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Asian Men and Black Women Give Advice on How to Date Each Other

Posted by Christelyn, 30 Jul 13

FYOOZ and Christelyn Karazin, co-author of "Swirling" went on location to interview an Asian Interracial Dating - Asian Man and Black Woman Meet Up Group (AMBW) in New York City to discuss the necessity of it's existence, along with common barriers that and challenges these couples often face. There's often a lot of assumptions, presumptions, and unfair stereotypes that fly across both sides, but members work to try to overcome those differences to force something real. But it's often not easy... Asian men face tremendous pressure to marry within their race, while black women might not even consider Asian men as dating options because of a impression that they are somehow inherently unattractive to them.

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  1.   Sugar3Spice says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 17

    I don't think AM and BW need advice on how to date each other like the title says. We more so need advice on where to find those interested and how to convey this mutual interest. Anyone who has ever been to an AMBW meet up can attest that the male to female ratio is sad, with the majority of attendee's being BW. My area is particularly bad in this regard. Even when in largely Asian populated areas the amount of men who stare with interest and the amount of men that actually approach me is quite disproportionate. Too many Asian men think BW as a majority aren't interested because we believe in stereotypes, etc. Many BW are opening their options and would love for a confident, respectful man to come our way, Asian or otherwise. People need to be less stuck on irrelevant things and opinions or fear of rejection and just go after what they want.

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  2.   Lizhbs says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 17

    It makes me sad that so many families pressure their children with their prejudices. If you genuinely care about a person, your family should respect and love you enough to get to know that person, and leave all the preconceived notions at the door. Asian men, we love y'all. We love men of every shade and want to be happy, just as you do. Here's a bit of advice from someone who knows, for both sides: 1. If you are reserved, and you see someone you like, feel free to approach him/her. The worst they can say is no (I know rejection sucks, but it's part of the game). 2. Not everyone is going to be happy with your choices. That's their problem, not yours. Your life is yours, live it the way you want to. 3. Get out there. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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  3.   DeeAnn says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 14

    Asian guys need to step up their game just like bm.

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    • AsianChocol8 says:
      Posted: 24 Feb 17

      Asian guys are stepping up their game, but it seems like some still have stereotype thinking about Asian men and it shows when they interact, which turns-off potential interaction.

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  4.   DeeAnn says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 14

    Many Asian men are very smart and good providers.

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  5.   white_fyz says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 14

    What would you say about this Asian???

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  6. Posted: 29 May 14

    I've never dated an Asian man. Actually I've never been hit on an Asian man either. I don't know. It just seems that the majority of them are not attracted to African American women and prefer white women if they do go outside of their own race.

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    • AsianChocol8 says:
      Posted: 24 Feb 17

      We do. Asian guys flirt and smile, but we get ignored. that's why we move on.

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      • Blacksongbrd says:
        Posted: 06 Oct 17

        Idk that we ignore you as much as we simply don't recognize that you're flirting. For instance, an Asian guy at my job, who rarely speaks to me, stirred my hot chocolate for me with his fork. He smiled at me the entire time. Idk what facial expression I had but I can assure you that I was shocked! That was 3 days ago. He hasn't said another word to me. Lol I think he might've been flirting but I really don't know.

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  7.   Divareaves says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 13

    LOVE knows no race !!

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