Interracial couple kissing churns stomachs
“The 7 Best Places to Smooch” was one of the stories on the 10th April cover of GO! magazine and to go along with it was this photo of an interracial couple kissing. Well, that photo ended up generating a lot of queasiness in many – evidenced by reader comments of the online version - simply because a Black man was kissing a White woman. :roll:
Check out some of the comments:
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“Haven’t read the story but dont like to see blacks and whites kissing;” – reader 1buschstadiumplz
“This doesn’t surprise me at all. Libs take every opportunity they can to shove miscegenation in our faces. Now that TV has to show blacks in every commercial, notice that they are always posed beside a blonde woman. Not a brunette, a blonde. Its done for shock value. Sickening that a once proud newspaper would resort ot this. Joe Pulitzer is turning over in his grave in shame.” – reader taxpayer
“I’m not judging the concept of biracial couples at all, but in a city as racially polarized as St. Louis, I’m shocked that the PD would go so out of its way to be so gratuitously provocative. This completely undercut the message of the article.” – reader greggh
PS: And these are just the subtle ones. Most of the comments had inappropriate offensive language.
To tell you the truth, the above is pretty disturbing if you ask me. The thing is, the couple on the cover wasn’t just models posing … it’s a real couple. I don’t want to imagine what they must have felt.
I gotta ask: In this day, age and era, how can a mere photo of interracial couple kissing arouse such racist comments?
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bellaone says:Posted: 03 Jul 09
Awwwww you guys are so sweet thank you!!! I have as well had my share of stereo types. Girls call me a bitch before talking to me and seeing the good person I am. It dose hurt my feelings . I am human. I would give someone the shirt off my back if they needed it because I know I can get another one at home. Where as that is all they might have. And if I can give someone a shed of hope to make it threw that is truly why we are here and to learn there are no mistakes just lessons. I hope we learn the first time!! So we don't have to keep doing the same thing over and over.... We all do need to ask each other what we are trying to say. Because to us it makes sense but maybe to someone else the words blur or offend another. It really comes down to RESPECT for oneself and other people. The old rule do un to others. It's easy to be mad about your job your relationship your hard life. But my friends we all have had our share of problems. But if your happy every day people want to be around you and you are happier as a person as well. Instead of telling your friends all your problems think of the lessons you have learned. And why your a better person for it today. I would never take back my lessons even the crazy hard ones because I would not BE THE PERSON I AM TODAY!! Regrets are the past crippling you in the future...... Much love to you all be safe this weekend and HAVE FUN!!! pretend your a kid again..... Respect, K
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godiva61 says:Posted: 03 Jul 09To: Ms. Bellaone, It was great to hear from you once again. You and I have chatted before and I thought then, as I do now that you are a very kind and gentle spirit. It is easy for us(ALL) to sometime's misconstrue what people write here. It's to be expected. I think it would be beneficial to us ALL if we would not assume, but simply ask a person to clarify... At any rate I am glad to see that you have a better understanding of what Ichibod was saying. It's not that we mess up from time to time, because we ALL do, it's more important how we handle the errors, versus making the errors... When you fall down, just get back up!! You are a sweetie!! love godiva
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Ichibod says:Posted: 03 Jul 09Bellaone, I remember when I first joined this site months ago, I read a comment of yours on another topic. So I decided to check out your profile. Very impressive I must say.
