Do white women approach men better than black women?

Posted by James, 03 Oct 07

undercoverbro.jpgDo White women approach Black men better than Black women do? One thing that most people believe is that white women are more aggressive when it comes to letting a man know they're interested. How is this so?

Apparently, white women have perfected the art of making the first move. Remember Big Mamas and how they taught younger generations of Black women that it's unladylike to go after a man? Correct me if I am wrong… White women don't have Big Mamas so they are like baracudas when it some to getting their man. The thing with white women is that when they think they like some guy, no time is wasted. She will be all up in his face, to get his attention.

Well, I find it to be a major turn on when a woman leaves the guesswork out of who likes who. On the other hand when a Black woman likes a dude, she telepathically sends him a message (you know how we men are pathetic with reading-between-the-lines kind of messages… we almost never get them).

Most Black men I have had the chance to talk to say that when they talk to a White woman, in the first five minutes, they can tell that she's looking for a man and if she's interested in him. But when a brother talks to a Black woman, in the first five minutes he discovers that she's looking for a certain kind of man. Get the difference?

I must admit that we all have standards we have to live up to. Much as there are white women that have a rep of scouting out talented black athletes, there are some White women who give a Black man a chance that Black women wouldn't give a second look. How many times have you seen an interracial couple walking hand in hand and you said. "She can have him"?

Most of my Black female friends don’t like the sight of a good looking brother at a club with a White woman. So why this obsession with the outwards as opposed to the inside? Its important when at a social gathering, to have a good time and take the initiative to meet two new people before they go home. Black guys do it. White girls definitely do it.

Much as Big mama said it aint right, that shouldn't hold us back from being polite to someone new, even when we're not interested. You never know, that person could later introduce you to someone who may introduce you to another someone. And just coz you have made the first move doesn’t make you a slut. It shows confidence and how you got your sh** together.

I think one thing we all have to realize is that love is out there. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Stop looking for the picture perfect dude. White women are not out to swipe the whole entire community of Black men. Maybe they are just looking for love in all the right places. Enough with the judging. Don’t let love pass you right under your nose. Who knows, I could be your Mr. Right. ;-) [tags]white women,black men,black women[/tags]

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  1.   JimShorts says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 10

    Those who have strong personalities, or perhaps are more outgoing, will likely be comfortable in approaching someone. No race or culture has an inherent advantage.

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  2.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 10

    I think the African American culture helps black women better approach men better than white women do. Years of suffering for African American females have forced them to become the strong, independent, noble individuals that they generally are and has given them the confidence to approach men more honestly and boldly than white women. White women don't know that kind of oppression.

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  3. Posted: 28 Aug 10

    I don't think it's an inherent trait in any race or culture.

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  4.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 10

    No I think black women approach men better than white women do. It is just false stereotypes about black women that cause this misconception and it saddens me that it exists.

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  5. Posted: 27 Aug 10

    I don't believe it's cultural or color orchestrated. An individual may have a more outgoing personality than another and that's not assigned to any one race, creed or color.

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  6.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 10

    Both white and black women are playing games with everyone just like black men and white men are so everyone's playing games and trying to stack the deck to make them look as positive as possible. And when they find the truth out, divorce and/or single parents. The kids are the true victims of all these games and the example set for them isn't a good one. So I think white women and Black women are equal in all capacities. If women offer sex, then it doesn't matter what color you are because horny guys are colorblind.

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  7.   shawrueben says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 10

    It appears that alot of black women are looking for something from a black man while white women are looking for something inside him.

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  8.   hmontaq says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 10

    I dont see a difference at all. They all want men to chase them. The prettier the thicker the brick wall. When I get to the brick wall I'd rather be somewhere else than deal with that attitude.

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  9.   Member says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 10

    am just curious, why is A caucasian women a self racist of her past ancestry? Is it because the Caucasian woman as a whole recognizes the level of hatred against black men by manipulated black women?... So she stands by her new King as he let's the world know that black men are tired of the foolishness & tricks? When we are critical of people we should listen to what they are saying.?White women within this panel of discussion are simply speaking their mind & for that matter the truth a truth that is self evident by which SOME not all black women chose to ignore & be oblivious have been manipulated by certain species to go against their soul mate they are lost....its a different savage land &times now. You cant fight hate with love.The black man is tired & is not simply looking for joy & happiness...by any means necessary

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  10.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 10

    Sadly, my experience that the cultural norm still is for woman, whatever their melanin count, tend to wait to be approached. I have found this to be true regardless of whether they have had a "Big Mama" or not. While the signals that they are approachable are similar, generally speaking it is up to the man to make the move.

