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Why do you like a white girl?

Posted by James, 18 Apr

Why don’t you date your own kind?

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In today’s world, most people expect their parents to have gotten over their anxiety about interracial dating. In fact, most parents give their kids the "we are all equal" talk ... well up UNTIL they start dating out. But that said and however supportive our parents appear to be, one parent, in a new Anderson 360 study admitted that "When you see your kid always steering towards a different race, you want to make sure that he doesn't have a problem with his own race... Because we'd never seen him with a black girlfriend", says the father to a black teenager - who always dates white girls.

Looking at what the study portrayed, sometimes our parents aren't directly against our interracial relationships. Some are just worried that the challenges interracial couples face will spill over to the relationship between the two as a couple. Others just wonder why?

Well, Jimmy's dad got me re-examining my own relationships. Do I date out because I have something against women of my own race? Can you honestly answer this "why not your own kind" question?

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  1.   darkknight_7 says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 12

    Peace. When I read this thread I thought it was entertaining and thought the shy dude had a legitimate point in the beginning until he started sounding like Uncle Ruckus from the boondocks. This mis-guided black man goes on about how black women are inferior, should be shitted and spitted on, and are idiots. Your ignorant comments are so extreme that I can only assume that you take this thread as a joke and you're typing this nonsense for laughs. Whenever you talk in absolutes you are setting yourself up for failure. Using words like all instead of most or not using the appropriate adjective to better get your point across is a flaw. While it's true that many black women do have bad attitudes and want to act like tough guy butch females, this is not all of them. I myself as a black man has chosen to date outside my race for some of the reasons that you give about black women. But even I know this isn't all black women and your excessive, unwarranted, and irrelevant rhetoric about black women not being worth anything and being idiots is disgusting. Your small exposure to black women isn't reflective of all of them. In actuality, many of the problems you depict with black women isn't exclusive to them. In the United States, black women aren't the only women with this "attitude" problem. Plenty of white and latino women are manipulative and want to wear the pants in a relationship. Latin women are particularly known for being feisty as well and I've seen more white men bow down to their white woman than I see black guys doing with black women. You and I wanting a more feminine and submissive woman isn't a black and white thing, it's an American and almost rest of the world thing. Many American women (of all races) have been brain washed and altered with the feminist movements, pop culture, and other methods and thrive off of being combative with their male mates and being aggressive. I know plenty of white guys that describe American white women in a bad light (though not as ignorant and extreme) just as you do with black women in regards to attitudes and them not respecting the leadership of their man. Additionally, there are plenty of black women all over the world that live outside the U.S that are more traditional and treat their husband as a king. It would appear that one looking for what we're looking for would do better looking abroad outside the U.S for a mate rather than only focusing on looking outside our race. The U.S has made our women think it's cool to be a slut, liar/manipulator, dictator like goddess that expects her man to bow to her and jump at a snap of a finger. This non-sense occurs almost no where else in the world but here. The women are becoming more masculine and the males are becoming weak sissies and that truly disturbs me, not natural. If you just have a preference for white women that isn't influenced by your "hatred" for black women, that's cool. I admire the yin and yang, how opposites attract, the beautiful contrast of black and white skin together but if my only reason for being with white women was to escape the hostility of "American" black women, you may eventually run into an "American" white woman that will surprise you. I'm not ignorant enough to bash all women from the U.S or all women of a particular race but I see your point.

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  2.   Scorpion133 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    everyone here needs to time out!!!!!!!!!! LISTEN UPPPPPP. THE QUESTION WAS WHY DO YOU LIKE A WHITE GIRL. maybe the question should have been WHY DO YOU LIKE A WHITE LADYYYYYYYY. if i am not mistaken this was meant for the BOYS or for the MEN. I am 61 years old, and have been around the block a few times. it would be better if all of us would be truthful and honest. ASK YOURSELF why all of us are on a site called interacial dating. (duh). some of you chose these topics out of couriousity to see what answers were being given. and when you found out it made you angry or upset, and that is when the verbal and insults began. for the younger men out there if you enter into a relationship with anger from whatever reason, then it will be a part of the relationship--blk or wht . and to the ladies out there answer this---what can a wm do for you a bm can not? don`t get me wrong anyone, because i have my reasons to be here too just like you. (SEX) in any form is a lot of the reason. and all or most of you know what i am speaking of. we say companionship, but you can get that from a DOG. MOST OF YOU JUST DON`T GET IT.

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  3.   Crusader159 says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 12

    Damn shy dude! Why don't you tell us how you really feel! Lol!

