Do we ever learn?
A woman grows up witnessing an abusive marriage between her parents which leaves the whole family miserable. She finally leaves home and meets this guy. As their relationship builds up, she sees flashes of violence in him, maybe even been struck once or twice. She knows she should run, but for some reason she just doesn’t.
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We all know the damages of extramarital affairs on all parties concerned. There is the double lifestyle one operates that is just hard to maintain. Living a lie is tough work. The wife on the other hand has a husband by name or the ring on her finger if she still wears it. Poor children caught in between. Its nasty and it leaves everyone wounded and suffering. Yet, premarital affairs still flourish in society and this heinous cycle of misery in marriages continues unabated.
Haven’t we had enough? I think the number of broken marriages and devastating consequences of things like spousal abuse should serve as enough warning for any man or woman going down the same road.
Why do we blame it on culture, neighbors, society, the other spouse, Satan, while it is at our disposal to save our marriages and relationships? Why is it that even after knowing the consequences of our actions to other parties involved we still go ahead and do them anyway? Is it human to be so fatalistic?
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kittenrn65 says:Posted: 28 Feb 09I think for some that are married and cheat is the way to get what is not being had at home. As for the person who messes with the married person, I believe it is about wanting a non-committal type of relationship. Once a person has been abused in a relationship "trust" is hard to get back, so a married person you already know is not going to do anything that draws attention to the both involved.
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stronglady23 says:Posted: 28 Feb 09The cycle of abuse is repeated for many women or men who grow up in an abusive home, whether it be physical or emotional. Abuse is about control, I always thought that it was because the man or woman had an anger problem. It controls your mind and makes you think that "you are crazy" or "insecure". Abuse is well calculated and thought out. No such thing as "you made me do it", that's the denial of responsibility on the abuser's part. There is no changing an abuser because they don't think that they have a problem and its easier to blame someone else for their actions.
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