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tatted2death says:Posted: 03 Jul 09D.o.T.....I appreciate that comment. I think it is quite possibly the most concise response to this blog topic. There ought to be an award for actually staying on topic. (I might not get very many....LOL....sometimes it's just dayum near impossible...) And to Bellaone: Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and staying true to who you are....you have always seemed to be freely able to exude a positive vibe here....much love... Peace and Blessings tatted2death
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bellaone says:Posted: 03 Jul 09
Ichibod Oh ok . I did not see that . It is very hard on paper to come across the way we would like to sometimes. Kinda like text also can't put emotions on paper as well. I just HATE it when people pick on people for how they look . We all had no say in what we look like nor can we change it. SO I try to stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves because of people being mean or saying mean things because of the way someone looks. We all have a heart and get our feelings hurt. But if we are unkind to each other what kind of world do we want to live and raise our children in. I agree with you many men have told me that the women have lied and to those women you will never find a honest man being dishonest from the start. No one ever won by lying. I wish we all find the loves of our lives and I hope we all take time to meet the person on the inside before judging people. I've found may more beautiful souls than pretty faces. May you always love yourself first....Your worth it!! Happy 4th early!! Be safe!!!! Respect, K
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raytorayto says:Posted: 03 Jul 09To Ichibod, Bellaone & I know you do not need meTaylor2009 to defend you but I would like to say to the ladies that I do not post often, I do read what is post and Ichibod was quoting another member and responding to her. He is, from what I have read of his posts, a very open minded person and does not take cheap and nasty shots a people. I do agree with truthfulness in a profile for exactly the reasons he has listed. Have a wonderful and safe holiday weekend (yes, I know it is not a holiday for everyone but they can still have a wonderful wekend). Ray
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Ichibod says:Posted: 03 Jul 09
Bellaone, I was quoting a comment from another blogger. I myself know that it can be other races the undergo discrimination, but the blogger in question only mentioned white females. My personal comment about the 'average' selection in profiles was about honesty and one that I have been meaning to join the topic "Online Dating: To tell the whole truth or not" from last month. I put my response to her and my own personal opinions about some members profiles too close together, however the comments were in no way connected. I hope you understand. Taylor2009, Just in case you missed it, like I told Bella, another blogger stated that black men will date an obese white woman over an obese black woman. She used her sister-in-law as an example. That's what my comment was in regard to. I put her exact comment from June 10th in "quotes". I thought that she was wrong. All people, regardless of shape and size go through some sort of discrimination. I was simply stating to this blogger that white women are no different from black nor any other race of women in regard to size and weight discrimination. It seems like you thought those were my feelings or that I have something against larger women. I don't. But like I said earlier. There is a topic about telling the truth in your profiles and some people on this site and others are lying. I never told anyone to check themselves for their weight or anything else for that matter. But the search filters are set up the way they are set up for a reason. I like to search in all categories from time to time, but so that I'm not just paging through some super long list, I often break it down and search according to each individual filter. I've often missed many profiles and mistakenly viewed many others because of my search filters and such discrepancies in profile settings. That's what my personal comment was about. It had nothing to do with race whatsoever. Taylor2009, let me just say this to you. I hope you can see now that I wasn't taking any jabs at anyone for any reason. But your comment to me was out of line. I don't want to come of as bragging or boasting, but read some of my comments in other topics or ask other bloggers about me. I'm no stranger to posting comments and I'm also no one to mess with. Not a threat, I viewed your comment was just a simple "I don't think she really knows who I am or what I truly stand for on this site". You've got me all wrong, babe. I just hope you see that you two totally misunderstood what I was saying. Take care, ladies!
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Taylor2009 says:Posted: 02 Jul 09
Comment for Ichibod, You need to remember all guys are not like you. Some guys like plus size girls.Im no size zero and my man love every pound on my body.Im black,but its black guys like you that make me date white guys.THEY SAY ONLY A DOG WANT A BAG OF BONES..SO WHAT DOES THAT MAKE YOU??
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bellaone says:Posted: 02 Jul 09
Commet to ichibod The thing you have missed is that it is not only white people. I have been yelled at by quite a few black women telling me to date my own kind and who have even tried to fight me for my man that was black. Racist are all colors and shapes not only white people then you are racist if you think that way as well. Then you tell some girl to check herself on her weight . That is ugly of you. People should judge each other by who they are not what they look like alone. We all need to stop judging each other and love each other for our diffrences like color, weight, personality. I think everyone has a beautiful person in them if they can only find the love. Let's all be diffrent and help each other instead of hate. It is very easy to hate. It is harder to love people for who they are. I hope one day we all can walk down the street with whoever we choose and be happy and not have people say things that are rude. It's a beautiful life if you stop looking at what is wrong and see what is right. I send love to all my sister and brothers of all colors.......LOVE will set you FREE!!! Respect,K
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Ichibod says:Posted: 01 Jul 09
jamaicangirl, "Obese white females, however, do not undergo discrimination based on their weight." Oh yes they do. And I wish a lot of the females on this site would stop saying that they're average when they're not. Average obese woman maybe.
