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What she thinks when he comes too soon

Posted by Ria, 12 Sep

sexy.jpgGory details… well, if you are a man, never make the mistake of being near two women discussing it coz trust me, you may never have sex for the rest of your life! Whenever I hear a friend complain that a man got to the finish line before she registered a tingle, it got me thinking… are we being punished… the final payback for what we put men through back in our high school days? Back then, they would have one major hard on, almost tearing a hole through their jeans and we wouldn’t even give them a hand.

So are the tables turned now? Did we girls mind leaving the poor boys with aching equipment that were just about to explode?

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Of course now we mind. It’s freaking frustrating, it’s uncomfortable, its disappointing… I could go on… and on. Well I guess now we know. And contrary to what people believe, women don’t have sex just for the sake of some freaking intimacy. We just tolerate sex with no orgasm because, well, we take deep breaths, let the feeling pass and hope against hope that next time we will get to the finish line together. At least older women take it better than the boys did. And as long as you don’t come too soon too often, we try to deal with it. ;-)

One thing we might do, is complain about it to the girls. But we definitely won’t daydream about doing Tyrese or Taye Diggs for days on end. Wait – we do daydream about them :lol: but trust me, its got nothing to do with a man’s sexual longevity.

But women, do you understand men who won’t offer their fingers to finish the job after enjoying their burst of orgasm? Would it not be proper etiquette in this particular situation? Well maybe the assumption is that the partner will push the hand away and opt for cuddling, but most likely, she will writhe against it in ecstasy.

Well if you go that extra mile just for the sake of fully satisfying your woman guys, you may just benefit in future from your gesture. Don’t they say scratch my itch, I’ll scratch yours? ;-) Think about it.

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  1.   DiAnteMama says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 09

    LOL. This was a great article. But in all fairness.. Its so much easier for women to have multiple "tingles" lmao. Men only get one and speaking for myself.. I make sure I get at least one.. Most the time more.. HAHA

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  2.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 07

    I am going to read Listeners post over and over again - yaaahoooo!

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  3.   paul says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 07

    hi peeps its true ou get better with age you can control your pc muscles better with practice .you get more matured ie like a vintage wine as you get older lol. every man has expereinced premature ej if they say they havent they are lying . ive learned over the years to come at the same time as my partner theres know better orgasm than that start of shallow then near orgasm full penatration then the crescendo .ps my last partner was 10 years younger she just prefered the older guy coz they new wht they were doing.

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  4.   angellx says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 07

    Can one of u guys (male) .....call me on 0999 0911 ... its an emergency........an i prefer..... coz wheh i get that feeling i want sexual healing, sexual healing is something thats good for me.....and its so good for me an its so good for me my baby just take control...an grab a hold of my body an mind...oh my darling, oh we do it fine...something, something,open up an let me in,i can't wait for you to operate, get up, get up,get up, get up,lets make luv tonite, get up, get up,get up, get up......coz u do it right....an baby i think im capsizing, the waves r rising inside of me...an baby i can't wait much longer....its getting stronger inside of me......i supose this is the part where he prematurely ejaculates an that just f@@king well pisses me right off....;-)...xx

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  5.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 07

    Yah Jeff I too like that song.

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  6.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 07

    Moss, the party not over yet.Come on and join in.

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  7.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 07

    Moss, better to come late than not at all :)

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  8.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 07

    Looks like I came too late. This party is already over....

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  9.   fala says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 07

    I guess I missed something Laugh_Sailor.

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  10.   Jimmy says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 07

    Interesting subject... as a young man just entering my teens, i had experienced this problem myself. i personally believe the problem comes from lack of experience. as i got older, and began to travel around and have more encounters (especially with older, more experienced women), eventually i learned to control the stimulation and sensations in my cock. i also came to realize that when i would bringing my partner to orgasm, it was a HUGE turn on for me! to hear, see, and feel a woman in the throws of extacy only made my orgasm more intense, and in turn, made it more satisfying for us both. and let me tell you, if i left my woman happy, i learned pretty quickly, that translated to a happy me in more places than just the bedroom (or wherever...)! i love being in control during love making, toying, teasing, and then bringing her to to "the finish line" as it's been stated here... but here's where another problem (that might be better discussed on another blog) sometimes rears it's ugly head... i've actually experienced women who can (or only want to) come once... nothing's worse than having to "do it for yourself" while a woman lays there waiting for you to finish. and i agree that it's sometimes hard to time your orgasms to happen together (the same control that prolongs you can also leave you limp if you're not on your game), so i have come to seek out and appreciate women who come quickly, easily, and often.

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  11.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    lol@Jeff that is my favorite song.

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  12.   Jeff says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    In the midnight hour, she cried more...more...more! With a rebel yell, she cried more...more...more!

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  13.   Jeff says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    In our ultra competitive and aggressive (American) culture it could be advantagous to overcome (no pun intended) potential views of sex as a performance effort and more so as an expression of affection, regarding its application in committed relationships. Fine if the idea is just getting laid-less so if emotional involvement is present. Still, ya want ta make her 'appy, thar yew studs.

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  14.   fala says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    Good point Angellx.

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  15.   angellx says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 07

    coco......dont change your name babe.....xx Laugh_Sailor an Forest.....life is like a box of chocolates .......and thats all i got to say about that!!!!

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  16.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 07

    You're right, Fala and that's not the point - Please re-read the last two paragraphs Ria wrote. Play and laughter rock, too.

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  17.   fala says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 07

    Sorry Laugh_Sailor but premature ejaculation has nothing to do with the quality of the man. It happens to most men at one time or another. At least us girls can laugh about it and not write the guy off as a loser.

