Here's how the black woman needs to be treated

Posted by James, 10 Dec 10

People always say negative things about Black women and blaming them for being single. Well, today, I managed to come across a video that says something positive about them. And in this video, black women are not being blamed for relationship failures.

In this video, a man reflects on the mistakes he made that led to his girl fleeing and tells other men how they can treat their women better. Much as the name of the video is: ">“Black men – This is how you love Black women”, I believe the advice given is something that men of all races can make use of when it comes to dating, relationships and treating women of all races right.

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But much as I loved the video and picked a thing or two from it, not every feedback can be positive. Here is what someone thought about it:

“…We all know women pick the men. Therefore, why would a man care about any outside problems that other men bring to the table. I can understand admitting to your mistakes, but this goes to a new level. Women should take accountability. If you want a guy who reads books find them. You can not turn a person into a bookworm who wants to watch sports all day. Women do the picking is all i have to say.”

Should women be held accountable for their relationship problems? Is it the woman's fault that the man she felt was right for her ended up being wrong?

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  1. Posted: 18 Jul 11

    OMG. This video is ridiculous. I stopped watching it after 2 minutes. I'm a black woman and I have never judged black men in a negative manner. As many times as black men have hurt me, I can't disgrace them. I love men of all races. A man can't blame a woman because their relationship went bad, and a woman can't blame her man because the relationship went bad. There's no such thing as a good man/woman, a perfect man/woman, or a bad man/woman. There are only people who try. If you're in a relationship and you try that's what matters. I gave 200% in all my relationships and it didn't work. But I don't hold any animousity towards my exes. We're all still friends. This is why ignorance lives among us blacks.

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  2. Posted: 17 Jul 11

    It's great that vidoes like these are available to inspire such conversations and allow us to give our "two cents" on how we actually feel. I think the clip is interesting. It would also be interesting to read the comments if the message was race neutral. Let's pretend that is not as not an attack on black men and it's more to do with "how women want to be treated." I have not had the opportunity to date men from races different from my own, but I think some of the responses are directly related to the way people were treated in their relationship. It's unfortunate that black men are stereotyped because of bad experiences with a few. I am sure there are some good black men out there. This video is for every man of every race. Relationships are a give and take. You give a little, take a little, and the same applies to your partner, no matter what race you're from.

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  3.   natpo says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 11

    WOW! All I have to say is that this video applies to all ethnicities and he is the type of person that I avoid---A BOY!!!

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  4.   Yveflower says:
    Posted: 18 Jan 11

    I actually liked the video, I don't think people should get offended by it, it was actually kinda funny! It just covered some serious issues that women who date SOME BLACK men have, i wouldn't agree with the video if it weren't true, but unfortunately I found 85% of it true. Don't get me wrong I do agree with Jahsymeon on women that keep choosing the same "type" of crazy guys, some women don't learn from their mistakes. I'm really not on here trying to bash black men, I'm actually very attracted to black men, I feel that I'm a nice young woman that knows how to treat a man, its just I don't have much luck with black men. That's why I'm trying my luck outside my race...So is it wrong to want to agree with the video?

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  5. Posted: 02 Jan 11

    Here is how to treat me. TREAT ME VERY WELL, because that's how I'm going to treat you. If I can't get good treatment from my man, I make it very easy for him........I step off and LEAVE. That's from a Black man, or a White man.

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  6.   theladyarb says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 10

    LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO how stupid is this video? It reeks of some ignorant white man that put this together.... who does this? LOL... toooooooooo funny!!!!!

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    • Posted: 01 Jan 11

      @TheLadyArb Way to go,honey! Yes,blame everything on the white man! Speaking of IGNORANT! EddyReady/BigTen does not like your comment!

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    • Posted: 02 Jan 11

      @TheLadyArb Honey,noway am i saying you are ignorant! I'm just saying your comment was! EddyReady/BigTen

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  7.   Champagne29 says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 10

    Wat A LOAD OF BS. Just get on wit it people black,white,asian,and e.t.c If we keep on being hanged up on this shit will never be happy with ourseleves or people we have relationship wit. This website needs to take that creep off and put something positive on.

