Mutual Satisfaction

Posted by Leticia, 04 May 12

We all want great sex, right? First off, it feels fantastic. But that’s not all—a healthy sex life contributes to a person’s emotional and physical well-being. Studies show that sex relieves stress, burns calories (about 200 per sheets session), strengthens the immune system and slows the aging process. The American Medical Association found that "firing the torpedoes" on a regular basis reduces men’s risk of prostate cancer. But it’s not just guys who benefit from boinking. Sex alleviates pain from menstrual cramps and arthritis. It even helps to prevent breast cancer and osteoporosis.

While sex is often compared to pizza—even when it’s bad, it’s good—the dual climax or "mutual O" is the most fulfilling finish in the love game. It’s the sexual equivalent of a perfectly executed alley-oop pass! Done right, you and your partner will want to high-five afterwards.

For advice on achieving sexual synchronicity, we turned to Dr. Jennifer Jones, clinical psychologist, sex therapist and relationships expert. She believes that great sex starts before the sweat. "Sex really means any kind of touching that leads to arousal," she says.

That doesn’t mean you should be hooking up with strangers, though. Sure, there might be more animal attraction the first time, but it’s tough to top a sexual encounter between two people who know just what it takes to stimulate each other’s minds and bodies. The best sex is between loving partners in long-term relationships. To keep things spicy, take the opportunity to experiment together and expand your sexual comfort zones.

So why aren’t most couples having great sex already? We don’t need a doctor to tell us the trickiest part of the sexual slam-dunk—ladies take longer to climax and getting them there is a personal process. Fortunately, Dr. Jennifer has good advice for men making the attempt. "Every woman is different, so let her lead you in terms of what works for her,” she says. “Know her anatomy and let her educate you!"

For a step-by-step guide to getting off with your partner, Dr. Jennifer’s two-minute video "5 Tips for a Mutual Orgasm" is must viewing! Check it out:

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What do YOU think is the secret to mutually satisfying sex?

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  1.   Nordicia says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 12

    This is so so vital, just being able to connect with your partner on a "emotional high." As stated before a lot of relationships fail because of intimacy, not just simple communication, which often times is the stated reason for such failures. As partners we really need to learn what makes our lovers satisfied while relishing for more and more. Men can be so selfish in the bed room, and I have a sexual desire that is so insatiable thus I need a panther who will cater to needs while i cater t o his and just climax and leave me there awaiting explosion, smiles.

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  2.   Reesky says:
    Posted: 14 Jun 12

    It's important that men understand a few facts. The first is that women are FAR more sexual than men; men do not have a monopoly on loving sex. Next, most women do NOT receive an orgasm from plain intercourse. If a woman tells you what makes her sexually satisifed, then a man's work is half way done - DUH. My experience has been that men don't take the time to embrace women and the differences between the two. I have known several men whom I have empatically told what I like but did they pleasure me based on that information? No. So, there's something much deeper. It is not all about a woman pleasuring a man - it is about two people receiving sexual satisfaction with one another. I think the "oneupsmanship" gets in the way far too often. I can say, with all honesty, that I'm glad that both sexes have come out of the stone age with regard to sexual pleasures and, with a little more care and attention, men just might one day get it.

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    • Appache says:
      Posted: 16 Jun 12

      Well said ladies, I have noticed this truth. Back in the days, I put in serious work for my x girl any time we make love, I keep going round after round from dusk till dawn, and when we are done, some times I do ask if she is ok, and she will say, yeah. And sometimes when my sexual performance is not up to normal, when I ask she'll still say she's ok. Later i noticed one day, after a long time boinking and boinking, just as I was about to rest she started to crawl gently toward me on the bed and then started to paw me gently gradually crawling untop of me, I my mind I was like damn she wants me dead? after all my effort? Then I remembered, women are slow to arousal, but I was already exhausted, I felt pitty for her, so I started learning by my self how to foreplay with her, licking her beneath her ears, neck, using my teeth tenderly on her nipples and caressing her body, she liked it, but I never asked her how she wants it. Another day we're doing it, and I noticed she was tickling while I was licking her beneath the ear, I asked how she felt about it, she said, thesame way you tickle when reciving a BJ from me, as we continued, she said to me how I wish you will lick it. I was about to, but she refused. What do you ladies advice? Cause I am the kind of guy who likes to see my girl happy always. Please, Sisters say something, don't be secretive, I want the truth, so as to live it. Is it right?

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      • passion0725 says:
        Posted: 05 Sep 13

        It's always important to know a woman's body. For exampe me and my significant other has been together for 5 yrs and still doesn't hve a clue of hat turns me on but seems to do everything right to turn me off which has led me not to be sexually attracted to him. The smallest touches & whispers go a long way. Hell even a passionate hug and kiss will get things started. So it's ok to ask and learn things about your woman. I believe you succeed because it sounds like you have the potential. Just don't give the "basic sex" like my significant other cuz you will be stuck with a sexually frustrated woman in your life. Trust me when you learn and pay attention to her sexual needs you will definitely get more in return not unless she is selfish which it sounds she's not. It takes two to create beautiful magic. Good luck.

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  3. Posted: 07 May 12

    I don't need a D R behind my name to understand what she had to say or would state all of what she said AT THE LEAST if asked for advice. Even more, smh I think A LOT OF SINGLE sisters (and divorced men) are on here because of the lack of getting and or doing/giving what has been said by the Dr. lol OM goodness. It's a bit sad though that this stuff is not common knowledge. Isn't it? Dang. smh. wow

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