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  4.   theITguy2004 says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 12

    Hmmm, it seems like a lot of these arguments are a result of accusations and generalizations. What ever happened to every person being equal and different? Yes I do understand that some individuals may have gone through a series of unfortunate events within their own ethnic group. I myself was daily made fun of because of my skin being “darker” than the rest of my black classmates; I went to a predominantly black school all my life until college. This could certainly obscure someone’s vision of their own kind, but does that mean EVERY person of African descent is bad? No. People will find their reasons for doing what they wish. My mother and father weren’t always for me dating outside my race, until they found out my reason. I’ve dated a good amount of black women while growing up, and I love them. Now, I find myself dating other races, NOT because I don’t like mine, I love my people. The reason is there aren’t enough people of color that participate in the activities I do or in the career field I am in. I spend a lot of my time with personnel from my work place or within my general interest community. I do not purposely walk past black women for others, if a black woman catches my eye, I will react. However, I hardly ever see women of color where I am. So I guess in saying all this, like the gentlemen said above, we all have different levels of consciousness. You will be lead to date the people you have the desire for; People who date outside for the wrong reasons hardly ever have SUCCESSFUL relationships because the whole initial spark was not authentic. Make sure you see the person for who they are and don’t try to get revenge/gratification by dating outside, make sure you genuinely have an attraction….just my dos centavos

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  5.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 12

    im going to prove that my side of the family is still biased as when i was younger. my cousin of course is black,hes involved with an italian chic,well last year my grandmother died and these same females from my side that had trouble with me liking white girls,anyway they didnt want my cousins girlfriend at grandmoms funeral just because shes italian.this was just last year.theres proof right there they are still prejudiced.they got their wish she stayed at a motel during the funeral,but she should had been allowed to attend.

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  6.   Jayt1775 says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 12

    The question this room asks seems to bring hostility that is uneeded. So I will actually answer this question. While I am attrached to white women especially international women. I have dated all races and find that people are people no matter what race. For me a womens race is less relevent and the person thy are more relevent. Skin color is simple an adaptation of the climates your ancestors come from some of us are mixed at small levels from past ancestors. For me a women who will tell you how she feels and till speak with logic I have found 10% of women are like this. I hate the silent game, when it is easy to just say what you feel. I am simple to talk to and speak with logic so issues are easy to work out with me. To answer the question: Althought the attraction to white women is there, it is not about race to me I don't like 90% of women. The 10% of women that is the biggest attraction to me.

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  7.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 12

    Lol mmkay...

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  8.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 12

    again its no excuse if black men dont like black women,then he doesnt have to. i like to vomit on black women,plus do number 1 and 2 and spit on them.thats what theyre worth. no love for bw

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  9.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 12

    it would be nice if more black women get beat up like the mcdonalds story well deserved. bw deserve the bashing and the hate they get. they bash everyone else all the time. why should i care about bw? they dont care about anyone but themselves. bw are overall selfish. bw youre not my type and youll never will be.so why are you wasting your time? you cant change me,my family couldnt and you surely cant.

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  10.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 12

    no i have problems with black women,not all women.you dont know how to understand thats typical bw.other women are fine. so what if my children are half black,biracial female are still better than pure black.i didnt ask about your family story either.im straight, other women arent the problem bw are.i have so many friends with other women,black women its very low single digits. again only black men or another race can understand me.bw cant.bw are the enemy bm arent. i like and respect other women, brothas are right bw twist crap around and say were gay which were not,just because we dont want bw deal with it.you cant force me to like who i dont want to like. bw screwed up years ago,bw are my enemies. you cant communicate with an enemy.

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  11.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 12

    Wow seriously I've been mistreated by family also my father( a black man) was never really in my life and my grandmother (who is a white woman) was beaten my my grandfather(who is a black man) but.u don't see me. See me saying all black men are.a.curse... Even if you do have children outside your race just.remember they will still be considered black so yr .daughters will be black women.. and if we were extinct( which wont happen) you will also be Damn you must really have a problem with women period maybe you should reevaluate your sexual preference because a women is a woman white black Asian Hispanic Indian or whatever we are all women

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    • ukgirl40 says:
      Posted: 12 Jun 12

      Ok I have to add a comment to the jamie303. I am white Born and raised in England, raised to not see colour in people . I have lived in the states for 25 years now and I believe that its the most racist country I have seen . I have a white son and my daughter is Bi-Racial , they are raised to see no colour at all and living in SC thats a challenge. My daughter who has white people textured hair when asked `what are you ?` which is ignorant in itself answers` I am Emily ` She has black , asian, white all races as friends and she has a relationship with her father and her grandparents who are all black but using a colour to describe what you are is pathetic! I didnt even know what the word Caucasian when I came here as this is the only country that asks you for race on any document . Its sad . I check other on all forms and my children do also . We are the human race !! Your children will only be considered a race if you pin one on them . I will not care who my children decide to date as long as they respect one another . In SC when you have a child the race is determined by the race of the Mother who gave birth . I put other because it shouldnt make a difference !

