know that I am actually still around - that is in South-Eastern Europe. I was extremely occupied for the last few months and living in an area without internet!!! You may think this is impossible, but it shows that the Old World has a lot of catching up to do in this respect.
My 94 year old ‘teenage’ mother had her hip operation 4 weeks ago and is kicking and flirting again - already without crutches! I spent 2 weeks with her during the physical therapy phase on the Baltic Sea - with wireless Internet, but did not have any spare time to connect.
The beginning of next year I am planning on visiting the States again.
Meanwhile have a delicious Thanksgiving and cozy Holiday Season.
Love and hugs!
Comment by bigeyes31 on 25 November 2009:
Hello to all my FAVORITE PEOPLE….miss godiva…I love you and I hope you are doing well…please tell me you don’t have to work for thanksgiving..LOL happy thanksgiving to ya! World Citizen I’m glad your mother is doing great and what a place to heal…baltic sea…ooh just SOUNDS BEAUTIFUL…LOL. Scoff/Sarah happy thanksgiving. I would LOVE to see a picture of you two…LOL. Last but not least Mr. L. boogie..LOL Mr. Queens…happy thanksgiving to you and everyone on this blog.
Peace
Comment by godiva61 on 25 November 2009:
bigeyes31,
Hi Ms. Natalie… I love you too!!!! I’m doing fine, no complaint’s, compared to a lot of people, especially this time of year, I am blessed!!
I am working on tomorrow but it’s okay because it’s day shift and triple time pay(lol), more importantly I’m off Friday, the day after the Holiday, which as you well know is often worse than working the actual holiday.
Enjoy your Thanksgiving and thank you for being a blessing in my life this year. Looking forward to an even better year in 2010.
Love
godiva
Comment by godiva61 on 25 November 2009:
world citizen,
It is so good to hear from you and I am happy that your mom is doing well. I have been praying for you both.
Enjoy your Thanksgiving and know that you are loved!
Love
godiva
Comment by godiva61 on 25 November 2009:
Wishing everyone here a very peaceful, safe and wonderful Thanksgiving. There is so much to be thankful and grateful for. We should never take life and the good times for granted.
Enjoy and hold your loved ones a little closer!!!
Special blessings to my brothers and sisters who are so far away from home, serving and proudly wearing the Uniform..
United States Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force and Coast Guard, I salute you!!
Special Salute to Ft. Hood Texas!!!
Love
godiva
Comment by muscleeolman on 26 November 2009:
“Are black women the only opponents of interracial relationships?”
Really stupid question. Why did you guys answer this stupidity?
Comment by tatted2death on 27 November 2009:
hope everyone had a nice holiday…. even L. (for “loose booty lover”…LOL) Queens……
…AND to ms.Erzulie…..you really ought to think twice before questioning my education level. I have studied much about many different “religions”….but thanks for the breakdown of you screenname…that is actually pretty cool. IT matters not your gender or faith or ANYTHTING else for that matter. My statement basically was a way of acknowledging the STRONG SIMILARITIES in both of your approaches, writing styles, etc. And if you are into voodoo (which I ALREADY detected from the name…lol) and just happen to be from the Carribean, there’s a bit of irony there as well.
…ANYWAY…..no, ms. godiva…….no sparring going on….JUST “SAME SSSSSHHHH, DIFFERENT DAY” for some that are stuck on the short bus that “day” can be AWFULLY LONG……LOL.
Comment by Ichibod on 27 November 2009:
Happy after-Thankgiving everyone! I just got my internet back, figured I’d stop by to say hello to Sister Godiva, Mother Citizen, Mr LQ, Natalie (B.E.), Tatts, and Fkoi. This thread showed up in my e-mail and didn’t subscribe to it. Never knew it existed until today. Maybe it was awarding4u’s post I was supposed to see? I don’t know, but that’s the only one that showed up.
Fkoi, there was absoultely nothing wrong with your first comment. It was on point like all the rest of your comments.
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Bah Humbug!
I am letting you all know to disregard erzulieredeyes. She is racist and spreads propaganda against whites.
Check her out a abagond.wordpress.com
This is a fair warning.
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
By the way, nice to see everyone once again! (:
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Oh and one more thing.
Why are certain black women here bitching and complaining that white…excuse me…ALL white men are evil and racist?
What is the purpose of being on an interracial dating site. You hate white men, you complain they won’t date you…then you complain and waste your energy of all the derogatory names they call you. What is it your looking for. If you already know white men hate you and don’t want you, why are you still complaining???
Quit wasting your energy on white men and find someone else. There is no point….like beating a dead horse.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 28 November 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Bah Humbug!
I am letting you all know to disregard erzulieredeyes. She is racist and spreads propaganda against whites.
Check her out a abagond.wordpress.com
This is a fair warning.”
LOL I know that’s a joke!
YOU were finally banned from abagond’s blog because you called one of his regular blog posters a monkey and other racial slurs used against black women.
Your pathetric ignorant white trash behind is on HERE trying to get a black woman when you showed up there harassing the black posters.
Black women are human beings, they are not some social experiment for skinhead white trash with sick fetishes like yourself.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 28 November 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Oh and one more thing.
Why are certain black women here bitching and complaining that white…excuse me…ALL white men are evil and racist?
What is the purpose of being on an interracial dating site. You hate white men, you complain they won’t date you…then you complain and waste your energy of all the derogatory names they call you. What is it your looking for. If you already know white men hate you and don’t want you, why are you still complaining???
Quit wasting your energy on white men and find someone else. There is no point….like beating a dead horse.”
YOU were banned from Abagond’s blog for calling posters typical names white people use for black people, take your stupid ass back to Stormfront!
Glad your dumb ass is gone so we can have a decent conversation without hearing david duke’s bitch talking in the background.
No good reason you should be on here when all you do is go to any black-oriented website you can find to harass black people!
Comment by Tiro on 28 November 2009:
Black men are no better than white men and white men are no better then black men, same to white women and black men. meet someone you get along with and move on
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 28 November 2009:
Let me jump into the argument here.
AZ is not racist or he wouldn’t be on an interracial blog.
Abagond’s blog happens to be a good read in my opinion.
The author asks the tough questions unlike other sellout black women blogs.
I respect that.
At the end of the day you have to consider why a majority of white men shy away from black women.
AZ is one of the few that tells you the truth. Would you rather be lied to?
I think when you have to say this person is racist or hates black women. You are on the losing end of an argument.
This shows you the difficulty of interracial relationships. People give you the impression it is “all good”. When it is more difficult than people think.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 28 November 2009:
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 28 November 2009:
Let me jump into the argument here.
AZ is not racist or he wouldn’t be on an interracial blog.
Abagond’s blog happens to be a good read in my opinion.
The author asks the tough questions unlike other sellout black women blogs.
I respect that.
At the end of the day you have to consider why a majority of white men shy away from black women.
AZ is one of the few that tells you the truth. Would you rather be lied to?
I think when you have to say this person is racist or hates black women. You are on the losing end of an argument.
This shows you the difficulty of interracial relationships. People give you the impression it is “all good”. When it is more difficult than people think.”
YOU must be a fool, YOU were not on abagond’s blog dealing with this fool while he harassed every black poster on his blog.
He is racist, every comment he made about black women was about attacking them and calling them names which is why he was banned by abagond.
Then that freak turns around and shows up on a dating site looking for black women!
I don’t kiss ass to stormfront white trash like him and he looks weird showing up on a dating site looking for black women when he is nothing but a loud mouthed skinhead.
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Erzulie:
I have been on here far longer than you. You can throw any degrading racist propaganda towards me and you will not phase me. You have come from abagond’s blog to here to spread your hate towards whites.
Why did you come here? No one wanted to listen to your bullshit on abagond’s site? You drove all whites away from there and your attempt here will result in utter failure. You are far outnumbered.
People will see you for what you are. Call me a Stormfront member or whatever you will. Maybe you could pass as such a member promoting white hate.
Do you not realize you are playing the very game that has held you down for so long? Listen, I don’t know what your life situation has caused such hatred. But it seems your chances of being shown a different light is the same chances of a person blind to their own racism….
That is exactly what you are.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 28 November 2009:
omment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Erzulie:
I have been on here far longer than you. You can throw any degrading racist propaganda towards me and you will not phase me. You have come from abagond’s blog to here to spread your hate towards whites.
