Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug 07

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   jnk_1 says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 12

    Was this addressed to me? First just let me say I'm not desperate and thank you for your unwated comment I'm just here talking with everyone else so I don't see the need for your comment. I have been with white guys before in the past but they approached me. All I was saying that I see white guys that I wouldn't mind talking to but just don't know if could approach them. But thank you for your comment any way Nairobi28 says: June 25, 2012 at 15:36 You sound desperate!! White men are not afraid to go after what they want. Maybe its just you.

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  2.   dinhabenj says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 12

    african girls lets nt be scared lets face reality and kick the ball,love is love no matr wht race u r

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  3.   Slimtim78 says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    I am just saying I have opened and unleashed the barrier of races.... Have tried my own all my life... Don't want t wate the rest of what I have left To live un happy (; Even the Asian women....

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  4.   Slimtim78 says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    Lol... As my cousin from Oakland, CA recently told me.... Time to move on and enjoy more than one flavor of The rainbow....

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  5.   Slimtim78 says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    First off, hello to all the African American women...! (; I am from the south too but more southeast in GA. I am 34, and I myself has had a liking and attraction to the African American women! There were several in my grade I would liked to have asked out but couldn't... Now I'm my own man of choices... Being divorced I have found that too many white women are claiming " to be genuine etc...." but I haven't yet found one since my divorce. Surely but slowly I'll find me one... Living here in Memphis,TN. Have lived here 15 years, Which I have noticed much more relationships of different races coming together creating relationships... Like I've said, I've always had a desire for one, why it took me 15 years living in Memphis, TN married and divorce with two little children.... to start my journey I don't know... But it's begun lol. I do believe that most all women in all ethnicities there are money hungry women and vice versa.... Finding the right one for me is what makes the difference. Anyway, everyone take care.... That's my little non sense of words... (;

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    • SouthernNC says:
      Posted: 16 Jul 12

      I know growing up in rural Missouri alot of white males grew up that it was not okay for them to ask black/colored girls out. Okay to bed, but not date let alone marry. My family says that is changing. I have not lived there in almost twenty years. I have plenty of female relatives with children by white men, so somebody didn't care....lol I understand being able to break free of the expectations of others. It is more acceptable now for a white male to date and marry women of color, particularly black women. You will meet her, be patient.

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  6.   laidback says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    i say to all the sisters go for it ,if a white guy is who you want.then hopefully i will find that sister who is waitng for me.you're either part of the problem, or part of the solution.

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  7.   secretcode says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    I must admit that i have a stronger attraction to white men than i do black men, but being in Kenya, the stereotype is more noticeable (for me anyway). I studied in England for a while and found it fairly easy (or should i say easier) to approach and talk to white guys but in Kenya, I find myself shying away because most of the ones that approach me are either much older (i'm 26) or just want a good time.

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  8.   jrebs43 says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 12

    How do you go about finding black woman on this site?

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    • SouthernNC says:
      Posted: 16 Jul 12

      You may want to start by posting a picture first. Then set up your criteria. I lot of guys on here either create a laundry list, looking for their fantasy black woman or wanting sex. There are degreed and non degreed women on this site. It really depends on what you desire.

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  9.   jnk_1 says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 12

    alourl130, I know that's how it is with me too. I always get the older white guys that reach out to me and in there 60's. I wonder if white men are looking for a certain type of black women?

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 24 Jun 12

      Not me. I am 43 years old and age does not matter at all. I like black woman ans can not wait until I find the right one.

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  10.   Mikenwill says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 12

    In my opinion I think a black woman is the strongest of any race as far as America goes because your heritage is so strong and had to go through so much just to get where there are. Personally I think a educated strong black woman is so attractive. But here is a hint for the black woman who wants a white man approach him sometimes we are intimidated by you. In my experience it was easy to approach my first black girl friend because I was In high school and I went to an all white school and she was the only non white person in my school. Not to say she didn't have a choice but she would have had to go over a couple towns. However when I left for college the first time it was difficult if you only knew how many times I was turned down because I was white. Just know if you are intimidated he might be also. After all when first dateing another race we aren't use to opinionated and strong and kind of pushiness but then again it gets you where you are. I have a daughter who is biracial I thought her mom was the one but God had different plans for me. I'm looking for a black woma. But please know as a white male we do like to feel needed and in my experience a black woman is use to doing everything herself and doesn't need a man but we like to feel needed "hint hint."

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    • SouthernNC says:
      Posted: 16 Jul 12

      I think most men, regardless of ethnicity, wants to be needed and feel needed by the woman he is with.

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  11. Posted: 23 Jun 12

    Even King Solomon liked black women. The woman in Song on Songs is black. I was once dating a black woman called Sharon and I used to read that to her. She got all weak at the knees. :-)

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  12.   NastySasha says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 12

    Well,I have dated men from all races.I was even married to a German soldier for 4 and 1/2 years before he died in Afghan.May he rest n peace. I have never minded the race of the guy.For me,what I don't like about guys is those that have nothing but stereotypical thoughts about me coz am African. I don't know if I will find another amazing Caucasian Guy like my late husband.All I know is am NOT desperate or in a hurry to marry again.Am happy as I am.No worries.

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  13.   lita2010 says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 12

    I love men period but i love white men specially. they are so sexy and freaky maybe that is why...looking for one but no luck....

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 19 Jun 12

      I love black woman and if you are out there, I would like to date one.

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    • SouthernNC says:
      Posted: 15 Jul 12

      Believe there are white men that are just freaky as you think you are. Some are even on this site. lol

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  14.   Hevlen says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 12

    Daniella dear, you got some low-esteem issues, your a pretty woman, and i you know it, just haven't noticed it yet. I understand where ur coming from, there aren't many white guy in Kenya, the young ones dont wanna go black and those that want are old, way older. So its nt about u that u havent met one yet. Remember you got to love u first inorder to love anyone else. Coming from a sista ;-).

