Comments on: Why are more men turning down sex lately? http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-33196 serenity33 Wed, 04 Aug 2010 16:09:58 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-33196 Well it is also difficult with men and women having different peaks in their sex drive and different ages. Scientifically, men are at their peak earlier in life while women are at their peak later generally speaking. Of course there are many exceptions but this is the general rule. Women peak later as the grow closer to menopause as their bodies way of getting them to procreate while they still have any eggs left. Men peak early on and scientists are still wondering why this is so since they can father kids their entire life. One reason scientists say is that men in their sixties or later have been known to have defective sperm and have caused downs syndrome in babies so it would be better to reproduce sooner while their sperm count and testosterone level is still high and the quality of the sperm is still high. Before, the old notion was that older women were the culprits most of the time for downs syndrome or trisomy 21 babies because their last eggs were going bad. But now it has been linked to older males like I said. Anthropologists speculate that males having a strong sex drive early on is due to thousands of years of wars killing off the men that were older and had sex drives at a later age like 30 or 40 leaving through the process of selection, the males that reproduced earlier because of an early sex drive more likely to procreate and carry their bloodline on. Meanwhile, women lived longer since the men generally did most of the fighting and many women that were captured by the enemy were allowed to longer as slaves and often sex slaves. So women were allowed to procreate to a much later age in their lives than men thus allowing women not to have to develop their sexual peak until later. But I am speaking from a strictly biological and historical perspective. As more men live longer especially in countries like the USA that don't have wars in their own countries(foreign wars don't count especially as women are now allowed to fight) and we give testosterone supplements to older men to keep them sexually interested into older ages, the sex drive of men will start to even out despite them being young or old. Why do you think there has been billions spent on research for helping older men with erections like Viagra and other drugs? I personally think the money should have spent on reducing other health problems that plague our country like heart disease and cancer but even scientists make their money were the corporations who make big money, hire them the most. It is almost an obsession as pseudo science with pills designed to produce largeness and greater stamina sexually for older men make billions on the open market. Plus many women are becoming sexually active and enjoying sex at a younger age and of course marketing is helping that by helping women to enjoy sexual experiences better at a younger age with special condoms and gels designed to increase stimulation for younger women. Also, men used to be more visually based on what stimulus turned them on(hence all the pornography for men starting during the Victorian period in the late 1890's up to now) and women were more touch based sexually. But as the media sexualizes men in today's culture visually, more and more women are becoming visually based like men with an increase in pornography and erotic novels for women at younger ages and women becoming more looks conscious than men as our media drills it into their head and indoctrinates them into that type of thinking. Sex sells the most products in our economy both consciously and subliminally and the sooner the media can get women to be sexually active and interested at an early age, the sooner they can make more money off of them. Of course I am speaking in overall trends and there are always exceptions to the case but the companies out to make money really do contribute the most to how we think as a whole, male and female as they strive to make the almighty dollar. The greatest rate of single mothers in history is now recorded and that means more money for big industry with products for the single mother and now the single father when he gets custody of the child or children. Immorality and hedonism sells the most products and the word decadence which was originally a bad word is used in many commercials as a positive word to promote the pleasures of a hedonistically and immoral society and increase profits. Oxymoron's such as decadently good come out more or sinfully good and just promote more immorality and hedonism in our society. And movies and music are often just as bad in that capacity as songs and videos are all about sex and sexual romance is enhanced by movies like the twilight sage rated and targeted towards a younger teenage female audience causing delusions and unhealthy relationships. I think to try and go back to the way things were without acknowledging the evils that are going on in society and the media and corporations would just be a form of repression and denial of what we have become which was the point of the sexual revolution in the sixties and seventies in reaction to the sexual conservatism that caused Ozzie and Harriot to sleep in different beds on their fifties TV shows even though they were married. Only conscious effort and awareness and fighting the powers that be that want to make money will help our countries sexual problems. Then maybe sex will be seen