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What's Up With All These Black Men Telling Black Women Nobody Wants Them?

Posted by Christelyn, 06 Nov 13

#InterracialRelationshipsAre4BlackMen - At least that's what Cory Alexander Haywood would like for us to believe, because hell, only black men, in all their Mandingo glory are even remotely appealing to people of other races, let him tell it. And black women, with their big lips, kinky hair, and wide thighs are only experiments, and white men don't want us--hell, NO MEN WANT US. Like many diseased-minded black men, Corey A. Haywood believes black women are good for little more than sperm receptacles. He said as much in his shit-for-brains rant, "The Black Hat: Hey Sisters, Feel Free to Pursue White Men; They Don’t Want You Anyway." I guess Corey, defeated male that he is, feels the needs to compete with black women over which gender is wanted more by other races.

Here's what he said:

In essence, sisters, your “white knight” (you know, the blue-eyed landscaper who swept Sanaa Lathan off her feet in “Something New”), doesn't exist; finding him is simply a figment of your silly imagination. He’ll never marry you, he wants her, the white girl you dream of being (in psychology, they call that self-hate).

With men like Cory held up as "quality" for black women, I'd say we need a whole cavalry of "white knights" to save us from men like him, because in the Blackistan, they are LEGION.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

He goes on...

In a perfect world, you would be worth marrying; the kind of woman who, despite race, is worthy of a pedal-stool right next to, or even higher than, Amber’s and Jessica’s. But to the men you seek, you’re nothing more than a social experiment, a walk on the wild side, a phat ass, full-lips and a willing mouth, a way to piss off mommy and daddy back home in Iowa. Being with you “sets them apart” from the other trailer-trash “rednecks” who feed into stereotypes drummed up by the media. European men who date sisters think themselves sophisticated, progressive, inclusive, color-blind, free-loving. But don’t be fooled by that jazz, it’s a mirage. Commitment-material, in their eyes, you aren’t. Hell, my co-worker, a white male, seemingly moral, once told me that black women, and “their dark spots,” look dirty. He obviously doesn’t speak for all non-black men. But in 2013, these remarks raise questions.

“I’ll definitely sleep with one [a black woman],” he continued, uncaring that such talk could spark a riot. “I don’t mind getting behind a nice piece of ass, but I would probably think twice before bringing her home. That’s still not cool where I’m from.”

But let's examine this little quote, and I'll break it down with pictures, so the neanderthal can understand.

“Sticks and stones my break my bones, but white men will never, ever, have you. Asians wont either, nor will Hispanics, Native Americans, Middle-Easterners, or any self-respecting adult male who comes to know you. That’s right sisters, aside from cultural restraint, your rancid demeanor is critical in why they’ll never bring you home to mama or acquaint you with close friends and co-workers; and don’t even dream about walking down the aisle. That crusty, dusty, rusty little finger of yours aint worth it (to them).”

Corey is here, ladies. And he's here to tell the world he's hotter than you.

So now you have to ask yourself, do you believe your own eyes, or the soul-killing poison Cory is trying to feed you? Make no mistake, ladies. When a man, any man, tells you that you're ugly, unworthy of provision or protection, and no one wants you, understand that these are classic tactics of an abuser. And what do you do to an abuser? You burn the bed and walk away.

You nothing-but-a-brother women can go on have Corey, your "black kang." See if he'll throw you a boner. Can you imagine, that simply because you are a black woman, your only choice for a mate is to convince men like Corey that you're worth pissing on if you were on fire?! Thank the gods all the ladies here know that's a big, fat lie. It's men like Corey that motivated me to write SWIRLING.

*The collage photos above are all REAL people found on one single, itty, bitty fan page called, Beyond Black & White.

 

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  1.   Lembeli says:
    Posted: 26 Aug

    From which hell is this man called Corey was raised?He's sick,mad and depressed because all sorts of women run away from him due to who he is,what he used to think and how he treats people, you know what!the cover of the book portrays the contents and he has written tell us who is he.He need serious full time classes and deliverance.

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  2.   Ruth116 says:
    Posted: 06 Feb

    There was a time my white then-boyfriend was at a beach. A group of males like Cory was staring at us. Loudly, one of them said, "Whenever you see white boys with sistas, they always get ugly black hoes!" Looks like someone Didn't get the memo about judging character over color of skin. Furthermore, none of those creeps were no GQ models themselves. If they were, I think the white GQ models are better looking. Stick that in your pipe -- along with your crack-- and smoke it, Cory!

