Black women on interracial dating

Posted by Ria, 22 May 07

People usually have different views when it comes to interracial dating. I'm sure you too have your own. How does seeing people of the opposite race and opposite sex holding hands on the streets make you feel? Angry, happy, envious?

I was once having lunch with my truly black girls at a restaurant when a black woman and a white man walked on by. One of them went,“Let other people do it but personally, I cannot date a white man. White men date black women because they look down upon them. I'm not about to kiss some pink ass᾿ :roll: Yeah… I almost chocked on hearing those words.

According to studies carried out recently, black women are less likely to engage in interracial relationships as opposed to their male counterparts. John Tierney, the author of the survey concluded, "It's not that white men are more reluctant to date non-whites, it's that black women are less willing to date someone of another race." Well the video below makes us see why.

Men are generally willing to date someone of another race, but women are more reluctant, especially African-American women. The researcher also found that women of different races generally agreed with one another in rating the various men’s attractiveness. However they were less willing to date a man of another race even when he was just as attractive as a man of their own race.

So, does this make interracial dating acceptance somewhat a gender issue? Will I be right to conclude as per this study that it’s not just black women who are reluctant to date interracially but all women in general? And if so, what factors influence this reluctance in women then?

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  1.   xbadmo says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 12

    I prefer woman with an African (black) descent for what I consider obvious reasons. They are much more curvasious in shape and the variety of colors and textures is endless. I had always wanted to date black women and started doing so when I became single and I sensed the "plantation" attitude once in a while. I have a very good friendgirl not girlfriend who is black and it took a while for her black friends to accept me on a socializing level - both men and women. She and I started a party group about a year ago and we discovered that the interest between the genders of the white and black races was very genuine. Most people of different races don't mix on a social or party level and when it does happen the results are cool. That's one of the reasons why I like jazz and hitting the club scenes. Jazz does not have the time or patience for discrimination - only for the discriminating of taste and culture. One last note; I have mentioned the physical appeal of black women but there is no one, and I mean no one that can say the word "Baby" like a woman with some African in her blood. Graywolf

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  2.   lyn90 says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 12

    Really i don't see anything wrong with interracial dating. i personally will date from any race, it's really the personality that matters not a persons skin color ,by the way its just a color

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  3.   salsera77 says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 10

    @ocope I do believe you have some black in you.

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  4.   JOHNNYD says:
    Posted: 26 Jul 10

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  5.   teddieone says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 10

    I have dated black women and found them tobe sexy and well worth the time to get to know them. I have had some negative reactions from black men though. They thought it was demeaning for black women to be seem with a white man. I found most them changed their minds on that as they got to me as a person and not about color. SMILE AND ENJOY OUR FELLOW SEXES

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    • nika23 says:
      Posted: 12 Feb 12

      I have heard many black men and women (African Amer.) say that men of other races (generally white men) only want black women for sex. I think this has been engrained in black women and with the history of slavery and rape, women are definitely worried. No one wants to be used for any reason so many stay away because of that fear. Black women are used by black men too and I doubt it's any less painful because he is black like them. How many black women are dumped by black men when they become pregnant or have a baby for them because he never truelly wanted her in the first place? Everytime I hear that 70% of black children live in single parent households it breaks my heart because of the many struggles single parents face, starting with finances. I say black women should be open to men of all races (including back men) and find the one that is right for them. Not every non-black man will be good and not every black man will be bad, but if they give themselves more options, I believe black women would be pleasantly surprised. Some one who may look completely different from you could be the one person who is so perfect for you.

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  6.   tina3219 says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 10

    @ocope by 2045 the white race will be in the minority. A fact. My friends sons and daughters are mixing it up and do not care what color the skin happens to be. They are focused on how someone treats them as a person. We all should be concerned about this and take notes. It is not skin color. A bad person is a bad person no matter what color they are.

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  7.   rae56 says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 10

    ocope, why r u on this site?

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  8.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 10

    @ocope I've heard that view expressed by more than a few wht people, so could it be the threat of genetic annihilation that has alot of white people against IR relationships?

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  9.   ocope says:
    Posted: 30 Jun 10

    I am a white womean very much opposed to interracial dating. I belive the races should be separate and stay with there own. It really turns me off when I see a white woman with a black man. I feel she does not have much self-esteem. It really angers me when I see a good-looking white man dating a black woman. If they have children, that is racial genocide on the part of the white because as I was taught in biology class dark dominates over light. So my advice is say with your own and do not cross those boundaries.

