Do White women approach Black men better than Black women do? One thing that most people believe is that white women are more aggressive when it comes to letting a man know they’re interested. How is this so?
Apparently, white women have perfected the art of making the first move. Remember Big Mamas and how they taught younger generations of Black women that it’s unladylike to go after a man? Correct me if I am wrong… White women don’t have Big Mamas so they are like baracudas when it some to getting their man. The thing with white women is that when they think they like some guy, no time is wasted. She will be all up in his face, to get his attention.
Well, I find it to be a major turn on when a woman leaves the guesswork out of who likes who. On the other hand when a Black woman likes a dude, she telepathically sends him a message (you know how we men are pathetic with reading-between-the-lines kind of messages… we almost never get them).
Most Black men I have had the chance to talk to say that when they talk to a White woman, in the first five minutes, they can tell that she’s looking for a man and if she’s interested in him. But when a brother talks to a Black woman, in the first five minutes he discovers that she’s looking for a certain kind of man. Get the difference?
I must admit that we all have standards we have to live up to. Much as there are white women that have a rep of scouting out talented black athletes, there are some White women who give a Black man a chance that Black women wouldn’t give a second look. How many times have you seen an interracial couple walking hand in hand and you said. “She can have him”?
Most of my Black female friends don’t like the sight of a good looking brother at a club with a White woman. So why this obsession with the outwards as opposed to the inside? Its important when at a social gathering, to have a good time and take the initiative to meet two new people before they go home. Black guys do it. White girls definitely do it.
Much as Big mama said it aint right, that shouldn’t hold us back from being polite to someone new, even when we’re not interested. You never know, that person could later introduce you to someone who may introduce you to another someone. And just coz you have made the first move doesn’t make you a slut. It shows confidence and how you got your sh** together.
I think one thing we all have to realize is that love is out there. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Stop looking for the picture perfect dude. White women are not out to swipe the whole entire community of Black men. Maybe they are just looking for love in all the right places. Enough with the judging. Don’t let love pass you right under your nose. Who knows, I could be your Mr. Right. 
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Comment by silvertop on 25 October 2007:
I found the article to have some valid points on the teaching or conditioning of approaching a man. I do agree if there is a person male or female which catches your eye move forward. There are so many things in life we let pass by because of fear. Fear is no more than false evident appearing real!!!
Comment by John Lindsay on 29 October 2007:
Why are nearly all the forum questions against Blacks?
Two, aren’t there other ethnicities that have problems? Why are nearly all the questions about Blacks and whites?
Comment by John Lindsay on 29 October 2007:
“Most of my Black female friends don’t like the sight of a good looking brother at a club with a White woman.”
JL: How many white women have been written out of their father’s wills because they were dating or married to a Black guy?!
How many white women have been fired because they showed up at the office Christmas party with a Black husband?
And on and on and on?
Comment by Silvertop on 29 October 2007:
I found the questions JL state regarding white women and the backlash they may encounter being with a black male. Is it not fair to say that contrary to the ethnicity; there will be someone within the group that would disapprove or find fault in the relationship? It’s ironic when we spew the words that “love is blind”. It appears to me that some think that Love has color barriers.
Comment by Marketing Bill on 30 October 2007:
As a white male my observation is the real life is 180 degrees from this this article. As a marketing major in college I learned to find out who is buying your product and tailor your marketing campaign to that group.
As a young guy I soon found out that black women were shopping my product not white women. So this information backed up my natural inclination. In other words I like black women because they are more open about who and what they want than white chicks.
Comment by lobbyist on 23 January 2008:
It is unfortunate that we as people are still playing the race game. When we die, the grave will not care what color you are.
As for dating, blacks have been willie lynched in the mind and black women are losing there black men simply because of their attitudes that some body owes them something. They think that because men tell them they are attractive or fine, that men must pay to dine with them. So when another women of a different race looks into the heart of the man that the black woman would give a dime to, she sees what “God” tells her to see.