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  15.   Chinad2 says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 12

    Hello! I would just like to say this in a nut-shell. My ethnicity extends far, from having Creole-born parents with an Indian blooded Great-grandmother who married my White-Irish-Great-grandfather, on my father's side of the family tree. And, my White/Hatian mixed Great-grandmother, Creole-grandfather and Grandmother on my mother's side of the family tree have definitely gave room for me to be considered the term, "Other". Yet, they still consider me as a "Black/Africian-American". Having said all that, I've always felt that when white men looked at me, they never just jumped hoops to date me. I have only been on a date with one white guy my whole life. Not that I wasn't ever open to chance. Most older white men flirts with me, (and one that was eighty-something years old), slipped down one day and broke his hip trying to wait for me every day when I delivered his mail to their home. I felt bad for him, and his wife! :-) Poor sweet man!! Anyway, for most of my life I never really knew that so many white men liked Black women. I always knew in the back of my mind that it had to be more than I knew that did, but was afraid to be seen with us for fear of the prejudices their race instealed in thier minds from olde. Over time, they began to open up more. Black-men did'n't like the idea of Black-women with White-men. But, thy started dating White-women more and more and the White-women went crazy over Black-men. But, when Black-men felt they were doing somthing so great, they started shonning Black-women as if we were all so bad or not worthy to be treated well. Most White-men will treat me nice and respect me as a woman. It's with some group of men that are White that may be prejudice still, who will not be kind. I call them just "Fools". I have had occasional curiousity moments of wanting to be able to step out of the box and date a White-man because I really like to view people as "Human-Beings" that God have created!! Not Black, not White, not Hispanic, or Asian, or whatever! I believe that we can find love in any race of people if we just give it a chance. I know that no matter what race, there are good peopke and bad acting people! We just need to have more people showing love (Agape Love), for one another first and everything else will fade away. There are good women and good men in all of man-kind! That's what we need to know. That's because of sin! Sin has made us close our eyes to what is good. It doesn't matter what color of you skin, but to each his own. If you like vanilla today, you might like chocolate tomorrow. But, it shouldn't mean we should totally rule out any race of people. Just rule out the Bad! If anyone think they are so perfect because they are whatever race they are. Then why not be good enough to show the next one how to be good or even better!! Learn to help, not hurt! Thanks for listening! May God Bless You!

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  16.   meggg84 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 12

    im always attracted to white men, but aint luck yet still in search of my prince charming..

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 19 Jun 12

      They are out there. I am one of the.I am a 43 year old white male in search of a black woman.

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  17.   euronukie says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 12

    I'm definitely very much attracted to white guys. Even though I've grown up in an environment where interracial dating is not very popular. Despite this I definitely would like to marry someone outside my race. Whenever I have said this (in the black community) people tend to think that I have a problem with my race which is bull because I am a strong, proud, independent black woman and i love black men, I have been inspired by many in my life but at the end of the day its down to personal attraction and preference

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 18 Jun 12

      I am the same way. I love black women. Some people just do not get a white guy dating a black woman.I , for one, see nothing at all wrong with it. I love black woman and thats the bottom line!

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  18.   Missjerry says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 12

    Hey guys,,your comments are wonderful.its clear we all want the same thing here.am also in the race of searching my white prince charming. Good luck pals.

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  19.   KC7070 says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 12

    I love what the woman has on the inside, Yes the outside is important as far as attraction but not as much as what makes her tick and our chemistry on all levels....Whatever race she may be is irrelevant as long as she loves me for me and is true to herself....

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  20.   AlexxxIs says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 12

    Hello everybody,it is so clear why "white" men prefer "black" women : They treat the man better. they treat the man with respect and they are not so too known then the "white" ones.We white women like our emacipation but sometimes it is simply too much...and stop saying black or white.What a nonsence.Open your eyes,nobody is BLACK !!

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  21. Posted: 15 Jun 12

    I grew up in mixed areas where there were a lot of interracial couples and I went to school with biracial children. It wasn't until two years ago til I started to exclusively seeing white men. I didn't think of anything about it, however realized that some Black American men hated it! I am African and I feel coming from my culture there are not too much racial tensions towards whites as Black Americans(or Afro Americans) vs. White Americans. I feel my folks are more closet homophobic than anything else(haha). My folks were pretty welcoming to have anyone come of another ethnic background sit around our dinner table. They never bad mouthed any other race or anything like that. Perhaps because we were also sheltered, could be it. Until I was turned 18, I understand that Interracial dating seemed to be a controversial topic. I can't help that I am also attracted to White males. I can't help that the white males who I have had past relationships with appreciated me ten times more than the Black males I've tried dating. I've come to conclusion that I like what I like and I really don't care what anyone else thinks about the way I live my life. As for the stereotypes...UGGGHHHH!!!! They're an insult to women like me. yes, I'm talkative No, I'm not aggressive No, I'm not living on welfare, food stamps No, I don't have any baby daddy's...etc They're really disgusting stereotypes. I can't judge anyone if they fit into any of these. However, saying BLACK WOMEN is very broad. Have you really met every black women, really? We all come from different backgrounds. Ok, I'll leave it here.

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  22.   The_Briana says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 12

    I've always been naturally attracted to white men, I feel it's kind of like being gay, it comes naturally. You can't force yourself to be attracted to a certain type of person, you just are. When I was younger I wanted to reject my feelings because growing up in Arizona a lot of racism did go on in my life and I was made fun of for being black and called ugly by white boys I thought were highly attractive, but as I grew older I found there are plenty of handsome white men that like me for me. Granted, some white do seem interested in me only for some exotic experience or for the sterotype of a black female, but most are very sweet and loving and caring. I have men tell me all the time how beautiful my skin is and how gorgeous they think I am. For me personally I think nowadays white men want something that they can find in us rather than a white female, not saying that they're bad because they're aren't, maybe they just can't fufill the needs nor the quality that white men desire.

