Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?
It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.
Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.
However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman’s confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity…᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.
So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?” Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.
Bottom line, you don’t have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.
@s33 – date younger. Probably more non-mothers on teeny bopper sites. I would expect most women in my dating range would have already had children. ~kev
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BLM70, I think certain willful females that are fickle in their relationships and are spoiled should be sent to the middle Eastern Muslim countries to see how good they have it with American men. Give them a year there and their attitude would change drastically and they wouldn’t be so quick to take American men of any race for granted when they see how bad the Muslim women in the Middle East have it!!;-) Plus it would cut down drastically on illegitimate kids and divorces because women that are caught fooling around before marriage there would get stoned to death!! And divorce is almost unheard of, you are forced to stick it out!! So if that were the policy here, this website would be full of virgins no matter what age they were!!;-)
Joseph Moyer
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SweetAttny, I like how you think. It has been my observation that so many more black women than white women have strong Christian values, and many I have come into contact with are even pastors. I suppose that is one of my attractions toward them. Oh, I realize there are many who are not that committed, too, but overall it seems that the black women I have come in contact with have been.
I think one thing Serenity33 is hiding is that by claiming to be Anabaptist he is not referring to himself as how the majority of US citizens know them. That would be Amish or Mennonite. If you consider that, then, it explains a lot of his beliefs. They may be different than ours, but they are not wrong. What is wrong, in my opinion, is his usage of a dating site like this one, and others, when the vast majority of the population do not follow the same values as he.
When we reach an age beyond our late 20′s, most available women will have children. That’s just the way our society has become. For a man to not understand this and accept it greatly limits his chance of success. It’s called “baggage” and most of us, black, white, red, yellow, pink, or green have it in some form or the other. As for myself, I have a daughter. Any woman I develop a relationship is expected to understand that and accept it if she wants me to feel the same about her children, if she has any. That’s just life.
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I’m so sorry in taking so long to get back with you folks, as I’ve been helping getting my grand daughters ready for school. Now that can wear a person out.
So hopefully, sometime over this weekend I can finish up our conversation at the Trailways station, as the record goes that was the last conversation we had until Oct. 2005. I knew this sounds so strange to some of the younger generation, at times we have to just trust that God has a plan for us.
Love & may God bliss each of you
Love Sarah
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It is very unfortunate that so many men and women have children early. Yes black women often have children out of wedlock, out of job, no education, etc. Most of the white and biracial women who choose black men in my area have a lot of children from many different fathers.
Fortunately, I chose a different path. I am free and single and without children. It seems though that a lot of men are in a situation where they are divorced with minor children that they must continue to parent whether or not their children live with them or not.
When a woman without children does not want a man with children it’s considered to be “shocking” or selfish. I feel it boils down to “are you honestly free to pursue a relationship without compromising your standards?”
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I totally agree with you 2sexyb!! Many black women do have children at a young age and although alot of them are great others, having children very young does hinder you from goign out there and enjoying the things that life has to offer. Education being one of them. Alot of young mothers dont even have the time and/or money to think about going to college and its ok when the baby is still a baby but it becomes a big problem in 12 years when your child can fend for themselves and you realize that you want to change careers. That is why its important to educate your children at a young age about the importance of education as it can open many doors.
Unfortunately, if a black woman isnt educated or have some sort of solid trade/business going on, you arent as respected as your uneducated caucasian female peers. But watch how most black male athletes run and take these uneducated caucasian women (as if they are so much better-they will sue you too during a divorce just like a sister would lol) and make them wifey while you’d hardly ever see a white male athlete take an uneducated black female and make her wifey. We loose on all aspects and for those reasons, I intentionally made a conscious decision to educate myself as much as I can and stay ambitious more than average. I realized that has earned me more respect than I could have ever asked for but its the truth in our harsh world.
I am only saying this because I see alot of sisters dating out of their race as they feel it would “create their identity” where as your real idenetity is what you make of yourself. I am totally down with interrcaial relationships as I feel its time for us to stop waiting for that “brother” to look our way when we could define our own happiness and find love else where. Lets break down the barriers and not limit ourselves.
INTTERACIAL RELATIONSHIPS ROCK!! (but remember they also have their ups and downs)
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In my last post I meant to say…”Many black women do have children at a young age and although alot of them are great MOTHERS” lol (but I accidentally typed “others”)
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BTW I am new to this forum…I find most of the topics in this forum very interesting except the religious preachings that have been going on in here but hey life goes on.
