Is sex that natural?

Posted by James, 23 May 07

Do you believe that sex is natural? Do you think sex is as breathing and therefore you don't need to discuss it? Well think again. I think men should make a point of eavesdropping on the so called 'girl talk' and hear the gory details of sexual encounters and disappointments being discussed.

I was in the company of my cousins once and I almost swore myself to celibacy… “I don't know if to call it incompatibility, ignorance or mis-performance. Believe me some sexual encounters leave you screaming WHY THE FUCK DID I LET THEM PANTS DROP!!!᾿ she went.

Discussing sex with men is one thing that most women fear. And most women end up sentencing themselves to years and eons of bad sex and phrases like "I Love my husband; we just not sexually compatible" become an everyday song.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

Do you believe in the phrase ‘sexual incompatibility’? Unless your partner excels in mind reading, there is no way he or she can just know what you like and want. Notions like 'if he doesn't know by now, he never will' will drive you to an 18 year old and wreck whatever good relationship you have tried to build over the years.

So people, much as we think sex is natural, it aint. And women, it’s never too late to stop using them dildos as a substitute. Talk to us men… not with your girlfriends! Let your men know what makes you tick ;-)

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  1.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 19 May 10

    It seems natural enough. I had dreams about it before I even knew what it was. It's important to discuss what you want. I would rather have a woman tell, "Yes, right there!" than to be frustrated and unfulfilled.

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  2.   Smile4242 says:
    Posted: 13 Jan 10

    Sex is natural. Enjoying sex may take some work. ;)

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  3.   renee24 says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 09

    Is sex natural? yes especially when you find the right one, with that person it can be easy to communicate your wants and needs. I think more couples need to sit down and talk with each other and keep friends and family out of their bedrooms. also Some people may be shy or feel uncomfortable with doing certain things so their response might always be "no lets just do it the regular way" this is fine just remember to be comfortable with who you are and what you want and let your mate know that.

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  4.   fire321 says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 09

    I don't understand why this is so difficult for some. It's rare to have great sex with someone in the beginning/early stages of the relationship. Then there are those that are sexually inhibited and are not open to trying new things or voicing their likes and dislikes with their partner. I believe sex is a natural act and should be enjoyed to the highest level. Therefore, communicating to your partner about it is a must. I also believe that average sex can become great sex but that won't happen without letting your mate know how you feel and what you need. After all, a closed mouth won't get fed.

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  5. Posted: 19 Jul 09

    Many people fear telling the truth of their fantasies. we all have thoughts we may or may not want to act on. Being secure enough to communicate possabilities with a partner is a blessing most do not have. We fear our partner will think less of us. too many people are too posessive/ jealous to have good communicte their desires for commplete sexual satisfaction.

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  6.   eric_t says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    Yep. So the lesson is..., ? This probably follows the same path as women airing out relationship issues with their friends. I believe it has everything to do with an inability to confront issues and a sort of compulsion to inadvertantly undermine the relationship they're in. Open communication has to be something more than sharing how your day was and how it made you feel. If there's something that you're wanting and not getting..., then tell him and get it. Men are wired to be providers. What makes you think he doesn't want to provide you with the best nights of your life? Go read the articles in Mens Health about pleasing women. They're easy to find. They're in every issue at least once.

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  7.   hiimsteph says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 07

    This was a very interesting article. Why do women turn to their friends in advice about something that deals with their man? Cause HE'S the one you go to bed with every night, not you your girlfriends

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  8.   TheFab5 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 07

    sex is a s natural as it comes but only with the right person a one night stand or a fling is not so natura. But be grown enough to discuss the issues that can and will make it better if you can't then why bother at all?

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  9.   ionica says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 07

    simpatic

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  10.   Devi says:
    Posted: 24 May 07

    I believe sex is very natural but, we are immature in communicating how we want/need it. People, if you're adult enough to 'do it', then you should be adult enough to talk about it. It's only a dirty little secret if we're doing something we know we shouldn't be doing.

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