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There is no ugly woman

Posted by James, 10 May

A guy once said “There is no such thing as an ugly woman … it’s all about how a woman packages herself.”

I second him. In this era of cosmetic surgeries and makeovers, a woman can potentially transform her body and package herself as a woman with irresistible sexuality. However, this is beside the point.

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The women we call 'Plain Janes' are so used to being sidelined for hotter, beautiful women. In the end, most of these women up their self esteem and re-package their personalities giving rise to stimulating individualism. And when such refreshed individualism is pitted against her hot, superficial friends, they ooze sexual charisma even from sniffing distance. This woman’s sexuality runs deeper than surface mascara.

A woman’s personality holds more currency that her physical looks. This is the reason most men watch, love and admire women like Oprah. Women like her always stand out even in the midst of her much hotter looking friends. They have sexual charisma to back their huge personality… It’s that mysterious fascination that detains a man’s attention… “There is something about her…” And with every glance, you see something in her that confirms that feeling.

This is for the women who feel they aren't beautiful enough: Every woman has something to offer. And most men of this century have learned that what you see is not what you get when all that mascara and costumes are off. There is no ugly woman. Every woman can have the ‘IT’ factor. You just got to identify IT and use IT to your advantage.

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  1.   cinderella45 says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 10

    It's good to know that there are mature people out there that listens before commenting. I am in the process of overcoming some deep rooted insecurities. Why the insecurities? During my early 30s my sister proceeded to have a relationship with a guy that I was dating...She knew we were dating and I saw him drop her off one morning that's how I found out. Yes luckily I realized he was a jerk but I never recvd an apology..from either of them. Now they both have sinced married other persons but it still weighs heavy in my heart at times.

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  2.   Kimberly says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 10

    I definitely feel that beauty is in the eye of the beholder as so many of you have already mentioned. I think the real travisty is that some people are constantly trying to change who they are to suit someone else's image of beauty. I don't feel that the make-up, surgery, etc. is necessary for so many women. I think it hides who the person truly is, it is a cover-up. I am not saying that a woman shouldn't wear any make-up or have surgery, but she should thoroughly examine her intent before doing so. Is she trying to cover something up or is she simply using it to enhance or "bring out" what she already has. Does she feel incomplete without it? If so, she needs to work on her inner self first before focusing too much on the outer appearance. We must remember that our youth is fleeting everyday. What we look like at 20 or 30 will be a stark contrast from what we look like at 60 or 70 so if we focus too much on the outer, we will never feel complete and we will miss out on the good in life. I do think that every woman should keep up her appearance though. This is simply a matter of having good hygiene and being well groomed. This does not mean that she has to wear the latest designer fashions or spend half her paycheck on cosmetics. She just needs to groom herself and wear what makes her feel good. Because if she doesn't feel good about herself no one else will feel good about her no matter how well she dresses or how much make-up she wears. I agree with Ichibod about what constitutes beauty especially as I get older. The "hot" or popular guys in high school seem like riff raff to me now since many of them are hanging on the streets, in jail, or free-loading now. While the "nerds" are way more attractive after growing up to become "real" men who marry, take care of their families, maintain a steady and respectable job, and a respectable standing in the community. Most women would take the "nerd" anyday over the popular guy after a good 5-10 years have past and circumstances are reversed. As for me, I feel wonderful about myself. I don't wear make-up at all. I feel that I am beautiful without it and I am constantly complimented on how beautiful I am. However, I do keep myself up. I dress in well fitting, stylish clothes that compliment my body and most of all I wear an air of confidence everywhere I go. I treat people right and I behave myself in a respectable manner and men always seem to find that attractive. But what's more important to me is that I feel that I am attractive.

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  3.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 10

    Good point there Dashing Darne'

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  4.   Member says:
    Posted: 27 May 10

    Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder but each of us can also define UGLY when we see it. What I consider ugly you may think is "fine". Just because we can't all agree on what is "ugly" doesn't mean it does not exisist. There are ugly women and men. Thankfully though no one person speaks for humanity.