Why did you come here? No one wanted to listen to your bullshit on abagond’s site? You drove all whites away from there and your attempt here will result in utter failure. You are far outnumbered.
People will see you for what you are. Call me a Stormfront member or whatever you will. Maybe you could pass as such a member promoting white hate.
Do you not realize you are playing the very game that has held you down for so long? Listen, I don’t know what your life situation has caused such hatred. But it seems your chances of being shown a different light is the same chances of a person blind to their own racism….
That is exactly what you are.”
Oh you been on here long?
LOL that’s because you are ugly and no black woman is going to pick up a piece of white trash like you.
You look like a fool!
Sounds like you are seeking out black women to hurt them!
All you did on abagond’s blog was call black women ghetto and monkeys.
Glad your stupid ass is banned from there so we don’t have to hear your ignorant mouth!
I told them your pathetic behind was on here and they laughed!
No black woman with self-respect and good sense is going to be with a skinhead psychopath like you!
You’re just another desperate redneck looking for black pussy cause white women don’t even want your crusty ass!
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
Erzulie:
You are pathetic! How are you going to call me a skinhead when you are anti-white? Why do you constantly complain about white men? Because they don’t want your loud-mouthed, ghetto ass? You can’t get no black men? You give white men the same EXACT reason to stay away from black women. You ruin it for everyone else.
You have failed at life, Erzulie (demon) eyes. You can’t get white men so instead you bitch and complain about them. You are one sorry and very pathetic human individual.
Hey you know what they say. “If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”
In this case….If you can’t get a white man hate ‘em.
You are every stereotype a white man hates about black women. You set the example every white male has about black women. You ruin it for everyone else who is truly down to earth. The more you type here the more chances a white male may stumble upon this site with interest, read your pathetic propaganda and lose all interest.
Quit making a fool of yourself. Your only hurting your own race. And no I don’t want black pussy, never have. You want white dick but you won’t admit to it. So, since no white man wants a loud-mouthed, ghetto bitch like yourself you might as well hate us.
Hey, you ain’t hurting us. We have many options of women to choose from and know to stay away from booty clappin’ ghetto bitches such as yourself.
And no white man with self respect would ever have the decency to assimilate with a ghetto bitch like you. Wait, white men already know this explaining the small marriage numbers between white men and black women. You are an epitome of reasoning behind it.
Give it up, no white man wants your sorry ass.
Hate all you want because you are only fueling the negative image even further white men have about black women.
Comment by Azrazyel on 28 November 2009:
And Erzulie (demon) eyes:
You can call me ugly. I respect that. But my experiences here while active has proven otherwise. Not just from black women but from white women as well.
Too bad none of them we’re available in my area. Not trying to brag here but since you want to paint me in a negative light (evidently driven through hate towards whites and you having not a clue of who I am) I decided to place my side of the story.
Yes I know you will come back saying I belong on Stormfromt, I am a racist redneck, I am crusty, a skinhead and white trash…rofl too funny. Since I belong on Stormfront (according to you) I suggest you continue along with your Black Panther propaganda against whites.
You could pass for a NS movement if no one knew you we’re black. You sound silly and void of sense.
White men don’t want you so you attack back with BP propaganda against white men. We know better than that….and you keep shunning yourself away from realization you are a BP.
Keep hating us. We don’t want you nor will we ever. You are transparent in your thoughts and your BP propaganda movement. I am sure you cringe at every moment you see a white man with a black woman because you know inside they don’t want you. It eats you alive like sulfuric acid.
Lay to rest my little one, lay to rest.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 29 November 2009:
The only fool here is YOU!
Your stupid ass got banned for calling a black lady on abagond’s blog a monkey and now you are on here looking for a black woman to date!
PITIFUL. You call black women nasty names and then you show up to try to date one!
Your ignorant screen name comes from the name of a demon, alot of you silly white boys glorify demons and vampires.
And your stupid ass changed your name on abagond’s blog to Maximus thinking that would somehow erase your racist comments towards black people.
White women don’t want you and black women don’t want you!
Its funny to see desperate ugly white trash on dating websties looking for black pussy.
Sad. LOL
Comment by Azrazyel on 29 November 2009:
You indulge me with your ignorance. You say white women don’t want me? And you would know how? Probably because your black panther, ghetto, loud stereotypical pathetic ass tells you so.
No white man wants you. No black man wants you. I am sure you are a fat, booty clappin’, finger snappin, head rollin black bitch that is out there. You are truly pathetic and I laugh at you knowing you will never endear what you want but cannot have…a white man! ROFL
I have shown my face and people know what I look like. Why don’t you? Are you too ignorant or just a fat, severely obese ghetto bitch that no one wants? You won’t because you will show how ugly I am sure you are. You have failed before at attempts with white men but they don’t want a Black Panther such as yourself.
I can hear you from a mile away. And your ghetto attitude is exactly what keeps us away from stereotypical bitches such as yourself.
Maybe your anger and frustration has led you to who you are. Your life is worthless and white men have proven over and over to you that you are unwanted. So you lash back at something you can never have…
Comment by Azrazyel on 29 November 2009:
And google my name….nowhere you will you see the name Azrazyel linked to a demonic name….use some common sense. This name has a personal meaning to me for phrases stranded together.
Now scurry back to your lowlife, unwanted, black panther ways of living. You are my laughing stalk that makes my day.
The views you retain of white men (of which you will never have) are the same views white men have of you in real life. Why? Because your weak presence shines itself in here and your character gives just cause to judge you as you are….a pestilence of massive disease.
Oh btw, I have a girlfriend now of which she is white, explaining no need to have an active account here anymore. But I thank you for helping me realize what white men already knew about ghetto bitches like you. You are unattractive in your demented ways of thinking.
You are a turnoff of black women in general.
I have no need to converse with you any longer because I have already won this battle….you will never have what you want and will never get what you desire.
Take care, and hopefully an exorcism one day will drive out the demonic red eyes in you….as well as your putrid thinking towards whites….Erzulie (demon)eyes.
Haha…what a coward….
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 29 November 2009:
YOU are the coward, claiming you would “beat the black off of me” please!
You are a sissy like the white trash on stormfront saying they’re going to kill all blacks and jews when all you peckerwoods can do is hide behind a computer screen!
And since you say you don’t want black women take your ignorant ass off of the dating site then cracker!
You showed up everyday to harass the black women on abagond’s blog and the nclaim you want a black lady!
You’re nothing but a psycopathic skinhead looking to use black women as a sex toy and social experiment!
I’m glad no woman has come in contact with a creep like you!
Comment by Azrazyel on 29 November 2009:
Fuck you you dumb as fuck n!gger! Call me cracker I’ll call you N!gger.
I am not taking myself off of here because you want me to. How in the fuck do you plan to do so? Me hiding behind a computer? What the fuck do you think you are doing you weak ass, punk black bitch?
I knew you would call me a skinhead. I appreciate that. Sometimes skinhead tendencies are needed to put weak, ghetto black scum such as yourself in their place. The more I mention white men don’t want you, the angrier and angrier you get. Because you know we don’t want filthy, decomposing scum as you are.
I have my white woman and you give me and every white man reason to stay away from diseases like you. You are completely worthless and your life is not worth a dime.
Why are you here then (demon) eyes? You must be looking for white men but your pathetic being shows you will always fail at any attempts. We don’t want you. Give it up! You are bound to the grave of heartbreak of something that will never be in grasp.
Loose some weight. Try Jenny Craig or take the path of Jared of Subway and maybe you could have your own commercial of your own…..oh…wait, the media won’t put ghetto scum on tv such as yourself.
ROTFLMFAO….get lost you weakling!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 29 November 2009:
Take your stupid ass off of this dating site since you have a white bitch you ignorant peckerwood!
Black women don’t want skinhead white trash like you that’s going to call them a monkey and then ramble on about being a victim!
I’m here to put away these typical stereotypes you skinhead peckerwoods use against black women.
Tell your fat trailer trash white whores to lose weight, the pure white woman stereotype is old and played out!
Comment by Azrazyel on 29 November 2009:
Fat trailer white trash? Aren’t black women the fattest of all races? So the chances you contain are pretty high of being a severely obese unwanted black bitch.
And I love my white woman. She treats me with kindness and I appreciate her beauty. We get along in great harmony. What have you to say for yourself demon eyes?
