You Don't Have to Be Einstein to Understand This Connection

Posted by Leticia, 30 Aug 12

“Online dating does work, and I’m living proof of that,” says Nandi, who used our site to meet a man she’s mad for. “For some people, it doesn’t take long to find that certain someone. For others, it takes quite awhile. The main thing is, don’t ever give up. The longer it takes, the more rewarding it’ll be when you find that special person.”

Dustin, Nandi’s new beau, advises singles to “keep your head up and keep looking. Just because you don’t find someone right away doesn’t mean you won’t! Your perfect person is out there.”

Nandi joined our site with the sense that this could be big for her. She explains... “I was more confident than most because some of my family members have found their loved ones on dating sites.”

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A newcomer to the online personals scene, Nandi was excited by the possibilities as she explored our site. “It was my first experience! I thought it would be fun. Plus, it’s easier to narrow down what you’re looking for.”

Dustin, however, was wrestling with significant doubts about dating online. “I was not confident,” he admits. “I was losing hope. I wanted to try online dating because there were no good women in my area I would want to date. I figured online dating was my best option.”

Unfortunately, Dustin’s initial forays into the online dating pool were unsuccessful. “I had used several sites before, with no luck.” Still, something convinced him to roll the dice on us. “I was giving online sites one last try before cutting my losses,” he says of his decision to sign up.

Nandi and Dustin joined at about the same time. It was only a couple of weeks before their paths crossed. Nandi wrote in her profile that she was interested in quantum astronomy and quantum physics. So “Dustin86” sent “Seaflower912” (Nandi) an email complimenting her on her intelligence. He didn’t expect to receive anything in return. But Nandi wrote back. “We began talking every day,” she says.

Sometimes people seem great on the surface, but the more you get to know them, the more you know there’s no match to be made. In Dustin’s case, Nandi passed each successive test with flying colors. “My first impression of her when I saw her profile was ‘Wow! She’s smart, and pretty!’ That impression solidified and I knew I was hooked. This girl was everything I was looking for: intelligent, sweet, charming, beautiful. The whole package.”

After close to two months of emailing and calling one another every day, Dustin and Nandi were ready to road test this relationship in the making. “I thought I knew as much about her as I possibly could without meeting in person,” says Dustin. So he decided to take this courtship to the next level.

For their first date, they went bowling and had dinner afterwards. Nandi shares her impressions. “My first thought was how tall he was, which I loved, and how handsome and well dressed. He was a gentleman. He was also very independent and mature for his age.”

Dustin was intoxicated by Nandi’s feminine grace. “My first thought was how pretty she was, and how much I liked her hair,” he says. “But I was surprised she was so quiet, when we had talked about so much on the phone and over email.”

Nandi may have been a bit shy in their first meeting, but Dustin’s gregarious personality filled the silences. “I was surprised at how outspoken and lively he was, although I shouldn’t have been because he’d seemed that way over the phone.”

As the end of the date drew near, neither party wanted to walk away. “We both had a wonderful evening and wanted to see each other again,” says Nandi. “The fact that I didn’t want to part ways after our first date was a reassurance for me.” Dustin was thoroughly convinced, as well. “I knew I wanted to go out again!”

Their relationship progressed steadily from there. Nandi came to find that the guy in her life was even more impressive than advertised. “Many things didn’t come across in his profile that I know now and really appreciate. He’s extremely caring and protective. He’s also very driven, which is good motivation for me!”

Dustin didn’t corner the market on ambition, though. “I really like how passionate Nandi is,” he says. “In everything she does, she tries to accomplish it to the best of her ability. Whether it’s writing a new song, or cooking a meal….”

We usually ask couples if their partner is exactly the person they always hoped to find, or a surprise match. Of Dustin, Nandi says “his personality was different than my ‘type,’ but better than what I’d hoped for. But we are very similar when it comes to intelligence, creativity, and physical activity.”

Dustin didn’t have a type in the traditional sense, but he did set priorities before embarking on his search for love. “I had actually written up a list of all the attributes I was looking for in a partner. Nandi has every attribute!”

Nandi is still blissed out by her good fortune. “I never really thought having someone in my life could make me want to experience more, or even make me happier. But I’m happier now than ever, and it’s a great feeling.”