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      • Evie17 says:
        Posted: 05 Jul 12

        I so agree with you ukgirl. I'm Australian, and lived in the US for a number of years. I felt alot of negativity levelled towards me from both black and white people as I had married a black man and my son is bi-racial. We moved to Australia, and my children have always been told how unique and amazing they look and they have been raised to be very proud of their heritage. They are now thinking of returning to the US to go to college and I'm concerned that the pride they have in their appearance will be squashed by the racial attitudes present everywhere over there. As you said - it's not about race, nor appearance - it's who they are as a person, their morals, their character and what they offer to society. Seems the attitudes of individuals has gotten even worse since I lived there.

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  12.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 31 May 12

    white women and other women i like,black women i hate.we would be better off if black women were extinct.bw cause nothing but misery.white women are desired,black women are undesired. white women know the meaning of understanding,black women dont. just because im black means nothing black men and black women arent on the same page. the gender war is real,black men most of us are sick of bw,me ive been sick of bw for about 25 yrs now. black women were a curse then,theyre still a curse. so save me that your familys black crap.

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  13.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 30 May 12

    And I never said anything to bash bm all I said was to love who you love for the right reasons and not to bash bw for loving ww....

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  14.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 30 May 12

    @shydude74 and anyone else who.agrees.with this ignorant fool... I think its sad to see the way you talk about your own ppl if I'm not mistaken on your profile it says you are BLACK! Its just awful and hurtful because y'alls mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and sisters are BLACK! you are a sorry excuse for a BLACKMAN! just remember who brought your self hating behind into this world

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  15.   adventsport says:
    Posted: 28 May 12

    It was simple, once the black girls heard I was with a white girl, they wouldn't give me play, besides friends. They treated me like I sold out, when they didn't me the time of day anyway. this in late 80's.

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  16.   A1der says:
    Posted: 27 May 12

    I come from a family that is rooted in 4 races White (Jew) Asian (Chinese) Indian (Native American) Black some remained pure others intermingled our branch of the family is if I may say so blend of "mixed flavors" a great melting pot the world is becoming 1 (wink wink) I have had bad experiences with blacks and whites dating and many good one 2 but I personally think it come down to your own preferences I prefer mix blends and bi racial but to each his own as long as there is mutual respect love and happiness thats my 2 cents God bless y'all

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  17.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 26 May 12

    qixx1964 youre right so true bw are idiots,other women do have more common sense. other women are more likely to care for their men unlike bw. bw are selfish and cant understand another persons point of view. in public and online my only problems came from bw.you can see why their butts are the least desirable race of women. a life with a woman of a different race = less drama,minor issues, a bw= more drama,major issues. bw also will blame anyone but themselves,yet theyre screwups. theyre very unpleasant and major turnoffs,other women are more pleasant and turnons.white,asian,hispanic and other women are all better women.when i have other black men and other races admitting bw are a problem then its true,bw are a waste

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    • deebee215 says:
      Posted: 26 May 12

      @Shydude Ease up a little. You really sound like a racist. We get it, you date white women, have at it. But do you really think black women are idiots, selfish, drama and a waste? C'mon if you're being honest, you have to admit those statements are way overboard!

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  18.   sharras87 says:
    Posted: 26 May 12

    I know I'm going to sound crazy coming from a black woman, but if I were a black man I would probably date other races as well. Depending on when and where he grew up its not a surprise that he would date a white woman. Matter of fact, every single guy I went to high school with is dating or getting married to someone of a different race. However, I dont blame them because I will admit alot of us black women are really mean for absolutely no reason. We are quick to get an attitude, overreact over the littlest things, and create the most unnecessary drama. I may sound like a self hating black woman, say what you want but at the age 25 who have been exposed to all sorts of environments, rich and poor, black, black, blue or brown; I would say we have so fucked up habits that needs to be worked on. and the thing about it is that I can understand when we are younger it was the thing to be the "diva that dont take no shit" but at the age of 28 years of age and you STILL acting like that something is wrong and those are always the women that complain the most. With this being said, not all black women are like this of course, but our attitude, the way we carry ourself, and the way we feel about ourselves plays a huge part. In one final note, I really feel that black women need to get over it if black men date other races...it does not mean that he hates his own kind...I repeat does mean that he is a self hatting brother who is a victim of slavery. Let it go!!!!! And it doesnt mean that white women are superior to black women either its just that when two people have general interest in other, its going to happen. Esp to know that there are so many beautiful people in this world of all races.

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  19.   qixx1964 says:
    Posted: 25 May 12

    Once again to the women, especially black women on here. Leave us black me alone. If we like a white girl then we do. We don't owe any of you a damn thing, NOTHING!!! This topic does not concern any of you. Damn, us guys can't even have a genuine discussion because, as usual, majority of women with their negative attitudes have to ruin everything and just don't know when to the "F" up!!! Mind your own damn business. Actually, you are helping in one way. The more you negativity you show the more you are actually giving the best examples of why us black me like a white girl. Today's black woman is nothing like yesteryears black woman. That is for sure.

