Nip Tuck this, Nip tuck that
When you get tired of shaking what yo mama gave ya...buy something new.
In case you haven't noticed, the cosmetic business has taken on a life of its own. Back in the day we'd just stuff our bras, use a lip liner and throw on a girdle. Today, within hours we can slap it up, flip it, rub it down, oh no! Something that used to be treated with high respect and regard is now flaunted on prime time television with "get pretty quick" schemes. We're fixing up the outside, but the inside...remains the same.
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Is it just me or has the world gotten a little full of its self? When did God's given talents and beauty become "not enough" to get us through the day, let alone our lifetime? I'm not sure about other cultures, but I remember many of my friend's mothers and grandmothers complaining when their little black children wanted to perm their hair. "If God wanted you to have straight hair, you would have been born wit it", was all I heard. What would they think now? It seems that every other day there's a treatment or procedure created to enhance or permanently remove that "flaw" in nature.
Let's play a little game, you name the body part and I'll name the available procedure. Ready? Go. Head: Well, there are hair transplants to give you hair and Laser hair removal to take it away...forever. There's Eyelid surgery, Chemical peels, facelifts, forehead lifts and let's not forget Lip Augmentation. Breast: you can Lift them, reduce them and have them augmented. Stomach too big, forget about giving up the beer and pork rids, just tuck that baby away with a few sucks and staples and you're on your way.
There are even procedures that are being done to give you the appearance of a different nationality. I love this one. Maybe plastic surgery is the answer to all of our race relation problems. Really, if we all look alike there would be no more prejudices and hate. Those that are too dark can do a chemical peel, too light, everlasting color.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for people being able to do a little something extra to enhance their own beauty. However, we've got folks out there re-constructing their faces like an etch-a-sketch. Since cosmetic plastic surgery is an "elective surgery" it is NOT covered by most insurance plans. There are young folks that take out loans to get plastic surgery and apply for government assistance to feed their families.
Not to mention the borage of young men and women that grown up thinking that their breast aren't big enough and their penis is too small because there are more TV and radio commercials promoting elective surgeries and enhancement medications than ads promoting books and education and healthy life choices.
Now how does this tie in to a dating site? Well, who do you think these people date? Where do you think they meet people? The more time, effort and money that is spent on "fixing" the outside, it appears the less is spent on cultivating the inside.
Plastic surgery should be used as a "garnish" not as an entire "meal". It's wonderful if it will help boost your self confidence and self esteem. The problem I have is the message that we continue to send to each other, that what we have is NOT good enough. That what we look like is more important than the person we are and the things that we do.
Besides, what I'm really afraid of is seeing a bunch of 80 year old women with hunched over backs and perfectly erect double d boobs. Ewwwww.
This is Leticia...love me like I am.
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yoby says:Posted: 06 Nov 06i don't understand this mania to operate yourself just to look better! it's simply sick! god bless the naturals!
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JADE74 says:Posted: 06 Nov 06Love yourself first.We can all improve on what we have in other ways without all the nip and tuck.
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kenyanito says:Posted: 06 Nov 06its worthy while it lasts, but what happens afterwards? Would we possibly turn into MJ? Think about it, i'd rather remain the way i am.
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LuckK says:Posted: 06 Nov 06Great article....people tend to forget that beauty is in the inside.
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dontchaknow says:Posted: 05 Nov 06
Leticia, Thank you for your post. This nip tuck stuff has gotten way outta control. Like you said, if God intended for anyone to have something, we would have been born with it! Men and women should love one another "as is." If it can't be enhanced or lost "naturally" then, hey you have two choices, take it or leave it. Sadly enough, many will not want to take people as they are.
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segue007 says:Posted: 05 Nov 06I wonder if what would happen if the images we see every day in advertising changed to what 98% of people look like. Think that there would be a need for plastic surgery?
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unme23 says:Posted: 05 Nov 06I personally dont know any body who actually has had any plastic surgery.
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Majesticone says:Posted: 04 Nov 06
WOW... i have thought of plastic surgery but thats because i want a better body and excerise aint helping. society pressures us to look a certain way and that women are not women unless they have the body type that insecure men have designed for us. what stops me from getting surgery is first and forstmost, if u cant love me the way i am, then move over so someone else can. the next thing.. surgery is never an exact science and eventually life does take over and what bought u to the knife b4 will be there again, it just prolongs the inevitable. surgery should only be used to save lives, not make them look superficially better. its really not worth it in the long run.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 04 Nov 06I hope the woman who said she had a tummy tuck for herself realises part of the reason she did it was the pressure from society to look perfect and have a washboard stomach.If we didn't see airbrushed pictures of wowen in magazines ona daily basis I don't think surgery might be so important!
