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Three Little Words You Don't Want To Hear

Posted by Leticia, 04 Jun

You know, over the past few weeks I have really been checking out various profiles and discovered one of the things that everyone says that hate reading. Three little words called Find Out Later. I can hear you right now, "Yeah I hate that when I read a profile and it's full of those" Well, to those of you who have taken the time to complete their profile thoroughly WELL DONE! Now, to the rest of you. Did you know that the ONLY way that someone if going to find you is if you complete your profile? You see, it's my job to help you become our next success story. Our members perform searches on things like religious preferences, ethnicity, height and even keywords in your profile on things like kayaking, fishing, sport, wine, cooking etc. So without that information they are literally searching for a needle in a haystack and YOU are the needle!

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Hi this is Jackie from Customer Support. Your profile is your chance to make a good first impression on someone so sharing something of yourself with them in VERY important. A person who is not fully committed to the idea of meeting someone online is probably not a paying member of any dating site. They have the concept that there is someone out there that is perfect for them and by setting up a profile on a website they can sit back and wait for the responses to roll it. They rarely search for people they are interested in and when they do, they generally just send them a wink or a flirt without ever having a profile complete and then wonder why no-one ever replies. So it's the site's fault right? No!, when someone receives a message from you the very first thing they will do is read your profile, if there is nothing there then you aren't likely to get a reply. A person who doesn't create a good profile is almost guaranteed to fail on any online dating site and in the process take a hit to their ego because by the time they give up, they feel like everyone can find someone online except for them so they just keep cancelling their free profile and moving on to the next site. No commitment and just a little more jaded about the whole online dating process.

From our experiences those who have the best chance of finding love on the internet are the most willing to put the effort into it. They research the sites to find which one is the best for them, they carefully create their profile and update it constantly so that it really shows off who they are. When they look for people they like, they send emails not just flirts. So don't wait to hear from a friend about how they just got engaged to someone they met online, take the time and the effort to get rid of those find out laters. Remember, if you were selling a car you wouldn't put an ad in the newspaper saying "Car For Sale...Find out later" so why sell yourself short? Aren't you your greatest asset? Don't you deserve for that special someone to find you? The best thing that you can do to be our next success story is to go to your profile right now and pretend it was someone else's profile. Is it negative? Does it just say the same thing as lots of other profiles? Does it really reflect the sort of person you are and what you are seeking? If not, revise it right now...and let's see how much better those responses will be...

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  1.   PeaceStar says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 08

    I have noticed a lot of profiles with "Find Out Later" in several key sections. If the guy is at all appealing I will send them a message saying I like what you have so far, but please fill out the "Find Out Later" sections. I have done this for several men and believe it or not it worked with many of them. Seems they didn't think it mattered, that someone would write them anyway. But it really does matter as some of the updates told me point blank that I did not have anything in common with some and we differed to greatly on some others.

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  2.   Coco says:
    Posted: 14 May 07

    The ones with "find out later" are the ones I skip. It makes me think they have something to hide.

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  3.   nicefella115 says:
    Posted: 11 May 07

    well, they should take the time if they are serious.

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  4.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 10 May 07

    Great points!! Some people have an entire profile of Find Out Later. Too bad for them

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  5.   justknowingu says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 07

    I think that many people who put---for most of their profile anyway.."find out later"---are just lazy and dont want to be bothered--they may just be surfing and viewing...face value....

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  6.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 30 Jan 07

    Yeah guys put in some details!!

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  7.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 20 Dec 06

    THANKS! I am glad that I am not the only one feeling this way!

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  8.   turbogirl says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 06

    But why do people do it anyway? To lie? To cheat? To deceive? Crazy people! Can't stand them..... bunch of liars!!!

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  9.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 06

    i noticed when people write that, they are not serious about finding somebody special.

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  10.   turbogirl says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 06

    Yes, i quite agree with you guys, i think people who left there profile incompleted have got something to hide, worse are those without their pictures on.

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  11.   nehuskerfan says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 06

    If you don't have the time to complete your profile... how can I believe you will have time for me??? If a profile is not complete or there is not a picture, I pass it by.

