Black women on interracial dating
People usually have different views when it comes to interracial dating. I'm sure you too have your own. How does seeing people of the opposite race and opposite sex holding hands on the streets make you feel? Angry, happy, envious?
I was once having lunch with my truly black girls at a restaurant when a black woman and a white man walked on by. One of them went,“Let other people do it but personally, I cannot date a white man. White men date black women because they look down upon them. I'm not about to kiss some pink ass᾿ :roll: Yeah… I almost chocked on hearing those words.
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According to studies carried out recently, black women are less likely to engage in interracial relationships as opposed to their male counterparts. John Tierney, the author of the survey concluded, "It's not that white men are more reluctant to date non-whites, it's that black women are less willing to date someone of another race." Well the video below makes us see why.
Men are generally willing to date someone of another race, but women are more reluctant, especially African-American women. The researcher also found that women of different races generally agreed with one another in rating the various men’s attractiveness. However they were less willing to date a man of another race even when he was just as attractive as a man of their own race.
So, does this make interracial dating acceptance somewhat a gender issue? Will I be right to conclude as per this study that it’s not just black women who are reluctant to date interracially but all women in general? And if so, what factors influence this reluctance in women then?
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homesteader says:Posted: 05 Apr 09
Evolution of the fittest , is nice that I got your attension / Happiness is just another Way to Live . I learned many years ago to cross the line , if anything will ever be done . Passive statements , History Lessons and argumentative statements at a Date Ting site / We became Happy when We met here . Thank you for being Polite , My opinions are just that - My Opinions . I shall honor Yours .
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salsera77 says:Posted: 05 Apr 09Yes, my sentiments exactly. I think we've all been very polite because we know everyone has their right to speak but Geeze this is the 2nd time he's crossed the line trying to offend me and so I've had to call him out on it. On a positive note: Happy Palm Sunday, Everyone!
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Glock says:Posted: 05 Apr 09Salsera77 I agree with you. Homesteader certainly does BLAB, QUITE a bit. 90% of the time, I have no clue of what it is he's trying to say. Often times when I come to the blogs it's filled with his postings of meaningless drival. I'm glad I wasn't the only one that noticed it.
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Glock says:Posted: 05 Apr 09
I just came back to see some of the responses. Blakmanrising has SERIOUS issues. He make George Wallace look like a civil rights leader. Blakmanrising....have at it.
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salsera77 says:Posted: 05 Apr 09
To BTW: So yeah, to echo what you've said and as I've stated before it's about Evolving. And I will talk as much as I want, Homesteader. Like I said before you certainly blab enough on every topic for all of us.
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homesteader says:Posted: 05 Apr 09
God being tired from all his Duties said to St. Peter " I need a vacation , where should I go ? " St. Peter suggested Jupiter . God said " With the high gravity , it bothers my back . " Maybe Mercury . No Too Hot . Earth would be good . God said " Them people talk too much , 2,000 years ago , I went there and had an affair with a sweet Jewish girl and they are still Talking about it . " LOL Hehe , Enjoy it's Sunday and We made another week .
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btw says:Posted: 04 Apr 09People of any race whether its male or female who dont date within a race are actually people of great power. They have reached a level of spirit and education that they have advanced to the level of inlightenment that they see people for who they are and not what color they are. They see so well that their eyes dont blind them and they are strong enough to not let anyone tell them different. This creates fear within those who hold on to the past with both hands. This is on all sides of the table as hate and racism arent exclussive. We who have seen beyond the mere colors of the flesh can never go back to the way things were. With the races getting together more and more means that the end is near for those who believe in the old outdated ways. Its in the old outdated ways that the chains which have held back true freedom are rusting away. We are getting closer and closer to becoming a world of one race the human race instead of a bunch of races put together. Its the way god planned it and man has stood in the way for too long. So in other words let go and let god. Peace to all my brothers and sisters in this world.
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salsera77 says:Posted: 04 Apr 09
Jimbo, way back many many paragraphs and statements ago, Martha and I agreed with you that what you're saying is quite common in England/Europe. Glock, Thank You. I don't always agree with you in every topic but on this one I couldn't have defended black women /white men interracial relationships better. I do have to add an addendum that there are black men that have careers, are doing right by their families and are working their butts off. It's not fair how the crappy black men somehow seem to cast a bad reflection on the good ones who are not the cause of ills in black society. I hope that with President Obama in the spotlight the tide will turn on many different levels. People are going to date who they want to date regardless of how many million word essays someone writes to show disapproval of their preference. That's fine. It won't stop the Passion and Desire that has been attracting black women/white men relationships since Solomon & Bathsheba, Thomas Jefferson & Sally Hemings,etc. etc...Lololololol! Snappy Comebacks to Envious Persons of BW/WM Relationships: (good also when someone sees you with your date and just has to open their mouth to you): Opposites Attract, Don’t you know that. Birds of a feather flock together, Don’t you know that. (They will become confused) What’s Good for the Goose is Good for the Gander. - (especially for a bw said to a bm) You don’t own me you own that sick puppy look on your face Black men like you are the reason I date white men. Go tell it all to Reggie Bush & Kim Kardashian. Go b*tch and complain to OJ Simpson & Gil Turner. Go tell it all to Montel Williams and his wife.