Wait, no white man wants you. So you spread black panther propaganda and reveal anger and bitterness of white men not giving you a chance. You deserve it.
If you somehow lost your black panther mentality and lost a shitload of weight, maybe someday a man will come along for you. But the chances of a white man accepting your black panther ass is about impossible.
Your lame. And no the white woman stereotype is never played out. Explaining why white men stick with their own, and now black men realizing the white woman epitome of beauty as well.
Your in a lose lose situation demon eyes. Neither white nor black men wants a obese, ghetto bitch like you.
Get lost!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
White trash is the fattest of all people.
You try to hide that by making it seem like only blacks and latinos are fat in the media.
Everywhere i go i see fat old ugly rednecks looking like rush limbaugh and ruby.
Yes the pure white woman stereotype is played out, its lie and no one believes it anymore except the peckerwoods like you that use it to make themselves feel superior!
If white women were so “pure” they wouldn’t be in scat films all over the internet, eating shit and drinking piss!
And the black panthers are dignified freedom fighters, not some toothless redneck trash wearing white hoods and burning crosses like your people are!
Comment by jaden24 on 30 November 2009:
This is disturbing to see such hate for another color of person
wow…just wow
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
Yes she is weak. She is upset no white man wants her weak, ghetto foul mouthed ass.
She is the epitome of human failure. Look at her making a fool of herself.
Demon eyes, how is that weight loss program coming? Where is your man? Oh wait, no one wants ghetto putrid shit like you.
Get lost, you are not wanted. Shrivel up and die. I am ashamed to have to breathe the same air as you.
You are a nobody and nobody wants you. Go hide in a cave or shoot yourself in the head. Save this world mercy. Slit your wrists and bleed a slow and painful death.
In equivalence, that’s the same of having to hear human waste such as yourself.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
LOL
Oh please!
Take your ignorant redneck ass back to your klan meeting!
Abagond thinks you’re a joke and so do the other posters!
You say you are looking for a black woman while you were on his blog harassing all of them!
Tell your ugly white bitches to lose weight!
You show up on a “interracial dating” site after saying you have a white girlfriend!
Your pathetic ass has no one because no black woman wants to end up on the side of a highway with a freak like you!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
Comment by jaden24 on 30 November 2009:
This is disturbing to see such hate for another color of person
wow…just wow”
Who are you supposed to be?
Since you think are so “hot” why are you on this website begging for black pussy?
Black women are supposed to drop to their knees and praise god just because YOU think you are special?
You filthy white trash skinhead boys only show the whole world that you do nothing but use black women as temporary sex toys.
Comment by jaden24 on 30 November 2009:
I never implied I was hot and when I mentioned attraction- it was based upon who you are as a person…not looks
How am I begging for black pussy by posting a personal ad because I have a preference for them because uhh, ya know… I like black women(with the exception of you). furthermore, I am dating an adorable black girl that I met on this site so I guess you hit a dead end there.
you keep throwing your “facts”, stereotypes and assumptions everywhere and at everyone as if you are trying to enlighten them. do you really believe its working? you arent even self-aware…
You are easily the most racist person I have ever met. I am done wasting my time even responding to your nonsense.
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
Haha! I love your humor! White guys wanting to use you for a sexual experiment? Yeah, that’s all your worth. We fuck you and dump you like a piece of waste. We don’t date you because we are ashamed to be seen with you in public. It will ruin our superiority complex.
On the other hand, you can’t get a white man nor any other man because you are a low-life ghetto piece of shit. We will use you as an experiment making you think we like you only to dispose of you after we get what we want.
Abagond’s a little bitch. And yes I have a white girlfriend. She is the standard of beauty in America and you are in the garbage dump. Go back to Africa and leave my fucking country. Whites built this country and WE make the fucking rules around here.
And go back to your poor ghetto, scum infested neighborhood and hide because no one wants to see putrid shit like you.
Your oppressed and you will suffer forevermore! Because you are weak and you have no say in MY country.
Get the fuck out of here and drown in formaldehyde. And go play in your pen and eat your own shit like the rest of you zoo inhabitants do.
You are pathetic and you are a obese, smelly loud-mouthed ghetto whore that no one wants. And close your legs because I can smell your nasty cunt from here. And clean up the maggots that crawl out of it as well you lowly piece of human waste.
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
I’m with Jaden. I’m outta here because I feel like I am picking on a damn kid who is defenseless.
C.Ya!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
Comment by jaden24 on 30 November 2009:
I never implied I was hot and when I mentioned attraction- it was based upon who you are as a person…not looks
How am I begging for black pussy by posting a personal ad because I have a preference for them because uhh, ya know… I like black women(with the exception of you). furthermore, I am dating an adorable black girl that I met on this site so I guess you hit a dead end there.
you keep throwing your “facts”, stereotypes and assumptions everywhere and at everyone as if you are trying to enlighten them. do you really believe its working? you arent even self-aware…
You are easily the most racist person I have ever met. I am done wasting my time even responding to your nonsense.”
Typical, all whites call black people racit when black people don’t take any of their bullshit and call you fools out on your bigotry!
YOU are ugly, but of course, you think you are god’s gift to women just because you are white.
Take your superiority complex and choke on it.
And you don’t know who I am you idiot, i type words on a computer screen!
You didn’t inherit the so-called genius white brain did you?
You are using black women for sex and for amusement, don’t expect me to pat you on the back for that you ignorant piece of white trash.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
Haha! I love your humor! White guys wanting to use you for a sexual experiment? Yeah, that’s all your worth. We fuck you and dump you like a piece of waste. We don’t date you because we are ashamed to be seen with you in public. It will ruin our superiority complex.
On the other hand, you can’t get a white man nor any other man because you are a low-life ghetto piece of shit. We will use you as an experiment making you think we like you only to dispose of you after we get what we want.
Abagond’s a little bitch. And yes I have a white girlfriend. She is the standard of beauty in America and you are in the garbage dump. Go back to Africa and leave my fucking country. Whites built this country and WE make the fucking rules around here.
And go back to your poor ghetto, scum infested neighborhood and hide because no one wants to see putrid shit like you.
Your oppressed and you will suffer forevermore! Because you are weak and you have no say in MY country.
Get the fuck out of here and drown in formaldehyde. And go play in your pen and eat your own shit like the rest of you zoo inhabitants do.
You are pathetic and you are a obese, smelly loud-mouthed ghetto whore that no one wants. And close your legs because I can smell your nasty cunt from here. And clean up the maggots that crawl out of it as well you lowly piece of human waste.”
Go back to europe and take your shit eating white bitches with you!
Abagond’s a smart man, not some uneducated backwoods redenck like you.
The poor ghetto would be Russia, you white trash have the largest ghetto in the world!
IF you had a white bitch you wouldn’t be on an interracial dating site and you wouldn’t show up on abagond’s blog harassing all the black women, you pathetic skinhead trash.
Comment by Dee43 on 30 November 2009:
Wow…Wow. is all I can say. Why seeking for love with whom you are comfortable with makes you racist and all this other mess. As many others have stated love has no color. I really wish we could all see it for what it is and move on with our lives. Enough said……
Comment by godiva61 on 30 November 2009:
@Azrazyel,
One of my old Army buddies was an outstanding soldier, he was on top of his game but he had one vice that most of us could not tolerate when he was not in uniform, his behavior when he was drinking.
When he dranked his true feelings about everything came to surface. Most people were advised to ignore his behavior, because afterall, we were reminded, that it was the alcohol that caused him to misbehave. I thought then as I do now, the alcohol, gave him the courage to say what he really wanted to say all along.
I thought about him today after reading your comments from the past 24hrs. Your alcohol was your anger so to speak, and your anger allowed you to be brutally honest about what’s really in your heart.
I am not surprised, hurt or shocked. It is what it is, and the more things change in this country, the more some things stay the same.
In July you posed the question “how could I be racist, If I am interested in black women? White racists and white supremacists hate all blacks, not me”.
In October you said “I came here in hopes of communicating and possibly meeting a black female someday”.
Today your mentality is to, and I’m quoting you, “to go back to Africa and leave my______country… Go play in your pen and eat your own_______like the rest of YOU zoo inhabitants do.
It has been in my experience that only racist white people are the ones who are quick to tell black people to go back to Africa and to leave this country!!
