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Different Cultures...Same Sex?

Posted by Leticia, 25 Nov

Last month when we talked about the media and their depiction of multicultural couples on television, someone mentioned that there are more shows about gay couples than interracial ones. Do you think that society has really embraced the idea that it's "okay to be gay" as long as you stay with your own race?

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As I write this I already know that there are going to be a lot of comments about this subject. Let's face it, as a society we are drawn to "hot topics", controversy, things that are taboo. What fits this category more than sexual preference?

In case you've been saying to yourself "there's been a lot of television shows, movies and press coverage on homosexuals lately"...you'd be right. I don't really believe that the number of gay people has really increased over the last ten years; it's just that more are coming out of the closet, (so to speak), and the media is right there with their cameras and ink pens sharing the news with the world.

As with interracial couples and their depiction in mainstream media, the public often takes its cues by what it sees, reads and hears. Think about it, if you never met a gay person, you may be hard pressed to realize that like heterosexual folks, they too have a heart, a brain, the ability to love people of the same and the opposite sex (without wanting to have sex with them), and they are also capable of holding down jobs, buying houses, voting and as we found out on television recently in New Jersey, being elected and holding public office.

So, do you really think the media or society is more accepting of homosexuality than it is of interracial couples? Remember what I said last month? Hollywood writes about what it knows. I'm willing to bet a body part (take a thigh, please), that there are far more gay or bi-sexual power players in Hollywood than there are people involved (past or present) in a multicultural relationship.

What really amazes me though is the number of people that are willing to go on record to tell you that homosexuality is wrong and it goes against nature. If memory serves me right, I've heard the same arguments posed about dating outside your race. If I hear the saying..."it's Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve", one more time...I will scream.

The reality is it wasn't, Adam & Leticia, or Alajandero & Eve either. What does that mean? That because something didn't start off one way, it can't be changed to fit the needs of the people at that time? The wheel of a cart should never have been conformed to become the wheel of a car? Why are we so quick to point out when we are being treated unfairly, but slow to realize when we do the same to others? Who gave us the right to decide what's right for us and the next person?

I have to say that in my life, I've been very blessed to know a great variety of people. I'd love to tell you that of all the people who's sexual preference happens to be the same sex, are a group of great intellect, ever faithful without fault, loves animals, blah, blah, blah kind of people. The truth is that they are human, with the ability and capacity to love and be loved. They have relationships that last a day and ones that last a lifetime.

The bigger truth for me is that I'd much rather a man that preferred to be with another man, have the opportunity and chance (without condemnation), to do just that, rather than live a lie with me.

Call me idealistic...perhaps the answer is not in having an open mind, but closed eyes. If we were blind, perhaps then we could truly see that the path to happiness is one that we ALL can walk on.

This is Leticia and I say that love has no color lines or sexual boundaries...if it does, how can it be love?!

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  1.   BLACKBASS says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 06

    IAM A CHRISTIAN AND I HATE WHEN YOU COMPARE INTERACIAL TO GAY RELATIONS.THERE NOT THE SAME.A MAN AND A WOMEN WHO LOVE EACH OTHER SHOULD BE TOGETHER BUT GOD DIDNT INTEND FOR GENDERS OF THE SAME SEX OR BROTHERS ANND SISTERS TO LAY TOGETHER WHICH THE BIBLE CLEARLY STATES

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  2.   turbogirl says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 06

    I dont think the world can say it out that they dont accept interracial couple, i think all they can do is give you nasty looks. And to hell with them and their looks, i just wanna fall in love with whoever, either white, black, purple, pink, brown or yellow. I DON'T CARE AS LONG AS IT IS TRUE LOVE, that's all that matters to me right now.

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  3.   whytb0y says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 06

    A huge factor people are either forgetting or ignoring that plays into the whole thing is GOD . and theres this thing called judgment day ,now moses had a black wife and god had no problem with it (numbers12-1 through 12-13)look it up ..not to mention king solomon married a african woman. keep in mind in the bible god says very clearly that a man shall not lay with another man as he would a woman and a woman shall not lay with a woman as she would with a man .point is there is a judgement day and god is real .one thing god gave us all is free will . the choice to decide our own fate . while he loves the sinner , he does not love the sinful acts .why was sodom and ghamora destroyed ? god was upset at the mass scale of sin aka lust ,greed violence and yes homosexuality .hey if 2 people of the same sex want to get together thats on them .but i,m gonna speak the word no matter what .