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homesteader says:Posted: 04 Apr 09
correction ; " Madam You sure nuff got a Pretty Pair of Bluejeans on , LOL " Yes , the Mind is the First thing to go , Hehe .
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homesteader says:Posted: 04 Apr 09
" England Swings Like a Pendulum Do " , Being older All I got to say is " Never Met a Ladie , I did not Think was Beautiful in her Stride . Madam You sure nuff got a Pretty Pair on Bluejeans /Hehe "
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jimbo says:Posted: 04 Apr 09
" why so many white men are not attract to black women and their resons? " Girl I'm English from London and what you said is what you THINK and nothing eles. Who are you to say White English men don't like/love Black women, have you talked to any of these men you have in your mind???? I'm white ( 18 going on 19 ) and have always from when I frist can remember LOVED black felmales light/dark BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!! Black women are just my personal preference and always will be ( its strong lol ). You are right when it comes to the " beauty standard ", but do you really think ppl all over the world working in the media are out to show black women has ulgy ( for so reason ) or that they just perfer white women or orther women. For ppl reading this England is more open minded then she thinks!! WE ALL HAVE ARE PREFERENCE'S!!!!!!!! 2009 LOVE is that LOVE !!!!
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Member says:Posted: 01 Apr 09
Are these two still at it??? Glock your in the right this guys an old school hater nothing else. Dont grant it an audience it and hate will go away fight it and it feels stronger for some reason. Its like a fire deny it oxygen and it will fade away. Hey news flash i'm white and my family came to this country in 1920 wow they had nothing to do with slavery what a surprise! That is unless a racist paints everyone with the same brush and says all white people are responsible. The interracial dating thing is great it shows that people on both side have had enough of the hate bred from both sides. Now the healing starts. Oh and the love making ;) for bmr lol.
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jussee says:Posted: 01 Apr 09This is for GLOCK,I have a kiss on the lips for you,a pat on the back for you and to say thanks for giving you know who those kind words.What a f...ing idiot.He is.Sorry but titt-for tatt what a looser he is.And a looser always got something to say never an ending story.And thats all they have that comes out there mouths are stories to tell faceless.Statement we love guys like him to death yes once there in there grave thats when our true love kicks in lol sh...less in real life pretty much thats all that comes out there mouth.Leaving like a dog with his tail between his legs yeah tail so far between it legs its going straight through there mouths.And the last man in the bar to get left overs no jerk weed the last to walk out are the party people the first to go will be the looser who could not even pick up someones grandmom.And if you leave way before then there was no help for you before you even walked in.If you have to bragg about what you have in life a house,car new wife or what ever, good for you but hell pat yourself on the back but always remember what a looser that you feel you have to share that with us does that make you a man I hope not. Who gives a rats ass.Do everyone a favor stay off this site we really do not need your 2 cents because thats all your words are worth.I just gave you credit lol....And belive me I am no hater to the BM just the ones who talk like BMR I will spell it like that since he can not show his FACE.Anyone can talk a good talk.But an idiot have a story to tell.
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 26 Mar 09
LOL... ...down on my luck? Yeaaaaaaaaaahhhh...okay, you wouldn't have a clue. Another "white guy" moment...thinks he knows it all, lol. Not nearly down on my luck...2 websites to my credit, which were created by yours truly, getting my 2nd degree, and just moved into a new house...down on my luck...womp, womp...try again. Your pathetic attempts at "calling me out" and mocking the screen name are laughable at best. Keep telling yourself that i'm "down on my luck" if it makes you feel better...which is about the only way somebody like you can feel better...it can't come from within because you have no self worth. And just to let you know about Afrika...since you obviously live there know-it-all, once again, the Afrikans that are being killed are the sell-outs...trying to get Afrika to give up her resources to white people...kinda like Harriet Tubman who shot slaves that were a threat to her movement. And since i'm telling you this...might as well tell you that your people are once again behind it...corporations planted over there so they can rob Afrika of all it's resources. I know you don't want to believe it...being as how you're so pure, LOL. I LOVE, just LOVE guys like you...know it alls, especially when it comes to different races. Stick to your history and people when it comes to this subject matter...you're only good at fabricating. You have no room whatsoever to speak on the matter...there isn't enough forgivness in the world for what your people have done worldwide...and it still continues today...smh, but you want to critique somebody elses life...lol. I'm sure the FBI adds Latino crime to that of whites...dilution, who can't see that? It's been entertaining guy, but I don't think you can make me laugh any harder than I have. You know, since all the white guys are taking all of the Black Women...*sniff, sniff* oh woe is me, what am I to do? I guess I should change my name to BlakManSinking...LOL...because the white guy said i'm not good enough, it MUST be true...LOL. Gotcha...dude. Big guy putting the Black Man in his place in front of Black Women...my o my how macho are we? Such an e-Badass...lol, must really turn the ladies on huh? *wink, wink* Wow...i've stooped to your level...they always told me to never argue with a fool...you can't tell whos who from a distance. I guess i'll leave with my tail between my legs...boy, you sure told me off. What do I know...i'm just a Black guy down on his luck...and Black Women won't talk to me...LOL. It's kinda hard blaming somebody for my "inadequacies" when I feel o so wonderful about myself. If I was inadequate, I would be on a website like this with a pic up engaging in some type of e-romance with women I lust over, LOL...LAME! From the looks of it...you're what, in your 40s? On the net, trying to get some e-booty???? WOOOOOOWWWWW...now I know i'm talking to an inadequate guy. Dont get mad at me that your marriages didn't work out...maybe it's not for you...unless you can get a woman that's vulnerable...if you have to be a buzzard to get a woman, then so be it. In that case...you're at the end of your rope...last round...final call for alcohol...last lap...last chance at love...what a shame. Wow, a young guy can learn something from you after all...don't end up a lame old man sitting on a computer trying to find e-booty. Your like that last guy in the bar, right before it closes, trying to pick up on the left over women, lol. You're sleep...never had problems getting a Black Woman, never will have problems getting one...i'm always around Black Women. They LOVE Black Men...LOVE us to death, lol...don't like hearing that do ya? Guess what else...I LOVE 'EM right back...double DAMN...you definately don't like hearing that. Like I said...it's been fun here on the site for people who need validation...but I have to run folks. Have fun blaming other people for your miserable relationships. Maybe you'll finally find some self worth...somewhere out here...I just know it! You can do it! Just keep in mind...whatever goes wrong...it's the Black Mans' fault, LOL.