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 20 Mar

      Some BM can be so rude. I think you are beautiful. Some BM are just jealous that BW are no longer waiting around for them to date/marry us. I have always dated ir and I always will.

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  3. Posted: 01 Feb

    A BM is the last man you should listen to concerning IR dating. I date who I want to date and I am glad that WM nor other men with any common sense actually listen to anything BM have to say anyway

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  4.   Passion678 says:
    Posted: 07 Dec 15

    These black men that put black women down instead of taking up for them are disgusting. These men are no good for any woman. I am very disappointed in you. When you talk about black women like that, remember your mother is black, so she is included. You black men that think like that about your black women all can go straight to hell, maybe that's why we are going to white men, because of a poor excuse for a man like you aren't worth having. We black women are strong and independent, and will know if someone is using us for their benefit, and that goes for black or white men. We will figure that out and make them history, and keep it moving til we find that one that will love us, respect us, communicate with us, and we be there for each other. We are smart enough to know if we are being used or not. People like you black men that want to talk ignorants need to take a class on how to be a real man, and how to repect women period. Maybe you can learn from a white man on how to treat a woman, because obviously you didn't learn any thing from home. How dare you talk about us like that, and you call yourself a man. You black men that think like Corey suppose to keep our heads up, protect, and encourage us, not throw us out to the dogs. To me you make all black men look bad, that makes me want a white man even more.

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  5. Posted: 28 Nov 15

    BM are always trying to tell BW that no one wants them so that we will stay in the Black community and be there for them to have sex with and not marry. Many BW have gotten the memo and I am one of them that men or other races love and appreciate us.

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  6.   mikemusic says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 15

    Corey is sick...and I'm a handsome,educated,good looking Black man. Black women are God's gift to this mad ass planet...and I love them. They're just harder to get at because they have made some bad choices chasing the "wrong kinda brother" ie Corey's and men like Corey have shit all on them and left them for not....sista...find a good brother.....

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  7. Posted: 10 Oct 15

    I'm a proud interracial. so be it

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  8.   Tk3000 says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 15

    As a white woman who has been surrounded by white men my whole life I will say that I have never heard such a thing mentioned. What is marriage material? A partner that is loving and respectful. This person can come from any where. I have known many men that express preference for Black women and no, I do not mean just sexually. I think a man will consider a woman for marriage if they connect and in order for that to happen they need to meet first and get to know one another- that means taking that first step in approaching someone. Just saw a clip about how white men tend to be less obvious in expressing interest and I completely agree. Watch out for those subtle signs because I promise you they are there.

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  9.   ml85 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 14

    But overall this idiot is a SELLOUT!!!!!!! I hate brothas like this coon. He keeps all the negative stereotypes about us black men going. Sistas stop letting these COON ass celebrities, and the media getting to yall, it is tearing us black people apart!!

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  10.   ml85 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 14

    You know what as a black man, I never told any black women, oh lord another stereotype, where is this site getting this information from. I never met or knew any black man to tell black women this, I've only seen it in the movies SMH!!!!!

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    • Galactic says:
      Posted: 24 Sep 15

      Yes they're out there. I ran into several. One guy told me I wasn't light enough for him, he only date women who 'could pass!' That was actually the first time I encountered a racist personal preference within our community. I've also encountered men (who had bad dealings with black women) now seeking internet groups to bond with other like minded men to discredit and deter other men from dating black women such as this fool. If they encounter women of other races doing the same, they'd overlook it and only concentrate on breaking down black women! Sad because they're mother, sister's, aunts, grandmothers etc are black women!

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    • BelusEnlil50 says:
      Posted: 17 Oct 15

      I am a Latino and recently on Facebook I with a few black men defended black women on a post honoring black women against the crazy madness and racial slurs against black women that mostly came from cold hearted black men, so don't tell me it doesn't exist! I love Black Women and I will defend them all, always!!!

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  11.   lolabunie says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 14

    its really sad to see that corey alexander, is so full of self hate and obviously jealously to be spewing that nonsense. it speaks volumes to see a grown man go out of his way to build an entire forum , he is a hurt individual that needs someone to talk to an figure out what his issues are and stop ,trying to bring black women down. because its not working ,we just pity you..

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    • Ruth116 says:
      Posted: 06 Feb

      It seems to me that Cory's frosted about no woman wanting to have anything to do with him. Boo freaking hoo!