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Ichibod says:Posted: 01 Jul 09
The topic of discussion: Interracial couple kissing churns stomachs James asks: "I gotta ask: In this day, age and era, how can a mere photo of interracial couple kissing arouse such racist comments?" Please bloggers, stick to the topic. Keep your dating preferences on your profiles and your negative opinions of your race's opposite gender to yourself.
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d.o.t. says:Posted: 01 Jul 09
i think the problem is more about the history between the two groups. Slavery i think is the root factor here. A lot of times i notice that when a white person expresses some issue with that particular union; black and white. They often have a sort of disgust in their tone...like it is gross or beneath them. Im not saying that white people are racist...but lets face it...anyone who has any serious problem with any kind of interracial union...is probably more racist than not. Slavery was largely about one groups belief that they were superior to another. wrong obviously, but those are the same type of feelings that seem to come out when whites have a express issue with black and white unions. And what i notice, the problem blacks sometime have with the union is more a sense of betrayal than it is about straight up racism. It seems its the idea of someone "selling out"...not sticking together...abandoning who they are. of course this isnt always the case...these are generalizations. These arent facts...they're just things i've observed.
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Taylor2009 says:Posted: 01 Jul 09
OK me personally Im African American.And I love white men :-) Thats all i date because of the simple fact they know how to treat ladies.Not saying black guys dont.I have been into white men since i started dating.All thru highschool I dated white boyz.And yeah people would talk trash but we ignored them.So Caramel022 I was really feeling the comment you left. Then on the other hand Marjani or whatever your names was, your nothing cute at all so you cant say that she has granny arms.I mean really look in the mirror at your face.I would rather look at her arms any day than to look at your face.But anyway to all the white people that accept interracial dating I really appreciate it.When most black guys see white men with black women they wanna pick and say dumb things but it just show how dumb and immature yall are.And by the way I think white guys with tattoos are the hottest :-)
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TJONES6790 says:Posted: 20 Jun 09I'm sure we all set various stipulations when it comes to picking our mate. It is a serious yet personal decision that doesn't require the assistance of others. Can't we all just get along?
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roadking1 says:Posted: 17 Jun 09Amen and Bravo to all who have commented on this topic. I am comfortable with who I am and what I like in a mate,love has no boundries. I aplaud all who are here for what they belive in and see in others around the world.
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thekid47 says:Posted: 14 Jun 09@dksb spot on!! The fact that there was such a reaction to this picture indicates how far we have come on the one hand and how far we have yet to go..
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fullwd110 says:Posted: 14 Jun 09
My take on the whole subject is that "true love" has no color, odor, size, or look. "True love" starts from within ones spirit. Whom you fall in love with should only have two criteria, and that should be if another person touches your heart like no other, and truly respects you for the person that you are. Then and only then do you have a good recipe for a good relationship. Actually "allraces" has two valid points. To say that only one race of people is your preference is by all accounts displaying prejudice behavior. The other point is that, we in America have had 9 black Presidents, before George Washington became what has been referred to as "The First President of America" The truth be told John Hanson was a Moorish black man from Maryland. John Hanson was president from 1781-1782. Check out:http://www.dickgregory.com/dick/14_washington.html In closing I just want to give a big Kudos to the maker of this dating site, and I hope we all find the love of our lives. Peace and blessings
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dksb says:Posted: 12 Jun 09There is only one race and that is the human race..people need to get over themselves.For me it wouldn't matter if someone was green with yellow poka-dots...love is love...I wish that the world was diffrent and people didnt have really stupid views on life.I am a product of an interracial relationship and i understand the plight of every nationality because im multi-cultural.And even if i wasn't multi-cultral my views on the world would remain the same. Never judge someone from their appearance ,you never know who you might end up needing in this lifetime. And if you do someone wrong for no reason;it will be a choice for them to save you from a car wreck or something else perhaps..people do not show love towards one another until they are in need. Its sickening .It takes all all kinds to make the world go round...All that you can do is educate people and wish for the best. Most people need to be humbled.