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  20.   METULO says:
    Posted: 25 May 12

    You guys...this kind of discussion is only valid for shortsighted world of apartheid groups.............. .... I suggest that you visit the nearest counseling facilities for help...... I am totally black but I was in relation with a white woman for years without a problem and when my term was over, I switched back to a black woman to date and with all my senses I have not noticed any problem/differences... .... we are what we are and colors outside our bodies are merely in our skins only if removed we will all look the same.... take care.....

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  21.   hotsoul27 says:
    Posted: 25 May 12

    For me it is because it is a different type of beautiful that i've never experience but have always been interested in. To each his or her own.

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  22.   HotPickle says:
    Posted: 23 May 12

    I don't know wether to SMH or LMAO. Reading this has certainly be a roller coaster of emotion for alot of you. Date who you date. Be happy. Thank GOD for whatever man or woman you are blessed with. For the Black (Men) who think poorly of us. By all means, leave us alone. We are not loosing out on anything with that attitude. I Perfer white men myself. That's just because I attract the right ones ^_^ Smooches all. Have a BLESSED DAY.. Hug someone, because some of you could use it...

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  23.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 20 May 12

    qixx1964 and jesusgirl12,thanks, im going to be honest i hate black women.this was supposed to be for men who prefer ww or ww themselves.black women are losers ,they dont like it,doesnt matter.you cant change me. most brothas and non black females are winners

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    • qixx1964 says:
      Posted: 23 May 12

      I agree. This question was not even for women to begin with. The ones on our side know exactly what we are talking about. Forget the rest.

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  24.   turtleman03 says:
    Posted: 19 May 12

    Best thing that could happen to this country is what's happening now: interracial relationships.

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    • Panama1971 says:
      Posted: 26 May 12

      Hey shydude74 you are lucky man,you have not seen mistreatment yet.I have lived in america for 25 years and i still dont understand why american women are so afraid of dating man from overseas.Being from panama thats is the estereotype i face constantly.The reason i dont understand this estereotype is because i could care less where a woman is from.I would be ignorant if i dated only women born in panama correct?

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  25.   Jesusgurl12 says:
    Posted: 17 May 12

    Well said qixx1964, you actually beat me to the punch! I'm not trying to bash on the other females here but your responses alone would send any person running let alone a man! Yes girls are always going to have drama but ya'll don't need to go stirring the pot on the whole interracial dating scene. People are always going to have preferences just like size or hair color! I frankly LOVE black men cause they tend to be more confident and expressive about how much they like me! I've always felt more at ease with black men because of that! However at the same time skin color isn't the only thing I look at because I've dated white guys also and they didn't make my heart flutter in the same way! But that's just my opinion and well opinions are kinda like armpits; everyone has them but most of them stink! lol

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    • Panama1971 says:
      Posted: 26 May 12

      I do agree with your comment turtleman 03,just remember that there are uneducated people out here that think that races should not mix.I like white girls very much,but i stay away from women that only date a certain race because most of the time they dont do it because it is based on preference but rather with a racial or cultural motive.

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  26.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 15 May 12

    The question was why do you like a white girl ? Not what have BW did to make you like white girls? It was too easy to say "I like them because this, this and that!" Why the need to start whipping on BW? I find it suspect anytime BM or BW start to find everything under the sun wrong with the other as a reason for preferring or liking who they like. It sounds like you got some "shame in ya game!" It's no crime if I say, "I'm dating WM because I haven't had much luck making a connection with a BW as of yet!" I'm not casting blame or dogging anyone I'm just pointing out the truth of the matter, I haven't been able to secure a relationship with a BW, this way I leave it to the one that asked me the question to make their own assuptions as to why I haven't been able to connect with a BW. You should be able to say "I'm with who I'm with regardless of all that I love about BW/BM or the few things that I may dislike about some of them. It's not about them, it's about your decision to allow a non-BW or BM the chance to love you and anothing more, no justification or finger pointing required nor desired! Sad to say it, many of us BM and BW are more than likely still wrestling with some issues as it relates to IR dating and marriage and because some of us are not totally comfortable with our decisions due to pressure from society, family or not wanting to feel as if we've turned our backs on the men or women from our own group so we often look for scapegoats and what better way than to take any little grievence or gripe about the other and turn it into something much bigger than what it is as a means to assuage our inner conflict. Go on about your business and leave the other alone because at the end of the day they'll find someone to love them and you be alone and miserable. LOMA Best wishes to all!