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  12.   Dedeluv says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 14

    LOL what's up is self hate ...so sad!

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  13.   JRJRJRJRJ says:
    Posted: 12 Jul 14

    Corey is so full of...well...himself, that he leaves no room in that small minded brain of his for any true independent thinking. A big part of what he has to say is more to make him feel better by bringing those around him down. I am a white man and never hear that crap from friends and family. Not that some of it isn't out there...it's simply not a prevalent as small minded Corey believes. I would love nothing more than to meet a beautiful black woman to fall in love with. Hide her? Ha!!! I would be excited to have anyone I know meet the woman I love! Phat ass, lips, AND her beautiful mind!

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  14.   Larry2050 says:
    Posted: 10 Mar 14

    Love has nothing to do with colors, age, ability, etc. Love is all about acceptance, communication & understanding. As long as the two parties (no matter the colour) have a clear honesty about what they "want" in the relationship, ANY MIX CAN WORK... Ladies, date whoever you want. Lol

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  15.   shells35 says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 14

    This "person" is actually a house******. Obviously, he hates himself and his mother!

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  16.   MarieR says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 14

    I saw a video about that the other day. He was talking that excrement, I saw what he looked like and figured he was all stoved up over lack of self-esteem, etc. I would hazard that he has been told that no woman of any race would have him and now he bitterly believes that, oh well. . . .

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    • Ruth116 says:
      Posted: 06 Feb

      I don't want him! If I wanted to listen to the crap that Cory's full of, I'll flush the toilet!

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  17.   APISOSIR says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 13

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    • cakelady1 says:
      Posted: 11 Jan 14

      Wow! Out of all the comments you could have written you said that "a black woman is disloyal" because she happens to date outside of her race. If the media is portraying some negatively that doesn't define all.Then you call black women names wow. I think when you get older and get some real experience under your belt (life) wisdom and knowledge. You will not feel the need to quote what you heard others say; you will have developed your own opinion. I am speaking from experience I have grown daughters that are of your generation. One has dated outside of our race I never spoke negatively around them so they were free to think as they choose. I wont disrespect you because that would defeat the purpose of my comment. If I know young people you will feel disrespected even though that was not my intent and respond with name calling to feel as though you got me back or are putting me in my place. I ask that you STOP because it will only confirmed the obvious.

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    • redrose7777 says:
      Posted: 21 Jan 14

      Why would she blame her boyfriend or husband? Wouldn't he be a person who doesn't believe those negative stereotypes, and that's why he is with her?

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  18.   dshocke says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 13

    When absurdity is counter balanced with absurdity it's impossible for a winner to emerge unless the goal is to be absurd. There's a tendency to want to be either "politically" correct or incorrect with exceptions or have our cake and eat it too.

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  19.   cakelady1 says:
    Posted: 26 Dec 13

    I just think it is sad. I love my black men and have respect for them all I did come from a black man (father). I don't hate my race or feel disenfranchised. For me it was about finding someone who truly took the time to get to know me as person and wasn't intimated. Someone who could appreciate my brain; I am blessed to have found that man he just happened to be Irish/Italian. Our first conversation we just clicked and the rest is history. Mr. Haywood wrote this article and it clearly shows how pain he really has and needs to heal from that before he is ready for someone to come in and love him no matter what color they are. Can you imagine the negative vibe he is sending??? I feel bad for him carrying around that much hate must be exhausting. Corey, I will definitely pray for you. You don't even see you are the walking wounded. God Bless you

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    • Claudia617 says:
      Posted: 07 Jan 14

      I agree with you @cakelady1. The quotes of both Corey and the person who wrote the article , come from hurt feelings. I think as a community we need to learn how respect each other. We have stop letting these stereotypes that other race's put on our people affect and divide us. Remember there is a next generation involved and they look to us for positive reinforcement of themselves.

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  20.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 13

    This guy's comments are coming from a place of hurt and bitterness and if I didn't know any better I'd think he wants to be with a BW deep down inside. I'd say to this guy, "if you choose not to date BW then go after the women you prefer to date and leave BW alone because the disrespect and is not called for, just go and do you." To dwell on who wants or doesn't want BW is a waste of your time and energy and it does nothing for you in your efforts to find what you're looking for. Comments like yours only work to increase the division between BM and BW so keep your hateful comments to yourself and leave BW alone and try investing in your own happiness. Trust me, your hating will not stop them from seeking love from where they can find it and you only make yourself look foolish, as my grandmother would say, "only a fool would drink poison and wait on someone else to die!"