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Glock says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
Call it "deflection" if you want, you know what I said was right in your face. I don't deflect. I address whatever point, opinion, or assertion you've got. Based on your posts, you spend you time dating black women so that you can ask them if they dated a white guy before and what is was like....LOL you're pathetic. Are you really that paraniod that you have to ask your DATES about their..lol..experiences with a white man? LOL That must have been a fun date. "Please, BM like me are more of a reason BW love BM." That's right, keep telling yourself that. [If you read my post, you would see I SAID PEOPLE many times…but once again, you’re trying to be the “goody goody” white guy to save the BW, lol.] Exactly WHO said anything about "saving" black women? From your statements, it really sounds like the only person here who has self hate, is you! Maybe you had a girlfriend one time who dumped you then started dating a white man, is that why you are so hateful to whites? [You date a few BW and you think you can tell ME what I am as a BM…I see the apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree…just like your forefathers that used similar tactics on other people to decieve them…it’s 2009, you might want to switch that tactic up.] So now you know how many black women I've dated huh? So how many is that? How many black women do I have to date in order to be an authority such as yourself on black women? And what about my forefathers? You know them? Oh, you want to talk slavery huh?? Hmmmm. Interesting. So what about your forefathers? Shhhhh, don't tell anybody, but did you know your forefathers sold slaves to my forfathers?? Did you know that? Do you know that your forefathers still have slavery? Yeah! Let's bring that issue up "Blakmanrising" …[when white guys stop committing suicide at high rates, talk to me then. When white guys stop slaughtering millions for the resources and their lands…talk to me then. When white guys stop killing their own families at high rates…talk to me then. Just because it doesn’t air on National TV, like you put our laundry out, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen.] You're right, I see absolutely no violence within the black community. When the number one threat to blacks is a black man "talk to me then" Everyone in the black community knows it but are unwilling to speak in publicly. Blacks die at the hand of other blacks across this country AND Africa in DROVES!! It's not the white man doing it it's blacks. Interracial crime? Again blacks have a higher percentage of crime in this catagory again (specifically black men) and no, you will not see that on the evening news. Look at the FBI crime reports. And when you read the catagory about whites, keep in mind the FBI adds hispanic interracial crime to the white catagory or else it would be even lower. Of course the media won't volunteer THAT information either. I can read you like a book. Another black guy down on his luck, dead end job and wants to blame someone. Who to blame? Who else always blame the white man. I've delt with people like you all my life, a person always looking to blame someone for their own faults, and deficiencies. I'm sure you learned at a young age to do that and to hate whites for everything. Undoubtedly you learned that when ever you have a stumble or obstacle in life, that it was put there by the evil blue eyed devil. Hell you probably have a Farrhakan poster in your living room. LOL. Good luck in your life, hope you get out of your rut and stop blaming people for your inadequacies. Some day you'll grow up. Be a man, hell be a "BlakManRising" LOL
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kurok says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
I agree with the lady onto the subject we fell off of. I think interracial dating is hot!!!!!!!!
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kurok says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
Ignorant doesnt imply stupid in any way. You say that women told you how we are?? I say make some white friends and find out for yourself. There are good and bad in all races. I hope you dont think in any way that i was talking about you, it wasnt meant that way. All those things i was saying were quoted from black women in an article i read not my views or opinion. I was not touching on the racism within a race either. Sometimes when you write things they just come out sounding wrong, not that that was your intent. i wont even debate you of how the white man has destroyed, butchered and so on thing in this world. I know it to be true but what you need to understand it was done by whomever was in power. Oh yeah im irish and we were slaves as was every race on gods green earth at one time or another. I thin i agree with the lady (Jussee) we have gotten so far off the subject. Back to interracial dating i think its hot!
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jussee says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
Geeezzzz can we get back to the nice polite talk and stop all the negative crazy talk.I mean its getting kind of boring to keep reading this sh..t.Lets get back to what the very first person had to say.And thats waaayyy at the top of the page for some who do not really get it.LOL........Sorry to try to cut the negative talk but I wanna read the good stuff.So back to interracial dateing can we.The good stuff(smile) hehehe...
