When Cougars Attack
Depending on who is doing the prowling there has always been a name for it... "Lolita, Boy Toys, Jail bait and now Cougars". It really boils down to the coupling of two individuals where there is an considerable age difference. Cougars are the older women hooking up with hot young men for SEX! They even have a movie about them. Not a good movie, but it just tells you how popular this "coupling" has become for the older women that take on a younger man. Is it an option for you? I guess it all depends on how young you feel and what you're looking for.
The NARP released a survey back in 2003 revealing that one-third of the single women between 40 and 60 were dating younger men... All we have to do is look back to the 1967 movie The Graduate to realize that this was NOT a new thing. If there is anything that is new about it, perhaps it's the fact that it's not as taboo anymore. In fact, there are a slue of celebrities that have joined the parade...and those smiles and waves seem to be getting bigger and better.
So, what does Madonna, Susan, Demi and Usher's old lady (no pun intended here), have in common? They are all at lease 9-years older than their men. In some circles, they would be labeled a "cougar", but I don't believe the term really applies here. See, cougars are supposed to just "hook up" with younger guys for sex. These women have giving up the opportunity to fornicate, for a ring and a promise of "happily ever after". Is there a new trend in women dating younger, or are we just hearing more about it?
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It would appear that society has become less judgmental and more in line with what men have always been doing. It could be that women and our attitude towards dating younger have changed. Before, women were having children younger and depended on their husbands for financial support. There was very little opportunity or thought given to dating or marrying a younger man because we were too busy looking for security and stability.
That's not to say that we don't still want security or stability today, it's just that we can pretty much provide it for ourselves. This allows us to find a man based on what we want not what we need. Speaking of desires, there is more to dating a younger man than just the sex. Depending on the woman, there is a great deal of excitement, fun and freedom. Excuse me for a moment as I generalize and stereotype...many older guys, still have that "me man you woman" mentality. They want someone to cook their food, iron their clothes and take care of them like dear old mom did. Again, not all older guys, but enough.
From personal experience, I can say that it was never my intention to seek-out a younger man. He actually found me. The age differences only comes up when we "remember" that there is a difference and make a joke about it.
One of the many pluses to dating younger includes energy or stamina. Do I really have to spell this one out for you? Let me put it this way, when I met my younger man, I thought that there was something wrong with him. Here are a few things I remember saying at the time: "How can that be natural?", "Didn't you...", "Then why is it still...", "Again?", "OMG, you're going to give me a f*&(!ng heart attack". Okay, maybe not the last one, but you get my point.
The minuses well, it's hard to pin point those as being age related. Other than his mother telling him "I had baggage", I mean, she was right. But, so did he. We still had to learn our way with each other. It helped that he was more mature than most men were at his age and that I've always had a very youthful outlook on life. It was a great balance and blend...it still is.
So, have you ever thought about dating a younger man, or guys, an older woman? When you created your profile and put in your age preference did you think about the way you've "always" dated or did you leave it open to "something new?"
See, I've only had the one and he doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Although I do joke that he's now as old as I was when I met him and it might be time for me to find a "younger" model. He only laughs, grabs me and the next thing I know I'm saying... "how can that be natural...OMG, you're going to give me a f*&(!ng heart attack.
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