Who you calling a cow?
Women who love too much!
Do you or any women you know, love way too much? They just give and give and can't ever seem to get a fraction of that back in return? Remember the saying, "Men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free"? Perhaps this article is just what we all need as a refresher course on how in 2007, milk is not only not free...it isn't cheap.
I remember the title of that Robin Norwood book like it was written yesterday. It stands out so clearly to me because I bought two copies; one for my mom and one for me. I told myself that it was preventive maintenance. Now some twenty years after the first print of that title, women are still doing the same thing...hoping for different results.
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If by some chance you are that one woman in the universe that has never loved a man too much, please, please, please leave a comment, a photo and your phone number so that all the rest of us can call you and find out first hand how you did it. I never met such a woman, much like Bigfoot, we've all heard stories but, they were just passed off as urban myths.
Everyone says that most women are very emotional creatures. So, naturally we love, we give, we think, we analyze, we don't think, we analyze some more, we hurt, we cry, we forgive, we try to forget and all the while we continue to love. We love things, people, and places, memories of actual and fantasized events. We love the possibilities of things to come and those that have long been forgotten by everyone else but us, because we love so damn much.
Love has served its place in our lives as weapons, excuses and badges of honor. Women have based their self-worth on the degree of love returned to them by a man. Now think about that one for a minute. Have you ever thought (even for one moment), "What's wrong with me"? Have you ever wondered why not you? Have you ever been low enough (figuratively), to even ask him that question? Does an answer exist that is ever good enough to hear? Growing up around a lot of men who cheated and with women who either were being cheated on or the ones that they were cheating with taught me a few things. The most valuable of which was people are going to do what they want to do, so you have to know what you are willing to put up with. Robin Norwood wrote in her book of affirmations "We are certain that if we show someone how much we love him, no matter how he treats us, he will change. What we are really showing him is that it is safe for him to remain the same". You can never love someone else enough for the two of you. You can only love yourself enough to not have to be loved by someone else.
Too often we build up another person so much that when they lose interest, we think it's because we are not enough. The truth (most of the times), is that they were never enough. They were not what was right for us long term. We must always remember the difference between finding the "right" man and finding a man right now. The right man knows that you are far more valuable as a whole than in parts. The right man will never allow you to devalue yourself to increase his worth.
The right man not only buys the cow he owns the farm and the land and is willing to share it all with you because he knows that the true value of your love. I don't say that to mean that it's a man's world and we're all heifers waiting to be taken out to pasture. I say that to remind you that any true man that is worth our time, energy, love and affection is a man not only because he can provide but he wants to provide.
And guys, any woman that is worth your love, loves herself with or without you.
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