as a beautiful thing and gift amongst married couples and men won't turn down sex so much anymore. Joseph Well it is also difficult with men and women having different peaks in their sex drive and different ages. Scientifically, men are at their peak earlier in life while women are at their peak later generally speaking. Of course there are many exceptions but this is the general rule. Women peak later as the grow closer to menopause as their bodies way of getting them to procreate while they still have any eggs left. Men peak early on and scientists are still wondering why this is so since they can father kids their entire life. One reason scientists say is that men in their sixties or later have been known to have defective sperm and have caused downs syndrome in babies so it would be better to reproduce sooner while their sperm count and testosterone level is still high and the quality of the sperm is still high. Before, the old notion was that older women were the culprits most of the time for downs syndrome or trisomy 21 babies because their last eggs were going bad. But now it has been linked to older males like I said.
Anthropologists speculate that males having a strong sex drive early on is due to thousands of years of wars killing off the men that were older and had sex drives at a later age like 30 or 40 leaving through the process of selection, the males that reproduced earlier because of an early sex drive more likely to procreate and carry their bloodline on. Meanwhile, women lived longer since the men generally did most of the fighting and many women that were captured by the enemy were allowed to longer as slaves and often sex slaves. So women were allowed to procreate to a much later age in their lives than men thus allowing women not to have to develop their sexual peak until later.
But I am speaking from a strictly biological and historical perspective. As more men live longer especially in countries like the USA that don’t have wars in their own countries(foreign wars don’t count especially as women are now allowed to fight) and we give testosterone supplements to older men to keep them sexually interested into older ages, the sex drive of men will start to even out despite them being young or old. Why do you think there has been billions spent on research for helping older men with erections like Viagra and other drugs? I personally think the money should have spent on reducing other health problems that plague our country like heart disease and cancer but even scientists make their money were the corporations who make big money, hire them the most. It is almost an obsession as pseudo science with pills designed to produce largeness and greater stamina sexually for older men make billions on the open market.
Plus many women are becoming sexually active and enjoying sex at a younger age and of course marketing is helping that by helping women to enjoy sexual experiences better at a younger age with special condoms and gels designed to increase stimulation for younger women. Also, men used to be more visually based on what stimulus turned them on(hence all the pornography for men starting during the Victorian period in the late 1890′s up to now) and women were more touch based sexually. But as the media sexualizes men in today’s culture visually, more and more women are becoming visually based like men with an increase in pornography and erotic novels for women at younger ages and women becoming more looks conscious than men as our media drills it into their head and indoctrinates them into that type of thinking.
Sex sells the most products in our economy both consciously and subliminally and the sooner the media can get women to be sexually active and interested at an early age, the sooner they can make more money off of them.
Of course I am speaking in overall trends and there are always exceptions to the case but the companies out to make money really do contribute the most to how we think as a whole, male and female as they strive to make the almighty dollar. The greatest rate of single mothers in history is now recorded and that means more money for big industry with products for the single mother and now the single father when he gets custody of the child or children. Immorality and hedonism sells the most products and the word decadence which was originally a bad word is used in many commercials as a positive word to promote the pleasures of a hedonistically and immoral society and increase profits. Oxymoron’s such as decadently good come out more or sinfully good and just promote more immorality and hedonism in our society. And movies and music are often just as bad in that capacity as songs and videos are all about sex and sexual romance is enhanced by movies like the twilight sage rated and targeted towards a younger teenage female audience causing delusions and unhealthy relationships. I think to try and go back to the way things were without acknowledging the evils that are going on in society and the media and corporations would just be a form of repression and denial of what we have become which was the point of the sexual revolution in the sixties and seventies in reaction to the sexual conservatism that caused Ozzie and Harriot to sleep in different beds on their fifties TV shows even though they were married. Only conscious effort and awareness and fighting the powers that be that want to make money will help our countries sexual problems. Then maybe sex will be seen as a beautiful thing and gift amongst married couples and men won’t turn down sex so much anymore.
Joseph