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  4.   lizzy2005 says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 06

    I think the world in most areas has become more accepting of gay couples. I wish the same could be said for interacial ones.

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  5.   TURBOGIRL says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 06

    Well, all i can say is that i have a boyfriend who is Italian and gay, he relocated to UK 3 months ago, because his own society doesn't accept homosexuality. But the problem is he's not happy here away from his family and home. So he's contemplating on moving back to Italy and continue living a lie, seeing girls as he can't bring himself to tell his family about his sexuality. I think something should be done about the Mediterranean society, they should just accept these people for who they are. And let them be happy. All i want for my friend is happiness cos he's such a sweet guy, and if only i could turn his world around by finding him a perfect partner who's gonna rock his wolrd and make him think twice about going back to Italy to live a sad lonely life.

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  6.   gms77 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 06

    Sex is a mind thing..

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  7.   texasbest says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 06

    Love has no boundries

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  8.   Fala says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 06

    It's too bad people aren't free to be who they want to be without having to get stares and dirty looks.

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  9.   yoby says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 06

    why should it be different between ppl. from a different race? I don't understand the issue!

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  10.   Jimmirix says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 06

    Tough one, but hey, it's a free world, ain't it? each to his own preference and judge not

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  11.   Dora says:
    Posted: 14 Dec 06

    I love the idea of everyone coming out of the closet and laying all their cards on the table. I just don't like children being exposed to so much sexuality issues. I think it should be a choice made because that's who or what you truly are and want and not because its the latest trend.

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  12.   ebonybeautyj says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 06

    Hey variety is the spice of life!

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  13.   nicefella115 says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 06

    different strokes 4 different folks.

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  14.   Fala says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 06

    I wonder if gays in interracial relationships get twice as many stares and funny looks?

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  15.   brwnsuga says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 06

    I think that Interracial couples get more looks,than gay couples,because gay couples are more common these days.

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  16.   Lovelydimps says:
    Posted: 08 Dec 06

    For me, Beige38 has hit the nail straight on the head!!

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  17.   Fala says:
    Posted: 08 Dec 06

    I think in the US it depends where you go. Most places that are accepting of interracial relationships are just as tolerant of homosexuals, and places that don't accept one, generally don't want to deal with the other either. It's all about bigotry.

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  18.   rachel says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 06

    its a matter of someones choice if that is what they chose to do...

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  19.   aantonio says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 06

    Well whatever floats there boat. Like they say there is someone for someone. HOwever, i believe society is coming around finally to interracial relationship more than gay relationships

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  20.   charlee1 says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 06

    no one bats an eyelid here in the UK when they see a gay couple. its seen as normal nowadays. and hey, if they are ok with it, then who are we object and critisize?

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  21.   lizzy2005 says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 06

    I agree with dimps that gay relationships are more acceptable than mixed in the uk.

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  22.   DaTruth17 says:
    Posted: 04 Dec 06

    That is so what true. Which is amazing that there is such a difference but at the same time similarites. Great Article...Keep'em coming.

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  23.   Coco says:
    Posted: 03 Dec 06

    Aurora...not here, okay?

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  24.   lizzy2005 says:
    Posted: 03 Dec 06

    Everyone has a right to love be they gay or straight, and whatever thier race.

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  25.   Lovelydimps says:
    Posted: 03 Dec 06

    Very interesting article of which I enjoyed reading. I feel gay relationships are more readily accepted in western society than mixed raced relationships - well they are in uk.

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  26.   nette72 says:
    Posted: 03 Dec 06

    well i must say that this article, was and is very interesting. however i will say this alot of person claim to be open minded when in reality they truely are not. reason being they can except interracial relationships why is it that they can't except the fact that they're also gay relationships as well. let my ask this on jugdement day who will be their jugde and jury, not us, so my thoughts on this is if that is what make them happy then so be it as long as they are not trying to change you. and just as others have stated everyone deserve to be loved in one form or another!!!!

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  27.   auroraxxx says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 06

    have you heard of the two irish gay guys Ben Doown and Phillip Mc cavity....can i say that ...lol

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  28.   texasbest says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    Everybody deserves somebody.