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  11.   X says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 10

    @Jamie, I know you're just a troll but still it's sad that the only sense of pride you have in your life comes from the color of your skin. I guess I would be upset and feel inadequate too if my greatest life achievement was simply being born. I might have to lash out and hate on others to make myself feel better too then.

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  12.   jaime says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 10

    Hidden due to low comment rating. Click here to see.

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  13.   X says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 10

    @friendly13, You wrote: "I believe that it is easier for a white woman to exude that personalty with a black man and that because many black men are just extremely flattered that a white woman approached them that it makes the white woman feel even more beautiful." White women seldom approach me. 9 times out of 10 I have to approach them (or any other woman). My theory is that a lot of black women have unresolved issues with their fathers or how their father treated their mother and they take this out on black men.... like they start out assuming that the guy will be just like her dad. They have an antagonistic attitude from the first second you meet them even if they are interested in you. While a white woman will either just not give you the time of day at all or she'll be friendly. After a guy runs into this a few times he might assume all black women are that way so it's a cycle that is bad for both sexes. of course I'm not the best person to be putting out theories since I can count the number of black women I have been with on 1 hand. Maybe half were very sweet and friendly and the other half were not. But like I said.. I can throw a rock out the window and hit way more white women than black women (where I live).

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  14.   X says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 10

    I'm a black man. The reason I seldom date black women was simply a numbers game for me. Most of the circles I have been in (academic and work) had very few black people. Most of the black people I know is because of relationships formed in childhood. I can throw a stone outside my window and hit 4 or 5 fine white women. I would have to really go out of my way to find a black woman who is AVAILABLE and who doesn't insult me by trying to say I'm 'acting white' for just being me. But I didn't grow up or live in cities with large black populations either. I would love to meet the right black woman but I'm happy with a white woman who has the right heart also.

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  15.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 10

    @ White Girl You said "...There is more! Black girls, who cares if some of us white girls date black men? There are plenty of men (both black and white)to go around. I think we have an equal chance of snagging the good guys, so stop hatin on us white girls! I believe that everybody has a soul mate, so just be yourself, and you and that special someone will eventually find eachother. Someone out in this big world is looking for exactly the king of person you are, and my guess is, you are looking for his type as well..." ************************ I like what you had to say it is fair and makes a lot of sense. My comments regarding the topic....the article has some interesting points that I cannot argue with. But there is also another side besides the Big Mama theory. I am a black woman and know that there is some validity to the Big Mama theory. The otherside to the coin is that this society has worked hard to show he world that white women are beautiful and more preferred than black women. Even beautiful black models will tell you that finding work in hollywood is difficult even for them. Many of the jobs simply don't want a black woman. Even though they do find work and do become very rich, they struggle with the commercial ideas that is sold in our society. This is not the white womans fault. I believe that because of this she may have a little more confidence. Since her role models are often times women like Marylin Monroe and women who exude extreme sexual beauty some (I did say some) try to emulate that same persona and have learned that it works. I believe that it is easier for a white woman to exude that personalty with a black man and that because many black men are just extremely flattered that a white woman approached them that it makes the white woman feel even more beautiful. I don't think that white men are as flattered by it though as the black men. I am not criticising that either. Like white girl said, she found black men to be more manly and exciting to her in his chemistry and she didn't find white men to be as compelling. I think that the article is true in some repects, but I feel that there are a lot more complicated issues that cause the truth about how white women approach men. Society has given white women the green light on her sexuality. Big Mamas are also teaching black women the same thing that the media is teaching. Maybe not directly but this is the influence behind it. I thinm that Big Mama should stop being a hypocrite (with her eleven kids) and let black women believe they are beautiful and desirable so that they can begin to exude confidence like the white women have developed.

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  16. Posted: 06 May 10

    It can hurt worse and I think I alot of "them" know it....which is why they do it and call it "tough love".....pfft.

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  17.   flash says:
    Posted: 01 May 10

    i honestly do question whether blk guys like blk girls. so i don't approach them. i don't know why i think like this. i think that about probably 89% of the guys my age (even tho stats show otherwise). it is wrong of me. i am trying to change. also i think that he thinks negative stereotypes of me because i'm a bw (ghetto, bad attitude, baby daddy, gold digger, weave etc). even tho i don't fit the stereotypes. i know that white and asian men may also think of negative stereotypes when they see me, but i think it hurts worst when someone in your group does it.