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    • qixx1964 says:
      Posted: 16 May 12

      @ NoPlayer - Look at the first comment. It is by a woman. Why? Unless she is lesbian then she is not qualified to answer the question. She is not qualified to even guess as we all have our reasons. And she sure as hell can't answer for us fellas who like white women. Number 2; Look who started the bashing? A BLACK WOMAN!!! She took it upon herself to use this forum. This was her perfect opportunity. ZEE25 started that crap with SHYDUDE74. He responded perfectly to the question and even stated why. Kudos to the brotha. Shame on ZEE25. And guess what? You are damn straight that I am going to get all defensive when a black woman starts with that crap. No man owes them anything. I sure as hell don't need any grief. Let's stick to the question at hand. “Why do you like a white girl?” Actually the question should have been "Why do you black men like white girls?"

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      • qixx1964 says:
        Posted: 17 May 12

        Fellas, look at this. All the females that responded: Llsmooth8 Scandiblond hunnybee1982 Zee25 reese angel1000000 bklyn2tx jamie303 I wonder if they are lesbian? Nah, because none of them answered the question. I know one thing. They need to go back to 3rd grade because they can't read. And all it took was one dumb chick to get things started and all the rest followed. These are the same ignorant chicks that make a brotha want to run for the hills. To Scandiblond, how the hell would you know? You are the least qualified to agree on this. Fellas, the birds that responded are nothin but chicken heads and have nothing better to do with their time. This conversation is not even for them but once again, it's black chicks trying to tell a black man how he should be or not be or why he feels or does not feel a certain way. To all that read this conversation, look at what all the women wrote and how they bashed black men and you have a concrete answer as to why the majority of us black men like white women. Enough said.

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        • reese says:
          Posted: 20 May 12

          Please lesbian really. My comment wasn't even to do with black men dating white women my response was to the black women who was concerned and I said not to worry about the black men who think black women are inferior so maybe your reading skills need improvement. I am not concerned with what black men like I am on interacial dating sight so obviously I am looking elsewhere.

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    • Summersnite says:
      Posted: 19 May 12

      Noplayer is always the voice of reason....lol.

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  27.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 15 May 12

    qixx1964 thanks for being on the same page with myself. youre exactly right these black females like the ones on here is what drives black men away and makes them an enemy.the brothas are cool, other races are cool too in comparison from my experience and other black men feel the same for the most part.

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  28.   h202w says:
    Posted: 15 May 12

    i wanted to see what it was like when younger. Liked it. sistaz. like it too. i think most the top survey answers are here already. One thing for sure, when i meet my woman of "snow", she wont be a rosanne barr, and there are some black men sistaz, that you oughta just let some white women have, because you arent going to do nothing with those guys anyway. Dont even neeed to think about it either.

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  29.   qixx1964 says:
    Posted: 15 May 12

    Can't we all just get along? Being 48 years old I have dated all across the spectrum and I have even been married. Why did I date across the spectrum, because I could. And you know what It came down to who could provide me with what i was seeking in a partner. So what if someone has has a racial preference. Last I heard slavery was over. No one is bound to any one or any thing except their own self . It's a free country or have a lot of you forgotten that? And to the black women responding so harshly, why? That fuels the fire and makes some of us black men feel the way we do about black women. So you are not helping in any way. Life is to short for the petty bullshit. You know we live in America where we have choices to date and marry whom ever we want. Imagine being in a country where your marriage or the person who you had to be with was arranged and you couldn't have a preference. We live in a diverse country and and I am so glad that I have the freedom to decide what flavor ice cream I want to try before it becomes a preference. To Shydude74...Do your thing. The people giving you grief don't pay your bills and live your life so they don't even matter.

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  30.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 14 May 12

    turtleman03 i feel your pain,other races appreciate you more go for them. why would you want to put up with the trouble bw gave you?. you dont need acceptance from them.i understand where you coming from,if you read the comments from the brothas on this page youd see were on the same page.

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  31.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 14 May 12

    54rocway you have to keep searching,youre come across a white female eventually.i understand how you have great chemistry with them in the past.white females are one of the most desired women,theyre usually nicer and are quite attractive.blondes,brunettes,redheads all can be sexy.

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  32.   turtleman03 says:
    Posted: 14 May 12

    I have no problem dating women of my own race. But this is the reason why I date predominately outside my race: My father is Creole (African, Spanish, Native American, French), and my mother is black (African decent). I grew up in a household that was strict on education and becoming an asset to society. I am also very cultured having traveled around the world since i am in the Air Force. Many of the black women I have tried to date have denied dating me for not being "black enough". I think it's ignorant and pathetic that they'd say that because here I am, an educated black man with a job, his own car, and a career and just because I talk proper English and listen to all different types of music I'm not "black enough"? Then so be it. It seems that women of OTHER races appreciate who I am more. So no, it's not a matter of me not accepting black women, it's a matter of black women not being able to accept ME.