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    • Toy83a says:
      Posted: 07 Jan 14

      Its truly sad people can be so cruel and say hurtful things like this. It's like at the end of the day most of these same black men who insult and degrade black women, forget that they have mothers, sisters, and grandmothers who are black women. How do they feel towards these important figures in their lives? Do they put them down as well. Critique them? Some may do but it is disappointing to be happy and supportive of black males, while some of them want to only see you down. We can only pray for them, ignore them, and continue to live ours lives. We can't let them keep us down because they are bitter or secretly oppressed.

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      • Hon3yspice says:
        Posted: 05 Feb 14

        Don't forget that some of them also have daughters. How sad it must be for the girls who have fathers that spew hate towards black women!

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    • Patou9 says:
      Posted: 06 Aug 14

      I 'm not an Englishspeaker but i really like your comment.

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  21.   Elainee says:
    Posted: 10 Dec 13

    I am not surprised by Corys attitude toward black women. The simple truth is that we are solely responsible for what and how we feel. The best defense to self-hate is to live and love as we deem fit. Corys less than original views are pointless in todays world. The women in my family have always dated or married whomever they loved. If black women were brave enough to marry non-black men following slavery, what exactly is it that we have to fear? The hard work has been done!

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  22.   mrmr75 says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 13

    I love every race.. I think a women is the best gift to men by god.. Black,White,Asians, Latina,Etc.. but I don't think people should limit them self to their own race..Keep an open mind and make the world of better place..What a better way to kill racism? This topic categorized every black men and me as black men can't dig that. If you happy don't justify yourself.. And any black men degrading our sisters should be a shame of them self and should man up. Embrace the human-race...On this site I had also chatted with black women.. I think most sisters on here like me, keeping their options open..Love is love.. Great feeling when received regardless of race.

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  23.   mrmr75 says:
    Posted: 09 Dec 13

    I am a black men and I would never say that. I grew up around intelligent, educated and beautiful black women... So don't categorized all black men in this... I think everyone women is beautiful of every race..I am on this site to keep my options open. I think there's a lot of insecurity and people always trying to justify them self to why they date outside of there race... I don't have these type of insecurity.. Love is love. But, a lot of black people degrade their own kind to justify why the date outside of their race...both black men and black women does that.. love is love.. Stop justifying your love to others." It is what it is"..like they say.. If I see a sister with someone outside of her race and this man makes her happy and complete..Good for her. It's a beautiful thing. But, in the black community we have a lot of insecurity because of society and especially with black women, some think their too dark, don't like the texture of their hair,etc..and some; not all,specifically date outside of there race to have light skin babies and to have so called nice hair..if that is the case.. then that is not love because you don't love yourself but if it happen to love someone outside of your race with no insecurity issues..that is a beautiful story..Like me, i am keeping my options open. If I happen to find someone that is compatible with me.so be it.. I try other dating sites and most people are just playing games..So please don't label all black men in this.

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  24. Posted: 06 Dec 13

    Honestly I think it's ignorance and jealousy, who crowned him an expert, I also think he has some issues up top.GOD bless him

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  25.   boiler1 says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 13

    I my self can't say that. As l look close at the inner man. I must first take a look at my on standing. Its easy to cut other people down because of my inabilities. I also felt that our black women turn their faces when I said hi. Be after looking in the mirror. The truth will set you free. I felt that as a black man , no woman wanted me. But I'm looking at the inner man fears, emotional weaknesses. and lack of faith. That cause a man to be mentally weak. We must look on the inside for the answers. If I depend on other people to say who I am. Then I lose evrything. If I wait on woman to say who I am. To make me feel good. Then I'm looking for failure. I realize that I don't have to form a negative judgement on anyone. I love the black woman. I also love other race. Lets not get stuck in the past. It a lot of beatiful weman out here. Its a new day now. I want to enjoy all of it.

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    • kelvee4 says:
      Posted: 17 Jan 14

      you re right, i face rejection by black women but that will not make me to color them bad nor stop me from liking them. there was a time i felt no body want me i became frustrated that i see no point of being in this network the first thing i did was to put out my pix, but somehow i manage to put that behind me; i believe every one is free to make decisions, if A does not want you i doesn't mean that B will do same; there will always be someone for us.

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  26.   proserv394 says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 13

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    • boiler1 says:
      Posted: 01 Dec 13

      Hey brother , this is good for the soul. I'm reading a book call the game . Which help men know hwere they stand as a man. Neil Strauss the rule of the game. Have a lot of good pointers for me.

