Is interracial sex better than sex with someone within your own race?
The other day, I google searched interracial sex… all I got was a massive array of porn sites (what was I expecting anyway?). Well I was hoping to get some insights on the above topic.
Have you ever had sex with someone outside your race? Would you be interested in having sex with someone of another race? Is interracial sex a taboo to you? This is a very controversial topic. “Why the hell would someone prefer to have interracial sex?� most people may ask.
The truth of the matter is that the US is a culture obsessed with interracial sex – both positively and negatively. Going by the history of the slave era white people spoke with repulsion about interracial sex - even though many white men were constantly having sex with black women. In this “colorblind era�, people are still obsessed with interracial sex.
According to a poll done on idcdating blog, majority (67%) of the people that participated in the poll said interracial sex is better than sex with someone within their own race and 15% said it wasn’t better. The rest either never had interracial sex or same race sex.
Adult sex dating among interracial singles is much in practice especially among liberal communities and long-term relationships or matrimony is quiet popular. With the internet being a general platform that brings all types of people, cultures and societies together, we need not emphasize the kind of catalyst it is for those interested in interracial dating and sex… it is a well-known fact.
Most people may decide to try out interracial sex just for the kick of it or out of curiosity. This has brought about statements like “once you go black you never go back� among many others. Given the sexualization and stereotypes surrounding interracial sex, we find most people… especially in their teenage and college life engaging in interracial sex just to prove and disprove such statements.
Most people may not publicly say “interracial sex is: bizarre, disgusting, exciting, adventurous, morally repugnant,� and so on. But when people get behind closed doors with their family and friends comments like “That black dude must have really been packing some heat below the belt. Why else would those white women be interested in him� or “Only white women with no self esteem will get with a guy like that.� When they go online to search for interracial porn, they are thinking it… and don’t get me started people expressing their thoughts with by leaving anonymous comments on blogs.
So what is wrong with enjoying sex with a person of other race?
For some reason, people think interracial sex is exotic and daring… especially when it involves Black men and white women and Asian women and white men. It’s almost like people believe that race is correlated with penis size and a person’s level of sexual desire. But are people who engage in interracial sex are deviant, rebellious, daring, gross, odd, oversexed, and ugly as most people believe?
If you’ve had interracial sex already, how good or bad were the encounters? Is it possible that they had everything to do with the guys’ or ladies’ performances, and not the person’s races?
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September 29th, 2007 at 2:31 pm
I am a black woman and my boyfriend of two years is white. For me, it was a breath of fresh air. Now, I’m hopelessly attracted to blond hair and blue eyes! I have been married and divorced twice from black men. I find that sex with Jay is better not just because of perofrmance, but because he treats me with such sensitivity and respect during the natural course of the day. He view it as a PRIVILEGE to be with me. Are you serious!? Blacks guys assume that it’s YOUR privilege to be with THEM!! When it finally comes around to sex, I’m willing to give him whatever he wants. My exes didn’t pay attention to me until they wanted sex, which didn’t put me in the mood at all!! He’s more nurturing and caring and that makes sex even better!! If any guy can master the art of making your mate happy, then they’d all be sexual dynamos regardless of race. I must admit not being the “normal” American couple is a turn on. We get looks when we’re together in public and that makes us want each other even more (Bonnie & Clyde). Not to mention, with him I found out that I have MULTIPLE orgasms!! I’d say I’m quite happy!!!!!
September 29th, 2007 at 7:06 pm
And girl dont i agree with you.I feel you. Though i must say not all black guys are like that. The few i did date, did pay much attention to me when they knew they would want some some later. otherwise was forever with the boys, not spending time with me, and once when i was going through the painful heartache of a miscarriage, 2 days later still depressed over the whole situation, I needed to talk to him about it and the response I got was “I will get very angry if you bring that up again”. Not that i had said anything before. I found a listening ear from someone who had been a long time friend who is white. And we did hook up eventually and still together
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The brothers need to be more sensitive emotionally and in every aspect.
September 30th, 2007 at 1:27 am
I agree with jayzgurl. I’ve dated and preferred white men for a very long time. I can’t see me dating anyone else but the sex is always great. It seems like they are in another league and put more effort into pleasing me than pleasing themselves first. If I am wrong, then Black Men, step up! There’s alot of respect and responsibility there when white men perform. I guess it’s the way they are. I love it and want them to keep up the good work!