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HEARTNSOUL23 says:Posted: 03 Nov 06
I think men are the outcome of most of the reasons a woman gets a surgery....its all to make them happy! At least most of the time.... I think we live in a society where we need to be portrayed in a certain way and if we are not, then we are either looked passed or looked down upon.
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msjanine says:Posted: 03 Nov 06
what's good for you is not always good to you people need ro realize that beauty is within what's on the outside does not necessarily the key to what qualites you posess on the inside. I believe that everyone is beautiful so why change yourself to make yourself look younger if god wanted everyone to look like a barbie or ken doll he would have created us that way
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segue007 says:Posted: 02 Nov 06
Would you have plastic surgery for non medical reasons if it was free and nobody would ever know? I don't need to know your answer, this is just something for you to think about.
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segue007 says:Posted: 01 Nov 06
It's all about what we see on TV and the mags. We are told all the time what the "pretty" people look like.
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Candy says:Posted: 01 Nov 06
I myself had plastic surgery..I know what your thinking with the name candy40dd "we know".. Actually I had a breast reduction, I had to make them smaller due to major back pain “it runs in the family”.. In after having children in the future, I’m planning on getting them perky & also having a tummy tuck.!! I feel it was okay to make them smaller due to the pleasure it brings me to have the weight off my back., So if another person wants to add more or fix a few things here in there why not?? We worry way to much about others, lets be real.. We drive different cars, live in different homes & neighborhoods due to “Our” likings.. So, as long as YOUR happy in your doing it for YOU, go for it...P.S. Please don’t go to a Surgeon because he/she is cheaper than the others. It’s your body, this is dangers stuff.. Living here in South Fla, I’ve seen lots of bad cases BE CAREFUL..
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 31 Oct 06I suppose that an individual has the right to make any modifications to oneself as deemed necessary...as long as the procedure is safe.I personally enjoy a natural woman.
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Carla says:Posted: 31 Oct 06
if it works for you then work it...that is my honest opinion...
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Kara says:Posted: 30 Oct 06The women I've known who had nose jobs were happy with them. Those who've had boob jobs weren't as happy as they thought they'd be, and were ashamed of their vanity. The women I've known who had facelifts said they always felt a bit of discomfort and tugging in the face and head afterward, and advised against ever having that done. It's a tough call. Everyone seems to be doing it now, and if it's done well you can't tell it's been done--the person just looks more sparkly and rested. The problem is that it could still *feel* bad and we can't see that. Also, it seems there's a high liklihood that the surgery could go really wrong. See badplasticsurgery.com for examples. That stuff really gives me pause. Perhaps aging gracefully and embracing the wrinkles is a safer and healther way to go.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 29 Oct 06I think a little plastic surgery to help someone feel better about themselves is not a big deal. Tummy tucks and the like. Face altering surgeries no way!! Remember Jennifer Grey?? Michael Jackson...forget about it. I'll take natural beauty anyday.
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lynne78 says:Posted: 29 Oct 06
if it makes you feel better about yourself go for it. I would just advise you to do it for yourself not somebody else.
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Candy says:Posted: 29 Oct 06
Hum...VERY INTERESTING!! More to come in details about me in my personal idea of plastic surgery...
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justknowingu says:Posted: 28 Oct 06IF OUR GOVERNMENT OR THE FDA WOULD MAKE 'HGH' OR SIMILAR SYNTHETICS THAT WOULD INCEREASE OUR BODIES METABOLISM(which dramatically decreases the more a person ages)WIDELY AVAILABLE AND INEXPENSIVE....WELL-IT WOULD REALLY CUT INTO THE 'NIPPING AND TUCKING' COSMETIC SURGERY DEPARTMENT!!!!!
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embraceme says:Posted: 27 Oct 06
I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW FROM HOW MANY PEOPLE ON THE SITE WOULD HAVE PLASTIC SURGERY
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romeoluvs says:Posted: 27 Oct 06cosmetics, plastic surgery all are fine but what about the side effects. There are numerous cases that went wrong for eg. Tara (Hollywood actress).