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    • Summersnite says:
      Posted: 19 May 12

      How could you be so well traveled and HAVE such a narrow view African American women? Have you ever asked yourself...whats working in me that I keep drawing these type of women to myself?? Why haven't I been able to draw an intelligent, accepting, kind, loving black women to myself?? Stop hiding behind your excuses! Besides the number of Black women with some form of advanced education exceeds that of black men.....the sheer numbers prove the likely hood of you finding a like minded AAW is high! You need to put on some courage, search yourself and stop being a coward! Maybe YOUR truth is you are simply not attracted to black women...we dont excite you. I could respect that way more than you saying every black women you encounter doesn't think your black enough. Besides its impossible to hate us and not hate yourself....love it or hate it we will ALWAYS BE A PART OF YOU.......THERE IS NO RUNNING FROM YOUR DNA! Maybe in time you and shydude will forgive, heal and become emotionally healthy men!

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    • deebee215 says:
      Posted: 26 May 12

      I think you mean "speak proper English" Mr. Educated Blackman!

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    • SugaIcedT says:
      Posted: 29 May 12

      You seem like you could be very cultured from your posting. I just don't see how you've allowed your previous selection of black female companions to justify for your present preference of women. If you don't like black women, you don't like black women. Your reason doesnt make sense. I have never met a black man who I thought wasn't "black" enough. I believe any educated person would appreciate all your qualities, even your selection of music. It sounds like you just didn't want to make time to meet a good black woman who would show you the respect you deserved. It's ignorant and pathetic to categorize an entire race of women for a few encounters with unappreciative individuals.

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  33.   54rocway says:
    Posted: 13 May 12

    I like my race and i have dated my race .But i have always been pulled to white girl. I have dated white women before and had a lovely time. But that was when i was in highschool. But as a older man it has been harder to fine a white lady to date.these day...BUT i as still looking.

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  34.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 09 May 12

    to the 50 yr old brotha,i understand you big time,nearly anyone not a black female can understand this.go for other women,someone who will appreciate you.this coming from another black man that can relate,im younger but i understand i feel the same.

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  35.   Zaczac3619 says:
    Posted: 09 May 12

    I hear it all,as a 50yr blkm. I married 51yr blkw. Wored two jobs and her additude really caused me to never date blkw again. I never cheated, always stood there beside her,right or wrong, and blkw ru r wrong some of the time. I datr any rase of woman,because woman r truly gods gift to man. Ill never date blkw because I dont want the additude,and every blkw woman has it except for my grandmother.

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  36.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 08 May 12

    WW *typo

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  37.   jamie303 says:
    Posted: 08 May 12

    I've asked my brother (who only dates white and hispanic women) the same question and he came up with the same excuse as most BM make "black women have attitudes" every woman has attitude but BW are the only ones singled out for it.. other races of women are characterized as feisty or firey.. I have no problem with interracial couples you love what you love no matter the color but I'm tired of being bashed as a BW by black men saying We all have bad attitudes.. saying we have attitudes is an excuse if you love WM why do you have to use an excuse or another woman to explain your attraction toward her? If you love them because you.think they are beautiful and they work for you then that's great but don't make excuses... by. Putting other people down

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  38.   bklyn2tx says:
    Posted: 06 May 12

    I keep reading that you guys rejected black women because you were treated badly by your mothers or black women in your family. Men and women are so different. I have yet to hear or read a woman say my white or black father mistreated me so I reject whatever race he belonged too! thats sooo funny to me. If a women were to say that she would be advised to get counseling to heal herself and her relationships. If for no other reason but your own emotional health, get counseling and try to heal those relationships with yourself and family. Otherwise you will live out decisions made from a child's mind NOT a MAN.not a MATURE man. and ALL and ANY self respecting woman of ANY race want a mature and emotionally sound man/husband/ father of her children. peace out!

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  39.   Chrisix9 says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    Can you blame him? Look at that girl. She is beautiful by any race standard.

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  40.   Khoa says:
    Posted: 03 May 12

    Love love white chocolate...even my dog is white :) but haven't found anyone yet! :(

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  41.   hunnybee1982 says:
    Posted: 03 May 12