When you you refrenced Zoo Inhabitants, who in your eyesight are the Inhabitants? Were you speaking to one person or an entire group?? Not that it really matters, because in my opinion, if you feel that way about one black person, you feel that way about all of us, it is what it is!!!
Whites built this country and Whites makes the rules???? Is this your true racist mentality, or did you just speak out of anger or were you under the influence of alcohol?????
This country was built and prospered on the backs, sweat, blood, lynchings, picking cotton from sun up to sun down, by black slaves, and yes the white people were their, willing and waiting to whip, strangle, de-humanize, lynch, and rape the slaves, by any means necessary!!!!
The history lesson is not my focus here today. I just wanted you to know that I did NOT appreciate the WHEN you reacted, out of anger. I would have respected you more, had you been Man enough and Honest enough to say how you truly felt all along, instead of the Pretending!!
There were too many people here that gave you the benefit of the doubt, who treated you for the most part in a decent manner, both the men and women and I personally think it is a slap in the face, a rope around the neck for you to now to tell any black person to go back to Africa and to leave YOUR country!!!! Her rude, crude and obnoxious behavior is in MY opinion, no just cause for the degrading comments that came from your mouth!!!!!!!
My Grandmother used to always say “talk less and listen more because then and only then, will you see a person for what they really are”!
In other words, you can’t hide your true self!!
godiva
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
You figured me out. But I should not matter to you since I have no bearing on you personally. My “alcohol” is the influence of friends. I know it’s wrong, but this is how I am programmed/conditioned to feel and think.
I have much hatred and have severe racist tendencies. I admit to that. I have done many wrongs without making it right. I question myself quite often but when the button gets pushed too far, the demon within gets unleashed.
So, I suppose you excuse black people who act like that such as demon eyes? That’s fine because whites made you that way and gives you the “right” to feel and think freely without the right for white people to call you out on it.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 30 November 2009:
Godiva, its the same crap from that skinhead that the posters had to deal with on abagond’s blog.
Azrayzel was banned for calling a black female poster a monkey on Abagond’s blog.
He goes around saying he loves black women and he wants one and then he calls them monkeys and says he has a white woman.
he’s one of the skinhead white men that wants to use black women for a social experiment. Use them for sex and that’s it.
There’s alot of weirdos like that.
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
Demon eyes, you are a social experiment (gone terribly wrong). That’s all your good for. Use you for sex like the good ‘ol days.
But, you seem to have much experience involving white men. Why is that demon eyes? Are you obsessed with us? I think you are! Who else goes around blogs obsessing about white men?
I have a white woman but you keep mentioning so. Are you jealous? Because no one will pick you? You hate the fact “white” is the standard for beauty and everyone looks up to them like a princess whilst they look down on you, trample you and laugh at you because of your jealousy and repeated attempts of failure to try and fit in.
You are a joke and a laughing comedy of humanity gone terribly wrong….haha
Comment by godiva61 on 30 November 2009:
@Azrazyel
Any and all behavior that is demoralizing matters to me, wether the behavior is directed personally at me or to other’s. Certain behavior’s breed destruction, destruction destroy’s and leaves in the ashes, despair and hoplesness.
Not ONCE did I applaud her behavior, nor do I condone her behavior. I even made mentioned that her behavior was RUDE, CRUDE, AND OBNOXIOUS. I made NO excuses for her behavior!!!
Let’s get a few things straight, no White person, no Black person have that much power over my life to influence my behavior. I do not, nor have I ever used the ill’s and the racism of America to keep me down or to keep me from EXCELLING at all that I do!
If and when I have something to say I have enough discipline, tact and honesty to deal with the behavior of the Person and NOT the Entire Race of that person.. I’m talking to you right now, not ALL white people, and take notice, there is no racial bigotry/slurs coming from my mouth, but more importantly I am not programmed or conditioned to have much hatred and severe racist tendencies, such as yourself. I love life way too much to carry around the dead weight of racism on my shoulders.
I am a individual and as an individual I have the right, the common sense to choose right from wrong, we all do, at least we should. If and when I or anyone mistreats you, then you have every right to confront them about their behavior, the racial slurs should not be a part of the dialogue when confronting such behavior!!!
There’s a line from the movie the Godfather, “keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer”. I would like to add to this sentiment by saying “you should know the difference between your friends and your enemies”!
If your friends is the cause of your behavior and your mentality, then maybe you need some new friends… True friends bring out the best in a person, true friends inspire you to do well, and most of all true friends want the very BEST for your life..
I’ve always believed that it is a cop out a weak excuse for a person to use their friends and upbringing to justify their racist views.. If you know in your heart that racism and the hatred of people is wrong, then DENOUCNE it, take NO part in it and don’t look back! Either you agree with it or you don’t and if you lose these so called friends in the process, then they weren’t your TRUE friends to begin with! Everyone that smiles in your face is not necessarily your friend.
You can’t have it both ways, you can’t be the victim and the perpetrator at the same time!!!! Sometimes in life you have to make difficult choices and that means sometimes you might have to stand alone for a little while, or for a long while, however when one door closes, there’s usually a window that’s open. Making sound decision’s, difficult decision’s can build character!! Maybe it’s time that you choose the good or the evil, racism is evil and it is not of GOD or His Will for his People.
Both you and I will be held accountable for every word and every deed that we committed to in our lives.
You should want better for your life! You should take the necessary steps in your life to become the best Man that you can be and the Man the God want’s you to be, but it will not happen if you don’t want it for your life!
godiva
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
I appreciate your words godiva. I have prayed and prayed for understanding and reasoning of why I act and feel and think the way I do. Deep down inside it hurts. It hurts that I think this way about another human being or beings. I question why I have so much anger and hate. I question why I am not a stronger man and have more humanity to take the higher road. Inside I am the one who is weak. I have built my foundation on sand. I have allowed the evils to succumb to me and wipe out what is good.
I am not deceiving you with these words, merely expressing my thoughts at this time. Take it for what it is. I pray to God but I hear nor see no direction. So it seems I give up. I give way to negative aspects in favor of positive.
I am racist. I can admit that. I don’t understand why I am. I have not always known of my ways of thinking before until the last year. Now that I realize I embrace it for the bad in replacing the good. Maybe I have always been this way growing up without realizing what I am doing.
I just don’t know…
Comment by godiva61 on 30 November 2009:
@Redeyes,
I can not nor will I comment on what Az said on another blog because if I don’t read/see it for myself, then as far as I’m concerned it’s hearsay.
Now since I believe in being honest I will say to you that your behavior, in my opinion has not been very noble or ladylike. You came on here in a very confrontational and somewhat mean spirited way.
I believe in free speech and you have every right to speak your mind but not everyone is, or will agree with ALL that you say, and they have a right to say so, but the name calling and the stereotyping is non-productive and inappropiate.
The foul language is offensive, the graphic sexual rhetoric is very unladylike. I’m old school and this is one of my pet peeves with women of today.
godiva
Comment by sweetntender on 30 November 2009:
wow, what’s going on here??? Pls can we behave like adults?? This is very upsetting when we are treating each other like this. We are all here looking for love and not to fight.
Comment by Ichibod on 1 December 2009:
Azrazyel, you’re still my boy! I believe everyone is a little racist, especially in this culture, whether it be of hatred or just plain ignorance. That chick is just stupid. I can’t believe you let her push you that far. Anyway, how’s your relationship going? Glad to hear you found someone.
Comment by Azrazyel on 1 December 2009:
It’s going good bro. She is a metalhead just like me. Very short. Makes me feel better since I am short myself. Actually met her while helping my buddy D.J. He was playing a slow-dance song and she asked me to join her, so I did.
I don’t want to speak anymore right now because I am ashamed of myself and my head is hung low in disappointment. I am not deserving of good company right now. I have a lot to think about.
In the meantime take care of yourself.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 1 December 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
Demon eyes, you are a social experiment (gone terribly wrong). That’s all your good for. Use you for sex like the good ‘ol days.
But, you seem to have much experience involving white men. Why is that demon eyes? Are you obsessed with us? I think you are! Who else goes around blogs obsessing about white men?
I have a white woman but you keep mentioning so. Are you jealous? Because no one will pick you? You hate the fact “white” is the standard for beauty and everyone looks up to them like a princess whilst they look down on you, trample you and laugh at you because of your jealousy and repeated attempts of failure to try and fit in.