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mslovestory says:Posted: 11 Jun 09Great couple on the cover... I have come to terms with interracial dating... (and don't care who knows). If others disapprove, its "their" problem...(not mine). The next time you are on a date, and someone stares... (look them in the eye, and smile; they will look away). Sit down, and enjoy your date.
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xdown2marsgrlx says:Posted: 11 Jun 09
MST - not trying to single you out, but like others have stated and/or noticed, your comments are extremely ignorant and rude. You stated the reason why black women might find it offensive to see a black man dating a white woman is the fact that she's fat and/or ugly, especially if the man was good looking. Well, would that same scenario apply if the handsome black man was dating an ugly and/or fat black woman? Because I'm sure as you know, there are plenty of those too. Would it really matter if the "interracial" couple were both attractive? Would the racism and prejudice stop? I'm afraid not. People are going to despise the couple regardless if they're attractive or not. And remember, I've seen many beautiful Caucasian women with unattractive black men. Does it matter to me? No. The thing is - why is it anyones concern who's dating who? Black men (or any race for that matter) are not property of the black woman. He's his own man. He makes his own decisions in life. When it's all said and done, what are the benefits in this life by being spiteful? Does it really make a persons life any better if they made sure they got to make a snide remark, laugh, or act obnoxious towards an interracial couple? I've been the victim of that type of animosity and all I have to say is it doesn't ruin my day. Life goes on. And I'm still going to live life with the one I love -- regardless if you or anyone else approves.
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jamaicangirl says:Posted: 11 Jun 09
Bellaone I think that what the poster meant was that black men (and men in general) often point out that obesity is one of the reasons that black women are undesirable to them. Obese white females, however, do not undergo discrimination based on their weight. Furthermore, the majority of black men who I have known to date white women have dated white women who are overweight. This includes my sister-in-law. It is an observation. Nothing more. JGirl
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bellaone says:Posted: 08 Jun 09
To MST Wow what a rude statment to make about good looking black men with heavy white ugly as you said it women. Who says women white,black or any other color are ugly because they are over weight?? Who are you to judge who is good looking or ugly. It really makes you look ugly as a person on the inside. My grandmother and a lot of friends are over weight but they are beautiful to me they way they look the inside beauty and the personality. You might need to find that love inside yourself if you feel you are not judging someone else by what You think they look like. So would it be ok if a good looking black man was with me? You need to not judge anyone until you meet them and speak with them . Then you can decide if they are ugly or not. WOW so amazed how stupid people are.. Very sad...
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soulset says:Posted: 08 Jun 09I have never "responded" to any messages but would love to with this. I come from a very diverse family and cannot understand why do people waste so much time giving their opinions on what "they think"? If you go and read your bible, God made us all equal, that is the end of that. It is when man decides that his opinion matters, and it does not. Life and love who you choose. Love green, purple, handicapped, rich, poor, as long as you are truly happy with that person and honestly want to be with them because they "move your soul" why should anyone else care? Do we stop to get everyone's opinion when we are looking for a new job, car, house, etc.? So why should we even being to care about opinions when finding our life partner? I agree with those who say that these people are either jealous or angry. When God taps you on the shoulder and says "look who I have found for you", who is anyone to beg to differ? Go out in life and get stared at, accept the "dirty" looks, invite the remarks, who cares...these are very angry people with very small brains, but we all know that deep down inside they have always wanted to try this themselves but fear of what "they" might say. Follow the path that God leads you down and you will always walk on the road paved in Gold!