    One thing I'd like to note shydude74 is that the negativity or the energy that you put out into the world will be returned to you. I completely understand that your preference for white women was heavily influenced by how you were treated by black girls in school and even so in your own family. We are all shaped by our experiences but it's sad that your experiences have in turn caused you to hate an entire group of people whom you actually share heritage with. And that's very sad. And I'm not actually sure if you have ever dated a black woman and had a bad experience or if you are just basing your opinions of ALL black women based on your past interactions with school mates and family? Maybe you can clarify that. But if you have dated black women, and they've given you the attitude and problems that you say they have...Have you ever considered that they might have just been throwing the attitude and drama that you were giving them....right back at you????? I mean..on this post you CLEARLY stated that you would rather die than date a black woman and that also you feel that other ethnicities of woman are SUPERIOR (your words) to black women. If that is the same beliefs that you held while growing up and interacting with black females in your community, that would have most certainly affected the way you acted towards them, talked to them, and interacted with them. If that's the same beliefs you held while HALF ATTEMPTING to date a black woman, it would affect the way that you treated her....You're not going to be sweet as sugar to someone if you feel that are inferior to others. And even now, in your regular daily life....with co-workers, with strangers at the grocery store, at the bookstore, in traffic....when you interact with black women...who are complete strangers....do you treat them with contempt and a scowl on your face? But stay sweet as sugar to white women? Cause I get the feeling that's exactly how you behave...and that might be the root of your problem. No one is saying that you MUST date black women....and like Reese said..it might be a great thing that you don't in the event that you produce black female children who would grow up with MAJOR issues... But what I'm saying is that if you believe that someone is inferior...you MOST CERTAINLY WILL TREAT THEM LIKE THEY ARE "INFERIOR"...and I know, based on human nature...that if you treat ANYONE-black, white, green or blue-Like they are inferior..they won't return the gesture with niceness and kindness....

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  42.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 02 May 12

    chiminaaz,thats the best thing you could do is try a white female,much easier to get along with. most black men would say the same. my experiences with white women much more pleasant.

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    • blu_eyes says:
      Posted: 10 Jun 12

      Can I ask you why you are so bitter to black women. No disrespect!

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  43.   chimanaaz says:
    Posted: 02 May 12

    I haven't dated a white lady before because they are really few here. It has always been my dream to date one and be able to exchange our different cultural backgrounds.

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  44.   Lifewenton says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 12

    For me the experience of dating white females has been nothing but pleasant with no drama I can be myself and I don't have to worry about anything too much I am aggressive professionally with white females I can just be myself on the other hand dating black females has been 1 nightmare after another I will never step into that courtyard ever again I think the reason why black females act the way they do. Is because they are so use to being head of household and when the man comes into their life date instantaneously go into domination mode that is what drove me away again and again and again with white females not all of them but most of them seemed to be more family oriented and that is what I love the most about them but with african american never again I will share a short story with you I relocated to a certain part of greensboro north carolina with a african american system after knowing her for about a year. I love her dearly along with her 2 children just to find out that this woman was nothing more than a well you know the rest of that I have moved past that but that was the straw that broke the camel's back never never never again I am currently in search of a professional single white female and I will find her and that is all I'm going to say on that

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    • shydude74 says:
      Posted: 30 Apr 12

      i agree completely and understand your preference of white females,much easier to deal with.

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      • blu_eyes says:
        Posted: 10 Jun 12

        Well I have read all of your comments. So in my honest opinion, I date only black men. The reason why, well I am 42 yrs of age and my first was a black man. I nevered dated a white guy. BUt, I do not see color. I think that if a man treats you right that is all that matters. It just so happens everyone I datesd was black. I just did not go out just looking for black men. But on your defense. I hear alot of black men say the same thing that you do. Oh lets not forget this saying" When a black man gets money he goes to a white girl". My question is "What does money have to do with anything".

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    • YYUMMY says:
      Posted: 30 Apr 12

      @shydude....from my own experience 91% of Black men SUCK...rather die than be involved with them.zee 25 i didn’t ask for your lousy opinion. everybody not a black male can understand this usually especially you tube. Doesn’t that sound IGNORANT! You would rather die??? You were involved with a black mother....the one who gave birth to you remember...or did you forget you came out of a black woman’s vagina. With that being said...I don’t really date Black, White, or Asian men...not because they have treated me bad...I’m just more attracted to Latin men physically. I will not ban other races because I am more attracted to Latin men…if another race comes along and I feel there is a connection…I am all in. I had bad experiences dating black, white, and Latin men. All 3 were liars and drama- filled…aka DONKEYS. There is good and bad in every race. I once dated a white man, and the mother of his child continued to refer to me as a NIGER. Does that mean that every white woman is a racist or bad people to date? Of course not…that would be IGNORANT to think so. If someone treated you bad change your circle...you don’t ban the entire race based on an experience in your childhood. Preference based on physical attraction is different than not dating a particular race because of some bad experience. If you are mostly attracted to white women physically....meaning no bias because another race treated you bad then you wouldn’t sound ignorant....no one can tell you who to be attracted to. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.

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      • reese says:
        Posted: 01 May 12

        Girl, do not let that bother you at all. And don't be as crazy sounding as they are. Let them step can you imagine if either of them had black daughters how they would be treated are raised with a complex. It is better that they go.