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
@ kurok... ...you have no idea what you're talking about. First of all, that philosophy of white guy's having better jobs...if Black Men enslaved white guy's, it would be the same story...let's not go there, your argument doesn't hold up. As far as white men not cheating...being family men...HA...propaganda at it's best. Once again, if Black Men owned the media, it could easily be the other way around. REAL Black Women recognize the game...they are conscious to the fact that white guys' who own the media outlets, will do whatever they can to paint a negative pic about us. Don't get mad at me for saying it...talk to them about doing it. And to address your issue as far as me telling them to get into the kitchen...once again, nice tactic of putting words in my mouth and creating sentences for me. That's not my stance when it comes to women...but if you want to believe that, then you go ahead...as i've said to Glock, you don't know me. So i'll let you build your perception of me from the TV you watch. When I speak, I speak of the self-hating Black people, which are men AND women...not just Black women. Once again, and this WILL be the LAST time I say this here...I hate on NO ONE for TRUE love...but me and other Black people know better when we see it. Once again, I get my information from women...so it's almost as if i'm in the situation...and I speak of BW who've dated white guy's. There's a whole lot more I could say about what i've was told, but i'm not going to say it in this reply to you. Oh yeah...and Glock wanted to know about my phrase, "Our Women"...when I say that, I speak of BW who actually love BM. Whether you want to belive it or not...majority of the time, you are a second option...all you have to do is pay attention to the comments, they speak for themselves. "Black men didn't like me, so I might as well open up my options." = Let me try my second or third choices. And the Black Women who say this are probably not going after the men that they should. I hear all the time how Black Women think we dont like dark skin...FAR from the truth...again, too much TV. But when a Black Woman starts her sentence "Black men didn't/don't...might as well go to another race...", that don't sound all that assuring to me. Some are indeed attracted to white guys...cool, but most couldn't care less, they don't need validation.
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
LOL... ...sorry, but that deflection tactic that you white guys like to use don't work here. Why am I ignorant...because the white guy says i'm ignorant? Please, I have MANY BW who adore me as a FRIEND first, and many have adored me as much more. Please, BM like me are more of a reason BW love BM. You haven't dealt with BM like me, i'm one in a lifetime...there will be another. I don't hate on anybody's choice if it's legit...but from my understanding, since you want to be the "good ol" white guy, is that there are alot of Black PEOPLE, not just women, who are filled with self hate. If you read my post, you would see I SAID PEOPLE many times...but once again, you're trying to be the "goody goody" white guy to save the BW, lol. Please, majority of the sistas see that underhanded tactic...some still fall for it...it is what it is. You date a few BW and you think you can tell ME what I am as a BM...I see the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree...just like your forefathers that used similar tactics on other people to decieve them...it's 2009, you might want to switch that tactic up. LOL...ME, jealous of a white guy begging for a BW...on the WEB???? Are you serious? Are people that desperate...lol. This is good...my day was already going well, but this is icing on the cake. Let me let you in on a little secret...if I go to Bejieng, and live for 5 years...that doesn't mean I can tell the Chinese about there relationships...I don't care how many Chinese women I date...you white guys need to learn that lesson. You are bad for dealing with a couple of Black people and think you know the whole lot...step back, because one of these days, you WILL run into a BW and you'll get your feelings hurt...if it hasnt happened already. I've seen plenty of white guys get checked, by BW on this topic. I myself have dated BW who dated a few white guys...so when I tell you something, know that it also comes from some womens' point of view about you. THAT is where I get the vulnerability issue from...PLENTY of Black Women have told me that, and as a result, see right through you and warn other Black Women about it. So I don't spout anything withoug rhyme nor reason. Oh yeah...I don't date white women...so you bringing up BM who down BW in IR while they themselves are in it, has absolutely nothing to do with me. Trust me, if I were dating white women, I wouldn't need to be on the web and seek validation, nor play on her insecurities to do so. Do SOME BM play on BW's insecurities...of course they do, and I don't tolerate it from them either. So if I don't really care for it from one of us, what makes you think i'll let it slide from a white guy? And don't even talk about having issues with IR...as RACIST as white people are...plz, don't even make me jump on that subject. I don't even have to go to the past...all I have to do is look at the aftershock...there is such a thing you know. But I can tell by your "tone" that the good ol white guy, who thinks he knows all about Black People, that you still have that complex about you. You want to mention Black men do this wrong, and they do that wrong... ...when white guys stop committing suicide at high rates, talk to me then. When white guys stop slaughtering millions for the resources and their lands...talk to me then. When white guys stop killing their own families at high rates...talk to me then. Just because it doesn't air on National TV, like you put our laundry out, doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. So before you try and tell the Black Man what to do, clean up your own back yard...you think you have a clue, and you really don't. Sistas talk to us WAY more than you think...and i'm talkin' about those in IR...trust me. We all know about the saying "You ain't a man, until you sleep with a Black Woman.", which still goes on today. And how did I find this site? I didn't FIND this site...this site was being passed around by BM and BW who were calling out self-hating Black PEOPLE...let me type that in all caps, because I speak of men and women. Don't let it get to your head, I hold nothing against TRUE love...I just know how white guys can be...courtesy of BW who have been involved with you, lol. Just keep BM out of your mouth and out of your relationship...a REAL man doesn't need to bring up another to boost his ego in a relationship...that is a sign of weakness and desperation.
