How to spot a liar

I’ll call you tomorrow I didn’t sleep with him

You have heard lies like these before. Hell, you’ve probably cooked some tales of your own. We all lie sometimes (and those that claim they don’t are most definitely lying),whether we are telling a tall tale to keep an affair secret or even spinning a white one just for the sake of pleasing your boss at work.

Apparently, people lie in 1 out of 4 conversations. So if everyone is lying, then it means we’re also constantly being lied to. Scary huh?

According to David Lieberman, author of Never Be Lied to Again, “Even the most super liar has his kryptonite, and with the right information, you can find that weak point and spot when you’re being suckered.� So if you want to know whether your boyfriend is cheating or your boss is getting away with murder, here’s how to suss out whether or not your leg is being pulled.

Not everyone exhibits the same physical signs when pulling a fast one. You have to pay attention to nonverbal clues while also noting whether the behavior deviates from what is normal for that person. So keep your eyed peeled for physical reactions when rooting a liar.

If the person you are talking to are talking to engages in fidgety activities (like averting a glance, wringing hands, repeatedly shifting weight from one leg to another or raising voice pitch) the moment a prickly subject comes up, chances are that they are playing Pinocchio – only this time the nose isn’t elongating.

Also when gesturing one always does it simultaneously with what they are saying. So if the suspect slams his fist twice on the table after he or she has driven the point home, don’t be fooled. Lieberman says “A hand signal that lags behind the statement is done purely for effect. He’s making a show of his conviction.�

Another thing is that humans have the tendency of covering their mouths when they lie and Psychologists have no idea why but most suspect it’s a symbolic attempt to cover the contemptuous act somehow.

Inconsistencies in a story already told tips off that you are been played like some cheap old violin. But this isn’t the only verbal slip up. Every little thing one does takes concentration. And this is why your man can’t watch sports on TV and conduct an articulate conversation at the same time. The same holds true for liars. Liars are usually so focused I selling their tall tales that they forget neglect little things like sentence structure, verb tenses and chronology.

Giving the scouts honor is another way to nab the liar. If the suspect starts the sentence with Honestly … or The truth is… forget believing them. This is just someone going overboard trying to convince you of their integrity. And those that answer the question with a question are just buying time.

Suspect your man or woman is being a little less than monogamous? Watch out for the above lie busters.

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