You are a joke and a laughing comedy of humanity gone terribly wrong….haha”
Your ignorant ass showed up on abagond’s blog again posting under different names! You fool we know its you! switching around names ain’t gonna change anything! sicko!
You told a black lady you would “rip her monkey face off” and then you have the nerve to show up on a dating site looking for black women?
Like i said another skinhead punk going to any black oriented website you can to harass black people.
If you had a girlfriend peckerwood, you wouldn’t show up here hounding black women.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 1 December 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 30 November 2009:
I appreciate your words godiva. I have prayed and prayed for understanding and reasoning of why I act and feel and think the way I do. Deep down inside it hurts. It hurts that I think this way about another human being or beings. I question why I have so much anger and hate. I question why I am not a stronger man and have more humanity to take the higher road. Inside I am the one who is weak. I have built my foundation on sand. I have allowed the evils to succumb to me and wipe out what is good.
I am not deceiving you with these words, merely expressing my thoughts at this time. Take it for what it is. I pray to God but I hear nor see no direction. So it seems I give up. I give way to negative aspects in favor of positive.
I am racist. I can admit that. I don’t understand why I am. I have not always known of my ways of thinking before until the last year. Now that I realize I embrace it for the bad in replacing the good. Maybe I have always been this way growing up without realizing what I am doing.
I just don’t know…”
Why are you on here?
Black women ain’t your personal therapists!
Yes you’re a racist, alreay know that, question is, why are you seeking black women since you are racist?
Black women are not your playtoys or punching bags!
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 1 December 2009:
Comment by Ichibod on 1 December 2009:
Azrazyel, you’re still my boy! I believe everyone is a little racist, especially in this culture, whether it be of hatred or just plain ignorance. That chick is just stupid. I can’t believe you let her push you that far. Anyway, how’s your relationship going? Glad to hear you found someone.”
YOU are an idiot, a black man being buddies with a skinhead white supremacist.
You must be an ass-kissing uncle tom as well.
That freak has no girlfriend, get it?
He goes to any black website he can to harass black people and he has a sick fetish for black women.
We already dealt with his ignorant ass on abagond’s blog, he fucked with every black poster on there.
Whining and complaining about black women, he’s sick.
Still gonna be buddies with him when he threatens to rip YOUR monkey face off?
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 1 December 2009:
Comment by godiva61 on 30 November 2009:
@Redeyes,
I can not nor will I comment on what Az said on another blog because if I don’t read/see it for myself, then as far as I’m concerned it’s hearsay.
Now since I believe in being honest I will say to you that your behavior, in my opinion has not been very noble or ladylike. You came on here in a very confrontational and somewhat mean spirited way.
I believe in free speech and you have every right to speak your mind but not everyone is, or will agree with ALL that you say, and they have a right to say so, but the name calling and the stereotyping is non-productive and inappropiate.
The foul language is offensive, the graphic sexual rhetoric is very unladylike. I’m old school and this is one of my pet peeves with women of today.
godiva”
Godiva I don’t give a shit what you think.
And i don’t care what you “agree with”, go to the blog and read his silly comments for yourself.
This ignorant freak has threatened to “beat the black off of me” and he has called other posters monkeys and niggers.
It is ridiculous that this fool goes from abagond’s blog calling black women ghetto and monkeys to a dating website looking for black pussy.
Comment by Ebonique on 1 December 2009:
Hello everyone. It is such a shame to see all the hate and negative words being expressed here. This is a service that we are all paying for to meet someone positive. This is also the season for love to be shared for all. Before anyone else decides to say something negative give it some thought. It takse less muscles to smile than to frown. Be of good cheer and spread love, not hate. Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday with their loved ones.
Comment by Cocoa on 2 December 2009:
Wow! I feel sorry for some of you guys. You are so angry. Honestly, there are white men who like black women and there are some who do not. Obviously, many like them because this website exists. Nine times out of 10 when I leave the house, I am approached by white men, and I am a Black woman. It seems as though more white men find me attractive than black men.
Comment by AlexzandraC on 2 December 2009:
Are we sure this is Interracial DATING Central??? Reads more like Interracial HATING Central to me. I feel violated…
Comment by Ichibod on 2 December 2009:
I did have a wonderful holiday, Ebonique. How about yourself? It’s a joy to see all of your loving and positive words being expressed here.
Comment by sanddie on 3 December 2009:
Well, I’m a white woman and frankly, I think all this racism is non-sense. I am attracted to black men and white men. I really have no preference because it’s all about their character and integrity.
As far as some of the comments made about how white woman have attitudes wondering why a man wouldn’t be with them instead of with a black woman. I have to say that I think black woman are beautiful and I’ve often wondered why a black man would be interested in me because of that… Now I’m definitely not a lesbian, but appreciate everyone and can be honest about what I think about how anyone looks.
It’s ashame that all these years have passed, yet we still have prejudice in this world. What IF we were all blind? Hmmm, how would we love if we couldn’t see who we were choosing?
Take Care!
Comment by Ebonique on 4 December 2009:
Thank you Ichibod.My holiday was nice. I hope you had an enjoyable one as well.
Comment by jaden24 on 4 December 2009:
Azrazyel,
I can respect that you own up to your faults. I have sympathy for you because I too used to be racist to a mild degree. We are products of our environments. I don’t know about you but I was raised in an environment where there wasn’t severe hate for blacks but jokes were told that were degrading. It wasn’t til about 11th grade that I started to be more of an individual and think for myself. I moved away and started to find the person that I wanted to be that felt good. It takes a lot of time and we all have our own unique circumstances that determine how long it takes to progress. Keep your head up and don’t get into fights with people that are racist because they will try to drag you down to their level and make you feel ugly. If your friends aren’t a good influence- find different friends that don’t have to degrade others for an easy laugh or to feel good about themselves.
Everyone,
I want to thank you for providing positive comments despite those whose futile attempts tried to bring out the worst in us. We can be beautiful people when we try to mend the hurt that history has given us and keep it behind us. We have a bright future to look forward to! We may have different colors of skin but we all bleed, we all hurt, we all laugh and we all can love!
I have much love for all of you black ladies. I like your style and think you are beautiful. You have a lot of great values, morals and traits that are awesome. I appreciate that you are starting to look outside of your color and comfort zone to consider us whiteys =]
I hope everyone has a great time during these holidays! Be safe and thankful!
~Jaden
Comment by PassionateB on 4 December 2009:
Woe! This was crazy, I’d never really looked into the articles and blogging on here… this was a first for me and boy did it get heated.
Representing the human race…I say I am flawed in my flesh no matter its color… I curse my own humanity and that of others, because it takes away from our souls true desire to be loved with no boundry.
I am Peach and I like Brown…always have, always will. It was born in me… The only thing I am prejudice about is… well, honestly my own race because that’s whose ignorance I have had more life experience with. So truly I am prejudice against ignorance and judgement!
Forgive us Father for we Know not what we do…
Just love me and I surely love you!
Comment by Azrazyel on 4 December 2009:
Thank you for your comments Jaden. I really appreciate that. I’m in the process of soul-searching and healing. I have a distance to go but only through God (with whom I trust) is where I can find complete understanding and solace. As unclean in my transgressions that I be only gives me a stronger sense and understanding as well as will to improve and drive the poison within my mind. I know inside I am a good and non-hateful human being, but I have failed into an abnormal extremity of anger driven through hatred.
My process is to find and understand the reasoning why I have the poor mentality of a good man I so claim. I believe when I can release this poison that plagues me only then can my true colors of good character shine.
I am extremely apologetic to everyone I may have offended and feel deep regret for my unsolicited actions.
Here is a Christmas poem I dug up.
“Twas The Night Before Jesus Came”
Twas the night before Jesus came and all through the house,
Not a creature was praying, not one in the house.
Their bibles were lain on the shelf without care,
In hopes that Jesus would not come there.
The children were dressing to crawl into bed,
Not once ever kneeling or bowing a head.
And mom in her rocker with baby on her lap,
Was watching the Late Show while I took a nap.
When out of the East there arose such a clatter,
I sprang to my feet to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
When what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But angels proclaiming Jesus was here!
With a light like the sun sending forth a bright ray,
I knew in a moment this must be THE DAY!
The light of His face made me cover my head,
It was Jesus! returning just like he had said.
And though I possessed worldly wisdom and wealth,
I cried when I saw Him in spite of myself.