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    • carribeangal says:
      Posted: 06 Dec 13

      GOD bless..Relationships should be 50/50.Yes the man is the head of the house hold, you make it sound belittling

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    • kennede2001 says:
      Posted: 17 Jan 14

      So, you feel you can't be dominant when you are with a Black woman? That you only feel dominant when you are with a white woman? Maybe your marriage didnt work out because "things fall apart"? Your comment reveals a lot about your self esteem and to attribute your damaged ego to one demographic is asinine. Seriously? In the BDSM lifestyle you have never met a Black submissive? Really? Expand your circle and get some therapy for that ego.

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  27.   mercedesm says:
    Posted: 27 Nov 13

    I wonder about his relationship with his mother.

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  28.   Rosie_May says:
    Posted: 20 Nov 13

    That's right

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  29.   Divamama says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 13

    Love has no color. I'm a black woman,.who was married to a black man for 38 yrs. He passed away and I met a white man . Like I said " love has no color".

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    • sxybrwnsuga says:
      Posted: 29 Nov 13

      Impossible. You don't look old enough to have been married that long.

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  30. Posted: 12 Nov 13

    I say in life date or marry who you want regardless of race and love yourself.

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  31.   bobwire says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 13

    Not surprised by the corys of the world , and they are many ! I've dated only black women for the past 10 years and Ive seen how the corys of the world perform in many social scenarios. Those Cory types work overtime tryin to b-shit their used car salesman pitch tryin to pursuade a blk woman to surrender to their lies. And afterwards, disappear. Countless times Ive had to straighten out a blk guy tryin to sneakingly try to get the attention of my blk female date. Because, when it comes down to it the Cory types feel threatened by seeing their "sisters" with a white guy. Slowly but steadily more n more blk women are starting to realize the Corys of the world bring nothing to the table but their highly over-rated egos. Also mr cory , someday, when I do meet that gorgeous n fun blk woman, and I will ,,, I will marry her !

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    Posted: 09 Nov 13

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    • reese says:
      Posted: 22 Nov 13

      Why do you think that black women especially on this site care what black men want. I think you misunderstood the article. It is not why are black men leaving black women or prefer another woman. But why do they feel the need to get on youtube and try to down them. It seems like they must have black women on the mind or else why not just move on. By keep focusing on black women it seems like you are not all that content with your non black women are you could move on. We are on this site because we are looking for NON BLACK MEN. And we have are reasons so what you want or think doesn't matter to us. Maybe you should tell black women who want black men this. I can date who I want to I have options.

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    • tsla87 says:
      Posted: 25 Nov 13

      Lol. I love how you started off with the whole weave/hair stereotype. I'm a black woman who very much enjoys styling her OWN hair. I've cut it short worn it curly/frizzy/Chaka Khan style you name it. But that is besides the point... I also go to the gym 2-3 times a week and meet up with my other BLACK friend who is a woman who loves to go running once a week too! I also prefer to eat and make home cooked meals, visit museums and yes I do like to go to a nightclub occasionally, who doesnt? I'm rather stingy when it comes to shopping, I only buy what I actually NEED. But you know what it doesnt matter because you're clearly so small minded, so very ignorant in that little dirty bubble of yours that you think every BLACK woman conforms to the 'stereotype' you frivolously described.

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      • Ruth116 says:
        Posted: 06 Feb

        What a wise, resourceful woman you are! You'll make a great catch for some wonderful man. You're certainly too good for the likes of Cory, that's for sure!

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    • mercedesm says:
      Posted: 27 Nov 13

      You realize that women of all races (that can afford it) wears weaves, right? And that there are plenty of black women who wear their own hair. But like reese said below, it's an interracial site. Black women here don't care what black men think or want lol.

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 28 Nov 15

      And BM are TOO LAZY GET A JOB AND TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN LIKE WHITE, HISPANIC AND ASIAN MEN. GET A LIFE YOU SORRY LOSER. YOU ARE ONE OF MAIN REASONS WHY BW ARE DATING/MARRYING OTHER MEN. BM ARE NO PRIZE.