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  10.   blue1 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 10

    To Jussee: How come you are not on the site anymore

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  11.   FUNNY says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    When I dated "WM", they would ask me all the time "how many WM" have I dated they were the ultimate choice and searching for verification that I were "excluding" BM. Not immediately, but I later realized the "hang up" some white dudes had or still do about "black men". I'm older and wiser and know exactly where he's coming from from the onset. My next mate will be a man of "substance" and the closer he is to my complexion, the better.

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  12.   mystic says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    there has been alot of interesting opinions here.i am a black woman (not from usa) and i have to be honest it dosen't look very appetizing the way that alot usa blacks represent or present themselves eg. the way that they act in the media. why does tracy morgan,chris tucker,etc always talk like that? "all ghetto and stuff." i have also noticed that if a black person in the usa dosen't talk like (yo ma wuzz urrp?) they are not black enough. what gives? i personally prefer to date white men exclusively.nothing against the blacks in the usa but too many of the men that i have met have this fake persona. they approach me like(hey shorty or yoww ma)to me they emulate the ghetto talk they see in the rap videos on tv and apply it to real life and it is a complete turn off!! the ones who do it should see it from my point of view. what if i talk like mickey mouse when i meet a cute guy or just in every day life????

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  13.   VvsSovann says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    As a creator of two interracial social networks that focus on both Asian Male/Black Women, and interracial socializing overall...I will say that there are still issues out there. I am glad, blogs/forums like these exist to augment our expression.

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  14.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 10

    What's good Shotgun007. The answer to your question on have I spoke the same words to black men is HELL YES. Even more. Why? Because we're the head of our families and when there is mistreatment towards our women, this is the result. Steve Harvey said once and I quote" the most beautiful women you'll ever see in your life is your women on the arms of another man." That struck a chord in me. Now I'm not posting my comments to be argumentative with any women on this site, because if your on this site nine times out of ten you've already been with white men and it make you happy to be with them, so be it. So I really don't appreaciate you telling me' " I doubt you speak to black men this way" you don't know me and unlike you I don't date white women because black women I chosen to date have wrong me. I take responsibility for the women I let in my life. Maybe I need to change something about myself that keep me being attracted to the same types of women. As a man I know what type of women I like. And as women, you know what type of men you like. Could it be the people were attracted to have great personality but bad character. Because their is a diffrence. Now ask yourself? What type of Black men did I chose to date in the past that lead me towards where I'm at in my life? You've also mention black women dating and marrying IR is not a game. I never said it was. Now you said it not a dis to the black community or some sord of abandonment. But the same way you feel about dating white men because of the wrong black men have done to you, maybe some black people as myself feel the same way about white people and what they have done to black people in the past and present. Im not saying all white people are bad, their not. But I'll be dam if I put that race of people above my own. So maybe you'll look at me as limiting myself for wanting to be with a black women and a black women only, just like when I go to a peter luger steak house for a steak. I don't want want fish. I WANT STEAK. This is the sureshot staying black. Peace out.

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  15.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 10

    Hello Jenna, Thank you for responding to my post. I've read your comments and I would like to say that the majority of black men do have there problems, but it is 2010 and I think that black men are becoming more aware of our current situation and what we must do to pull ourselves out of the hole. For every negative comment black women say about black men, myself and other Black men could say about white people and there history. Black women wear there emotions on there sleves for the world to hear. White men hear, and see this and they take advantage of it. If I was white I know I would. You dont look at it that way. Instead black women reason, Black men can't handle a women like me. Every time you say something negative about your race, yor puting yourself down believe it or not. If i was to date a white women I would never talk down about my people. It's ugly, plain and simple. Now as far as holding my breath waiting for a good black women to come, well like my grandmother use to tell me, there's a majority of black women but few quality black women. I'LL WAIT. I'm not that in a hurry for love that I'll be with a white women because as you put it jenna it's reality and we have to adapt. You realize the character of a person is tested through adversity, well I guess Black men could look at it that way with black women. Thanks for sticking with us in our darkness. Like I said for some black men your not going to have your white cake and you black cake too. Good luck in your relationship.