In the book of life which He held in his hand,
Was written the name of every saved man.
He spoke not a word as He searched for my name,
When he said “it’s not here” my head hung in shame.
The people whose names had been written with love,
He gathered to take to His Father above.
With those who were ready He rose without a sound,
While all the rest were left standing around.
I fell to my knees. But it was too late,
I had waited too long and thus sealed my fate.
I stood and cried as they rose out of sight,
Oh, if only I had been ready tonight.
In the words of this poem the meaning is clear,
The coming of Jesus is drawing near.
There’s only one life and when comes the last call,
We’ll find that the Bible was true after all!
Happy Holidays everyone and have a Blessed and safe Christmas.
Comment by MOONDOGGIE on 4 December 2009:
I have been reading some of the comments,and wow.This is not the way to be with each other.We are all beautiful people in different ways.Was Adam WHITE,EveBLACK,come on people we are one just different culture.CHECK this out,lived back east,now in AZ. MY SKIN IS DARK NOW,aim i black or aim i white? It”s were we come from,and how we were brought up. That’s what needs to be taught in our homes today.We can live together,schooltogether,war,sports,and so on,but we can’t love together.No blackwomen do not look like monkeys,they are very beautiful people,just like the rest of the world.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 4 December 2009:
Comment by Azrazyel on 4 December 2009:
Thank you for your comments Jaden. I really appreciate that. I’m in the process of soul-searching and healing. I have a distance to go but only through God (with whom I trust) is where I can find complete understanding and solace. As unclean in my transgressions that I be only gives me a stronger sense and understanding as well as will to improve and drive the poison within my mind. I know inside I am a good and non-hateful human being, but I have failed into an abnormal extremity of anger driven through hatred.
My process is to find and understand the reasoning why I have the poor mentality of a good man I so claim. I believe when I can release this poison that plagues me only then can my true colors of good character shine.
I am extremely apologetic to everyone I may have offended and feel deep regret for my unsolicited actions.”
BULLSHIT. You did the same thing on abagond’s blog, “oh poor me, i’m sorry” and then you went right back to calling the black women nasty names.
Typical white trash with a fetish for black women.
Comment by melanated one on 4 December 2009:
mixing of the races is wrong…but beneficial to whites…there is a push for whites to breed w/ blk caus of their melanin…as the hole in the ozone gets bigger…so does the rate for their skin cancer. All blk skin does is manufacture MORE melanin to protect them…but this isnt beneficial to the blk race cause it weakens their immune systems and creates gentic mutations which leads to pancreas cancers, breast cancer, diabetes along w/ their diets this is disaster to their race…all the above are not issues in africa where there is less mixing of the white races.
Comment by sanddie on 4 December 2009:
Very awesome poem Azrazyel. Thanks for sharing.
Comment by Azrazyel on 4 December 2009:
Your welcome sanddie. It’s not mine though, I dug that up that my grandmother gave me before she passed away.
Comment by godiva61 on 4 December 2009:
@Azrazyel,
I just read your poem and I thouroughly ejoyed it!
Grandmother’s and our Elders are awesome!!!!!! Also good job for tuning out the EVIL comments. Give EVIL NO POWER!!!
Thanks for sharing!
jaden24,
You have such a endearing and gentle spirit.. Great advice you gave to Az, and yes we ALL can love, even through the difficulties, and for those who are hell bent on being EVIL leave them to their own misery, they will soon self destruct, it’s just a matter of time.
godiva
Comment by lilyroses57 on 6 December 2009:
Azrazyel how are you on here talking about black women. This is an interracial website. I am not understanding or seeing were any hate should be on here. You call black women monkeys and niggers. That is unacceptable just like this article that was used to bring the hate toward the black female. The devil uses man well. He is so able to be used for that kind of spiritual nonsense. This is dead and if you are racist you shouldn’t be on here. You don’t know what that lady looks like and she doesn’t know what you look like really. This article is a one sided angry starter. Some of you got played to show who you really are and what you really think. I actually hope no woman will go with such an easily angry man. I feel for any race that would fall into your web. The both of you need to grow up and talk like grown-ups and not tiny tots from the playground that the teachers have to separate from fighting. Stereotyping any race isn’t good. There are skinny and thin black women out there but TV doesn’t want to show those to anyone because they know the mind activates by sight. So hopefully all black women will become fat so they will be on the other side of the dating pool. I am not sure what black women did in this country but I do know she was in the same boat with the black male. The black male can not be here without his female and visa versa. I also notice that there is huge slant toward the black woman not to date outside her race. If she does it starts a lot of hate. She is suppose to behave and do as she is told. She is the last female to break from male chauvinism, although she is the head of the house due to racial profiling. She has allow a lot of pain to sit on her shoulders without saying a word which was her biggest mistake. She has also allowed her black male to speak bad about her to control her dating habits. You really think a black man doesn’t want a black woman…you will never understand then the ill-effects of slavery. My mum is a women of colour, Jewish and English, so I have different thought process than most of you on here. I am looking at the house and I see the windows clearly. My dad is true American Indian. My mum’s mum had red hair do you know how much flack I get for having red hair in the states, a lot, so there is some real issues here that really need to be solved and it starts with everyone looking inside themselves. All of this anger and name calling, tell me that not too many people should be on here or in a relationship. What is Azrazyel on here for in the first place? Why does the interracial website allow mud-slinging on the black female when this should be a site to express love toward relationships. NOW HEAR THIS NOW HEAR THIS!!! BLACK WOMEN ARE USE TO INTERRACIAL DATING. IT IS NOT NEW. FREDERICK DOUGLAS WAS MARRIED TO A WHITE WOMAN. BIG DEAL. PEOPLE NEED TO GET OVER THEMSELVES. G-d meant for all women to be loved. Black women have never enslaved, started a war, burned down a church or lynched anyone so why the hate…you guys need to work your hostilities out in the right place. Men fight; men stop picking on women. White men and Black men need to talk and stop putting it out on the black female. There are beautiful black women like any other races of women. It’s a good thing you can’t have her too. G-d does not have respect of persons. You think telling someone they are unattractive is healthy so you can lower the self-esteem so they can be used and abused. Small minded people believe a beautiful black woman is a slut just because she is beautiful. When they find out she is not and won’t bend to their desire they spew a lot of hate out toward the beautiful black woman. Believe me I have seen it in action. NOW HEAR THIS, NOW HEAR THIS BLACK WOMEN EVERYWHERE GET A REAL MAN. NOT ONE WHO THINKS WITH HIS GENITALIA BUT WITH HIS MIND AND HEART, YOU SEE G-D DID CREATE THOSE MEN, REGARDLESS OF WHAT RACE. AND THEY DON’T SPEW HATE NO MATTER WHO TURNS THEM DOWN OR REGARDLESS OF A PAST, PRESENT, OR FUTURE RELATIONSHIP. azrazyel, yes I put you under my foot, as I AM instructed me to do, you have been rebuked.
Comment by lilyroses57 on 6 December 2009:
Sorry but I had to say it. I have seen nothing but evil articles directed to black women on this site and I don’t know why. There are no articles on here in regards to much else. It is a real shame. I hope the haters really lose the hate because it has been hurting and killing people for a very long time.
Comment by scrolltide on 7 December 2009:
I can honestly say that I can understand where some black women come from. It’s not they really disappprove of the relationship they just wish they could have it. I from the south and for the most part you will more then likely find a black man with a white woman. For the black women this is hard to take sometimes because we know that there aren’t many white men or men of other races who actually date black women. Whether its because they are just not attracted to black women or they are and just don’t want to “disappoint” their family. This is what we have to deal with. A very dwindling pool of men for the black women to choose from. It gets very frustrating after awhile and it does contribute to less marriages in the black community. I have friends who are black and want to date black men but mostly when black men become more affluent they date and marry white women. Which is why I think you find more single affluent black women then black men.
Comment by walking_oreo on 7 December 2009:
Hmmmm, I must be the exception to the rule, bc I don’t see what the issue is of interracial dating. What’s wrong with enjoying the company of somebody who is of a different colour, quite frankly I only date white guys, bc it’s what I’m attracted to and I have no qualms or issues when I see mixed couples. I want to go tell them,they rock for breaking the norm and being with somebody they care about who just happens to be a different colour. When is the rest of the world going to catch up and realize that mixed couples are awesome, and their kids are the cutest,lol! Sigh, guess until then I’ll continue to deal with the stares of being an amazingly beautiful black gal with the really cute white guys. Mixed couples are a great way to learn about another culture anyways, sheesh. I’ll shut up now and go back to getting grief from the black community, hmm I wonder if I’m even still considered a member,lol. ( I swear the way black people treat me when is horrible.) Oreo over and out..