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    Posted: 09 Nov 13

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    • reese says:
      Posted: 22 Nov 13

      You are talking about a very small percentage of black men single, profession and childless considering we know the statistics of black men who have prision rates. Black men are no catch. You are not competing with black women, but with men of other races. Black women have also had bad experiences with black men, but we have more class than to try to tear them down on national media. But black women have the lowest divorce rates if they take out the Blackman. BW/WM lowest in the nation, Black women/Hispanic man 3rd lowest after white man and white women. Black men actually have the lowest divorce rates black women. Bm/wm have the lowest, 2nd lowest is bm/aw. So it is the black men who cannot stay married not the black woman. If we talk about negative of our race lets talk about less than 26% of black men supporting kids no matter what race the mother is. The highest unemeployment rate of anybody(much higher than the black women). The low level of education of black men because we know that black women had the highest % of any group going to school. In fact twice as many bw to black man in college. The high prison rates, downlow and homosexual, lack of taking any responsibility, the group of men with the least amount of power, lowest earning men, high rates of diseases, largest % of violent crimes and 2.5times more likely to abuse a spouse. And you will see why black men are the least desired for marriage of any group. The question is why more black women haven't jumped the ship sooner. Because our ir marriages last much longer than yours, are more stable and are happier according to any statistic. The truth is that black women are in the two fastest growing ir relationship. In two years we(not black men) have increased by 200%.

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    • carribeangal says:
      Posted: 06 Dec 13

      oh wow, black women are not the only women who gain weight and can't pay their bills, you obviously don't know what your talking about

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    • SweetCream21 says:
      Posted: 17 Jan 14

      I'm sorry you have not found your educated, slender,attractive black female. She will come to you, one day.

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 28 Nov 15

      WOW BM LEAD THE NATION IN EVERY NEGATIVE ASPECT OF SOCIETY THIS IS WHY I WILL NEVER DATE OR MARRY A BM.

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  34.   ProgMale says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 13

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    • dave_74 says:
      Posted: 16 Nov 13

      ProgMale, I'm guessng you are a black man, and most likely you are into white or Asian women. That is perfectly fine as everyone has their preferences. But what I don't understand is your nonsense against all black women as a need for your justification for dating outside your race. Is that really necessary? I'm white and acknowledge there are hundreds of million of beautiful white women,(just like Asian, Black, Latina etc.) however my personal preference happens to be dark women and I am happily married to a dark natural African lady. As far as HIV is concerned, actually according to the World Health Organization, USAID, UKAID and others, it is the black male who is the most infected, most responsible for spreading HIV (to black women, to other black men, and others) I guess what I am really asking is why do you feel the need to disrespect females within your race only because you are seeking some type of justification for dating outside? White, Asian, Latino men don't disrespect their sisters/ mothers when dating/marrying outside, however a lot of black men like yourself and Cory do....just wondering. Please enlighten us as this is a reoccurring topic.

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      • BeauThai says:
        Posted: 01 Dec 13

        Wow! This Dave guy is incredible, that is entirely not credible. What is he doing on here anyway, besides making crap up? This statement is absurd! "As far as HIV is concerned, actually according to the World Health Organization, USAID, UKAID and others, it is the black male who is the most infected, most responsible for spreading HIV (to black women, to other black men, and others) " What do just get off on bashing and beating on Black men to ingratiate yourself or feel superior? That statement is totally made up, false, and anyone can simply go to the CDC website (Center for Disease Control) for the actual statistics to see for themselves. You've got some serious issues dude. Shame on you quoting false sources.

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        • mzjaye404 says:
          Posted: 02 May 14

          so... where does said disease come from??? masturbation? a sneeze? generated in melanocytes? lesbians that are black? its proven men, particularly straight black men have also been proven statistically as more likely to forgo annual checkups by you guessed it the CDC(I worked for them) therefore numbers are skewed due to under reporting. I would never bash black men...but there are nuances to any epidemiological report.... please take into consideration before you throw around any quotes

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    • SweetCream21 says:
      Posted: 17 Jan 14

      Ok, what do you want AA females to do with your comment?