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  8. Posted: 27 Dec 10

    How do black women need to be treated,just like every other woman in the world.With much respect! EddyReady cares!

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    • Geminigurl78 says:
      Posted: 30 Dec 10

      @ Eddyready/Bigten. Thank you for bringing a little common sense ( which we all know is not so common) to this blog & it's silly video. Good job! =)

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      • Posted: 01 Jan 11

        @GEMINIGURL78 Your welcome,honey! I agree with you,baby girl ! This is a silly video,very silly! EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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  9.   EarthAngel3 says:
    Posted: 23 Dec 10

    I like the video, it appeared insightful many men of all ethnicities who mistreat their women should open their minds and hearts to learn how to change for the better. Remember no one can change a person not even a good women. That person must feel inspire to do so, look in a mirror and make that change, man in the mirror. LOVING MJ 24/7 Peace!

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    • jahsymeon says:
      Posted: 27 Dec 10

      @EARTHANGEL3: ITS TARGETING ALL BLACK MEN AS THE ONES THAT DON'T KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN AND THATS THE PROBLEM WITH THE VIDEO!! RAYRAY D DOWG ETC WAS'NT OFFENSIVE TO YOU OR YOUR CULTURE??? WHAT IS NEVER PUT OUT THERE IS HOW MANY BLACKWOMEN DO HAVE GOOD BLACKMEN BUT ARE CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT THEY REALLY ARE LOOKING FOR TO BE SATISFIED AND THATS THE PROBLEM.. AND TRUE FACT IS, IF YOU ALL WERE GOOD WOMEN, ALL ETHNICITY OF MEN WOULD BE AFTER YOU, THERE FOR YOU WOULDNT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THAT WILL DAWG YOU OUT.. SO NOT AT ALL WILL I AGREE WITH THIS VIDEO, WHY? IT'S SOOO MANY OF US GOOD MEN OUTHERE IN THE WORLD BUT DON'T GET ANY PRAISE BECAUSE 65% OF WOMEN THAT ARE MISERABLE AND WILLING TO LIE AND SCREAM OUT"THERES NO MORE GOOD MEN"WHEN IN FACT THEY DON'T HAVE A CLUE OF WHAT IT TAKES TO KEEP A GOOD MAN IF ONE WOULD COME THEIR WAY... IF A WOMAN HAS A DUDE THAT DISRESPECTS HER SHE SHOULD HAVE ENOUGH BRAINS TO LEAVE HIM ASAP. BUT I DO KNOW ALOT OF WOMEN ARE AFRAID TO DO THAT KNOWING THAT IT'LL BE A LONG TIME FOR A DUDE TO SHOW INTEREST AND WANT TO BE ROMANTICALLY INVOLVED WITH HER. SO SHE WILL RATHER BE IN THAT BAD RELATIONSHIP THEN TO BE ALONE FOR SO MANY YEARS JUST SO THAT SHE CAN CLAIM THAT SHE HAVE A MAN.. IT'S A SHAME AINT IT!!! NOT TO MENTION HOW MANY WOMEN IN MY GENERATION PREFER TO HAVE THE BADBOI, SO THAT'S WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE AND SPEAK ON. AND THAT IS WHY THAT SO MANY WOMEN RATHER HAVE A GUY THAT WILL TREAT THEM HORRIBLE THEN HAVE A GENTLEMAN. THEN HAVE THE NERVE TO SAY*UGH YOUR TO SOFT* I WANT A ROUGH NECK KIND OF GUY... MY POINT IS IT'S NOT US AS MEN, IT'S THE WOMEN NOT BEING HONEST AND SPEAKING ON THEIR POOR DECISIONS THEY MAKE AS FOR WHO THEY CHOOSE TO BE WITH...

