The seven compartments of women
There are seven compartments that men place women in… and it’s very rare for a woman to graduate from one room to the next. Well, here is why I thought of this:
My pal Janice has been having an affair with some guy Allan for quite a while now. Well, these two have been together the whole year, even those who just meet them refer to Janice as Allan’s wife-to-be. Just when our gang was planning a trip for the holidays, Linnet, Allan’s girlfriend, resurfaced for the December holidays.
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Two things happened: Janice got dumped faster than some hot potato and Allan gave his darling Linnet money to finish her studies in South Africa. Much as Janice is so pissed, she feels that Allan loves Linnet because she is learned. So as part of her New Year’s resolutions, she wants to go do her Masters degree. She is so convinced that this is the key to winning back Allan’s permanent affection.
Here is the advice I gave her: A man decides very early in a relationship what or who you will be to him and no matter what your plan of action is to get him to change his mind about your place in his life, he seldom does. So if you aren’t his wife, fiancée or serious girlfriend, then prepare yourself for a life in one of these seven suites in ‘hotel Man’.
1. The Bed Warmer: Or bench warmer if you wanna feel sporty. Now this is where my dearest Janice is … Allan’s bed warmer. And much as she has chosen to be blind, for as long as Linnet is in South Africa, Janice will be in play. She is there as a substitute … filling in for Linnet. Masters degree or not, the day Linnet lands for good, Allan will marry her and Janice will be left played!
2. Concubines: In a world where polygamy is frowned on by society, this is the best deal some women can get. Here, you are like the second wife – with a home coupled with children who the man takes care of. Concubines usually know the man is married. The wife may get to of her existence after the dude passes on, when she shows up to contest the will.
3. Mistresses: These are more like concubines … only replaceable. Most are usually taken places you never knew existed for rendezvous. Rent will be paid, you will shop till you drop, you will even be given a car. But once you have a falling out, all this disappears coz the log book or house is always in his name.
4. Playmates: Or CFAs (Convenient F***ing Arrangements) if you wish. Here the woman has a mutually hardcore arrangement with the dude … NOTHING MORE… Or on the flipside, the woman is a playmate and has no f***ing idea. If all you do when you meet ‘your’ man is hump, you are his toy … he aint your man. PERIOD!!!
5. Flings: Ever been a victim of a romantic entanglement which if lucky you escape without a scratch but more often than not, you leave with serious emotional injuries that take eons to heal? Some of us have flings out of infatuation, others boredom or mere confusion. And some men have flings just to get back at a third party – the ex. Do you know what the verb ‘fling’ means? “To throw out or hurl violently.” Well, if you have been placed in this category or just happen to be in one, just remember that is how you will be thrown out of it … violently.
6. One-night-stands: Steamy night between the sheets (or in a car or some bathroom) and he doesn’t call, text, email or facebook. Just know he doesn’t give a word-that’s-pronounced-like-sheet about you. Don’t bother asking him why. Get over it, already.
7. Exes: Most people usually forget that exes should just be exes and not people you run to for comfort (which ends up in sex), when you have a tiny fight with your current dude. And the guy will accept you with open arms, and treat you like Mrs. Right Now! And after the sex, he gives you reasons why now isn’t the right time for both of you. If you are your dude’s ex, you will always be that.
Well, now you can gauge which suite you are in ‘hotel Man’. If you are there accidentally, you can decide to change all that. If you claim to know what you are doing, I sure hope so. And if you are into running back and forth to the ex, maybe this Chinese saying will help: ‘When you reach the end of the last chapter, close the book!’ PERIOD!!
Hope this year brings all of you much love.