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  23.   cakelady says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 12

    Hi Blk_DeVah: You mentioned that it is harder in the South to meet men outside your race it may appear to be that way but it is hard everywhere. I am up North.I know it is frustrating because I am sure there are men who really want to talk to you but they are afraid of rejection. You will be surprised when you just say hi how they light up and are surprised and happy you spoke. You might have to make the first move because of where you live. I know quite a few white men who live in Alabama and they tell me the same thing. I gave them the same advice I offer you. What do you have to lose? If anything you will meet a friend. I send you prayers and blessings because he is out there don't give up or settle you won't be happy.

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  24.   mooneyeyes says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 12

    I love black women, And always wanted a black wife, I dont know why, thats just me, I was afraid to tell anyone, But now that im divorced, and now grown up, Im going after what i've always wanted, But dont get me wrong, She has to be beautiful on the inside to!

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    • Ronnie5 says:
      Posted: 16 Jun 12

      I've always wanted to date and marry a white guy as long as I can remember still in search

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      • jrebs43 says:
        Posted: 17 Jun 12

        I hear you loud and clear.I am the say way.I would like to date and maybe marry a black woman one day.

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    • Exusia04 says:
      Posted: 30 Jun 12

      Well I hope u will find that virtous woman. I respect u for being honest, I guess everything happens for a reason.

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  25.   african1594 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    Beauty comes from within, once you are confident with it, it resonates. I attract white men like a magnet. I am comfortable around them. I find them to be more passionate lovers, respectful and treat their women like a queen. They know the importance of treating a woman like a lady. It is for this reason why I personally only date white men. One thing you must know you have to be educated, ambitious, classy and be articulate. One more thing speak like a lady and look after yourself physically. I guess I have the added advantage of being ethnic and have an accent to go along with it. They love that fact and I work out, eat right, am educated. oh I am well traveled and speak 5 languages. Just be confident in your skin. Keep it classy all the time, even when you are mad...

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    • piscesgrl says:
      Posted: 10 Jun 12

      I REALLY like your comment, I have found everything you have said about them being more passionate lovers, respectful and knowing how to treat me like a queen and a lady to be so true 7 it is also a large part of my magnetic attraction to them as well as thir physical beauty (just being honest here not gonna act like physical attraction does'nt exist) but this whole package is just Awesome (and the beautiful little mini people we create too- just Awesome) but yes, the second half of your comment also about taking good care of yourself and what we bring to the table as well, I have'nt been able to agree with someone more- I appreciate your comment!! Sincerely piscesgrl :)

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  26.   Niche says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    I've always like white men work with plenty but always as friends so I would like the opportunity to actually go on a date with one n see where it takes us.

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 17 Jun 12

      I would take a black woman out in a minute. Life is too short and I just love black woman.

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  27.   jayloe9 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    Oops! it doesnt mean that i have been brought up NOT TO respect other races.( I do interact with many people but my attraction seems to be towards the white-man :-) ) ....

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  28.   jayloe9 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    Great article indeed - i have strong attraction to the other races but this does not negate the fact that i have been brought up to respect all races, have my own principles ,educated and my search for a white-man is not a financial move - since i am stable ... Just need the society to respect choices that individuals make without being judgemental ***still looking for him

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  29. Posted: 07 Jun 12

    I've been attracted to white men since I can remember, never been confronted by any the wanted a chance at with me. I don't know if it's intimidation or what, but I won't say either. I would love to have a real loving relationship with a white man. But at the end of the day it really doesn't matter what the skin color is or where a person has come from. Just as long as we treat each other right and love. I am so grateful for this site, seriously. So, happy!! Honestly, I never thought or knew that there were so many white men that were very interested in black women. I love this, all of it. Thank you, so much for creating this site. Thank you!!! Thank you!! Thank you!!

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  30.   Saxie says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 12

    Black women, white women, asian women.......we are all women. And until we stop defining ourselves by our skin color, and look at ourselves and pride ourselves on what we have accomplished and continue to challenge ourselves to be the best individuals that we can be, then we will hinder ourselves and fit into the moles and stereotypes that society has put us in. There is nothing sexier than an educated, confident, independent woman in a mans eyes, no matter what race.

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    Posted: 03 Jun 12

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  32.   Msmuffie says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 12

    Girl let me stop you right now by saying you. Are Beautiful ....You have to tell yourself that you are beautiful and believe it. Build that confidence within and let that radiance shine through. When you do that it will attract others. The opposite sex can definitely tell when a woman is insecure and it may be a unattractive quality, trust me it works. Put that D in diva and work it..

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    • Ldydrgn says:
      Posted: 02 Jun 12

      Amen to that Msmuffie! Wow Danniellacelin, you are freaking beautiful! Wow...and no, I'm not gay, lol! I love nothing but men in that way, along with what they bring to the table ;) But I'm also not afraid of calling them as I see them....again, wow! Freaking beautiful! :)~

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  33.   Msmuffie says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 12

    Girl let me stop you right now by saying you. Are Beautiful ....You have to tell yourself that you are beautiful and believe it. Build that confidence within and let that radiance shine through. When you do that it will attract others. The opposite sex can definitely tell when a women is insecure and it may be a unattractive quality, trust me it works. Put that D in diva and work it..

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    • piscesgrl says:
      Posted: 10 Jun 12

      Oh snap Msmuffie, after I left my response, yours appeared on my screen beneath mine, naturally I read it and.... we could'nt be more on the same page, u just wrapped up everything I said in a little short sweet, perfectly wrapped package :) hey u ;) !!!!