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  10.   kissime says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 10

    s_queT , One thing I hate is when foreigners come to America and degrading African Americans. You have no idea what you are talking about-so I highly suggest you shut your mouth or lock your fingers with braces since you seem not to be in control of them. Just Stop. I'm not African American and I know if it weren't for African American's struggle and perseverance all foreigners some whites included would not have the opportunities we all have today. So try understanding before you judge people as individuals. Every race and cultures have their pros and cons. I know how some men of the islands are so that lie you're trying to feed is not flying with me. I have dated men of different races and nationality so I know what they all have to offer positive or negative traits are based on culture, environment. It has nothing to do with race. A druggie is a druggie, he/she does not care who they rob. A thug is a thug. a cheater is a cheater, an angry person is just angry & pissie & will always find something wrong no matter how righteous you are. Like Kanye West say "Run away as fast as you can" Be honest of the reason you're in America. African Americans are Americans. Therefore, you are in their home. It's like you coming to my house & insulting me. How dare you. Just STOP. Pick your man wiser. Though I know sometimes we are fooled, deceived. When someone is mistreating you just walk away while you still have your dignity....... Run away And I always find, yeah, I always find somethin' wrong You been puttin' up wit' my shit just way too long I'm so gifted at findin' what I don't like the most So I think it's time for us to have a toast Let's have a toast for the douchebags, Let's have a toast for the assholes, Let's have a toast for the scumbags, Every one of them that I know Let's have a toast for the jerkoffs That'll never take work off Baby, I got a plan Run away fast as you can She find pictures in my email I sent this girl a picture of my, dick I don't know what it is with females But I'm not too good with that, shit See, I could have me a good girl And still be addicted to them hoodrats And I just blame everything on you At least you know that's what I'm good at And I always find Yeah, I always find Yeah, I always find somethin' wrong You been puttin' up with my shit just way too long I'm so gifted at findin' what I don't like the most So I think it's time for us to have a toast Let's have a toast for the douchebags, Let's have a toast for the assholes, Let's have a toast for the scumbags, Every one of them that I know Let's have a toast for the jerkoffs That'll never take work off Baby, I got a plan Run away fast as you can Run away from me, baby Run away Run away from me, baby Run away Doesn't have to get crazy, Why can't she just run away? Babe I've got a plan, Run away as fast as you can Run away from me, baby Run away Run away from me, baby Run away Doesn't have to get crazy, Why can't she just, run away? Baby I got a plan, Run away as fast as you can By Kanye West

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  11.   jahsymeon says:
    Posted: 17 Dec 10