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Fire321 says:Posted: 30 May 09I agreee with james.h. A person will attract that which they are (at that time in their life). You may tell yourself that you would like a particular type of person as a mate but you tend to gravitate towards the type that suits you at that time in your life. I believe that with every decade of age, your standards change. When you're in your 30s, you won't be interested in the same type of man/woman you liked in your 20s. So it goes for when you are in your 40s, 50s etc....at least that should be the case if you're growing as an individual. If not, I would consider getting some therapy...hehe
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blubronxtail says:Posted: 18 Jan 09I just love these articles. I'm always interested in the latest news on the sexes. Now I agree with the levels above. However most men usually only have 5 different levels. : Level 1. The female friend. They are not attracted to you that much but if they are they don't want you to really know that. They may want you to become the Level 3 woman but that's about it. They will talk about other woman to you and ask advice, may even talk about how great they are sexually.Usually they may not even really tell you the full on truth about who they are. They are not reliable or dependable. They talk when there is nothing better to do. They may cancel hangouts with you and come up with bogus reasons. You don't get mad because this is your platonic friend and you really want to chew their ear off about dates with men, but say ok we'll reschedule. When your birthday comes around they may or may not remember. Level 2. The (real)female friend that they respect. They want you to become Level 3 woman but they don't have the guts to tell you how they really feel. This person idolizes you and if they had the chance would run off and marry you if you gave them the thought that it was an option. They also talk about how great they are in bed and also try to show you how similar your interests are. They may even give you gifts that seem a bit over the top for a platonic friend. The booty call/friends with benefits: The Level 3 woman is a woman who they can sleep with at random. Doesn't matter the time or place. They aren't required to spend a dime. They will also give you the "friends with benefits" conversation as if they are really providing you with real benefits. This person is usually horrible in bed but what better way to practice than with a woman who they don't really respect or care about. The very act of her sleeping with him further confirms his views and he test how far she will go to further break herself down. He is embarrassed to be seen with this woman, either based on her physical appearance ,racial, economic standings or known promiscuous behavior. If this man does let anyone know of his involvement with this woman, it's to further his "yeah I hit that" status. GIRLFIEND/WIFE Level 4 woman is the wife material. The one that a man knows is and will always be the one. The one he can't live without. The one that he respects for reasons of either education, moral,religious,physical attractiveness etc. or all of the above. MOTHER/SISTER/TEACHER etc. Level 5 the woman that shape his views on how to treat other woman. Hopefully what he sees helps him establish good relations with other women but ultimately a man will make his own choice regardless. Usually he never discusses sex with any of these woman either due to their age or his actual relation to the individual. Now I do know alot of men have those fantasies about the teacher and pet scenario but If she's a woman in her 70's with salt and pepper hair, she's usually not the sex symbol to come to mind for most men. Well there it is my view on the subject:) ~Much Blue Love!!!
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james.h says:Posted: 11 Jan 09Some stay in some categories longer than others but usually it depends on how they see the themselves and the guy they are dealing with at that particular time. In my humble opinion, if you are the best that you can be, and I don't mean you loving yourself, we all should do that no matter what, but if you are the best and are at your best emotionally...your dating and relstionship issues will seem to disappear. If you KNOW for a fact that you could look better and you do not do what it takes to look better, than you are not at your best. If you do not make enough money and you do not do what it takes to improve yourself fiscally, than you are not at your best. Now, with that being said, ask yourself this question: Does like attracts like? Do like people attract like people into their lives? If so, and you are not at your best...well, that means whatever guy or girl that you get will not be at his or her best either. That means you will always be looking for more and so will he or she. Always. It's human nature and you cannot stop it. Don't believe me, ask yourself how many times you looked at another man or women who was not as attractive as the person you were with? Probably never. Or interested in a man who wasn't as funny? Or looked at a person who made less money? You probably didn't at all. Now how many times did you wonder about a person you saw in a Ferrari while you were sitting next to your mate in that Nissan? Or saw the girl in the low cut jeans while you sat with your girl who was 25 pounds overweight? How many times did you enjoy the girl who seemed to be happier than the girl you were with? We have all been in those situations. The only rub is more often than not, we look for more from other people, when we should always look at ourselves first. When you are at your best, you attract the best...doesn't matter what color they are. When you are not at your best, then you attract someone who is also not at their best and that means you are both just comforting each other. I dont care what anyone says, deep down...you are either comfort for someone or he is comfort for you. Once you become the best in most every facet of your life you will see that you will attract the same and neither of you will be looking elsewhere or for comfort from the other...you will stand on your own better and co-exist better together