Dustin and Nandi are helping each other to grow and mature. Their mutual and individual goals seem much more attainable with a supportive partner in their corner. Dustin is well aware of the impact his sweetheart has made on his life. “Since I met Nandi, I am a lot happier and more motivated to push myself. I want to succeed and accomplish a lot, not only for myself but to make her proud.”

For singles seeking the advice of someone who made our site work for them, Nandi has this to say. “You have to know exactly what you want when you begin. You can’t accept every Flirt or message you get from people, because it’s a waste of your time and theirs if you know they’re not what you’re looking for. Use that time searching for the one you want!”

Dustin has also thought about suggestions to share with our membership. “There are a lot of people who you may think you could like but, without definite guidelines, you can get lost in all the profiles. Don’t settle for someone you will not be truly happy with.”

192 responses to "You Don't Have to Be Einstein to Understand This Connection"

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  1.   kanu08 says:
    Posted: 2 days ago

    I don't date u

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  2.   oldtrail says:
    Posted: 4 days ago

    Great. Keep it up

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  3.   oldtrail says:
    Posted: 4 days ago

    Good comments for us who are still new. Hope will achieve my goal soon

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  4.   Voodudaddy says:
    Posted: 6 days ago

    Nice article, Letecia! You got some great details out of your subjects! Congrats to the lucky couple!

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  5.   Chuen says:
    Posted: 17 Aug

    Good, I hope mine will work edudon001@gmail am looking forward to that

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  6.   matabel says:
    Posted: 13 Aug

    woooow sounds so amazing I too looking for my soul mate he should be white man

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  7.   nnprs says:
    Posted: 12 Aug

    Good bless you

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  8.   Asiy says:
    Posted: 09 Aug

    That is really insightful, and of course an inspiring one.And to everyone on this site, enjoy and have fun!.Remember to keep the world connected.love you all!!!.

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  9.   Mumbi69 says:
    Posted: 09 Aug

    God bless you Nandi and Dustin

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  10.   kpopfan says:
    Posted: 07 Aug

    Thanks for sharing that. Congrats to Nandi and Dustin

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  11.   kris2675 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul

    Oops encouraging hope to b the next

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  12.   Big-Citie67 says:
    Posted: 26 Jul

    Lucky guys

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  13.   felichibs says:
    Posted: 25 Jul

    my question is,why is it that only Asian or European men marry women from Africa than white women getting married black men,is that black men r not likeable or have no qualities to meet a white woman's need?I leave it up to you to research. good day.

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  14.   kandazi says:
    Posted: 21 Jul

    the best

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  15.   Qu33n3 says:
    Posted: 21 Jul

    I'm just glad to see you all happy maybe onne one the future I would to if I fine my king the right mate for me.

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  16.   Onesimos says:
    Posted: 18 Jul

    Good is is nothing when best is needed congratulations and wish you the best of luck

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  17.   singlepuma says:
    Posted: 15 Jul

    Happy for them am still searching

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  18.   marram says:
    Posted: 14 Jul

    Happy for you guys

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  19.   Nikki65. says:
    Posted: 12 Jul

    Am happy for you guys, may the good Lord bless your union.

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  20.   samkei says:
    Posted: 09 Jul

    Wow congratulations

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  21.   Lynniryn22 says:
    Posted: 06 Jul

    Congratulations dear, May the Almighty God bless you.

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  22.   nduguyangu says:
    Posted: 06 Jul

    I like your testimony that is great and glory be to God I'm looking far also and believe God will do the same and so big thanks.

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  23.   koleka says:
    Posted: 30 Jun

    happy good life to those have already been Blessed looking forward for my blessing

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  24.   odeam says:
    Posted: 28 Jun

    I love your courage,I'm wandering how it's feels,that's why I'm praying for my soon

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  25.   Nancy1971 says:
    Posted: 20 Jun

    Woo a mazing

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  26.   Tanchy says:
    Posted: 20 Jun

    Thank you for advice, hopefully I find someone to share happiness

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  27.   Tshepano says:
    Posted: 18 Jun

    Interesting. .story...hmm hope I will be the next

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  28.   taarza says:
    Posted: 07 Jun

    Lauda

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  29.   irene95 says:
    Posted: 03 Jun

    Oh! How lucky they are. I hope to be the lucky too.