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 Apr 10

    I feel like jealousy and hatred pretty much dominate this board, so I have some comments about this topic. It's not about money or social connections, it about LOVE y'all! I date both black and white men, but I happen to like black men better. ... And get this... its for the RIGHT reasons! Maybe this is racial stereotyping, but black men have a very masculine edge. I like that. You don't come across to many white men that are intimidating and rough, yet still clean, classy, and attractive. Black men usually make me feel more femenine and beautiful that white men, though I can't quite put my finger on why... There is more! Black girls, who cares if some of us white girls date black men? There are plenty of men (both black and white)to go around. I think we have an equal chance of snagging the good guys, so stop hatin' on us white girls! I believe that everybody has a soul mate, so just be yourself, and you and that special someone will eventually find eachother. Someone out in this big world is looking for exactly the king of person you are, and my guess is, you are looking for his type as well.

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  19.   murmure says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 10

    Iam european ..and met my militray black husband 27 years ago in germany..and trust me i was not 400 pounds or stank ..i was stunning and still am ..and we have known each other 27 years and married 25...one son ..and he is well adjusted and in college ..and no i was not thought to make the first move ..i was thought by the woman in my family that man should make the first move ..there are a lot of silly racsists in here!!!

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 10

    I love black men. In college I dated white guys in my sorority and they were not as nice and able to love my body as much, so here I am. I like your blog. Insightful.

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  21.   cooldewd says:
    Posted: 10 Apr 10

    i think i main reason for this is because white women know they can get a black man as easy as that. they know black men(not all but quite alot) would like a white woman..

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  22.   TYRANT says:
    Posted: 25 Mar 10

    Comment by Salsassin on 4 March 2010: It does seem these blogs have atheme of compatition more than a theme of unity. What is up with all the damn stereotyping on this messageboard. Did Black man do this better, Did White man do this better, Did Asian woman do that better, Who kisses the bast Black American woman or Samoan woman. Damn. Seriously, the more I read the blogs posted by the makers of this board, the more I realize they are obsessed with stereotypes rather than individuals. Real people date individuals. If you find a person that is great and they happen to be of another ethnic group, go for it. End of story. This isnt the ethnic Olympics of dating. Damn. TYRANT replies: I hear that Tiger Woods got picked by black people in the racial draft. LOL Seriously, when I read the blogs-and I do READ THEM-I find that most of them start off on topic, but SOONER than LATER turn into a referendum on black men, and WHAT WE'RE DOING, NOT DOING, and HOW WELL WE DO IT. As a black man I'm so SICK and TIRED of being judged as the REPRESENTATIVE of the ENTIRE black male COLLECTIVE. If I had to name one thing I'm JEALOUS about when it comes to white male/black woman relationships it would be that white men get the LUXURY of being JUDGED as INDIVIDUALS by black women. The thing that ANGERS me the most is when Dr. Martin Luther King said "Judge me not by the color of my skin, but by the content of my character" it's like EVERYBODY got the memo except black men and women. When we view each other it's usually through stereotypes and sweeping generalizations; we rarely see each other as INDIVIDUALS, and that's SAD and PATHETIC. Dating, whether MONORACIAL or INTERRACIAL is suppose to be about HAVING FUN while EXPLORING each other's DIFFERENCES, not COMPARING who's BETTER or WORSE at WHATEVER. The typical poster children for IR dating/marriage are either black men who have ISSUES with black women or black women who have ISSUES with black men. I've yet to read a thread about IR relationships where the black women and men haven't BASHED each other for one reason or another.

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  23.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 10

    My name is Jaime which means James in Spanish and I am truly embarrassed that this guy even has my name after all the stupid divisive threads he has posted.

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  24.   Salsassin says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 10

    It does seem these blogs have atheme of compatition more than a theme of unity. What is up with all the damn stereotyping on this messageboard. Did Black man do this better, Did White man do this better, Did Asian woman do that better, Who kisses the bast Black American woman or Samoan woman. Damn. Seriously, the more I read the blogs posted by the makers of this board, the more I realize they are obsessed with stereotypes rather than individuals. Real people date individuals. If you find a person that is great and they happen to be of another ethnic group, go for it. End of story. This isn't the ethnic Olympics of dating. Damn. A lot of hogwash threads.