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  34. Posted: 01 Jun 12

    Am an African lady who is very frastrated with myself when it comes to dating.I like white men so much but ever since I joined college av never been approached by any person or told am beautiful, byany this has led me to concentrate on my work nd business forgetting that I have a duty for myself.I like white guys but the fact that no black guy has approached me makes me feel that am the most ugliest person in the universe,and no whiteman would be interested to give me a chance or have me around as their woman. I knw am not cute but maybe good in a way! Av visited various dating site but stil avnt found one,so am left out with the idea that maybe itwasnt made to be.But hope that some day sometime all find someone special. I. Am happy for all who have succeeded in finding someone special nd one who makes them smile ,nd wish then all the best in life. Goodluck nd take care of the one special person u have found.

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    • tonycp says:
      Posted: 02 Jun 12

      Sorry posted to the wrong reply.. duh - see the one above!

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    • fashionlash says:
      Posted: 05 Jun 12

      You need 2 chill out cauz ur nt ugly lol...guyz r probbly scared 2 tlk 2 because they think you will reject them.

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    • Easternheart says:
      Posted: 06 Jun 12

      You are absolutely beautiful and never think otherwise...

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    • piscesgrl says:
      Posted: 10 Jun 12

      Hi, I just wanted to say that I read your comment here and was compelled to look at your profile. I see a very delicate and beautiful young woman, like a rose, who is in the process of finding herself and thus finding her way. I am noone to give advice but if I may share my experiences, I would like to say that I have personally found that the way we view ourselves is ultimately how others will view us... The "Law of Attraction" is very real indeed and it begins with the messages that we send to ourselves- If you would begin with de-programming those ugly little messages you send to yourself and replace them with feelings of "I am B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L!!!"; "I really love my full lips, round hips, the beautiful curve of my eyes, my intellect my creativity, that I am giving......." You will find that what you are attracted to about yourself, others are attracted to as well. What we attract or don't attract tends to mirror our innermost feelings about ourselves and our position in life!!!! Tell yourself "White men love me!!!"...Then start to notice how many looks u begin to get from them (maybe you've just never noticed b4 because you are too busy feeling unattractive and undesireable. & yes, media does one helluva job making us feel that we are not the standard and that we have to live up to a damn near impossible standard- All we can do is our best and not forget to love and nurture ourselves in the midst of it all- if you don't who else will??? Never depend on another to do it for you- wake up every morning and find reasons to love yourself- when you love and nurture yourself, so do others value u, but remember, it begins with you (the mirror effect). After looking at my profile, you will probably say, "sure, easy coming from you, you probably have no problem being approached"...Let me just say- "Honey, we ALL have our insecurities"... and I have my self defining moments when I feel like the most horrid looking thing on the planet too (for example I recently made a decision to chop off all of the perm and color {i had bleached my hair blonde trying to live up to some damn ideal} out of my hair and go natural- I mean a seriously short nappy afro maybe 2 inches, now my goal is to grow it back down to my butt eventually which going natural will help this to happen in maybe 3-5 years because hair in its most natural healthy state grows fastest than when you are doing way too much too it- then i can straighten it the non chemical ways with a good ol' fashion instyler (hahaha, not old fashion at all very new technology but chemical free and it works great) anyway, my point is to say that i dont feel as pretty as usual because the perpetuation by media and most men is that long, straight hair is more preferable and feminine than not- but let me tell you how this all works- After my initial disgust at the way I now look (which is all very temporary, its growing back quite fast already), I made a decision to love my look no matter what and ROCK! IT!- So I get up every day, slap something pretty on my face, some earrings to match and a cute outfit and I pick my head up high and strut out the door and down the streets of my town, feeling very confident about myself, loving every bit of me (let me also add that i tore 2 ligaments in my ankle almost a year ago and have been unable to do physical activity for some time and have gained about 15 pounds, I cant fit any of my clothes comfortably and have just been feeling disgusted, I am usually very fit and active spending lots of time in the gym and eating healthy but after my ankle started showing no signs of healing i began feeling sorry for myself as i couldnt excercise and i was gaining weight so I permissively began eating horribly whenever and whatever i wanted so I had even more reason to abhor myself now feeling uncomfortable with my body image as all of us women are supposed to be stick figures but what about when you have an unanticipated injury??? Do I just stop eating??- O.k., I digress (a little venting), back to the point, so initially because of my own self disgust, I stopped getting looks from both white and black men, then when I made a decision to R-O-C-K me regardless and change my messages to myself- man my friend who is usually with me catches alL the white men staring at me when im not paying attention and tripping over things in stores because they are too busy staring at little ol' me with the short natural hair (confidence and how u feel about yourself is everything sista ;) {oh yeah, don't feel sorry 4 me with the ankle thing, 3 days a go i went back to the doctors and insisted on a referral to a rehabiltional specialist since they wont give me an MRI &, I have been referred to the orthopedic dept. who I am told will contact me within 30 days to begin rehabbing my ankle- again, we must take care of ourselves because nobody else is gonna do it) and lastly let me just say that those same white men tripping over me in the stores, well- It has been a very common experiene among most black women that white men are waaaaaaay less agressive than what we are used to with black men- I don't know why, but they just don't approach no matter how hard they may find themselves staring (meanwhile most of us holding firmly to the old school chivalrous value of wanting to be approached 1st by the man, so nobody ever makes the 1st move- so I have found that perhaps it helps to give a more suddel but very obvious, non verbal hint or clue of your interest and wether he acts or not is well, on him & if he does'nt, as 4 u my dear u just keep pressing onward toward your prince/king, he is out there and you will find one another and when you do, it will be glorious in all of it's beauty)- I find it helps if you see one that you are interested in back that when u find him staring, look him dead in the eye and give him a great big ear to ear heartfelt smile (more of a sexy relaxed smirk)- It's like snatching his heart into the palm of your hand (having never actually touched him at all or spoken a word) he's yours (there really is such a thing as pulling at a person's heart strings sweetie, u have to be magnetic and radiate magnetic energy- you can have and be anything you want, just be careful what you ask for because you just might get it!!!! - but that's the next life lesson I learned- chapter two!!!)

