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What happened to leaving something to the Imagination?

Posted by Leticia, 23 Jul

It seems that we're getting a little more risky and daring these days when it comes to sex. Back in the day, the men and women on TV couldn't lay in the same bed without someone's foot touching the floor. Now, we see more T & A on commercials and videos in one month, than some doctors see in a year. Is less still more? What really gets you "hot and bothered"?

Remember when you use to be able to tell who the bad girls were by what they wore? When people touched or kissed on television was a big deal? When words really said something and people actually had an imagination? Well, get over it. Those days are gone with the big wheel, the record player and cheap gas. We are living in the day of the microwave and the thong.

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I was looking at one of those new "teen" television shows with a friend and his kids. When I asked what the show was about and what was going on, I was told: there's a teen that's gay, his friend who caught a venereal disease by having oral sex with a guy, another guy that's involved in a multicultural relationship with the only black girl on the show and of course, she just got pregnant. Another female character ends her lesbian relationship with another teen to go back to her ex-boyfriend who was kicked out of school for trying to burn it down. Did I mention that this was a show targeted at teens?

Does it bother anyone else that something that was created to bring us together to entertain and educate us has turned into another method to make us mind-less? It's also continuing to perpetuate the stereotypes that we've been trying to eradicate for years? Why is it that when we do have multicultural relationships featured on television the focus is on sex and not highlighting the similarities in the relationship?

Do you realize that there are some rules and regulations against when "acts of love" and "partial nudity" can and can not be shown on television, yet no such regulations on when and how much violence can be shown? In other words, it's better to kill than kiss, better to torment than touch, better to shoot than seduce?

Well, it's easy for some of us to just say "no" to television, however, there are many households that have one in every room. Where the parents are working or away for 12 plus hours a day and their children are being brought up on MTV, the OC and BET. It's gotten so out of hand that the shock value has moved up a notch. Anyone ever catch OZ? There was no yellow brick road in that series.

So, with all things being what they are, is it harder for you to get turned on or to turn on your special someone? Does a simple kiss on the back of the neck still get you going? Or do you have to get going down to the local sex shop to buy some device that comes with instructions and runs on batteries?

This is Leticia...and there are some things that a girl just wants to know.

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  1.   sweetnes20 says:
    Posted: 08 Feb 07

    we all will have our imaginations, no matter what the case maybe.

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  2.   Fala says:
    Posted: 06 Feb 07

    I agree with Sweetest. People are too caught up on fake air-brushed standards of beauty. Learn to love your imperfections. Its what makes you, you.

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  3.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 07

    I agree its really gotten bad and its sad!!

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  4.   Fala says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 07

    With Britney and Linsay running around with no panties on and flashing the world every chance they get, what's next? Celebrities walking around wearing nothing but jewelry?

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  5.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 01 Nov 06

    The imigination is a terriable thing to waste.....

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  6.   Coco says:
    Posted: 22 Oct 06

    If you look at some of the profiles on here and at some of the regulars in the chatroom, I daresay that not many of them are leaving much to the imagination. Sometimes less is more is very true, and showing everything gives the appearance of being DESPERATE.

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  7.   Natural72 says:
    Posted: 06 Oct 06

    I was always taught to leave something to the imagination, showing less will get you more respect, and no one wants what everyone else has had. We all went through that stage were we are more apt to show a little more than usual, but those who never leave that stage are usually setting themseves up for great disappointment.

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  8.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 06

    Very good comments MMW,TRUEHARMONY,WHYT,CAROLINAQT,and PAUL MYERS.....U HAVE SAID IT ALL....VERY WELL....

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  9.   Coco says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 06

    I think as parents we should control what they watch but also let them know that it isn't taboo. That makes them have more curiosity about sex and more likely to want to experiment.

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  10.   Carla says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 06

    You cant please everyone that is for sure...its up to the parent to control what your child watches....we cant control what they show...

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  11.   romeoluvs says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 06

    oh well.. we can surely control the way the kids watch stuff on television. we cant control those weird channels which air sexual stuff.

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  12.   sweetest1 says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 06

    I think not only does it take more to excite the opposite sex but they expect perfection and aren't accepting of people like our parents and grandparent did. People are always looking over their shoulder for something better to come along... meanwhile neglecting the good thing they have right in front of them!!!

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  13.   xina03 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 06

    I don't have kids but I think parents can control what their kids are watching on tv( at home) and also they can talk to them , make them understand whats really going on.We can't stop what's happening but we can make them understand what's going on.Don't be afraid to talk to your children if you don't someone else might do it for you.