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  16.   shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 10

    Sureshot, I can see a "few" parts of what you mentioned. Have you preached those same convictions to Black Men who have been dating out for decades!? I doubt it! BW dating and marrying IR is not a game. We date IR because it is a choice and one that obviously we feel confident in making. Its not a diss to the BM or to the black community or some sord of abandonment, but if Im going to be under appreciated in my race and for years I have aggressively dismissed ALL other races, to me Ive shot my own self in the foot for limiting myself....... Shotgun

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  17.   jenna says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 10

    @ Sureshot I have to say after reading your post it does make me see black relationships in a different light. I do so understand that BW should not classify all BM as the same ,but how can we tell who is who my friend,when the majority seems to have such negative traits?! I am not saying that the other races don't have any,but for whatever reason stability is always identified more with them than with BM! Do I hold my breath in bathed anticipation for a brother to get his act together? It is indeed a sad day in all black relationships when we have to date outside our race for whatever the reason,but it is reality and we have to adapt!

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  18.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    It's funny how times have change. I remberd growing up how black women at one point use to say i will never date a white man. Now because black men make up more than half the prison population and black women are geting their education, it's seems that BW are moving forward and BM are being left behind. I wonder how BW would feel if that shoe was on the other foot and BM were more educated and BW were the ones in prison. Would BW be okay with BM dating white women and leaving BW behind. We didn't get this far in society by going our own separated ways. I still recall in the 80's how white's you to feel about blacks and spanish people. That wasn't to long ago. I,m not going to IR date because it's become the in thing to do. Now I read most of the comments made by BW about past relationship with BM. But ask yourself, would it be fair for me to put down BW as a race because of the few black women I chose to date in my life. BW do not like being compare to another women, so what make you think I as a black man I like being compare to the idots you chosen to let in your life, let alone a white man with all the negative history between our races. BW are so quick to say WM treat us better, they know how to be fathers to their son because they had real fathers in their lives, thier more mature. comments like that hurt. I dont't care how strong you are as a BM, we still have feelings. Maybe that why these black college athlets as they get drafted by the nfl, or nba goes towards white women. BW say so many negative things when we are strugling, so when we make it big why should I be with a BW. If your making more than me then in your mind your carry me. well if I make more than you should I look at it the same way. Should I waste my time with a black women who's not makeing the same or more? Food for thoughts. I will not date outside my race because I hear how black women feel, but i will not date a black women who have been with white men. I will save myself for that black women who wants a black man, and a black man only. Good luck with your relationships, and espacialy to black men and women wanting to find black love which is disapearing. As the late johnny bristol said in one of his songs " hang on in there baby, hang on in there in darling, I going to give you more than you every dream possible."

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  19.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    It's been a while but I'm back as if anyone miss me because i don't agree with everyone on this site about IR dating. Like many BW i've been in bad relationship but, unlike BW I dont sterotype all BW for the idots I gotting involved with. It is so unfair to judge every BW to the one I,ve dated. I say this because after reading the comments posted by many black women. This seem to be your reason to date WM. SAD! The other day my 12 year old baby girl and I was watching tv and she said to me , Why are black men lazy? She couldn't imagin the shock waves that her comment sent through me. I said where did you hear that from. She replied that her best friend mother said that, and that WM treat BW better. Now this is the bullshit I have to put up with despite the example I try to be for her. I go to work everyday, I keep a clean home, I cook, and i spend time quality time with my daughter. Now am I wrong to not let my daughter go over to her best friend house because of her preduice mother comments against BM. This is why I dont care for BW dating WM, because as I stated earlier I dont sterotype all BW for the idots I'v gotting involved with un like BW. The other day I went on a date. Everything went fine. Found out that this women dates WM. I express my view points towards this topic and told her I no longer wanted to date her because of this. Now this may be hard for black women to except but, you have to reason that one day you might meet that black man with his shit together and because of your past dealing with WM some black Men will not date you. I have to come in second place towards WM in work world, and now black women. And I could deal with that. But I will not be second place with my own race of women dating white men. That's where I draw the line. So being that this is the way the world is going ,I guess I'll be single and take care of my daughter. As of today this is one black man that is through with black women.