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      • angel1000000 says:
        Posted: 04 May 12

        So true Yummy i have had bad experience with most of the African american males more then i have with a Caucasian or latino male my great grandmother was raped by her slave owner and my grand mother was born but that story didn't make me dislike Caucasian men men are men women are women no matter what color or nationality they are love is love maybe the African american women that treated you bad was for a reason im just saying

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      • maxi30002000 says:
        Posted: 15 May 12

        Well said YYUMMY, you hit the point.Anybody that does't understand after reading your comment will never understand.Thank you for taking your time and write such a beautiful comment. i hope Shydude 74 gets it.

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  45.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 12

    from my own experience 91 percent of black females suck,rather die than be involved with them.zee 25 i didnt ask for your lousy opinion. everybody not a black female can understand this usually especially you tube.

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  46.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 12

    to zee25 you dont understand not surprising thats why other races oare superior to youll.every other race has treated me fine,but black women thats my experience negative.youre not a black man or a woman of another race and im not your brotha thank god.

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    • salsagirl17 says:
      Posted: 04 May 12

      hello:-)!I feel a lot into this hot topic.I think that behind skin differences(as far as i remember,our skin colour is mainly due to geographical conditions) it is a much more about our background and how we were raised. I come from Eastern Europe and I had a caring and loving family .this means:i was used to show feelings to those who I cared about..a hug..a kiss..a nice word..a caress..or simply A SMILE that can warm one's heart:-)- First of all we are ALL women..good white,good black.Usually,I don't see the colour.II see the person's essence in front of m,the connection btw us...but during time some of the black girls became really aggressive in every life aspects.and some times for stupid reasons. So,i think we all have to work on improving ourselves but not blaming the colour.None is superior to the other only 4 skin colour.Sincere hugs:-)

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    • mysticsoul2000 says:
      Posted: 16 May 12

      @shydude- wow i really feel bad that you had to go through that- but hey never be afraid to speak what you feel- most people don't have the guts to speak their truth feelings- just be prepared to handle people remarks. I being a black woman (duh-lol) am not offended by what you said it your reality and not mines- i feel alittle sad for you but hey. I just pray one day you can see that not all black women are not the same. Which im pretty sure you know that. And man date who you like- because i sure don't wanna be with a man who only like me for my color or don't like me for that matter. I can also understand some black women being offend when we hear black men say negative stuff that about black women it is a slap in the face but if the shoe don't fit don't wear it. And heck why do we care and why did i read this scrap-lol-- Love, peace and happiness to all :-)

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  47.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 12

    well for me white girls were nicer to me in school,that and many of them are attractive.where as black girls were rude with the attitude and drama.so those reasons plus being treated bad by my family mostly black females led me into falling in love with white females.ive dated some white females and my first love was white.

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    • Zee25 says:
      Posted: 28 Apr 12

      Then why the heck are you single if white women are perfect to you? you would think that with your ignorant stereotyping of black women you would be forever off the market....into a white woman's arms. Re examine your attitude bro....it won't take you far in life.

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      • shydude74 says:
        Posted: 29 Apr 12

        its not ignorant stereotyping black women 91 percent of them have been pain in the rear in,but you like most black females cant understand that nothing new thats why youll arent my preference.

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    • mabhe says:
      Posted: 28 Aug 12

      It seems like many people in the USA experience black women as angry, scorned, attitude etc, which is really tragic, and I'm sure there are good reasons for it. But just to add my 2cents' worth- most black women outside of the USA especially in Africa have not grown up in a hood or ghetto but in a normal family environment with loving parents or extended families. We have been educated and are frankly surprised by some of the perceptions that we meet on forums such as this one. To all the decent men out there- some of us don't even know what this perception is all about- we were born Free lol

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  48.   humptyz says:
    Posted: 24 Apr 12

    I've asked myself this question many times and only recently admitted to myself a big part is how I was treated by my mom. We didn't have the best relationship I'll say and one of the ways I expressed my hatred for her was by rejecting black women. That doesn't mean I'm not attracted to white women, because I am, just that my response to my upbringing predisposed me to finding affection elsewhere from an early age.

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  49.   erik says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 12

    im hispanic,and the reason i like white girls is cause they take care of themselves better than other hispanic or black women. The other women of different races kinda let themselves go after they get thier man

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    • EdEddEddy says:
      Posted: 22 Apr 12

      You don't honestly believe that, do you? That's quite the generalization; like saying all black people run fast, jump high, and dance well.

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  50.   Llsmooth8 says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 12

    We are all at different levels of consciousness! That's a good thing! This would be a pretty boring world if we all were the same. Same color; same attitude; same language; same likes and dislikes; that would be pretty boring; looking at yourself all the time. I think God knew this when He created the world; By the way, He knows everything! Possibly,that's why He gave us the gift of Choice! We make choices depending on our personal experiences and individual level of consciousness; level of awareness! Some of us aren't ready to accept diversity; that variety is the spice of life! That's ok, they will when they get it! It's up to each individual! God doesn't judge us; take as long as you need! To those of us that do get it; Enjoy; that's what life is about! PeaceOut

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