September 30th, 2007 at 2:40 pm
Just to toss my two cents worth in here in regards to the responses so far, is that you are speaking of characteristics of these individual men. I have plenty of white lady friends that have the exact same complaints about the white guys that they have had sex with. I would say that in general, the majority of men (and this has been substantiated through conversations with many ladies) is that most men are in it for themselves, Black or White.
For me, I have a natural attraction to Black ladies, so that sex with a Black lady has the added attraction level there which just by its own nature makes for more enjoyable sex, but there is nothing that I have found that is inherent in the physiology of Black or White that makes it better… It all comes down to if that person turns you on.
September 30th, 2007 at 10:13 pm
HELLO THERE…I AM A BLACK MALE FROM THE ISLANDS. I`VE BEEN AROUND AND FOR ME PERSONALLY, RACE DOES NOT DETERMINE THE QUALITY NOR STANDARD OF SEX. I`VE HAD GREAT SEXUAL PARTNERS WHO WERE BLACK, WHITE, INDIAN AND AMERIANDIAN, ALSO TERRIBLE LOVERS FROM THOSE SAME GROUPS ALSO. IT ALL HAS TO DO WITH WHAT YOU DESIRE, WANT, NEED,LIKE, DISLIKE ETC. SO TO SAY THAT SEX WITH BLACK MEN/WOMEN IS BETTER THAN SEX WITH WHITE MEN/WOMEN OR VISE VERSA, IS UNFAIR TO BOTH RACES. I LIVE IN SWEDEN AND MY OBSERVATIONS ARE THAT THE AVERAGE WHITE GIRL/WOMAN, TENDS TO BE MORE OPENMINDED ABOUT SEX AND WILLING TO TRY NEW, WHEN COMPARED TO THE AVERAGE ISLAND WOMAN WHO IS NOT. THESE DIFFERENCES ARE CULTURAL AND PERSONAL AND DEFINITLY NOT RACIAL MOIVATED, THE WAY I`VE SEEN IT. I THINK WE SHOULD ALL BE JUST HAVING AND ENJOYING GREAT SEX WITH OUR PARTNERS, REGUARDLESS OF RACE, SKIN COLOUR AND/OR NATIONALITY.
October 1st, 2007 at 1:52 am
To this day I cannot say what particular ‘thing’ attracts me to white men but to say that there’s always been ‘chemistry’ there. I don’t find the love making different, it just depends on the sensitivity & style of the man. If you’re turned on by your partner, the sex is going to be explosive no matter who they are!! It just so happens that my boyfriends/lovers have mainly been white. I DON’T REGRET A MOMENT OF PASSION W/ANY OF THEM!! I have noticed that there are cultural ‘taboos’ that make love making different at times. White men & black men can be just as freaky, timid, experimental, aggressive & wild as anyone! So, if you’re w/a person who ‘TAKES YOU THERE’….WE THEIR A.. OUT!!! Here’s to healthy & happy sex EVERYWHERE!!!
October 1st, 2007 at 10:28 pm
Personally, i don’t see a difference between blk love and er…wht love. If anything, i would say that it is asthetically pleasing to the eyes. For example, when the fingers are intertwined, the bodies are meshed together and you both are trying to please each other; it is a freaking turn on
Also, having a mirror in the room doesnt hurt either,(lol)I had a short term fling with a well endowed Polish man last spring;it lasted for 3mths. I guess you could call him my “spring fling.” At one of our many love makings, he started speaking in his native tongue. Of course i had no idea what he was saying, but it made me feel good, because i guess i was laying it on him good. BIG LOL!!!!
ps. he gives great full body massages after every session!!!!!!!!!, now beat that with a bat or a polish sausage, LOL.
October 10th, 2007 at 3:55 pm
I know that most of my life I have been attracted to Black men, it is not just a sexual attraction, but something much deeper..if I could put into words it would be SIMPATICO…it just feels right. Black men are such sensual beings, and in my eyes they know how to make you feel like a desired woman.
November 2nd, 2007 at 4:29 pm
I’VE ALWAYS HAD BETTER SEX WITH AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN AND FOR ME THE CONTRAST OF OUR SKIN TONES WHILE ENGAGED IN INTERCOURSE IS A REAL STIMULANTE…..
November 4th, 2007 at 7:58 pm
I personally have always dated black men and have never been with a white man, but I cannot imagine that the color of ones skin can determine the quality of ones sexual experience. Yes true may be that the color difference may be intriguing but does not affect the quality. Sensuality, passion, and romance come from within the heart not the skin color.
