Swirling with Christelyn Karazin

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QOTW: Single Mom Asks, "Am I Undateable?"

Posted by Christelyn, 23 Sep

Touchy subject, yes.

All doom and gloom? Nope.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

"Hi Christelyn,

I’ve been following you since you created the new Beyond Black and White page. Let me first day that I’m a African American woman with one seven year old child. I have not been with/seen the father of my child since our child was three months old. After things ended with my child’s father, I stopped dating altogether. I’ve never dated outside my race. Yet, after speaking with my parents, aunt’s and a few uncles, I was encouraged to do so. After reading your book (Swirling) I decided to give the online dating a try. I signed up and so far, I haven’t received anything. After looking at your video about a woman with three children seeking a mate, I felt bad. Does having a child truly take me out of the dating race? Should I remove my online profile?"

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

4 responses to "QOTW: Single Mom Asks, "Am I Undateable?""

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  1.   rogue_male says:
    Posted: 27 May 16

    Have you ladies not heard the expression er MILF!? ...just saying, the only complication is babysitters and maybe screening the new boyfriend, if it goes further than that the dynamics between new man and kidz may have to be navigated, but so what! All my ex's with kids were great some are still besties, some of the kids are still pals; but then we are in the rock scene which has some solidarity! Keep on floozing online and you will get there! Yay!

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  2.   Bi3 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 16


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  3.   Gwambui says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 15

    Hi Christelyn, I totally understand you. I have a seven year old baby girl as well. I am a single parent and haven't had a decent date in years. I've tried dated within my race, but all I end up is with guys thinking am desperate for sex. I am a strong believer in God and personally I can tell you..I haven't received attention too. I guess the fact that am an African from Kenya, haveva child and believes in God, has made me un datable. I am.planning to take down my profile too and just plan to spend the rest of my life with only my child.

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  4.   Nabatule says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 15

    umh so nice to see some getting their match on this page

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