    HERE'S HOW THE BLACK WOMAN NEEDS TO BE TREATED!!! Wow, I see more and more foolishness about our people more then any race period and it's a shame. Why? because if you look into all of these topics mostly it's the SISTAZ not all of them, but they are screaming for all ethnicities to take a look at what the"BLAKMAN"is doing and not doing.. Ohh he's calling me B'z H'z, omg he's cheating on me, omg he's beating me up. Also, the"BLACKMAN"does'nt want to work, he does'nt want to take care of his kids, he does'nt want to respect me etc.. All of this is clearly bs. For some strange reason, I don't know why SISTAZ tend to forget our culture for many many years been had the green light on us to destroy our existence starting with us"BRUTHAZ"the "BUILDER BURGS"tried to do it with aids, but it back fired, took to long to kill us off, also when even their own people and many other ethnicities were infected with it. Not to mention BRUTHAZ being in the prison system but I will get back to that later on... What's ignorant to me is that who ever made that little cartoon animation talking about, this is how the BLACKWOMAN needs to be treated, I would think if the man/woman was'nt such a coward by hiding who they are, they would have done a real video with them talking. Not no computer robotic sound and a animation to make BLACKMEN look bad. That's some sneaky bs a coward would do, like through a rock and hide their hand!!! So who ever made this, are you saying that now it needs to be an education course on how to treat a BLACKWOMAN?, hahaha that's just out right stupid.. Are SISTAZ that evil that men have to get trained to treat a sista right? They making it seem that all of us BRUTHAZ going around knocking SISTAZ out, raping them, spitting in their faces etc.. On some true facts, many of different ethnicities of women wish they were BLACK so they can be treated the way plenty of SISTAZ are treated. Their men are extremely controlling and insecure which winds up that they get beat and mis treated. But the only thing is, their not into putting their business out on the open which is what their mothers taught them as for what goes on behind closed doors with you and your man stays behind closed doors. Now as for SISTAZ on here that are angry because no man has shown interest besides just wanting sex, sorry but if you were that good of a woman, you would'nt be on here angry talking bad on a BRUTHA because you would be in a relationship with any man getting treated good if you were that woman that deserves to be treated good by a white, black, brown, yellow man! whoever... The names that the animation refered to us BRUTHAZ as ray ray, d-dawg etc was all a disrespect and was an huge insult to us BRUTHAZ like I said that was a punk move that they would create something like that and not be bold enough to say it live. My point is the whole thing was a huge disrespect to our culture, and to say BLACKMEN don't clean up the house, that proves that we're the target and focused on instead of them focused on other cultures and see that the women are the ones that does the cleaning and cooking while the men drink 32pks of beer and watch tv with his male friends. So don't ever put us out there that we are the ones that just take life as a big joke and don't do nothing but disrespect women. =I And @S_QUET: It's normal to know that our people come from are home land and come to america and show the hatred towards our people. True fact is, the ones that go on vacations to other parts of the world are the caucasian culture. So it's obvious how you were easily brain washed and taught that african american men were'nt a good choice of being in relations with. Just to let you know, The ones that come into the united states to get married or to get citizenship period, get a government issuance of $80,000+ to start businesses and don't have to worry about paying the money back. And im associated with plenty that can verify that for you just incase you would be so quick to disagree with me. When I first knew that, I then realized why is it that so many hispanics from mexico have so many businesses and not even understand english??? And thats what it is, besides the fact they have drug cartels and send money back and forth. Your going by, what a book or a news paper telling you about so many nationalities, but your not at all seeing that the ones that are giving you these results on people in prison of course are whites and it's going to make us BRUTHAZ look bad because we are targeted to be put behind bars. And who's behind it is white supremacy!!!! Since you prooved how small minded you are, you hav'nt even thought about how many BRUTHAZ that are locked up by being framed being at the wrong place and at the wrong time. Also, I guess you did'nt want to pay attention to soo many BRUTHAZ being released from deathrow because D.N.A prooved that these BRUTHAZ were innocentand had nothing to do with what they were accused of doing so being released after 15 20 30years for nothing it shows how ancious white supremicst are to lock us BRUTHAZ up. So when being incarcerated for something miner can easily turn into many years due to surviving by any means necessary, if you know what I mean. So you can have a sentence of 6months and it'll easily turn into 5yrs just by defending yourself. So don't assume that every blackman that's in prison deserves to be there speaking from experience as for what I seen and here from victims of wrongful incarceration.. So quit reading these books magazines that's created by whites that's trying their best to turn you away form BLACKMEN SISTA!!"WAKE UP"

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  12.   s_queT says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 10