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  5.   tatted2death says:
    Posted: 25 May 10

    The problem here is when people look for/expect perfection yet continually fall short. Some men have the attitude that they can look like the wrong side of donkey and still "pull" a "hot" or "angelic" woman. Some guys think all they have to do is have a fat wallet (or something else) yet at the same time they will complain about "golddiggers" or "slut". Plain and simple......THERE IS NO PLEASING EVERY SINGLE PERSON.......therefore, take care of yourself first and foremost. Anyone with common sense would want to be with a happy, healthy person. Get beyond your eyes....or that is ALL that will be pleased in the long run....(and we all know that the looks don't last anyway....pfft). Peace

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  6.   V1ktor says:
    Posted: 16 May 10

    Ugliness is like beauty, it lies in the eye of the beholder. This means that it changes from person to person. What I think is ugly and disgusting might be someone else's wife or girlfriend. "A woman’s personality holds more currency that her physical looks." As much as we would like to see someone's personality before we see their face and body, that is not the case. We are visual creatures that's why we get bombarded with visual advertisements all the time. As much as men or women want to believe that they don't pick someone based on their looks it is complete BS. There needs to be a balance between physical appearance and personality. YOU CAN'T HAVE ONE WITHOUT THE OTHER. When you buy a car you don't just buy an engine, you buy the whole thing - the pretty exterior to enjoy and show off and comfortable interior for a long ride through life. People just need to accept the fact that they look for looks as much as they look for personality.

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  7.   FurryJeans says:
    Posted: 16 May 10

    I actually feel the "plain Janes" to be much hotter and sexier than the women that society says are beautiful. Beauty is more than physical appearance, it is an attitude. Forget the Twiggy look, and the 'tude.

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  8.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 13 May 10

    I that is so true..."There is no ugly woman"...because there is someone for everyone. The person that loves the woman thinks she is beautiful and there is nothing nor noone who can tear that apart. I will be honest to say that I have seen couples where I thought the man was very nice looking and the woman (in my opinion) was not very pretty. And the man seemed to be madly in love. There is something about her tha he loves. I may not see it but he does and that is all that really matters. I think that it is true also that there is the persona of beauty. There may be people who may not have the Tyra Banks looks but the Tyra Banks persona that knock out personality that men find irresistable.

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  9.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Beauty on the surface can't mask ugly deep down. I've always seen the beauty of a woman where often she doesn't, often in the very "defect" she would choose to have altered. Of course, in the final analysis, mine is just an opinion not a vote.

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  10.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 12 May 10

    Hey, Godiva! Meisha, haven't seen you in a while. As I get older, the way I judge physical appearances are much different now. So many things to factor in and so many things to factor out. Especially seeing many girls I went to high school with nowadays. The ones that weren't the most attractive then are hotter than the popular girls were now that we're in our 30s. A complete role reversal almost.

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  11.   meisha81 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I think it's all about having self love and confidence within you. When a person can feel good about themselves, no matter what the imperfections are, that energy radiates and brings out those good vibes that people want to be around. Like what Ms. Godiva said, you can be the finest speciment walking on earth but if your attitude is terrible, then that's a wrap! There is that old saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what might not look good to some, will be gorgeous to others! Peace and Love!

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  12.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    I hate the term "ugly" when referring to someone's physical appearance. What may be attractive to me, may not be attractive to someone else. I think Danny Glover is super hot and attractive, but I know other women who thinks otherwise! My sister and her friends adore, and drool over Kobe Bryant, I don't see it at all! No personality, and a little too arrogant for me! The ultimate ugly, is the ugly that's on the inside of a person, not the outside!! How many of the so called pretty boys have I came in contact with who has no personlity, no manners, and are a little too arrogant, and is obsessed with what they see in the mirror, thanks but no thanks! love godiva

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  13.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 11 May 10

    OPRAH!?!?!?!?! No way! Everything about this article was on point until you dropped Oprah's name. James, get real! For me, once a woman gets breast implants or gastric bypass (instead of excercise and eating right), she's no longer a prospect. I was just thinking the other day, when they had that reality show called "The Swan", where all those women were get extensive makeovers. This one guy didn't want his wife to do it, but she went on the show anyway. At the unveiling, she stepped out on the stage and looked stunning. Her husband then approached her from the audience with divorce papers. Pretty funny, but low self esteem and the willingness to do just about anything, even when you have support and people are accepting of you, is sad. I've gotten into to plenty of debates about what women I think are hot and why I don't like Beyonce, Tyra Banks, Halle Berry, and Alicia Keys.

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