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kurok says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
Wow I have to agree with Glock and disagree at the same time. Blackmanrising doesnt like black women dating white men. I however think its due to racism and nothing else. This is gods world and no man has the right to say who should date who. Its a free for all if you dont like it stand aside for change is progress and progress is a good thing. Damn blackmanrising why dont you say they should get back in the kitchen and shut up because thats how it sounds. When you point to stats that comes off as a desporate attempt to prove your right when your not. As for the second choice thing i read an article that was done at a university many years in the making and the reasons black women chose to date white men was this: they are educated, have better jobs, are family orientated, dont cheat, are very respectful and aspire to be better than they currently are. They said black men were to involved with hanging with the boys, acting like a pimp, cheating, not growing up, and not trying to better themselves. you kind of did it to yourselves and you expect black women to settle for less than what they want?? Everybody has their wants and needs, so if a women finds those needs in someone outside of her race you say shes jaded or brain washed. I say she was looking at the male race as a whole finding what she wanted and your eyes blind you from the truth. Look at your hand with your fingers stretched out. Cut off all but your thumb thus you have limited your options to only one and the best you can get from it. Keep all your fingers and your chances of finding quality have increased by 4. And where i come from quality is better than quanity. Love comes in all shapes, sizes and colors only the ignorant cant see that.
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Glock says:Posted: 25 Mar 09
Blakmanrising, you're more ignorant than I gave you credit for. If ever there were a reason for black women to date outside their race, you're it! Do you think it's because a black woman makes us "feel like a man" the reason we date them? Are you really this stupid or are you just trolling? I could care less if you're mad or not. But the truth is, I can tell it really does bother you to see a white man and a black woman together. And heaven forbid if they actually are having fun being with each other. I have delt with people like you all my life, black men who hate to see a white man with a black woman. All the time trying to tell the BW she's taking a "step down", or "she's only with him cuz he's got money". Yeah I've heard it all before. There are many women here that could tell you that often times the black guys on this site trying to talk to white women, will see a black woman they want to get with only to be turned down. When she turns you down, the black guys lambaste her by calling her "white mans whore" or "sell out". It's totally foreign for you to acknowledge that a black woman can enjoy the company of a white man. As far as you saying that "us guys" playing on a womens insecurities, maybe you want to check with your "own guys" too on that. I have no idea how many black women I've heard say that black men are nothing but players. Yeah of course you wouldn't know nothing about that, after all your BlakManRising!! I notice that you often refer to black women as "our women". So, are you saying that you own them? Maybe that's why they don't want to date someone like you because you feel like you own them. If black women have men like YOU to choose from I certainly can understand why they would look elsewhere. You don't give them credit for having the capability of choosing for themselves, you call them brainwashed instead. More and more black women are dating outside their race, and not just with white men. But one big reason is they want something solid, stable and mature. With men like you and your mindset I can understand why they would leave. So why would a black supremist even be on a interracial website anyway?
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 24 Mar 09
@ Glock... ...plz...there aren't enough Black Women to date white guys for me to be worried. When Black People marriy, 94% it's to their own. Do you seriously think i'm mad because a few white guys actually feel like men because they got a BW? Lol...if you want me to be mad, okay...for your sake, i'm mad. Truth of the matter is, is that whenever a BW goes with a white guy, you are second option most of the time. It's because she feels neglected, vulnerable, or betrayed by her own men...judging only from a few knuckleheads she's dated. To be honest, if I was a white dude, i'll be damned if I was gonna be a second option...but hey, alot of you guys like to play on a woman's insecurities or when she feels vulnerable...sounds like desperation to me, but I wouldn't know about that because I have no need to play on a woman's insecurities. I have nothing to worry about, because there are SEVERAL good BM out here who represent us and are treating their BW like they should. And there are several BW who take accountability and don't look to blame the "Black Man" for everything wrong in their life. Be a woman and look in the mirror. As a matter of fact there are several of us, BM and BW, who are starting to come to the defense of each other against the so called IR daters, the ones who want to blame and look down on their race because they themselves are filled with self hate and need to be validated by other races to feel self-worth. Date who you want...but to look at a BM or BW and say that's the reason you date IR shows you lack of personal accountability and you will be called out for that. Your realities are your own...the people you CHOOSE to date, that's on you. The deflection tactic of SOME Black People is worn out and it won't fly anymore...it's 2009, and alot of us are waking up to the BS...we don't feed into the media, the 70% single BW BullCrap,etc...none of that do we entertain. For some of you Black people claiming to be "educated", I find that hard to believe...well, book smart, you might be...but common sense, you're lacking it. Back to Glock... ...majority of the Black Women that white guys do get, are usually brainwashed and will do no Black Man any good...she's already programmed to think her race is weaker and that she can only be validated by a white guy. So in actuality, i'm not upset...it's a relief to have someone filled with self hate NOT be apart of the Black Community...you are a cancer, and we don't need your negative notions about the Black community affecting anybody else. So have at it Glock...just know, that the REAL BW that alot of you want, don't want you...they want nothing but a Black Man...and they get the love and support that they need...because they are REAL BW. Why would I respect a BW who doesn't respect who she is? If she doesn't respect and love herself, how can she do that for me? So have at it...just know that if that one Black Man would've treated her right, you wouldn't stand a chance = second choice.