November 5th, 2007 at 7:19 pm
I agree with muscles4u the colors make me horny as hell when there laying aginst on another! I’m a latina “CUBAN” and you I have had problems with black men okay I have not ever had a problem with a white guy preforming oral sex on me,and most black you might as well forget it but thay alway want you to preform on them I can stan it but the most romantic guys ladies are the white and the Hispanic trust me I’m not a whore but I’v dated a lot of guys and the race of guys that I’ll always stick with is white and hispanic.
November 6th, 2007 at 8:06 am
I believe that interracial sex is better because the partners BOTH have a desire for someone of a different race. It enhances the experience. We all have our own personal reasons, turn ons and fetishes. Some of those are valid and some are just fantasies, but those reasons get validated when we couple with another person with similar desires. Then the experience is heightened. I’m a white male with a strong attraction for black women in general. I love the contrast in skin color. Yes, it’s definitely a big turn on for me when making love to a black woman. I think the mutual desire to please each other makes it a very powerful experience. I’ve discovered the “good stuff” and I’m not going back.
November 6th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
well as a white male i have only dated black women all my life. it nothing personnal white women have just never caught my eye.im been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now and this is her first interracial relationship. she tells me as well as her friends that the communication is better and the attention she needs is always there. she told me she never been happier in her life and i plan on keeping it that way
November 12th, 2007 at 11:27 am
Am with Jim; am not going back either LOL!!!!
November 15th, 2007 at 4:29 pm
Hey guys and gals, what’s all the argument about?
Ok, let’s be fair, I am African, from east africa. and I have lived in different places, had sex with almost all races, and though I can never claim to be an authority there, I will agree with some and not others.
Black sisters, you tend to go for white guys, really, and I’m glad the sex is better for some there. Brothers, you too tend to levitate towards them white sweeties, and true, the open-ness and liberal attitude is a great turn-on too!
Plainly, sex is in the mind, if yours is looped out, you might never find out what you wanted to begin with!
All the same, we brothers need to be more sensitive to our ladies’ needs. Communication is vital to a woman, black or white, and all in between, and white dudes are much better there than most of us. Also the preludes, (fore-play), hey, she’s ain’t a bike to jump on and ride!!!
Well, personally, the best sex also proved to be most scaring, I mean, when the lady wanted to kind of maul and digest me! And I have had it from across the divide, ask them that’s had me, I am a catch, lol, see ya people.
December 17th, 2007 at 8:32 pm
Wow,
What one thinks can go a long way. If you’re black and your mate is white and of course vise vers and you want to think sex is gonna be better it will be just based on the limits your mind has set. But I keep going back to this thought that is broder then most can comperhend when you love someone really really love someone no matter the color or nationality the sex will always be great but you have to love yourself first then that person as you would yourself then the sex will be exquisite but this is the real clincher sex will not be the most dominate thing about the relationship its being in sinc in spirit with the person loving that peson for who they are not for the fantasey of sex w/someone outside my culture. Your love in your affections will show outside the bedroom.
December 22nd, 2007 at 3:36 pm
I am an Asian Man, I think having sex with different race is different feeling. It all depends on your feeling, attachment, attraction to that person, whether she is wife, asian, hispanic, or black.
I personally attracted to White and Hispanic woman. They are sofer, more body structure. But, I also enjoy my own race. I never put down of my race because it is my element. But, just like going to Outback Steak, chilli, or Chinese restaurant is different for each experience. You cannot put a taste to it whether which one is better than the other assump all of them are the same level.
It is all your mindset. I go to club, I dance and go after girls people never thought of as an Asian man. I am aggressive, use the same tactic as the White or Black. There isn’t any different except people generally think Asian man is not powerful. But, when I get to them w/ them. I rock them like hell and give them a good time. It is your mindset that controls your emotion, physical, motive, etc. I would not be anything less than anyone. I have good self esteem.
January 1st, 2008 at 2:57 am
SOOOO I have been talking to this one white guy for about a month or so. He is very smart down to earth and I find him very attractive. I personally have never had sex or dated a white guy, not b/c I dont want to but it seems as though they are too shy to approach me. The opportunity has never presented itself. (By the way I am African American), So finally he and I went out on a “date”, hung out and discovered we had lots in common. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex that night. I was soo turned on by his blue eyes, dirty blonde hair, the contrast of our skins on top of eachother it was great. He took his time, had lots of foreplay before and he got the job done. We are still “dating”, and it has been a wonderful experiance. He made sure that I was pleased before pleasing himself and for that I had a wonderful experiance. Not to put my brothers down but, AA MEN you gotta start taking your time and asking us what we like.