    According to a report by the Justice Policy Institute in 2002, the number of black men in prison has grown to five times the rate it was twenty years ago. Today, more African-American men are in jail than in college. In 2000 there were 791,600 black men in prison and 603,032 enrolled in college. In 1980, there were 143,000 black men in prison and 463,700 enrolled in college. ^ Lets take this into consideration Example A: We see that the population in USA are in this order WHITE AMERICAN>HISPANIC AMERICAN>AFRICAN AMERICAN>ETC... Here we see that the country is predominantly white, but see example B. The racial composition of the US population as of 2008 was 79.79% White American (65.60% non-Hispanic and 14.19% Hispanic), 12.84% African American (12.22% non-Hispanic and 0.62% Hispanic), 4.45% Asian American (4.35% non-Hispanic and 0.10% Hispanic), 1.01% American Indian or Alaska Native (0.76% non-Hispanic and 0.25% Hispanic), 0.18% Native Hawaiian or Pacific Islander American (0.14% non-Hispanic and 0.04% Hispanic), and 1.69% Multiracial American (1.64% non-Hispanic and 0.05% Hispanic). 15.25% of the total US population identified their ethnicity as Hispanic. Example B: We see that the population in USA prisons are in this order ARICAN AMERICAN>HISPANIC AMERICAN>WHITE AMERICAN>ETC...to which we conclude that about 80% are african american males that chose to throw away their life and ambition. Instead of working to make their childrens future brighter. The racial composition of the US prison and jail population as of 2008 was 60.21% (African American (non-Hispanic), 20.29% Hispanic, 13.44% White American (non-Hispanic) , and 6.06% Other (American Indian, Alaska Native, Asian American, Native Hawaiian, Pacific Islander American, and Multiracial American). Most people say that this is because of "The white man" and what slavery and segregation has done to the American black race. But they often forget about the black people from outside this country. Native Americans were enslaved as-well but do they own the population of jail buds? I am from the Caribbean and when we come to USA, we have to struggle all over again, we have to pay THOUSANDS of dollars filing papers for citizenship and we felt and still feel the effects of segregation JUST AS MUCH as the American black race feels it. Difference? we humble ourselves and start from scratch working, cleaning peoples homes, any little thing we can get and we rise above it soon enough...we get educations, and we make our childrens' future one to look forward to. I have looked at the AA race for a long time, while my mom was working cleaning houses (3 jobs) couldn't even get a food stamp let alone cheat the system. I have seen the good but the bad is overwhelmingly plentiful. There are blacks in all shapes and forms! I agree, but lets look at the big picture...the African American population is dwindling. I have dated white, asian, and black men. ALL of them acknowledge that. HISPANICS slowly came into America and are now out numbering the AA race. YET!!! The African American race still holds the crown, when we look at the prison population. It is a very sad fact, and you can keep dancing around it or you can acknowledge it and change your attitudes. We tend to associate our answers with 'I am' or 'I'm not' how about starting your answer with 'We are' and then backing it up with some facts. I love the black race! where ever you are from, but EVERY TIME!! I have been in a relationship with an African American man it has ended in GREAT sorrow. From baby mama drama to drugs to jail to cheating. I keep giving and giving and giving and every time I try I get a lump of coal. There are good black men out there, but they are few and far between. However every time I date a man of another race or origin, my experience was joyful!!! Call me bad-lucky but I'm stating the facts. White or Asian even Indian, 2 white bf, 1 asian, 4 indian, 1 african; they ALL worshiped the dirt I walked on. I never felt pressured for sex or anything! Just pure fun and laughs and when you get right down to it, you forget color. Call me bad-lucky when it comes to dating African American men, but it has NEVER worked out for me. Some of you might say, maybe it was my stink attitude, but I've dated other men from other races and even black men from outside the country and it was bliss.

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    • s_queT says:
      Posted: 12 Dec 10

      I don't have stink attitude but I think some people would say I have a problem with black men that is why I will cause problems with them more than white men. But I have no problem with men from anywhere I am who I am no matter who I am with, and coming from the Caribbean you are excited about American men including black American men. I have tried them all, and now I know what works for me. So don't say I come down harder on black men because African men I have dated too and we get along just fine. American black men just give me drama for me to come down hard on; no matter what race gives me drama I will be very mad at the guy, black men (mostly AA men) just give me a hell of a lot more drama to be mad about.

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    • r3llim says:
      Posted: 15 Aug 11

      Well why do you even come to America then? or could it be that you like many others like to take advantage of the privillages that black Americans have sacrificed to give. Why don't you go back to your island to avoid black men. Or better yet try to fix your people's high drop out rate or lack of obtaining education higher than a GED. That's why I give rednecks some respect. They tell foreigner to get the hell out if they criticize them or this country. Are hispanics replacing Indians and Asians in obtaining advance degrees, and making advancements in science, business, and technology? No.

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  13. Posted: 12 Dec 10

    This is another stupuid very offensive stereotyped videos.They are still nice black men out there.I totally agree with u cute i have seen alot of other races do the same thing and even worse things that black guys are stereotyped to do.I love all races it just depends on the individual person.We are all different we come in different shapes sizes and personality

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  14.   CuteIntJM85 says:
    Posted: 11 Dec 10

    This video is very biased and targeted to African-American men. I have met a lot of Puerto Rican, Mexican, Caucasian, and Middle-Eastern men that do the same stupid thing that all the African-American men are being stereotyped as. This video is offensive. I don't do a lot of those things and am very well-educated. However, I am unable to find an African-American woman because they are attracted to these ignorant people that the video is describing. Therefore, at the end, it is usually the fault of African-American women that they end of these the men. If anything, they should look out for men that can look after them long term instead of going out with losers that leave them stranded in the short run.

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