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      • piscesgrl says:
        Posted: 10 Jun 12

        Oh yeah, I just wanted to mention one last thing to you- European men ARE NOT SHY whatsoever- Travel!!! (I certainly intend to do so) But be careful with them, as you venture overseas and begin dealing with something "foreign" to your knowledge you may find that the intentions of such individuals may require a more diligent effort in searching out- just be careful in how you proceed- The standards for sexual conduct and interest begin to get avidly loose as u cross borders into more permissive countries (as if the standards here in America are not loose enough)... I don't mean this to be offensive to anyone, I am only trying to say take the time to make sure that the person is totally vested and interested in you before you proceed should you decide on venturing into European countries because you will most certainly be approached- Just make sure it's the approach you want :) I hope I have been able to help sweetie :) Oh yeah and you are beautiful- I really like you in the purple dress!

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      • Chinad2 says:
        Posted: 18 Jun 12

        Very well versed! Young lady!

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    • marcus1954 says:
      Posted: 14 Jun 12

      Danniel ( mwonyah ) you are far from ugly...you are beautiful .... I Love Black women...Don't give up hope...

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    • DarkeyedLynn says:
      Posted: 14 Jun 12

      Oh my...please don't be offended...but you need to know that your worth & a sense of validation that is accurate & actually the only that 'really' matters...by being in relationship with God through the Person of Jesus Christ. I've been sorta where you were in my past...so I say not to condem but in reading what you shared my heart broke that you believed your beauty, & most of all worth could ever be actually based on another's response. I'm where I am b/c of Christ...so I'm pointing you to Him. I will lift you up! I actually just got on out of curiousty this article...but God I believe had other intentions. Feel free also to keep in touch...may God bless you to know your true actual worth & value!

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    • smileybrown says:
      Posted: 04 Jul 12

      Sister you are pretty,fearfully and wonderfully made. People will always see us the way we see our selves. The fact that you haven't found someone does not mean you are ugly. Just walk up tall with confidence and others will see you that way.Always wear a smile and see how many people smile back at you:) Love yourself first. I wish you luck.

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  35.   mpumi297 says:
    Posted: 30 May 12

    thank you for understanding that African woman a human with lot to offer,im a African from Africa and i know the pain of being African woman,so all in the past now,let move on and build strong relationships no metter what!we only need one thing, that is to love and to be loved

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    • tonycp says:
      Posted: 02 Jun 12

      Well you look lovely. That maybe the issue. Sometimes when someone is as attractive as yourself, men can get intimidated. Also a strong minded woman can have the same affect. Silly I know, but hang in there and look out for the quiet shy ones :-). You must have caught men showing an interest in you. Engineer a conversation with one that you fancy, make it subtle and innocent. That will put him at his ease. I felt a bit intimidated at first when I dated my first black woman (and she had a fiery personality that didn't help). But I met wonderful woman (only a friend now) and then went onto meet what I thought was going to be the love of my life (until she ended it). But no regrets :-). Tony.

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    • dave_74 says:
      Posted: 22 Jun 12

      love is all we need!

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  36.   Anquinette7 says:
    Posted: 30 May 12

    Since I moved to Colorado I have been more open to dating outside of my race. I have yet to meet anyone outside of my race because the men I have attracted thus far are only interested in fulfilling their fantasy of never venturing outside of their race. I am positive I will meet a man that is not seeking to explore his options and doesn't see color but wants love.

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    • NevaRenee92 says:
      Posted: 13 Jun 12

      I completely understand. Interracial dating seemed more common when I lived in CO versus living here in WI. Now that I'm older, I realize that's because of the stereotypes about black women and the fantasies of some white men. I have meet several white guys here who seem genuinely attracted to black women and it's refreshing. I wish you luck on your search. You'll find him someday. :)

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      • NevaRenee92 says:
        Posted: 13 Jun 12

        P.S. Sorry about my grammar and spelling mistakes haha. I type so fast that I don't always catch them until after I click "submit."

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      • jrebs43 says:
        Posted: 17 Jun 12

        I am attracted to black women. They are beautiful and seemed more laid back than white woman. I wish I could find me a black woman and live happily ever after.

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        • Coacoa21 says:
          Posted: 18 Jun 12

          Hey im wishing the same thing, i wish i can find me an young white male between 18-25 & live happily ever after !

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          • jrebs43 says:
            Posted: 18 Jun 12

            I am 43 years old white male and have liked black woman for ever.

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        • Missjerry says:
          Posted: 18 Jun 12

          Anyone single and white? Please let me know.

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  37.   Drea01 says:
    Posted: 30 May 12

    I have always been attracted to white guys....I was afraid to approach them 1) For fear of what they may think about me 2)I was raised with the old fashion value, the man should find and approach the woman....I've just never been approached (sighs)

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    • MikeatQMZA22 says:
      Posted: 31 May 12

      I would like to say that you will find someone, in fact I'm trying to find a young black girl that will love me for me, as I will for her. Maybe we should talk, you seem very attractive in my eye. But then again I have always been attracted to black women than I am with white women.

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      • Missjerry says:
        Posted: 05 Jun 12

        I am attracted to white men so much.i have been searching but not lucky yet.

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        • jnk_1 says:
          Posted: 19 Jun 12

          I couldn't agree with you more Missjerry! I am attracted to white men and have been searching and haven't had much luck yet. I'm really starting to doubt that it will happen, but maybe one day. Good luck to ya!

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        • jrebs43 says:
          Posted: 20 Jun 12

          I am the same way. I am searching for a black woman and can not wait until I find one. Black woman are the greatest and I know one is out there for me!

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          • smileybrown says:
            Posted: 04 Jul 12

            I love white guys too. I think they are tender,loving and open minded. But they seem too hard to find. I have been searching for years. I haven't lost hope yet. Where are you my prince?:)

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      • Missjerry says:
        Posted: 06 Jun 12

        I wish i could get a white guy who likes black women.i have always been attracted to white men.

