Swirling by Christelyn Karazin

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Dear Christelyn: "What If the White Guy I'm Dating Has No Black Friends?"

Posted by Christelyn, 21 Oct 14

If you've never had much experience interracially dating, you might adopt a lot of assumptions and myths about other people outside of the community. One such myth that some black women have about dating white men is that they MUST have black friends, like hip hop and live in or near the hood to truly understand and love black women. I recently got a letter from a friend of mine who dismissed a handful of non-black men because she looked on their Facebook pages and saw that they had no black friends. She was about to do it again, but paused to ask me, "What does it mean when a white guy who wants to date you have no black friends?"

Here's my take...

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Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

6 responses to "Dear Christelyn: "What If the White Guy I'm Dating Has No Black Friends?""

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  1.   molly196 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 16

    I have been told that I don't know when someone is flirting with me, so thank you for that, I'll take notice next time.

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  2. Posted: 01 Jan 16

    I would actually prefer a WM that does not have any Black friends

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  3.   Passion678 says:
    Posted: 26 Dec 15

    I'm ok if I'm with a white guy that has no black friends, because this way he don't have to be trying to prove a point to them that he can get a black woman, like it's a game. Also I want a white man that is him self. I don't want a white guy that thinks he's black, or trying to be black. I want him to be him self, so if that means he lives in the mountains, and have tattoos everywhere with a hillbilly accent, then that's my type of guy, because he is himself, and loves his black women at the same time.

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  4.   Moonrocke says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 15

    You introduce him to people you know and they will introduce him to other people and the problem is solved.

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  5.   Synt says:
    Posted: 02 May 15

    My ex-husband didn't have any black friends when we met in Boston, MA. I didn't have ANY friends in Boston, MA. I didn't care about color. I wanted to know if he was my type. He pursued me and it was wonderful. He's still a cutie to this day. Having black friends has nothing to do with your relationship. As long as he is open and respectful of others!

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