I love black women and I am a black man, but I don’t like high maintenance black women. Also we as black singles need to become more educted about business and entreprenuerial matters. We are still looking for 40 acres and a dam mule. We need to use the financial laws of the land such as investment laws that allow you to create you own company’s stock and sell it to investors. We need to think prosperity beyond a damm pay check.
Yes you have some terrible whites, hispanics, asians, and Blacks. Until we clean up our own house of racism we should shut the Bleeeeeeeep up. We are killing eachother in the ghetto. We are tripping off hispanics becoming legal immigrantsd in this country.
We must get back to the things of “God.”
We have made money our god, cars, sex, drugs, homosexualtiy, lesbianism and more more.
So if a man is looking for a good women for a wife and she is of another race. My advice them them would be to start with as many interacial self hel books as possible. This allow them both to understand the pros and cons. The best book that I have ever read for couples is “Men are from Mars &n Women are from Venus.” true love is far beyond just sex, its the love of love to your mate from across the room. Its praying for your mate. Its about understanding what she really means when she says, “fine, nothing, five minutes, or its okay.” This takes learning and humbling.
And if we as black men and women would do more of the above, esp. returning back to “God,”, “God” will provide us with what “He” knows we need.
Peace
Comment by John L on 23 January 2008:
lobbyist: “but I don’t like high maintenance black women”
John L: Hmmmmm. Puhleeze.
I find that very laughable…because the ONLY Black men most white women will even look at twice…are the ones they perceive to be making big money: professional athletes, actors, and white-collar employees/professionals.
Comment by John L on 24 January 2008:
lobbyist: Also we as black singles need to become more educted about business and entreprenuerial matters. We need to use the financial laws of the land such as investment laws that allow you to create you own company’s stock and sell it to investors. We need to think prosperity beyond a damm pay check.
JL: Members of ALL groups could stand to learn something about financial literacy.
Why don’t you go to financial expert Dave Ramsey’s website and learn how *you* could get a grant from his organization to teach such classes in your community?!
If the rent-to-own and payday loan businesses had only Blacks to rely on, they would have closed down a long time ago.
How many white lottery winners are broke…waiting for that next installment check to arrive?!
lobbyist: Yes you have some terrible whites, hispanics, asians, and Blacks. Until we clean up our own house of racism we should shut the Bleeeeeeeep up. We are killing eachother in the ghetto.
JL: People are not killing each other in the ghetto because “the killers think they’re biologically superior to their victims.” That would be racism.
lobbyist: So if a man is looking for a good women for a wife and she is of another race. My advice them them would be to start with as many interacial self hel books as possible. This allow them both to understand the pros and cons. The best book that I have ever read for couples is “Men are from Mars &n Women are from Venus.”
JL: That book targets white couples. It is NOT multicultural.
Couples of Color have many, many issues to contend with that white couples don’t…NOT to mention inter-ethnic couples.
But I would agree with the “inter-ethnic self help books” and better yet, seek out such couples, form a club, a discussion group to learn from one another.
lobbyists: true love is far beyond just sex,
JL: Agreed.
lobbyist: And if we as black men and women would do more of the above, esp. returning back to “God,”, “God” will provide us with what “He” knows we need.
JL: Surely you jest.
Comment by cajuncreole on 15 August 2008:
Even the title of this post surprised me. I always thought white people (both women and men) were in general much more shy and that black men in particular tended to be much more bold about hitting on women of all races. (I actually thought the reason so many white women dated black men was because white men just took too long to ask them out and didn’t have a very “fast game” but my idea is probably outdated and now apparently a lot of white women are a bunch of baracudas.) Will wonders never cease.
Comment by John L on 26 August 2008:
One of the primary problems with this question is the assumption that “all Black men & women” and “all white women & men” are the same.
I know plenty of people of either group of genders/political labels that are not like the question alleges.
Another key area ignored is “non-verbal forms of flirting.”
Comment by John L on 26 August 2008:
One of the primary problems with this question is the assumption that “all Black men & women” and “all white women & men” are the same.
I know plenty of people of either group of genders/political labels that are not like the question alleges.
Do white women or Black women of every socio-economic class have the same approach?!
Another key area ignored is “non-verbal forms of flirting.”