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        • jrebs43 says:
          Posted: 18 Jun 12

          I am the same way. I have always been attracted to black women and always will.

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        • jrebs43 says:
          Posted: 21 Jun 12

          I love black women. If you are out there, I am waiting.

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          • Missjerry says:
            Posted: 24 Jun 12

            Jrebs43,,lets hope that one day luck will follow us.

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          • meg199 says:
            Posted: 24 Jun 12

            Nice to hear your coment on us. I also think white men are loving and torerant patient. Reason i cant rest till i find one though am older sure there is someone for me out there

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          • Missjerry says:
            Posted: 24 Jun 12

            Jrebs 43,how abt a photograph of yourself,we need to see u if you dont mind.

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      • Peachez916 says:
        Posted: 09 Jun 12

        Hi, Mike First, I would like to commend you for being open to dating black women, but now with that in mind, when you speak of finding a black girl...please do not use those two words in the same sentence (i.e black & girl) these words may envoke memories of past injuries from a historical stand point - slavery) such as girl, my girl, maid, servant, housekeeper, chattle, just thought I'd enlighten you a bit. no worries..so when you speak of wanting to develope a relationship with a african american female, please use the term "black woman", We all all adults here, no girls okay!

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        • TomKombo says:
          Posted: 10 Jun 12

          Hi Wow is it really that easy to envoke memories of past just by using two words in one sentence... don't get me wrong I'm European so I don't have much expirience with stuff like this... I'm just amazed how easy it is to potentionaly "offend" someone...

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          • DarkeyedLynn says:
            Posted: 14 Jun 12

            It depends on the person...especially more mature & probally region (south). But for his age range (18-21) most guys say girls & vice versa. She's more mature in age than the about 20 dude...so yes, sound advice for 'all' men to refer to 'any' woman (i.e.regardless of race) over 30...as a woman. LOL...it's not that serious. Like in all things, it depends on the person:)

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          • dave_74 says:
            Posted: 22 Jun 12

            The USA has some race issues that the rest of the world doesnt fully understand. But yeah, if she's your black girlfriend, in the USA, you might want to say African-American woman companion insted.

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          • BahamaIsland says:
            Posted: 24 Jun 12

            You will find that in USA blacks are very sensitive than other blacks around the world as if only their past generations experienced slavery. In the Caribbean our past families has endured slavery to but we're NOT as sensitive. What's the difference with saying girl to that of a woman? When we proudly say girlfriend / boyfriend and not womanfriend / manfriend. Because of this racial sensitivity is it hard dating a black person from USA?

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        • euronukie says:
          Posted: 17 Jun 12

          WOW! I definitely do not see the problem with using the phrase "black girl". I doesn't remind me of slavery at all and definitely does not offend me. But then again I'm black british and the whole race dilemma is not as sensitive over here as it seems to be in america.

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          • trackgirl15 says:
            Posted: 23 Jun 12

            i am a black female who was born and raised in the USA. I dont see how saying "black girl" is offensive either. I use the phrase white boy! But I was raised in NYC. The south may be more sensitive about things like that. When oh when will America let go of all these racial tensions so we can all be free to love who we want without fear of being "lynched".

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      • Coacoa21 says:
        Posted: 18 Jun 12

        I love white men & would love to date you !

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        • jrebs43 says:
          Posted: 18 Jun 12

          I like you attitude. I am a white male and would like to date black woman. You have a good day and stay beautiful.

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        • jrebs43 says:
          Posted: 18 Jun 12

          I would like to date you. Black women are the best!!!!!!!!!

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        • jnk_1 says:
          Posted: 19 Jun 12

          Me too it, I have seen some white guys I'd love to approach but afraid they would be like why is this black girl talking to me. White guys what are some sign that a black girl can aproach you? Just wondering

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          • alourl130 says:
            Posted: 20 Jun 12

            I feel the same way jnk_1. I have seen some very handsome white males on the site, but it seems like my idea (mainly fromt he media) shows a specific white guy with a specific black woman. So, I become apprehensive in sending emails or winks to those individuals. I've also notice, that the older white men are more open to spreading their wings. I have men as old as 60 send me interest emails.

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          • jrebs43 says:
            Posted: 20 Jun 12

            Just start talking to them or give them a compliment. I would like nothing better than to date a black woman.

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          • dave_74 says:
            Posted: 22 Jun 12

            some signs... 1) he is wearing a "I love black chicks " T-shirt (cafepress sells these, cute they actually have black chickens ...) 2) he sees you and starts singing the sir mix a lot hit "baby got back " 3) he is a white version of Tupac, wears his pants sagging low, has lots of bling and speaks fluent Ebonics 4) he supports Obama 5) he wears a Dashiki on a more serious note, you really cant tell... as I've been told I dont look like a guy that would be interested in a black women... I dont follow any sterotypes nor does my African wife. good luck! you are pretty, be yourself and your prince will come....oh those dating sites DO help!

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          • jnk_1 says:
            Posted: 23 Jun 12

            alourl130, I know thats how it is with me too. I always get the older white guys that reach out to me and in there 60?s. I wonder if white men are looking for a certain type of black women?

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          • Nairobi28 says:
            Posted: 25 Jun 12

            You sound desperate!! White men are not afraid to go after what they want. Maybe its just you.

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          • eddyready says:
            Posted: 30 Jun 12

            @ jnk_1 Just be bold and be yourself ! I've always liked the black lady's since high school.White guys are becoming more interested in you ladie's everyday and for all the right reasons ! I see this with my friends and at work an more and more out in public everyday.Honey,have you ever thought they may feel the same way you do about aproching each other ? You ladie's have a reputation for being strong women and going after what you want.I bet if you see a white guy you like if you do make the frist contact ( move so to speak ),you will see just how easy we are to aproch :) ! All guy's like beautiful women no matter what race they are,and there is nothing more beautiful that a jazzy black lady :P ! EddyReady cares :P !

