Nip Tuck this, Nip tuck that
When you get tired of shaking what yo mama gave ya...buy something new.
In case you haven't noticed, the cosmetic business has taken on a life of its own. Back in the day we'd just stuff our bras, use a lip liner and throw on a girdle. Today, within hours we can slap it up, flip it, rub it down, oh no! Something that used to be treated with high respect and regard is now flaunted on prime time television with "get pretty quick" schemes. We're fixing up the outside, but the inside...remains the same.
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Is it just me or has the world gotten a little full of its self? When did God's given talents and beauty become "not enough" to get us through the day, let alone our lifetime? I'm not sure about other cultures, but I remember many of my friend's mothers and grandmothers complaining when their little black children wanted to perm their hair. "If God wanted you to have straight hair, you would have been born wit it", was all I heard. What would they think now? It seems that every other day there's a treatment or procedure created to enhance or permanently remove that "flaw" in nature.
Let's play a little game, you name the body part and I'll name the available procedure. Ready? Go. Head: Well, there are hair transplants to give you hair and Laser hair removal to take it away...forever. There's Eyelid surgery, Chemical peels, facelifts, forehead lifts and let's not forget Lip Augmentation. Breast: you can Lift them, reduce them and have them augmented. Stomach too big, forget about giving up the beer and pork rids, just tuck that baby away with a few sucks and staples and you're on your way.
There are even procedures that are being done to give you the appearance of a different nationality. I love this one. Maybe plastic surgery is the answer to all of our race relation problems. Really, if we all look alike there would be no more prejudices and hate. Those that are too dark can do a chemical peel, too light, everlasting color.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people being able to do a little something extra to enhance their own beauty. However, we've got folks out there re-constructing their faces like an etch-a-sketch. Since cosmetic plastic surgery is an "elective surgery" it is NOT covered by most insurance plans. There are young folks that take out loans to get plastic surgery and apply for government assistance to feed their families.
Not to mention the borage of young men and women that grown up thinking that their breast aren't big enough and their penis is too small because there are more TV and radio commercials promoting elective surgeries and enhancement medications than ads promoting books and education and healthy life choices.
Now how does this tie in to a dating site? Well, who do you think these people date? Where do you think they meet people? The more time, effort and money that is spent on "fixing" the outside, it appears the less is spent on cultivating the inside.
Plastic surgery should be used as a "garnish" not as an entire "meal". It's wonderful if it will help boost your self confidence and self esteem. The problem I have is the message that we continue to send to each other, that what we have is NOT good enough. That what we look like is more important than the person we are and the things that we do.
Besides, what I'm really afraid of is seeing a bunch of 80 year old women with hunched over backs and perfectly erect double d boobs. Ewwwww.
This is Leticia...love me like I am.
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Coco says:Posted: 08 Feb 07I WILL SAY THIS AGAIN AFTER ALL THE JUDGEMENTAL COMMENTS...MY BODY, MY CHOICE! MAYBE ITS NOT FOR SOME OF YOU BUT WAS THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR ME :)
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ebonybeautyj says:Posted: 31 Jan 07I agree with what most here are saying,be natural sometimes
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Jabali says:Posted: 05 Jan 07What happened to beauty from the inside? People ought to see that what's out there simply won't last. Today's hot bod will be an old fat person in 10 years. Think about it Arnold Schwarzennegar would not even be able to qualify for a modern bodybuilding contest. Appreciate what you have inside people.
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Fala says:Posted: 20 Dec 06People need to just learn to love themselves and stop tyring to reach some impossible standard of beauty. It's who you are on the inside that counts.
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justknowingu says:Posted: 19 Dec 06I totally agree with justbelieve's comments...
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JustBelieve says:Posted: 17 Dec 06The only surgery would be to get rid of bags under my eyes, only if they were really bad. Otherwise, what is so bad about aging with grace. Advertisers want us to feel bad, so that they can make money off our insecurities.
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marquez097 says:Posted: 15 Dec 06I still say that people need to be confident in what they are and there will be little or no need for this type of surgery
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Lovelydimps says:Posted: 14 Dec 06Hey justknowingu - where did you say u can get them false eyelashes sewn on?? lol!!
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justknowingu says:Posted: 13 Dec 06
...I agree with "K-bea" from december 5th!!
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kenyanito says:Posted: 13 Dec 06I believe in the inside beauty and not outside.Will the surgery change who you realy are?
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xhotlover says:Posted: 08 Dec 06
Natural is always the best. Unless there is a glaring flaw, most women spend too much time, energy and money to improve their outselves instead of working on the inner self. Just one man's thought.
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Jade74 says:Posted: 06 Dec 06Cosmetic surgery is not for everyone.Too many teens are rushing to get it done and not let their bodies develope.
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Kanuquabea says:Posted: 05 Dec 06
Beauty is still in the eye of the beholder. Taking care of once health is even more important then how many chemical one uses on his or her body. I for once do not buy into the media crap lol, no wonder am on a dating site.
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Candy40dd says:Posted: 04 Dec 06I say go for it... If it makes you happy, why worry about someone else comment matter? Unless your doing it for the wrong reasons...