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Sweetheart says:Posted: 27 Oct 06
I agree with Xina03 because if someone wants plastic surgery they are going to get it whether they think they are beautiful or not. A lot of people are taught to believe that certain looks are pretty are other ones are ugly,so lots wants to confrom to that look and won't be happy until they do.
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justknowingu says:Posted: 27 Oct 06
The media often influences our ideas ane perceptions..from a business point of view---a "need" was found and "services" are offered to fill it..its just the way america and much of the world accepts it..and goes along with it..even if it isnt "natural"...but many times it is "healthy"--in more ways than one!!
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xina03 says:Posted: 26 Oct 06Whatever make someone happy they should do it.....
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RastaMoshun says:Posted: 26 Oct 06I really think that any plastic surgery that is not health related is silly. You should really be proud of who you are... not just what you look like. Substance is more important to me.
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aantonio says:Posted: 25 Oct 06
If people want to do surgery to improve them selves that up to them, but do it for yourself n not for others. We are all beautiful
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nicefella115 says:Posted: 25 Oct 06wish i had the money to do some sculpting to myself.....lol
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Ann says:Posted: 25 Oct 06Great article, Leticia. How about a little more exercise with sculpting, eating nutriously and drinking plenty water to keep young. It is a lot more safe than all the chemicals and surgeries.
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besweet says:Posted: 24 Oct 06I always remember what a Dr. told me when my mother wanted me to have gastric bypass surgery at 16 when i weighed only 170 lbs. He said sweetie I'm not goin to do it. Remember who you are on the inside and let others see of your heart and soul, lasts so much longer than whats on the outside. Cultivate your insides and you will be much happier with who you are and what you look like. I always think of that when someone does drastic surgery to change the looks. They are not happy with who they are. Minor things I dont think much about.
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Coco says:Posted: 24 Oct 06I think a lot of folks making these comments are perpetrating a fraud. If someone offered a free makeover a la extreme makeover, some of you would jump at that. If people chose to do it, thats there business! I did it and I am so glad that I did. Call us a Barbie or plastic or whatever...I don't care, but I am maintaining my figure and I am in my 40's and proud that I was able to fix it!
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whytb0y says:Posted: 24 Oct 06
personally i,m not attracted to fake breasts but hey if it makes a woman feel better about herself then that's her thing ,some forms of plastic surgery are helpful like to fix a crooked nose or tighten up a stomache ravaged by child birth i think there is such a demand for cosmetic surgery because society mainly television and magazines promote youthful tight bodies and faces so people assume that is how one must look to be beautiful , but remember beauty is only skin deep ...
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RayneDelay says:Posted: 24 Oct 06
Plastic surgery should be illegal, learn to live with what you look like and get over it.
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BrwnnBeauty says:Posted: 24 Oct 06
Have to agree with Urmy...if you feel you need it and it makes you feel better about you then DO it... BUT If the inside is still unhappy...doesn't matter HOW the outside looks, cuz the inside will still be unhappy.
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urmydestiny says:Posted: 23 Oct 06
If plastic surgery makes you feel good about yourself then go for it, you really have to do it for 'you' and no-one else. It's ashame society makes us feel we have to look perfect.
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Fala says:Posted: 23 Oct 06
All this obsession with one "standard" of beauty is so ridiculous. People come in all shapes, sizes, colors and varieties. It's part of what makes each of us unique. Why go around trying to look like everyone else? A world full of Barbie dolls would be sooooo boring!
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Deena says:Posted: 23 Oct 06
Remember...Barbie is plastic, and plastic brakes! Fix what's inside and the rest shall follow!
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iceburger says:Posted: 23 Oct 06I think this should be left to people that medically has been said they cannot survive without it.
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Natural72 says:Posted: 23 Oct 06
I agree. Those who are for me will love me as well inside out (not the other way around). To bring the point back home, if we work on cultivating our inside and we will be amazed at how if improves our outside.
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Euroecuboy says:Posted: 22 Oct 06
pretty soon all these girls are gonna be walking barbies and dolls
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marquez097 says:Posted: 22 Oct 06
Sometimes we should just be happy with what we are. I know I'm not he best looking guy around but if someone can not accept me for what I am then I dont need them in my life.
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