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cocobaker813 says:Posted: 06 Jun 09I'm down with "allraces" comment(except the having no prejudices part, because I am human and have no problem admitting my prejudices about things). It kind of turns me off to read here about the "I prefer (fill in the race)man/woman", because even then it seems a subtle put down of the race/ethnicity that isn't preferred(and while this is not explicitly stated, it's subtly implied). I can't even go there and say "I prefer to date White/Latino/Asian men" because I love all men, and it's not the race or ethnicity I love, it's the man himself; his personality, the way he treats me, how he treats those around him. Whatever his race happens to be should be secondary to how good his home training is when he approaches me. I have yet to find one specific race or ethnicity of man who is superior and does all the above all the time, because the only superior man is the one who truly loves, respects and admires women, and the last time I checked, that man is all colors, all races, all ethnicities. Those men who also abuse women, poison their communities and do nothing for themselves also comes in those same colors, ethnicities and races. There is no one race or ethnic group that corners that market, or at least I haven't met them yet! Just as I want a man to approach me with no preconceived notions of what he thinks a Black woman is or how I'm "supposed" to act, I believe I deserve the same.
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cocobaker813 says:Posted: 06 Jun 09
I really don't care who kisses whom these days(color/gender/sexuality), as long as they keep it brief and don't look as if the porn soundtrack needs to be played in the background! Love is love and it's hard enough to find it without having to carry the weight of the world's opinion on who I "should" be with along with! As for all the proclamations of "I prefer(fill in your race) man/woman", who cares what it is? To explain/declare what is "liked" or "preferred" in color is not the point, and sometimes comes off as limiting. Isn't it more vital to find a lover/friend who compliments rather than completes a life no matter what color they come wrapped in? Personally, I've never committed myself to staying with one of the "128 flavors" men come in, because they are all too beautiful to stick to one color! To me, a man who can treat me the way I want to be treated is the "one" for me, and the color he happens to be will be a distant second to his stellar personality, wit, charm and self esteem. To be short and sweet, "It's not his color, but his character". You "I date onlys..." are missing out, so there's more for me (thank you by the way, lol).
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Meffie says:Posted: 06 Jun 09
White I agree with much of what you said, I must say that you need to leave some room for personal preference. I genuinely prefer dark skinned men to light skinned men and it has nothing to do with race or culture but is simply a matter of esthetics. The sight of dark skin against my pale skin is artistically beautiful to me, and as I am an artist, I guess I can be excused these flights of fancy. LOL
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allraces says:Posted: 05 Jun 09it's interesting that most of the posts i'm reading here indicate a singular racial preference---how much different is that to the ppl who cant deal looking at a bm & ww??? in my life since DAY ONE i've dated ALL races as i have no prejudices or "preferences"(the politically correct term) so all of you who won't date other races is either for 1 of 2 reasons (a) you dont like the color of their skin(which makes you a bigot) or (b) you don't like the race of ppl(which makes you a worse bigot) so you're no better than the ppl who dont like the ppl on the cover except maybe you wont use profanity...maybe & btw so there is no misunderstanding Obama is NOT the first AA president of the US but he could be the first MIXED president(my research has shown there may be a couple of other previous mixed presidents) to wit; his Mom was pure caucasian & he was raised by his caucasian grandparents & if you disagree based on the fact his skin tone is closer to aa than caucasian then yet another examply of your bigotry btw i only come on this site once in awhile so by the time you respond it will be purged so i'll never get to read it in case you're hoping to derive satisfaction adios!!!
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maverick704 says:Posted: 04 Jun 09As for me,I like that picture.Can anybody tell me where I can get a copy?Thanks.Anyway,It surprise me about the negivtive commemts about dating or marry outside their background.Then again,I'm not suprise.It's best to pray for those who is narrow minded and their limited thinking.Most,if not all of us venture out into defferent background.I know.I have 2 wonderful bi-racial nephews in atlanta.So when i see two people reguardless of their background,i think it's beutiful thing.I away want to go outside my background.IR cenral,Help.
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beastwithin says:Posted: 04 Jun 09Nothing wrong with itIm dating both black and white ladies and for me it is not the skin colour that count, but the inner of person i'm with that will make or brake it
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cj85 says:Posted: 03 Jun 09
I personally like the photo and Im in agreement with everyone else.Lets get past all of the narrow minded crap that has caused problems in this world. I also find that Im attracted to black men thats just what I prefer and Ive raised my kids to just find someone who treats them good and it doesnt matter what race to each his own. One of my favorite paintings by Norman Rockwell has the little black girl going to the all white school with body gaurds and the caption with it says" The problem we all live with" maybe someday that wont be true but only if we teach our children to think differenlty. I feel sorry for those who are narrow minded.
