Comments on: Why do men cheat?

By: serenity33

serenity33 — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 03:00:05 +0000

I wouldn’t listen to this blog because it is only talking to men who cheated. New studies show that women cheat just as much as men do now that they are more equal and more mobile due to transportation. I know plenty of good men that were cheated on including myself. I was engaged to one and seriously dated the five that came after and they all cheated on me and left me while I never once cheated on them physically or in my mind. So my personal experience backs up the new studies that women cheat just on men. And as a Pastoral Counselor, I have talked to just as many couples were the female as cheated as the male has cheated. I think part of the problem is sex before marriage and no one being in a serious committed relationship and people not taking marriage seriously since it is so easy to get divorced. If more people would go to premarital and marriage counseling to iron out problems before they get out of hand, then I think divorce and cheating would both go down. But the moral fiber of the United States is going down the tube which is why we have the highest divorce rate and highest cheating rate in the world. I think both sexes need to stick to their commitments which is the glue when people are tempted to cheat. My parents just had their 54 wedding anniversary and neither of them cheated the entire time nor did either of them have premarital sex which I think helped them grow closer. If couples got together for the right reasons like compatibility and commonality of interests and were truly committed rather than lust or looks consciousness and/or money, then they could have a long and healthy relationship like my parents and even though my parents are in their mid seventies, they are still happily sexually active. I think we could learn a lot from people like that who never cheated.
Joseph Moyer

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By: quirky1984

quirky1984 — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 01:09:53 +0000

meant to say even though “now” that I….. Sorry.

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By: quirky1984

quirky1984 — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 01:06:19 +0000

You know this entire article is making me realize that odds are I will probably ended up cheated on. I believe I deserve better than that, which is why I just don’t date much. I don’t like the games and odd emotional politicking that is involved with dating. It’s so cat and mouse and about people hiding who they are until the last minute and then having the nerve to be shocked at what they find. In my familial life all the men cheat. So as a result, I just don’t have much faith in the idea of a faithful man. I have friends who say thats one of the reasons they turned lesbian, even though no that I think about it that had it’s own can of worms.

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By: Mr.mann

Mr.mann — Wed, 05 May 2010 19:46:12 +0000

I am a cheater, I cheated on my now ex wife no excuses! Now my reason in doing what I did was to me she criticized every thing that I done my friends weren’t good enough for her and she wouldn’t allow me to be the man she felt like she had to run shit.i startedcheating with a woman that let me be her man and showed me the love and attention that I exspected from my wife. Now I’m not sayin that was a cool thing to do but I’m just sayin!

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By: kourt kat

kourt kat — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 19:59:35 +0000

i cheated on mi bf n he forgave me n i did it agin n he forgave me again n den i think dat hes not happy n he wants ta cheat n b wit sumone else n if any gurl cheats on there man den u might wanna think bout it before u do cuz dey will say stuff like ur the one n bby dis n dat n den dey throw stuff up in ur face n say stuff like well u cheated on me so y cnt i do it itz kinda like revinge back on da chick n deyll say jk jk n stuff but u knoz wt they do behind ur back or to ur face well all im sayin is y n if u love dis guy n u r like in love wit him then y cheat n y lie bout stuff n i love mi man n im scared ta lose him n i dnt want to either but i think he wont cuz sum of the stuff he sayz i belive it

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By: fenway2k

fenway2k — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:31:17 +0000

WOW!! The bitterness and past hurts just OOZES throughout the responses.

I found this article very helpful because I see it for what it is:

1) It seeks to gain understanding as to why men may cheat

2) It debunks a lot of myths that are out there as to why men cheat.

In reading the responses, I had to go re-read the article. After doing so, I couldn’t find where the article excused or implied excuses for men cheating.

I believe this information could be invaluable for entering into a new relationship as a preventative measure. Healing a relationship where the infidelity has already occurred is another can of worms altogether because trust has been broken.

What makes me laugh is these stats came from the horse’s mouth so to speak, or the men who cheated. They gave their reasons why they cheated only to have the Bitterness Brigade dismiss them and interpolate THEIR reasons why that person cheated! The arrogance is astounding! You know them better than they know themselves! Amazing!

I have never cheated in my life, but I will tell you this…in one of my previous relationships, when things were good we were happy, I was into her only and I would literally look the other way when women tried to hit on me.

But she was very demanding and controlling and when we were nearing the end of our relationship, I noticed that I started paying attention to those flirts and returning eye contact. I also noticed that I would be short-tempered with my ex. The only point I disagree with is what those signs mean. A woman should not take these reasons as a sign of infidelity, but as a sign of their relationship being in jeopardy.

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By: neosha

neosha — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 09:53:54 +0000

i ben marrid for 8 years.but in that piriod of time
he hited seral time.we separeted for 4 year went with his lover had one child with her.know he’s back with me but i can never trust him again he is trying hard to make things work but the table is turne because am the one that’s chitting now.

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By: RYAN

RYAN — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:27:15 +0000

Not all men cheat. Some men cheat because they are not completely satisfied sexually with only one person. And some men are immature and just want to have fun and think that they can get away with anything.

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By: Alberta Gallo

Alberta Gallo — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:15:45 +0000

Men cheat because they just aren’t happy with what they have at home,case closed, dogs!!!!!!!!

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