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  35.   Dont_know says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 13

    Frankly, I'm surprised anyone would be upset by this. But I am constantly reminded that common sense and enlightenment are not so "common" in a world full of multimedia. Isn't it obvious that no one attempts to tear someone down unless they believe that someone is above them? To use another metaphor, does someone attempt to run back to beat someone they have already passed in a marathon or do they try to beat someone still in front of them? Seriously, take it as encouragement that Corey (or is it Cory it was spelled both ways) is paying you a compliment every time he feels a need to drag you down, tear you down or slow you down in the race he feels he must feel he's losing because no one regrets much less mentions something unless it's something beautiful, valuable and worthwhile and therefore painful to lose. It would seem obvious that he values and thinks black women are beautiful and doesn't want to lose his ability to have them. He is the one who unfortunately feels is inadequate and not enough to garner your attention and affection any more. You should perhaps feel compassion for him. He must feel threatened and lost. I know that I would mourn the loss of my ability to date the most beautiful women in the world, perhaps simply-put, he does too. On a side note to the author, as i do not know if it was Cory (or Corey LOL) who is responsible for these misnomers: "pedal-stool" and "neanderthal" The correct English words are: pedestal and Neandertal. Respectively, to put one on a pedestal is to elevate something or someone like a wine or champagne glass has a pedestal stem, and neandertal is the region in Germany were the specimens were first discovered and anthropologists have actually shown the the neandertals were a kind, vegetarian, gentle and family-loving species that were murdered and killed off by well, us, homo sapiens the species that makes nuclear weapons, killing drones and slaves out of people Please excuse my somewhat pedantic rant inclusion here, I just like to teach and with the spread of a little knowledge, hope to help dispel the ignorance that begets hatred which begets harm on others and ourselves. Notably, Neadertal DNA is most prevalent in the peoples of Papau New Guinea who are also the most family-orineted communities on the planet. One last thing, RACE does NOT and never did exist. It is a social construct of feeble, but mostly, fearful minds. There is so much science to support this but this is something I have know intuitively all my life since a young boy whose family didn't want with black girls. I'm happy that science is finally catching up to world as it is as everyone caught up to it not being flat only a few centuries ago :))) http://www.smartplanet.com/blog/savvy-scientist/what-neandertal-dna-can-teach-about-race-autism-and-more/575 Thank you for reading. I hope that you don't mind that i went an extra mile here. If you do, then please forgive me. :)

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    • BeauThai says:
      Posted: 01 Dec 13

      I actually loved what you wrote and tried to like your post but the site registered it as a dislike and won't let me change it to correct it. Too bad you're not a woman, don't know. You seem like a good catch.

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    • carribeangal says:
      Posted: 06 Dec 13

      Well written

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    • kareyskye says:
      Posted: 29 Dec 13

      I like the comments above and feel more people should spend more time showing empathy for those who find their voice and personal edification by tearing others down. Good on you! I am a woman who has been dissed and dismissed by men of every race, but I don't waste my time categorizing "ALL" men because of the disrespect of a few. Fear and insecurity are the cornerstones of hate and all hate begins with self. Love is a choice and more people should choose to Love, themselves, their neighbors and this life! When people spend their time focused on what others are not they can never clearly see what they ARE! I wish you all the best in finding that perfect complement to share this journey with as I believe for myself and others.

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  36.   Nikeala3 says:
    Posted: 08 Nov 13

    No actually I get hate by the very light skinned and the very dark skinned black men. Its all the same no matter what complexion. I love all men regardless of race but it just so happens that my man is white.

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    • mrmr75 says:
      Posted: 09 Dec 13

      Perfect ...love is love.

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 28 Nov 15

      I agree with you. My man is White also and I no longer even care what BM think because they are the most racist against BW in general

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  37. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    *Unenlightened

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  38. Posted: 07 Nov 13

    Notice how it is never the light-skinned, caramel-skinned or medium bm. Whenever there is hate spewing like this, it's ALWAYS the dark-skinned ones. The ugliest dark-skinned ones; I will add. Enenlightened dudes like Corey; are they living under a rock? Or do they simply need glasses? Perhaps, they are living in denial? Is there a psychological explanation for this? A reason for the pattern? Whatever the reason, this Corey dude is making dark dudes look really bad and desperate to pull us down. Thank goodness life is good without them, anyhow. This is a reminder that we are not missing out on anything ;) Things that make you go hmmmm...