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kurok says:Posted: 24 Mar 09
I think in someway our unfortunate past of racism and the lack of equality between men and women playes a big role. Sorry but the black women gets a double negative their black so they delt/deal with the pains of racism and also get slapped with the you belong in the kitchen bullshit line. In many ways im old fashioned so some tell me but they are surprised when this subject comes up. I have 9 sisters so in my mind they can do anything i can and somethings better. I willfully put down any notion that women are inferior to anybody that starts that sh!t. I read one womens comment above and say to black women everywhere you are beautiful, you deserve to be loved, and dont be affraid to look beyond your own race to find that love. White men do find black women very attractive and do find themselves quite affraid to say so out of fear. Its black womens strenght that can and has scared the white man away. Black women have no problem getting very loud which can be mistaken as hostility. the last thing a white guy want is to be put on the spot for the sins of another generation especially when hes attracted to a female of that race.(before you start saying he dont know what hes talking about im talking about me) I have always dated outside my race only dating maybe 3 white women in my life. Having so many white sisters I was attracted to the fact that black women are different. They look different, smell different, taste different and act different. All of these things and more is what i fell in love with. As a kid growing up it was hard to state this for fear that i would be tormented. I've found my strength and black women of the world go for it!! We are different, we do things differently, Love differently and taste differently so lets enjoy each other. Barriers can be broken down with education, understanding, respect, love and laughter. Regards, White Man from Jersey who love dating women of different races!
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homesteader says:Posted: 22 Mar 09
When I say " We " , I talk about my Wife and I as We have Totally no idea as to the Intelligence / Education of others - with the exception of a self proclaimed preacher at another Blog , who cannot even spell at an Elementary level . This being Sunday , Please feel free to pass the Plate after your Generous Donation . Amen , Hahaha
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homesteader says:Posted: 22 Mar 09
Yesterday is Gone , never to Return / Live for Today and Look Forward for the Joys of Tomorrow . We call this Growth .
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homesteader says:Posted: 22 Mar 09
stats are the numbers others have collected from the Past . In the more recent past the Red flag / Sign for us here said " Stop in the Name of Love ." Now in the Present day time 1 is Our number signifing Our joining as a couple . This site is a place for Women to meet Men who Desire another for Date Ting , Love and Long Term Relationships . Soon enough within a couple weeks We shall celebrate Two years of Marriage , This is an Inter-Racial Dating Site and all We ever read is complaints about Colors / Like a Bunch of school children . We members here ; should have by now started to Realize , Complaining about color is what started all these Problems in years Past / Let it Go - Look to the Future . The World is Changing for the Betterment of Man as a Whole , Please people Allow Man as a Whole Community to Enjoy these Changes that have already been made .
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Glock says:Posted: 22 Mar 09
BlakManRising, sounds like you are rather bitter about something? I have yet to see any black woman on here blame her self esteem on black men. And judging by your post, it looks as though you are upset that black women date white men. Is that it?
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fergie.baby says:Posted: 21 Mar 09
from another black sister to you, you go girl!!! black men are dating "other" quite a bit. it is time for the sister to expand her horizons as well. if dating white men is what you are accustomed to, continue doing so. i don't see an issue here. the issue is when black people hate themselves to such a degree that they actively seek relationships with "other" and refuse to give their own a chance. that is called self-hatred.
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tropic79 says:Posted: 21 Mar 09
I was adopted by white parents and grew up around very few black people. The African American/black culture is a little foreign to me so I am most comfortable dating white men. It is just what I am used to and I live in a town in Idaho which is probably 99% white. However, if I meet a man who is compatible and who is a good man it really doesn't matter what race he is.
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salsera77 says:Posted: 11 Mar 09
Teacup, why do you think as you say, you've been asked out mostly by white men rather than any other race including black race? ...just curious because you don't have a pic or profile up.
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teacup says:Posted: 11 Mar 09
I have dated white men most of my life. It all started by default. I've been asked out mostly by white men rather than any other race including the black race. To me it's normal as apple pie. I've never felt uncomfortable, have always been welcomed into their families with open arms. I like all races. However, i will admit that I don't care what the race is as long as their american bred. Hopefully i am not being discriminatory.
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 03 Mar 09
Sites like this send red flags to anybody with sense. No wonder I was seeing all those videos with ALL races of people pointing to the Black woman having problems. You look very desperate Black woman...really, you do. The teeny tiny population that act like the ones on this blog just make the BW as a whole look bad. The BW who don't feel the need to try and make people feel sorry for them are at home right now...gettin' all the LOVE they can handle from that Black man.