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KennyG1701 says:Posted: 02 Jun 09
Wow, thats just so sad. whats wrong with people??? Cant they just let people be. We are all God's children, so thats no arguement. There shouldnt be any credible reason for people to think like that. It sure makes me sad to think people do.
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ed_36 says:Posted: 02 Jun 09
they will get over it, the people who are not mixed dont like it because they are not interacial, and just because they dont like it they dont think it should be, but actually there is only 1 race, that is the human race, just many difrent colors and kinds of people. the bible says NOTHING at all about that it is wrong or what not, it dont. they that get all uptight about it dont understand or know the real meaning of love or that it is ok. if the two people who are together stay strong together and pray and do whats right and know to them in thier hearts that it is what is supposed to be, then its ok. those people who ridicule it just dont like it because they have the stigma of the thing that it is wrong, but there is nothing wrong with it. - me : crusader37 : ed_36
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miss_chelle_ says:Posted: 30 May 09
I come from an interacial family...but not as you think. My dad is Sicilian and my mom is just about everything else. In reality a Swedish and German couple is just as interacial, because we all come from different background and ethnicities and upbringings. It's unfortunate that people look at skin color as "interracial" when in reality we are really all interracial when it comes to backgrounds. So sad that the world still operates this way. Have we learned nothing?
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Meffie says:Posted: 27 May 09
Goodman: It's not so suprising to me that Hollywood would accept gays kissing before they would interracial...it's all about politics and showing what will have the strongest shock value. That sells movies, after all. It is, however, a sad commentary on how screwed up our society is. I really hope that our nifty new President can be a living bridge and gap some of the distances between whites and other races. People in this country really need to grow up and recognize that we are now a global community and the small boundaries of race, age, place, etc, are no longer valuable.
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Meffie says:Posted: 27 May 09
I tend to feel that really heavy kissing in public is a form of showing off: I want to yell something like "get a room'! The photo we're all talking about however, was not heavy kissing and was perfectly appropriate in public. My only reaction to the photo was pleasure at the sight of 2 people in love. I sort of noticed after the fact that they were of two different races. I want a man who can be my best friend...don't give a sweet damn what color he is. Hell, I'd date a Martian if he and I hit it off well enough. Don't have a problem going outside my race or even my species, if we share sentience and friendship.
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Grayfox says:Posted: 27 May 09
The purpose of a kiss is to please the two people kissing not those who are watching.Don't know why people think I or anyone else is living to please them anyway.Grayfox.
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Dimples7 says:Posted: 25 May 09While I may have noticed that the couple were interacial it is not the first thing I noticed.Yhe very first thing I realized was that the lip warmer was not my man and the lip warmee was not me!LOL Although not clearly evident in my appearance I,too,embrace a diverse heritage while relishing in my ethnicity. In defense of IR - 'the heart can't help who it loves.' Bottom line -we all bleed blue inside, bleed red ouside and the body doesn't reject donor organs based on the recipient's race.
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Melinda1970 says:Posted: 23 May 09
It is hard to believe there is still so much ignorance and stupidity in this day and age. People are people and there is only 1 race... THE HUMAN RACE... I'd rather see people kissing than fighting and killing, GEEZZZUUSS !!!
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GoodMan_4031 says:Posted: 22 May 09
I find it interesting that Hollywood is more willing to show two gay men kissing (i.e., the TV show Brothers & Sisters) than a black man kissing a white woman. I don't understand the logic. If we are ever going to erase the stigma of race, society needs to embrace inter-racial marriage and relationships.