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I guess the above peoples views are based on what is happening in the U.S. I am located in Zimbabwe, culture does have an effect on how society turns out. serentiy33 mentioned about the culture in the middle-east and how it could change our mindset if we stayed there a while. I agree. it’s obviously all to do with globalisation I think. we tend to take-on a world norm if I can call it. So many factors lead to why a person finds he or herself in a situation. I just think it wouldnt be too right to worry too much on whether a person has children or not, yes they are important and have an effect on the relationship but if it lowers a person’s rating….simply put don’t be put off. I could easily have had children myself, but have the qualities you are looking for.
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What is up with this stuff about women who have children and choosing paths and religion stuff….Stop meddling and get back on the subject…if a man doesn’t want to date a woman like me with children then they can find women who don’t have them….women like me have options….I have a job, education, have been married now divorced, have had children before marraige, still bought a house and take care of my family…..I am glad I have my children…..I don’t care what anyone thinks about me or them…..women with children still have options and don’t have to pay attention to people who want to harp on the statistics and people putting them down…it does not good. Move on.
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I’m a city girl from a very diverse community. Therefore, I grew up around various races and cultures. I’m young, black, educated, open minded, no children, not married yet. I have girlfriends from different ethnic, social, and cultural backgrounds. Most of them are educated, one or two are still in school, some of my girls have children, some don’t, some had them had them young, others waited until they felt fully prepared, some gave birth in marriage, others gave birth out of wedlock. The common thread between all of us is that we respect ourselves, we are confident, and we attract men (sometimes other women LOL).
My point is, NO woman deserves to be disrepected or denied options simply because of her age, race, income, or marital / parental status. We as women, are all valuable in our own individual way. We are QUEENS and deserve to be treated as such. We cant allow men to label and grade us, as if we were pieces of meat. It’s not 1900, its 2010. Behind every great man, you’ll always find a strong beautiful woman. PEACE. LOVE
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Been studying…haven’t gone anywhere. I like the new scene. I am a Christian. I respect others that believe differently but don’t respect people who bash me because they think they will bring a negative focus on me for whatever reason. One thing that I have found from this site is that white men really do love the black women. The thing that is the hardest for me is finding one that has the chemistry factor. I know that there is someone for me I just have to wait for him. The one that is serious will not take me for granted. He will love me and my children.
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@ 2sexyb
I hear you….I am glad that you are blessed and have the opportunity to wait until you meet the right person for marriage…none of what I said was directed at you….the life that you have is the same as what I want for my two grown daughters….to wait. I hope you find a wonderful white man if you haven’t already….peace.
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Joseph, ridiculing Friendly is not the proper thing to do. You really need to get a woman in your life or some other interest. Friendly merely identified her religious affiliation, she wasn’t trying to start another topic not related to why white men love black women. Religious affiliation is a characteristic, and an important one. Most dating websites have a box to identify this characteristic because it is an important one. I, for one, will not be interested in a woman who claims to be atheist, agnostic, Wiccan, New Age, or Moslem. The reason is that I don’t want a life with a mate that I am constantly in turmoil with. You’ve stated the characteristics you are looking for and nobody has condemned you for that. It’s only when you try to turn this forum into a pulpit that you encounter resistance. Are you really searching for somebody to share your life with or just trying to raise a ruckus?
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I joined this post to discuss IR, NOT politics, NOT religion, NOT morality. PLEASE stick to the subject. If you have NOTHING to offer on “Why white men love the black woman”, then don’t comment.
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@friendly13 – Good to see you dropping by. Hope your family, school and remodelling activities don’t keep you away. I’ve always enjoyed reading your comments on IR. And you’re correct, WM do love BW and that ‘special someone’ is out there for you. It’s just a matter of time.
@bellelicious – Hang in there. I’ve been assured by those that are moderating the forum(s) that they are aware of the issue and are indeed trying to regain control of the forum(s). In fact, the reason why you must now wait for your post to be reviewed before becoming permanent is such an example. Don’t give up; share your thoughts.
@Scoff/Sarah – Can’t wait for the “Train Station” portion of your story. I think I can speak for most here – we love the tale about you and Scoff.
Take care all!
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I agree with you Nawl. So with that Scoo/Sarah please finish the Saga ….