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  25.   Member says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 10

    "keep on- keeping on" this topic is far from ignorant. but the comments it brings out are. i am 21 years young. i come from an extremely multi-racial family. coming from, jamaican,indian,italian,canadian and chinese roots. were here my skin has an olive tone yet my sister's is fare. my cousins are both black and white. my mother has what some may call "nappy" hair, yet my father has silky curls. im somewhere in the middle. my husband is black, family raised in the south. my daughter is absolutley beautiful, but i fear she will grow up soo confused. just like my mother n i did. here we are not exactyly fitting to one side nor the other. were do we belong? whos decision is it whether my mother should have married my italian father and not another jamaicain/indian man. whos to say that i should not have married my african/american husband instead of a caucasion man. why is it i am judged before i am known. why is it color determines how strong, intelligent, worthy, or beautiful someone will be. its a struggle for me everyday to rise up from the challenges i face bein in the relationship i am in,raising my daughter to be a proud woman,not a proud black/nor white woman, and still remain prideful myself, when so many look down on me, my accomplishments, or even my abilities to accomplish things i have yet to do. my family has struggled with many hardships regarding money,drugs,a place to call home,family affairs. the same as anyone else..but yet people dont care to acknowledge this because our skin is niether one nor the other. people have literally 'expressed' doubt in my abilities to rise in any occasion from one look at myself or my family. its depressing, sickening, and unfortunate so many people deprive themselves of genuinley knowing other people and taking the oppurtunity to learn from other people because of what they see at first glance. can someone please help me understand?? and give advice as how to keep on keeping on?

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  26.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 Jan 10

    this topic is ignorant. Also, why is there never a debate of why or who white men date?

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  27.   Member says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 09

    Again...how stereotypical is this question?! Are all white women the same? Are all Black women the same? The question says they are the same.

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  28.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 09

    Oh yeah James, if that is you, lose the outfit dude, LOL! You can keep the hair as long as it dreds, teehee!

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  29.   TricciNicci says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 09

    "White women are not out to swipe the whole entire community of Black men. Maybe they are just looking for love in all the right places. Enough with the judging. Dont let love pass you right under your nose. Who knows, I could be your Mr. Right. ;-)" ~James ________________________________ Well, tell me this James, do you look anything like the dude in the picture? Cause if you do, HOLLA! LOL! No I'm serious...Was that you in the picture back in the day?! Now I'm just kidding again and probably a bit delirious from not getting enough sleep last night. All kidding aside I frankly think both Black men and White women just got fed up with the race game. A lot of people don't realize whites made their women feel "held hostage". Those men would be out living it up while leaving the white woman to carry the 'sacred torch' of their race. Sure those women would be treated well...by material standards, lol! They were no more well treated love wise in many cases - you know spiritually, soulfully than a man in the moon. The reader should think back or be made aware of the vestical of uprightness they were set to be in public and in society. Still are to a degree. It's just harder to believe the bull since whites on both side of the fence began to jump from the "perfect" homes they supposedly had in the 50's and 40's. It's just the fall of the family for whites and blacks have created a new family of sorts. African Americans (families) who endured the struggles since the tearing down of their actual communities began to happen a bit after entry into The Reconstruction Period here in the states. Thus suffering double loss. At that time, we had all our own everything. When whites saw we were just as industrious, diligent and we actually had brains often not even a full generation out of slavery, they lost their minds. So not only did we have the African American family destroyed once, but twice on a major historical scope. That was on these American soils alone during the slave trade and post Civil War freedoms. Notwithstanding the tear down of the Africans and the rape of their societies during the culmination of the slave trade. As well the many other ways American society tore The Black family down in front of the eyes of the world, shamelessly. So now there is a forging of a new family. People will create even out of destruction. Now as far as tactics go, yes, I've seen and heard about the tactics used by white women. They are more aggressive, but the same traits they have and are PERMITTED to show would be called bombastic by Men of Color if a woman of the culture were to use them. Many Black men want to feel made up to by a woman doing all she can to have him. For the first time in generations some relate to the "feeling" of appreciation and love because they are permitted these days to do what they want. White women pay the black man's bills in a role reversal more so today than ever just to have him. While Women of Color are showing their self love and self empowerment by boosting their own educations, salaries and opportunity. The black men who've so called "made it" honestly just don't want to look back. As long as they have money and choice they will be with a white woman who is treated as a COMMODITY on the open market. Yes, love has a lot to do with it, but love of the commodity. She is bought and sold much like her black man once was. I think she tired of being sold for someone else's benefit and decided to make her own ticket. She seems to be happier for it. Another point is a white woman doesn't want to face the challenge for some reason (like any woman would which is what strikes me) of her man going back to a Woman of Color. So she bargains with him. That is why she pays him. She does so for her benefit, not his. Sometimes it backfires and he stays for a while and will even marry. Strangely he often returns to a Woman of Color AFTER he is matured, produces a lower income and has had his fill. Strange, but I've seen it over and over. That's why I always say people do what they do. One doesn't have to agree with it, but certainly can learn from it. I also believe these many issues aren't as simple, 1-2-3, as we like to think. History itself shapes our many perceptions even if we can't see the full thread of it. So on the simple I believe people go after what they believe they can have, but sometimes we are all to accepting of a standard set for us for someone else's benefit. People should date who they want by a standard that is agreeable for their overall situation. Good luck my Caucasian sisters! Make sure you love yourself and the man you choose reflects that in the love he shows you.