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  20.   Bellara says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 10

    when they post videos like these i'd be glad if they distinguish certain things. when they said black (in this case) they are obviously referring to African Americans and as an African am not offended or even bothered by it, but i think it'll be nice to title the article African American women on interracial dating because African women have totally different views from A.A women. I am yet to meet an African girl (from my country at least) who has a problem with interracial dating (a little bit of this, a little bit of that is more of our thing ;)

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  21.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 10

    Your right, times are changing. but if everybody jump off a bridge, then i guess i should to. NO. Black women are more educated than they been ever. But when you turn on the tv, what do you see. A very well educated Black women saying " BLACK MEN CANT HANDLE MY SUCCESS, OR BLACK MEN DONT KNOW HOW TO APPROACH ME." BS. I'am well educated, completed college, and doing well for myself. thank GOD. From my expriences dating BW who date WM. BW think there doing you a favor by dating you. I did not come this far in my life to come second place to any man, but especially to WM with BW. I'm a single father, raising a 12 year old daughter by myself. I try to set a strong but loving father figure to my child. And despite what she hears on radio or tv about scorn BW puting down BM, I try to show her better. If you want to date a WM, then go ahead. Just stop sterotyping all BM for the Idoits you've gotting involved with.

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  22.   sureshot says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 10

    i dated a few black women who dated white men, and i have to say it was the wrost experience in my life. black women change when they are with white men. Black men seem to be beneath them now. Its funny how all these black women have the same story about there experience dating black men and when they date somebody white, it's the best thing that ever happen to them. These black women who say i'm open to dating a white man, seem to be close minded to there own race of black men. always ready to put blame on a black man for dating a white man. look in the mirror. take responbility for who you date. maybe you have poor judgement when it come down to dating black men. i'm not even mad at the sister, in fact, i find it funny that you have to defend youselves with the white men that you date. when you defend your actions in life, it's because your guility about what your doing. these white men who date black women always try to make a black man feel like shit, for the way they feel about ir dating. maybe what black people been through with white people , means more to some black than to others.

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  23.   BlackCowboy says:
    Posted: 09 Feb 10

    Hypnatist(small wonder you mis-spelled your nickname you're such a brain-washed buffoon!!!!),you need to stop living in 1970 amongst those murdering scumbags The Nation of Islam and the other black nationalist mountebanks and swindlers and get into the 21st century.(AND I LOVE BUXOM BLONDES!!!!)

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  24.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 08 Feb 10

    hypnatist ; To each / his own . I being an American Citizen feel that as per the Freedom of Choice / We as Americans Need to keep this country Free , Hehe . I am also sure that another site might meet your personal requirements . This is the United States of America / this is a site Designed for people who seek people , if you do knot like being here for the same reason others are . Please do not allow the door to hit you on your Backside as you leave .

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  25.   REALLADY says:
    Posted: 08 Feb 10

    Sad comments above.

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  26.   hypnatist says:
    Posted: 04 Feb 10

    I still prefer black women as a black male in America. I feel the wounds of slavery are still very freash. I will not date or marry white women. I feel blacks, men and women need to stop dating and marrying outside of the balck race. We have been already diluted by the white race, no need to continue the process on our own. I think blacks who do date or marry outside the black race have been brainwashed, or are misguided, or have other ulterior motives. We as a people need to keep the black race black.!!

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  27. Posted: 30 Jan 10

    @ BlackManRising, Bitter black men like you is why I stopped dating black men A LONG TIME AGO. we Black women see IR dating way beyond black and white, you clearly have issues with black women broadening her horizons and thus now dating and marrying out and loving it!

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  28.   misotall says:
    Posted: 21 Jan 10

    OMG I just read your posts Salsera. if you need some help to squash that Pen Dayo please see me after school.

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  29.   Paul says:
    Posted: 11 Jan 10

    I'm a white male and have been married to a beautiful black female for the last 10 years. We have had to deal with hate and it has usually come from insecure black males, not always, but most of the time. This makes us angry, but it almost makes us laugh at their backwardness. We are all individuals and we don't need anyone's approval or permission to love outside of our race.

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  30.   oldschool56 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 09

    @anyone out there, What about those white men on here who see black women as some kind of sexual taboo. Or they see a dominant personality and they ..well frankly want to wear her panties. Or even worse. The late night freaks who get on here and just talk in one word chatter and when you dont respond the way they think you should they get insulting or just sign off in the middle of conversation. I really think they should make it harder for people to join this site then those of us who are sincere wouldnt have too much trouble. Im dreaming I know and probably still stinging from the insults I got the other night from a guy out of Los Angeles who by the way needs a chin replacement, and had the nerve to tell me I was the ugly boring one. Yet he contacted me. It seems there are too many idiots on this site as well and to think I paid my hard earned money for a lifetime?..lol well guess I wont be finding myself in any kind of hurry now.