March 1st, 2008 at 6:47 pm
I find that sex is best between two people who are in tune with each other. Having had relationships with men from both sides. One thing is for sure, we have to lose the myth that white men can’t handle black women some sure can.
March 4th, 2008 at 6:35 pm
This is stupid .. Sex is Sex whomever you are having it with. You people are brainwashed into believing a myth and this is why this world is messed up because of stupid fools like you…
I wish you all could go to a island of stupidity were you all can live free and be dumb fools…
April 8th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Been coloring outside the lines since high school. You don’t have sex with a race or culture - although it does play a role, but it’s all in your mind. It’s the - umm - interaction between you two(or whatever the number
that makes sex good or really good.
No such thing as bad sex.
April 22nd, 2008 at 10:24 am
Most black chicks I’ve been with say that me being white doesn’t matter. However,I know that I prefer them being black. I like the whole ‘ebony and ivory’ thing I guess. The contrast of our skin together is sexy imho. I’ve heard them say that white guys are more romantic though, and they probably like the fact that we are a tad more refined and sophistacated than many of our African American counterparts (no sagging pants here).
Are black chicks better in bed? From my experience, yes. They typically have better bodies than white women. And think about it….have you ever seen how well black chicks gyrate their hips and booty when they dance? Well they also do that well in the bedroom. White women can’t seem to do that for some reason. And those lips on black women…man, what a gift to men. White girls for the most part have “muppet mouths”, no lips.
The way I picture it is that God made the perfect sexual specimen in black women. Then he sucked out all the shape, color, and flavor and what was left is white women. LOL
May 30th, 2008 at 3:12 am
I have found that sex with White women has been better than sex with Black women. They are more open sexually and seem to really enjoy it more passionately.
White women don’t worry about silly things, like whether or not you’ve messed up their hair. Also, they tend to be much better at oral sex than Black women, who tend to be too uptight when performing it. And while a Black woman may be better at being rhythmic during sex, if you train a White woman to do the same, there is nothing in the world like it! Or maybe it’s the black male sex organ that gets her so worked up.
June 7th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
I was married for 24 years to a white guy I am also white. For the last 4 years a dear friend now my boyfriend, my lover and my best friend kept telling me, I was worth more than the abuse I was getting at home. Finally he asked me out, just for a quiet dinner and nothing else. I asked for a divorce the next day. I dated him not because he is black, but because he saved me. He dates me because I am worth saving. We both agree that we have the best sex together. Were not sure if our race has anything to do with it. We just know that together we are happy. In April I was in a car accident my car rolled over on the highway and landed in a swamp. He called me about 30 seconds after the crash, he said he could feel I needed him. His car hit an elk on a highway last night about 11:00pm I wake up out of a sound sleep and called him. Sometimes you are connected by race, being phyically attracted to someone and sometimes you are connected with your soul.
June 28th, 2008 at 11:20 pm
I will say different, but different doesn’t constitute better. Sister have shapes that I think only can be described as a blessing. White women have very soft palms which does make for some great things. Latina’s have shapes similiar to sisters with a little more fire. Asians are perfectly petite. All have great characterisics , but none more so better than the others. When you merge emotions,attractiveness, . I wll say though that jet black skin is and Aphrodisiac
July 23rd, 2008 at 3:33 am
Sex is sex regardless of who you have it with. Some men have the patience needed to explore what turns a woman on and some couldn’t care less.
August 3rd, 2008 at 6:10 am
Wow, this is an interesting blog. Perhaps some of you were lucky enough to chose a great partner and because he/she was another color, you made a blanket statement and said all black women are….or all white guys are….
I have had awful, I mean awful sex with black and white men. And, I have had great sex with black men. The white man I am with now, I have the greatest sex with. You know why? Not because he’s white, but because he is gentle, passionate, and attends to my needs before his own. Could I have found a black guy who does the same? Maybe so. But I’m not going to make a blanket statement and say that white men have the best love making skills….it’s just the man who I have had the best sex ever in my entire life happens to be white.
Thanks NaturalNana for making this sex issue clear.