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      • Amerikanisch says:
        Posted: 30 Jun 12

        I don't why I chuckled when I read that you were trying to find a young black girl. :-)

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    • Shi56 says:
      Posted: 01 Jun 12

      I feel the same way you do. I am attracted to white guys but just did not know how to approach them. That is why I am on this site. It is time for me to think outside the box. I do not care what color he is. Just treat me like I am your queen.

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      • RAVENDELUXE says:
        Posted: 02 Jun 12

        I also feel the same way. I'm attracted to white guys. I lived in Idaho all my life. My sister married a white guy and I dated latinos. I decided to change my way of thinking. But one thing that upsets me is so many white guys want to live their fantasy. Guys stop, open your eyes and see the real black woman and not america's view of us.

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        • Peachez916 says:
          Posted: 09 Jun 12

          @ Raven, No truer words have been spoken. As a black women we of course have so very much to offer, my mystic, our sense of nuturing, loving, intellilect/intelligence, yet stereotypically, most men of other ethinic backgrounds seem to want what they think (only becuse we've been generalized forever) of some fantasy that evoke images of what "hoochie, ride or die, wanna be down sisters", And don't let me get started on the sexual aspect of us. Unrealistic expectations to say the least. No matter how hard to work as trying to deter the negativity of it...most white men perfer to live the stereotype. go figur...So in essence we have our work cut out for us. I love men of all ethnic bacgrounds...and yes I have a perference as do we all. But still we must remain confident, and steadfast that we will accopolish our goal of finding that special person who see beyond the stereotype and appreciates and respects us as individuals and not generalize us all into groups. Afterall, that's why we are all here right?

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    • Jamesthe1st says:
      Posted: 07 Jun 12

      I feel the same way, I have always found black women extremely attractive, but have have always assumed that they wouldn't be interested in me romantically because I am white.

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    • pynkprincess says:
      Posted: 08 Jun 12

      I have too, I understand Drea01, ever since I was a little girl, my first little boyfriend was "white" his name was "Eugene"

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    • mikayln says:
      Posted: 26 Jun 12

      I've been attracted to all races, but from my experience, most men from other races would never think of dating a black woman.

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      • eddyready says:
        Posted: 30 Jun 12

        @ mikayln I know you mean well and maybe it's just where you live at,but white guy's and black women dating is getting more and more common everyday ! This site and blogs like this this prove my point ! I'm giving you a thumbs up,any way :) ! EddyReady cares :P !

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  38.   Blk_DeVah says:
    Posted: 29 May 12

    Its hard not to give up on dating outside your race when all I'm meeting are guys that are doing as an experiences(thinks its cool) or to fulfill a fantasy.I love all men and really don't see a certain race.If I'm attracted to you mentally and physically I don't care if you are purple red or green:0)...Its even harder when you live in the "SOUTH"Louisiana....

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  39.   cakelady says:
    Posted: 29 May 12

    Hi dalo11, Thank you for the kind words. I understand your frustration I waited five years...Sometimes I thought it was the hardest thing I have ever done...before I met him he decided to wait and he waited four years. Just know that God is working on you both so when you do meet it will be perfect (perfect enough for you). The missing piece will be found for each of you. I know it sounds idealistic but it is not anything I have not heard before. hahaha I used my time to work on myself. I did a self-assessment and was honest with myself and decided to change things about myself that I didnt like. One day at a time I changes the things about myself. No, I am not perfect but I try my best to be better today than I was yesterday. I knew God would not give me what I prayed for if I didnt show him that I am willing to humble myself and be honest with who I am and what I am bringing into a relationship. I cant bring past relationships, negative attifudes, unrealistic expectations, hurt, or pain. Not dating gave me time to heal and become whole again. So I could give love that is whole not damage or broken. I wanted to share my journey with you because I have learned "For much is given, much is required".

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  40.   Shanabell says:
    Posted: 29 May 12

    I too am attracted primarily to white men and I get asked by my black cohorts, "What do you see in white men? What's wrong with black men?" And it's difficult to respond because the answer is not so simple as to reference it to a deficiency or proficiency in either type of male. That being said, it is intensely difficult to find a white man that openly likes black women. Sure, they're everywhere online, hiding behind their computer screens, but like black women, they have a hard time coming out into the open with it. I'm not sure exactly why. It is too complex to say the answer is oppression. I don't care who knows I like white men. I share with all that will hear it. And believe me, the dynamic is perceived in just as bad a way or worse among blacks than whites. Also, there seems to be little issue in general about white women dating black men. In fact, I see THAT all the time. But the other way around? Rarer than snow in Miami. And it sucks. All I want is a white man I can be attracted to physically and personally and that it's so hard to find is crazy to me. I paid for membership on this site and haven't the faintest hope of finding what I'm looking for. I was optimistic at first, but things are looking less bright as time goes on. Nine times out of 10 I get messages from black men when I specify in my profile that I'm not looking for black men. It says something about one peripheral reason I don't look too hard at black men. Some are too confident that all black women are interested in black men. Nobody knows me like I do, and I love white men. I can't help it and don't want to. I've been with one. It was great, for a time, but personal issues got in the way. But I enjoyed it while it lasted. And I met him on this site. Second time would be the charm, I would hope, but I don't even think I'll get the chance. I already am insecure as heck about the way I look, I get to thinking I wouldn't even be good enough. But I have to try, don't I? My previous (and first and only) white boyfriend liked me for me. But I think that was just a stroke of luck. And it makes me so sad...oh well. I can't give up now. But I might have to settle for a black man (and nothing is wrong with this) but in my heart I really want a white man.