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  30.   Kiki says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 09

    White girls do have "big momma's" there called grandmother's baby! I agree with some points in your article.

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  31.   Member says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 09

    i think everybody is definitly more opened to dating other races now than more than ever,which is very good i've always love to see interracial relationships since i was a young teen.And i think if your happy it dosn't matter what other people think cause there's only two in a relationship.

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  32.   JustAGirl says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 09

    @John L: it seems as if you are VERY bitter. Stop playing the race card. You have this "woe is me" attitude just because you are black. Get over it. The freaking payday loan stores aren't going to shut down if black people stop cashing checks there! Here's a solution: #1, get a bank account. #2, get a job. #3, fix your credit. THEN you won't have these problems. Black folks aren't the only ones that are poor and have issues. White people have just as many. GET OVER YOURSELF!

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  33.   WANNAMAKER says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 09

    One of the main reasons the internet can be a problem... ... ...it gives people with horrible reading comprehension skills the ability to write replies. Wonderful article tho. If the writer's aim was to help all men get laid.

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  34.   djteel says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 09

    i don't date women for the sake of being diverse.i date who i'm attracted to and comfortable with.women of my own race.i don't feel i'm missing out by dating people of other races.i'm not looking for for a cultural experience.i find that white women also are looking for a certain type of man as much as any black woman.but like most black women,white women only keep meeting the macho,cocky,self indulgent type of guy.thusly,the wheel keeps a spinning and relationships keep a changing.

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  35.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 11 Aug 09

    BlackLadsteak Lol.Although I have never seen a canadian man that WASN'T sexy,lol, I think it might be your confidence that the women are picking up on and not neccessarily your race.

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  36.   Phaedrus says:
    Posted: 11 Aug 09

    Well, I'm here mostly because of good experiences talking with black women in the past. Its clear to me that some of them approach very nicely and are not afraid to let you know what they want.

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  37.   85kguy says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 09

    I have seen this to be true but mostly in traveling white professional women. Those white women traveling for business are more aggressive and forward than those in their actual home office. If she gets tense in the neck and starts rubbing her own neck and shoulders look out! John Lindsay makes a point. Most brothers prefer an exotic attractive tan or olive woman over a white woman anyway. Black women may not realize that and only think of white women. A lot of white men find darker caucasian-looking women that are non-black, non-mixed, and non-white more attractive too!!

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  38. Posted: 15 Jul 09

    To BlackCowboy.... Maybe some of those women actually get the vibe that you see them as "broads" and not "babes" (a slightly better meaning behind that one I suppose.....lol). Just I a thought..... Peace and Blessings tatted2death

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  39.   Azrazyel says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 09

    FIIGO: Although you have a few valid points there, I think most of your comments are biased....possibly racist. Everyone chooses whom they love and desire, white men are not the pinnacle of all men. So it's like basically saying that all women look to white men first, get rejected, and then the rejected ones, or fallout if you will, scatter amongst other races looking for love. That is just stupid!

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  40.   FIIGO says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 09

    Hey everyone, have you ever been wondering why those particular white women bother to date black guys? Has it ever occurred to you that maybe it's because white men have rejected those white women in the first place? Let's face it, white men do pick up the best looking women (whether is white, latina, asian, black) and ignore those less than average-looking white women. Who do you think a white guy is going to choose? A hot black or asian woman or less than average-looking white woman? White men are highly picky when it comes to women's beauty. And here is another interesting point, white men sees white women's beauty differently then black men. Yes it's true that there are some white women who date black men, I have seen them on the streets, but I gotta tell you, most white men don't find those white women attractive. If you don't believe what I say, you can always ask a white guy what he think of that white woman on the street. The white guy will tell you and you will realize that the white guy has a difference perception of beauty than black men do.