Thanks for the 2 flirts:)
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Wow! This is kinda crazy…? From an intelligent, educated, HAPPY “Black” woman’s perspective, I have a problem with the divisions between peoples. For me, if you’re not an angry ogre and exhibit qualities like; Integrity of Character, respect, stability, loyalty, honesty and monogamy, sense of humor and compassion; You could be purple, green and blue with orange stripes, if you possess these qualities, you’re good to go in my books.
See, I grew up in New Orleans and along the MS. Gulf coast. The complexity of culture is so apparent there, that our sub-cultures are all mixed up like a perfect salad. I am black like the night. My sister is a Caucasian-looking woman with green eyes and red hair. We knew no “color” differences, our differences came in the grand social perceptions of other peoples. We never knew who was truly “white”, nor did we care. Everyone has the same basic needs and Love just happens to be color blind. We were taught: “You can’t help who your heart loves” and to never be ashamed of your dating choices based on color. That’s too disgusting to even need explanation.
From the another hand though, Sociologically speaking to bring you out da box, In the south interracial dating is not new. Massah always had some Brown shugga somewhere and Mrs. Massah had some too. (I’m not speaking to the negative sides of that history like wars and crazy raper-peoplez ok) But, Most of the relationships(arguably) and contrary to history’s writers beliefs, were consensual. It was good then (ask Thomas Jefferson if he had a problem) so, what’s changed in my opinion is that we are willingly ready to love out loud instead of in the bushes or the shed behind the house. We are proud to say we have options in dating as opposed to opposition(s)….
The times we live in makes the playing fields more even as we all are suffering for a love that won’t tuck tail and run at the first sign of danger or difference. Why then can’t we lift each other up in Love and stop trying to analyze everything based on things that won’t feed, clothe, educate and bring peace nor love to one another. That’s why we’re here right to find that precious Love that makes our light shine more brightly.
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**Important Note**
“The thing that’s too disgusting to even need explanation.” is out of place. The racial differences in dating and how we’re treated because of our choices as judged by the general consensus over time is what that refers too.
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To everyone here who is currently actively dating or involved (engaged, married)…I’d love to hear how you met your significant other and di dyu go through the “so-called” issues that interracial relationships as labelled to come with? I love a good love story!!
I’m all ears…
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@ Newawlunzguy…Thanks for the update!
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Black women are great and have no flaws and all white men should try and date them.
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@MsF8th7 – I enjoyed your comments and was delighted to see we both share origins: I was born, raised and educated in New Orleans as well.
I had a chance to watch “Something New”, the IR movie with Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker (Kenya & Brian). [I forget who on this blog suggested this to me, but VERY happy they did.] At the time of this writing, I now own a copy of the film and have enjoyed viewing it several times. While I cannot speak for Sanaa’s portrayal, I can empathize with Simon’s character. The movie is a delight to watch and should be an inspiration to all. I found myself sharing “Brian’s” frustrations and ideology and loved the way the writers and producers allowed the lives of “Kenya and Brian” to intertwine and develop.
I thought the movie helped to expose some of the differences in our two cultures and yet, allowed the movie’s message to be revealed: love has no color. Acceptance, respect, patience, and love based on solid friendship is key to an endearing relationship.
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@ MsF8th7 My sista…. I respect most of what you have commented on; but for you to say that “MOST RELATIONSHIPS” during slavery was “CONSENSUAL” is unbelievably atrocious.
There can be no ” REAL” love in a servant / master type relationship. When some one can at his / her any whim…rape you, humiliate you, beat you, lynch you and not suffer any ramifications and consequences, for their un-human actions, My Sista….that can never be true love. The Bible says, there can be no true love in fear.
Let me ask you a question, Do you think there were perverts, child molesters, pedophiles and rapist (monsters) back in those days?….I submit to you, Yes….Yes unequivocally there were.
In my humble opinion, a true and genuinely consensual relationship, can never exist with someone who owns you / me. When a master can at any given time, day or night; come to your house, and rape you in front of your children, in front of your husband / man, and there is not a thing he can do about it, Why? because “you be massa property”. “And you better pretend you like it” !!!
By the tender age of 15yrs…my Sista, most girls were already violated, and used for breeding purposes. Forget about child protection, it was open season for pedophiles 24/7, 365 days year round. At 8, 9 years old and younger, mothers were already instructing their
little girls (Oh! and boys) these babies, on what do do when massa approaches you. How best to arch your body, so as to cause you less damage at such a tender age…and my Sista, I am being very tame with my use of words and adjectives here.