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  31.   onepeople says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 09

    Racism makes issues of white and black. Not everything is black and/or white. If we remove the issue the answers become more clear. We all live on planet Earth - people of all races. People of all races want to love and to be loved. When we say that love is blind, I think another point of view. I think love helps us to see past all ignorances and to recognize the true essence of a person. I also think that personal choices should be made from the love one has in themselves. I really mean true unconditional love of self. So, what I'm saying as a man of color if a relationship is based off of race then it's not a real-lationship. If its based off of love it is. If a man of lesser color wants to have a real-lationship with a woman of more color and that is the same for the woman than it would very arrongance of me to make negative comments of that real-lationship. Also, what am I doing to myself. I'm allowing the hate of racial history to blind me from the truth of love knows no bounds. I think that most of the comments have very similar tones of racial hatred. So black women dating and marrying white men shouldn't be an issue in this day and age. We're a world with many different races on it. Love doesn't see color but the eyes do. Love sees the spirit the eyes don't. Hate blinds the mind from the spirit so what the eyes see would make us delusional. Love helps us see things that aren't always noticible to fill in the gaps for us to see the truth. The truth is we are all creatures of spirit that want to be loved and to love. Racism only clouds that truth. So people of earth love and let race be only a thing that is seen with phyiscal eyes only. Let our minds see love in spirit and in truth of all creation.

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  32.   shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 16 Nov 09

    Not sure what region you live in rai, but I'm also a black female, born and raised in TN. I don't have this "stereotypical attitude" that the Mass Media, some black men, and others tend to label black women with. Maybe it was how I was raised, I don't know.

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  33.   rai says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 09

    ive read alot of this and this is my opinon which is actually rather simple. For interacial couples if you think your doing something wrong people will most likely lookat you as if your doing something wrong, and for black single women. Lets not lie to ourselves we all have a tude' (attitude) which for some only comes out once in a while, the point is white men or any other race probably have the idea that if they adress us we're going to give them the tude' and reject them. im young and im not even in my twenties yet and i know this, and X i understand where your coming from but it isnt right to punish people for something their ancestors have done

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  34.   swiggie58 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 09

    Oh yeah! To girl6diva, I gotta say: You're right! Brainy girls DO rule!!! Question to some of you ladies. Why did/would you hide your profile? If it is hidden; why have it up at all? Last...one guy accused another of being a "coward" for not posting a photo. I personally haven't had a photo up because I lacked the tech know how; and wasn't in a hurry to meet anyone, anyway. Just looking around; enjoying the scenery....thinking things over. In MY case at least, cowardice has nothing to do with it. I'm about ready to start dating again though; so getting a pic up is approaching priority status.

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  35.   swiggie58 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 09

    I am a middle-aged white guy who absolutely adores black women. I think that they/you ladies are absolutely the sexiest things on earth; much of which stems from a level of emotional and intellectual honesty that a majority of white women just do not seem to possess. But I grew up up in the South; still living here with a lot of communal and family ties; and I know that a majority of these people do no accept interracial dating. These are decent people. They would never be rude to your face or seek to hurt you in any way...But there would be a social backlash. You'd be shunned socially and and talked about "after you left the room", as one young lady put it. I've struggled with this for a while; as I have come, over the past few years, to realize that with very vew exceptions...black women are the ONLY women that I am seriously attracted to. I have seriously considered, once my children are a bit older (don't want to uproot them just now) just moving to another part of the country, or maybe the World...where things are more relaxed and open. (I have other reasons besides women to desire relocating.) But you have to consider family as well. Both of my parents are over 80; and frequently need some help. The thought of moving away just now seems terribly selfish on my part. Just wanted to see what some of ya'll have to say about this.

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  36.   Inez01 says:
    Posted: 09 Oct 09

    I agree with an earlier post about black women not being sure if their interests will be reciprocated. I've had crushes on men of other races for years growing up but was always afraid and told in one way or another that they wouldn't like me because I was black. After dating nothing but black men, I figured it was time for me to indulge in my curiosity finally. I'm hoping for good luck on this site, becasue goodness knows I could use some...lol.

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  37.   Darling2 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 09

    Oh My God...Excuse me for that.What is this post all about? Men and women should date whatever race they feel comfortable with.I know so many African girls married to Asians,Middle east guys,whites and blacks.Many are happy to marry Black men and will not go beyond that.Others love white men and some are either happy in their marriages others unhappy.Those who are happy with Asians sure lets be it.I would only say that a man is man not matter what colour they are absolutely all the same.Most would cheat behind their women back.So what?