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  41.   Member says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 09

    As a classically handsome,Brad doll sort of black lad,I'm FREQUENTLY approached by great-looking withe babes,but NEVER by a black broad.I wonder why?

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  42. Posted: 03 Jul 09

    LOL....I wasn't comparing myself to anyone....but I knew that YOU would follow me like a friggin vulture to this topic.....AND once again you show your true hateful colors....AND your childish, school-yard ways (you didn't even attempt to answer my question and brought up some nonsense from another thread....lol).....YOU ARE DISMISSED. (taking the REAL "cuckoo" out, putting it up to a mirror and throwing the clock out the window...DONE!)....you were amusing for a time but but at some point the laughs have gotten as stale and rotten as your abusive attitude; I guess that fits in your world and I hope you find all the happiness there......PEACE (a "special" one just for you, L. Queens). Peace and Blessings to ALL tatted2death

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 09

    You are comparing yourself to BlackLad. I didn't seen him throw a temper tantrum over the fact someone said something or did something "they didn't like it" like you did to Legion. You are cuckoo get some help! You are so desperate it is not even funny at this point. If you didn't mention Legion name and was unhappy with a way a man approaches you. Then it would be different. Instead you "lost your cool". That is what desperation does to some black women. Get some help and you will be alright. I told you I see the weaknesses in your personality already. You are definitely a "hot head" and "controlling". You must have difficulties in your relationship.

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  44.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 09

    Susan, SHUT UP! I don't think I would look as handsome any other color. Maybe the love and respect YOU have for your relatives is race based, mine is not. Take that up with the types of men you converse with... at the mental ward. I don't believe it's really a matter of whether white women approach men better, necessarily. There are just different approaches. And the method of approach may very well differ amongst white women as well as amongst black women, any woman for that matter. Nicely written, James.

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  45. Posted: 01 Jul 09

    Ok 2 L. Queens (who I know watched this board like a hawk).. ...so the above (by BlackLadsteak) is not seen as advertising/"throwing" himself out there????? But my attempt to ONLY connect with like-minded people is.......(tick tock tick tock)

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  46. Posted: 20 Jun 09

    I'm a classically handsome older black Canadian lad(56 July 6; said to look 15-20 years younger than my age)and I can't resist a buxom blonde between 25 and 39,because it seems white babes see a stud in every good-looking black guy.

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 25 May 09

    @ LB, I guess I can understand where you're coming from. But rest assured, not all of us black men have that mentality (I personally have no issues with black women dating white men). I've dated outside my race as well and just because one does that doesn't always mean they hate their own race...sometimes it's just about preference. I don't like when people make crazy asumptions (not that you were, i'm just saying in general). Bottom line: It's hard enough finding true love in this day and age. We shouldn't add anymore obstacles to the equation like worrying about people's skin colors.

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  48.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 May 09

    Let address the above comments. I don't cheat on my fiancee number 1. Number 2 I get more women since I have been engaged is a statement saying women flirt more than when I was single. As for everything else you said. That is your personal issue. If I lack the manhood to be engaged to a black woman I wouldn't have bought her a ring. Good day to you. The crackpot that said they still look at you as a nigger. I guess that applies to sellout black women with white men. I don't fall in either category because I stay within my race. You need to relax.

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  49.   valerie2003 says:
    Posted: 06 May 09

    By extension, white women who prefer black men hate their fathers, sons, brothers, etc., and the color of their own skin. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! I date men - both black and white - because of the way they carry themselves. If they have a sense of humor, are intelligent, able to hold a conversation about something other than their ex, and are comfortable in their own skin, no matter what the color, than I'm interested in them as a human being and possible partner. I wish people would stop looking for underlying psychological issues when they see interracial couples. Trust me, attraction is not that complicated!

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  50.   Susan says:
    Posted: 06 May 09

    Most black men choose non black women because they themselves hate their own skin color, and feel it will make them look more acceptable in society. They don't care if the white women is 400 lbs and stank, as long as she ain't black. DUMB ASSES! But the thing is, when a black man goes that route all that really says is, secretly he hates his black mother, his black sisters, his black grandmother, his black aunts and black female cousins. And when you have a conversation with these type of men, you will find that out. BUT THE WHITE MAN ( and lots of white women) STILL SEES YOU AS A NIGGER!

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