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QOTW: Can an 'Atheist' Date Black Women?

Posted by Christelyn, 10 Sep

The Question:

"Hey Christelyn,

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

I recently found your YouTube web videos and have been watching them steadily to gain insight into the world of interracial dating. I have never dated a black woman, but I would certainly like to. One of the reasons that I have yet to date outside my “race* ” is that I live in northern Minnesota and unlike the rest of the country, the demographics of my hometown still overwhelming Caucasian. I plan on moving away when I finish up my degree in IT, so I don’t think finding black women will be much of a problem wherever I end up.

What I do think may present an obstacle and the reason I am writing to you, is that I am an Atheist. Now I don’t want to get into the nuances of religion or philosophy; suffice it to say I am open to religion, but I have yet to be convinced of one. However, from the research I have been doing on the Web it seems that all things being equal, black women tend to be some of the more religious individuals throughout the country.

How do you think that I should approach this subject while dating? I am not opposed to talking about religion, quite the contrary, as I love having debates with my friends some of whom are much more religious than I am. I am mostly concerned with not wanting to scare black women off or prematurely ending an otherwise pleasant conversation with one by using the “A-word.” I realize that through years hearing misinformation about my subculture, very religious individuals can have detrimental preconceived notions about my beliefs or lack thereof, and become immediately defensive when someone challenges their faith, even with self-labels. Do you think I should bring up the issue of religion at all? What should I do if they bring up the issue? I know that this is a very sensitive issue for many people, and I would appreciate any insights you may offer.

Thank you for all the work you do both on YouTube and the blog. You are a very intelligent, well spoken, and attractive woman, and I look forward to viewing more of your work in the future. Your husband is a very lucky man.

Best wishes to you and yours,


*(an unfortunate construct of the 19th century that disregards the fact we are all human and ultimately originate in Africa)

Here’s my take:

FYI, there’s a growing number of black people and support groups for atheists and agnostics:



Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

10 responses to "QOTW: Can an 'Atheist' Date Black Women?"

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  1.   Meche_ says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 18

    There are black women who are atheist. The end. Can we get higher quality topics, PLEASE?

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  2.   IBC1987 says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 18

    You’ll have a much, MUCH harder time dating a black woman if you’re a Republican than an Athiest!

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  3.   Mosiah7 says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 18

    Thoughts and prayers

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  4.   Deshir says:
    Posted: 12 Aug 17

    I'm a non-religious Blackman who finds women of all races attractive but living and trying to date Black Women in the south has been challenging if not completely frustrating. I understand my Cacasian brothers concern and I wish him well.

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  5. Posted: 13 Feb 17

    Of course they can date black women. Black women are not all the same. I don't understand the article.

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  6.   NYGriego says:
    Posted: 30 Jun 16

    Atheism has to do with religion, not race. What are you getting at? I'm sure there are atheists in every ethnicity out there. SMH...

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  7. Posted: 04 Feb 16

    Not sure about that. Most BW I know believe in God but I am sure there are some atheist BW out there.

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  8.   Austincute says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 15

    Is Atheism a synonym of a racial group?The question sounds misleading,as there are atheist from different racial groups.I personally have Back friends who are atheists.

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  9.   Blossomn says:
    Posted: 14 Nov 15

    As long as they have same values I thinks it's possible.

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  10.   Briannayes says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 15

    black and atheist :)

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