It is no coincidence of the correlation between this ” Consensual Love” during slavery, and the ravages and results of the misappropriation of these actions today.
My Sista,….teenage pregnancy, the emasculation of our fathers, brothers, uncles…..these are real. Real and dire issues as a result of that ” Consensual Love”.
May I suggest, in love, that you look-up Dr. Joy Leary DeGuiy’s: Slavery: Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.
You are my Sister! I love you with the love of Christ, Be Blessed.
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I have read all the posting and I must say the subject got lost in the sauce. The person who posted the question wanted feedback. To answer your question I have been told by several white men and they say that “black women are assertive, know what we want, loyal, loving, passionate, and compassionate”. The posting describes me and my personality. I take that as a compliment and am glad to be viewed in a positive light. There are a lot of sterotypes about black women being controlling and rude. That may be true in some cases but most of us are educated and want someone who compliments our accomplishments. We want men that are our equal and I find that has been my experience and wish all much success in finding that special person.
PS TRY TO STAY ON THE TOPIC
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I enjoyed reading your post and you are right about many of our black brothers. If you fall in love with someone from another race fine. Love has no bounds or colors.
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@bellelicious – To address your comment, “is is/has anyone experienced any of the [inherent] “so-called” issues that interracial relationships” appear to have. My answer would be affirmative. IR dating has involved different experiences for me in New Orleans, which varied from Houston, and differed in a smaller community in Louisiana,
Mostly what I experienced was the ‘appearance’ of acceptance in the larger metropolitan areas, and a lack of acceptance in the small community. In fact, I think the reason I enjoyed “Something New”, was that I was able to identify with what Simon (Brian) went through in the film. I’m laid back, open and accepting, and was taught to encourage diversity all my life, much like his character. But the scenes in which he is with her black friends seemed all too familiar: I was exposed to ‘suspicion’ and comments as to ‘why’ I was involved with a black woman. There were the ‘humorous’ jokes made at my expense, and at times, topics of conversation were baffling and unfamiliar to me. The film made a valid point: I didn’t know I possessed a certain skin color until in a room of folks with different skin tones.
Was it uncomfortable? Of course. And while, to some degree it bothered me, I never let it show and shrugged it off as ‘ignorance’ (not in a demeaning manner). It’s difficult for me to understand bias or discrimination because those were never ‘learned’ attitudes, values or beliefs. I have always looked ‘inwards’ at a person and saw past ‘color’. That doesn’t mean I’m color blind; I can differentiate between hues of black, brown and amber. But it’s the personality traits that I focus on while still appreciating the outer beauty of my partner/date.
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I think as individuals we need to get beyond this idea and notion that we’re somehow ‘different’ – we’re not really, except in outer physical appearances. We all possess human traits: desire, love, anger… We are all ‘constructed’ similarly: # of arms, hands, feet, legs… Science, through worldwide DNA sampling and testing*, is revealing that we do have common ancestry and that it has been our environment that has altered the outer physical traits we now classify as Black, Asian, Hispanic and Caucasian. There’s truly no such thing as a ‘pure’ race; we’re all “mutts” and need to embrace this.
*In the field of human genetics, “Mitochondrial Eve” refers to the most recent common matrilineal ancestor from whom all living humans are descended. All humans alive today share a surprisingly recent common ancestor, perhaps even within the last 5,000 years, even for people born on different continents.
The fact is, we are all “brothers and sisters” guys ‘n gals.
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Hey everyone….glad to see that there are still whitemen who love the blackwomen out there. I have been enjoying the comments made…I don’t want everyone to forget about me because I love the whiemen who love the blackwomen….I remeber when it seemed like there weren’t any but now the whitemen who love the blackwomen are speaking up…thanks a bunch. It is encouraging.
@cakelady1,
Don’t be discouraged…sometimes villans sneak in to take us off our topic. But hang in there because we need you and others who enjoy this topic.
@ James
Thanks a bunch.
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Hey guys…another good movie that features an interracial relationships is “Things that got lost in the fire” starring Halle Berry and I forgot the lead guys name….it is a very good movie. I like it most because the characters didn’t have hangups about race…this is a gotta see it movie.
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Hi Friendly, the dude’s name that starred alongside Halle Berry is Benicio del Torro, I’ve never seen the movie but thanks for the referral.
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Black women are great and have no flaws and all white guys should date them.
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I vote “serenity33 ” for President!!!