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 03 Mar 09
@ 2ute4u... ...just read your comment. Here's some stats for you. Even thoug more black women are in college, black men on average STILL make more money that black women. Education has not a damn thing to do with it. There are so many of you that are educated but dumb as the day is long. And education has NOTHING to do whatsoever with approaching a woman. Your response was probably THE MOST childish response on this site...and that's saying alot. And if anybody needs a damn degree to actually learn how to step up to a woman, that woman has got to be the most boring woman you could meet. This is a big problem with SOME black women...you think it's a competition...you have low-self esteem and a degree will clear that up, so you think. Imma gonna say this and hopefully EVERYBODY reads it. The problem is self esteem...beauty issues. To me, the Black woman is the most beautiful...hands down. But some of you women on this site are about as nutty as they come. You all blame BM for your low self esteem. BM did not create the beauty standard over here in the U.S. Truth be told, majority of us, 90+ prefer Black women. But ya'll need to get your minds right and stop gettin' brainwashed by society. You see the images on TV and get mad that they are mostly white...then you wanna pin it on BM. But everybody on this site looks a little older to me...I guess time is running out and some of you missed the boat, and want to put the blame on anybody that you can...preferably the black male because we're easy targets. It won't get you anywhere. If you get involved in IR for the RIGHT reason, you'll be fine. But if you're an irresponsible Black woman, degree or not, and you just can't seem to find faults with yourself...you'll be miserable regardless. But for those that missed the boat...i'll speak on behalf of the bookworms. Remember that Brotha you passed by when you were younger...the one who had his face in a book...the one who collected model cars and was interested in how technology works...or the one who seemed to play just a littl too much B-ball? Yeah, the one you passed by for the hustla, pimp, or thug. Then when that dude made something of himself, THEN you notice...but it's too late. You missed the bus. NOW all of a sudden your left with Pookie down the street...and want to catergorize all black men as a Pookie figure. Your getting old...clock is ticking...and it would just murder you to find fault in ANYTHING you did...you as a "strong" black woman can't do that. But unbeknowest to you, the STRONG BW can point out faults in her man AS WELL AS HERSELF. Don't get mad that you MAY have missed the boat and want to blame the BM...just take the whoopin' that life has given you, as it does us all, and be happy that you actually found somebody...and stop making it a Black and White issue...because frankly, coming from a bunch of so called educated Black folk...you sound pretty ignorant to me. And creating sites about it is even worse...No other race of women have to broadcast who they date...they are not that insecure. Boy, some of you Black women are REALLY pissed, lol. Make better choices in men next time. You can't make me believe that you had NO idea who you got involved with when choosing these INDIVIDUALS...and that's in caps for a reason...let it marinate, you'll figure it out. Stop being little black girls and grow up...you can't blame all of your problems on your brother anymore...that right has been used up.
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BlakManRising says:Posted: 03 Mar 09
Black man here. I notice how Black women ONLY think IR means white guy. That tells me more than I need to know...most are doing it to try and make BM mad. Truth is, it only shows your true colors and makes it easier for me to see an ass kisser from a mile away. If I was a white dude, there's no way I would be with a Black woman who only thinks IR is Black and white...especially if she's constantly talking about Black men...this "fad" is so see-through, it's laughable at best. Be in a relationship because of love...don't be a bitter black woman...because you'll end up an old bitter black woman...there are ALOT of you around. I see alot of grown black women on this site claim that they are the 100% angel...and it's all BM's faults. In that case, white guys can have your type, lol...I pray that more of your type does breed out of the race. You are a cancer to the AA community, no matter what state we are in. Weak insecure people take the easy road out...only the Strong black man and woman can work through it. I don't know of too many IR black and white couples...the married black folks I see are very much happy indeed. The black women, who are very successful by the way, don't feel the need to kiss up to massa. Which brings me to another point...it's well known that some Black folks change their behavior patterns when dealing with white people. So it's safe to say that when you get with that white dude...you bow down. Whereas if he were Black, no matter how good he is, you wouldn't treat him the same. So it all boils down to one thing...self-hatred. Not ALL IR people, but most Black folks in those situations...and as I said before...you NEED to breed yourself out of the Black race...quickly.
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VA_SongBird says:Posted: 20 Feb 09
Martha54... I fully agree with your comments. After having years of a dry spell with black men in particular... the guy I'm dating is german.. There is a remarkable difference in my opinion. I honestly think it has to do with living in a different environment and good ole' home training. Some men just know how to treat a lady, like a lady. I personally can kick myself for limiting myself. There are some real jewels out there. We just have to free our minds and follow our hearts.
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homesteader says:Posted: 19 Feb 09
Full size Ladies are Pretty , small in nice , adverage good and athletic fine , but Love comes from the Mind
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Ianadr says:Posted: 19 Feb 09
Are we just talking about American Women here? I am a white male living in the UK and have dated mostly women of other races often black. It isn't uncommon here and I feel there are no hang-ups about it. You would be less likely to see a black woman with an asian man or vice versa, and I think religion plays a part in that. My choice is certainly nothing to do with looking down on black women.. my God!! It is just who I feel most attracted to.
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jussee says:Posted: 14 Feb 09
Well for martha and whom ever else take me too.I really would love and enjoy the trip.Maybe my true husband awaits for me there (smile)..If the white men are like that over there I wanna go too...
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DeAn says:Posted: 09 Feb 09
"On the same token, I have met African women in my law school classes that were following no man’s footsteps. What is different, is something that is different in Americans and British, in general as well. On average (not always and varies by country and social level) they tend to speak in a more proper form of English and tend not to project their voice as much and maintain the same pitch of voice more." @ Salsassin...I work with an African born woman who is very "clever" with her "same pitch voice."
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salsera77 says:Posted: 08 Feb 09
martha54 I have a very wise girlfriend who only dates foreign caucasian men due to the history of this country and the attitudes that have been obtained by many but not all. She/We spoke of the very thing you're addressing above which is another reason that I was encouraged to get more specific in my profile. Yes, they will approach you over there with no problem that's for darn sure. I'm due for a trip.
