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The Art of Charm by Jordan Harbinger

When it comes to the ‘science' of dating, The Art of Charm adheres to one simple philosophy: If you want to get the girl you like, then you need to become a better man.

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Posted by Jordan, 22 Oct 15

If you ask Mark Manson why we should listen to what he has to say about psychology and personal development, he might jokingly answer: “You shouldn’t.” He has no formal credentials, but two million people read his site each month and his work has been republished in The Huffington Post, TIME Magazine, Quartz, Business Insider, Vox, and others. He’s been asked to speak at a couple of universities and will be speaking to people at the Union Nations later this month.

The Cheat Sheet:

Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important values, such as self-respect, trust, and boundaries.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

The relationship scorecard is Toxic Habit 1, where people feel as though they are always “owed” things by their partner.

Boundaries Basics: taking responsibility for your own thoughts/emotions and expecting your partner to take responsibility for theirs.

World travel is both empowering and limiting; you gain new perspective, but it limits your ability to form commitments.

Realizing that everything you do doesn’t matter is a good thing, because it means you no longer have any excuses not to be who you wish to be.

And so much more…

In this episode of The Art of Charm, Mark talks to us about love, friendship, boundaries, relationships, commitments, and even world travel.

Listen to this episode of The Art of Charm in its entirety to learn more about The Friendship Test (ask yourself, “If my best friend was behaving this way towards me, would I tolerate it?”), establishing and acknowledging the need for personal boundaries in a relationship by taking a boundary inventory, taking responsibility for your own thoughts and emotions while expecting your partner to do the same for themselves, and why retaining the power to say “no” is important for both partners during a relationship.

Sure, it sounds like we’re going all over the place, but it’ll make sense when you give it a listen. Enjoy!

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Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you're interested in The Art of Charm residential programs, apply for a strategy call with a coach. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook or Twitter.