Can we be honest about interracial dating to one another?

Posted by James, 06 Jan

In this era of identity politics and race, it's hard to be sure whether we can honestly speak our minds when talking about interracial relationships to one another. Most of us find it difficult to express our thoughts on love and race. Some things are actually quite sensitive.

With the internet and pop culture, people are becoming more expressive. So we have a more complex understanding of attraction and race. Speaking of attraction and desirability, people are now shedding light on how Asian men are as sexy as men from all other races.

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When it comes to discussing love and race between couples, its a pretty sensitive topic to navigate, especially with racial identity and race being the most popular topics on social media and the news.

There are some people in interracial relationships with white people who find themselves questioning their relationships and desirability. Then there are times you find yourself protecting your spouse from your judgmental family and find it hard to address this issue with one another. There is the issue of fetishizing a certain race that has been brought to the limelight which sometimes, might make one wonder whether someone is really attracted to them or the person is objectifying them. And then there is that inner voice that might make you feel that you really are betraying your race by dating interracially.

So today lets use this platform to candidly express our thoughts. Is it that you need to talk to your spouse about race? Are you just looking for a place where you can talk freely about things you can't tell your spouse? Are you looking for a space to express yourself freely without having to get defensive about why you are in an interracial relationship? Well, the floor is yours. Let's hear it...

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  1. Posted: 1 day ago

    When it comes to love and happiness, what should matter is how the two people feel about each other and do they want to be together. Race should not matter or should be an issue of small consequence. As for family acceptance, what they should be looking at is how happy the person makes their family member and is this a healthy or toxic relationship in how the family member is being treated by the other person. If the relationship is healthy and positive, BE Happy for your family member and give the person a chance.

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  2.   RozApr57 says:
    Posted: 1 day ago

    I don't see why not. There's nothing wrong with expressing your feelings without stepping on each other's toes.

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  3.   Jfabie says:
    Posted: 16 Jan

    To me the skin color don't matter at all it all about respect, love, communication, honesty once we have those we won't even think or seen our selves as black or white . I always find whites man attractive I don't know why but there's so many good things about them that I love I'm not saying black folks don't have them but it can be different though

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  4.   Feonix says:
    Posted: 14 Jan

    This is so relevant. I have a great guy in my life that I met on this site. But now we’re not talking because we had a massive conversation about race. He believes that I’m too connected to being black as a tribal mindset versus being black from a place of power. There’s been so much growth having him in my life. So much fun and peace. But I realized tonight that we just don’t see eye to eye on my view concerning being black. It was typical white mindset vs black mindset. It was uncomfortable. It was intense. It was painful. I decided to let go. Whatever he decides is cool. I’m over defending myself for my awareness of the black struggle. I won’t stop celebrating wins and victories in the black community. But it hurts because I care about him deeply and I don’t want it to end. After it’s all said and done, I’d rather settle for a good man than abandon the celebration of my people to have an amazing man in my life. Hurts but I will be okay.. I will be okay.

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    • SALANDREA says:
      Posted: 6 days ago

      IMO racial, religion and political issues should be civil discussions amongst couples. If it leads to anything more (resentment, anger ect) it's an indication that the annoyed person does not value your thoughts. Take a step back an evaluate. And never.... constantly push your beliefs onto another

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  5.   Liam_Reedus says:
    Posted: 12 Jan

    Well each relationship is different. You have to know what you want and figure out if your spouse is in the same boat. As of right now my relationship is great. Me and my spouse speak very often. Yet I'm christian so not all will share my thoughts here but technically it's still the same in reality of all. God created the world and all in it. Each maybe different but god knows we all fall in love different ways different reasons. You must be evenly yolked. That has nothing to do with shade as does your moral and values. Like if your a free spirit being with a settled spirit wont work. Yet the struggle is real on figuring out if its a fetish or legit love. White men remember when dating women of other colors there is a stigma to dating them as well as you first off let that go and let her understand your true intentions. Don't by all means don't make reading her profile and pretending to be what she's looking for your thing. She will find out. Women are inquisitive yet they are very adapt in looking for gaps she will find out just be honest. If she likes you for whom you are then hey all to the future. Same extent if she doesn't then let it be.

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  6.   ForevaNaDay says:
    Posted: 12 Jan

    I have always found white men to be attractive, but as a black woman, I struggle with finding a way to connect with them. I mean, the conversations will be going great, then all of a sudden, I get a peen pic. Any suggestions? FYI: I’m very upfront and honest about what I want on my profile.

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    • Liam_Reedus says:
      Posted: 14 Jan

      It's not just white boys there. Unfortunately most boys today don't think they have to treat a woman well just flash their parts and its good cause being taught you have to earn what you want and the best things in life aren't free. It's sad reality which may have been just as bad years ago we just didn't have all the technology to show it.

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