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Meffie says:Posted: 22 May 09
I have been heavy all of my life and in general, I have found that men who supposedly prefer heavy women are often more interested in finding a submissive, insecure woman, which many heavy women are. The words submissive and insecure have NEVER described me, so the men I've dated over the years were among the few who genuinely prefer a little meat on the bones, as it were. To Nokia: I agree with you about Albany...there does seem to be a lot of race-mixing here. That is one of the things that drew me to the city and certainly one of the things that has kept me for for 20+ years. I really find myself more attracted to dark skinned men, so that has worked for me! LOL
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MST says:Posted: 22 May 09It's been my observation that an attractive man of normal weight, whatever color, generally does not want to date an obese woman. Of course there are exceptions. Many black men tend to date fat and/or ugly white women that many white men would reject. Of course, this is not always true, either. You're entitled to your opinion just as I'm entitled to mine.
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joanofarc66 says:Posted: 21 May 09
"You mean there are blacks and whites out there making babies too? What has this world come to? I am so glad I do not think that way. I will admit though, I have never experienced someone's blatant ignorance in all my years of parenting two bi-racial children. Not saying that racial comments aren't made once I leave the room but I know all too well, racism is still out there and I see a good deal of it coming out of many nationalities. That being said, whites, in my opinion, are the most violent when it comes to race wars. All you can do is teach your children the rights and the wrongs and hope for the best from others. I never let what others thought about me prevent me from living my life ... and if I want to kiss the man I am with, in public, then those that struggle with it will just have to deal with it!
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Maidinheaven says:Posted: 21 May 09
I don't oppose the Black & White, but I'm not into heavy public kissing. I think men are wonderful! Black and White are my favorites. I didn't care much for Phillipinos or Japaneses until I met Michael and Tom; then I threw the rules out the window. I have been over race for years and dated outside my race when it was extremely dangerous to your life. Life is too short to spend it alone so spend it with whomever you like and want. It comes down to what you want, like, love.
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katlu8984 says:Posted: 20 May 09
It is a sad but painful reality that our culture still gets a bit queasy at seeing a black person and a white person together. It comes on both sides. However, I'll take queasiness over what it was 40 years ago where in several states it was illegal for a black man to marry a white woman and that several black men during the civil rights movement were lynched for carrying on a relationship with a white woman. And MST: What does weight or looks have to do with anything? Just like some of may have preferences about the color of the person we would like to date some people find heavier set people attractive too. I don't see how you can correlate the two issues into one.
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MST says:Posted: 20 May 09
Personally, I don't care who dates whom, but I think that many black women get upset about black men dating white women because so often you see an attractive black man with a white woman who is ugly and/or weighs three hundred pounds. These black men would probably not look at an unattractive or obese black woman twice. Also, the rate of white women dating/marrying black men is disproportionate. Seventy-five percent of black/white couples are black men and white women.
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godiva61 says:Posted: 19 May 09
To Neicy05, Hello, how are you? Thanks for acknowledging my post. It is comforting at times to be able to express yourself and know that perhaps on some level that your experiences, your joy, and sometimes even your pain reaches others who can identify with you. The cancer of "stereotyping" should be dosed with as much chemo as possible and then some. More importantly, we as one people should be so sick and tired of it that we become RADICAL CHEMOTHERAPY. Of course we would probably never rid ourselves of it but I believe that if we worked hard, be defiant, and never waiver, we could and would rarely have to deal with it. I am sorry for the black women who have insulted you by claiming that you (white woman) have taken their good men. I'm only going to make a couple of points here and then I'll be on my way. Point#1, Noone can be taken away from you. If that person is no longer with you, it is because he or she wanted to go for whatever reason(s). If someone or something is really yours, they could never be taken,, or lured away. Point#2, somethings and some people need to be gone and away from your life, so when a person leaves(regardless to