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Lovelydimps says:Posted: 03 Dec 06
I think the media place to much emphasis and pressure on women to achieve a certain look. I feel very worried for the younger generation because they will want "buy in" to this perfection. We have shows such as next top model and extreme make over - that are very much glamourising the way women should look. In a subliminal way - shows such as this and can make women feel inadequate. Now the latest media hype for women are that they are supposed to be a size 0. Which is totally laughable and yet we have stars such as that silly woman - victoria beckham, who has had 3 children - and yet is a size 0. I could go on and on - I am sure you guys get the general gist. I just want to know when it will all stop and when will women make a stand for themselves and say no! we are not going to be fooled into this anymore. I hasten to add - I don't really see too many men stressing themselves too much to achieve great perfection in their looks, maybe some women should take a leaf outta their books.
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JustBelieve says:Posted: 02 Dec 06
I think it has been insane to think that just surgery is going to make one ok and accepted to others. Many woman are buying into this. I don't think this is what the Women's Movement had in mind. We must accept ourselves and our accomplishes, not the approval of others, who only believe in fantasies.
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Nylia says:Posted: 01 Dec 06Interesting article. I can relate to some of the things that were described. However, I have to say that I have met some 80 year old women who because of plastic surgery, look to be about 50 years old. Go figure.
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Shan says:Posted: 28 Nov 06All I say is...do what you have to do to make yourself happy, but don't go overboard with it.
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Candy40dd says:Posted: 26 Nov 06
I say fix it before you beak it.... Your body, your money, your choice..
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ALINE says:Posted: 24 Nov 06I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH WHAT GOD GAVE THEM, THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO HAVE THINGS DONE TO THEMSELVES, AND ARE THOUSAND TIMES UNHAPPIER THEN THEY WERE TO BEGIN WITH.
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nehuskerfan says:Posted: 23 Nov 06
I agree with Inducive... very well stated.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 22 Nov 06
Leticia, Your vision is scary!! Nip tuck?? NEVER Thanks for the article though
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 22 Nov 06I wish I could just be me and not be judged on what I look like and wear!
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Sweetheart says:Posted: 21 Nov 06
If plastic surgery is what is going to make that person feel mor confident then I am all for it, but looks only last so long in a relationship!
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JADE74 says:Posted: 21 Nov 06
Very good article.Something to think about when you see young kids wanting and having cometic surgery and not letting their bodies develop.
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justknowingu says:Posted: 20 Nov 06
good article..some good points brought to attention....
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Eva says:Posted: 19 Nov 06
Amen, sistah! I agree with every word of your article!
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 18 Nov 06
We have all been so brainwashed in to believing we are not worth anything unless we are covered in cosmetics.
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RayneDelay says:Posted: 17 Nov 06
No plastic for me, saw an aquaintance the other day, obviously has had botox. She was naturally beautiful, now her cheek bones look like they are trying to touch her forehead. ICK!
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 17 Nov 06Perhaps plastic surgery is needed within oneself.
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nicefella115 says:Posted: 17 Nov 06im sure things will catch up with them in the long run.
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bohica321 says:Posted: 16 Nov 06
It's what's inside that counts, the outside is like wrapping paper just covering the present.
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marquez097 says:Posted: 15 Nov 06
I still say just be yourself. Dont change who you are because you may not even like who you become.
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 14 Nov 06
Wow what a world, everything from tummy tucks to penis implants...sheesh.
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inducive says:Posted: 14 Nov 06We're all critical about our bodies (some moreso than others). If visual wasn't such a thing with us humans, they'd be no profit in this endeavor. My opinion...do what makes you feel right..as long as you don't hurt others.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 12 Nov 06
I wonder what people did before all these products and operartions were around. They still found each other attractive.
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Coco says:Posted: 09 Nov 06
No one knew I had a tummy tuck unless I told them. My scar is the same one I had my c-section on. I think many of you should do the research I did before passing judgement. No amount of working out that you do will eliminate all the excess skin if you are petite like me and has had 2 children. I did the research, found a Board Certified plastic surgeon, and decided that this was best for me. I did it for ME. It made me feel better about ME. Ask most women who have had more than one child if they would do it to repair their tummy and most would say yes. I say do the research first, and make the best decision you can for YOU. Only you know what is best for you, and whatever you decide, don't worry about what anyone else has to say about it. You'll feel good and that's all that matters :)
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Candy40dd says:Posted: 09 Nov 06
I say fix it before it breaks baby... To bad alot of people don't understand the meaning of getting plastic surgery.. I had 40DD's in 04, i had surgery in made them smaller. U think i hated them? That's crazy, their natural 40DD BOOBS)The weight was way tooo much for my back.. So, don't tell me i hate myself.. I just Love MYSELF enough to SPEND any amount of money for comfort!! It only paper, im here to spend it!!
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nicefella115 says:Posted: 09 Nov 06
i think if we all had the money to afford it, we all would have a nip and a tuck somewhere.
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justknowingu says:Posted: 09 Nov 06
You can even have long eyelashes permanently sewn into your eyelids...hear no evil, speak no evil...blink--and you too can be beautiful--you just gotta pay for it!!
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GOTGAME says:Posted: 08 Nov 06
Being self-confident is whussup. Therefore, if a woman/man believes that indulging in a modification of her/his body part(s) will promote self-conidence, then I say "Just do it!"!!
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