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  38.   jsjm says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 09

    To each is it's own.. I am certainly not reluctant to date a white man.. I love white guys! but it doesn't make me or anyone else less their own race because they prefer to date outside their race... All that matters to me is when and if I date you how much respect, honesty, and love will I receive from my relationships. What others think or say is not my concern, I will not be romantically involve with them. so screw them lol

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  39.   Shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 09

    Off the subject...can we all agree that "GLOCK" is the sexiest man alive!!.. :) But seriously speaking and I realize this topic is dead and over, since it started back in March 2009. Part of this whole issue goes back to "mutual connections"..which are colorblind. The reality though, is that in a lot fo cases, racial background does have an impact on who we "selectively" choose to date. Final note,.. I am actually glad to see more black females date outside their race, no one should limit their possibilities. Shotgun007

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  40.   cara says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 09

    To much race issues in America in Europe men will be all over a beautiful black women.Most white American men are cowards and influence by their family and society .I prefer white European men i like a man from Germany and he likes me too i am happy.

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  41.   icis445 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 09

    I would like to agree with the individuals who stated that "Im sure these people havent met all the Black in America". All black women dont have an insecurity or identity problem. I have been raised in a two parent home and grew up very educated. I do agree there are alot of uneducated people of all races, Blacks having one highest percentages. But one cannot assume that "ALL" people of that race fit any stereotype. I can proudly say that i love my skin and my rich culture. I take pride in my heritage as well as education and great family. I'm not coming down on anyone for their opinion to which their entitled. I just want to make it clear their are positive,beautiful, intelligent, open-minded black women out their. So dont be shy. You might run into me!! DONT JUDGE PEOPLE BASED ON SKIN ALONE THIS IS 2009 NOT 1904 CHILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  42.   icis445 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 09

    First of all i would like to say i can appreciate everyone's honesty while reading the posted comments. I too am an african american woman and consider myself blessed and lucky to be born the way that i am. By no means does race or any other superficial aspect determine my love for another human being. And although i don't prefer to date black men the majority of the time its not because i have a predjudice or unrealistic stereotype toward them. Although it may sound a little cleche "WE WERE ALL CREATED EQUAL" And American would be alot better off if they start realizing it. Racism is so ridiculous it doesnt deserve all the attention it recieves. To all the black women out there scared to date outside their race. "Who gives a d** what society or other blacks feel is accepted. Look what the hell others do. And as for men "BLACK OR WHITE" who this subject makes you uncomfortable get over it and dont expect to control everything. I am a beautiful, confident,intelligent individual inside and out. Oh and i just so happen to be black. I have no problem finding men outside my race who are interested. Take this on for size maybe your close-minded views block true love. "All black women are ignorant,trashy, money hungry, insecure" PLEASE!

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  43.   dsims says:
    Posted: 13 Jul 09

    I am a black woman who has dated men who were black, white, asian and etc. My first boyfirend was white and very handsome. I have never dealt with any harrassment other than a very, very, very FEW funny looks from black men (one who was with a white woman) and one elderly white woman. if you can call a glance harrassment which i dont. this is 2009 people its a new day and it's okay so relax! Interracial dating is not rocket science: Either two people like each other or they dont. I just want a good guy who will treat me right, regardless of race. And I am not afriad to hug an asian man or kiss a white boy in public or hold hands etc. I have a bone to pick with SOME of you fellas though: For those of you living in the USA it is bad enough that african american women have put up with so much negative stero types like we only want black men, thugs, or we're all bitter, damaged phyco baby mamas etc. It is NOT encouraging to now be compared to black women from other countries and being told I am not as open minded as them because i'm an american. PLZZZZ; I seriously doubt you fellas talked to every black woman in america and that is simply not a true statement. Plus that's like saying "OH i love black women but not american ones because they have too many issues" what am I now a second class black woman? I live in OC and every 9 out of 10 black women i see here is with a white, asian, or hispanic man. I am not kidding interracial couples are big here, and black women in american ARE dating out side their race. just because it not TELEVISED in the media, and some black women claim black man only doesnt mean ALL OR MAJORITY feel the same way. So stop saying that. We are not ALL closed minded damaged women. We're good people who like to laugh and enjoy ourselves just like any other person. Bottom line is if you find us attractive, dont allow that lie to keep you from approaching us. so the next time that thought comes into your head, ignore it and go talk to that sista who smiled at you from across the room. Chances are, SHE LIKES YOU and WANTS TO TALK TO YOU I know that CA is more liberal than some other states but that is what i see going on around me.

