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What Do You Do For You?

Posted by Leticia, 14 Jun

It's a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Weather man said it's going to get up to 78 degrees. Current temp is 79. The sun is shining and I want to go out and stand in the middle of the parking lot just to get out of the house. But, no can't do it...

Under a few self-imposed deadlines and I must have willpower and discipline. Besides, I wouldn't be in this tight crunch if I'd stayed in the other night instead of going out at the last minute for dinner and a movie (Iron Man), it's my own fault...I should suffer.

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Recently I went to this seminar in California . My favorite part was listening to this speaker that talked about making the most out of your time, how to be efficient, get things done and not be distracted or allow others to distract you from your daily tasks. It reminded me of Tim Ferris's book the 4-hour work week. Another one of those self help this is what you should do to live a better life kind of books. I loved it, listened to the entire 8-hours of audio and swore that I was going to put some things into practice.

So, it's only natural that 3-months and one seminar later I am practicing what I learned. Today I tried this thing called the 60-60-30 rule. That when you set aside a specific time (set a timer), do work for that time, take a break, (set timer again), get back to work, (you get the idea).

I'm happy to report that today has been the most productive day that I've had in a very long time. Is it just me or is our attention spans getting shorter and shorter? Do you have to schedule everything or are you spontaneous? How does this spill over into your dating habits? If you're currently in or when you were in a committed relationship, did you plan time for yourself with and without your mate? What kind of things did you do?

My thing is baths. I love a nice hot bubble bath. I also get at least one massage a month. It helps with my circulation (from sitting for hours writing all day). Besides, my massage guy is better than any dream I've ever had, except that one when I'm waken up in the middle of the night, blind-folded and taken out into the balcony of my apartment...oh, never mind... that wasn't a dream.

Sometimes I feel a little bad that I can't spend as much time hanging out with friends, okay, perhaps bad is a strong word. I don't know what it is about me, but I'd rather work than just about anything else, with the exception of having sex, taking a bath and getting a massage. I know that there are other things in life. I just have to force myself to do them.

I've almost given up multi-tasking. My man didn't appreciate my interpretation of work hard /play hard. I'm sorry, I can't always control when great ideas hit me. Can you blame me for wanting to write down a few things? It's not like I broke the connection or anything. And they say that women are sensitive.

Anyway, I want to recommend to my brothers and sisters a nice spring pick me up. We all have to do this at least once this month. Pick a day that you can have at least two hours of "you" time. Whatever is your favorite thing to do; I want you to do that thing and take a picture. Then post it on your profile. Note: if it involves being naked...take two pictures. Just kidding... make those private .

If you can't spare two hours for yourself, than try one hour or 30-minutes. Something for you and only you and then come back here and tell me what you did and share your pictures with us.

Leticia says...only when you are great to "you" can you become "good" for someone else.

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  1.   kenyanito says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 08

    Leticia, this is a great article..i think most of us we are drowned so much in work that we hardly create time for "me" i'll try it

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  2.   Pia65 says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 08

    Great article! Its time for ME!!! Since my birthday is coming up soon...a group of my girlfriends are treating me to a mani & petticure as well as a luncheon! I'm going to sugguest to them that we make it (as well as a few other items on my mind that I come up with) a monthly event!

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  3.   Daysleeper43 says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 08

    I really liked this article, I am going to try to set two hours aside for myself. If I can get into the habit of doing that it will become easier.

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  4.   hotrod2009 says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 08

    I have finally decided to do something just for me. I had a wonderful and I mean wonderful massage today. I think that I will make this a monthly pampering.

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  5.   worthurwhile says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 08

    I have made taking time off for "ME" a priority. It could be as simple as laying in bed and watching my favorite movies on DVD's to getting a facial, manicure etc. great article.

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  6.   phattkitty says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 08

    I SO TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE ABOVE COMMENTS. I ENJOY A LOT A ME TIME, PARTLY BECAUSE AM A SINGLE PERSON AND A LONER BY NATURE. I CAN PRACTICALLY DO ANYTHING BY MYSELF. A COMPANY OR TWO WOULD HURT, BUT IF THERE IS NON, OH WELL, MY LIFE DOES GO ON.

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  7.   vrb1955 says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 08

    You ain't never lied. If you don't take time for you who will? The older I get the more selfish I become with my time.Being a single female right now has made me enforce that "me time" even more . Yes I will go to dinner, a movie, an event and the beach with me. I learned a long time ago if I sit at home waiting for the phone to ring I was going to miss a lot of life.Beside you never know who you are going to run into along the way.

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  8.   Morningflower says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 08

    Great Article! I have no problem scheduling some ME time...well 9 times out of 10. Unfortunately it took some tragic circumstances to get me here - BUT, I am also at a point in my life where I cannot and will not compromise my peace of mind for anybody. Baby steps worked for me; I quit drinking alcohol and started exercising more; so that took away a boatload of stress. If I cannot meet a deadline at work, then so be it! my rationale is that if I died today, they would have someone in that chair the next day; well that and I have a great boss. ha! I also tend to turn off my cellphones/laptop/tv etc and basically 'sever all ties with the world for an entire day, it's so freeing! When Gas prices were cheaper I would power up my car and just drive until my tank was empty. I would get out, explore the area, dine, get a cheap hotel and drive home the next day - I miss those days! So I have tried to take part in local activities e.g. Volunteering at a retirement home once a month, taking part in charity races/walks, going to a shooting range or just sitting by the river close to my house. However, I am a "work in progress" when it comes to my friends - I do tend to just "get up and go" if any of them calls me to go and grab dinner or do a movie even when I feel a little bit tired. I have said "NO" 2 out of 5 times..so hopefully I can get better at this. I LOVE THIS ARTICLE! GREAT JOB!!

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  9.   nadine says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 08

    I like this article, it inspired me to get out there and think about me, some alone time. Most of the time I am too caught up with work and children that I dont do things for me, or I am trying too hard to please other people. Now I will definately take some me time, once a week I will do something nice for me.Thank you very much for good advice, keep writeing these good article I will read more of them.Peace and happiness.

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  10.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 08

    Yes, its ME time for sure!

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