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martha54 says:Posted: 08 Feb 09wow just look at the different comments this article drew.I'm going to speak for me and me only I'm not about to debate this.I've been married to a black man and was lucky enough to have the please of dating a man outside of my race.It now becaomes a choice for me which do I prefer and I choose dating a caucasian man. I'm more at ease with them I feel safe around then and they don't take me for granted. I saw a lot of comments by caucasian men who say they would date a black women well I say to those men check out my profile if you choose to because here is one black women that won't date anyone but you. While vacationing in Paris France I was there ten days and several men ask me out was that because I was American I don't know. On the plane a caucasian man sat next to me going home to Switzerland we talked the whole way to Zurich,by the time our plane landed he wanted me to stay in Switzerland was it because I'm an American women don't know.The point I'm trying to make is this. If I go to Europe the caucasian are all over me come back to the states see them every day and no one says a thing.Are you telling me not one caucasian American man is willing to say hi my name is ? and I'd like to know you better.I've been home a year now not one man has open his mouth it must be time to go back to Europe where the men are not afraid to say what they mean and mean what they say lot's of love to all of you.
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homesteader says:Posted: 06 Feb 09
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homesteader says:Posted: 06 Feb 09
Fat people need Love Also , We continue to turn the lights out We go to sleep at night . We do not see color or size in the Dark of night . We see Love in our bed together . This is a Date Ting site to spread Love at . Look to the Bright side as the sun still comes up on the Eastern windows . Laugh and the world laughs with you . Complain and you may end up alone .
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Salsassin says:Posted: 06 Feb 09
NOPLAYER, WHat is WHT? DO you mean White? OR should I talk of BLK guys versus African guys? Obesity indexes in Europe are a lot lower. In Europe they are not as image obsessed as say California, but in general, the US still is much more open to big looks than Europe. I would be cautious in trying to expand such a claim to most Europeans in the US over American Whites. Also, while I want all women to find their significant other, I do what to make a point that Black women, should not get too comfortable with obesity in their population. For too long have I heard the excuse that Black women just hold their weight different and the BMI doesn't apply to them, etc. This is like the Latino American smoker claiming he doesn't have a problem. It's cultural. It's acceptable. It also gives them a much higher index of lung cancer. In the US, the Latino male (specifically Mexican Americans) and the Black female are the two populations with the highest index of obesity in the nation. Now I have heard that excuse, I see White Obese people all the time. It's racist to focus on us, etc. But that is still just excusism that is dodging the the health issues that are affecting these two groups today. In fact, a recent study has shown that only gender an ethnic group that has not grown in height, but actually shrunken as a whole. is the Black female. And this is a recent trend which has been directly related to a few factors, one being obesity. http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/chi-black-women-shrinkingdec25,0,2562107.story "In an age when the adult populations of most industrialized nations have grown significantly taller, the average height of black women in the U.S. has been receding, beginning with those born in the late 1960s. The difference in stature between white women and black women has now stretched to three-quarters of an inch and appears to be increasing, according to newly released data from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES) conducted by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The main culprit appears to be diet." "Komlos' latest findings, based on the NHANES data, suggest that after nearly 25 years of stagnation, the average height of adult Americans born from 1975 to 1986 has edged up again—with the exception of black women, whose height is moving in the opposite direction. The reason this matters, according to Komlos, is because "height is a very good overall indicator of how well the human organism thrives in its socioeconomic environment." His argument is bolstered by another discovery: While the heights of low- and middle-income black women are plummeting, upper-income black women are growing taller and rapidly closing the gap with their white counterparts. "The only reasonable explanation we can come up with is diet and the obesity epidemic among [middle- and low-income] black women," said Komlos. Over the last three decades, the prevalence of obesity among white Americans has tripled, while among blacks it has increased fivefold. Black females were hardest hit: Almost 80 percent of black females are overweight or obese, compared with 62 percent of the total female population, according to the CDC. The problem develops early. Twenty-one percent of black females ages 2 to 19 are overweight or obese, compared with 12 percent of white girls. Another oddity, according to Komlos, is that black children, both male and female, grow faster and taller than their white counterparts in early childhood, but whites catch up and pass them during the teen years. Pediatric growth experts offer one possible explanation. High caloric intake from an unhealthy diet fuels an early growth spurt among black children, plus it speeds the onset of puberty, especially for black girls, who now begin menstruating 81/2 months ahead of white girls. This early onset of puberty reduces the duration of the critical pre-adolescent growth spurt, resulting in a lower adult height. People who are short or overweight tend to be more susceptible to health problems than their taller, thinner counterparts. They also tend to produce offspring susceptible to the same problems, thus making the cycle hard to break." As the son of one of the top dietitians and doctors of Peru, I grew up raised very conscious of the problems of obesity, so I want to remind all BBW women out there, that it is good to be comfortable with ones looks to a degree, but when trends start having such drastic effects on the population, it is time to think about reversing some of the trends by looking at some of the factors that are leading to this excess growth of obesity in the community specific to the Black female.
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NOPLAYER says:Posted: 06 Feb 09Wendylove002, unlike many WHT guys in the U.S., European guys have an appreciation for the " Extra Body Woman". Many have told me they love the self confidence that many EBW have and they're not as upight about an extra pound like their thin counter parts. There's a realness about a woman thats comfortable in her own skin. Good luck !
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