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james.h says:Posted: 11 Jan 09
Some stay in some categories longer than others but usually it depends on how they see the themselves and the guy they are dealing with at that particular time. In my humble opinion, if you are the best that you can be, and I don't mean you loving yourself, we all should do that no matter what, but if you are the best and are at your best emotionally...your dating and relstionship issues will seem to disappear. If you KNOW for a fact that you could look better and you do not do what it takes to look better, than you are not at your best. If you do not make enough money and you do not do what it takes to improve yourself fiscally, than you are not at your best. Now, with that being said, ask yourself this question: Does like attracts like? Do like people attract like people into their lives? If so, and you are not at your best...well, that means whatever guy or girl that you get will not be at his or her best either. That means you will always be looking for more and so will he or she. Always. It's human nature and you cannot stop it. Don't believe me, ask yourself how many times you looked at another man or women who was not as attractive as the person you were with? Probably never. Or interested in a man who wasn't as funny? Or looked at a person who made less money? You probably didn't at all. Now how many times did you wonder about a person you saw in a Ferrari while you were sitting next to your mate in that Nissan? Or saw the girl in the low cut jeans while you sat with your girl who was 25 pounds overweight? How many times did you enjoy the girl who seemed to be happier than the girl you were with? We have all been in those situations. The only rub is more often than not, we look for more from other people, when we should always look at ourselves first. When you are at your best, you attract the best...doesn't matter what color they are. When you are not at your best, then you attract someone who is also not at their best and that means you are both just comforting each other. I dont care what anyone says, deep down...you are either comfort for someone or he is comfort for you. Once you become the best in most every facet of your life you will see that you will attract the same and neither of you will be looking elsewhere or for comfort from the other...you will stand on your own better co-exist better together
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solid95 says:Posted: 11 Jan 09
My own contribution is in form of an observation. I observed that the writer in trying to inform and alert others, found it difficult to hide her bias. This reflected when she failed to mention women who are genuinely &whole heartedly loved by men &compartmentalised them.They may be wives or even friends. If her info is anything to go by, do women not place men in compartments likewise? In anycase, that write-up or report appeared unbalanced and therefore lack credibility i observed.
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Bigz says:Posted: 09 Jan 09This article speaks about the compartments a woman is placed in, what about the compartments that men are usually placed in? I know and speak from experience when I sya that the shoe goes on the other foot too.
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LoveVictoria says:Posted: 09 Jan 09Great article. Elevation to a "superior compartment" is achieved by a clear refusal to accept a lower one. You have to value yourself first.
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Kinsa says:Posted: 08 Jan 09
Just once I'd like to see a list that determines which woman is THE ONE instead of all this player crap. Unless those type of guys just no longer exist.
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PeaceStar says:Posted: 08 Jan 09This article is harsh, but unfortunately I have found it to be true. I have been put into a category and I have had to do the hard thing and "close the book". And you know what, I felt better in the end, because I closed the book. So ladies and gentlemen just because this article is harsh it is true.
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sassykae says:Posted: 08 Jan 09
*applauds* Bravo!!!! It's about time it was vocalized and I, like semperfi66, can tell you that it's not just men who place people into categories. Once I have you in one, I try to let them know what my hopes are for the relationship, we either agree or move on. But, I don't change my mind either...
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semperfi66 says:Posted: 07 Jan 09Funny thing is what was written in the article, is that some woman will still not have a clue...when it comes to see that they are being placed in one of those category and will be nothing more. Same with me,, when I meet a man I know what role he falls in as soon as I see him....thats life
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