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  12.   NICEFELLA115 says:
    Posted: 04 Dec 06

    what do people have to hide from, unless they really are not looking for a soul mate.

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  13.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 06

    i totaly agree with jade, great points!!

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  14.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 06

    Very interesting. The "find out later" on profiles and nothing else to me means you are hiding something and not having a picture with the find out later.No much to catch my interest.

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  15.   Majesticone says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 06

    well the only way i respond to someone is if they have their profile filled out.. this tells me they are taking it a little serious. i dont respond to " find out later ". if they do not have a picture i do not respond. but most importantly.. if i can not see them on cam, i NEVER take them serious at all. in this day and age, you have to be very careful with dating.

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  16.   EMBRACEME says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 06

    NICE ARTICLE .. WHEN I SEE SOMEONES PROFILE THAT SAYS FIND OUT LATER..I ALWAYS TELL MYSELF ARE THEY AFRAID TO TELL ME ABOUT THEMSELVES.. BUT WE ALL KNOW NO MATTER WHAT THEY PUT IN THEIR PROFILE IS IT REALLY THEM .. SO THE STATEMENT FIND OUT LATER IS TRUE IN ALL REALTIONSHIPS CAUSE EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW SOMEONE AND YOU GO SEE THEM AND THEN YOU ARE LEFT SAYING IF I ONLY KNEW.. WELL MY THEORY ON THIS IS YOU WILL FIND OUT LATER ALL ABOUT THE MAN OR WOMAN ANYWAYS.. SO YOU MEN AND WOMEN THAT PUT FIND OUT LATER OHHHH WE WILL TRUST ME.. WE ALWAYS FIND OUT LOL..

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  17.   aantonio says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 06

    Find out Later??? When i get messages that list "find out later " all thw way down there profile, i automatically delete. I know some will put in the have kids area "fid out later" its either yes or no. bottom line. To me "find out later" is someone not serious on meeting someone or cuz they are hiding something. Not a good way to start off. Hey i took out the time to complete my profile, so she should at least gice a description.

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  18.   Fala says:
    Posted: 07 Nov 06

    When I get a message from someone with a profile full of "find out laters" that message goes right to "send to trash." I'm not interested in trying to solve a mystery.

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  19.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 24 Oct 06

    I agree with Coco. Don't ask me to send you a picture to your other email address and you have no picture avail and don't want to post one, requesting that I see a picture first. What are you hiding?

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  20.   Coco says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 06

    I hate that too! Also, don't ask me for more info when you don't have a picture or detailed info. My rule is, if you send the message, don't ask me to tell you about me...you initiated the e-mail so tell me about you :)

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  21.   Texasbest says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 06

    I like it when people don,t put anything in there profile because I really don,t read them.

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  22.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 06

    FIND OUT LATER on all of the profile info..and no picture.Sorry, I don't answer and it goes to trash.

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  23.   Natural72 says:
    Posted: 08 Oct 06

    Although I agree that your profile is a great way to sell yourself, I agree with Ann that somethings do not need to be reveal right away.

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  24.   Ann says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 06

    There are other reasons for "find out later". There are some truths we just don't want to tell.

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  25.   Carla says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 06

    Man when I read something like that on someeone's profile I feel that the person is either not really serious about finding someone or they are just lazy... regardless I wont respond to profiles like that at all

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  26.   romeoluvs says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 06

    Yeh that shows how lazy that being is, that even shows your stupidity.

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  27.   sweetest1 says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 06

    When that is on a profile it shows me the person is either not really serious about finding someone... or they are just plain lazy... either way I don't respond to those profiles because those are not traits I like in people whether friends or more.

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  28.   whytb0y says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 06

    i agree its not like it takes alot of effort to fill out a profile , how will your potential partner know if they are interested in you if you give them no info to get them interested it's not just about a pic .

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  29.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 06

    People...finish your profiles. I mean really...its not that hard and it will do a world of difference for you. But just be sure you are honest. If you are looking for a gorgeous person dont say "Looking for a nice man/woman". Be real because there are plenty of people that get passed by because they are not the Brad Pitt's or Janet Jackson's that some of you want. If you are honest with what you are looking for then you are less likely to be bothered by someone you wouldnt be interested in.

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