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  14.   Kandi says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 06

    There is always going to be somebody who might think something is too sexy..So you can't win or lose plus you can't please everybody

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  15.   JayJohn says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 06

    Hey Leticia, I think that you are right on every spot you mentioned. I came from another country and we are a decade behind on almost everything so it was hard for me to adjust seeing sex, gays and all the other stuff on television right away. I always wonder what my children will see and kind of environment they will grow in. It is scarry.... But believe it or not a lot of girls are into the old fashioned way. Thanks and good luck J

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  16.   Jazzsinger says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 06

    It is hard to keep our children young because of all of the sex on TV and in the music. They are growing up way too fast and they are who the designers are marketing to.

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  17.   mmw10aday says:
    Posted: 25 Aug 06

    FOR MEN BACK IN THE DAYS OF OLD, HUGH HEFNER WAS ONE OF THE FEW WAYS TO SEE A WOMAN DRESSED SCANTILY CLAD. IN TODAY'S WORLD, MEN ACHIEVE THE SAME FROM A WALK IN THE MALL. I THINK THAT MEN AS WELL AS WOMEN ARE LOSING RESPECT FOR THE FRAGILE AND PRECIOUS FEMALE BODY. EVERY DAY GIRLS ARE GETTING YOUNGER AND YOUNGER HAVING CHILDREN. WHY IS THIS U MAY ASK; N WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT? THE ANSWER IS IN US. IT STARTS BY US AS PARENTS THAT ARE ADULTS RESPECTING OURSELVES AND OTHERS. THEESE TEACHINGS WILL FALL DOWN ON OUR CHILDREN FROM THEM SEEING HOW WE ACT AND OUR CHILDREN EMULATING US. SOON PEOPLE WILL SEE THAT SELF RESPECT IS NOT A BAD THING AND WILL TRY THE SAME.

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  18.   TrueHarmony says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 06

    I agree with all of the comments here. We are all living in a time of great shamelessness. Modesty is a word seldom heard of by most people today and I think that it all went out of the window when a lot of good morals and virtues were ignored as time progressed. These same virtues and morals were the very thing that made stable homes what they were. They also helped to shape communities and taught people to respect themselves as well as one another. The problem with today's society is that no one cares to maintain respect anymore. They don't respect themselves and could care less about what anyone thinks...leading to absolute disrespect of others. Also, I think that our society began to go down the drain as men began to develop less and less respect for women over the years. Women have sold themselves short and now everyone is paying for it. Women have allowed themselves to be exploited far worse than men and because of this, the pure, virtuous, nurturing image that a woman should stand for is missing from our culture on a whole and has been replaced with vamps and sex kittens. As the gentleman stated earlier, years ago, a boy would have been excited about a simple peck on the cheek from a girl he liked. Now, men are ready to end the relationship if she refuses to give him sex right away. Our culture has definitely exchanged one role model for another. It is very, very sad, but true.

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  19.   whyt says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 06

    in this day and age multimillion dollar companies do not generate a large income or huge box office sales by showing movies with family values or films that educate children and adults alike on the importance of abstinance .instead they make huge gross profit from poisoning america's mind with what sells aka sex ,violence and drugs, these days you cant turn the tv on without a film having them involved .the reason i say poisoning americas mind is this .movies and everything visual is like a seed you see it ,your mind stores it ,it is burned in your memory it then becomes a part of you now how one chooses to act ipon it or to embrace it is on them , but there is no need for movie producers to plant such seeds .as a people we have enough trouble just viewing everyday life and trying to live without worrying about our youth seeing movies about two kids having a baby and defying their parents and the kids watching saying yeah i,d tell my parents to fump them selves just like they did on tv.these producers need a good swift kick in the rump .they sell trash and sadly america buys it.

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  20.   jckappa says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 06

    Ad101...sex sells! enuf said

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  21.   CarolinaQT says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 06

    The days of leaving something to the imagination went out the window when women realized we CAN have it all. We can still handle our business raising our children, being the CEO of that Corporation, and STILL be a little sexy and seductive without losing stride. Don't get me wrong, there are lines that should never be crossed and some folk do it on a regular. The key question I ask is "Will I be ashamed if my kids ever see me this way?". Just as well, if I ever have to ask that question in the first place, then I already know the answer. You are correct, these days when you see an interracial relationship on tv it's all about the steamy sex they have, or it's ripe with other "normal" issues that seem to be exagerrated just because it's a mixed couple. I look forward to the day where I can see a black/white couple with interracial kids in a tv commercial advertising real estate or whitewheat :)

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