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  29.   Candy40dd says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    This is a tough one.. I have a Christian point of view in a everyday normal point of view.. So, i say do what makes you happy, there will always be a Cause/Effect in what you chose to do with yourself.. Make sure it\'s worth it..

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  30.   Segue007 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    I believe that gays and interracial couples face some of the same obstacles. People that are afraid of change will ridicule it in order to impede the change. We are living in a world where everyone will be multiracial one day. I'm just sad that I will be long gone by the time that happens

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  31.   StarrShine says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    I say live and let live. Who cares who someone dates. I just love to see 2 people happy and in love no matter what color they are or who ther choose to love! Rainbows are beautiful!

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  32.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    Very interesting article.Something to think about.

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  33.   xina03 says:
    Posted: 29 Nov 06

    I think it's up to the persons (homosexual /heterosexual). They can do whatever they want as long as they love each other

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  34.   Coco says:
    Posted: 29 Nov 06

    I don't think it matters. As long as they find someone they are happy with, just like the heteroes!

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  35.   Natural72 says:
    Posted: 29 Nov 06

    I agree with you Leticia that there are more gay and bisexual power players in hollywood than in multicultural relationships.

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  36.   sweetest1 says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    I feel that the decision is up to the person and God--if they like it I love it.

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  37.   Carla says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    interesting...not something I agree with but to each his own

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  38.   romeoluvs says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    Not my domain. People can do whatever they want to do.

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  39.   Ernest says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    It is human nature to accuse and condemn, to deem the side on which we stand as perfect. Those that spend time scrutinizing and condemning people's sexual preferences have a long war to fight. There is a clear line drawn when it comes to hollywood weddings. Interracial couples are rare and even movies always try to depict that people should stick to their racial heritage. Human nature is such that we are curious about the unknown, we are seeking to know what lurks beyond those different rainbow colours. At the same time we can't choose to do all at the same time. Therefore people will tend to prefer certain things over others. Fundamentally, we are tuned to enjoy and detest the same pleasures in life, why therefore put little obstacles in our way? My experience is that free and open mindedness is a big force. It comes with an ability to live life in a more fullfiling way, learning to appreciate things the way they are designed to be. If you choose to drive a VOlvo, then that is your choice why should i question that? Therefore why question me if i choose to drive a BMW?

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  40.   yoby says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    I think love is always the same, there are more gays on the tv now coz their lobby is surely stronger then the multiracial one... and this will be like this for a long time yet!

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  41.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    quite interesting!!

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  42.   QueenNikki says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    What ever path your choose to take that's the decision you have to live with!

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  43.   aline says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 06

    love is a matter of the heart, if two people love each other i say go for it, i don't care if it is same sex, different race or the other way around, people should just be left alone and be free to love whomever their hearts desire....

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  44.   Majesticone says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    this is a tough one. becasue we need to identify key factors. #1.. what is "society" as in what constitutes a society... majority not minority. and who is in control of the majority? (no comment) #2..society is the same group that says, being gay is wrong, being black, asian, native american and hispanic is wrong, being too skinny is wrong, being fat-obese is obscene... society sets the standars for all to follow, this group also goes to church on sunday and sins M-S, ... and the list goes on. #3..none of us know what is right or wrong, to me, love is love, im not going to condemn someone who is gay male or female and im not going to point to others and say how they should live. love comes in different ways, sizes, shapes and colors. society is also the same ones whom say, crippled people or midgets should not pro-create so why would i care about what "Society" says when society has been wrong all along???

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  45.   bradlee says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    This is just plain stupid. It's the fashion at the moment, other issues will come.

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  46.   beige38 says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    The article is right. At least to me it is. People are more accepting to the gay life style than interracial dating. I'll go even further, they are more accepting to black men and white women than black women and white men. Hopefully we will live to see ONE LOVE.

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  47.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    Society has opened up to homosexuality so much that it probably doesnt matter if it is an interracial gay couple or not.

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  48.   misslady1970 says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    Every one deserves love and happiness, with whom ever they choose to love.

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  49.   Reba says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    In todays world,you have to be true to your self. Like the article said, everyone deserves love and to be loved no matter what.It was a wonderful article, and keep up the good work.

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  50.   gms77 says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 06

    Wow this was great, i do think there is a difference though!

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