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  41.   Daisy94 says:
    Posted: 28 May 12

    Ive always been attracted to white guys every since I can remember but they rarely approach me as often as black guys do idk what that's about. Do I have to wear a sign that says" hey it's okay I like white guys"

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  42.   tonycp says:
    Posted: 26 May 12

    Oh those tweet things on the left hand side are soooo annoying! Hu hum sorry. I love black women. I just tend to find them on average just so much more sexy and attractive... However all of that pales in comparison to the person. I do have to be physically attracted to my partner but the personality is the most important thing. I think that goes without saying - well it should do! I have been privileged to have had a relationship with a lovely black lass, originally from Zambia. I lost my heart to her and was devastated when she called it off after 11 months. It's taken well over a year to get over her (sounds silly really). I suppose it was made more difficult because she still loves me (or so she says - I know but why would she....). I have been on dates with a number of black women now and whilst maybe we weren't right for each other or were after different things, they were all notably lovely people. Perhaps black people tend to come from a more traditional culture, brought up with good old fashioned ideas on what to expect in a healthy relationship. I hope some day to wake up next to my wife and stare into her big loving dark brown eyes as her amble chocolate lips curls into a smile. Well one can dream. There is a saying isn't there - `once you go black you never go back'. A bit crude perhaps, and I thought non-sense. All women are generally the same etc.... However I am much more drawn to black ladies than I used to be, which is a bit of a bummer as they are almost as rare as hens teeth in these parts (but that's changing thankfully). And yes there are plenty of good men out there to answer some of your queries. They just tend to be quieter than the show offs and posers. May you all find love. Tony.

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  43.   dal011 says:
    Posted: 25 May 12

    Sometimes I wonder if there are any good guys left out there! Surely, there must be! There's gatta be! I trust and pray that God will bless me with my other half; a white man who is genuine, honest, loving, morally upright, down to earth, and a family man! A white man who enjoys travelling and adventure, and a man who will love me for who I am. I can't wait to meet him! I will be patient until I meet him. All the best to everyone on this site seeking to find love. Blessings to all. dal011.

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  44. Posted: 24 May 12

    I too believe the saying "love has no color". I've always been attracted to Caucasian men and I will always be attracted to them..the problem here for me is, Caucasian men are superficial, they care more about their image where I'm from and what their friends would think. The Caucasian Men that I have met are from other states and the distance is not compatible nor compromising. I honestly do not want to give up, I am just completely frustrated. I think I'm a beautiful woman, not only that, but I do have a sense of humor and am very intelligent. Sophistication, not a problem and I am very approachable. Am I intimidating? I've been told, but I feel I have improved drastically. Point is, its hard dating when a man is too busy worrying about "his friends". I'm not giving up.....I know the man for me is out there...... I wish everyone happiness no matter who it is with. GOD created one race, the human race and HE created someone just for YOU as HE did for ME....and when that man finds me, its a life long commitment and a love that will never fade. I have MY Saviour, he will by MY King Love and Blessings to All Mack

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  45.   Cakelady1 says:
    Posted: 24 May 12

    I wanted to share with you all the importance of standing on what you believe and having the faith to be patient and wait for it to come to pass. I know we all get impatient and want to find that special somone because we are tired of spending time alone, sleeping alone, and when the holidays come they seem to be the most loneliest time of the years. I decided to pray for the man I wanted and had the faith to be patient. God has a sense of humor so I knew I had to be specific. I asked God to send me a man just like me and I went into details about my character. To make a long story short God sent him to me on Feb 2, 2012. I knew it was God when we started chatting and he said what he prayed for. It was exactly the same prayer that I prayed. His birthday is one day after mine and we talked and feel as though we have known each other for years. He asked me to marry him, I said yes but given the fact that we both are stubborn I would like a small simple ceremony, but he wants a grand wedding of 350 people. I suggested September 2013, but he said that is too far away. May or June 2013 so our plans as of this minute are up in the air; but I know he will eventually get his way and pull it off. I am one of a few women who does not need to be a princess at the wedding because he treats me like a Queen everyday. My King has agreed to make all the arrangements. I just wanted to share with those who may not have found that special someone yet that God does answer prayers.

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    • dal011 says:
      Posted: 25 May 12

      GOD BLESSED US, I am so happy for you! I wish you all the best and pray for God to bless your union with your future hubby. I agree with you, patience and prayers pay. I pray God will bless me with an honest, genuine, loving, down to earth, loyal, faithful, and morally upright man. I feel like I have been single and lonely for such a long term but, I continue to trust in God and patiently wait for my prince. I can't wait to meet him, love him and share my everything with him! Congratulations once again!!!

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  46. Posted: 22 May 12

    I have always fancied sexy hot white men. i like them alot..i need a sexy hot white boyfriend ASAP

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    • jrebs43 says:
      Posted: 23 Jun 12

      I need a sexy black woman or just a black woman. Black women are the best!!!!!!!!!!

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  47.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 22 May 12

    I'm physically attracted to white and hispanic men but I'm still a bit shy on how to interact with white men.

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  48.   huntereyes says:
    Posted: 21 May 12

    I haven't met anyone yet off of this site, however I'm still hopeful. I really hope Mr. right is out there for me. This dating site should have a meet and greet in New York or New Jersey. I would definitely show up.

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  49.   kedres says:
    Posted: 21 May 12

    White men are so sweet, have never got achance of finding one but i have their feelings,what i believe about them is true love, care ,so romantic with their nice skins!!!! i love them.

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  50.   Seryndipity says:
    Posted: 20 May 12

    Ive been there... It is very frustrating and it makes you question yourself. Ive come to finally realize that its not me. So dont wreck your brain trying to figure out what you said or did for him not to call, 95% of the time it has nothing to do with you. The chemistry via phone, internet, etc can complicate in someway the chemistry face to face. Please dont let that hender you at all. There are plenty of others out there worthy of a lovely ladies attention.

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