Act the bad girl; snatch the guy?

A bad girl is like a skilled fisherman. She lets the bait dangle close to the fish’s mouth, then she pulls it away. Then she lets it dangle, then she pulls it away, with the soft to-and-fro of the current, until the next time the fish sees the bait, he can’t help but swallow it, hook, line, and sinker. – Psychiatrist Carole Lieberman

In her book "Bad Girls:Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets", Dr Lieberman exalts the benefits of being a bad girl and also warns men to beware of bad girls and gives tips on how to cut themselves free of the ones already in their lives. "I want my 'Bad Girls' become a classic book that men and women consult while trying to survive the dating jungle..." She says.

Much as we are told to be ourselves when it comes to dating, this time around, Dr. Lieberman advices girls to play games. And the game here is: Playing the Bad Girl. And apparently, she has proven her theories through rigorous research and interviews on a considerable number of men and women on this subject of the mysterious Bad Gal. In her research, she discovered that being a crafty, toying, and mysterious woman is what men desire; its what men will commit to! And various men confessed to being hooked on bad girls and talk about how these girls ruined their lives.

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"I think it’s important for women and men to stop being taught the unimportant things about relationships. What would surprise many people who have not read my book is that men honestly remember every detail of a toxic relationship, down to what the woman wore on the day the bad girls they broke up with them," says Liebernan. "Women are also taught by their mothers to be good girls, but that’s not very attractive to men, so they’d better learn how to become attractive outwardly, which is just as important as what is inside." In her opinion, the only way a man can know you are a good girl or you are the girl for keeps, is to learn the ability to cast the seductive spells and get the guy first. Makes sense because how will he know you if you don't have him in the first place?

She also talks about the twelve types of bad girls and gives celebrity examples. Remember the then wild turned good Angelina Jolie? Well according to Lieberman, she is the "Husband Stealer" type. Then we have Pamela Anderson being the "Commitment Phobe"... and the list goes on. In fact you will be shocked because in her view, Kate Middleton (much as she is a good girl) used her bad girl spell to snatch the Prince. Here is an interview she did with Lifetime TV Show "The Balancing Act".

To be honest, as a man, I am not going to admit openly that I like it when are woman toys with me or keeps slipping through my fingers BUT for some unexplainable reason, such women intrigue me and I chase after them with all I got – to prove a point to myself is what I’d say is my motive. But then again, why I stay once I have proven that point is a mystery to me too.

Do men really like being toyed around with; the old bait-and-switch way?

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