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    • Dont_know says:
      Posted: 09 Nov 13

      Honestly, what does light-skinned/dark-skinned have to do with anything? Do you not see how you show your own bias by such statements? I would dare to say you've drank the Kool-aid and are perpetuating the white-more-attractive-than-black myth, perhaps without even being aware that you're doing it. Look deep within yourself, that myth is not yours, it was put there through TV, magazines, and the like growing up... IMHO

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    • ProgMale says:
      Posted: 09 Nov 13

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    • Ernine says:
      Posted: 16 Nov 13

      I agree with Don't_know, I think people are still missing the point. for example you are saying he is a bad person, yet you are describing him by his skin color, how different are you when you say, "he make dark dudes look bad" lol. I am sorry but I find this really funny. An individual person can't make a group of people look bad because it has nothing to do with them, it is just him. It's what he think. He is not color. He is a human being just like you and everyone else, and from what I have seen people are people everywhere. There is no better or worst. Only a misconstrued notion of what is better based on what you have been told. If anything what you said is an insult to yourself being a black person, that is if you consider yourself a black person, I would consider you as person rather than your color. Do yourself a favor and find out what make you a better person and not focus on his views, for all you know of him which is nothing. He might be coming from a place where he seen a lot of hurt down to people he loves and the only way he could express his hurt was blaming black women for choosing other men who are not black men. try less blaming and more understand, it really helps.

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  39.   dave_74 says:
    Posted: 07 Nov 13

    Somewhere here I have read that highest divorce rate (in the USA) is the BM/WW where as the lowest is the BW/WM. This is probably due to guys like Cory. That said I'm sure the BM/BW divorce is where it is at due to guys like Cory as well. Some people shouldn't date inter-racially and some just shouldn't date. On Cory's attitude on black men are Gods gift to all women where as black women aren't worthy of even guys like him. I would like to know why for the most part is it that black men like Cory usually end up with some very unattractive, uneducated, obese white women, where as these white guys getting the black ladies and those black ladies are usually totally gorgeous. Here's an example, while working in Europe a few years ago, I had a black American co-worker and a fairly hefty white lady came by to speak to him. After she left he went on to repeated say " I'm hitting that bitch tonight" "I'm tapping that shit" what do you think about that? Not being fluent in his slang/Ebonics , I thought he was just being very mean and joking about wanting to physically abuse, attack a white woman because of her less than attractive appearance. Shortly afterwards, I realized that was his fiancee and he wanted to see my reaction to his IR relationship. I was like omg, on many levels and thought to myself 1) Couldn't you get better? 2) How do you openly speak of your fiancee/someone you love in such a manor? 3) why is what I think so important? 4) are you mature enough to be in any relationship? 5) Should I really make your day and show you my absolutely gorgeous African Queen fiancee (now wife)? I know this might have offended a few, and that wasn't my intention as of course not every black man is like Cory, and those with strong characters/personalities end up with the gorgeous, intelligent European ladies, I know of a few personally... but there are really way too many Corys out there.

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    • Dont_know says:
      Posted: 09 Nov 13

      Hey Dave? If you have an "absolutely gorgeous African Queen fianc (now wife)" then why are you on a dating site (now), as comments must come from active/registered/logged-in Interracial Dating profiles, if I understand it correctly, is it simply to comment on topics like these or is there another reason? This site sucks a lot of my time and if I had a beautiful wife, I am not sure I would have or find the time to be on here lol :)

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      • dave_74 says:
        Posted: 13 Nov 13

        @Don't_know, you answered your own question. I (we) enjoy the blogs. But if you still have any doubts , feel free to take a look at my profile. I believe it is pretty clear. By the way if you still haven't found your beautiful wife.....then may I suggest you spend more time actually looking and less time on the blogs....just saying lol :-)

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      • Choice1234 says:
        Posted: 25 Aug

        Nice one..lol

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  40.   Indigostar says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 13

    Ouch This hurt to read, I'm a member but don't read the blog here found it on a facebook post. I haven't dated within my race since I was 14, I didn't realize that black men had resort to these tactics, when I was growing up it was these belittling comments that turned me off to them, like saying insulting things will endear me to, their hope hopping in to bed with me...it was belief in myself -thanks mom, dad that I deserved better treatment (although they would prefer I dated blacks), that gave me courage to like what I liked, to be myself, be well treated and respected, not an easy path to walk but the alternative would not have lead me to the joy I've experienced.

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  41.   Brianna920 says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 13

    Yes it happens and it is pretty idiotic if you as me. As black people we are the only ones to tear each other down to this extent, rather than lift each other up. It goes both ways for women and men, even though men do it way more. This stems from self hate (you can deny, it but it's true) I never understood all the hate but I realized that when these guys who tear us down look at us they see themselves, and vice versa, which is a big no-no for them because as we all grow up we as black people were taught to hate ourselves and our appearances. Moronic right! Black women, just hold your heads high and ignore the hate, think positively and surround yourself with positive people and you will ultimately have a positive outlook on life, whether people want us to or not!

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      Posted: 09 Nov 13

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