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  18.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    Well said Laugh_Sailor.Thanks for point out what most of us ladies miss in choosing a lover.

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  19.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    Oh yeah...you can stop laughing now Angel!

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  20.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    Y'ALL KNOW YOU ARE NOT RIGHT! I did laugh tho...LOL! What's life if you can't laugh at yourself :) I do think a name change is in order... HA HA HA HA HA!

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  21.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    *Sigh.* Another facet of immaturity. If you have this problem, ladies, stop dating jerks! It's really that simple. Jerks are initially exciting for a number of surface qualities but even skin-deep, as we've seen here, they can get old, really fast. If you look for a man who is fundamentlally sensual, passionate, giving, open-minded, honest and mature, you'll find a great lover. I've found the best lovers are those who are focused on creatively, joyfully pleasing their mate and are quite open about discussing any aspect of sex. You ladies are supposed to excel at choosing a man for qualities other than looks, so apply those skills to choosing him as a lover!

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  22.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    Darklicious, Very frustrating...indeed. Sorry your sweet honey-bunny went sour due to the liquor. Glad you got a chance to experience what others only dream about.

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  23.   Darklicious says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    I was involved with this man for about 10 years and he is 10 years older than me. I wasn't prepared for what this man could put on me but boy was I thankful. when I was younger and married my husband always would come too soon and I was always left hanging.This was very frustrating for me as he was the only man that taught me about sex and getting yours, the guys use to say that which meant coming.I was 41 years old when I met this guy and that made him 51 but he didn't make love like a 51 year old and this continued up until he was 61 and I 51 and he is still hanging in there but not with me because he stated to drink too much.

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  24.   fala says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 07

    Lmao@Jade!

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  25.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    If I'm not back in 10 minutes start without me.

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  26.   angellx says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    hail...............to Jeff....:-)

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  27.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    uhhh Jeff, how about re-reading the article. I guess you never have the problem ;-)

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  28.   Jeff says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    When he comes too soon, you should sit around in the dark until he leaves and answer the door when he returns at the expected time. Is this what we're talking about? -Jeff

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  29.   Jeff2555 says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    When he comes too soon, you should sit around in the dark until he leaves and answer the door when he returns at the expected time. Is this what we're talking about? -Jeff

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  30.   fala says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 07

    lmao@cockisses! that is priceless!!!! Come on Coco, you know you laughed too!!!!!

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  31.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    Cocokisses as a man I have to say I REALLY like your new nickname :-)

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  32.   iceburger says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    Fala Fala Fala.... I believe its something for all to worry about...rabbits or not....lol

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  33.   Summer says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    Angellx,I thought that last statement may sound good to ya....and rightfully so because if theres a short coming on the man part it should be a LONG coming on the man part to get you where you need to be... thats in exctasy.

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  34.   angellx says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    still laughing............................xx

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  35.   angellx says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    lol to tracy with cocokisses nickname....im sure it was just a typo but sure is funny..........;-) ;-)

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  36.   angellx says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    hey Sunmmer...if a girl/guy has bad breath/hygiene or bad performance problems dont either bother with foreplay/oral let alone penetration.......theyz jus plain Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaasty!! kick em to the kerb baby ...x Like the never leave her till she's satisfied bit tho.....sounds good to me babe....

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  37.   Summer says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    Sometimes lady you may have to look at your performance in bed....sometimes your performance can bring a guy to climax,sometimes your performance can be terrible and we also climax quick so we can get the hell out of there...prolonged foreplay,anticipation,bad breath,hygiene, plays a roll in climaxing early....I dont have a problem with stamina,but my rule of thumb is to make her cum twice even before penetration,whether it be by oral or toy or fingers...NEVER LEAVE A WOMAN UNTIL SHE IS SATISFIED....

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  38.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    HEY TRACY...THANKS BUT PLEASE...THAT NAME...IS COCOKISSES, NOT THE OTHER NAME YOU CALLED ME...LOL!

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  39.   fala says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    I say Amen Angellx!!!

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  40.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 07

    Has anyone seen the finally of Big Brother 8. I'm pissed why does all the wrong people get the luck.

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  41.   angellx says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    guys r not always able to hold out as long as us girly's ...... maybe it should be a compliment to us that we r able to turn him on so quicky, some men still nearly come b4 even entering...if he really wants to please you he will make an encore pretty quickly if hes really not interested he will roll over an go to sleep....then u know that he is purely selfish...

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  42.   Tracy says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    I agree withyou cockisses... The guy should let the girl come first that way they will both be happy at the end... But if he happens to come first then he should either give her some oral, use a toy or use his hand until she has reached her stars...

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  43.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    Now you guys know that when the guy comes first, we girls are left hanging :) That's why you give us ours first...this way when you come too quick, some of us don't care :D

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  44.   Randy says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    quite simple really, when she is happy, your happy, when she is unhappy well,,, you get the picture

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  45.   Jeff2555 says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    I would think...that the odds of both coming at precisely the same moment are very slight-so one comes first one time-another the next and when the stars line up it's mutual timing. But when it's the same partner c.m.n.g first all the time, then some adjustments are in order.

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  46.   angellx says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    a girls gotta do watta girls gotta do.....lets be truthful here, its all about pleasing the female .... from were pleased an content we will rock a brothers world......or become a bunny boiler ... mmmm. coz ain't no one else gonna get a piece of dat..can i get an amen!! ;-)

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  47.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    FALA! OH NO YOU DIDN'T! ROFLMAO!!!

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  48.   fala says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 07

    Ria,It doesn't really bother me at all. That's why they invented the Jack Rabbit. ;-)

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