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  44.   Balance38 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 09

    White men who share the thought process as" Mossimo "are not the type of white men that black women should even consider to date or have a lasting relationship with.As in dating anyone despite his/her race you should always consider their agenda/motive. Mossimo wording clearly indicates that although he may be attractive to black women, his emotional avaiblity is limited in having a postive(healthy) relationship with one.In fact,he would only damage their self-esteem.White men such as "Glock" are emotional avaiblable for black women.I suggested that "Mossimo" read research material, and he can start with the white author"Adam White" and become more "knowledgeable" which indicates his lack cultural diverse, but do indicate his bias and ignorance to society as a whole. For the sister who are intrested in dating white men please....... read Adam White book "The Interracial Dating Book For Black Women Who Want To Date White Men." He also wrote a book for White Men who are Intrested in dating black women.There are alot of proproganda out there but if you want to base things on facts.... READ, AND RESEARCH..... Have a postive week............

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  45.   susie1011 says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 09

    I believe that when people stop worrying about what other people think about interracial dating then they will be a lot happier. You need to be fearless and stand up for what you want and desire. I think a lot of time is spent overanalysing situations; concepts and history. Enough with the history; psychology and sociology books, which were designed just to stir up debate and create categories--stand up for yourself and the person you fall in love with irrespective of race. It s outrageous that in this day and age people are still scared to date whoever they are attracted to because of their fear. Tragic. On a personal level, I have dated the most gorgeous sweetest kindest intelligent men who have been white.Dating white men is a personal choice--i have always fancied white boys since my first crush at 7. They have always fancied me too--i got chatted up by white men more times than i had ever been chatted up by black men.Some of you females from the states will go on about skin tone but i am not light skinned and neither do i wear a weave. If your interested then make eye contact, when a man smiles at you smile back! The same rules apply. Where an earth do black women get the idea a white man is a walkover?If you want to date interracially just because all the black men you ve dated have cheated on you then your doing it for the wrong reason, because white men cheat too! I fancy white men-end of! I do not need to explain myself to anybody or anything. Besides, if you all are scared what on earth are you doing on an interracial dating site! Lose your hang ups; fears; despairs; prejudices and focus on learning to love; to meet that person that you will and can love without shame!

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  46.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 09

    To Toyotacamry: OMG! your comment is so very funny. That is crazy!. Do you really believe that? woww! I think a good white man who's a cutie pie and God fearing is better than the finest black man in my case, who can treat a black women like crap and are together for the soul purpose because they are of the same race.Every body black probably should not be together for the sake of the same racial type if it's going to be a bad joke and bad treatment. And on that note, everybody white applys to the same thing. Love is colorless if it comes from God. Love, is love plain and simple...

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  47.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 09

    To Briteyes227: I was just like you, worried about my loyalty to the black community and the stares and talk when you leave the room.I too am a newbie to the interrace thing like yourself..lol. But? seriously I prefer good treatment and respect.If a black man is not going to do that, than I am to find love, respect and consistencty from a child of God, regardless of his color. I want something new and good for me this time around. I love, love. God Blessings on your search for love..

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  48.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 09

    Black women have probably always glanced at other men of other colors. But the thing in the black community is that a black women must uphold the family even if her man is going other places to find love. I found myself to the point at this late stage in my life, to say I don't give a blank what anyone thinks about my personal choice.I realize taking this interrace thing very serious, simply to finding joy and love and really good treatment. If black men can date outside than why can't I?.I am not betraying my people no more than the sterotype that he is too. I like what I like period!!!

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  49.   Calla_Llla says:
    Posted: 23 May 09

    I ill date a man because he's kind and considerate and compassionate and treats me well. The truth of the matter is there are different types of people wrapped in diferent skin tones. I find that Black men are less accepting of blacks of other races and have this rigid, pre-conceived notion of what it means to be black. I once had a man I thought was in love with me (a black man) call me an Oreo. I like what I like (back to my first statement). It has nothing to do with color. All I want is a man who will love me and receive the love I give.

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  50.   TOYOTACAMRY says:
    Posted: 04 May 09

    the ugliest black woman is 300% better looking than the ugliest white woman. At least they have titties and ass

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