Would you tell the new person you are dating?

Posted by James, 05 Feb 08

Just when she felt she was ready to play the dating field again, this lady found out she has herpes. They say honesty is the best policy and has gone through ‘the conversation’ (of telling the man she meets next) a million times. The thing is she feels she should squeal on the first date If he happens to meet a man she connects with.

Is there a right or wrong time to have this discussion? How would she begin telling the person she is dating that she has herpes? Would you?

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  1.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 10

    Oh, absolutely! That isn't something that I have to consider but I would hope that anyone that I am going to be with would give me the courtesy of being truthful with me in that regard.

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  2.   renee24 says:
    Posted: 09 Aug 09

    I believe if a person has herpes or any infectious health related issue they should always be truthful with the person they want to become intimate with. There is a time and place for everything the first date may not be the best time to tell him. if your not going to be intimate then you have the right to keep your business private.

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 08

    That works both ways. A woman may be honest and up front about these health concerns. But will a man do the same? A woman may walk in with Herpes, but leave with a little some extra like Full Blown Aids. But this is something the man forgot to mention huh? Stop making this a woman responsibility. Both sides have to step up and be honest for a relationship to work.

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  4.   free_eagle says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 08

    I absolutely agree with ShariAltmann, when I get the feeling of sexual attraction to someone I have to tell everything regarding my health status. Cause this has to do with a honest heart. An honest heart is an open heart. If we are dishonest in any way with ourselves or with others, it means we are in hiding something. There is a wall, a barrier behind which we conceal something of ourselves. Subtle tension will be our companion, and while most of us learn to live with it, it drains our energy and tightens our muscles. On the other hand don't be too honest with others - feel their pulse - sometimes others are not ready to hear what's in your heart. But know that when you are honest you will experience a level of inner relaxation that you had forgotten was even possible. Peace and Light.

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  5.   dark1ande says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 08

    Seeing this Jenny post all over

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  6.   says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 08

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  7.   Jenny says:
    Posted: 20 Feb 08

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  8.   ShariAltman says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 08

    I think it is important to share any and all relevant health history, but not before you know a relationship will get physical or go to that next level where things are becoming serious. It's also important to share information. I would provide the person with some links from the CDC or other authoritative sites etc. Most people are unaware that 25% of women and 20% of men in North America have Herpes because most people have no symptoms and are unaware of their status.

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  9.   PattyCake48 says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 08

    If you met the person on this site, it means that you're probably been in communicate by phone, email, IM, and/or webcam. A relationship has been establish and there's a strong possibility of it becoming physical. In this case, you should have told him/her long before now. If you're just getting into the dating game-meeting for coffee, lunch, a movie, and/or dinner, I don't see why that info should be indulge. I don't think it should be revealed until the second or third date. If you're still dating the same person after that, and you haven't told them about your condition, when you finally do tell them, they will probably wonder if they can trust you at all.

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  10. Posted: 07 Feb 08

    yes, i think i would tell the person either before or during the first date. though, i would hint around to get a perspective of what the person knows about the disease and then ask them how they would react if one of your family members had the disease, would they meet them or shake their hand?(if this prospect is for long term) That way when you drop the bomb on them, you will know a little more about how they are going to react, so your feelings dont get as hurt if they can not handle it!

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  11.   kikidallas says:
    Posted: 05 Feb 08

    I DON'T THINK THAT WOULD WORKOUT, UNLESS WE HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING THAT THEY DO NOT WANT TO SLEEP WITH ME AND THAT I CAN SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE. IT WORKS ON ALOT OF THINGS MENTALLY. BUT ALSO THERE ARE SOME FACTORS THAT I WOUD HAVE TO THINK ABOUT FIRST LIKE SOME TYPE OF ILLNESS THAT MIGHT PRVENT THEM FROM HAVING SEX, OTHER THAN THAT, I THINK I COULD MARRY SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT WANT TO SEX ME DOWN.

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