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]]> By: X http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-33195 X Wed, 04 Aug 2010 12:48:16 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-33195 @trulsassi, you wrote: "I think this issue speaks volumes about the construction of masculinity. Very few men are able to communicate well on an emotional level. For the most part, many women fake orgasms and sexual pleasure in order to spare men’s egos." I would bet that in most cases the woman fakes to spare herself, either to hasten the end of the coupling or to keep from being the focus of his anger and potential feelings of inadequacy. Some women simply have a very hard time getting an orgasm and it is not all the man's fault if she is incapable of learning her own body enough to help him find her 'buttons'. Then you have other women who get an orgasm so easy all the guy really has to do is touch her. But of course it's easier to blame someone else (the guy) if the woman has hang ups that keep her from getting off. I'm not saying this is always the case but it happens. @trulsassi, you wrote: “I think this issue speaks volumes about the construction of masculinity. Very few men are able to communicate well on an emotional level. For the most part, many women fake orgasms and sexual pleasure in order to spare men’s egos.”

I would bet that in most cases the woman fakes to spare herself, either to hasten the end of the coupling or to keep from being the focus of his anger and potential feelings of inadequacy.

Some women simply have a very hard time getting an orgasm and it is not all the man’s fault if she is incapable of learning her own body enough to help him find her ‘buttons’. Then you have other women who get an orgasm so easy all the guy really has to do is touch her. But of course it’s easier to blame someone else (the guy) if the woman has hang ups that keep her from getting off. I’m not saying this is always the case but it happens.

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]]> By: Sexulous http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29973 Sexulous Thu, 22 Jul 2010 11:19:57 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29973 I honestly believe all Men & Women in any relationship must make it a BIG Priority to simply COMMUNICATE openly with each other about what they are searching for. It's not hard at all, just speak to your Partner. As long as your Partner is one who sees the importance of taking time to hear what you have to say & them opening up as well. I also suggest for any Man who does'nt know enough about the Female Body, just do some Online research, I'm sure with a doubt you'll discover some amazing & amusing information about Women & their Sexual make up. [ God's Beautiful gift to Mankind ] I honestly believe all Men & Women in any relationship must make it a BIG Priority to simply COMMUNICATE openly with each other about what they are searching for. It’s not hard at all, just speak to your Partner. As long as your Partner is one who sees the importance of taking time to hear what you have to say & them opening up as well. I also suggest for any Man who does’nt know enough about the Female Body, just do some Online research, I’m sure with a doubt you’ll discover some amazing & amusing information about Women & their Sexual make up. [ God's Beautiful gift to Mankind ]

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]]> By: PetiteChick http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29972 PetiteChick Mon, 28 Jun 2010 14:56:37 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29972 Sexulous: "...1st of all PORN turns Me off. I believe in Live Action between Myself & a Woman." ----------- I'm in full agreement. This is one of the many things that have dismayed me about this site. Particularly with men overseas. How's the "sex" gonna go down? Webcams and other such modes of "so-called" sexing is not my thing. First there was phone sex, but now with the new technological advances.... I need to be able to "reach out and touch." I have put this full frontal on my profile more than once but it didn't stop the flirts and interested in. Another thing you pointed out so well which I fully agree on is people should match sex drive compatibly. I have no problem with those who have such an appetite - it just ain't for me. Quality will always outweigh quantity for me. And I don't mean all I need is once a week. I'm just say'n 10 times a friggin day? Nah! LOL. Sexulous:

“…1st of all PORN turns Me off. I believe in Live Action between Myself & a Woman.”

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I’m in full agreement. This is one of the many things that have dismayed me about this site. Particularly with men overseas. How’s the “sex” gonna go down? Webcams and other such modes of “so-called” sexing is not my thing. First there was phone sex, but now with the new technological advances….

I need to be able to “reach out and touch.” I have put this full frontal on my profile more than once but it didn’t stop the flirts and interested in.

Another thing you pointed out so well which I fully agree on is people should match sex drive compatibly. I have no problem with those who have such an appetite – it just ain’t for me. Quality will always outweigh quantity for me. And I don’t mean all I need is once a week. I’m just say’n 10 times a friggin day? Nah! LOL.