where he/she goes after you) sometimes that might be a blessing in disguise. One of my First Sgt's(I used to be in the Military), he would always say " YOU CAN'T SOAR WITH THE EAGLES, IF YOU'RE CLUCKING AROUND ON THE GROUND WITH THE CHICKENS". I have always regarded the EAGLE with the highest admiration, so I decided early on that not only do I want to soar, but I want like minded people who want to soar with me in my life.... Sometimes we aim way too low.... Long , long time ago I had a boyfriend that I was just crazy about, I was just in awe of him. The relationship ended, his call and not mine. I was devestated at first. It wasn't a good two weeks that had passed, when I found out all the things he was doing when he wasn't with me, he was living a mini double life. Once I found out, I was sad for him but after thinking about it I realized I did hit the jackpot after all, I won the moment he left the relationship.. Yeah Me!!! I have a good friend, Mandy. Mandy loves and has always been attracted to black men. However she has been on dates with white men, and hispanic men. Her preference is black men. Never asked her why, because I really don't care. The one thing that I have always admired about her was the fact that never in the 10 years that I've known her has she ever put down white men to the black men that she dates!!!! Not once! That's the way it should be. I admire her even moreso because on the few occassions when a black man that she was dating started bashing, and degrading black women, she would put them in check and soon after that, they would not be in her life . It was one guy that she was crazy about and he seemed o be a really decent guy and I was hoping that at last she had found someone that was decent and accepting of her daughter. When he started with the sterotyping, and verbal bashing, he got kicked to the curb. Mandy is now engaged to a very nice man, he's charming and very funny and most of all he is a decent human being. He is good for her and she for him. When were talking the other day she said "you know if I had tolerated the sterotyping, the negativity about black women, or any woman for that matter, I would have missed out on the man that treats me like a queen, but more importantly he respects and treat all women like a queen". Mandy has hit the Jackpot at last and she deserves it!! I admire all who will not compromise their values, their beliefs, and their integrity just to be accepted. Not once did she waiver even though sometimes it left her alone and even sad, she never waivered. I like that in a person!!!! My dad, rest his soul, would always ask me three questions when I would go to him about a problem that I was having at the time. I still on occassions ask myself the same three questions from time to time. Once I went to him about some jokes that were being made that made me very uncomfortable. He asked "what role are you playing"?, What are you prepared to do? What are you prepared Not to do? I thought about it and I decided to confront the jokes in my own way, which I did. When they were being told, I got up and walked out of the room every time this person would start in with the jokes. I didn't care what I was doing, I just get up and left the room while he was talking. He never stopped but his audience got smaller and smaller and then eventually he relocated... I know this type of behavior is a pain in the___ and somedays are worse than others. Just please don't become like your enemies because not all black women have this mentality about black men and non black mates. I think sometimes it's very easy to think like such, but it's been my experience that easy isn't always best. I'd rather have the best than to have it easy.. Love and Peace godiva61
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MRLEES says:Posted: 19 May 09I read this entire board pertaining to a fella and a gal pictured kissing in a library on the cover of an issue of GQ, I wonder if it's the kiss or is it the picture that caused so much adoo about nothing? Just imagine what would have come about if the article had been read. I guess a picture is indeed worth a thousand words. I personally like kissing in an elevator between floors away from prying eyes. Where do you like to kiss? No pictures please.
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MTNHUGGER21 says:Posted: 18 May 09
YOU ARE ALL RIGHT ABOUT THE MAG COVER. YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE REDNECKS WHO CANNOT HANDLE LIFE BECAUSE THEY FEEL SUPERIORd??? OR IS THAT VERY INSECURE. MY SENTIMENTS AS AN CAUSIAN. GOD MADE US ALL EQUAL, MEN AND WOMEN AND I FOR ONE TREAT ALL WOMEN AS AN EQUAL. IT IS NOT FOR ANYONE TO PASS JUDGEMENT ON ANOTHER PERSON. THAT IS GODS PRIVILEDGE ONLY AND THE WUSSES BETTER GET IT TOGETHER. MEN FOR YOUR PROBLEMS IN LIFE. WOMEN ARE NOW 63% INTO COLLEGE AS TO MEN AT 28%, WOMEN IN BUSINESS R AT 68%,MEN @28 TO 32%. WOMEN IN BUSINESS ARE NOW MOVING AHEAD IN MANY AREAS HOMEBUSINESS WISE AND MANY AREAS IN THE WORKPLACE. MEN ALSO HAVE A LOT OF AREAS TO GROW UP IN WHICH INCLUDES EDUCATING THEMSELVES TO WOMENS WANTS AND NEEDS WHICH OUTWAYS BEER,BURGERS AND T.V. ALL THE TIME.
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