A lot of what you’ve posted makes perfectly good sense and I agree with a lot of what you’ve said.
I agree a lot of black women are great…….hince, I happen to be one
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Take Care!
Shotgun007
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Hi Guys:)
I have 2 good movies if you are interested, of coure they deal with IR BW and WM, they may be oldies but they are still relevent to the topic. Sallie Hemmens an American Scandal the Thomas Jefferson Story based in Va. and Feast of all Saints bases in N.O., La. Dealing with Placage relationships and the wonderful Creole, down there.
If the President, Thomas Jefferson, one of the Founding Fathers of this country falls in love with a Black girl you know any normal non-black man can do the same.
Monster’s Ball also was mentioned a few weeks back that is another good one. I like that fact that each of them Halle Berry and Billie Bob Thornton had needed each other bec. they had both been going different trails and tribulations in their lives. It was good alos to listen to the commentaries from this movies also.
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I think I had purchase the above movies from cheapmovies.com or columbiahouse.com I wouldn’t spend more that $14 or $15 a piece for each movie.
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Has anyone watched “Guess Who” – with Ashton Kutcher as Simon Green and Zoë Saldaña as Theresa Jones, along with Bernie Mac as Percy Jones, Theresa’s father? I’ve heard mixed reviews.
The movie you refer to F13 is entitled, “Things We Lost in the Fire” (2007). I’ve not seen it based on the subject matter. I’m more of a romance comedy guy; this movie seems to be a drama involving Audrey’s (Halle Berry) loss of her husband, Brian (David Duchovny) and her strained relationship with her husband’s friend, Jerry (Benicio del Toro) a heroin addict.
While not a Black-White IR movie, “When Fools Rush In” with Matthew Perry and Salma Hayek, the film exemplifies cultural differences and is also a light-hearted romantic comedy.
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And it’s one, two, three, strikes you’re out at the ol’ ball game! Sorry, that song is stuck in my head. I love baseball… Do you enjoy the sport, Joseph?
I’ll have to check those movies out @ChocolatLadi. The latter one intrigues me because I’m a native of New Orleans, but I have been wanting to see the former one mentioned.
I’ve read a few pieces of history on TJ’s romance with Sally Hemmings. The proof of the relationship is “strongly circumstantial” but quite convincing. It appears there’s no formal records, and DNA tests have been argued both ways. It’s the circumstances involving Sally’s proximity to TJ and such factors as her children being freed when no others were, that seem to indicate there was a strong relationship of sorts. In fact, Sally Hemings and some of her siblings were the children of John Wayles, Thomas Jefferson’s father-in-law.
While I do not want to bring in the political or (im)moral circumstances that brought TJ and Sally together, I do think it demonstrates that interracial relationships have always existed, and will likely continue to exist. Basic laws of physics: Opposites attract and likes repel.
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I think everyone should go and see this movie.
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I would like to comment on the movies that have been discussed about IR relationships. All of these do give some insight but to be honest with each other we must get out and meet or introduce ourselves to the other races. White men we don’t bite in public only in private…LOL so come over and talk to us. You will be surprised that we want too talk you as much as you want too talk to us. Black women we all know how we have that look on our faces, because we are trying to get to point A and B. I know we don’t mean to look unapproachable but we do. The next time we all go out in the world just take some time and look around you will be surprise to see who is looking at you.
JUST A FRIENDLY OBSERVATION
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Hi Everyone:)
Another must see is a House Divided with Jennifer Beals, Sam Waterson and Slave girl Marcia Gay Hamiltion. Sam Waterson raped his new slave girl Marcia Hamiltion she gave birth to a dtg, J. Beals and S. Waterson and his mother raised that biracial child as a white child until it was time for her to start courting. That’s all I’m “gonna” tell you. The libraries do not have it nor block busters, Columbia House has it on VHS for around $40.00. I found it somewhere in Hawaii for around $12.00 online with the $4 or $5 shipping, it came as a boot-leg DVD but it was very much worth it. Don’t pay the $40-50 bucks for it, contact me and I can see what I can do. I do believe it was on Showtine a few years back.
Peace and Love to Everyone in Black or White
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A really good movie about IR romance and its struggles for acceptance is “Corrina, Corrina”, starring Whoopi Goldberg. If you haven’t seen it, it’s a really good chic flic.
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@ cakelady1 – I concur that watching a movie and experiencing a realtionship are unrelated. And you’re correct, I haven’t been bitten in public by striking up a conversation – at least not yet!