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]]> By: friendly13 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29971 friendly13 Mon, 28 Jun 2010 14:15:30 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29971 I think that couples need to be compatible. If a person gets with another person who just simply doesn't want sex as often as the other then the person needs to accept it or find someone more compatible. All men are not sex machines just like all women are not frigid. There are times when a woman would not want sex and there are times when a man doesn't...I have met only one in my lifetime...but I figure there are probably more like him. He eventually moved on and so did I. Now I definitely understand that I need to listen to the man who approaches me regarding a relationship and listen to his views about intimacy and sex. If is doesn't match up with what I want I don't get involved with that person. A person with a low drive shouldn't expect a person with a higher drive to slow down for them unless they choose to. I think that couples need to be compatible. If a person gets with another person who just simply doesn’t want sex as often as the other then the person needs to accept it or find someone more compatible. All men are not sex machines just like all women are not frigid. There are times when a woman would not want sex and there are times when a man doesn’t…I have met only one in my lifetime…but I figure there are probably more like him. He eventually moved on and so did I. Now I definitely understand that I need to listen to the man who approaches me regarding a relationship and listen to his views about intimacy and sex. If is doesn’t match up with what I want I don’t get involved with that person. A person with a low drive shouldn’t expect a person with a higher drive to slow down for them unless they choose to.

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]]> By: Sexulous http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29970 Sexulous Mon, 21 Jun 2010 09:01:13 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29970 1st of all PORN turns Me off. I believe in Live Action between Myself & a Woman. I honestly agree with the different conclusions to why Men turn away from sex & things Women do that breaks down Men's Self esteem. Not only in Humans but in almost majority cases of Animals, the Females have a Natural tendency to show a very Masculine aggression especially when it comes to Sex. Yes I agree a Man needs to watch his health when it comes to his sexual performance but all Women must realize not all Men are the same. No matter what a Person's shape or size body each Man & Woman already know how far they can go when in bed. Also no matter what alot of Women say about Men & performance, it's a FACT THAT MANY WOMEN ARE TERRIFIED OF MEN WITH EXTREME & OUT OF THE ORDINARY SEXUAL ENERGY. Especially if the Man is a Satyro-Maniac :- Man with extreme sexual appetite or has Stamina like a horse. Or if the Man wants Sex like five times a day many Women become afraid after awhile. The Fact is as Human beings People are always demanding way more than what they can manage in Life & in their Bedrooms. I think Women who are Nympho-Maniacs [extreme sex drive] should stick to Men who are Satyro-Maniacs [extreme sex drive]. Then they would both have their Matches. But it's obvious the problems come where opposites attract & many want a partner not exactly like themself in every way. As it was said B4, Not every Man or Woman are the same. 1st of all PORN turns Me off. I believe in Live Action between Myself & a Woman. I honestly agree with the different conclusions to why Men turn away from sex & things Women do that breaks down Men’s Self esteem. Not only in Humans but in almost majority cases of Animals, the Females have a Natural tendency to show a very Masculine aggression especially when it comes to Sex. Yes I agree a Man needs to watch his health when it comes to his sexual performance but all Women must realize not all Men are the same. No matter what a Person’s shape or size body each Man & Woman already know how far they can go when in bed. Also no matter what alot of Women say about Men & performance, it’s a FACT THAT MANY WOMEN ARE TERRIFIED OF MEN WITH EXTREME & OUT OF THE ORDINARY SEXUAL ENERGY.
Especially if the Man is a Satyro-Maniac :- Man with extreme sexual appetite or has Stamina like a horse. Or if the Man wants Sex like five times a day many Women become afraid after awhile.

The Fact is as Human beings People are always demanding way more than what they can manage in Life & in their Bedrooms.

I think Women who are Nympho-Maniacs [extreme sex drive] should stick to Men who are Satyro-Maniacs [extreme sex drive].

Then they would both have their Matches. But it’s obvious the problems come where opposites attract & many want a partner not exactly like themself in every way.

As it was said B4, Not every Man or Woman are the same.

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]]> By: fkoi http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29969 fkoi Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:53:29 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29969 I'm not just a piece of meat you know. LOL I haven't really noticed that I am turning down sex more now than I was in my 20s, say. I may not be pursuing it quite as avidly as I did then but I'm not too busy or at all hooked on porn. I’m not just a piece of meat you know. LOL

I haven’t really noticed that I am turning down sex more now than I was in my 20s, say. I may not be pursuing it quite as avidly as I did then but I’m not too busy or at all hooked on porn.

