My ethnicity is | Black |
Height | 5'2"-5'6" |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Long-term/Friends/Penpal |
Body type | Few extra pounds |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Never drink |
Nickname | Royalty0201, Woman, 50 |
Location | Kansas City, Missouri, USA |
Looking for a | Man, aged 36 - 47, Black/White/Pacific Islander... |
My ethnicity is | Black |
Height | 5'2"-5'6" |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Long-term/Friends/Penpal |
Body type | Few extra pounds |
Have children | Children at home |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Never drink |
How would you describe yourself?
I am 5'6" and thick, with a few extra pounds due to the babies (two little girls - 1 and 2 years old who are my angels and my world), but working on losing it and getting toned. I have received compliments so it is coming off slowly but surely.
I currently work part-time due to some things that happened before I was separated (but I know this is for a season; it is only temporary). For the record, I am a hard worker and very dedicated to what I do. Unfortunately employers I have come across either think I am over or underqualified for jobs I have applied for, but it may be forcing me to definitely go into business for myself, which I am getting my information together about that at this time. Given my employment status, this is one reason why I would want to start as friends first. The second reason I would want to be friends first is because friendship is the foundation to any great relationship, especially for marriage. I only attend church service once a week right now because of the season I am in. I will not sacrifice my babies for the sake of going to church every time the doors are open or preferring a man over them. I am not needy or desperate. I am just up front like this so if you can't appreciate my sharing this up front, no need to read any further, but thanks for stopping by.:) Otherwise, feel free to read on.
I love Christ, meaning have a personal relationship with Him. I am not perfect by any means and not looking for the perfect man because Christ is the only perfect man who walked this earth. I grew up in the church but realized when I got older I was a 007 Christian. After having a car accident my freshman year of college, I realized I needed a relationship with Christ. That was when everything and my outlook on life and others changed. I have made mistakes since then as well, but thank God for His grace and mercy. It is nothing I want to take advantage of, but at the same time, there is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus. I am quick to ask for forgiveness from Him and others, even if I feel like I did someone wrong and it bothers me, I will ask for their forgiveness so I know it is well with me. They may not be thinking about it, but I have a conscious. Sorry... That is just my heart. If this bothers you in any way, then we definitely can't have a connection because I have to connect to a man on multiple levels - spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically. If you are turned off at this point, you can stop here, thanks for reading and I pray you find what you are looking for.
I do wear my heart on my sleeve. That can be good and bad, but I rather be sensitive to others instead of being insensitive. I am very detail-oriented. I like to read. My favorite authors are Max Lucado and John C. Maxwell. I like to read about: self-improvement, healthy living/eating, business, leadership, and relationships primarily.
I like to cook, bake (trying to get into fixing more healthier alternatives), but I don't think baking some cookies every now and then will hurt as long as exercise is applied. LOL :) I am not a health nut.
I like roller skating, singing (more of a back ground kind of singer in a group setting) LOL, dancing. I also like walks in the park, bike riding. I would like to try water skiing. I don't know about the snow just yet. LOL I would have to try the bunny trail first, of course. I am game though. Willing to try anything once, within reason, of course.
I like various genres, but I love contemporary gospel (Be Be and Ce Ce Winnans, Kirk Franklin, Marvin Sapp, Yolanda Adams, etc...) and worship. With respect to R&B, I am more into love ballads, (old school and some new school), i. E., Luther, Boyz II Men, Usher, Freddie Jackson, Baby Face Stevie Wonder, Shirly Murdock, Kesha Cole, Alicia Keys, Beyonce, John Legend, Monica, Mary J, Jill Scott, and Maxwell, etc... I know I love praise & worship, but at the same time, I know when I am with my man that we are not trying to hear that when we are trying to be intimate... So I know there is a time and a place for everything.
I like poetry and listening to the Spoken Word. I like going to museums, amusement/water parks - where you can let the kid in you come out. LOL I like roller coasters. I am open to trying new things within reason.
I love true stories and shows like Shark Tank, Undercover Millionaire and Extreme Home Makeover. I drop at the drop of a hat every time (when watching the latter two shows) because I have a giving heart and love helping people.
I am very caring, sincere, sensual, love to snuggle, very affectionate. I love a good stimulating conversation. I like receiving and giving little notes or cards just to say I was thinking about you or you are on my mind.:)
I love a chivalrous man. That is a major turn on for me. If you are that way, please don't be fake and only conduct yourself that way short-term. I hate fake and phony. I can see right through it. I love honesty no matter what because that is the key to any friendship. True friends tell the truth, even if it hurts. There can be no foundation if your relationship is built on lies - PERIOD.
I know my love languages. My top two love languages are quality time and physical touch. I probably needed a bed in the office when I was single, before marriage, but seasons change and I believe we have to change with the season of life we are in and operate accordingly.
I am career-oriented, but my family will always come first. Right now, my first ministry is my girls and I will not bring different men before them because I have an example to set for them. I will only bring a new man before them when I know we are serious... Talking about marriage because I do not play when it comes to my babies and I don't want them to think it is okay to have a lot of men in and out of your life. I want them to grow up knowing and learning that mommy is a virtuous woman operating in integrity and excellence in all she does, knowing who she is in Christ and demonstrating that confidence because she know who she is and Who's she is.:)
I was the kind of girl who went after her education and focused on her career first, which is why the kids came later (after marriage), so they were born in wedlock and by the same man. For inquiring minds. LOL
Although I am on here, I do still believe the man is the chaser because the woman loves to be pursued.
If you want to know more, feel free to send a message. I am not a paying member just yet because I am taking care of some other things right now. Again, I am not desperate or needy. I like to take care of my business and make sure my house is in order. I don't keep up with the Jones' but do what I can do with what I have right now. I am definitely making sure my girls are taken care of.
I am looking for
A romantic, down-to-earth guy who is intelligent, takes care of his business, goal-oriented, who loves family, and likes to have fun... Enjoys life.
A man who wants to learn about me and learn my heart. Someone who can share with me how he wants to be loved. I may not love him perfectly; only Christ can do that, but I want to try to come as close to it as much as possible.
Someone I can learn his heart and even the deep desires of his heart.
I want to be able to help him in his vision as his helpmeet one day because my ulitimate goal is to re-marry and I am talking forever. I am a firm believer of honoring the covenant made before God.
A man who understands that marriage is WORK and it will not and is not a bed of roses. If you think so and have never been married, you are highly mistaken. It takes two to make it work, so yes, communication is key. At the same time, that is where honesty has to come into play. Communication - Honesty = Disaster, trust totally destroyed, etc...
(Like God, I hate divorce, but sometimes situations are out of your control and you cannot override a person's will. I want to be friends first to see where it leads and eventually become best friend and soul mates.)
Some things are a given -- he should have his own place, work, and have a vehicle. If I have these things, I would expect the same from him. I would hope he has goals and aspirations and knows his love language and how to be affectionate. If you want to know more, please send a message. Take care and I really do hope you find what you are looking for.
In the end remember beauty is only skin deep. True beauty is reflected from the inside out. There are a lot of pretty girls (on the outside) but have the nastiest attitude and wrong expectations of a man; however, they don't portray that up front, but you realize that after the fact.
Who can find a virtuous woman...? Is it you? He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and receives FAVOR from the Lord.
I can share more later if you want to connect.
Take care & I wish you peace and prosperity in every area of your life.