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  30.   Mwangileni says:
    Posted: 29 May

    So so encouraging....i guess i will meet my mate and fulfil my density.

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  31.   Cleo02 says:
    Posted: 28 May

    Nice story hope I will be that lucky

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  32.   Tiffany8719 says:
    Posted: 19 May

    Thanks great..... hoping that I will get my me.right just like Nandi

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  33.   Cusha says:
    Posted: 17 May

    Keep intouch

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  34.   MrDLAOk2 says:
    Posted: 16 May

    It's important for people to understand there are no separate specie of human beings! We're all the same inside and out, notwithstanding our personalities as formed from our experiences within our families and the societies we develop within, and the experiences we gather from contact with worldly societies. Black women, white women, black men, white men. Don't be deceived by one's skin color!

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  35.   rosesimmy says:
    Posted: 14 May

    Nice

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  36.   brian_h1971 says:
    Posted: 11 May

    I just hope that i can find that special someone. Thought i had it but it fizzled out almost as soon as it started. These two are truly blessed to have found each othet

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  37.   1987pe says:
    Posted: 04 May

    Wooow im impressed

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  38.   beemetoba says:
    Posted: 04 May

    Hoping to find my soulmate too ..

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  39.   liza15th says:
    Posted: 29 Apr

    I know It ws so Hard to find a Right Man for me that will accept@love me for the rest of my life the Man that I can Trust @he had a Faith in God * But I'm still Hoping that I can find my Soulmate in this Dating Site * Bcoz I Believe that every Person has a Different Destiny @ Story in Real Life * Hoping that there is Someone can Write to my Email * Thanks @ God Bless Youuu

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  40.   Keeu says:
    Posted: 27 Apr

    Can't wait to get my Asian girl

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  41.   natalia1980 says:
    Posted: 26 Apr

    Wow....amazing and inspiring...how i wish to meet someone of my life in onling dating too.....coz i do believe it easy to have boyfrend nor husband but its hard to fine a real love....good luck guys......

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  42.   mmsah says:
    Posted: 22 Apr

    I would like to get close to a very good n honest women an get along,iam a very kind guy, know how to treat a women

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  43.   taytee says:
    Posted: 20 Apr

    Wow I'm soo impresed I can't wait to find amy own love of my life I hope my dream is soon to cmetrue

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  44.   ariho says:
    Posted: 18 Apr

    I hope to find mine too who is ready for me

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  45.   Nasimiyu88 says:
    Posted: 17 Apr

    I hope to find my dream man too.hop am gonna meet him soon, looking forward to meeting you darling.ivreally wanna settle down with a genuine guy.hip my dreams are valid

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  46.   shazybae says:
    Posted: 17 Apr

    I really wish to find a true love for me till death do us part

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    • saju9343 says:
      Posted: 21 Apr

      Hi, love is the master key that open the gets of happiness.

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      • chrisb22 says:
        Posted: 29 Apr

        Saju needs to go back to school to learn how to spell words . Correct me if I am wrong , but I believe he meant to say , " Hello , love is the Master Key that opens the gates of happiness " .

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      • chrisb22 says:
        Posted: 30 Apr

        Saju your profile states that you are 4'5" is that correct ?

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        • Charleyb33 says:
          Posted: 07 May

          What are you saying here chris ? How come the site have removed your profile , have you exposed them as frauds ?

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      • rosesimmy says:
        Posted: 14 May

        I eould love to seee the happiness

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  47.   nyamondo says:
    Posted: 14 Apr

    I'm looking forward getting my soulmate...since idont want to hurry,I believe she is just somewhere and hopefully she will come my way.

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  48.   kaitetsi says:
    Posted: 10 Apr

    I hope to find mine too ,i hope to be one of those who has been blessed with line dating

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  49.   Paparazz says:
    Posted: 07 Apr

    Ladies and gentle man pls tank God for and let's focus on each other,u can be like them through here,so ladies choose ur man here guy choose ur woman here let's go

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  50.   viobby says:
    Posted: 02 Apr

    Good advice...congratulations both of you

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