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]]> By: Mr Laurelton Queens http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29968 Mr Laurelton Queens Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:06:12 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29968 Oh boy (rolling eyes at Belle) Maybe if you put on sexy outfits instead of them damn sweat pants with soup stains on them. He would spank you more. Women kill me with this crap. I have been in a relationship roughly 4 years. She use to dress sexy and get her hair done. Now she goes to bed in old sweats and a scarf on her head. She also says " we don't have sex much anymore". I told her "we use to about 50 pounds ago when you was 140 pounds". How dare you say we "don't have sex much". I said "YOUR ass is not having sex". That's all I said. I am not cheating but she needs to figure out that statement. The problem is you women get comfortable in your relationship and think sleeping naked with your saggy belly and boobs just turns us on "right away". Learn something from strippers. Men are visual. Shit, I rather go to the gym and play basketball too. Then watch you in a scarf and old slippers complaining. Oh boy (rolling eyes at Belle)

Maybe if you put on sexy outfits instead of them damn sweat pants with soup stains on them. He would spank you more.

Women kill me with this crap. I have been in a relationship roughly 4 years. She use to dress sexy and get her hair done. Now she goes to bed in old sweats and a scarf on her head. She also says ” we don’t have sex much anymore”. I told her “we use to about 50 pounds ago when you was 140 pounds”. How dare you say we “don’t have sex much”.

I said “YOUR ass is not having sex”. That’s all I said. I am not cheating but she needs to figure out that statement.

The problem is you women get comfortable in your relationship and think sleeping naked with your saggy belly and boobs just turns us on “right away”.

Learn something from strippers. Men are visual.

Shit, I rather go to the gym and play basketball too. Then watch you in a scarf and old slippers complaining.

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]]> By: belle1978 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29967 belle1978 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 09:41:23 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29967 joining this discussion i must say that a lot of times men dont respond to our libido is cause of health reasons:high blood pressure,depressionetc.it could be for psychological reasons as well,maybe its a bad time for them personally and they find it hard to tune into the stud we expect them to. it might be the fact that the sizzle of the relationship has fizzled and the thrill of the begining has left the building..... men get lazy and selfish.they know sex is crucial in a partnership and yet they dont move a finger after a while. i was seeing this guy a while ago very athletic,health nut ,gymn rat .one would think the guy would have some stamina.for the months we spend together ,once a day was enough for him ???!!!!!!!!!!!!!thats abnormal for me.i did the talking even asked him if he is not attracted to me that much to leave it at that.i noticed he got offended and left it at that.its really frustrating.he wont change.im afraid im gonna have to do the unspeakable and get my needs fullfilled somewhere else. joining this discussion i must say that a lot of times men dont respond to our libido is cause of health reasons:high blood pressure,depressionetc.it could be for psychological reasons as well,maybe its a bad time for them personally and they find it hard to tune into the stud we expect them to.
it might be the fact that the sizzle of the relationship has fizzled and the thrill of the begining has left the building…..
men get lazy and selfish.they know sex is crucial in a partnership and yet they dont move a finger after a while.
i was seeing this guy a while ago very athletic,health nut ,gymn rat .one would think the guy would have some stamina.for the months we spend together ,once a day was enough for him ???!!!!!!!!!!!!!thats abnormal for me.i did the talking even asked him if he is not attracted to me that much to leave it at that.i noticed he got offended and left it at that.its really frustrating.he wont change.im afraid im gonna have to do the unspeakable and get my needs fullfilled somewhere else.

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]]> By: trulysassi http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately/comment-page-1/#comment-29966 trulysassi Thu, 20 Aug 2009 06:32:04 +0000 /fyooz/why-are-more-men-turning-down-sex-lately.htm#comment-29966 I think this issue speaks volumes about the construction of masculinity. Very few men are able to communicate well on an emotional level. For the most part, many women fake orgasms and sexual pleasure in order to spare men's egos. This kind of dishonesty has not benefited either sex. I personally think that sex and sexual pleasure as well as male/female relationships have to be radically redefined in order for us to have healthier relationships and more mutually pleasurable/satisfying sex lives. I think this issue speaks volumes about the construction of masculinity. Very few men are able to communicate well on an emotional level. For the most part, many women fake orgasms and sexual pleasure in order to spare men’s egos. This kind of dishonesty has not benefited either sex. I personally think that sex and sexual pleasure as well as male/female relationships have to be radically redefined in order for us to have healthier relationships and more mutually pleasurable/satisfying sex lives.

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