Comment by Arizona Mildman on 7 December 2009:
I have dated black women since I was 43 years old and met someone who found me attractive. I remember when black women would absolutely run the other way as if I was insane for even looking at her. Finally, things started changing, but the people I get the most problems with are black people, male and female. I did, one night have some drunk white guy, cowboy type, walked up behind me and my date and called me a “nigger lover”. Now, I get white people who will see me with my lady friend and while she is in the bathroom tell me that my white wife at home doesn’t deserve this. The biggest problem is OLDER people (black and white) can’t get it through their head that interracial relationships are here, they need to get over it, get on with their life and quit whining about things changing. That is the biggest problem for them, they are used to things being a certain way and anything different scares them. There are black ministers telling black women to stay away from us white devils, we just want to use them for sex and throw them away. The fact is that I hear black women talking about BLACK MEN having done that same thing for centuries. There are all kinds of people so why do we have to get stuck in one mode. The statistics now are that 49 % of black women are going to go unmarried if they don’t look outside of their race. Why should they be alone for their whole lives? Black women talk about men being afraid of commitment, but then are afraid of being in a commitment to a white man. No matter how you slice it, you can’t want a man and not want him completely and not expect him to be confused. Your family is going to give you crap about it, but you have to ignore them until they come to understand that he DOES prefer and love you over anyone else.
Comment by Azrazyel on 8 December 2009:
I believe the reason white men stay away from black women is because they are constantly finding excuses to date out. Always complaining about what black men are doing. Never do you see a black woman saying she dates out of her race without involving the words “black men/man”. It runs off as desperate and no man (regardless of race) wants a desperate woman.
Black women talk about white men using them as a fetish then at the same time using the “black man” example as an excuse. I am telling you it is an utter turnoff. Maybe if you weren’t “forced” to look out people would except you more. And stop using excuses to date other races, it’s rather lame and lackluster and shows your intentions.
This blog is infested with excuses, just look around and you will see it reeks of desperation. I know some of you will get offended but deep down inside you know it has some validity to it. Everyone needs to make it easier for themselves and stop making pathetic excuses to date a white or non-black man.
Until that day arrives all things remain laughable and everything void of legitimacy. Only a few black women are real and finding that is the same as seeking out a needle in a haystack. Everything else is fruition in vain.
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 8 December 2009:
Dear AZ
I am glad you addressed that. Instead of looking at white men as ATM machines. Look at them as relationship prospects.
It really doesn’t matter. These sellout black women get “used” back and they don’t like it very much.
I figure you will see more white me being dragged on “Maury” by desperate black women very soon.
They are going to say “Maury he is my baby father you see the ears”.
Right stupid bitch, turns out he is not the father.
Have a nice day.
Comment by The B Man on 8 December 2009:
To Mr Laurelton Queens on 14 November
Hey dude where can I find this conversation that you said you had?
This steams the hell out of me. All the damn nerve.
Black women tend to be vocal about their dislike of interracial relationships. In particular, black men with white women. I personally think it cuts both ways. Even white men involved with black women, dislikes a black man with a white woman. I don’t care how much they deny it.
I asked this white guy on my blog would you let your biracial daughter date a “black man”. He said he would have to think about it. This white guy has a black woman but he needs to “think about it”.
I told him “you can think about it but we will take your daughter whether you
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 8 December 2009:
It was Julia’s white husband on my blog that said that statement.
He said he had to think about letting his “biracial daughter date a black man”.
Even white men with black women do not want ANY black man near their daughter, sister or mother.
They need to admit it. That’s all.
Off the ‘MAN ON FIRE BLOG ALBUM” I go in depth on everything in my blog.
http://www.mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/
Comment by The B Man on 9 December 2009:
Hey: Mr Laurelton Queens
I can’t find it and I looked on your blog. Be a little more specific.
Comment by The B Man on 9 December 2009:
Mr Laurelton Queens
I couldn’t find this “I asked this white guy on my blog would you let your biracial daughter date a “black man”. He said he would have to think about it. This white guy has a black woman but he needs to “think about it”.
I told him “you can think about it but we will take your daughter whether you
You said it was on your blog but I looked under “MAN ON FIRE BLOG ALBUM” and I did not see it. A little help please?
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 9 December 2009:
Dear B Man
That was posts months back. It wasn’t a really big deal at the time.
It was in general conversation my blog.
But it was an old post in the archives.
Comment by SingleDAD4u2DATE on 10 December 2009:
I have never being with a black woman or even thought of dated any1 out of my race when i was young and in high school . Since i had join the military…i have been open minded and explores my option that there is plenty of good women out there for every 1 and not by the color of their skin .
My Ex. wife is black and we has a lovely daughter together . So now …i LOVE black women and i never would changed for any1 else. I have many black male friends and they prefer dating white or asian females only ……so i be telling them i volunteer to take all the Black women off their hands . = )
Comment by notlrac12 on 14 December 2009:
first of all black women should not be offended as a relationship should be based on whats right for the two individuals involved. all it amounts to is collectivism. and honestly there are a lot of black men that they dont care for and would not want to date. if this brotha can find a white woman that careds for them why should they object??? really the fact of the matter is if you are happy dating a white woman and/or marrying one why should you give a damn what a black woman thinks.
Comment by notlrac12 on 14 December 2009:
the fact of the matter is that no matter whatever racial classification a person is they have no right to question the preference of another person when it comes to dating. its time that this racial garbage ceases period. both black and white have the tendency to exhibit behavior based on race and its ludicrous because people are individuals not a collective. we are not black or white americans but americans. the race we belong to is the human race. and as individuals in this common humanity we have choices. that is what the american experience is about, being free to choose.
Comment by mika0227 on 25 December 2009:
This is a silly question; of course black women aren’t the only ones that may be opposed to interracial relationships.
Next question.
Comment by LISA1 on 26 December 2009:
I have read mostly all comments on interracial dating and the black women who date white men… Does it matter of the color of someone’s skin?
Comment by julius26 on 27 December 2009:
In a perfect world race should never matter but this aint a perfect world
Comment by Ichibod on 28 December 2009:
Mika0227,
I like your answer, true and to the point. Your post is the only post that should have ever been posted on this topic. As soon as this topic showed up, so many women just got on the defensive rather than just answering the question as it was asked, like you did. Afterall, the topic article includes an excerpt from a black woman’s blog. All James does is question IT.
Comment by ErzulieRedEyes on 28 December 2009:
Black women ARE the opponents because no one In their right mind would want to date a bunch of inbred child-molesting white trash.
Are you dating white men? DONT, chances are they have put their mouth on a dog or two, look here:
A whiteman molests a boy on live television and the audience just laughs and does nothing about it. The man kisses, fondles and dry humps the child while the audience claps:
Video:
http://whitewatch.wordpress.com/2009/06/07/dutch-pedophile-molests-child-live-and-audience-laughs/
(Brought to you by the same superior whites that legalized gay sex in public parks and started slavery against africans.)
Comment by Mr Laurelton Queens on 28 December 2009:
Of course race matters when you date!
Clearly, if race didn’t matter more black women would be married to white men (currently 4 percent of black women are married to white men). So you tell me what is going on? Black women are good enough to spank your penis off her ass but not good enough marriage.
It is really a damn shame white women beat black women in every phase of dating. Black women happen to be more attractive but they are getting overlapped by white women.
I hear these nappy headed black women say “well the whiteness brainwashed you concerning white women”.
Na, your stinky attitude caused this to happen. Got really nothing to do with her being white. Men flock to women that are easy to get along with but not “loose”. Black women go from one extreme to another when it comes to dating.
Either they are anal or whoring around with different men. Those black women in the middle, church going or whatever the case can’t seem to keep a man around because they are either boring or to busy.
Some will dispute what I say. Just look at the numbers concerning single black women and about 40 percent of them NEVER been married.
I addressed it on my new blog album ” Black Amadeus Mozart”.