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“Malibu’s Most Wanted” is a wonderful movie about Black/white relationships that we could all learn from and it has a very happy and wonderful ending with love and harmony at the end. We all could use more of that in our lives couldn’t we?
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@John8870
Oh yeah! I forgot all about that movie….that is a great movie with Whoopi Goldberg and that fine actor whose name I do not recall…yes that movie was so good I saw it several times. I would like to get it and watch it again because I have not seen it in a while. Thanks for bringing that back to the forefront.
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I thought this was supposed to be about IR, not about how many children black women have. We all have to play the hand we are dealt. I have too children that I love more than anything. No I am not with their father, yet somehow that makes me undesirable? STFU. If you don’t want to date a women with kids bypass us, trust we will not miss you.
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I agree with latechmom77 totally.
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Geez can’t anyone stay on topic, lol:)
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Hello all – I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.
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Everyone has characteristics they prefer in a mate. I don’t care to date short men, smokers, men with young kids, men who have been in prison, men who are bi-sexual, etc. I should be able to say that without someone responding with profanities.
Don’t be hypersensitive about your situation/characteristics. Just make the best of it…live with the choices you’ve made.
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I would like to here from white men and black women why white men are attracted to black women. Could someone please answer that question more specifically because I honestly don’t know and am ignorant on the subject. Twightlight, what you said could be said for any race. Could your anyone else specifically say why white men are attracted to black women? Twilight. Why do you think white men are attracted to you? I am really curious to know. What about you Jan? Can you get us back on topic and tell us why white guys have been attracted to you?
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@ Serenity33
I really cannot say “why” white men are attracted to me. I usually date men with certain charcteristics (educated, healthy lifestyle, clean-cut, tall, single/divorced)…no matter what their race or ethnicity.
I don’t mind getting my hands dirty cutting grass or painting a fence. But I “clean-up” well for a play, dinner party, or just sipping something cold on the front porch.
There is a certain type of man (vs. race) that finds me attractive.
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I like women in all flavors. My palette seems to prefer butter pecan and chocolate.
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A woman is a woman. Some are light, some dark, and others somewhere in between. What makes them different are culture, upbringing, and attitude. What makes them unique is “chemistry”, also referred to as attraction. As a Floridian, I have known a number of Latino’s and I am happy to include them in my prospect list, too.
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WELL!!! I must say: I only just joined the site so I’m now navigating my way through the aspects beyond ”searches” and ”profiles”. I am a Caribbean woman and ours is a culture so rich and diverse it almost defies definition. I am deeply attracted to Caucasian men, but have never dated inter-racially, for no other reason than the lack of opportunity.
When I read some of the poignant descriptions of the beauty and grace and radiance possessed by black women, as seen from the view of white men………………………………..It reinforced my decision to date inter-racially! I believe that what makes a person an INDIVIDUAL is everything BEYOND the physical that comprises them. Be it inherited or learned.
For ME, it’s a combination of ALL aspects, but coming from a society where certain behaviors are EXPECTED, I welcome and embrace the cultural variation and the chance to like what I like and see whom I want to see!
I get the impression that despite many white men willingness and desire to date women of colour, there is an underlying paranoia regarding the acquisition of Visas etc. An obvious throwback to the ”Gold Digger” stereotype. It is frustrating and to a great extent offensive, because I live in the Caribbean and although am prepared (should I meet THE ONE) to relocate, it is NOT a priority! I’m a Business Woman and happy in my Island Paradise and frankly would PREFER if my partner relocated instead of me!
In the end it comes down to the level of maturity of the parties involved and their faith in the love that they have for each other……………………….We are not in this world alone (by ourselves), but it is so easy to feel alone in this world!
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@Bronzejoy
Well said sister well said!
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Hmm. That says why white men are afraid of dating black women. And of course everyone is an individual and should be treated separately. I am still waiting for women of color who have had exclusive encounters with white men on ONLY date white women? Is there anyone out there and could they share why they think that this happens like the topic of the blog? Or this blog a total joke and there is no white men that would date black women exclusively? If that is the case, I guess I am wasting my breath in asking but I thought there might be at least one woman out there who had come across white men who exclusively date black women. I honestly want to know and i am not hearing any answers on the topic. Just people who don’t fit the criteria of the topic. I don’t fit the criteria either as I am not exclusive either to Black women which is why I am so curious if it exists or not since they saw fit to post the topic in the first place.
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