Mr Potato head Steve Harvey who left his ex black wife on the side of the road got the nerve to speak for all black men concerning black women being single. Talking about “he didn’t teach us how to be men”. I wonder who taught him how to be a man considering he left his black ex wife with only 1,000 child support payment a month and he is rich!
The paperwork is on my new post. Oh yea Bill Cosby another ho ass black man making black men look bad too. After fucking his white maid and admitting it. He got the nerve to preach to us about pulling up our pants. Negro why you ain’t pull up your pants when you had your penis in that white maid. That goes for Morgan Freedman too. How you get in a car accident with your white mistress. It is not even because she white. Now your fucking your niece and she like 22 or something.
These are the clowns trying to lecture black men!
No wonder black women are lost and wayward. It’s time for new leadership. You got to tear it down and rebuild it.
Oh by the way ABC News always got professional black women looking desperate on television. Why they never have a segment of white men talking about black women? I will tell you why! White women won’t allow that. They will sympathize with black women but they are passive aggressive when it comes to men. How are they able to pull successful white men and sometimes successful black men.
What are black women left with? They may get white men but no Brad Pitt, some washed up white man that couldn’t get a decent woman. I will talk about this later. Black women have been hood winked.
(closing the door I am gone)
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Comment by tatted2death on 1 January 2010:
I see “Daffy Duck” (and his “confuzzled” minions”…LMAO) and Yosemite Sam have been doing a tap-dance on everyone’s nerves in here….
This would have been amusing if it weren’t sooooo predictable.
Peace and Blessings to All (and to ALL Happy New Year)
tatted2death
Comment by Kittytap on 16 January 2010:
Hey I agree with James who post this 100%. I go through this crap all the time with my realation ship. At my job I am friends with everybody but there are some girls who are just co-workers, you know we not that close. They are white. So I’ve been dating a man for a while and I would talk about us sometimes to them, cause they- who I thought was my buddies and who would have gave me support about it. So I never said what he was, as in what is his, in his race, you see. One day, I brought in some pictures of him to show to eveverybody. OK.. so I am dating a Russian. Well I tell yah hell broke rang out! Did you know that some of those girls are pissed off of me dating him. They kept saying why? Why? are you dating him? And they are white. Can you believe this? They ask me this. And on top of that In the pictures that I showed them some of the girls have said that he dresses like he has status or like he is very wealthy or something….I didn’t know all that about how much money he makes because I thought it was not important. As long as he has a job and that he works, thats all I care about. You know what , thats funny I thought thats all what black men say about black women. That all black women are golddiggers!!! Hem ?? So I have told him what the girls said about him, at my job/ at work, to him about it. And he told me, that It was true. He was a Multi– Millionaire. HE owns a Aviation company and all that stuff–and so on. I was shocked! I gone back and talk to them because they were my friends so I thought? Hell Naw! These Tricks, sly, slue-foot, hoes! I have caught them talking about me in the back of how I was to big and that I was black for #1, and that I was to stupid to see that he had alot of money, !!!on top of that and they can’t understand why that man would want to date me anyway. Some girl have stop talking to me too because of him. Can you believe that OHH well who gives a sh_t!
So we kept on dating and he proposed later on. And we set a Date for later this year. He didn’t think I was stupid at all. In fact I was the only woman who saw the man for who he really was. In fact when we was together I never ask him for anything ever, before I found out about his Income. He was very impressed with that. And he could see that I was a strong hard working woman. BUT I WILL TELL YOU THIS, A SISTA WILL NOT QUIT HER JOB UNTILL HE PUT THAT RING ON IT! When you call me Mrs.______ then I quit my job. So Im a sport the New Benz he bought me and drive it to work damm-day. Who say its not fun being a bitch for once….. Why not, some people say black women have…Attitude anyway, is what I get a lot. And they say black women has attitudes? And they say that black women are goldgiggers too? Its called Being Blessed, you got that! Cause I pray for that good man everyday…… Plaaaaaoeeeeezzz Don’t give me that!! White women is the worst one to get them. ATTITUDES!! It takes a white woman to sniff money. And they know it. Any time a blackwomen is with a white man they have have a big problem with it. It’s funny how red they turn in the face. Even the ones who are with black men!!! Oh blackmen? Please don’t get me on that issue. Theres not a blackman that can say anythang, because they know that when they see me Im taken cared of. People look at us yalp I know. They got to look at me twice and a third, going on the fourth, working its way to the fifth, talking abouth the sixth times they staring and rolling they’re eyes at me, just me not him. Im sick and tired of the this treatment that I am getting because a handsome man is wanting to get to know me……They can suck on my azz…..so stare at that!!
I think non black women are in fact afraid of seeing a beautiful black woman happy and wanted by other men from all races. And they are jealous too.
So anyway some of them will ask me about us and be friendly at first but after I tell them about whats going on and how happy I am, they just look at you and and say, nothing? Well why the hell you ask me for? And a lot of non-black women are jealous of my realtionship and I love it, thats right I said it!! and I don’t worry about what people gonna dam say about my man and my love.
I as a black woman I know what I want, and I want a good man, Hell every black woman does. I just don’t care what he is or look like. I just don’t care. A man is a man. We don’t have to be scared of It! Go and get Him….get that man…
Comment by Kittytap on 16 January 2010:
Who eva going to say something smart-azz about my post or racist about it just remeber this, Im a happy azz Black woman and yaw need to recognize that.. ….
I don’t give a shit what a spit tooth racist have to say or shit-on about it,
Im blessed, just rememer dat and if a non black man wants me, Just remember The Lord Sent Him My Way…….Peace
Comment by hypnatist on 4 February 2010:
I am a black male who will not date white women. I feel that black people should realize that all this interracialism, is just another method for the destruction of the black race.
We need to realize that the slave master mentality still exist in America today.
Black men need to love and respect black women, And black women need to love and respect black men.
Comment by Rtrue on 8 February 2010:
Interesting personal comments from others!:>)
Please allow me just to say in my opinion. I haven’t had nasty looks or comments from the white race. They both male and female have been more accepting. And i live in the South! lol! Every one is going to look at mixed couples. And every one looks at non-mixed couples too! Don’t YOU! I do. If we see someone in our opinion, that’s too short, fat, skinny, pretty, not pretty, matched for each other together. We are having a thought or two. If not even for a quick brief second! We look/stare at them!
I find myself thinking mostly when looking at other couples while out in public. “How long have they been together?”, They look alike” I wish I had someone to be with like them, and hold my hand, and go even to the store with”. Or the biggest thought of see couples together rather white or black, Asian etc… IS They look proud to be with each other not for the LOOKS! THEY JUST ARE TOGETHER!:>)!! That’s whats really matters! That’s really LOVE and a successful Beautiful relationship!
I Feel more pro-interracial relationship for me, because I have been exposed since a little kid. My first best friend was half white & Asian( Letta was her name). Two best of best friends for 10 years were White. We went though bonding our lives and families together. The work place was more pro-white due to my career trade, and the companies I worked for(which I personal know they had a race hiring quota. but they treated me with respect) Even the Sports I played such as Cross-Country Running,. So That helped form a union of comfort and respect for other races other than mine. I could go into a room filed with people of all races, and every time a person from a different race than I (black) will come over and bond with me. This happens to this day. So It’s really something about me that generates that respect. People can since you out, just like you can since them out(talking people good nature here). Now My best of the best person to know is, who I refer to as a big sister/mommy role model/best of all is Black/Indian descent, and at least in her 70’s.
So Age, Race, Looks, etc…Stop trying to find an excuse! You better find Some Body to Love!! “IT’S THE GREATEST GIFT FROM GOD, IS LOVE”!!! AND LOVE REALLY KNOWS NO COLOR, ONLY LOVE WILL LAST!!! WE EVEN ARE COMMANDED TO LOVE OUR ENEMIES! rather we want to or not! lol! LOVE, LOve love, PLEASE!!!
rtrue! :>) Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!!
Comment by Kittytap on 16 February 2010:
A Man is a man to me.I don’t care what his is. I love God and the men he creates. I don’t judge a man of what he is. I have so called loved black men too, but you know how that goes………not so good. Im not going to say I will never date a white or asian man or whatever just because Im a stay good to my shade of skin hell gnaw, or just to say, ” I think I’m a piss somebody off is I like them .” Thats bullshit. I as a black woman, I want love and I crave it and I don’t care who it comes from.